I went to a therapist (at demand of my wife) as I was speaking with the therapist. They asked me why I was even there…I hadn’t even thought about it I just did it. I displayed what had happened and why I was there. My therapist chuckled and said “I’m not sure you’re the one that needs to be in that chair”. I still went for over a year to vent…it was still helpful
I have bpd and I’m trying to heal myself. I know I have done some damage too my older son before I got in therapy. I will be signing him up for therapy as well.
I hope you're not correct about that first phone call way you choose who is narcissistic, because my husband caused me so much emotional distress I was physically shaking from it, and I've read several books and he matches 80% of the emotional abuse characteristics. What I would do was try to explain to others what is going on so that I could get help. If they just think I'm the problem because I'm asking for help by describing how he has harmful traits that match those of emotional or narcissistic abuse, how can I ever get understood? Am I supposed to not explain to them what's going on? This mental way of pegging them from the get go just seems unfair, and boy, I hope it's wrong, because if it isn't, then what does this mean for me?
I've learned you really can never win, and nobody really cares. If you tell the truth about how terrible someone is, they just assume you're terrible. If you don't do anything, they continue to abuse you with zero repercussion. So what are you supposed to do? How can you describe patterns of manipulation, deceit, and abuse over many years when doing so, according to some, just means that it's YOU who are the crazy one??? How fitting though, just more gaslighting, nothing you're not used to. I guess the lesson is to just shut up and accept you will never have any say in your life.
A Narcissistic parent wants to write their own script. It will be their way and only theirs. No thought for the hurt they are putting their children through by slagging of the other parent in front of the them that the child loves. Spreads untruthfulness to convince and recruit others in the vileness and to turn people against the other healthy parent.
A little thrown off by the first one. As a daughter of a father with an undiagnosed personality disorder I wish my mom would have given someone a disclaimer in advance about my dad's potential issues. My mom was the sane parent not the mentally ill one. I'm not sure you can say that would define her as the borderline or npd person. Maybe she is protecting her child? 🤔
Can you even co-parent? We have found that most effective is parallel parenting with strong boundaries and only using a court appointed app for communication else would get bombarded with messages full of rants and irrational and unsolicited opinions to the point of harassment.
Thank you for this video. A therapist who met my mom diagnosed her with BPD. When I started seeing my current therapist I assumed I was the problem and wanted to fix myself; come to find out I have general anxiety disorder. Your slide show and commentary on it was eye opening, confirming and educational. Thank you.
Thanks for the video. I was thinking it could be good to differentiate, when one parent has medically documented mental health issues, the other parent may need to refer to medical and forensics documentation in a first meeting, in trying to establish a fact based platform with professionals, to best help find a good/safe plan for the involved children. Badmouthing is never good and I love how you state clearly that those who are constantly trying to blame others for a situation which is shared, is a red flag to you. Thanks as well for the list and tips for recognizing BPD and NPD behaviors. I had to take the long way around in the beginning, to understand these behaviors. Glad for the clarity. I appreciate yours.
16:18 while it's not ideal, the fact is that kids at 16 are often well aware of political realities, enough to understand how they impact them. While there are arguments (related to information) against 16yo's voting, I don't think age is a good one. Especially when we trust these kids to drive.
Is it true that if an individual is codependent or has codependent traits dose that automatically make them a full covert narcissist? I heard a life coach tell his audience this I find it to be inaccurate.
Diagnosed bpd, have an excellent relationship with ex partner, and care about him very much. Bpd is caused by male violence, my ex agrees that male violence is the biggest problem in the world. Npd is completely different than bpd.
I went to a therapist (at demand of my wife) as I was speaking with the therapist. They asked me why I was even there…I hadn’t even thought about it I just did it. I displayed what had happened and why I was there. My therapist chuckled and said “I’m not sure you’re the one that needs to be in that chair”. I still went for over a year to vent…it was still helpful
I have bpd and I’m trying to heal myself. I know I have done some damage too my older son before I got in therapy. I will be signing him up for therapy as well.
I never understood what was happening around me. Glad to know that my experience is validated.
I hope you're not correct about that first phone call way you choose who is narcissistic, because my husband caused me so much emotional distress I was physically shaking from it, and I've read several books and he matches 80% of the emotional abuse characteristics. What I would do was try to explain to others what is going on so that I could get help. If they just think I'm the problem because I'm asking for help by describing how he has harmful traits that match those of emotional or narcissistic abuse, how can I ever get understood? Am I supposed to not explain to them what's going on? This mental way of pegging them from the get go just seems unfair, and boy, I hope it's wrong, because if it isn't, then what does this mean for me?
I've learned you really can never win, and nobody really cares. If you tell the truth about how terrible someone is, they just assume you're terrible. If you don't do anything, they continue to abuse you with zero repercussion. So what are you supposed to do? How can you describe patterns of manipulation, deceit, and abuse over many years when doing so, according to some, just means that it's YOU who are the crazy one??? How fitting though, just more gaslighting, nothing you're not used to. I guess the lesson is to just shut up and accept you will never have any say in your life.
A Narcissistic parent wants to write their own script. It will be their way and only theirs. No thought for the hurt they are putting their children through by slagging of the other parent in front of the them that the child loves. Spreads untruthfulness to convince and recruit others in the vileness and to turn people against the other healthy parent.
A little thrown off by the first one. As a daughter of a father with an undiagnosed personality disorder I wish my mom would have given someone a disclaimer in advance about my dad's potential issues. My mom was the sane parent not the mentally ill one. I'm not sure you can say that would define her as the borderline or npd person. Maybe she is protecting her child? 🤔
Can you even co-parent? We have found that most effective is parallel parenting with strong boundaries and only using a court appointed app for communication else would get bombarded with messages full of rants and irrational and unsolicited opinions to the point of harassment.
Thank you for this video. A therapist who met my mom diagnosed her with BPD. When I started seeing my current therapist I assumed I was the problem and wanted to fix myself; come to find out I have general anxiety disorder.
Your slide show and commentary on it was eye opening, confirming and educational. Thank you.
You're welcome, I'm glad you found it helpful! See through the deception and believe in yourself!
Thanks for the video. I was thinking it could be good to differentiate, when one parent has medically documented mental health issues, the other parent may need to refer to medical and forensics documentation in a first meeting, in trying to establish a fact based platform with professionals, to best help find a good/safe plan for the involved children. Badmouthing is never good and I love how you state clearly that those who are constantly trying to blame others for a situation which is shared, is a red flag to you. Thanks as well for the list and tips for recognizing BPD and NPD behaviors. I had to take the long way around in the beginning, to understand these behaviors. Glad for the clarity. I appreciate yours.
My bpd ex 13 year old had high blood pressure! ADHD and a ton of anger issues.
Bpd and npd are not the same
Just curious on how the traumatized victim of betrayal by a covert narcissistic abuser presents in therapy?
Everything you said is true! God bless you! 😘 😘 God bless ya!
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My grandpa had a lot of narcistic traits big time. Relieved when he passed. I know I'm a horrible person
You are valid in your feelings. My grandmother was the same way. When she died, I was relieved.
16:18 while it's not ideal, the fact is that kids at 16 are often well aware of political realities, enough to understand how they impact them. While there are arguments (related to information) against 16yo's voting, I don't think age is a good one. Especially when we trust these kids to drive.
It would be better to raise the driving age than to lower the voting age.
Dude. Great video. Thanks for sharing. What custody arrangement, assuming 1x PD parent, can avoid some of these issues?
Anybody overcame the trauma?..... Wud luv to have a chat .....
Is it true that if an individual is codependent or has codependent traits dose that automatically make them a full covert narcissist? I heard a life coach tell his audience this I find it to be inaccurate.
Great question, I think that would make a good video. Stay tuned.
Diagnosed bpd, have an excellent relationship with ex partner, and care about him very much. Bpd is caused by male violence, my ex agrees that male violence is the biggest problem in the world. Npd is completely different than bpd.
What if bpd is a female
Does he have a choice to disagree?
Is Joseph Jackson (narc leo)?
This is narcissistic Leo and Pisces. 🤮 so sick. 😷
Some water signs. 🙄 ❗
This is Katie Arrington so selfish!! haha .
Everything you said described Ethiopia zerfu. Narcissist Leo born Aug. 9. 🤮 🤮 🤮 leosss :( im so happy i don't have a leo parent!