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Interesting POV. I would say it depends on how you view yourself. Personally, I like what I do (I work at a medical supply warehouse) and so I have no problem letting ppl know (if they ask) what I do for a living. I wouldn’t say when ppl ask me this that I feel they are trying to sum up my entire character to what I do for work, but idk.
That question doesn't bother me. I love talking about my work. I do wonder about people who graduate from college and then don't work in their field of study- not that that's always bad, but is important to be working, to be challenged and rewarded for hard work.
I think work is a significant part of our identity in society. Even if we are a student or a stay at home mom, that still is a kind of work and defines how we fit into society. I am currently working very little and i find that depressing because I’m feeling like I’m somehow not contributing and not in the loop. RIght now I’m financially free because I got lucky with investing, and I can go on a bike ride or take a stroll downtown or read at a cafe but it’s actually pretty boring after a while. I want to have a valuable skill so that I’m making a difference in the world.
What do you do for a living? is a loaded question playing in a Hegemonic Discourse. Bohemians not in the matrix bothered by system. Also, very plausibly reveals Classism and attributed worth depending on your occupation.
Absolutely what someone does for 40 hours a week tells about what their values are. Everyone has to make money. How they do it tells you a lot about them. Asking where someone where they went to college is much more status related question. A more direct alternative to the question might be: what do you contribute to society?
Omgg you are so on point! Being still an undergrad, I personally hate the question -- "So, what are you planning to do after college?" -- or being an international student -- "Oh, are you going to stay in the U.S. or go back home?" -- I don't know y'all like can you PSA?
I heard that the "what do you do [for a living]?" question is a uniquely American one. I'm a former model in my mid-30s who's never been in a relationship, so this makes sense. It's only in recent years that I've come to realize that my lifelong dating struggles were due to spending my whole life trying to reverse generational poverty and not due to some personality flaw or dating blunder. In a society that ties your human value to your job, I now understand why my previously underemployed or unemployed self never got second dates despite the great chemistry on the first date, and why my college self basically never got first dates while witnessing women I had seemingly mutual attractions with date engineering majors who the women themselves sometimes admitted to not being attracted to. FYI: I was an art major, which doesn't scream "potential." In America, everything is about the dollar, whether it's politics or love or sports or whatever.
It's not just America, it's everywhere due to our biology. Men and women have different sets of criteria for attraction. Love or chemistry is just an irrational emotion men and women have been told matters the most when choosing a long term partner. It's relevant to certain extent but it's just surface level. What truly matters is what each other's role will be in a long term commitment. Men have the burden of performance when it comes to being a resource to females. Even in our modern and progressive era where women are independent, generally they still look for mates who are across and up from their social status. So to stay on topic for this video, this question actually matters most for men because that's where our main value is derived, not only for sexual attraction but also for respect amongst other men.
1.) So I’ve asked three or four really engaging questions at this point, then the conversation dies. Do I continue interrogating them or do I welcome the silence? 2.) What is a good ratio for interrogation to conversation?
I’m a dental assistant and when a patient comes in and starts talking to me about how they came straight from work or how they’re going to work after their appointment, I usually ask about what they do for work just to break the ice and have something to talk about. I’ve never thought about it any more than just a simple question which not everyone needs to answer if they don’t feel like it.
I disagree with categoraising that question as bad. If I ask ,,what do you do'' the conversation goes like-> I do xyz -> oh , so how's abc looks like in your job? , what do you enjoy about your job , do you have some funny stories from your job etc-> ... . Maybe you can make a conection by loughing from how bad you managers are, what anoyes you in that job and your partner as well etc. As you see there are plenty of possible continuation , which might be interesting. But maybe it's the matter of demographics. Im much younger then you and for me the dating scene is not about how much do you earn/how prestige your job is, which might be the cause in your case. Plus imo ambitious and high-achiver ppl tend to be more focused around thier jobs - because for them prestigous job might be thier goal for which they aim. So as you are propably interested in these guys ,then from simple propability you will encounter more of these negative traits of that kind
I’ve always regarded “what do you do” as an innocent and more or less okay thing to ask, thanks to this video I will just be self conscious every time it pops in my head automatically to ask as my tongue is literally muscle trained to ask it, and now every time someone asks me this lmao
Work shouldn't define a person but it does provide some form of context to the way a person is. Are they career ambitious? Are they entrepreneurial? Or rather want to play it safe and work for someone else their whole life? Plus, your work is something you spent over 1/3 of your day, I think it's a relevant question to get to know someone. If the question makes you uncomfortable, it's on you.
okay, real question tho, can I ask "what did you do?". this would fall along the criterion of getting to know you more (: jokes aside, I always enjoy watching your vids esp when you throw in a bit of humor here and there
🙏🏽 It’s not only a boring question, but it’s also a rude and judgmental question to ask.
Interesting POV.
I would say it depends on how you view yourself. Personally, I like what I do (I work at a medical supply warehouse) and so I have no problem letting ppl know (if they ask) what I do for a living. I wouldn’t say when ppl ask me this that I feel they are trying to sum up my entire character to what I do for work, but idk.
I agree, I feel the same way
That question doesn't bother me. I love talking about my work. I do wonder about people who graduate from college and then don't work in their field of study- not that that's always bad, but is important to be working, to be challenged and rewarded for hard work.
I think work is a significant part of our identity in society. Even if we are a student or a stay at home mom, that still is a kind of work and defines how we fit into society. I am currently working very little and i find that depressing because I’m feeling like I’m somehow not contributing and not in the loop. RIght now I’m financially free because I got lucky with investing, and I can go on a bike ride or take a stroll downtown or read at a cafe but it’s actually pretty boring after a while. I want to have a valuable skill so that I’m making a difference in the world.
I hate that question too!
What do you do for a living? is a loaded question playing in a Hegemonic Discourse.
Bohemians not in the matrix bothered by system.
Also, very plausibly reveals Classism and attributed worth depending on your occupation.
I see it differently- wouldn’t you want to know what a person dedicates a decent amount of their hours to?
Absolutely what someone does for 40 hours a week tells about what their values are. Everyone has to make money. How they do it tells you a lot about them.
Asking where someone where they went to college is much more status related question.
A more direct alternative to the question might be: what do you contribute to society?
@@ameripenguin Is this a job interview LMFAO
@@user-pd9ju5dk5s I still think it’s wayyy better to ask that question instead
@@AppleInTheDesert I'm sure youre a very social and popular guy 🤣
I always long with your vlog, Taylor. Been a subscriber since 2016! We learn a lot from all your contents. It’s all in! Continue doing. More speed!
Omgg you are so on point! Being still an undergrad, I personally hate the question -- "So, what are you planning to do after college?" -- or being an international student -- "Oh, are you going to stay in the U.S. or go back home?" -- I don't know y'all like can you PSA?
I heard that the "what do you do [for a living]?" question is a uniquely American one. I'm a former model in my mid-30s who's never been in a relationship, so this makes sense. It's only in recent years that I've come to realize that my lifelong dating struggles were due to spending my whole life trying to reverse generational poverty and not due to some personality flaw or dating blunder. In a society that ties your human value to your job, I now understand why my previously underemployed or unemployed self never got second dates despite the great chemistry on the first date, and why my college self basically never got first dates while witnessing women I had seemingly mutual attractions with date engineering majors who the women themselves sometimes admitted to not being attracted to. FYI: I was an art major, which doesn't scream "potential." In America, everything is about the dollar, whether it's politics or love or sports or whatever.
It's not just America, it's everywhere due to our biology. Men and women have different sets of criteria for attraction. Love or chemistry is just an irrational emotion men and women have been told matters the most when choosing a long term partner. It's relevant to certain extent but it's just surface level. What truly matters is what each other's role will be in a long term commitment.
Men have the burden of performance when it comes to being a resource to females. Even in our modern and progressive era where women are independent, generally they still look for mates who are across and up from their social status. So to stay on topic for this video, this question actually matters most for men because that's where our main value is derived, not only for sexual attraction but also for respect amongst other men.
I just say, “I fight the aliens.” You can thank me anytime
video idea: how to hold conversations
XD "what do you do?" LOL
BTW nice laugh 🤣 I really love that hahaha
Its the easiest way to get you to do the work, to recognize the lack of effort there, it sometimes depend on the person
She spends more time alone doing these videos indoors instead of socializing.
1.) So I’ve asked three or four really engaging questions at this point, then the conversation dies. Do I continue interrogating them or do I welcome the silence?
2.) What is a good ratio for interrogation to conversation?
but what if i genuinely want to kno what kind of work someone does? im a little curious george
How do you stay so consistent on CZcams? What’s your motivation?
Society: What do you do?
YesReneau: "What do you mean?..."
"Ooooohhhh. When you nod your head yes but you wanna say no."
what was your childhood like ?
Mkay, answer me dis: WHY d0 y0u d0???
Do you use humor as a coping mechanism? Cause I sure as hell do...
What's your biggest weakness and why should we hire you?
(edit: Oh no, I forgot a comma in between independent clauses...😯)
🤣 that’s a great question
I’m a dental assistant and when a patient comes in and starts talking to me about how they came straight from work or how they’re going to work after their appointment, I usually ask about what they do for work just to break the ice and have something to talk about. I’ve never thought about it any more than just a simple question which not everyone needs to answer if they don’t feel like it.
I disagree with categoraising that question as bad. If I ask ,,what do you do'' the conversation goes like-> I do xyz -> oh , so how's abc looks like in your job? , what do you enjoy about your job , do you have some funny stories from your job etc-> ... . Maybe you can make a conection by loughing from how bad you managers are, what anoyes you in that job and your partner as well etc. As you see there are plenty of possible continuation , which might be interesting. But maybe it's the matter of demographics. Im much younger then you and for me the dating scene is not about how much do you earn/how prestige your job is, which might be the cause in your case. Plus imo ambitious and high-achiver ppl tend to be more focused around thier jobs - because for them prestigous job might be thier goal for which they aim. So as you are propably interested in these guys ,then from simple propability you will encounter more of these negative traits of that kind
I’ve always regarded “what do you do” as an innocent and more or less okay thing to ask, thanks to this video I will just be self conscious every time it pops in my head automatically to ask as my tongue is literally muscle trained to ask it, and now every time someone asks me this lmao
@@matthewk2388 yeah it’s quite a privileged statement lol
Work shouldn't define a person but it does provide some form of context to the way a person is. Are they career ambitious? Are they entrepreneurial? Or rather want to play it safe and work for someone else their whole life? Plus, your work is something you spent over 1/3 of your day, I think it's a relevant question to get to know someone. If the question makes you uncomfortable, it's on you.
okay, real question tho, can I ask "what did you do?". this would fall along the criterion of getting to know you more (: jokes aside, I always enjoy watching your vids esp when you throw in a bit of humor here and there