What I (an INFJ) think of INFPs
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INFP here. I'm closed off to some extent but still friendly. Somewhat sarcastic but not rude--but--- If you've done me wrong, I'm honest with you and I back off. I'm very forgiving but that doesn't mean we're buds. I pretty much can feel with my gut, see the way others talk to each other to know if I'm going to let you in. I sympathize with pretty much everyone and can spot a fake right off the bat. I seriously don't have it in my heart to hate anyone. We're quiet, observe but we love with everything we got.
I'm an INFJ and my kids are ENFP and INTP
My daughter is an INFP, and that is one of my most cherished relationships. She is an amazing listener, and we have amazing, deep conversations. She is the only person in my family that I can fully relax with. She helps me resist my Ni urge to over-generalize and systematize, and I seem to be able to motivate her to take action on her rich, artistic gifts. INFPs are gifts to us. ❤️
They are ♥
mtpianohearder this is such an adorable comment 😢
Lol. This made me tear up a little .. Being an Infp man is not the easiest life.
@avnee i appreciate you more than you know stranger. Thanks for the kind words.
thanks for your comment, I feel the same about infjs!
As an INFJ, being around an INFP makes me doubt my introversion!! Well, only for a little bit!
Can you please go into detail? Interesting point (- INFP)
INFP here, I find the comments about expressing emotion interesting. I've always been under the impression that I'm terrible about concealing my emotions as they come up. While I don't always talk about what I'm feeling, my facial expressions in my body language often give me away, so I've been told by MANY people. But overall most of the time I don't feel the need to share how I'm feeling with other people if I know I'm being irrational or if I'm nervous my feeling won't be received well. Hmm I'll need to self reflect on my behavior I guess😂
As an INFP, this video was really spot on for me and I really liked how you tied your brother in to illustrate the point on how INFP's function in the real world. Especially your comments about your brother being quite "aloof" or not front facing emotionally while also being very sensitive and not showing it. Honestly so much of this is so on point and it was kind of amazing to hear such an eerily relatable description of your brother. Also as an aside you made another video on INFP on my birthday and your brother is also named Kevin so a little bit of a funny coincidence there.
I love INFJs. My only pet peeve is their Fe (my own projection on them b/c I can’t fit in with rest of society). I also notice that the INFJ talks to the INFP like a teacher talks to a student. It’s cute.
INFJs have this default teacher vibe :)
I am the only infp in a family of sensors, there is every sensor type in my family from isfjs to estps.
I have one brother who is an intj and I just am so impressed by everything he does , though he's completely different than me but I have always had this unspoken connection with him, when no one in the family gets me I turn to him but I rarely ever get a response from him and somehow I know he gets it
That's interesting, perhaps you have a form of Fi connection with your INTJ brother?
@@RensRoom yeah I sort of do have an fi connection with him because every body excuses him of having no emotions and I can see that it's beyond hard to deal with his own feelings because I lead with fi and I understand why he seems clod ,I am considered cold by a lot of people who don't really know me
But the reason why I feel that i have some kind of connection with him is the fact that he's a heavy Ni user and that fascinates me.
Is like there is a psychic connection, right?
@@edixasanchezpacheco3692 😂
@@mynameisnotavailablehere 😂...I know its a strange experience.
That's true that we INFPs don't show our emotions but care deeply and feel the emotions really strongly. But there can be certain times when showing them is really difficult, for example in funerals of a death family member.
I'm also the INFP brother in my family and it's funny how i can relate to everything you said about your brother, especially the sensitivity part. I remember everytime i watched a movie that made me "feel" things, i always had to diggest it myself while my brothers (also my friends) always expressed their feelings.
Do INFPs express their emotions in a sarcastic way and kinda want you to know how they feel but don't want be emotional maybe? im not sure..... and I think INFPs know how to put a story somehow they care soo much about small details in their stories ..details that INFJs like me don't think are important, and also they seem disoriented even tho they are not, at least most of the time, also they seem to misread people and incase of an unhealthy INFP they seem to feel that everyone is working against them. ( based on my own observation)
I think that's a good reading of INFPs! It really is fascinating how INFJs and INFPs have a different relationship with details in stories.
Yeah INFPs can overanalyze all judgements that others _might_ be making at any moment, with Ne parent + Te inferior (Te being the insecure part in this). It's common to project our insecurities and see others as critical or judging, when they might not be. This also makes it hard to attain friendships sometimes, because of inability to trust others enough to let ourselves be authentic (because of the fear of judgement) and sometimes it can feel like we aren't enough (and have to fake) etc. It's rare for an INFP to be comfortably themself around others. I've found that I'm most laidback with people who I've gotten to know overtime, and that are also introverted intuitives.
I am an INFP and that is so true about us, reading and recognizing myself. The is the most thing the INFPs struggling with. Believe even we don’t always understand ourselves :D
You are spot on about us. I had a talk about this with my mom the other day. Ever since I was a little girl I had a hard time with critique and criticism, I would take either one as someone going against me...and I struggle with this sometimes still...but this is something we as INFP need to work on and fix.
There is a difference between critique and criticism, and critique is good for us, we can always learn something from someone else, always! We have to learn to never react with negative emotions to situations, but learn to respond to situation that is stressful...
As an INFP I trust my INFJ friend fully and completely so I let my feelings go more to let her know she is safe to do the same. I always feel restrained thoughts from her so I worm it out by talking about her restricted thoughts in me. So yeah that can come off as sarcastic. In time she started talking freely of her emotions and stresses that she normally wouldn’t burden with others and it relieves her. I’ve always been 1000x better at relaxing myself than she ever will be. Guess it comes with the territory. So I always try and get her head out of work and rest. And she in turn tries and gets my head in the game. Pretty strong balance if you ask me.
My older (by 11 years) sister is INFP and I am INFJ. The difference you talk about with your brother are in far greater detail than I can talk about with my sister, simply because we haven't been really close since I was younger. But I will tell you this, we are polar opposites. We get along great, but not like we used to. When I was a teenager she was one of few people I wanted to be around. We were so close, and would take rides in the car just to listen to Sarah McLachlin or Enya as loud as we could, with her two children in tow. I got so much advice from her about boys, life in general, becuase she was more in touch with things, whereas I was just lost and confused. Anyway, let me explain a few opposites and a couple similarities.
She was rebellious and I firmly adhered to rules. She was more selfish (but not a truly selfish person in general) and would act out in things that she wanted for herself whereas I always put others first, even though things I wanted were big goals for me. When my ESTJ father (boy was that a hard relationship and still is) won custody of us, she ran away at 16 because she couldn't handle his strict authoritarian parenting style. Rules and expected obedience was not for her, so she went to live with my mom, and became pregnant at 16 and had a second child at 18, also became a stripper later on in life, was very promiscuous, and did many, many drugs... etc. I, however, followed rules, was not promiscuous at all, hardly even tried drugs, was more shy and embarrassed whereas she was very confident. Now, even though we are still opposite, we have more similarities as she has calmed down quite a bit, and is more introverted than ever. She had charisma and charm and good looks right off the bat when meeting people, and I had warmth, sincerity, and empathy/compassion. I was more genuine and caring, and she was more fun and able to express her artistic side. Even though she is artistic, she was never truly interested in writing, painting, and things of that nature. Her outlet was music, but just listening and feeling it. She was more in touch with herself, and I was confused about myself. She also moved A LOT and when problems would come her way she would dream of a fresh start somewhere new. She loves spontaniety and I love to plan. (J vs P) Interestingly, she is more tidy than me!
Similarities are few, like being deeply emotional but in diferent ways, both inspired by beauty and the arts (but I acted mine out more, dived into writing and singing and am way craftier than her) and there are many shared principles, but I stand by mine no matter how complex, whereas she is more flexible or willing to act differently than she believes if that makes sense. I am sorry I can't describe more accurately our comparison, but I am sure as soon as I stop writing I will think of a million more things. I wish I didn't need to get everything out, to explain every single thing in my head... lol
April Parker, your last paragraph made me giggle to myself😂!!
I too feel like I have to get EVERYTHING out of my head...as if I am taking a box of puzzle pieces 🧩 and dumping them out...then I am able to begin looking for the corner and edge pieces and start bringing the whole big picture together and into clearer focus!! 🧩
I always feel the need to give so much background to my stories or explanations🤯🔫
Then I am accused of “repeating” myself too much!! Yet, “my accusers” come to me when they need to have something “worded” eloquently in writing!!🤪
I have a twin brother who is now a retired Palm Beach Deputy and he is also an ESTJ...I know... ESTJ and a Cop 👮!!!!!!🧐
Needless to say we mix about as well as freshly brushed teeth and a glass of orange juice🥵 LoL and I feel your pain with your father!!🤕
I do not understand how an ESTJ-A and an INFJ-T were birthed from the same womb just 5 minutes apart???😳🤪🔫
My son is an ESTP and my daughter is an ENFP and my best friend since middle school is an ENFJ so I am surrounded by Extroverts🤪
Now, I will apologize for my own “rambling” on!!😆
I will add ☝️that it’s refreshing to know that you and Ren will be able to understand my “long winded” musings!!😎
@@monicatowers5641 girl YES! I get it completely!!! Hehe. I know Ren gets it too, although he usually doesn't say too much that isn't worth saying, and I DO!!! I say everything, just in case its worth saying anyways! LOL
something you have to realise is that INFPs are no less genuine and caring, the INFJ does it outwardly because they absorb feelings around them and want to keep a harmonious environment so appear to make extra effort, as an INFP I find that in itself to be less genuine and lacking authenticity because I know how I feel and the INFJ sometimes appear not to know. that's something i observed being friends with an INFJ. It's true we don't like rules as we set our own internally so anyone else's rules just interfere with that.
How facinating! Great interpreation. As an INFP I can understand that people sometimes view me as cold, I don't often find it comfortable letting people into that deep part of myself. Which is why were initially closed off for the most part. Especially, since it can feel like a never ending story: my inner world. I do believe with this whole personality type thing I'm not fond of the idea of utterly limiting myself to a box, because I'm aware my personality has many facets. I can sometimes be more like an INFJ and sometimes more INFP, but I'm dominatly INFP.
Internally if I had to say, I do notice that INFPs struggle ferociously with getting to that intimate/seclusive emotional place with someone, even though we have that relationship with ourselves. It entices protection mode which is why we can seem aloof, distant, ice-cold, but really were more aware then we seem and more emotionally intelligent then we come across.
Just because we are "feelers" doesn't mean we let people feel what we are feeling all the time and we are not naive even though deep inside we care a whole lot.
(I also think your experience with INFP and INFJs getting along depends on your relationship with them, when its family/siblings you can have a much different experience than with a stranger/spouse. At the end of the day I love both personality types and wish you all the best. May God be with you.)
INFP here, with an INFJ mother and ISFJ sister. This is a really great video! It's really cool to see such a deep understanding and explanation of how we INFPs function, particularly in reference to Fi's outward coldness, and how that can come across to those who function with Fe. It really comes across how much you love your brother - thank you for this video, it was beautiful to watch.
Hey Ren nice to meet you! Yeah so my family and the career path I’ve taken over the last 20 years are predominately sensors. This has given me many skills in managing in that environment BUT it gets very exhausting where it’s hard to be ourselves as open as we INFP’s would like. The older I’m getting (38) I am starting to let more things out in the open than I used to which things just feel so much better towards who I am and the authenticity that I all so crave.
I also have made some great INFJ connections and even though we are very different in the function stack, there is similarities to which I feel we both “get each other”.
Thanks for this great comparison and understanding! Really cool...
Sean
So true! I still remember that once my father got drunk and said to me: “why are you so cold.” And I have difficulties to express the reason why I behave in that way...
I am the only infp in my family and everything u said is very true for me. i have been accused of being cold by my them which honestly shocked me because I feel that i am the opposite. I dont show my feelings well because usually i either dont want to or dont know how/cant express them for the life of me. It’s frustrating because it has caused all sorts of misunderstandings in my life. People are always put off by it and either lose interest in interacting with me or worry that i dont like them or something. Usually i dont even notice that they feel this way about me which doesnt help. I do care though, i just dont like making a big deal of my feelings. Thanks for makin this vid, it was very interesting! :)
Im an INFJ and have an ESTP dad, ESFJ mom, and ESFP bro. Never felt understood, but there was a lot of affection.
It's very hard to feel understood by a non Ni-dom, don't you think? For me, the exception would be my INFP brother. Still, I'm happy to hear that there was affection!
@@RensRoom It truly is, unfortunately. My best friend is an INTJ and the nature of the interaction can only be described as finding someone who speaks your native tongue in a foreign country. I dont have to translate anything with him; he just gets it.
I also have an INFP friend who listened to me the way I listen to others. He's able and willing to go there with me in a way I havent experienced from anyone else.
Im curious about your r/s with your parents. I imagined that having an ENFJ parent would be really validating, but I gather thats not your experience? And ISFPs... I think theyre a dangerous type for us, in a good and bad way. They have been described as our 'mother type' before so it seems like it would be a comfortable relationship.
I grew up, I think, with an INTJ father, INFP mother, INTP brother, and I am INFJ. I think we have all things covered:-)) One of my best friends is infp, and I also notice that she can write like a novelist and vividly, but that sometimes I wish could share her emotions more freely, though I can sense they are there. Thanks for your thoughts about your brother.
Rlyyy an Intp brother wooow
How it is to as a intp brother as infj
Haha I was waiting in the beginning for your description of INFP and I was like wierd, dorky, goofy, awkward, or like my mom said to me today it's like I have 2 left hands(lefty BTW)......🙃😅🤣😂
As an INFP girl, it's not that we don't express our feelings it's just hard to put into words sometimes, communicating with my voice is hard, I process thoughts slower, and have to think about it internally over and over again(drives me crazy sometimes)....I think so much and daydream all day long about emotions, feelings, people, society, and I worry a lot...
I actually am the biggest cry baby and extremely sensitive( been this way since I was a child), and most of the time I show my feelings on my face, but there are times I know I have to hide these emotions, and cheer everyone up, so that may sometimes come off as cynical as you say...I always try to make light out of a situation, and try to make fun in a sad setting because I think why be sad...I'm always sad, why should everyone else be sad? But in reality I am really sad inside..
but yeah in situations when I was younger I know I wasn't as expressive in my emotions to people I didn't know/trust because I would have a guard up and inside I am using my intuition to check out the situation, but I would come off as a bitch(resting bitchface 🤨😑😶🤣) ....that's actually how my best girlfriend and I met....she's is also introverted and would sit in the corner, and finally one day we just got to talking and hit it off...so don't judge a book by it's cover!
Sometimes I put a bubble around myself to protect myself, I feel all these emotions and being an empath it's really draining, so in a way my bubble sometimes protects me, although I have put it down in recent years and gotten myself in trouble by meeting the wrong people who are energy vamps( not feelers)...
I've am working on communicating better, but it is hard for me to speak up, I get social anxiety.......As an INFP I am better at doing it in writing! Also we are really shy, timid....I get really shy about telling people how I feel or asking for help, and this makes the communicating thing an issue for me a lot..I bottle all my problems inside..
O and I love complimenting people and I always remember birthdays, but I really can't remember names and I do forget a lot of stuff that happened....until you remind me, so unorganized in thoughts and behaviors, I wish I had that J and not the P! 🤣😂😆
im an INFP and my sibling and both parents are sensors, it feels like a very distant relationship, to the point where i find that i can relate to my friends better than my sibling
This video confirmed that I am an INFP, not an INFJ. Thank you.
Im INFJ and my bf is INFP (been with him since we were 16, 27 now), think most of his and my family are sensors but Im still learning so thats just a guess, but we both have conflicts of values with our families. But anyways, I relate to a lot of the examples you said, we handle and see things very differently but we have the same values. I feel we are kinda like yin and yang, we function differently but we balance eachother. However he doesnt like writing things down at all, when he is ready he will talk face to face, where as I need to write things down to help organize my thoughts...But yeah everything else is relateable.
Thanks for sharing this, very interesting!
This is great! Thank you, Ren for sharing this! It really helps to offer clarity. The way you describe the differences between yourself and your INFP brother is totally how I have experienced differences between my INFP self and my close INFJ friend. I actually thought it was funny how you drew the same perceptions as her, especially about being “detached”. I have had to explain in depth to my friend, the nature of my Fi, and how I actually perceive it at times to be “Too Attached”, because it has a tendency towards making everything Personally Meaningful. And the loss of that which is extremely personal, can be extremely painful… So I try to be cautious about who or what is let in closest to my core (It is as if I have concentric rings, and those closest to me exist within the bullseye). So in a sense there also is detachment as a kind of inner defense.
This is quite fascinating. Thanks for sharing.
I feel I identify with an INFP - and I have been told I write well - however I rarely write at all in a personal capacity - like a diary, etc.
Often when writing in a personal capacity- I question what the point of it is. I guess that’s my cynical nature. Like if I write for an hour - but don’t show it to anyone- then I’m like “what is the point?”. That is why I don’t write in a diary.
It is kind of similar with writing comments here on CZcams or expressing myself on Instagram or Twitter. In that case however since it is visible to the public by default, I will often spend a lot of time creating a post and if I don’t receive any reaction to it within a day - I will delete the post.
I guess I should not base the value of my work on other people’s reactions but if there is no reaction then I tend to think it might as well not exist.
Recently I am trying to fight the tendency to self delete though.
However, I continue to struggle with expression and understanding the true value of it - to me and to others.
I can relate with you..:😅
Bro, thanks so much. I just found out I'm actually INFJ and not INFP. I also need to express my emotions in a social setting. I can relate more to Fe in this way...
Im an INFP, and my mom is an INFJ, and we have always had a very special relationship. I can tell she very much enjoys my ability to listen intently, and she helps me stay a bit more organized. ❤
Very helpful, thanks. Helped reconfirm me as an INFP. My Mother a damaged INFJ. And my 2 younger sisters, adopted ESFJ, and biological ENFJ. Father passed away so don't know, though I'm working on it. All 3 of us children struggle to connect with our mother. She has shut down, opening to new information. Interesting that you mentioned that you think you may even purposely puts the past away. Can't remember your exact wording. I feel, well I know my mother does this. Anyway, thanks again.
Thanks for your comment, I appreciate yout words!
That's fascinating, particularly in terms of Si, which is a function I find very myserious. I know surprisingly few INFPs, but I do think I get along well with them as an INFJ.
It is surprising, in a way, especially if you studied English (did you?) - What were the types you hung out with the most in college?
I did distance learning-I've always been autodidactic and enjoy few university based friendships. I am acquanted with a lot of poets, through my publishing work, and a fair few of them are probably INFPs. I also wouldn't be surprised if a fair few of my students were INFPs from when I taught a semester on the short story at Banog University. And I think at least one person is INFP from where I used to PA-a liberal Catholic weekly. But of the people I know well there are more INTXs, ENFXs and ENTXs-amongst wider acquantances I know a few more S types. My two oldest freinships are with an INFJ and an EXFP.
Cool vid- I like seeing what I look like from others perspectives
Funny how it was your "sensor" mother that gave you such intuitive advice about your brother
Haha, indeed :)
My mom is an INFP like me & my younger brother they both get me & I can pick up on cues they try to hide. My father is an ISTP & seems to get frustrated (idk why, maybe because I'm not practical) of me so I don't try to talk to him deeply anymore unless it's about logical issues he's going through the moment & I know he's not interested in my theories, thoughts etc. I grew up to him doing stupid things & they give me anxiety but with time I grew to downplay the 'severity' of it. He's very blunt & very unforgiving of what he says but he doesn't seem to feel the feelings he's trying to convey so I don't personally feel offended by it, I just laugh with him or agree. Interesting enough he really tries his best to give some Fe or show it just for me & my sister. My sister an ISFP, I was close to her so she does use her 'intuition' but I can tell it takes a lot of energy especially with details, she misunderstands that I misunderstand but when I explain to her what I understand in detail (gives me a headache tbh) she tell me she quiets down & says I can read people's thoughts somehow or just thinks I'm weird, says I give the sense that I'm out of touch with reality but in a existencial way & she's sorta blunt & helps me get in touch of practical things. Both of my father's gf & my mom's bf are ESFPs. They seem to get bored or get fidgety or get distracted to something more interesting every 10 seconds so I gave up on them trying to start a conversation further than irrelevant drama or their basic jokes. The good thing is that they were very enthusiastic & I developed good Se (my father helped with that too & my sister a bit) & I appreciate the distance of bring attached but not too much, but they both think I'm scarily weird or get confused easily when I start talking in analogies or metaphors (makes thoughts easier for me to manage or pin point for the general gist.) I get really frustrated keeping up with what they're saying because it not enough stimulation (get bored easily) & I can't zone out or even daydream for a second or else they think I'm "sad" or in need of doing something with them like dancing, playing a sport or talking even more drama or conversations of obvious obverations after litterally doing the same thing for 14 hours straight all week long. Even my father as an introvert believes they are actually giving me the best needs. I have a hate love realationship with sensors, I feel like we can't get each other but respect one another. For intuitives it's at least easier to feel some sort of knowing
INFP here. My father's side of the family, the one I identify the most with, is clearly made up of intuitive. My mother's family has a lot less intuitive.
Personally, I make a LOT of compliments, even to random strangers - but maybe it's because I'm very assertive, even for an INFP I assume. It gets awkward really quickly too. "OMG your hair is amazing, I love it" and the person is like "Thanks!" and then they make this awkward face of "umm what am I supposed to say now are we going to ignore each other or did she mean to start a conversation or was it sarcastic"
INFP here, my family are majority N - there is one sensor in my family but he has always avoided everyone. Poor guy.
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BTW, I know several INFPs and there is only one that I don't get along with. He is a male and is very closed off, very sarcastic and not warm or kind and is even rude at times. He is married to my ENTP friend and they are the perfect couple. I only don't get along with him because he is TRULY difficult to get to know. Whereas if I could get close to him, I know it would be nice to know him. All my other INFP aquaintances, one in particular, I get along with great. I briefly had an encounter with another male INFP online, that I went to school with years ago, and it was also difficult to get to know him, very closed off and truly introverted, and had anger issues, similar to the other male INFP. Do you think this female/male dynamic has something to do with this since males sometimes have problems with being feelers? (In macho societies, like your south of France, and my southern USA)
Mb they r INTPs
I think enneagram has something to do with it, too. Infp 4w5(ex. Joaquin Phoenix) and 9w1(Keanu Reeves) is quite different.
I am an INFP with a mixed family in terms of mtbi. My mother’s is ISFJ, I don’t know about my brother or my dad. My brother thinks mtbi is incorrect and not founded, and my dad gets a different result every time he takes it. All I know is that all of us have “I”, not “E.” My brother is sensing and my dad is like smack in the middle of sensing and feeling. He gets very emotional over politics, but is highly critical and obsessed with the process and making sure every little step is done as it should be.
To the point about knowing history of people and events, I can attest to that. I have a B.A. in Art History and I am going for a masters degree in Museum Professions.
Feeling is the main theme for me. I'm INFJ, and my younger brother is INFP. But my Mum is ESFP
Hey Ren .....again very good video and the differences with your youngest brother. Allthough more on the surface side. Hè has strong emotions and feelings ( hè is a very strong feeler, JUST like you) only difference he writes IT down and you express IT by talking, discussion.....Great to hear the way you talk about each other, you can sense the intense love you feel towards your brother from a distamce....greetings Hans
I’m an INFP, my sister is ENFP, my dad INTJ and ESTP, so we are mostly intuitive but half and have thinkers and feelers
INFP from a sensory family!
I have been immersing myself in typology for a long while now. I haven't set on if INFJ is my type. I over analyze things so it could be awhile before things come together for me, but I wanted to say I love your personalized videos! This one was helpful in guiding my suspicions that my partner may be INFP. He swims in the past a lot and like your brother can recall dates, locations, and people. My partner could just be SI dominant. The part about alcohol was also on point. I never know how he feels about anything (including me) until the boozy flood gates open.
If I meet people , I dream of their mess , if I’m touched I see it , I dream of people I’m going to meet , I see energy, positive or negative, I call it spirit plus the move of it ,
my friend is an INFJ and I’m an INFP and when everything is going smooth, we get along really well and i always have amazing discussions with her. around her, I always feel comfortable wing myself and being open, but we’ve had some weird bumps in our friendship. right now, she doesn’t trust me as a friend and kinda gets upset over things I don’t always quite understand. she’s not as forgiving as me and she seems to kind of be selective or judgmental. she doesn’t always like talking about her feelings which is opposite to me and I understand that but sometimes I feel like we just shouldn’t be friends bc something always goes wrong. I feel like I’m always going to do or say something that upsets her and she just doesn’t like me as a person anymore, idk🤷🏽♀️
Same as me. Im INFP and she's INFJ. We're best friend for 4 years but now she's a bit annoying. I gave her INFP's meme about how we(INFP) can't tell our story straight to the point. She said "honestly everyone can do that too".
That words really hit me hard. Until now, I ghosted her. Well INFPs are *naturally* can't straight to the point.
She's such a good listener. Such a shame that she is a judgemental
Yes ,I have infj friend too . Now, we are upart . Because of my unhealthy behaviour
I'm an INFP in a house full of sensors. Mom's as ISFJ, my dad's a ESFP. Love the feeler vibe tho😁😁
Feeler vibe is great ^_^
Loved hearing some of the dynamics between your brother and you. At a family dinner just this weekend, I convinced my parents and siblings to take a test. I was already aware that myself and one brother were INFP, and baby sister tested as ENFJ (I think she may be mistyped, she even said "I cheat on those tests, lol"), and highly suspected my youngest brother to be INFJ which I guessed correctly :) , but was surprised my mom is also INFJ, and not at all surprised Dad is ENTP. What a mix! Also along for the ride my husband an ENFP and sister-in-law another INFP, as well as a dear cousin another ENFJ.
INFP male, mom ISFJ dad ISFP. Mom is more easy going than dad. Grandparents, both ISFJ, very loving and caring. I feel more at ease with my ISFJ mom and grandparents than with my dad.
ahhhh you look like someone but i don’t know who and it’s driving me insaneeeee
I am an infj and my son is an infp and your brother sounds exactly like him. My son gets bashful when we ask him what he wants for Christmas. He doesn't seem to want to say what he feels though I can usually tell by looking at him. And he never wants to listen to my in-depth analysis on anything. Gets bored really fast. Just as a side note, my husband is an isfp, and we get along great despite our differences.
My brother gets bored really fast, too, though he can also get interested in things very quickly (and then get bored!) I tend to be interested in fewer things, perhaps, but I stick to them for very long periods of time.
Family dynamics:
Dad: INTJ
Mom: ESFJ
Me: INFJ
Twin brother: ISFP
Younger brother: INFP
Haven't watch the whole video yet so forgive me if you answer it in this video but would you consider doing one about INTP - INFJ relationship if you have any experience or insight about this?
PS: Thanks for these new videos about MBTi types, I'm a subscriber from the philosophy only days and this stuff really broadened my horizons. And my long time girlfriend is INFJ so the insight is really useful :)
Thanks a lot for sticking to the channel despite the fact that I've been mostly been making videos about psychology types lately! I'll return to making more philosophy stuff eventually :) Thanks for the suggestion, I'd love to make a video about the INTP - INFJ relationship, but I just need to think about it first, and figure out whether I have an interesting perspective to share. If so, I'll definitely make one at some point.
Im an infj and I have two brothers an enfj and esfp and one sister isfp and my mother is an istj and my father is an isfj !! So my familly is predominantly feelers and sensors !! And it does makes sense my enfj brother and I we have have always understood each other and the reasons of each other behaviors!! But we both didn't get our esfp brother and why he does the things he does and why he doesn't get our Fe/Ni knowledge !! And that's apply also for the rest of my familly in some degree !!
Thanks a lot for your comment! Having an ENFJ brother sounds like a good match ;-)
My Dad was a feeler and very creative but a very angry, reactive type.
I don’t have a clue about the remaining family of origin members other than they are not empathetic but very bright and creative. Because they can be aggressive every time I do what I have to do to not expose myself to it for extended periods.
Do you think Guy De Maupassant is an INFP? As a short story writer, his narratives much more the endings of his stories are very sad and true- somewhat realistic and true. They kind of reflected reality as in nothing is sugar-coated and I am so into it. I don't know if I am an INFP. I even doubt if I am really introverted to begin with. But I'm simply drawn in to such stories that don't put up a lot of drama yet, I can feel the pain.
I think my mum is an ENFP and my dad, INFJ. I often hear them say to each other "I told you this was going to happen!"
I’m an infj. In the process of developing my Ti Se, i had a lot of conflict with my infp & end up getting door slammed by them. It hurts so bad 🤪
Sorry to hear that, I hope are better now!
How is it now?
@@mynameisnotavailablehere i moved on
oh man im am infp and this is so hard for to make compliments like real compliments yeah i always feel so bad for myself...it feels like there was some barrier between me and giving compliments
I am the only intuitive in my family. I am an INFP and ESFJ, ESTJ and ESTP comprise the rest of my family.
Me: INFJ
Gradmas: ESFJ, ISTJ
Grandfather: ESTP
Mom: ISFJ
Father: ESFP
1st sister: ISFP
2nd sister: ESFP
3rd sister: ESFJ
4th sister: INFJ
Brother: ISTP
Im an Infp and my older brother of three years is also infj. Nice
My family consists 6 members. And all of them are Sensors 🥲🥲🥲🥲🥲 And I am an INFP🥲🥲🥲🥲 Life is not easy
Mother-ESFJ, Father-ISTP, 3 brothers-ESTP, ESFP, ISFP. The closest one is ISFP and my mother. But we are not that close. I like my ISFP brother, bc of his sensitivity. But we don't talk to each other, just see each other and smile to each other. That is all.🙂✌ BTW my brothers were born in 1990, 92, 94. I was born in 2003. Sooo yeah, you understood, what I mean. Bc of age differences and S function, we don't get along. I was lonely girl in mu family everytime. And my ESFP brother was psychopathic, he always teased me in my childhood and enjoyed it. He enjoyed it and laughed when I cried. Trauma✌hi. And my ESTP brother is Choleric. I am scared of him, so I don't talk to him at all. If I talk to him, he may think that we are close, then he can yell at me. So ISFP brother is the best. My ISTP father is very critical and never understands me. My ESFJ mother is a quite normal among them. But most of the time, she doesn't understand me too. Even if I say about my feeling to her, she doesn't get it and criticize me. Even if ESFJs have Fe dominant, they are so slow-witted about other's feelings. I think I am more ESFJ than them
You very much surprised me in this video, because you just described my brother and me in a way. I've been studying types only for a month or so, so I haven't really typed my family members, but what you said about your brother corresponded so eerily with the behaviour of my brother and his inner softness, that I suspect he might be an INFP as well. As I'm an INFJ it's rather funny to watch a video about siblings that are so similar to us. I've got two more brothers and I love how different and at the same time similar they are. Still, I'd love my probably INFP brother to open up more sometimes, because I feel terribly lonely and isolated sometimes. I'm the eldest and protective of my brothers as well. I wonder whether there is any connection between that and our types. What is your opinion?
My one daughter I’m sure is an Fi user. She types as IFP on the kids typology exam. But tests are crap unless you understand the functions- anyways, I am constantly trying to get her to express her emotions more, and when I do that she gets her back up, and she too doesn’t express her thoughts very much but if you knew her you could see how deep and feeling she really really is. I think Fi comes across as a deep feeler but it’s locked away, she also is a writer and I think infp and isfp are more literary than infj in all honesty- the journaling types, the ones who express their deepest emotions and things that happened to them (Si) where INFJ can be writers but tend to be orators to small groups of people, or if they write it’s about a “said” topic. I also don’t reminisce and have a very hard time recalling the past, especially accurately. If I am trying to comfort someone with something that I know I’ve experienced first hand; will be the only time I will bring up the past and even then, not in detail but more in feeling sort of way, it seems like Si manifests usually with a negative over tone to it. - i could truly love a musical artist or author but couldn’t tell you any facts about them let alone even remember the name of the song or book... I just know the feeling they gave me etc ... yes the cognitive functions of feeling are highly contrasted. My sister is an infp and I’m amazed at her art and her ability to connect to the past but she comes off as super aloof and like, almost detached in a sense, and the isfp I know comes off as artistic but super closed off!
My dad: ENFJ-A
My mom: ISFJ-A
My brother: ENTJ_A
My little brother: ENFP A or T
Me: INFP-T
Very interesting video. Is there any way for French subscribers to see the video you're talking about ?
My family is predominantly intuitive including my maternal grandparents.
I think I have a lot of SPs in my family. Most males (bro, dad, uncles, grandpas) appear to be STP. One uncle might be ISTJ. He's quiet and hard to know. I think my mom is ESFP, one grandma probably ISFJ and the other seems to be ISTJ. I was closest to my ISFJ grandma. Lots of cracking jokes among the SPs with probably enneagram 7. My grandmas were the rocks of the family that did their best to keep things running smoothly. Probably both enneagram 6w5. One female cousin may be NFJ. She is the responsible, smart one who is more open minded. The male cousins appear STP too. They all tend to question things and enjoy driving to make it their job. They like working on cars etc. Think one STP uncle married an ISTP female. She is a retired welder. I get along with her good. I met some intuitives in school. One very long time friend is an ENFJ. Another close friend was an ISFJ. My daughter is INFJ. We get along very well. She was such a good kid . I think her and I could understand each other well and two Fe users will want to harmonize. It was interesting hearing your take about your INFP brother and writing styles etc.
Thanks for your comment! It must be quite rare to be INFJ with an INFJ daughter. It's great to hear that you two get along. How is it having an ESFP mom? My mom is ISFP and we are very close, but then again, she's introverted.
@@RensRoom I dont think Ive met another INFJ mother/daughter duo in person that I'm aware. Online, I did see some INFJs mentioning having parent/child relations but didnt get into deep discussions about it. My daughter is busy in her personal life and doesnt get online much. She's always been an energetic busy body working two jobs while going to high school. I dont think she interacts on youtube and I'm not aware of her having an account. She does watch some youtube vids tho.
My relationship with my mother is complex and didnt get along great as I matured. She was more fun before I entered high school. But then my growing independence created power struggles and she has a history of being selfish and even stealing. Pretty sure she was enneagram 7w8. She wasnt the healthiest ESFP or the best example. I think singer Pink is ESFP and I really like her. I think I would get along better with an ISFP than ESFP.
My father and my youngest brother are both INFJs and I’m INFP.
Hey can u pls help me to determine if I am an isfp or an infp , since u have both in ur family u know the differences, I am def an Fi dom, nd really unambitious, difficult to motivate , I also tend to listen to the same songs again and again ,is that Si?
Also i hide my feelings over the fear of conflicts , but I am confused about Ne and Se . What do I use ? How does Ne manifest in everyday life pls explain
im infp. my mom and littlest sister are sensor, my dad is N but on the cusp, and my other little sister is N (thank god)
I can pick on others thoughts what they are focused on , I can channel it and it manifest greater , but over all it takes you at times out of the environment, only for a second but the vision was full length, sound lights are a problem , I have a hard time focusing in that setting
Family MBTI - I'm an INFP, Mom & sister are ISFJ (not sure what Dad or my brother are).
Sorry also I wanted to ask ( if you felt like disclosing) what your astrological sign is. One of your videos mentioned you were 31 and so am I. Perhaps both fire rabbits. I am a Capricorn 😊
Yes my aunt cousin is my grandma was thinkers and feelers
My whole family is N at least. ENFP, INFP, ENFJ, ENTP, not sure about my dad who is dead now, and I am INFJ
Hi! A family with only intuitives sounds a little intimidating but awesome all the same ;) Do you get on more naturally with certain types among your relatives?
@@RensRoom My ENFJ brother and I more regularly communicate - we both inspire each other to keep reaching for what we want and support that feeling of "not worthiness." My ENFP mom and I are super close (she told me I'm her favorite HAHA!) but sometimes I feel like I parent her more than she parents me (she's a bit absentminded and gets off track on timeliness). My ENTP brother is the family jester and we get along but he spends a lot of time on the computer playing RPGs. INFP sister and I are also close but we lose touch for big periods of time. We're all very close, basically :)
my family members are most sensors!
Freya Yaping Wen Are you an INFP yourself?
@@RensRoom yup, I am an INFP! Thank you for making this video, great contents! Really makes me wonder, do personality types have something to do with genes or it is purely up to life experience? For me, growing up with almost everyone you know is a sensor is...lonely. I could not be myself anywhere besides when I am just with myself. I was deprived of my own creativity and means to express myself, the schools I attend to only focused on how to make a good mark on a test paper, I wasn't even allowed to keep my long hair (I grew up in China, one of the rules my middle school has was everyone must have short hair.. ) AND I HATE IT. It was tough, but then I adapted to it somehow eventually - however it really stifled my development as an INFP.
It wasn't until the recent years after I met my partner (who is also an INFJ) and he is THE person who had pushed me to grow to most. He consolidated me, validated my feelings that other people would generally dismiss, for the first time I was free to express myself, to be myself, to another human being. It's a really amazing partnership, together we really are like two philosophers high on weed all the time (picture two people cooking together while discussing from time dilation to capitalism consumerism to moral issues in food choices; interspersed with nonsensical jokes and silly dances, lol!)
I think the rest of my family is all S and not intuitive. I know my mom is ISFJ
Great video, thank you.
I am the only intuitive in my family. Terrible childhood.
I thought you're twins!
I'm an INFP and well ... if nothing else, we're supposed to be authentic. So let me say as authentically as possible ... I've never heard some much rave without getting to the point. Ramble ramble ramble .... zzzzzzzz
Oh I don’t thought you we’re twins
Most of my family is ST. I'm an INFP.
My mother is an infp father estp brother intp and me an infj
my parents are ESTP and ESFP
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My sister is an INFP, two years younger than me, and I am INFJ in my late 30ies. I can so see her in how you describe your brother. We come from family of feelers, predominantly (but not exclusively) intuitives in the inner circle; dysfunctional in the past, pretty recovered and close in the present. I trust the integrity of my sister blindly and love her creativity, dignified sensitivity and cynical spot-on commentaries that nevertheless never seem corrupt. I remember when we were kids and teenagers, her perceived "aloofness" drove me nuts. I have always found that my sister inspires me on a subtle level and helps me grow, even though I have been the one "leading" in or relationship, the outwardly "teaching" one. I treasure her perspectives. On the other hand, though definitely the more organized person of us two, I am also the one that people would perceive as the poet (and that me being a heavy Ti user). Et voilá - ma soeur vive en France et me manque beaucoup!