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"Every female is a woman, but not every woman is a lady."
Very trueee💕
I had to pause the video when I heard that quote she hit the nail on the head! :)
Well said.
Aye, indeed it is.
Yes, you are correct. Too many people use the term lady instead of woman.
And nowadays, not every lady is really a "female."
I actually heard that small minded people talk about people, average minds discuss events and great minds discuss ideas and concepts.
Yes Ma'am! The key is implementing in! I hope you enjoy the video!
yeah , that's what I thought she was about to say
I love this. I always try to discuss events, ideas, theories, news, science, medical related subjects and I typically get a glazed over look from certain frequent people in my life that I cant abandon. It makes it so hard when they always bring the conversations back to town gossip. 😫
Yep--this the correct concept. 😊
That works for me !
“Teach your sons to do the same.” I felt such pride when I saw my father helping my grandmother (his mother-in-law) clean up after dinner while all the other husbands sat watching T.V. Even as a child I knew “This is a kind, good man” and I have married another kind, good man. We are our children’s strongest examples and I am grateful my mother and father we’re such wonderful examples for the life I want for myself and my family.
I love this
"Great minds talk about ideas,
Average minds talk about events,
Small minds talk about others."
- Eleonor Rousvelt-
It's a GREAT quote, isn't it?
It is indeed! ❤️
It is classy to cite sources 😉
I trust nobody who gossips about others.
Amen!
My coworker gossipbabout his roomate all the time. I should stay away from him.
Agree. I always think their lives must be (a tad) boring. I'm too busy doing things I love than to chit chat about rubbish.
Yes me too
Amen
"Always leave people and things better than you found them." Simple but important.
Beautiful presentation! Thank you!
I absolutely with that- it is my motto! And may I also add, Under promise, over deliver!🌹 Best to you today♥
I work in education with 15, 16 and 17 year olds. It’s absolutely refreshing to see young ladies commenting on here about their interest in improving themselves. Just the fact they’re here and eager to learn speaks volumes to who they are already. Each one of them should be very proud of themselves for taking the initiative to go for it and improve themselves. I felt pride just reading their comments.
Beautiful young woman, keep searching and learning even if your parents aren’t available to help you. 🌹😊
You took the word right out of my mouth yes is true makes me so proud. I also can relate I had my mother but she really didnt do much of a motherly job .. I love her to death thats my mom but ahe wasn't there to show me anything like this.
I am 15 ,sooo❤
I’m 17 🙋♀️
16 here
Am I the only one who is 12.
Tracy
May I suggest also
A Honor the elder, give your seat
B Suggest-don't command
C Don't assume, ASK
Thanks again for your video
This should be an instinctive response.
Thank you for this 👌🏽
pls show models how they act and give demo not only talking thank you
It takes maturity being elegant
Yes, it requires impulse control and emotional intelligence
1. Dress for success
2. Never be late
3. Sitting and talking
4. Conversational and cell phone usage
5. Lending assisstant
wm Sulaiman Thank You! Whew!!
wm Sulaiman thank you for the list ;)
Luv everything u said, thanks!
Do not like been a lady just my self this not true if they do not like it the were I dress then they can get lost
@@chlariepeace7958 What's your native language?
I'm 51 and still find this very informative and useful. I asked my 23 year old daughter to watch this and she did. Having etiquette is respecting people and yourself.
Winnie's Walk if this is a picture of you...YA LOOK GREAT! 😍
A few days ago I heard a 5 year old say to his cousin, "We don't make work for other people." I love his mother and dad.
My mother taught us the same thing.
A boss of mine once said “Always act in public as though you have cameras following you”. Just as most people would be on their A game or best behaviour in how they acted or looked if they were to appear on television, should you conduct yourself in public. ❤️
That was really helpful
Great tip! Thanks for sharing.
Of course you should conduct yourself, not only in public but also in private. Thank you for the information, but as someone described it as advice, I see it more as a message confirming that there are unfortunately other forces at work. Always be nice, is not a bad place for anyone to start.
Literally cameras are on you
Ironically this saying can also has negative affects too. My parents always act more understanding and charming in front of other people or in public but at home they are like whole different people ( less enthusiastic and very strict) . That's why I don't like this advice. Act the same way both in private and in public so that anybody seeing you in private never gets disappointed and people seeing you in public see your true authentic self. And it's good because you have eyes watching you that could give you critism so you can learn from it and not hide yourself away with a fake look sheilding your flaws. Work on being being beautiful both inside and outside. But everybody has their own opinions🤷♀️ i understand both of em
I'm turning 29 this year and I grew up being such a tomboy. I have almost no self esteem, I'm trying to stop cursing and I'm embarrassed to ask my own mother for help. I've been with my boyfriend for over 2 years and weve been talking about marriage and I want to give him a woman who is sure of herself and not a push over. Not just for him of course but for me. Thank you so much for posting this. It's a huge help to me.
Good luck! I hope the best for you. 😊
Same!
Just because you are a tomboy doesn't mean you are not a lady. Sometimes a woman can come across as a lady by the way she projects her public image but in her heart and personal life she may not be a lady. What really makes a lady is how she treats other people, her kindness to others, her willingness to help others, her ability to not judge others. I am fairly certain that the man who wants you to be his wife sees all these ladylike qualities in you. And he also appreciates your tomboy qualities that mean he can be himself with you. If he wanted Scarlet O'Hara (look up Gone with the Wind) he wouldn't be marrying you. So hold your head up and love him back for his wisdom in choosing you and loving you. Trust yourself and him and ye will live a long and happy life together and, as we say in Ireland, may all yer troubles be little ones. 👶👶👶👶👶
You can continue be a tomboy and still be a lady if you want. All it takes it's some class and I can tell you've got a good amount of that already! Of course, there's always room for improvement. You have to be kind and considerate towards others(which you seem to be), you need to value and respect yourself and others and strive for improvement and maybe keep yourself informed and keep and open mind. You're lucky to be on your journey already and the self-awareness and thoughtfulness you prove to have will be great help! Hugs
Leah, I know what you are getting at. I'm 40 and I've struggled with the same things you are. My mom was always a very rough and negative person with vulgar speech and was never very loving or caring. Then there were my two aunts on my dads side of the family who were very much lady like and poised but still fun and loving. It felt weird to me but I wanted to be like them. I just never thought it could be attainable or i just didnt know how to be that way because I've already been molded into a similar image that you portray yourself to be. I struggle with depression, anxiety, self confidence and I have bipolar disorder. Let me tell you how classy I feel with all that going on lol. But I still try to be very respectful to others and I do follow a lot of the rules that she speaks about in this video. I know that I've only been able to do this in life because of the influence from my aunts though. I might have gotten a lot of rotten things from my mom, but I'm glad I picked up some nice traits from my aunts too.
Over 2K dislikes, for basic manners and self respectful behavior. We see those like the ones who disliked the video everyday, and its sad they couldn’t take her advice. Thank you for the video. So many in our society should heed your words.
I only just came across your video today. And I shared it with my 13-year old granddaughter!
She lives in Europe and I’m in South Africa.
I believe it’s never too early to learn how to become a consummate lady 💃🏻
@@murielnorman7707 Yes, indeed!
The dislikes are from jealous people! There is nothing to dislike 🤨
Growing up, I was teased about being too “prissy” and “girlie”. As an adult, I’ve embraced who I am! I love the fact that I am naturally prim, proper and classy.
I love people and enjoy providing community service. We didn’t have much when I was growing up but my family (from great grandparents to my mother) always said “leave things better than you found it”. I took it to heart all my life. As a result, I’ve never been dumped in a relationship or fired from a job.
Great advice, awesome video! Tfs💞
They used to call me "softy" to find out that they were very jealous of me and how successful I am in my relationships, especially with my husband now❤
I'm 17 years old and my friends always say that I'm more lady-like than a lot of girls so I wanna improve that, thank you for this video🌸
Berenice Santillán ❣️ Love ❣️
Hello darling,
For those that like to get to the point. Here you go.
1. Dress accordingly
2. RSVP, Yes or no. Be on time. In thw event you are running late you will let them know. Leave on time(if it ends at 8p go home at 8)
3. Sitting and walking(do it properly).
4. Conversation & txt ( zero gossiping, listen vs talking too much. Classy people talk about events not people.
4. A. No txting, during dinner or gathering.( expecting a call excuse your self)
5. Extend assistance.( what can I do for you).
6.Leave people and things better than when you found. it
5.
sunshine thx
nice! Love it.
Cheers
sunshine Well, we do gossip but behind closed doors.
so its not just me that thought there was ALOT of over talking going on in this video.
I attended charm school. I learned all of these things. And the cell phone has completely changed things. Completely!!
"Never comment on someone else's body, or their plate"
I agree with you
I really like how you present "classy behaviour" as being about generosity, respect, and sincerity, rather than about being better than everyone else or looking better than everyone else. Thanks for the video :) :)
Thank you!
Affirmed, what my mother told me when I was a teen ager. True enough, I'VE GROWN UP VERY FEMININE . THANK YOU FOR SHARING.🥰
Whoaah, very interesting prespective. You put it out there differently.
I am 74 years old and have tried to practice these tips all my life. I am hoping the younger women watching enjoy your video, found it educational and as refreshing as I did. Thank You for sharing your knowledge! Carollyne - Canadian
woahhhh 74!!!! I'm 16 lolll
I subbed your channel you can do same
Hi greeting from Ghana . Africa
@@11harrybaby menua woy3 d3n waha
@Mariam mohammed lol. Looking for u.
Love this!!!! My little son everyday takes away his plate from the table after meal and says “thank you for the food”, I can’t stand grown up lazy men!!! I’m training a future good husband lol! Great tips!!!!! Love it!!!!
Keep up the great work!
Hello Katie. Happy you are conscious of these things. You may also enjoy videos like these. Enjoy czcams.com/video/txHxjH2lCn0/video.html
Good job 😄🙏
Hello miss,
I'm 16 years old and I feel like this is the proper age to learn these things .
They are very important for an image of a girl.
It was nice to watch the video and yes it was very helpful.
Thank you so much .
I'm sure you will grow up to be a lovely young woman
@@amartin9293 Thank you 😊💜
I absolutely HATE when people comment about other peoples' food choices, and make comments. So glad you included that.
Yes, women are notorious for it! It makes them look very uneducated.
I couldn't agree with you more. Thank you!
Kelly Sites oh my God i said that to someone at work. Is very rude to make negative comments about what someone else is eating. I love veggies and there is one of my coworkers who hates veggies was going on and on about how disgusting they are. So i said is poor manners to ew another persons food, she was offended bc i said that. My husband says i was wrong for saying it.
I always get this, since when I am thin I have the classic hourglass frame and people say "oh wow how'd you lose the weight? what's your secret?" like find out on your own, it took me a lot of effort to lose my weight do you really think i'm just going to spill it all out how i did it? and what's worse: "oh you eat so little. you became anorexic." like just because i eat less than you doesn't mean i'm starving. people get jealous. hell, that's a great video idea: Tracy how would you deal with jealous comments without letting them get to you and being the bigger person?
MARIUXI RENEE CADENA SALAZAR SAFADI - yes I love your question - I have battled my whole life with my own mother with ie how to be the better person , whats the best answer to give in the moment that sends the message a)how pathetic they are, b) that beholds myself the position of being strong and graceful in myself , and c) they should back off - all whilst I'm feeling crippled with hurt - because I never knew how to deal with it , I've actually had the whole spectrum of eating disorders , including anorexia nervosa - and even when I was in recovery of such - one day when I reached for a mere few nuts - in the midst of a party she has the indecency to say - leave some for other people too!!! Like as if I was some kind of hoarding pig that was eating all the food and not allowing any for anyone else !! I was virtually a bag of bones eating three nuts - yet here she was double the size of a normal person - helping herself quite freely to majority of a tray of biscuits and cheese!!! She was just trying to replace her own guilt of her own behaviour on to me!!!! That was the day I realised my problem was her all along !! And not some internal flaw of my own ! I have since healed a lot and come along way with disordered eating - but I have not got anywhere with dealing with toxic people remarks - esp my mother and still in this same situational moment around meal times - so If I could suggest a video on this alone Tracy - it would be very helpful I think to a lot of women how to be the graceful lady on the receiving end of tactless unlady people
As a 16 year-old, I can say that it's never too early or too late to learn how to be classy
it is snow outside
fizzy pie Finally! Another teen that wants class!
fizzy pie exactly
fizzy pie smart girl!
I know I'm a bit late, but I love this comment! I have 3 children and recently, my oldest completed her first cotillion season. I recommend it. It is a tradition in my family, however in most places, it openly available. Check your local country club or golf club. Even if you or your parents are not members, accommodations are usually made. It covers ALL expected etiquette. From formal dance, proper attire, dining, guest expectations, written communication and so much more. It's well worth the time investment. Good luck to you all!
I've been studying etiquette to help combat my social anxiety by giving me more confidence. This video is so helpful, thank you!
I'm about to be 15 this month and I've realized that i need to learn to learn some manners and become a real lady as I grow up!!
Wish me Luck 💜
I am 12 (13 in 4 months) I'm watching this because I want to be better and have my parents be proud of me. I'm going to practice this *especially* at school. I want to prove to my teachers that I'm responsible. I want to do better in everything:)
Bless you!!
Well, you are amazing!! You will be an amazing grown up ♡
You go, Kyleigh!
Good for you, Kyleigh!
You have a brilliant attitude. Well done.
I'm only 13 years old and I already don't like that our generation is forgeting about this "Etiquette". I'm trying my best to be a "lady" even if I'm pretty young and people are making jokes because of that.
I really enjoyed your video and keep doing similar things!
Good for you! : )
I’m so proud of you!! Keep it up!!
What a fine young lady you are Dohi! Don’t let small minded people have influence on you. Only let those who you want to be like be your friend. Hard as friends are few who are like you. But eagles don’t fly with Turkeys.
@@janettarrant8163 You can be sure I will!
@@lindalovesmusic9091 Thank you. :3
I wish the communication etiquette was common sense. I've had many friends text me last minute telling me that they overslept and can't make it. Most of the time they would have left me hanging if I had not texted them. It's sad that no one teaches people how to be respectful.
You can tell them your expectations and stick to them. Command respect. People treat us how we allow them to treat ys. Luckily, with age, it will be much easier for you to weed out "friends" who don't respect your time and let them be fleaky with other people who are like them. To each its own. 🙂
Being in band, all I heard for about 7 years was, “Early is on time, on time is late, and late is inexcusable”.
My daughter is starting her senior year as Brass Captain. Any advice you might have for her (other than the time rule 😁) would be appreciated greatly
Lindsay R Just make sure she knows to be stern but caring and that a lot is now her responsibility so take extra thought to her words and actions because the underclassman are now looking to her for guidance. And tell her to remember to be herself and have fun 🥰 you only get the high school experience once sadly. I wish I would’ve known that then. I hope she does well!!
Rhiannon Tennison Thank you for the advice! It’s a challenging year already, but she’s doing her best to adjust to this new world. I try to reassure her that better times are ahead. She loves band so much. It’s disheartening that half the band has quit because they won’t be attending school in person due to the virus. Great advice! 😊🙌
Most musicians I've played with have been a bunch of drugged drunk losers.
Most of us girls want our man to be a classy gent but are unaware of the fact that we might ourselves be acting "not so classy and ladylike" sometimes. I'm so SO happy to have found your channel. Thank you so much, Tracy.
Tracy, I lost my Mom to cancer when I was very young and in many ways I never had anyone teach me what it was to be a lady. I watched my friend's mothers and always tried to learn from them and take appropriate cues as to how I should be and how I should behave. I tell you this because I want you to know how much I appreciate this video. In 20 minutes you have taught me some new things and affirmed for me that I was correct in adopting some of the behaviors I have. It sounds like you have daughters, if so they are very lucky to have you as a mother. Thank you for this video and for the good you are putting out into the world.
I'm 19... I am really pleased to have this package of knowledge... I'm grateful to learn from someone with enough experience. Over the years I've gradually transformed from tomboy to some thing like a girly girl to a mixture of both and now I can't wait to imbibe the Class Lady culture... Thanks a lot ma'am, you are simply that classy aunt I never had....From Nigeria
Edit: #always leave people and things better than you met them
#put others in consideration always
1. dress for success (judged wherever you are)
2. don't be late (irresponsible not to be/otherwise communicate but should be rare: send a reminder call to remind them you are gonna be about 30mins late, please start without me, don't wait on me; do it yourself, don't delegate another to tell)
3. leave 5mins before, don't hold up the host, say your goodbyes to the host, tell them what a wonderful time you had and leave, never leave last
4. posture - no slouching, how to get out of a car, how to walk with high heels
5. conversation: talk about ideas (events some, never people nor things), nod without agreeing, don't own the conversation; ask about others' kids or vacations (be gracious) not just talk about yourself, sounds insecure (reminder app to text first thing in the morning when something struck during the conversation)
6. take compliments don't fight them; just say THANK YOU (confident and classy)
7. no slang nor swear (practice makes excellence)
8. don't discuss what is in other people's plates, nor weight, nor exercising (dining etiquettes)
9. cellphones (don't have them out in a group social situation), never at table ! to take a call, excuse yourself - phone usage check. Don't make any scene, NEVER DRAW attention to yourself.
10. lending assistance: wave car through, let somebody go in front of them, give a helping hand, always bring something for the hostess (bottle of wine, chocolate, flower, a dish, appetizer) and offer to help. at a family get together, start cleaning up, putting things in the dishwasher, it shows so much respect. Have your kids offer to help.
11.leave people and things BETTER THAN YOU FOUND THEM!!! = lifter, encourager, return what u borrow in better state;
12. enhance yourself, exuberate confidence, hearing and compassion, be mindful.
I’m starting early I am 9
God Bless YOU, Sweetheart!!
Good luck! It's so hard with technology and how antisocial it's made everyone, but I wish you well! I'm sure your mom would be proud of you
So cute!!!
im so proud of u
Look out, world!
"People with small minds talk about people." So true.
I really enjoy watching your videos. I feel horrible that it took me this long to tell you. I am an African American woman, 30, and was NEVER taught how to be a lady nor be feminine. It was all about school and work growing up. This is something that is not discussed in black culture. The older I get Im really loving this whole classy and sopshicated feel of life. Rather than just get up and go type of look. I always admired women who were polished and put together.
I'm also black , but I was taught how to be classy, feminine, and use etiquettcy. And you're right, the older people get, the more they want to be those things! And I'm 19 by the way . There's a CZcams channel called "School of Affulence", you should check out that channel for sure 🙂🙂
I am black and i was taught etiquette and good manners. As I got older' moved away from my country of origin ' manners don't seem as welcome or necessary. It makes me uncomfortable but
My boss told me they love my job but I must improve my people skills, this is the first step. Some of my coworkers already told on me for my lack of diplomacy and honestly, I really want to change. Thank you for making this video, I am ready to improve and become easier to be around
How did you go Mariam? I think it's a great testament to your character that instead of being defensive about those comments about you, you instead decided you can improve x
Good Job- I was sent to charm school in the 80's by my stepmom after she noticed I was a tomboy without a purse. I must say that was the best education I ever received - even better than college. Most girls laughed when I told them I went to charm school, but as an adult the training became more invaluable. I find that men usually notice it more than women, but women tend to notice especially if they're trying to get into a certain social circles, or they know it themselves. I remember going to lunch with a new girlfriend and she commented how she was impressed with my dining etiquette. She was a business owner attempting to do business in an affluent community and realized at a luncheon with a few influential women that she didn't know what to do. After I revealed my charm school training she gained even more respect for our friendship.
Thank you! I cracked up at your description by your Stepmom ... sound like my sister. This is such an incredibly great story! I loved it! I amy read this to my Snapchat Community. I totally agree that a person would use more skills they learned from Charm School than any traditional school education. Thank you for sharing this.
Tracy I am a 68 year old Grandma from Kansas, and I simply love your videos, keep them coming.
Thank you Kathleen! I will do that! Bless you! Enjoy the rest of your weekend!! xx
Kathleen Schemper and I am 64, I'm always saying be lady like to my grand girls. I will send this to them and bribe them to watch and do this!
"Leave things or people better than you found them".
These things should be taught in schools! Very educational video. Thank You!
There is a perfect example of many of the problems and ills in society, you cannot expect Schools, teachers and the such to bring these things to our children and teach them, this is for families to be teaching their children at home!
Families. Parents. It's not the school's or babysitter/daycare's responsibility to teach people manners and etiquette. What do the parents and relatives do?!
Sadly these things are not taught in many homes because the parents have not been taught. They aren’t taught morals let alone etiquette.
You’re so right-on. This is in us parents!!
They were once, esp in religious schools.
I'm 26 and I find myself doing a lot of this and also learning from this! I wish more women in my generation were like this because it causes me to have trouble having friends. :(
GabriellaGlamour you don't need a lot of friends.
Nechole777 definitely! But it would be nice to have a couple women to talk with !
GabriellaGlamour meeee toooo
GabriellaGlamour same
Find a finishing/etiquette school to attend and learn and use your social graces all the time. As you start excelling in your career you will naturally attract a classier group of friends. I bonded with an older woman at my job whom I consider a mentor. I found out later that she taught etiquette, is active in highly influential social groups, and frequents cool places like Martha's Vineyard and other spots. On another note, you're only going to have very few girlfriends anyway when you get older. Just make sure the few you have are good ones.
Bending over is a pet peeve of mine! My mother always taught me to squat and if I was in front of people to face them when bending, not have my tush in the air for everyone to look at.
That is excellent. I have always done this method, when bending. But was never taught it. I would feel awkward not doing it this way. I suppose I took it for granted that people would know this naturally. Really appreciate you sharing. I completely missed the boat on this one. Hopefully the viewers are reading these comments.
But squatting might cause some juices to leak from your punnany! What do you do then???
But squatting might cause some juices to leak from your punnany! What do you do then???
The Bane of My Existence You may want to go to a doctor about that...
Beck Cetera 🤣
Beautiful! I’ve always been called classy. I just think it’s common sense and considerate.
I’d like to bring up “the early bird” I find it really disrespectful to arrive too early. The hostess is preparing for a certain time and not ready to entertain yet. They early bird wants to chat or ask for something and it throws off the planning. I experience this all the time when running events, talks or hosting. I’ve now had to put it in the invitation “no early birds please “.
Please do a video on etiquette for being too early. We’ve been trained early is better than late but not always. I prefer to host without help so arriving early to help should be done with permission.
Thank you for your lovely inspiration.
Thank you. Glad you enjoyed. Yes, never arrive early. That will never serve the hostess in preparing. Always be considerate.
Boy so true! I had a holiday party and saved getting dressed for last due to food prep and I was putting on my makeup in my bathrobe when the doorbell rang 40 mins before the party start time. I was mortified and had to sit the couple in the livingroom with the TV on while I finished getting g dressed. It's unbelievably rude to arrive early.
I just have to say, you are absolutely a breath of fresh air! I lost my mom at 15 and am currently 29. I’ve always yearned for a mother figure and you really exert that for me. Thank you for your videos, I have learned so much and will cherish your advice forever and on to my kids. Blessings
I know it has been a whole, but sorry you lost your mom at such an early age. God Blessing for wanting to be classy and present yourself well to the public instead of sinking in self pity. May God continue to Bless you.
The fact that basic manners have to be called out as “classy” makes me want to become a hermit. Sigh. I’m glad that you’re sharing this!
Laudanum 1987 I get it!
"Teach your sons to do the Same thing" !!!! ❤️❤️❤️
Good point💜
Karina B.E. .
I guess many still stuck on that older costume that woman should be the one behaving good or being perfect.
Totally agree! All the tips mentioned in the video should be followed by both genders. :)
My mother taught me well
I first watched this video in 2018, and the changes in me afterwards were striking. Everybody noticed it in a good way. I have come back for my revision, for the third time; and have saved some of your playlists in my library.
Keep going, I love your advice so much!♡♡♡
"Don't be late!" Exactly!
I started dating someone, and he was late twice. There wasn't a third date. Lateness drives me nuts!
If someone is into you, they will show you enough respect, and at the very least, be on time!
I dropped friends for this disrespectful behaviour and I am still not sorry about it. If someone is my friend, they should value my time because friendship doesn't just mean hanging out and having fun. 3 strikes and they're out.
Etiquette seems to be forgotten so thanks for this!
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Retire Certain: Yes, Etiquette has been forgotten, especially here where I live in Washington state the Pacific Northwest USA. Women here are So Rough and Manly that is Disgusting!!!
Retire Certain It definitely has been! Hopefully more younger people see this.
Thank you so much for taking the time to teach all of us how to be ladylike. I've a 4 yr old granddaughter and quietly and discreetly I'm teaching her table manners, how to be kind, show gratitude etc. It's very important to teach them as early as possible. Both parents are working full time, they're excellent parents, I just try to instill the finer points. She's already turning into a very gentle, helpful and kind child. I'm a new subscriber from Ireland. I hope to learn lots more from you. Kind regards, Joan
I may be a guy but I find a lot of these still work for me. Thanks for the tips!
I remember when a colleague of mine asked me for ideas for an outfit for a wedding she was attending. I showed her a beautiful dress, knee length, something you could wear to church (but not too formal). She scoffed and showed me what she was ACTUALLY thinking about wearing. Some fashion nova-esque, tight, short sheath dress that made me truly wonder how she was going to comfortably sit down. It’s important to consider who the attention should be on during the event you’re attending as well. And what kind of attention your outfit brings. Great advice!
Absolutely- it's better to be ugly than take too much attention from the bride!
I LOVE THIS! I am 29 years old and I feel like a lot of my generation and the generation after mine are so lost when it comes to being ladylike. There is a time and place for everything however, I notice things such as a lot of my peers being on their phones, not communicating or being able to hold a conversation. I appreciate other points you've made as well. Definitely subscribing!
Brittney, you are so spot on! Yes, we can turn it off, when needed. But, when it's time to tap in ... the job needs to get done. Too many times, it is not. Appreciate the subscribe!!
Brittney Gray :v
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Amen!! This is such a great resource for those of us who are confused by etiquette. I love the fact she stresses communication in a number of these points.
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A “classy lady” is known to be such by others and doesn't place that label on herself.
grumpy oldfart Just in case you didn’t just attempt to make a joke, I edited my comment.
grumpy old fart it sounds like something my dad would say. 😜 you're silly.
Good video but i don't like that word classy. What does that mean? People in lower classes arn't polite?
It start with your self... don't brag or put other down
I love how you emphasize that in our homes, we can relax and do what we wish. I've seen other videos where they preach to even act elegant and classy in the presence of yourself, but truly, that's the best time to let loose and rejuvenate.
This is one well informed and put together lady.
Tracy! Tracy! Tracy! I'm so glad, NO, I'm ecstatic about this video! It's always a GREAT reminder to have a good spirit of Excellence! No matter the situation, no matter the crowd, we can always conduct ourselves in an orderly manner. I have definitely bookmarked this video and hope to share it. Thanks for sharing! Love you and God bless.
Thank you Joyce!!! Appreciate such a nice comment. Love you and God Bless you, as well.
I accidentally came across your channel. Loved this video. The way I have always heard that saying was : "Small minds discuss people, mediocre minds discuss current events and great minds discuss ideas". And my compliment for you is "your hair is sooooo pretty!" Looking forward to viewing more of your videos.
Welcome, I am glad that you are here. I am glad to hear that you enjoyed the video, as well. Thank you for sharing! I love your version of the quote! FANTASTIC!!! Blessings!!! xx
As a child I always tried to dress nice and have good manners. My family thought I would turn out snobby/stuck up, but this video makes so happy to know that a true lady isn't any of those things. Being kind and uplifting while being polite and confident in one's one self is something everyone should be! Amazing video!! 💖
I am 13 and I find this video really enlightening. I think that how you carry yourself in public is so important. From your first impression on a teacher to your job interview how you present yourself and treat the person is front of you is so important. And I think that having proper etiquette improves a person and how they treat others so much! Being classy is not about superficial stuff but about your attitude in general and how u treat others. I aspire to be a classy, elegant,strong and independent lady in the future n thank you so much for this video!
And omg i love your dress❤
I never had anyone to teach me little but important life details like these good manners, how to be a lady (no one's fault), so I searched on CZcams and I found you. Thanks. Thanks. Thanks.
God Bless!
This lady is so classy, her speech, body movement, everything yells class
Class doesn't yell
IT DOES IN AMERICA 🇺🇸
Cecily Erker not true.
I really appreciate these videos, I’m 18 years and want to improve in my mannerisms and etiquette. My friends say I’m posh but I feel that their is room for improvement
I love your video!!! When my son was old enough to have sleepovers or when invited over for a playdate, I told him how important it is to compliment the parents on their home when you've made your way in. Take a look around and when something catches your eye, say something nice no matter how small you think you're complimenting. I also told him to watch for ques. If the parents asked your friend to help clear the kitchen table, lend a hand without being asked or asking your friend. The biggest compliment to hear from other parents is how polite and nice my son is.
This wisdom is a treasure, thanks for the pearls!
What you doing tonight
These are some notes I was taking in the comment section while watching on my phone. I was going to just copy and paste them into my notes on my phone and not post the comment, but I thought someone else might find it useful to have the notes!
1. Dress for success - pay attention to where you are going and find out what to wear. Google it
2. Arriving and leaving. Don't be late: shows disrespect and says that you are irresponsible. Communicate if you will be late, in advance. The day of, send a reminder text/call that you will be late. Don't ask a friend or family member to do it, a classy woman does it herself.
Don't be the last person to leave. Don't hold up the host, say thanks for a good time.
3. Sitting and walking. Sit straight and tall, smile a bit. Pretend there is a helium balloon attached to the top of your head. Stand tall to look classy and elegant. Learn how to walk in high heels
4. Conversation and cellphone usage. People with great minds talk about events. Small people talk about people. If people are talking about people just nod. Don't try too hard to own the conversation. Ask about other people. We learn the best by listening. A good communicator knows how to listen. For example: If someones mother is ill and has appointments coming up write a reminder and send a nice text on the day- letting you know i'm thinking about you and I hope the tests go well today. If someone compliments you, accept it. Classy women do not swear or use slang in social situations. Don't talk about what someone else is eating/weight/exercise/diet during a meal. Don't take your phone out during a social situation. Look for cues but use discretion . If you need to wait for a call, tell the other person
5. Lending assistance. Put other people first. Offer to give a helping hand. Always bring something for the hostess at a party. Help putting away dishes and cleaning up. Leave people and things better than you found them
Always lift people, have them walk away feeling better.
Also thank you for the video! It was really helpful :)
Wow! I don't think you missed anything. Bravo and thank you for sharing your notes.
I'm watching this almost 2yrs after it was posted and yet it's so beneficial. Thank you ma'am for sharing.
My mother was old money and raised with manners and passed that behavior on to me. I in turn passed that classy behavior on to my daughter. You can wear all the designer cloths in the world and still be classless!
Yes, so true! I actually have a video coming soon that I talk about that exact topic.
one word: integrity
Good job Tracy!! I just went to a funeral and was amazed at the men who wore their hat in church. It's small things that show respect and class. Keep the videos coming. I love them! Blessings to you ~ Tina
Tina, Yes ... unfortunately that is how our world has become. I mostly think that it is just that they were never taught to pay their respect in the proper form. It is a shame. Glad you enjoyed the video and I cannot wait to do more. Blessings!!! xx
Wow unbelievable confidence. I love how you are unapologetic as you deliver this information. Very great points, great video.
I agreed with everything Tracy Hansel said. Esp about the cell phones, that drives me crazy when you are trying to talk to someone and it's all they can do to not look at their phone.
I have to be honest - I was expecting some outdated content, but I actually quite enjoyed this video!
It's very lovely delivered and I like how you value kindness as one of the essential classy virtues.
Thank you! I appreciate the nice and supportive comment! Have a GREAT weekend!!
Good manners are never outdated.
The car exit strategy is worth a million dollars
Here's another that Princess Diana used. When exiting a car she always used her clutch purse to hold in front of her neckline, so as to not display cleavage when bending over to exit a car. She just pressed her purse to her neckline. Genius and Classy!
I didn’t think I’d like this video, or even finish it, but it’s really good. The word “lady” has me suspecting I was about to hear some anti-feminist propaganda, but not so. The video could well have been a man talking about how to be a gentleman and not one word would need to change (except maybe how to get out of a car in a skirt ☺️). Not everyone is brought up with how to behave politely, so it’s nice that this kind of content is out here and free to watch. Our behavior signals our trustworthiness more than our clothes.
I am 14 and nobody has taught me this and I am so happy these videos are there so that I don't embarrass myself
I Loved this Tracy! Being a Lady and having good manners is very important to me!! Beautiful video! 🌸🌸🌸 Great Reminders!!
Thank you Liz!!!
Gary's wife here. I've been in the conversation at a party about someone that I did not want to be involved in; it was about the wife of a well respected member of the work team. Once the conversation started, I politely stated (with eye contact to the person who stated the conversation), "It was lovely visiting with you all, I'm going to walk around the room a bit. Have a lovely evening and time." Later I found that several of the ladies used my exit for theirs as well because they didn't know how to move or leave. Your tips are fantastic, I totally agree with them all and think that is some of what is missing in young ladies lives now-a-days. I was taught how to be a lady by fantastic ladies before me. You mentioned "living by all of these rules"; thing is, if you live it daily it's a way of life. God bless!!
I am 27 and I am finally beginning to truly appreciate manners and learning to consistently apply them.
Thanks from the bottom of my heart!
The weird thing is "classy" is not an acceptable word in most upper class or highly educated circles. I don't know what other word to use for that. Elegant? Well mannered? Well ladylike seems like a good one. And you're surely a good example of that.
Hi there! In the States, we do use the word, 'Classy'. It is not only referenced to upper class or highly educated individuals. It is expected of all people, regardless of status. The other terms used, are viewed the same way. Thank you for the nice message.
I can see why you would think of class when using the word "classy", however I think - as she noted ...lol - that she was referring more towards a general way of behaving, regardless of class, orientation, etc. etc.
Exactly....never, ever use the word "classy". Ever.
Tracy ...here in the states the word classy still sounds common
Tracy Hensel many good points you give that are needed and need to be reminded, BUT I must agree with her. Has been an unspoken rule that if that word is even used , it is frowned upon- maybe this is just classic etiquette...if we even USE the word "classy" , it does the exact opposite, unfortunately- so sorry
I just spent the twenty minutes you spoke listening, absorbing and primping. I haven't put on makeup in over a year... I am very inspired. Thank you!
So happy that videos like this exist. Many girls and young women are growing up being influenced by stereotyping , what is considered “cool” behaviour and overdoing make up (with respect for every taste). I think people should be more often reminded of what real beauty and being a lady is about. Thank you so much ❤️ you are like my good smelling aunt that gives me advice about classy behaviour and the importance of good hygiene since my puberty 😂😂
It is indeed a pleasure to hear these amazing golden rules from you!!!
Thank you so much for sharing❤
I already feel like a classy lady after watching this 🙂☺️
Awe, I LOVE it!!!
Tracy Hensel 😇☺️
Wow I compared my life to every thing she said and I am one classy lady 💃🏼
That's awesome!!
really congratulation!!! i was asking myself if i can make it if you did hope that i will too!
Onyx
Classy and beautiful lady!
Congrats. Except not sure one can say it out loud about themselves, lol. Let others say it. But I guess on CZcams is ok since we're talking to strangers, lol.
Thank you for the wonderful tips. Even at 52 years old, I can still use these tips. 🥰
Regardless of a woman's age. She will always learn more. I Love learning from classy women and getting great advice.
Can't wait for the Etiquette lesson for the table!!
I associate bringing a cell phone to an event/dinner on the same level as lighting a cigarette in a room full of non-smokers!
Gret analogy! Thank you for sharing! Merry Christmas!
Tracy Hensel...Merry Christmas back to you sweet lady.
I would love for the cigarette smokers to please have some Etiquette Mannerism,concerning the non smokers. Such as myself and having my rights to breath fresh air daily.
Last Days Amén!!
for real I like your analogy. We live in a cell phone culture.
Tracy, I just love your videos regarding etiquette and classy behavior. I was raised this way but recognize that not everyone else was. I promise to band with you to keep etiquette alive!! ❤️ thank you for making these videos.
Teach them, Sweetheart. They need you. We need you. Keep rockin'!
Tracey, I am so happy I've found your page. I'm 24 years old and I feel like etiquette isn't being taught anymore. I'm so happy to subscribe to you. Your videos help me put tremendously.
I thought like you too. Thanks so much to Tracy that she brings the values back for us to learn about it
Leave people and things BETTER than you found them, you brought tears to my eyes Tracy. Thanks for sharing
God Bless, Cassandra! Enjoy your weekend!
Yes, this is what my mother taught us!
I loved this video! There is another woman who is very judgmental but I loved how you stress what really is to be a lady. Having manners is not only for ladies but is having values and being kind❤️
Your dress is very beautiful
Kylee Smith Thank you, Kylee!! xx