When Life Comes to a Halt
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- čas přidán 10. 09. 2022
- As wives and mothers and sisters, we do our best to plan and prepare for everything. In some ways it is part of our nature as nurturers. And yet, no matter how much we plan, life still has a way of catching us by surprise. In this episode of Coffee with Chrystal, I discuss what to do when your life comes to a screeching halt and there is nothing you can do about it. You may not get to choose your struggle, but you do get to choose who you will be on the other side. Your purpose is too important for you to let the breakdown break you. Join me as I talk about how to not let one breakdown stop you from getting where you need to go.
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The longer you wait, the more it will cost you!!! A WORD!!!!!
"Don't get out of line.. Don't lose your place by moving when things get hard ". Love that 🙏🙏
recognize my assets - relationships family, work, church and others, cars, and mindset. expectations for myself. sounding the alarm is hard. PRIDE! independence the feeling of losing control. praise God for this timely word of encouragement.
I’m at a halt right now. Both cars down. I’m not in the driver’s seat to get things back moving. Trying not to usurp my husband’s authority but man, It. Is. Hard. I have to depend on a ride to get my kids to school and me to work. No car. No sense of urgency on anyone’s part….. but mine. Life is at a halt and there is nothing I can do. So yeah, I feel you Chrystal.
This makes me want to cry. I am so good at showing up for others but to ask for help, it is almost impossible for me to muster the words. I have been disappointed so many times that it is just easier for me to just do it myself or to do without. This really breaks my heart.
I laughed when I realized that I am not the only one driving a minivan that has a lot of mileage but no car payments.
It's really faithful but the AC needs to be replaced. Thanks for sharing 😆.
Crystal This Is A Blessing To Listen To This Message This Morning. I Had Been Raised Being Independent. Then I Listen To A Message About Being Dependent. One Of My Grandaughter said "Mema You Need Help Ask" That Moment I Said You Right!! The Lord Said To Me Stop Being Independent And Be Dependent For Help When I Send It To You. Much More I Can Say. I Will Say This. I Personally Strongly Agree!! We Must Make Room For The Rebuilt!!"🥰❣️❣️❣️🔥🔥🔥👏👏👏👏👏🙏🙏🙏
Financially. In the middle what I can’t do, I decide decided to rest, trust and release what I cannot handle. God is making a way. God is fighting for us. Praying and doing our part, the rest we leave it to God.
“Don’t stop at the breakdown.” Yes Lord. It’s been real. Relevant. Relatable.
God has allowed this passing of my spouse, but it is such a numbing experience when you have been with a man much of your life! It is so over-the-top when you are involved deeply! This is my baby and I have to rock it! God's Grace is truly sufficient. Miracle after miracle! Struggling with emotions that seem unbearable. Finances you depended on as a Home Maker! Stability seemed shattered. The Love of my life is gone! It's coming on a year in October! There is nothing like knowing Jesus and His Word! My Lord!☝🏽🙏🏽I can breath now! The Lord have given me His plan for me! It is Well with my soul after going through counseling, comfort and worship! (Isaiah 60:1-3)😪🫂 Blessed be the Name of The Lord! My children have supported me financially after raising them in the fear of The Lord! Pain is pain, hurt and trials come to us all, but like David said in Psalm 37, "I once was young, but now I am old (er), but I've never seen the righteous forsaken, nor his seed begging bread. 💯☝🏽🙌🏽
Amen
I do need to set new expectations by not expecting others to give me what they’re not able to give. This will take away the disappointment. Thanks
I love the way you can take any situation and turn it into a lesson. So many nuggets shared here.
Crystal you mentioned something about "Don't get out of line" ... I think thats a good concept. Because I was just wondering if I'm EVEN in the line 🤦🏾♀️
What if I'm waiting on things that God has no intention of giving me? It can be hard waiting when you've been asking God for some of the simplest things for the past 15 years.
I admit sometimes I throw my hands up and "Get out of the line" 🤦🏾♀️
But I think "Don't get out of line" is a good discussion worth having.
Get to safety make an adjustment And let the Lord fight your battle
I like how natural she is and herself I feel that
I love it when you yell 🤣 it makes me feel more normal🫣🥴
I am heartbroken and sad. I cry every day. It’s so hard with this breakdown in my life that I’m experiencing right now. I loss my husband on August 12. Just 3 days shy of our 23rd wedding anniversary. He had a 7 year long illness that l had to watch & help him through. I can’t get over the last 5 very painful days of his life. I don’t know how I’m gonna make it in this world without him. I cry every day and it is so hurtful. Now alone in this house I’m with my 99-year-old mom who has dementia so I really don’t have anyone to talk to. I have family and friends but at this point I don’t want to throw my sadness off on them. I know they love me and are here for me but my trust and faith in God along with time is the only thing that’s going to help me make it through but at the same time it is very very hard. There is such a big void in my life and I miss my husband so much and the abundance that he brought to my life. My take away is I’m going to daily work on revising myself. Thanks for sharing sis❤
Great message Chrystal! Thank you for sharing. I'm still learning to not react too fast, but to pause and see what direction God will give me or if He will direct me to reach out. I love God because He knows me so well and He is so patient. When I do react too fast, He is so faithful to reveal to me what my options were, so that I can learn from the situation. It's nothing like a learned lesson from God, which we learned on this Sunday in James 1 is to allow God to develop us since this really is a journey. Thank you again Chrystal for your ministry.
I like the thinking; you get to choose.
Thank you Crystal, needed that today. Stress over financial problems. Problem solved but still dealing with the aftermath.
Your message is such a blessing to me today....It is God telling me I have to break down and ask for help...I didn't think I could and I didn't think I would [I'm a private person]...but I will now. The Spirit has spoken. Thanks. God Bless You.
God bless you
This message is so on time. I thank you for sharing this. Stick with your asset is the one that resignated with me.
I expect Expectations today. I’ve been waiting over 2 weeks too Chrystal.. actually more. My God! My Lord! Chrystal you sound like me. I love Jesus but I’m no punk.
Awesomeness!!!! 💫🌺
Yes. Lord, send me help.
I am a woman of faith but l will be firm
Help don,t know how to ask. To be real about my feeling.
Thanks a million Chrystal
It’s physical for me. What is most impactful is the sounding the alarm part.
I am always so helpful even to the point of ignoring me to help others. Which always causes problems later that I try to fix later. Causing a snowball affect.
I need to step back and make me a priority. Sounding the alarm!
I sound the alarm!! I need help, guidance, prayer, wisdom!!
Recent breakdown are my cars. No transportation. I’ve been working on staying safe in my thoughts. Im sounding the alarm that we have to do something and stop allowing the dealership to drive. My husband went to check on one of the assets. I have expectations that change is coming. It’s been almost a month. This not only affects me but others so yes this was a relevant for me 🙏🏽
Oh Chrystal, it’s so hard to stop and ask for help when you[ve always been the one that always helps.
Yes Lord I had a warning and I didn’t catch what it was. Now, here I am. Some things were out of my control. Some still are. But Lord I’m asking You to give me favor and help me recover. I stand in need Lord and I trust that Your hands have everything I need.
Thank you Crystal. This was so timely. God spoke to different areas of my current situation through this one video. I’m amazed at how intentional he is about his Children.
I just had a pretty serious emergency surgery. Last week I was running myself of gas and this week I can't do much on my own. I must learn to rest and ask for and accept help. Very big lesson.
I had a break down in relationship and a little bit of mental health but God has been restoring me faithfully and lovingly I’m not the smartest so I need a lot of help
Good advice for any problem thank for share🙌🙌✌️👍
Thank you!
Your summary of the Queen’s role and purpose is awesome and teachable as all of your information I’ve listened too keep up the excellent work 🙏🏾🙏🏾🙏🏾🙏🏾
This makes me think that I need to move back to my house and see if I can save it! Renting is expensive and my ex isn’t paying the mortgage… think it’s time I face this and intervene…. Which by the way is a word the Holy Spirit gave to me the other week.
I love "my first thought..somebody stole my (inoperable) car" I understand the panic
I do need to get to safety in regards to living in a space that I’m living. Tired of walking on eggshells.
Crystal I just want to say you are such an inspiration. By the way, you are hilarious. I love listening to your witty wisdom.
Thank you for this timely message.
Amen sister! Hierarchy of needs! When the breakdown comes safety is tge first need
This message hit me in the head, heart and my soul. Thank you. Praise God for you.
Love you! Great message
Thanks Chrystal. I needed this. Praises sent your way. You’re a blessing to me and others. 🙏🏽❤️
Thank you for this, Crystal. I look forward to hearing the remainder (or second part) of the story.😊. Timely!
Love the way you take a situation and make it a teachable moment. Life application. Praise God 🙌🏾🙏🏾
This is absolutely wonderful information!!!
This was great Chrystal. Thanks for sharing. Don't get out of line.
Help for me and help for the situation is a thing. Two different things
Glory to God! I needed to hear this today!
My life has come to a screeching hault and I'm just tired 🤦🏾♀️
I asked God for a specific job and after three interviews I was given the job.. And I just knew it was answered prayer. After 2 weeks at the job the company suddenly ended my contract. At this point I'm just tired of praying and asking God for the same things over and over and over and over again. I'm just exhausted mentally spiritually physically and emotionally... I have nothing else to give. I can barely even pray for myself 🤦🏾♀️
Kyla, I pray in the name of Jesus that He will give you everything you need to survive and thrive in this season. May His perfect will be done in every area of your life, including your work situation. Amen.
@@m.a.malcolmR828 Thank you! I really needed to hear that! I appreciate you praying for me Ms. Malcolm... I really do 💯❤️
KYLA, I understand how you feel. I have experienced the burnout of asking and not receiving.
MAY I ask you to rehearse and remember those prayers that God has answered.
PLEASE DON'T GIVE UP. Keep praying and keep thanking him!
HE HEARS YOU. TRUST THAT WHAT HE HAS DONE FOR YOU IN THE PAST ,He will do it again and again! I AM REMINDED BY YOUR POST TO BE PATIENT IN MY WAITING PERIOD.
Thank you so much!
Can unfortunately relate 😔
So many times i am feeling things, .going through something, 0r been through and don't always know how to put into words. You explain something and I go that is it! /makes since.
There is really something about your voice!! Wow! Subscribing...
A break up I have been intentionally listen o my heart and trying my best to give myself what I need to get through this in a healthy manner and also deciding who I want to be after this thank you Crystal
Thank you for this reminder Chrystal. I used to be the one to check out immediately. Now I'm learning to stick it out - God will surely bring me through the sudden drisruptions in my life. But sometimes it's hard to ask for help because I am the only one who is always asking. My family has been very helpful so when I'm in need, I feel like I can't ask because they have helped me so much already. Feels like I'm being a bother.
Confirmation!🙌🏾🙌🏾🙌🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾…
I wish I would have heard that part… “…don’t get out of line.” I just had a moment👀 Stay with the things that matter to you. Wow. That friendship example hit close. I’ve had that happen to me. I felt like I was abandoned 👀
I’m happy I found her ❤#blessing
Get to safety first!!! ❤
Sometimes also we refuse to heed the warnings we received (mine was a reoccurring dream) then allow ourselves to be placed in an environment where we have no one to help us. Proverbs tells us “the prudent foresee evil and hide themselves, but the simple pass on and are punished.” I believe that God was trying to warn me of impending danger, but I ignored it because I believed everything would be ok. Too many times in life we don’t pray and even like Gideon ask God for confirmation.
Amen
AMEN... WOW. That's so hard to sound the alarm😔
CRYSTAL, love,love you. Please get some rest.
ALSO, IT IS TIME FOR ALL OF US GET OUR THYROID, AND BLOOD SUGAR CHECKED.
YOU ARE SUCH A BLESSING!
I love you Chrystal. You are my best friend in my head. #aintnopunk 😁🤣🤭😂
I was just in the same situation and ended up having to get another one
What happens when you DO sound tge alarm and ask for help....but only recieve rejection, annoyance, and shame? I feel I've had no choice but to go it on my own and push the car
My relationship with God is suffering,due to childhood trauma I feel lost... like I really need help please help me and pray for my family and I .
I like this good video ❤
Get to safety. Sound the alarm. Stick with your assets. Set new expectations.
Whew🤧
Sound went down
Sound the alarm by asking for help. Humble enough to ask for help.
Sound the alarm Get help is what I plan to do
The volume is really low
This world expects me to give my life and everything while it's abandoned, hurt, abused, mistreated, put down, bullied, imbarrassed,humiliated me and I am supposed to tell this world thank you, and turn the other cheek for them to hurt me more 💔hmmm...,your story about your car was messed up for you, but think about the almost same thing happening without someone that cares for you for real to call and to help you. I listen to your show here alot,different topics and guest sometimes, and I appreciate you and your show, but
Your show has nothing that I can say I relate with or know or have known in my own life. I'm a community of one and I don't like it at all. It's the cross I bear and have been bearing my whole life long. It sucks when I am the most alone within big crowds. There is nothing I can do about it. You said ask for help, Yeah right... no one out there gives a darn about me unless I'm giving them something .
Strings and conditions with every one's love. The only one who really loved me was my mom, and she's been passed away for over two years. Cherish the life you have. Cherish the people within the life you have that truly love you. Truth is, it hurts to see you have family, loved ones, a father near by,...you have so much of the right kinds of riches like love. Please don't take it forgranted.
You have a BLESSED life. Here, I'm just wasting away. I know what being and feeling alone means, I live it everyday now that momma's gone. Be thankful that you have someone to care for you. Some folks like me aren't as lucky.
Louis, I'm so sorry for your loss. I sacrificed to help save someone's life and instead of it being seen as such, I spent 2yrs in prison. My husband and children paid a high price and so did I. For doing exactly what the Bible says "take care of the widow and the orphans if you want your religion to be anything in the sight of God" I did it and every time I thought God was going to come through and deliver me, even dreams of "Case dismissed" or hope for exposure of the truth...my heart was broken. My two 3yr Olds and 7 year old had to be in the care of others who were not always nice and there was nothing I could do but go thru. I told God, are you not going to deliver me? I did what you said. To this day I don't totally understand why but I'd be lieing if I didn't tell you that in my moments of self pity and hiding under the covers crying on my prison bunk he didn't whisper..."Is it anything compared to what I went through for you"
It quickened me and I began to fight back the darkness with Thanksgiving. God I thank you for the 6 years of marriage, I thank you for the time I did have with my children, if I never see them again help me to remember that they were yours before they were ever mine. Thank you for letting me share your love with the drug addicted mom of twins in the bunk next to me, thank you for showing me the pride in my heart that caused me to be in conflict with ppl all the time, thank you for delivering me from ppl pleasing, etc. When I look at the songs he gave me in that season and the deliverance many girls and women went through bc I decided to count it all joy and embrace the journey, I can say, it was not right or fare how I ended up in there but I made the most of my journey for the Kingdom of God. Once I embraced the journey, he didn't only use me. He delivered me.. from me. I lost consciousness as the judge read off my sentence, while saying to God, "Are you not going to deliver me?" By 2years later 12.1.19 I exited that prison in tears saying "Lord I don'twant to lose what you gave me in here". I don't know if my sharing is of any value to you. But I you could, please pray for me and my relationship with my mom. You know the value and I don't want either of us to leave this earth and not be together in glory bc of offense or not surrendering pride to God.
Rem this world does not love you or the one who died for you. You are not alone, you are loved more than you know. But you have to push back the darkness that's worked to turn your grief into ungratefulness. Another of the 7 symptoms of Pride
My name is Cherrie if you ever want to pray together. You can also find me in the inner circle with tons of other ladies who really do care. Grace and Peace to you my dear
I want you to know god loves you so much johnson solution is rite with her reply as a child of god we do get hated and rejected by famiy . i agree with that woman that comment on your sisuation . sometimes moms are the ones that usually loved us with no conditions attachd . this can be good and a cruel world . but you know what please dont give up on you and god . you know what what make your mom proud her seeing her daughter doing well. . never put your self down your enougg and your mom probally would ssy thst if she was here . i feel alone at times to . but god sees all . .
martna1
I'm tired of trying to keep going after my husband left me after 28 years of marriage for a man. NOBODY gave me a listening ear, like they didn't even want to discuss it. I feel so cheated. I'm 70.
DEAREST, Martna,
IF THE PEOPLE AROUND YOU WON'T ALLOW YOU TO TALK ABOUT IT, PRAY FOR GOD TO DIRECT YOU TO A GODLY, SPIRIT FILLED COUNSELOR OR THERAPIST TO DISCUSS YOUR HURT AND SITUATION. DON'T CARRY THIS BURDEN ALONE. GET THE HELP YOU DESERVE TO MOVE ON SO YOU CAN GO TO THE NEXT LEVEL IN YOUR LIFE. GET HELP TO LOOSE THE CHAINS OF THE PAST. Love you sis!
Oh wow how traumatizing im so sorry you had to go through this i know its hard to move on from this and theres no listening ear . i get it people can say your to emotional or sensitive maybe. but your not being to sensitive if thats what your so call fsmily or friends are saying . your hurt about what happend. But you know what god loves you and you remember your not alone . i know when i use to try to talk about stuff some folks what say you worry to much . it does not feel good when they ssy that . i hope you get better .
Come on. Don’t just sit and wait. I literally just approached my husband about allowing the dealership “drive this situation”
Miss having a "paid up" car😥. Oh i loved that old car...after a car accident on it 2019 had get a new car😥and new payment
Edit: Lord...help me to remain with my assets
U look just like your mom and then sharia like dad boys like dad also .
You have inflammation in your head and chest! Please go get checked! GOD BLESS YOUR HEART!🙏🏽❤️