It is great as always and a good distraction! Btw. My anxiety is getting better in the hospital (depression is getting worse but let’s focus on the positive!) I send hugs to all who want them!!!^^
TIMESTAMPS: Q1: How to tell or show your therapist that you are doing worse than what she thinks. My therapist thinks I’m doing fine but I’m not, I feel like I’m dying from the inside. 1:16 Q2: I don’t know why I’m like this, but I want to be sicker than I am. Like, I know logically I probably only have anxiety and maybe autism... 21:40 Q3: I hope you are well. Can we please talk about what happens when depression starts lifting? I am starting to look back now and I feel so sad at all the time I've lost... 28:58 Q4: As a therapist do you find it challenging to not wear your therapist hat in a regular situation where you’re not in that position of being a therapist?.... 38:22 Q5: Is it common to feel as though you are lying or exaggerating when telling your therapist things that happened in the past, or what symptoms you have... 44:20 Q6: Hope you have a wonderful day and are OK! Seeing your video about your burnout made me worry about you, so I wanted to check in!... 49:55 Q7: I keep seeing questions about being attached to a therapist or feeling sad, ect... if u need to move or something and u can't see them anymore. Is it normal.... 58:01 Q8: A few weeks ago you talked about touch aversion, and I’ve been wondering about the other side of it: What if you’ve always had a need for touch and physical affection.. 1:03:26 Q9: Will a therapist always bring up transference? Or will they sometimes just notice it and use it as a tool to help heal.... 1:09:48 Q10: I noticed you don’t really have any videos telling parents how to help their children with mental health issues. How should parents go.... 1:15:33 Thank you awesome community :)
Every week there are questions that I can relate to. Having them answered helps so much and helps put things into a new perspective sometimes. They're always asked better than I could ever ask them, too. Thanks for putting in the time to do these videos.
Honestly, I sometimes wish I had some sort of serious illness or odd diagnose. I suspect it stems from the emotional neglect I endured as a child, pretty much fending for myself without anyone really caring what I was up to or how I felt. The strange part is, that although I suspect I’d want something seriously wrong with me just to get sympathies and for people to care - at the same time I’m often like ”FFS stop treating me like a frikkin child, fussing and pretending to care. I can handle this!”. Very weird.
Can we have an episode (or just a post in the community tap) where people who've had their question answered previously can send in their follow ups/how it went? E.g. if they talked to their therapist about an issue and see how/if they resolved the issue. Maybe we don't need Kati to read them in an episode but if Kati made a post in the community tab then people could write there and we others could read what they said. It be really interesting I think, if anyone would be willing to share. Anyone else?
Hello Kati. You previously made a video called "5 Signs You're Seeing a Bad Therapist", which was excellent. But, I was wondering if you might be able to expand on that a bit, and perhaps talk about some signs or indicators that the therapist you're seeing might not be a good fit for you, and/or perhaps when it might be time to find another therapist. My thought is that sometimes a therapist might not be "bad", per se, but perhaps just not a good fit. What do you think?
Thanks Katie you have helped us so much ... Ordering the book !!! So wow...'it's not up to us to push you to break up with someone just because we think they're not good for you" Yet two therapist in a row did that 22 years ago when my wife went to see them about anxiety. They made those hints or suggestions after learning about our age difference. The one I remember "who do you think will do better after you break up, him or you?" With the suggestion it would be obviously be him not you. Strange logic? you will be damaged by a break up, so do it quickly? I guess the idea was the longer we stayed together the worse it would be for her. Well like I said that was 22 years ago. After the second time it happened she quit therapy for many years.
Hi Katie, thanks for your videos ❤️👍! I have a diagnoses neglected child. I’m afraid of being considered “better” when in fact I’m still ill. I have post-covid and am at home not working in Holland. I’m used to doctors not believing me. Every time I speak to my work-doctor I’m afraid she will say: oke, back to work! My father came by last week and said: “You seem alright, when are you going back to work?” I told him I‘m not but it brought a lot of anger and doubt. I feel guilty being ill and not working. It’s very hard for me to be ill. The guilt is overwhelming. What I’m afraid of is getting a little bit better because I only feel like I’m ill when I’m really very ill. I don’t know how I am doing when I’m not very ill. I tried therapy but with the post-covid it’s too hard, I get sick. I get waves of stress, depression and anxiety whenever I try to concentrate For now I’m just going one day at a time. I’m depressed and scared. I don’t know if you have any tips but I’d be very grateful
I actually got my nurse to read the document due to the illness that I am dealing with at the moment. I am now kept an eye on closely by the team due to the document.
Q5 I think one part of the reason might also be that we compare our situation to others. For me, it's like yes, I was mentally and physically abused but it's not like I was locked on a basement my whole childhood like some kids are, I didn't need to go to the hospital or anything like that, no one was worried about me, so it wasn't that serious after all.
I've had mild pressured speech from a drug combination once, and it was a bit scary. I was worried that I might tell someone a secret before I could stop myself.
Hey Kati, thank you for this one! Regarding the question by the autistic person: please you and everyone finding themeselves with this issue, read up on autistic imposter syndrome. Or maybe watch a video about it, I like this one: czcams.com/video/-Vtw2VdTRvE/video.html. This is another example for why psychology really needs to get better at beeing informed about the struggles and lived reality of NT people. Greetings from Germany Paul
Hi Kati. Again thanks for your informative podcasts. I found the second last question about healthy transference during therapy can be a good thing if it opens up more exploring into a problem. But I'm wondering about attaching a role to the therapist (like a sibling or parent) that didn't exist but I wished it had. Is that healthy to pursue in counselling as well? Hopes that makes sense!
My big concern with the question about parenting with a mental illness is having the child or teenager make the calls to the person’s therapist or psych should not be their responsibility. In a lot of ways, that feels like the child is parenting the parent, and since the parent is the adult, part of the responsibility of having a child is making sure you are getting your needs met in a responsible way. I feel like it’s the parent’s responsibility to make sure they tell their therapist and psych what’s going on. Plus, if the child makes the call, they may not be told much of anything anyways due to privacy laws. Yes, there are things that a child can do at home to help if they know mom or dad is not feeling good, but they don’t need the adult responsibilities that go along with the psychiatric care.
Can the experience of anorexia be traumatizing itself?(not caused by a truama,but traumatizing). I suffered for three years alone without getting a diagnosis,and without letting anyone know. I have a trouble opening up about my eating disorder,I feel invalid because I didn't get a diagnosis or "didn't suffer enough ",although I had all symptoms of anorexia. How can I open up?
Hello to you! I hope everyone finds this week's episode helpful :)
Legit my fav time of day !! Happy Thursday 🙂
This theme song always makes my day ❤
It is great as always and a good distraction! Btw. My anxiety is getting better in the hospital (depression is getting worse but let’s focus on the positive!) I send hugs to all who want them!!!^^
TIMESTAMPS:
Q1: How to tell or show your therapist that you are doing worse than what she thinks. My therapist thinks I’m doing fine but I’m not, I feel like I’m dying from the inside. 1:16
Q2: I don’t know why I’m like this, but I want to be sicker than I am. Like, I know logically I probably only have anxiety and maybe autism... 21:40
Q3: I hope you are well. Can we please talk about what happens when depression starts lifting? I am starting to look back now and I feel so sad at all the time I've lost... 28:58
Q4: As a therapist do you find it challenging to not wear your therapist hat in a regular situation where you’re not in that position of being a therapist?.... 38:22
Q5: Is it common to feel as though you are lying or exaggerating when telling your therapist things that happened in the past, or what symptoms you have... 44:20
Q6: Hope you have a wonderful day and are OK! Seeing your video about your burnout made me worry about you, so I wanted to check in!... 49:55
Q7: I keep seeing questions about being attached to a therapist or feeling sad, ect... if u need to move or something and u can't see them anymore. Is it normal.... 58:01
Q8: A few weeks ago you talked about touch aversion, and I’ve been wondering about the other side of it: What if you’ve always had a need for touch and physical affection.. 1:03:26
Q9: Will a therapist always bring up transference? Or will they sometimes just notice it and use it as a tool to help heal.... 1:09:48
Q10: I noticed you don’t really have any videos telling parents how to help their children with mental health issues. How should parents go.... 1:15:33
Thank you awesome community :)
thank you so much 🥰
Thank you so much!
thank you, this is really helpful
My favourite quote from you is “Does that make sense? I hope that makes sense.” I’m not sure what it is, but I love every time you say it 😄❤️
Every week there are questions that I can relate to. Having them answered helps so much and helps put things into a new perspective sometimes. They're always asked better than I could ever ask them, too. Thanks for putting in the time to do these videos.
Honestly, I sometimes wish I had some sort of serious illness or odd diagnose. I suspect it stems from the emotional neglect I endured as a child, pretty much fending for myself without anyone really caring what I was up to or how I felt. The strange part is, that although I suspect I’d want something seriously wrong with me just to get sympathies and for people to care - at the same time I’m often like ”FFS stop treating me like a frikkin child, fussing and pretending to care. I can handle this!”. Very weird.
Can we have an episode (or just a post in the community tap) where people who've had their question answered previously can send in their follow ups/how it went? E.g. if they talked to their therapist about an issue and see how/if they resolved the issue. Maybe we don't need Kati to read them in an episode but if Kati made a post in the community tab then people could write there and we others could read what they said. It be really interesting I think, if anyone would be willing to share. Anyone else?
yes! i definitely would like that
Hello Kati. You previously made a video called "5 Signs You're Seeing a Bad Therapist", which was excellent. But, I was wondering if you might be able to expand on that a bit, and perhaps talk about some signs or indicators that the therapist you're seeing might not be a good fit for you, and/or perhaps when it might be time to find another therapist. My thought is that sometimes a therapist might not be "bad", per se, but perhaps just not a good fit. What do you think?
I feel so happy when I receive the notifications of these videos. Thanks so much!
Awesome!
Listening to you really helps me. I’m trying to build up the strength to ask for help for the first time
Thanks Katie you have helped us so much ... Ordering the book !!! So wow...'it's not up to us to push you to break up with someone just because we think they're not good for you" Yet two therapist in a row did that 22 years ago when my wife went to see them about anxiety. They made those hints or suggestions after learning about our age difference. The one I remember "who do you think will do better after you break up, him or you?" With the suggestion it would be obviously be him not you. Strange logic? you will be damaged by a break up, so do it quickly? I guess the idea was the longer we stayed together the worse it would be for her. Well like I said that was 22 years ago. After the second time it happened she quit therapy for many years.
Hi Katie, thanks for your videos ❤️👍!
I have a diagnoses neglected child.
I’m afraid of being considered “better” when in fact I’m still ill. I have post-covid and am at home not working in Holland. I’m used to doctors not believing me. Every time I speak to my work-doctor I’m afraid she will say: oke, back to work!
My father came by last week and said: “You seem alright, when are you going back to work?” I told him I‘m not but it brought a lot of anger and doubt.
I feel guilty being ill and not working. It’s very hard for me to be ill. The guilt is overwhelming.
What I’m afraid of is getting a little bit better because I only feel like I’m ill when I’m really very ill. I don’t know how I am doing when I’m not very ill.
I tried therapy but with the post-covid it’s too hard, I get sick. I get waves of stress, depression and anxiety whenever I try to concentrate
For now I’m just going one day at a time. I’m depressed and scared.
I don’t know if you have any tips but I’d be very grateful
I actually got my nurse to read the document due to the illness that I am dealing with at the moment. I am now kept an eye on closely by the team due to the document.
Q5 I think one part of the reason might also be that we compare our situation to others. For me, it's like yes, I was mentally and physically abused but it's not like I was locked on a basement my whole childhood like some kids are, I didn't need to go to the hospital or anything like that, no one was worried about me, so it wasn't that serious after all.
Thank you for replying to my question Kati 🥰 you are such a lovely person and we are all so lucky to have you
I agree!
I've had mild pressured speech from a drug combination once, and it was a bit scary. I was worried that I might tell someone a secret before I could stop myself.
I've had mental health providers diagnose me in the first visit, I thought that was normal until recently.
I’ve just added your book to my audible Wishlist. I’m looking forward to listening to it.
The advice you gave for Q3 was really helpful for me
hehe I love when I get the notification, it always makes me smile. :)
Perfecto!
Just got a notice from Amazon my book is arriving Tuesday!! Very excited 😁 ok also ready for today's episode! Thanks for all you do Kati! 🥰
Hey Kati,
thank you for this one!
Regarding the question by the autistic person:
please you and everyone finding themeselves with this issue, read up on autistic imposter syndrome. Or maybe watch a video about it, I like this one: czcams.com/video/-Vtw2VdTRvE/video.html.
This is another example for why psychology really needs to get better at beeing informed about the struggles and lived reality of NT people.
Greetings from Germany
Paul
Hi Kati. Again thanks for your informative podcasts. I found the second last question about healthy transference during therapy can be a good thing if it opens up more exploring into a problem. But I'm wondering about attaching a role to the therapist (like a sibling or parent) that didn't exist but I wished it had. Is that healthy to pursue in counselling as well? Hopes that makes sense!
My big concern with the question about parenting with a mental illness is having the child or teenager make the calls to the person’s therapist or psych should not be their responsibility. In a lot of ways, that feels like the child is parenting the parent, and since the parent is the adult, part of the responsibility of having a child is making sure you are getting your needs met in a responsible way. I feel like it’s the parent’s responsibility to make sure they tell their therapist and psych what’s going on. Plus, if the child makes the call, they may not be told much of anything anyways due to privacy laws. Yes, there are things that a child can do at home to help if they know mom or dad is not feeling good, but they don’t need the adult responsibilities that go along with the psychiatric care.
Frozen in position, I haven't heard that one before. I thought it was just me.
Can the experience of anorexia be traumatizing itself?(not caused by a truama,but traumatizing).
I suffered for three years alone without getting a diagnosis,and without letting anyone know.
I have a trouble opening up about my eating disorder,I feel invalid because I didn't get a diagnosis or "didn't suffer enough ",although I had all symptoms of anorexia.
How can I open up?
Hello again Kati!
Love your t-shirt!
I'm the first one so cool
I don’t know why, but I feel like I’m dying.
"this can't be true, because if it were I couldn't live my life" smells very argumentum ad consequentiam to me.