I wanted to talk to women, I ended up talking to everyone and it freed me... (my story)
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- I wanted to talk to women, I ended talking to everyone and it freed me... (my story)
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I feel like 99% of the unhappiness I feel in life just comes from that nasty gut feeling that develops in you after you've been inhibited and anxious your whole life.
Same here I'm going to start expressing myself more and see how that goes , if you find any ways to feel better let me know I would like to try them out too.
Ahhhhh you just described my situation perfectly
@@manuel8617 how is it going so far!
Hey man! I had moments were anxiety is a nasty killer whale. Has Ruben's videos helped?
Self expression is way better than trying to pick up girls. Becoming a whole and free human.
happy you like this video, you'll probably enjoy the other ones in the "Philosophy" playlist too :)
great comment
Amen
Love u bro
I think every person should experience a week where they live only for their fun. Once they experience that they can realize how relaxing and enjoyable life can be.
Freud also mentioned it :
“Unexpressed emotions will never die. They are buried alive and will come forth later in uglier ways.”
I was considering putting the quote at the end and did not at the last moment ;)
@@socialanimal Express yourself :)
This summarises it so well, why hide from embarrassment all your life? It happens to everyone, but you have to get out there and get over it, like you have to convince yourself some strange comment is just that; someone's strange comment- not the world telling you that you don't matter. You do anything in life and boring people will have something to say, you shouldn't say or do this or that because of who you are, or you liking/enjoying certain things must mean X or Y about you. Even if you're silent people will assume whatever and say whatever. There will always be things you don't have or can't do that people will use to try and invalidate your existence.
@@socialanimal😂😂
Extremely 1000% true that statement
“The reason to express yourself is to be at peace with yourself” love that
:)
Not to mention ironically it's so much more attractive to women than *trying* to be anything
The shift from external motivation to intrinsic motivation (from “I’m going to convince this person to like me” to “I’m going to express my authentic thoughts because I value myself”) is such a beautifully simple concept and so easy to understand and implement. I’m grateful you’ve shared this, thank you.
Being comfortable in one's own skin
“You ever notice how there’s just men and boomers everywhere?” 💀
You can never "convice" anyone to like you. Why do that when you don't even know them? Why sell yourself? If you really have so much love in your heart that you just want to spread joy to random people then great. I just don't have the energy to do it with everyone
"Flirt with the world" is some of the best advice that can be given.
Don't get me wrong, as an introvert I rarely take this advice myself lol but it's great advice none the less
Story of my life haha. I know things to be true yet on don’t utilize the advice myself.
"Flirt with the world" love that one, gonna keep that one in mind
@@williamthach7 i think you need more pressure
Funny, I recently started to read the Art of Seduction by Robert Greene and in the very beginning it says something like "See every interaction like a possible seduction. The entire world is a seducers bedroom"
Fall in love with life and make life your dream girl
Damn imagine a world where people fully expressed themselves (with good intentions). It'd be pretty incredible. I want to be a part of that change.
social media rips away all chance of unity
@@troy1677 not for people who want to unite
@@kingearth3672 i mean in a sense that there isnt someone hating on something constantly on the internet it ruins how alot of ppl feel which is the point
Best way to do it is to start and implicitly inspire other people you talk to
Same. I was crippled by my social limitations for years until I just started waking up early, reading/meditating, exercise, doing what I love daily, writing, talking to people I didn’t know, etc..
I began to naturally communicate with others better. Flash forward and I attracted my dream woman naturally/supernaturally just by embodying my full authentic self.
I thought I was autistic and mentally broken for years so my journey may not be yours.
But now I’ve never felt better or more confident 🙏
lol sounds like you’re describing my journey up until now besides the flash forward
So you was just shy and not autistic ?
@@bossgd100 Being shy is one small symptom of being “autistic”. That can be a big enough obstacle on its own, but that’s not where my struggles ended.
I only focused on that aspect because of the original comment.
Because you shed the distance between who you were and who your ideal self is, and you became it.
I did Lyft and Uber for a couple of years. Before I started, I heard all these stories about how people never want to hear from their driver. The consensus (from what I read) was "shut up and drive." But I'm too colorful to not engage with people, and with very few exception, as long as I wasn't overly-eager and pushy about it, people were always willing to chat. After a while, my social anxiety melted away. Every day, for hours, with new strangers, I would have these cool moments and connections, and I would think about how much of that I would've missed had I listened to the world instead of my gut.
I've thought about becoming a taxidriver for this exact reason. You basically get a payed exposure therapy session every day
If you think about it, what you describe as „the world“ I would say that’s probably your social media bubble where you‘re getting content other anxious people like. And other anxious people would like to talk but they feel unable to, so they find such things relatable and like it
You made me think about how often I censor myself. I think my excuse is "they don't care about what I have to say".
Online I'll type out a response (like this) and end up deleting it before pressing send. In person I'll think of something to say, then keep it to myself because I have this self-doubt stopping me.
I liked your pipe analogy, I'll try to take your advice and start small.
Love your videos, keep up the great work!
:) Glad you resonated with it and thank you for the encouragement :) good luck :)
Same happens to me with typing a comment and later deleting it. Such a stupid thing but your comment actually made me realize how I was also censoring myself with that, so here I am not censoring myself this time
that also happens to me all the time. Changing it right now!@@lucianoortiz2841
@@lucianoortiz2841 "What if someone I know see's my random comment on CZcams?" 🤣
Definitely do the same thing, I too will start expressing myself more and will try to catch me censoring myself!
i saw a tweet today that said "executive function is also about acting on impulses. if you deny your impulses, eventually your motivation to do anything vanishes. without motivation, the abilities that are instrumental to goal-oriented action atrophy" and i felt it, i do feel like that often
This is golden. Exactly my experience.
A year ago i felt traped in my head. Exactly the same things you described happened to me until i realized i just deeply wanted to talk to people. That's who i am since i am a kid and i felt this huge desire to just be able to express my self but my fear of judgement made me supress my thoughts, and eventually my words.
I started giving compliments to people around the street and every time i wante to say something i looked at the act of doing it as a demonstration of self love and acceptance. It just felt right. It takes time and effor but pays huge dividens.
Great video man.
❤️
Awesome! That’s exactly what I was thinking about. I’m not a person that likes to talk especially small talk but my social anxiety is really bad for my mental health. So i thought I could just go around and give compliments around. That way I could fight that anxiety without talking with strangers that long. AND spreading some love is always great :D
Thank you for your comment! This is going on my todo list for this year :D
In my case there's a particular person I want to talk to but I'm also completely trapped inside my head. How do you just go for it?
@@furiousdestroyah9999I don't think there is a method to it. You have to force yourself to express yourself. Don't let fear win.
"did I express myself or censor myself" words to live by
I've been a self proclaimed introvert my whole life. Yet somehow I found recently that on days where I'm most social and keep in touch with friends or talk to strangers, those are the days where I feel the most content with myself. Coincidence? I think not. This is a lovely perspective and I hope more people take it and run with it.
happy you like this video, you'll probably enjoy the other ones in the "Philosophy" playlist too :)
@@socialanimalmakes one want to question ideas like “introvert/extrovert”.
@@dbuck1964There is definitely a balance. Some days you may be more of one than usual, but it's about not trapping yourself in that bubble as the video describes
Came from reddit , stayed for the video , a very good talk
Thank you Taha :)
@@socialanimal me too, to the channel and ended up making a friend in Ruben.
I’m nearly 23, live alone, haven’t had a romantic relationship since high school, talk to zero people outside of work, and don’t go out due to my fear of talking to people. Thanks for this video
Start a hobby, sport, work out... Someday you must take the first step towards your desires, have no fear. Actually, all the doubts and noise is self induced, people aren't watching you all the time waiting for you to do something awkward.
Look for something you have always wanted to do
Start by approaching in places where it's socially acceptable to approach first. This will put you at ease because you don't have to worry about bothering someone there. Once you build up the courage approaching there, move on to places like streets etc (ONLY if you want to). My point is, don't start approaching in places like grocery stores etc if you have social anxiety because, these places have potential to backfire if you aren't socially calibrated.
Glad you liked it, you'll probably enjoy the videos in the "Philosophy" playlist, check them out and let me know :)
Just go for it ! Step by step !
least you have your own place man
Bro the pipe analogy is so spot on
happy you like this video, you'll probably enjoy the other ones in the "Philosophy" playlist too :)
I believe the pipe anology is still from a scarcity position. The way it’s explained is as a temporary desensitization to “rejection”. But since the underlying fear is still present, you fall back to square 1.
I recommend the book, letting go from david R. Hawkins
@@denzellvanspanje9227 there must be a miss understanding because the pipe analogy is completely self centered and does not include the notion of an environment.... the notions of scarcity or abundance do not apply in this analogy.
It has solely do do with yourself, whether you expressed what you wanted to express or not, whether you are true to yourself, this is between you and yourself...
I understand, and I think it’s a valuable lesson, useful to get to a certain point. However, the fact that you think it can get clogged if you stop expressing for a while means that the underlying issue isn’t fixed. Which would be the next step in my opinion. (Or before if someone’s mind is already open to it)
Curious what your thoughts are on this matter!
@@denzellvanspanje9227 The question is why did you stop. There is a difference between not expressing yourself because you genuinely have nothing you want to say, (is there a time period after which it might be an issue on its own could be questioning) and not expressing it out of anxiety which will create a frustration and therefore "clog" yourself.
As for the idea that something is "fixed", life seems to be a constant invitation be to present and alive. For something to be fixed for ever, time would need to stop.
I have been doing this exact thing in my daily life and I feel that these small things make your day better.
One thing I learned is that talking to someone to make them like you makes it very hard to actually have a conversation with them and puts up a filter and it ends up being very stressful which defeats the point. Also forcing a conversation does no good. You need recognize the natural endpoint of the conversation and maybe just sit there quietly because its only an awkward silence if you make it. Just go with the natural flow and be comfortable in your own company most importantly.
Thank you for the comment and happy you enjoyed it :) You might enjoy the other videos in the "Philosophy" playlist :)
What if you really want to talk to somebody but there's no natural way to start a conversation without forcing it?
@@furiousdestroyah9999 I also struggle with those things, so take my advice with a grain of salt, but I'd say just give that person a compliment (as genuine as possible) and if they show gratefulness and interest in keeping the convo going, it will all come natural, otherwise, you can just go your way, you will only have given that person a compliment, nothing bad
this is just amazing, I can feel very clearly you talk from the level of experience
Man, your point on front loading the day with conversations with anyone to warn you up for later is bang on. Such a fresh take that I know realize has worked for me as well. Great content 💪🏼
You are very good at explaining yourself, that pipe analogy is spot on.
This channel deserves WAY more subs! Best channel for seeing how to really approach women in public, with a genuine interest and not playing sleazy pick up artist games. My favorite channel for dating skills!
Bro, this was beautiful. I don't think you even realize how precious this teaching is/was. I'm taking it to heart.
I can't tell you how much I needed this. Thank you.
It's nice to hear genuine and insightful thoughts others have which actually has value
The pipe clogging analogy is so true. We clog our mental pipes which limits us from our own potential and the ability to express ourselves. Incredible insight!
Big ups, love your positivity. I've noticed the same thing, for example talking to the people at the supermarket where i get my lunch and breakfast when I'm at work. Instead of just saying hello, I ask them how they are, etc. Those little interactions really can get me out of myself and are usually very much reacted to positively by them.
This Is the best life advice I have ever received in my 24 years of living! By the way, I've watched this video once last year and practised it last year leading me to a whole new experience - CONNECTION!! With the real authentic you. It's priceless and timeless.
I will get back into this mode of not censoring myself and letting it rip, for the sake of my own peace not for validation or acceptance.
Thanks bro! Ur the man
Thank you! Need more people enforcing this message
This story is full of insights, and the memory of the dam struck me. A well-spoken men here, thank you for sharing!
This really hit home for me, Ruben. What I get a lot from your videos is how similar our experiences can be as people. And thus the solutions to common challenges like social awkwardness can be repeatable. Love your videos.
thank you so much man. this is a remarkable discussion
Glad you enjoyed it :) You might enjoy the other videos in the "Philosophy" playlist :)
Thank you for expressing yourself in this video. Great stuff
i love this channel -Always thought "picking up girls" or talking to anyone is this esoteric thing - which only certain people possess . love how you break it down . cheers !
thank you :)
what you are doing for disenfranchized men is amazing
allot might not understand how much of a gem this is ! focus on what he is saying great video gave me an aha moment to.
This video came at such a great time. I’m 20, halfway through college, and have always felt like I never made the effort towards any meaningful connections. “Did I express myself or censor myself?” is a mantra I both needed to hear and need to start asking myself. Truly inspiring, thanks for this absolute gem ❤️
LOVE this. I've known for a while that it's gotta be something in my head, because most of the time I'm very charismatic with people I'm not physically attractive too. But the second I have the opportunity to talk to a girl I think is attractive, I suddenly feel awkward and incapable.
Express yourself to be true with yourself. Love that.
I especially love that this is a change in mindset, a principle, instead of some trick to use.
Thank you so much for taking the time to share your thoughts and understanding like this. I consider myself an introspective person, but I have never ever thought about how social interaction affects my own internal state in this way. I've pretty much always thought that being laconic is a great virtue and that in general, silence is the best option unless you have something very important to say. You've opened my eyes, and helped me realise just how important expressing one's thoughts and emotions is to allow them to flourish.
Thank you for the comment and happy you enjoyed it :) You might enjoy the other videos in the "Philosophy" playlist :)
This is probably rhe most helpful video I've watched about social anxiety.
Truthfully expressing yourself all the time makes so much sense, first you train the muscle to lower that barrier that causes you to stuff down things you wanna say to the point you have nothing to talk about.
And when that is trained you eventually get better and all the reasons you wanted to be better at communicating are attained as a byproduct. Not even mentioning the sheer peace of knowing you live fully everyday.
And the confidence you gain from giving yourself enough importance to jot stuff down your voice to fit some vague notion of what is supposed to be correct (according to your unhelpful beleifs).
im so glad this isnt just a pickup video btu it really just picks up your mental state
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This is exactly what I'm living right now, plus I'm 25 too. It does really feel amazing growing up in that way.
Incredibly insightful, thank you! I have recently been talking to people more and it totally makes sense that if doing this becomes a natural part of you then it will be much easier to talk to girls, especially if you are not outcome dependent and able to express who you are freely.
Thank you for the support :) what’s important i think is to shift from focusing on talking to people to focusing expressing yourself. Talking to people is a side effect of expressing yourself. Good luck out there :)
Bro your story is so much touching me because i also struggling the same way as you …amazing job man .I am proud of you
"Self Expression is the engine of your growth." Man that's brilliant! So much of what you said resonates with me. Thank you for making this and sharing your journey!
You’ve articulated this perfectly. Matches up with my own experiences almost identically!
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Damn bro, what you said resonated so deeply with me, you inspired me.
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I am starting to limit myself because of my non existent skill of starting a conversation and searched and watched vids about holding a conversation or even starting one. But your story was a real eye opener for me and gave me hope!
Good luck out there and thank you for sharing, its really encouraging me to do more :) Do not hesitate to reach out at ruben@socialanimal.us :)
I can't emphasize enough how important it is to just get yourself to a place where you FEEL good. People pick up on vibes and if you can be in that place you can say pretty much anything to anyone and have successful interactions.
It's much more important than trying to think of the right thing to say while feeling crappy and negative. I can assure you if you try interactions while in this place it won't work because if you're holding out hope that you'll get a positive reaction from the girl that's exactly why it won't work. As mentioned external validation is pointless.
Sleep well, eat well, give yourself purpose and direction in life (which EVERY woman wants in a man anyway). Also avoid porn and don't masturbate or significantly reduce it at bare minimum. It WILL make a difference.
This was very eye opening, thank you good sir. This advice will stick with me
Intrinsic motivation is so important. I try to find it in every aspect of my life.
Wow. Thanks for this video! Much needed in my life currently.
Hope you're well Reuben
This is so valuable. Thank you
"I have the habit to censure myself" this is powerfull
what an AMAZING reflection! thank you for the insight
Glad you liked it, you'll probably enjoy the videos in the "Philosophy" playlist, check them out and let me know :)
I don’t have a need to express myself, maybe the best I can do is mimic someone who is expressive
Narrating the picture of myself... Thanks a bunch angel of clarity sir
Ruben you have an uncanny ability to explain difficult mental constructs in a way that clearly resonates with people. The first principals are important so thanks very much for sending me this video.
Its due to exposing yourself to akward social situations, its a damn sure fire way to make you overcome social anxiety and also gain congruence between your feelings and your words hence the self expression through the words are more natural and sophisticated.
Man, I saw this on reddit and I must say. Dude, this is really valuable information. Thanks for sharing!
;) thank you David, that goes a long way ;) on which subreddit did you find it?
I think it’a guilt and shame. Guilt that we said something “we believe is unacceptable”. And shame because inside we feel “we” intrinsically are not acceptable.
This is gold. You're single-handedly taking care of the human population. All the best brother :)
hahah lol :) Glad you enjoyed it :) You might enjoy the other videos in the "Philosophy" playlist :)
Wow INCREDIBLE video the end where you talk about internal instead of external motivation is unbelievable!!! Keep it up!
Glad you liked it :) you will probably enjoy these ones too:
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Yes, free self expression is super eye opening, but listening is too!!! What has helped me is always trying to learn as much as possible about others! It’s one thing to let yourself speak freely but It’s also great to try to help others do it as well. With the pipe analogy, it would be like trying to open up someone else’s pipe! This can be especially handy for extreme introverts (or for people that yap too much around friends). Sometimes it’s even easier to make connections by listening and asking engaging questions!
I really liked the way you expressed yourself! I'm not in a really good stage of life, but your videos of helping viewers with public interactions make my days a tiny bit better. Ty for being such an helpful person for so many people 💪
i'm so happy a friend recommended me to your channel. i love your viewpoint that social interaction is self expression
This is almost the most perfect advice ever given on this topic I feel like. Great motivation to get past what I feel like is that last hurdle for me really when it comes to being social and feeling at ease with myself.
Happy you liked it, you'll probably enjoy the videos in the "Philosophy" playlist too, let me know :)
My whole life I've been looking for a way to get over the anxiety of talking to women. Thank you for showing us a way to "unclog the pipe"
After recently discovering your channel I’ve been trying to talk to girls on the street and everything you talked about in this video hit close to home dude. Wandering around for hours without talking to someone, bailing at the last second, and still struggling even after managing to pull it off once. This was really eye opening, I have often noticed that I censor myself because I’m so worried about the outcome. It’s time for that to change, will focus on self expression from now on🙌 This is a game changer, thanks Ruben. Your channel seriously deserves way more attention
spoken like a man truly engaged in the process at its Most basic level's
Great advice and loved hearing your realizations step by step
For the last month, I was walking around a city trying to talk to girls. I bailed all the time. I was practicing "letting go" etc... so I do not feel fear or sth... but it absolutely killed motivation. Feeling nothing is not good. Yesterday, I have seen this beautiful girl and it was hmm.. strange like I visually like her, she is attractive, I do not feel any fear, or I do not have an internal talk - oh.. probably she has a bf, etc.. So I told myself to go. And it was sooooo smooth. I slowly walk towards her, said hi, I find you attractive and we start talking. It was soooo easy. Like talking to a friend :)
And now? How are you feeling? How are u doing?? I am feeling motivation!
@@leandro6925 Doing well. I do not take rejection personally rejection - this is a great improvement. I started to control what I can. My body language, what I tell, and how I react. I do try every time after an approach to ask myself what can I improve, and what can I learn from this approach. Also, I found a friend who is willing to go out with me and he is also approaching. It is easier at the beginning.
@@Tassaczek is letting go working for u ? because i have been also trying it but i cant just dive into the feeling and let it go?
yes, i does. I can just go now and talk to girls.
@@pratham3537 BTW. It is not about "not feeling". It is about acting despite of feelings. You will not "loose" feeling, but it will not stop you.
This is soo good and important! Ive prayed for boldness, now Im much more chill and open to people and starting conversations easier 🙌🙂
This resonated with me so much! Thank you :)
Thank you so much for this video. I am a very shy guy and this really made me see things in a way I had not before
happy you like this video, you'll probably enjoy the other ones in the "Philosophy" playlist too :)
Until the second time of watching this clip i didn't get the message, now i do. Thanks Ruben.
Thank you for sharing your story.
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Coincidentally, I also noticed this and went through the same journey around the same age. I remember one of my first spontaneous interactions vividly. I was waiting at the bus stop to head to college and this dude next to me was talking to his friend on the phone about girl problems. He was talking loud, and I could hear everything. I knew I had to comment, but I just didn’t know when to throw it in. Finally, my bus came and I knew it was now or never. I said “yo listen, I just need to say, fuck that bitch bro, you deserve better. Keep your head up.” He got this massive smile, and I could hear him talking excitedly to his friend as I got on the bus. I know I played a big part in his day that day, and that knowledge played a big role in mine. Since then I’ve talked to people all the time, though I still do get butterflies when talking to hot girls. My personality has made great changes, completely for the better
You didn't need to type the swear words out, that's disgusting.😡🤢
LOL, hey now, i had to tell it how it really happened@@pauljohnson6019
Felt like I wrote my story down and you were just reading it out loud, I'm even at that age you talked about! I have been lucky with one or two relationships in the past (university), but even most of those I get lucky to have, I still find my lack of expression holding me back from holding down most of those relationships till I eventually lose touch, I realise I censor myself a lot and even when I get inspired, I still change direction when I'm about 3 feets away (even happened at the gym today). I'm still keeping to my challenge of stepping out everyday and approach whoever I feel attracted to.
Thank you for sharing your story.
How has it been going for you? I'm feeling motivated to start doing this again. I always start but am never consistent talking with someone new every day.
Don't talk to women in the gym please
This video is gold!
Love this message! Glad it reached me
Glad you enjoyed it :)
Thanks for this. I’m bottled up! Feeling inspired to live authentically and not be tied to any expectations or outcomes. Thank you sir!
:) don’t hesitate to reach out! And thank you for the comment )
Man, what a great video, thanks for sharing your experience!
happy you like this video, you'll probably enjoy the other ones in the "Philosophy" playlist too :)
I watched this video 10 days ago, and implementing the concepts he talks about has helped me in terms of gaining confidence and expressing my true and authentic self, so thank you so much ❤️
Happy you liked it, you'll probably enjoy the videos in the "Philosophy" playlist too, let me know :)
Excellent video. I especially like the analogy of having a clogged pipe from not expressing yourself. I gained something from this. Thanks for the upload.
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bro thanks for this video, you outlined the issue perfectly and i think being aware of inhibitions and our "pipes" being clogged is the first step to becoming more outgoing and friendly people, thankyou for your advice.
happy you like this video, you'll probably enjoy the other ones in the "Philosophy" playlist too :)
That is a great analogy. I definitely need to unclog myself and let my personality flow
:)
Ruben, that's the story of my life :D
Shy child, realizing how inauthentic I am and avoiding people I feel attracted to (I would switch to the other sidewalk just to avoid the bad feeling for not approaching)... Currently I am just beginning to talk to every person I feel attracted to on a sexual, emotional and intellectual level. Still there are many layers to be let go of that don't feel good and inhibit my authenticity.
What I found to be inspiring for me is to get to know and profoundly feel the others perspective and to feel so much emotionally connected that I just am in awe of their beauty. I truly love that. I found that feeling this intimate emotional connection (not necessarily sexually intimate) opens up my heart.
Thank you for your story.
:) thank for you sharing Lara Lebeu - cultivating yourself is a process, good luck out there and if you want to chat more, do not hesitate to reach out at ruben@socialanimal.us :)
What a powerful insight you just gave me. I feel extremely clogged. Censoring myself became my way of being. Gratefully you made me realize it early. You may have changed a life sir
Happy you enjoyed the video and very glad if I can help. Where are you located? Don’t hesitate to reach out at ruben@socialanimal.us
This is exactly the problem I have a problem with the expressing with myself. It’s just when I start expressing myself I feel much better.
That’s such a nice perspective on things! Had a similar realization a couple of days ago and that just sums it up perfectly
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thank you for sharing your life experiences with everyone
Man I needed this video so bad. Thankyou.
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Just gone through this and you've explained it perfectly.
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hey man, this content is exactly what I have been wanting and I resonate with your videos a lot. Thank you!!
That means a lot, thank you for letting me know :) don’t hesitate to reach out at ruben@socialanimal.us, good luck out there ;)
I needed to hear this, thank you
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i began sobering up two years ago but finally did it roughly 8 months ago. what i noticed was that once everything was gone i was left with only my thoughts but worse how i thought about myself. this made it extremely hard to speak to anyone. I went to therapy while home for the summer this past summer and you pretty much summed up 4 months of psychotherapy in an 11 minute video. everything you said is on point with what i was taught. not only that but i feel the same way you used to and it is nice to have someone (a man) that i can relate to. my therapist was great but i know other dudes get me when i speak about these struggles.
thank you for your videos . they are what i needed right now. i have been trying to approach women in the street for the last two weeks. only have managed to muster up the courage to talk to three but that is more than i have ever approached in my entire life. i know that it will get better eventually but right now this is one of the most difficult things i have ever tried to do.
the irony in the difficulties is that they are constructed by my own mind. they do not exist. "we suffer more in imagination than in reality". i already possess everything i need to be successful, i just need to believe that
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I love the analogies! The perspectives you share are very powerful and helpful. The whole premise of being able to talk to anyone is a very nice goal. I hope to achieve that too some day.
Thank you so much for this video. I am now became committed to cultivating my self-expression
God bless you
God bless you ❤️
You have my respect for your honesty.
And almost every man has this problem. Because we have to match thoughts when we’re speaking to a woman
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you just described my life wtf, i went through all of those stages exactly