Why Self Help is Backwards - with Mark Manson
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- čas přidán 12. 05. 2023
- The pursuit of a positive experience, is itself a negative experience, and the acceptance of a negative experience is itself a positive experience.
-Backwards law
Mark Manson shares on this episode of Know Thyself about why most self help DOESN'T help, and how actually find happiness and fulfillment in life.
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So true - gotta feel the sadness to move it through your body and wisdom gained from that experience vs suppressing it inside of you it only grows.
Instead of the pursuit of happiness there is the acceptance of reality :)
It’s very refreshing to see an American questioning this peculiarly American obsession.
brilliant! so true. I realized I was chasing (drug-free) dopamine highs and then feeling down when my hormones got me down. when I learned to just be content, I became much happier
pure wisdom
Go with the flow.
This short made me watch the whole episode ;) love it André
Infinite blessings to you. ❤❤
I already read this thoughts through your book the subtle art of not giving a f*ck
it's truth👍
So in short just be happy 😊
no.. he was trying to say you can't "be" or "chase" happy.
@jojokids1212 just find meaning, right?
Yep 💯
And if you want to be sad be happy
Powerful
Self help based philosophy doesn't have to be accepted by anyone who isn't looking for it. You don't even have to follow everyone else's wisdom if you don't want to, especially if you're unsure if someone's words aren't resonating with you personally. It's all up to you if you don't want to fall for someone's BS if that makes you feel unhappy. But there will always be people wanting to help others and it doesn't have to be about self help if you don't want it to be. No one is perfect, however, and we all make mistakes. But pain is inevitable sometimes and the worst things happen even when you don't expect them to. And if you're lucky, it's for a very good reason according to the universe itself. All you have to do is be good to yourself and others around and far from you.
👍🏾 profound
However embarrassing it might be I spent a great deal of time feeling sorry for myself as I fought back tears but after deliberately letting myself cry and be honest with my own feelings I don't feel the same. I have free space to not only improve myself but to cry for others and be available for them
God dammit mr manson. You are a stoic😂
hes right
Wow
Hmm 🤔
Would finding meaning for your life make more sense? Like i find meaning in being a mom, gf, making meals, and taking time for myself. Love some feedback ❤️
Everyone remember that this advice is not for everyone. I believe its like a spectrum. if you have ALOT of negative in your life then this will work for you better...but if not then you don't have to take the advice fully👍🏾
😂i hate him he is so insightful telling us the truth so many times
Don't think in terms of positive and negative; it's limiting. Duality and a binary mindset is the cause of so much misery and suffering. People get locked into positive and negative and can't see the world any differently.
This isnt true at all for me. Once i changed my mood by realizing i dont have to act on my thoughts ive been much happier.
I think more positive in general and remind me of it, its waaaaay better than before.
Remember: if someone popular say something it doesnt have to be true for you.
Didn't it contradict ""the Law of Attraction?" Pls someone tell me why? Or am I wrong?
law of attraction means you attract what you are. not what you want. do no it doesn't contradict.
Above comment is correct.
LOA = attract what you are, or feel. You canbot attract what you want.
Like this for explanation -
If you desire happiness, you probably desire it because you are not already feeling it. Therefore you seek it.
But since you embody the feeling state of 'sadness' in your pursuit, you only attract what you are feeling which is more sadness. Everything you obtain, money, relationship, clothes - it will all satisfy you fleetingly but you'll never be happy because the things you obtain came from the mental state of sadness.
@@daotrananhduy The law of attraction is a philosophy suggesting that positive thoughts bring positive results into a person's life, while negative thoughts bring negative outcomes.
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@@daotrananhduy The law of attraction is a philosophy suggesting that positive thoughts bring positive results into a person's life, while negative thoughts bring negative outcomes.
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@@devarmont87 The law of attraction is a philosophy suggesting that positive thoughts bring positive results into a person's life, while negative thoughts bring negative outcomes.
Is this right?