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Every country has tatemae. They just don't admit it. Because they want to think they are honest. Japanese are honest, so they admit the existence of tatemae.

I was cracking up the entire video 😂

Its unfortunate you haven’t posted in a year you’re very funny

I’m the one who always flirting him lol😂😅

America is Hell

I use tea leaf candle or electric warmer. It is the same concept for oils or wax melts but instead warms tea leafs. The containers are made of the same ceramic that absorbs flavour of tea for tea pots. This absorbs the scent and makes it more full (not stronger) with use. For myself I use oil perfumes which are more subtle. I love this traditional Kyoto brand thats been operating through generations: Chidoriya. U just use their body/face oil because it smells so elegant but natural and subtle. I also like Japanese body spray with shampoo scent. Clean delicate and fresh. An american brand that is great is also called "clean" their fragrance called "skin" is so soft subtle and elegant. I cannot use storng scents they cause me migraines.

You can only get better to a degree. Size makes a massive difference with satisfying the ladies. Japanese L-size condoms are too small. Length and girth will always beat just technique.

A sexless marriage doesn’t mean they’re not having sex. A lot of them are f**king other people. Love hotels are everywhere for a reason.

This is so funny to me because im currently talking to a Japanese guy as well, and my name is also suzanna 👁️👄👁️

It's very interesting hearing your perspective. We all have uncomfortable things in our nation's history but we are not our nation. You might be from Japan and I might be from America but Im a human first , my humanity means more to me than my nationality. Ilove my country, i even love Japan but i love humanity more. Your perspective is very very valuable. To hear a person who was raised in Japan and who has that Eastern mindset or atleast understands the Eastern cultures and still speaks English, it allows westerners like myself a glimpse into the deepest recesses of Japanese culture. Its a very wonderful experience. Thankyou for these videos. I've always loved Japan. If i were to give a tour of the planet to a group of Aliens and they were to ask me to see the most exotic and cultured places , id take them 2 places. Japan and Austria.

Hey Santi, I am your fan from Korea. ❤ I have been watching your videos for a long time. I hope you like Koreans 😊

Hi Santi san. I am your new subscriber. Thank You for your videos. That is what I needed. I have a question. At my work, I met a Japanese man. He is over 50 years old. Me, too. He has expressed interest towards me. He was persevere and kept coming to my store one or two times a week. After three months, I gave him my number. He wanted it. Same evening, he sent me a text that he is very thankful and wanted to meet me in the "near future". I sent him response immediately. I said that I am looking forward to meet with him in the "near future", too. After that, he disappeared. It has been two months already. Santi san, what should I do? I think, I like him and he is serious. Should I simply wait? I need advise. Thank You.

Im an American. I love my country very much and always will but i have to say that Japan is in a league of its own. The rich culture with martial arts and sumo and tea ceremony and archery..... i love it so much. I love how polite and kind Japanese people are. The world could learn alot of them. My favorite story about Japan. After WW2 many villages in Japan held a ceromy called "the soldier's return ceremony". Everyone from the village would come to the middle of town and sit and speak with the soldier, they would tell him "thankyou for serving Japan in war, now we need you here and we need you to be peacefully and helpful" it did alot for the mental health of those young men. They transitioned quite easily. I Love You Japan!!!!! -America

12:35 will do :)

Agree, some religions are better or worse than others, but it's crucial to distinguish an actual religion, which is based on a historical tradition, from a cult of personality.

In Europe and even in my Country Eye contact is very important when you are talking to someone esp. if its a Job Interview.

the high context japanese culture is almost like javanese culture. you say everyrhing indirectly. one day my chinese indo manager scolded me: "u hv to say it how can they know, they can read ur mind?" am a mix javanese-manadonese so am not that indirect but apparently my reservation can frustate a chinese indo (who are usually more direct) 😂😂😂 i forgot why i did that but i gueas i was thinking i will say it but not right here right now, i kinda take it slow, u know like lets sit at lunch and talk abt it informally first 😁 well anyway... was just feeling funny as i remember this. oh and i had 3 japanese friends when i studiwd in the netherlands. got very close with 1 of them, am okay with her, we get along so well. in a certain point japanese can be more firm than javanese.

I never heard a more genuine advice about what Japanese universities to apply for. Thank you! Since I was planning to apply to some mid japanese universities but I guess I’ll try only Ivy League ones

I think emperor Hirohito is one of the the greatest leader, and for me the japanese culture is the best in he world.

Can you make a video on how to get a cabin crew job in Japanese airlines for foreigners. I'm from Bangladesh and Willing to get a job in Japan as a cabin crew.

I’m doomed in Japan

Sure everyone has a different idea about how to live life. Humans like to have strong opinions. But at the end of the day, respect helps everyone get along without fighting.

My 5'7 friend who went there said there are a good amount of guys taller than him there, but the girls were shorter than him even in their thick af platform shoes.

You are the utuber every person entering into japan may watch

Not breast 😂

Two things. I think Ruth Benedict based her research mostly on information provided by one Japanese American informant. So a grain of salt is advisable. The other one is: sin is a christian concept, Catholicism is one branch of christianity, US was and still is overwhelmingly more Protestant than Catholic.

For a 14 years old guy its some 180 cm in japan ??

0:21 i just understood the n-word wtf 💀💀

Can you do a video on how Japanese people feel about Chinese tourist coming to japan? What tourist from which country do Japanese like or not like?

This is literally the only content creator to tell you not to watch his channel and to go outside and touch grass. Too funny.

I came across this video randomly and I love the advices that you’re giving these women. You’re not sugarcoating anything and giving them a really good realistic view of human and Japanese psychology and mentality.

A lot of people, especially Australians and English people born after the 70s are very honne. I was raised "traditionally" by an English father. At least for the middle and upper classes, the english are very tatemae based. I have been told I'm two-faced by my fellow Australians, and I find our Australian honesty very confusing. If I'm honest with you, you're upset with me, so I prefer being polite and "two faced." I'll take my british stuffiness over oversharing and "stiff upper lip" over throwing thoughts and opinions around without thinking of others. Boundaries are nice. I think I get why so many Japanese people, even those who hate tatemae, still have it. The english version is less extreme, though. Maybe a happy balance between the two is preferable?

Great information, but I have to respectfully disagree with you about changing yourself to get a cheater back. I can be the best girlfriend, boyfriend, or spouse in the whole wide world, but a person who is inclined to cheat would **always** cheat on me regardless of how great I am. They were never really mine to begin with (and never will be) and they completely shattered my trust, so there’s nothing of substance left to fight for. What’s the point of wasting time and degrading myself trying to keep them? I’ll just cut my losses and leave, thank you very much! 😂

Damn, he’s a musician. 🤦🏻‍♀️🎸

Indian Japanese Woman Same In Nature Before Marriage Honey After Marriage Boss 😂 Dengerous Attitude 😂 Be Careful 😂

I highly appreciate your touching on this interesting topic (no pun intended), as I have recently undergone a cultural clash regarding it. My close, male Japanese friend, whom I (an American woman) have been speaking to on the Internet for *seven* years, finally came to visit me in the U.S. for the first time last April. I tried to be as hospitable as possible, taking great care to respect his personal space and not make him feel uncomfortable. *Then* disaster struck. I was driving us around my town sightseeing and decided to stop at my parents’ to go to the bathroom. I asked my friend if he was ok with going in their house and saying “hi” to them because I felt bad about leaving him alone in the car. He enthusiastically said he was fine with visiting, so we had a nice, 5-minute chat with my mother. While we were saying goodbye and going out the door, Mom unexpectedly reached out and *grabbed* the guy, hugging him like he was her long-lost son! Of course, he froze. I was *horrified* because I didn’t want him to feel weird or her feelings to be hurt if he recoiled, but I couldn’t say or do anything because she is 80 years old. 😓 After we left, I awkwardly laughed and apologized to him about it twice, but he just laughed too and kept saying he was okay and “liked hugs.” I’m not sure if I believe him or not due to tatemae obscuration, but I’ll just take his word for it. 😅🤣

In the U.S., we also associate patriotism and displays of our flag as being overly right wing and signs of someone being a terrible person. It’s interesting to hear of the same perspective coming from another country.

Utmost Respect to Japan 🗾 from Pakistan

Hi Santi, Can you help me to get adopted?

Hello, My name is Kat 😊. Thank you so much for this video! I've got some questions for you. I hope you can answer some of them...: Could you make a video about "how Japanese man want to be treated by their girlfriend"? So what is essential for Japanese man to have the relationship work out?... How does a relationship work for them? I've had the impression a relationship in Japan is often more a hanging on, than trying to make it a nice living. Japanese men often prefer their work over their relationship, right? Isn't that super complicated for the girlfriend?... How does it work out then?... Thank you so much for all your videos! You help me a lot to understand Japanese culture better! My regards 😊

What is love? Baby, don't hurt me, don't hurt me, no more^^

Any Japanese person who would want to be a friend and more I’m from Ghana🇬🇭

Hi, what would you say about computer science major I got into both Keio and Waseda

Now I know why so many Japanese commit sucide.

Thank You for your video, it was really so helpful & informative. Thank You again .

I kiss my husband every morning before He going to work, and when I 'need it' just say to him casually. Don't mean to be aggressive, but I just like to communicate it clearly. Just saying.

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Im 6'3" 225 and i felt like a bull in a china shop when I was in Japan 😬

Ruth Benedict described "sin" as "guilt" in her book The Chrysanthemum and the Sword. The concepts of sin and guilt are very different.