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Thank you so much for this video. Community is an immensely important part of one’s life. Five years ago, living in a new city and not knowing anyone except those connected with the memory care facility my husband was in, I joined a 12 Step group. The program, fellowship, and spiritual connection I experienced there literally saved my life when my precious husband died 14 days before our 32nd anniversary in 2020. When I didn’t feel comfortable being physically around people, we connected in online meetings. I’m 81, and I’m only out and about everyday because I have community. I have Covid at the moment and have numerous friends checking on me and offering help. Yes, find your peeps ❤

I am 67 and have no family, and have mobility issues any ideas what I can do as I am so lonely 😭

Im sorry this has to be a joke.

Great topic🎉🎉

I live In a small town and I’m not from here. It’s very cliquey and people don’t want to take time to get to know an outsider. At the same time I lost contact with the friends I had from the town I am from. I’ve tried so many things including volunteering, working, and being involved in church. While people are nice to my face, there’s zero invites to do something outside of those situations. People are pretty selfish with their time. I used to deliver Meals on Wheels and the elder folks on my route would tell me to find a ‘coffee clutch’ where a large group of women play cribbage and visit. I looked and never found anything in the community like that. I don’t believe it exists anymore. Most people hang out at the bar and drink.

Wow, you hit the nail on the head about being the organizer of activities and no one wants to come because sadly, they are used to isolating. I am burned out from trying to get friends together. That 3rd space used to be the front porch everyone had in my grandparents' days. They would sit on their porch and people would stop by for some lemonade, cookies, and conversation. They would sit and talk way past sunset. Great topic!

Sarah, loving hearing you talk more. The fact that you and Emily work so hard to help others is amazing. I’m 74 ( till next week haha) and my family keep me active. They’re here most weekends and I do think durning the week to help them out.

This was very moving. Thank you for sharing. Your channel is entertaining and you are good people.

I think that the big problem of the aftermath of the what happened that we had to stay home for so long without being able to see and touch people we love and we know or just get close to strangers is that it got us to be accommodated in that distance that firstly was forced and then it became very natural and almost comfortable. It's a thing everyone has, at first we struggle to adapt but then we get used to the new habits. I also think that we got into a kind of disbelief in everything and now it's hard to get back to what good times were , at least less heavy times. I feel that as we age it gets harder and harder to make new friends and the worse of everything it gets difficult to reconnect with old friends. It's like the conversation ends 5 min later. I don't know.. I've been trying these years to reconnect with old friends but I don't have much success. I really liked the theme of this video girls, love to watch and ear your opinions ☺️

“I use to be a people person and then people ruined it for me”. I’m 66 and the pandemic made me realize how self sufficient I was and how much I liked my own company. Being ALONE is different than being lonely. I keep in touch with friends by phone and sending cards. I do things with a very select group. I even have a towel that says “My alone time is for everyone’s safety”. Cheers.

Very lonely here😔 I work from home. My kids have grown up and are in the military

She spent her youth at Excalibur. Don't lie, I know it was Excalibur. 😉

Yes to the "covid" change (too much to say on that one)...Me and the hubs are "hitched at the hip" retired and just fine most of the time.. Blessed having wonderful children who enjoy being with us... Key for me is loving being creative... cook/quilt/knit crochet... not enough time in the day... BUT balance it with sewing friends and limited contact with old HS friends and occasional social stuff! Problem today... people do not respect difference of opinions!

Stage 5 Clingon! They’re out there….I’ve been the stage 5er every so often and looking back It makes me cringe.

So sorry for your loss! You ladies are awesome!

You are holding in your hand a major reason loneliness has exponentially increased.

If folks were to find a TRUE church home they would have another family of their choice. God can work in strange ways when asked to help. Just pray to help you find out where He wants you to be and with whom! God Bless all.

Two can be as lonely as one. It's the loneliest number since the number one. Actually you can be surrounded by many loving people in your life and feel more loneliness than if you were by yourself if there is no true connection to your soul.

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I agree that the loneliness issues are very valid. I have friends but their lives are much busier than mine, I find if I don't have people to socialize with for more than a day, I find I get really sad. Also as I've gotten older, it's so much for difficult physically to be out every day, especially since I live in a rural area.

Put your phones down and get out and "actually" socialize with others. Does wonders for lonliness

I'm 54 years old, I am actually retired, was able to retire really early compared to my friends who still are working and have to work and make the commute to work (around 12 hours a day out of their time). Once I retired, I lost all those friendships, people are tired of working full days, have chores, errands, appointments, etc. If it wasn't for me volunteering in the community and at church, I wouldn't have anyone to interact with. I enjoy that lifestyle, I don't have to be at work at certain time and punch out at a certain time, if I want a day(s), weeks, a month off from volunteering to travel, no problem at all. I do other things to fill up my days: gym, movies, bowling, etc. The sad part is I am still active, but I am only 54. When I volunteer, most of the other volunteers are in their late 60's to early 80's, and they have no friends, no where to go and they tell me how lonely they are, especially if one loses their spouse and that is why they volunteer, at least to get out of the house 2x a week and interact with people. They tell me their children and grandchildren live far away or are just to busy with their own lives to come and visit them. I invite them out often for a cup of coffee or a small lunch or deliver a meal or dessert to them so that they can get out or have interaction with someone, because I can't honestly imagine ever being so lonely and the elderly do feel so lonely.

I like being alone.. peaceful, quiet. I use to be a social butterfly, but as I get older, I'd rather sit quietly by myself.. see family a few times a month :)

I live in cohousing, and one of the main benefits of this type of community is alleviation of loneliness. When you put that together with a reduced footprint, other social benefits, and convenience, it's a pretty cool way to live.

The best place I found to meet people was joining a club/ group. I have a diverse group of people I hang around with ( but not overly so). A miniature club and friends I met while training my dogs. Perfect social outing because I like animals better than people sometimes! Lol

Oh! Sarah, your free flowers 💐 touched my heart. I can just imagine a heavy heart walking by and you reminding them that people are mostly good! ❤ Emily, being the ultimate friend is awesome! “Like a plant” 😂 I have a friend like you and I’m so grateful for her. Thanks for bringing this to us, ladies!

If you do not have a relationship with the creator of all, you will always feel that absence and nothing else can fill in for that no matter what we try.

I always wished I had a twin.

Great video and info! My mom suffered from depression when I was a child. I believe it stemmed from loneliness. She stayed home to raise three kids while my dad worked six days a week most of the time. She is very introverted and so didn’t have friends. There was such a stigma at the time about mental health issues so she wouldn’t see a doctor. I’m so glad that stigma is lifting. My childhood would have been so different had she sought the help she needed.

dont worry...AI will be here to save the day

We have to evaluate our life, even you have everything in life, without God there’s always void inside of you (heart), the emptiness you feel is that where God should be.🙏

I have no friends. I care for my husband, and I'm so incredibly grateful to have him. But I'm extremely, extremely lonely.

I was doing ACV, Keto, IF...went from 220 to 175. BS & BP was GREAT. Got off last month. Up to 185 BP & BS THROUGH THE ROOF! 😢

I love you gals! I am an older woman with no partner, no children, and I am estranged from what family I have left. Loneliness is something I feel intensely, to the point where it makes me cry. I don't have a lot of friends, and some of those I do/did have are dying or dead. The only thing I can do is try to make connections with other people. I joined a community garden 2 years ago. I got paid to walk other people's dogs. Then the dogs died of old age. But I keep trying to be connected to others in some way. I have complex PTSD and really, I have felt lonely for my entire life.

When you said your mom commented on you being too thin, I chuckled. I lost a lot of weight before my wedding (1984 - I swore I would not be a fat bride). When i got down to 154 lbs my mother told me I was too skinny (I was 5'4"). My mother is not a compliment giver (not sure she meant it as such).

I was just talking about this, the other day, to a friend. My mother put me in a diet at 2 yrs old. Been dieting almost all my life. It's exhausting 😞 BUT, I am diabetic. I can afford to gain weight.

I decided to try it (semiglutide/ tirzepetide) because it's supposed to help with food noise. It does help. If you're a binge eater it's hard to manage stressful events...especially when you have ailing parents. If you get it thru a functional med Dr they should titrate you up slowly so you find the tolerable dose that works without making you nauseous. they also counsel eating lots of protein with working out...perfect for keto/carn peeps. I keep waiting for the weight to fall off, but nooooo....not me. I do eat generally Keto/Carn, so my numbers are great, but something is still off for me to release fat.

i could not sleep so i got up and saw this ,i have lived alone in a large low income apt for the past 12 years ,i am a people person and used to see many friends here,the covid stopped everything here ,i am a painter and watch you tube while i create my art ,i do not feel lonely but should get out in nature again,

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Thank you, thank you, thank you for talking about this subject I volunteer at a food bank and I swim 5 days a week and it's so important I live in a 55 an older community and some have not left their homes since the pandic. I used to take food wagon around with food once a month but then I've had some surgeries and I had to put it off but thank you for doing this topic thank you.😅😅😅😊😊

I love Taylor Swift but none of my friends do. I also love paranormal stuff. In October my husband and I are going to meet Dalen Spratt from Ghost Brothers and the 1st Annual Graveyard Shift! I also go to AA.

PLEASE DO The rice experiment! It really will bring awareness to what being lonely or ignored will do and how powerful words can be.

I would love to hear yalls opinion about the Hours per day that teens and young people will spend on their gaming systems. I know a 17 year old boy that never leaves his room because he's gaming. When I was that age, I was interested in going out with my friends, visiting colleges, begging my parents to let me drive, involved with my church youth, etc. This kid has no interest in anything involving true life. I think it's sad. He's headed for a secluded life alone if things don't change.

Yes make all kinds of content, I love all your videos

I have a cure for everything! Put your full trust in the Lord Jesus Christ!

Hey Gals, since you asked... I'd love any tips and tricks to tame my locks since you have great hair. Big fan in Santa Barbara Calif.

I have observed people surrounded by friends. I have felt envious at times. But then, after chatting with them, they shared their loneliness. It is not always as it seems. Your words are so true though, reach out, get involved, make someone’s day special. Note to self- DO THIS. Love you two.🫶

I make an effort to have interests where I meet people and get out everyday speaking to anyone who will engage, surprisingly lots do.

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This is prevalent in us old people because no one cares about us, they consider us a burden on society, and everyone blames us for all of the world's ills. Most of us are just dumped somewhere by our adult children and forgotten about or ignored. 2020 definitely made things worse and social media is pushing people further & further apart. I am a complete recluse now, whereas I used to be the life of the party. Loneliness doesn't even begin to describe it & I wouldn't wish it on my worst enemy.