Dealing with Death of a Best Friend
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- čas přidán 5. 09. 2024
- A friend of mine passed away last month, just making a video to get my thoughts out and help anyone else who's had to deal with something like this.
Be nice to people, because you never know what anyone is going through. Take pictures and videos with your friends because you just don't know how much they're worth until it's too late. Tell your friends you love and miss them often. Don't hold grudges, it's seriously not worth it.
You will be feel better in time, it will make you a stronger person and change your perspective on life.
I came here from your gaming channel after you mentioned it in your Samus video. I'm so glad I did, I know this video is almost a year old but it's so relatable. I've lost one of my best friends as well and what you said about forgiveness is so true.
Taiku Mizuko I'm glad you were able to gain something from this video, it's a really tough thing. I still think about my best friend every single day even after so much time has passed.
Hi Jtails, this video really hit home with me, as i'm dealing with it now too. The description is so true. You never know what battles people are fighting. I try to be as kind as I can to everyone. You never know, it may just make their day.
thank you for posting this. i lost one of my best friends last year to a heroin overdose. the night he went out to the party where he died, i was asked to join him but declined since i was getting some cosplays ready for san diego comicon. the day after my trip to comicon i found out he passed and was in denial up until his funeral. for months, i felt a huge sense of guilt for not going out with him that night. maybe he wouldn't have overdosed, and maybe he'd still be here. these thoughts haunt me to the point where my anxiety has gotten worse. next thursday is his birthday, and the first where i won't be seeing him :( its something I'm still trying to process even after his passing but only time will tell when i progress out of this depression from the loss of my best friend.
yvette navarro It's a really tough thing.. I'm so sorry. It's going to take a while to set in, and to accept and even to remember. There were times when I would see something new about smash brothers and think "Oh I gotta tell my friend about it, and then I remember." But at this point it still makes me sad to think about, but It's no where near as intense as it was the first 6 months when the thoughts would haunt me everyday. You can and will get out of this depression, but it will take a lot of time and work. From time to time I talk out loud to him, in hopes that whereever he is, he can hear me. I just try and use it as motivation because I know he wouldn't want me to dwell, and he would want me to do better with my life. We can't be responsible or hold ourselves accountable for the choices others make, especially if we had no idea something was going to happen, we can't see the future. So definitely work towards forgiving yourself if you still have any bad feelings about what happened. It really wasn't your fault. Thank you for your comment, and I'd be happy to talk with you more, if you need.
I watch this video since I first found your channel and it was the reason I thought you were such a great youtuber my grandfather just passed away December 11 and I watched this video again today it was really helpful. Anyway I wanted to sincerely say thank you not just for the smash content but for the day to day today smiles I get from watching your video and I thought it was hilarious the first time you replied to one of my comments making a stoner joke because of spell check changing Bowser to browser.. I honestly hope Bowser is the last character you do so that way you can do him the most justice I definitely do not mind waiting because there's so many demanding new subs that you have obtained who want you to get videos up for their mains in every videos comments there's practically a list of every characters being asked to be next and that's great.......... Congratulations on 10k subs JTAILS HYPE
Thanks for sharing. It feels kinda great to hear from people going through the same thing I went through (more like still going through). This September will be the first year anniversary of my best friend's death. There are days where I feel happy or "normal" but then there's always that one day where you just randomly burst out in tears. I still feel regret and guilt for how things ended between us prior to her death. Unfortunately, I have not visit her grave yet... I hope someday I find the courage to. Anyways, I hope you make better progress than I have. I'll pray for you during your recovery. Thanks again :D
That's very much what I was hoping. I know I can't really help anyone by sharing this, but hopefully maybe ease, or share the experience with someone else because it's such a hard thing to deal with.
Yeah I know exactly what you're talking about. I still haven't stopped thinking about my friend, and it's already been a few months. It's still been a rollercoaster, and some days I still cry thinking about it. but it's lessened, it's less strong of an emotion. It's just crazy because so many things remind me of my friend in everyday life. Or a video game, whatever it may be.
It does make me strive to do better with my life. Thank you so much for your words! I'll pray for your recovery and your friend as well! Once again, thank you so much for sharing and your comment. I hope my video helped somewhat.
Only the person themselves can truly "get over" traumatic experience of losing someone important. However, the help of loved ones and people who have the same experience can help ease the pain.
The hardest part is acceptance since the majority are still stuck in denial. Though when we finally do accept it, the pain/guilt/regret/trauma will never truly go away. It will become part of us like a permanent scar... a reminder.
Thanks again. Trust me, your video helped :D
I'm so glad, and even still not a day goes by where I don't think about it. It's crazy
thank CZcams for helping me hear ppls experiences cuz its tough talking to rest of us survivors cuz its tough but if they bring it up i hear em out and vent also
Thank you for making this video. It is providing good comfort for me during my current grief.
hey.. I've been there too many times I can count. I'm glad that an old video I made out of my own grief has been able to help anyone. It will get better, but you will never forget
I'm so sorry. It's not your fault. If you need anyone, I'm there for you. 😥
Thank you Lily, you're a sweetheart.
I share your feelings and I feel you. (I may be typing alot, and my phone is kinda weird about typing on youtube, so I apologize in advance for the wall of text). It's been just over a year since I lost someone close to me as well: my cousin. He passed away August of last year from a heroin overdose. I was away in WA visiting my Uncle's family when I found out. When I came back to San Diego county, my mind still could not believe he was gone; it was as though nothing about it was real, all surreal, like a dream. About a week after returning our family and friends held his funeral. I was supposed to give a speech, but when I got there his mom told me no one was going to do that now. But I still wanted to. I am a writer at heart, but I've always been painfully shy for many reasons, and the words become lost and choked somewhere between my heart and throat and I didn't say much. I remember feeling something like a wall falling, emotions dying, and shame seeing the facing in the audience expressing almost all an air of bemused contempt that I seemed to some how break the expected solemness of a funeral with my broken words and teary voice. After we left the chapel all I could do was to run away to some place quiet and cry for the first time since he (my cousin) died. However it is, I have a hard time letting myself cry (perhaps I feel ashamed of crying), and I tend to let my feelings become too internalized until I can write them out in a manner that is like a polished facad over a decaying corpse: beauty masking sorrow. I've been following your Sm4sh videos for about a year, I reckon, but this is the first I've viewed your other channel. I want to thank you from the bottom of heart for making this video. At least for me, the very realness you present, and honest love you express for your friend, and the care shown for those who would watch the video, brought tears to my eyes and helped me remember I am not so alone as I often feel. Thank you Julian (Hope I remembered your real name right). I know you don't know me, but I'm always all ears.
Yeah, I told him I wanted to be a professional dancer and he pushed me forward to do it. I never had faith in myself but he did so now I have to do it.
Some nights are really horrible. One night I had a panic attack and all that. The only thing that helps me is writing.
+Maleficent_01 Yeah I understand completely. I thought about my friend a bit today. Really good memories, but it's hard to shake that feeling in your stomach because you know they can't happen again. I am really blessed though to have these great memories that are pretty much my entire childhood with my friend.
I haven't dealt with this situation exactly, but a kid i looked up to while i was little got hooked on pot and started stealing and selling anything he could find to be able to buy more. He ran away probably 4 months ago and is probably half the state away from here now. Or, his corpse is half a state away by now, i dont even know.
Although I don't know what is worse, knowing that your friend is dead, or not knowing whether your idol as a little kid is shivering all alone, or is filled to the brim with maggots. However, im very sorry for your loss, im sorry if it sounded like i tried to steal the attention.
Thank you for posting this video. I just found out that my friend, whom I've known since we were kids, passed away in a tragic accident the other day. I have been remembering the good times and smiling and then it just hits me and I start crying out of the blue. I cannot wrap my mind around the fact that he is gone.
It's really difficult, please know that you aren't alone in this okay?
This story makes my crying:( i hope youre better yet. You got your community, and thats a family, which will help you with every problem (well, i will :D).
Sry for my english
TheTerminter Thank you so much Terminter. Sometimes I still think about it, but I'm not so sad anymore. Yeah I know you guys are there for me now and it's such a beautiful things. the same way I'm there for one of you.
Wow , your'e a great young man to offer help to the people on you tube, I just found out that my good friend committed suicide, this was his third and final attempt. I'm just looking reach out and talk and listen . So far your video has helped me even thou i have gone thru this seven times two brothers a grandmother an uncle and three great friends . I feel that it gets worst every time. I worry that one day I'll be alone left with all this sadness to bear. Thanks for your video.
+8LACK8IRD You are not alone. This was the first friend I've lost to suicide and it was extremely painful. He still crosses my mind day to day. Usually good memories and how much I miss him. Please carry on, because this is what your friends and family would have wanted for you.
awww baby :c I'm so sorry for your loss. I'm here if you want to talk or anything.
Thank you so much Rose
no problem
i realize that this video was made a while ago but know that it is still helping people.... my best friend killed himself at the age of sixteen a little over two months ago and it's been tough. your video really helped me and has given me hope that it will get better soon.
I'm really happy my video was able to help you somehow. My friend also ended in suicide and it's still difficult for me.
I lost a good friend to a car accident two years ago and never dealt with it. I couldn't bring myself to ever go to her funeral, ever since then I have forgotten who I was and what I cared about. I just want to get back, live with a passion again.
I'm very sorry to hear that. It's a life changing thing for sure.. I hope you can learn to get your passion in life back. I think your good friend would have wanted you to be happy and well don't you think?
Thank you for sharing. My best friend died on Christmas and it's been a lot to deal with. Sometimes I think I'm ok and I think about the good times and then I randomly start sobbing. I know grieving is a process but it's just nothing you can prepare for, it all feels so surreal.
+luckyducky224 I'm so sorry.. Yeah there's nothing in life that can prepare you for this. I know the exact feeling.. it's so tough. As for my progress, a year later, I still think about my best friend often. but it doesn't feel as surreal anymore. Only sometimes. with time you'll start to feel better. Do whatever you have to do, sob, think about the good times, you'll find that the bad times seem a little more meaningless and even funny at this point. I hope somehow my video was able to help you. You're not alone.
and I'm 8
I lost my best friend on thanksgiving day to a 6 car line up accident. We were so close and we've known each other for a year now. I talked to her just an hour and 25 minutes before it happened saying how much I was grateful for her because it was Thanksgiving. She was only 12, only 12.
+JtailsTV Thank you for the kind words. It does get better with time but it's certainly a process. I hope you are still healing well. Cheers
+Sophie Plus I am sad to hear that. I know it must be very hard to deal with, even more so being on such an eventful day. I do, however, think you last conversation was very beautiful and one that you can cherish for the rest of your life. Hope you are healing well.
I watched this video numerous of times after I lost my best friend back in April. Truthfully, I still struggle with the loss of my best friends and I never realized how hard it its to deal with grief. At times I feel like its going to last a long time
Edmond Yan Yeah there's nothing quite like it, It's hard to find a day that goes by where I don't miss or think about my best friend. but it hurts way less. I do still think it's always going to feel like something is missing though. We can only move forward and try to better our own lives for our loved ones who have passed. It would probably make them happy.
I just lost my best friend. He died right after my birthday (7/13). He was bicycling and a tractor trailer hit him. I found out the other day and I am devastated. I've lost someone before but this is worse. I've been a total wreck and I can hardly come out of my room to see my family. I've been talking to people and it has helped I just wish I could see him again.
Maleficent_01 I'm so sorry. Yeah at the time I wasn't talking to ANYONE at all, I was just wrapped up in what had happened, and it was the only thing on my mind. Even today, my friend crosses my mind pretty often. It's hard because you have so many fond memories with that person so you'll always be reminded. I just try and think about what he would have wanted, and I try my best to move forward and to make him proud. He used to push me to go forward when he was still around, so I hold onto a lot of his wishes, and ideals. In the event that he might be watching.
You rock bro, always enjoy your honesty and modesty. I am 100% available for a chat !
Thanks Josh, you've always been great as well. Always
Thank you for making this..
+Emma Phoenix you're welcome, I hope you found it helpful.
My bestfriend ezra passed today he seemed so happy & I just cant understand why him? Why now? Why is God doing this? I try to keep my calm but tears are just rolling down my face it's not fair he was 15 too young I just want to be okay
I know this was a while ago, but I hope you have coped with it since. You should dedicate a stream to them
one of my bestfriends died today ... i've been crying for 3 hrs straight i cant stop .. i cant believe it ... we didnt talk alot in the last few months but i swear it was because of highschool and shit 😭 .. i regret not talking to her for all this time .. i really miss her so much 😭😭😭😭💔
I'm so sorry, please don't blame yourself for not talking to them, there was no way you could have known. The same thing happened with me and my best friend. Then he passed. I hadn't talked to him for a few years and I blamed myself a lot.. but please it's not your fault.
JtailsTV i bit recovered from what happened ... i went to her funeral and it was one of the greatest (and saddest) experience in my life ... her family loved me so much .. they told me i looked like her and they asked me if i could visit them from time to time ... i felt happy that they made me feel like i'm a part of their family :') ... i am trying to do my best in high school (exams are close) but i still cry at night but not like the day of her death :').
I'm glad to hear that Nada. You'll get better each week but you will always remember and still feel sad sometimes.. It's something that will stay with you. Keep getting good grades :) I'm glad her family accepted you.
my friend nohem died an asthma attack in his house with his cousin and people heard about it and people started spreading it around in my school and I talk to my mom and my friends and the teachers in my school and I started to feel little better but then I kept thinking about it and it made me think about the good times I'm sorry about your friend I hope you feel better
+Skylynn Andino Yeah it's really hard to think about the good times then realize they wont happen again. but over time you'll start to feel better. I'm sorry about Nohem. Please talk to your parents and teachers, support goes a long way honestly. And also grieving on your own, crying if you have to. My friend still has never left my mind and all the wonderful times we had.
to me I had this happened many times and I feel numb to death unless my friends are mentioned.
I just lost my best friend two weeks ago and the last thing we did was fight. He died in a house fire....
+Callie Spector Hi Callie, I'm so sorry to hear that. I hope you know that you guys would have made up and everything would have been okay. Your best friend loved you even if you got into a fight, please don't forget that.
+JtailsTV thank you, I'm still trying to get over it but I'm doing better than before though. I was actually going to apologize when I found the house on fire..
I believe I lost a friend today. If I should make a video on depression, comment, don't like it
I think if you made a video, you could help other people go through this as well.
How did you stop crying every night? I lost a friend a few days ago and was informed earlier today about it and ever since then ive been crying and crying and crying. How did you stop blaming yourself and crying about your friend?
when you realise blaming yourself isn't going to change anything. you need to go make cool stories to tell your friend when you see her/him. don't wanna reunite and all you can say is "I just been crying"
yes exactly! really good advice
It's so so hard Samantha.. I know what you're going through. It gets a little bit easier over time I promise.
I'm 8