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Thank you for this! it touched my heart profoundly ... Thank you for your honesty and helping me forgive 🙏 God bless you babe 🙏💕

Very interesting

Anyone I notice that seems to like me a little more than I like them and I think I might be able to get into a relationship with them. They have too many deal breakers that I will not accept.

This was not hard to accept. It was very liberating to hear,.. Sort of. Fits me to a T. I have never actually been in love in my life. It has always been limerence. I sort of always wondered why I hate it when I fall for someone because it's actually the limerence and it is exhausting to be in that fantasy world and to lose sight of what's actually going on around you and to keep that hope up is very difficult. A long time ago I had to go on Prozac because not only was I obsessing over a girl that was unattainable. I was also depressed and when the limerence is over, you have that clarity of, What was I thinking? How could I have been so enveloped in a belief that something was going to happen between us? I pursued a girl for 2 years under "limerence". She did become my girlfriend and I felt like she could not match the level of devotion I had for her. I didn't feel like I was out of the phase of still trying to court her. She even said one night. I wish you wouldn't put me on a pedestal which I didn't really know what she meant at the time. I've been single ever since. (9-2-07) We only lasted 6 months and I regret just about every day breaking up with her. She couldn't compare to my delusions and I wish I could have settled down knowing she's my girlfriend.

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I can tell she's a narcissist just by looking at her...the neck tattoo, piercings, make up, jewelry

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OMG That was amazing. I was traumatized at 10 years old when I felt responsible for a teammate's death. I was diagnosed with BPD about 11 years ago at the age of 43. I took medication for 3 years, and then it happened to me again when I was 46 when my best friend committed suicide. My dad ended up calling the psychiatrists office. I don't know what he said, but they called me to make an appointment. I wasn't able to make it for the first time ever, and they booted me. So, I've been on my own figuring out my own way without "help". It's been rough, I've lost a lot of friends. But, I am better than ever feeling like a million bucks these days. I'm pretty much all alone, but, hey, hope is all I need. Thanks for sharing. It was really informative.

I'm dating a 37 yr old guy & I'm 52. He has chased me, I have tried a few times to break up with him & he won't let go. I have told him he will want a younger women in 10 yrs. He disagrees. The age gap doesn't show up atm because I look much younger fir my age, but it will not be that way in 10yrs.

i got rejected 5 times and its still here

As covert narcissism isnt in the dsm5, one can not have that diagnosis. Autism is extremely fascinating

Genuine question…how can someone with antisocial personality disorder be a kind and loving person? They lack empathy and a regard for others…

She’s diagnosed, there’s no logic coming from here.

I think it would be more accurate to say, "if you are concerned that you might be a narcissist, you aren't a monster." Because I think that's what people are actually wondering about when they introspect about that.

I admire your courage to explore answers and to survive through it all. Medical gaslighting is real.

It’s both nature and nurture plus what happens to you in life my mother who has all the traits of NPD is proof. She was adopted by her great aunt and husband. They were lovely people who spoilt her as in making her the centre of her universe, they had no biological children. My mother has a sense of entitlement plus a sense of abandonment that many adopted children have. Her much loved adopted mother died when my mother was 11, traumatic for her. Bought up in her birth father’s family she knew that side, we met her birth mother and family 25 years ago when my mother was 65. There is narcissism and schizophrenia in that family, she has younger brother and sister that have strong traits of NPD. I haven’t found a link between schizophrenia and NPD, yet but many others seem to have both in their families. So the combination of being spoilt, feelings of abandonment, trauma from losing her adoptive mother at 11 and NPD caused her very strong traits of NPD. Many professionals mention a genetic link but having said all that just bc NPD is in the family does not mean you will develop NPD. Btw my mother is undiagnosed, I got the diagnosis by proxy when I went to a Counselor after going to a doctor with what I thought was stress and was diagnosed with depression.I told the Counselor that my mother was sickeningly nice but really she was nasty. She told me that it was NPD and it’s a coping mechanism. I also told Counselor that I go no contact but end up feeling sorry for her, Counselor told me that was codependency. My mother is now 90, I’m 68, I got diagnosis for her 12 years ago. Yes I feel sorry for the child that lost her much loved mother at 11 but my mother has done so much damage. She has turned my 2 brothers against me, I suffer from depression, anxiety, fibromyalgia and have chronic pain from a pinched nerve in my neck. I manage these illnesses with some medication, some therapy and trying to be healthy plus focusing on my son and granddaughter. Her birth mother lived to 94, I feel my mother has had a life and just wish she would go. She’s Catholic so believes in a god and is always talking about missing my father so why doesn’t she just go and join him?

First sign is you’re a woman because that’s all women know

To me "evil" is an ancient word which represents a primitive form of psychology that is rather outdated relative to the truth of more modern understandings, those modern understanding allow for people to give love to more and more people that the word evil cannot.

This was my ex's combo

Literally the worst kind of toxic person

Hmm I don't want to be judgemental but she says: "The people who are very close to me can see it" (presumably just a few people) when she refers to the anxiety deep inside her. That's fair enough but she seems to think everybody else she encounters who can't see it are "superficial". Maybe I'm missing something but I think that's kind of unfair. I mean if they're not close to her, or she doesn't want them to be, how can these people see It? Don't get me wrong, not trying to be judgemental. It just doesn't seem to add up. Elsewhere she seems very self aware and articulate.

She is incredibly honest and self aware

You kinda stop being a narcicist when you realize it yourself 😂

Thank you for your honesty and sharing your story I am also on my way and I learned so much from you

I'm pretty sure I can't feel love 😅, and it's really, REALLY bad for me to try being in a relationship. I just got broken up with a week ago, and I'm over it.

I guess what people do not understand is that there is NOT ovelap (comorbidness) between HPD, BPD, NPD and ASPD. If a person is in cluster B, it's a bad person with psychopathology, but there is a HUGE difference in the main component of each of these disorders which makes the core of personality, that those are in the same spectrum of behaviours and misconceptions, but those are not functioning along together because it's only ONE core of persona which is functioning in the center of all personal processes. So is either no comorbidness in personality disorders, or the whole conception is just sh1t.

So hitting bottom for social disorders is to I'm getting in a relationship with someone worse than you?

No you meet a narc run 🏃‍♂️

The eyes never lie even though the person may. One look gave me the chills

If I had this information while she was still alive...I have confronted her...no longer afraid of her. I finally understand why my brilliant sister became an addict and alcoholic and killed herself at 55. I on the other hand had no boundaries no self esteem no family no children. Observing her over my life proved to me to NEVER become a mother. I am 71 now. She died at 95. I was her full-time caretaker the last 5 years of her life. As she aged she became MEANER in private and SWEETER in public. She was manipulative, a consumate liar, emotionally abusive yet people LOVED her. No one believed me as we looked like the PERFECT family in public. She made sure of that. Yes she was the daughter of a Russian immigrant and grew up in the depression. But I do not care. I struggle everyday with unresolved anger. But the silver lining is I am the complete opposite of her althoug I look just like her. I am kind, generous, empathetic, compassionate and loving. I have no living family. Our God is my joy and salvation and my love is rescuing dogs. As the saying goes..." too soon dumb too late smart". Thank you for this video. I wish it had existed 50 years ago. Peace to all us survivors.😢

The BABCP training for CBT is one year at most universities. I was a bit confused when you say they need to have 6 year training 🙂. Also some universities (e.g., Oxford) teach a trans diagnostic approach and more complex presentations of CBT. Great video by the way. Really helpful. I have copied the link and have forwarded it to some clients. I think the terms psychotherapist also needs to be protected but I am not sure how that would happen with all the different modalities.

Props to Kylee. I love to see the self reflection and strength. I co parent with a Bordeline. Im pretty sure. Have been discarded multiple times. Went no contact for over 2yrs she communicated through my mother. My mother unfortunately passed. And then ex came back. We slowly began spending time together. I was smarter and wiser. But… was still addicted to her to be honest. She then pretended to reminisce with me and was wishy washy about dating again. That wasn’t the case. Her behavior eventually changed. Being sneaky and pushing me away. I then broke and reacted. Discarded. I relapsed again. But, I feel a little more resilient or about self love. Really hurts though. Trying hard not to ruminate.

What about if both people have Limerence?

I like Kylee

Really appreciate your straight forwardness in this video!

That girl is above all else undiagnosed autistic! Autistic people get completely missdiagnosed with multiple different personality disorders all the time... constantly internalising the views psychologists have of them.

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I appreciate this but I find it hard to know how to parse it ... I mean, NPD is self referential (positive and negative). It's recursive to try to analyze where the reality is and the delusion begins. It's just intrinsically hard to parse a conversation with a person discussing their own NPD ... It's an interesting discussion and I don't actually know how I feel about it. I can't like it - as I'm not sure if I do.

Thank you both for this interview 🙏 @KyleeRacham, blessing to you for your bravery, honesty and sharing all of it with us🙏👏❤️ I have been in heavy relationship with the narcissist and especially and therefore someone like me, I would love to thank you for all, to support you and to wish you all the best ❤

I dealt with a girl that shows a lot of signs of borderline and narcissistic traits. But I don’t hate her I actually thank her. It was that experience that made me look at myself and having the courage to go to therapy. Without that experience I’ll probably still wouldn’t know my worth.

medical gaslighting is *_SO DESTRUCTIVE_* the American healthcare system causes harm and creates revenue in so many creative ways, it's weird how "unfixable" that situation is

super important for ppl to understand that most humans have narc traits bc of being human. it's not unrelatable to want to be best, it's not that bizzare to want to prioritize your feelings, it's just the intensity & frequency that you allow yourself to act on those urges like, we clock those stats in OCEAN for a reason, they are normal traits that are only harmful in extreme situations. they have no inherent pos or neg value, they just need balance, and judgements & vilification make ppl too defensive to want to seek change. lots of us need help adjusting our various levels, so maybe let's all focus on improving ourown selves & behaving in ways that don't reinforce neg behavior in ppl who share the planet with us

Lady you called me out

I’d be interested to know your thoughts on Dr Ramani.

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When I found the mythical unicorn aka a Psychiatrist who knew what she was talking about and diagnosed me with Schizoid Personality and PTSD, I didn't believe her at first. She was right, but no treatment has ever helped me. Only meds. "I am who I am. Your approval is not needed." - Unknown "I have three simple rules: I don't know you, I don't care about you, and I don't respect you." - Unknown "Fake people have an image to maintain. Real people just don't care." - Hikigaya Hachiman "The moment you feel like you have to prove your worth to someone is the moment to absolutely and utterly walk away." - Alysia Harris "I don't care what you think of me. I don't think about you at all." - Coco Chanel "What other people think of me is none of my business." - RuPaul "I never give in to the pull of others. I'll choose the way that I live." - Unknown "The worst loneliness is to not be comfortable with yourself." - Mark Twain "I hope for nothing. I fear nothing. I am free." - Nikos Kazantzakis

This person has too much testosteron

I've pretty much given up, apart from the odd celebration (weddings, Christmas) after being a committed weekend wine drinker for 20 years (at least a bottle a night Friday and Saturday) I feel so much better mentally and physically. I just dont crave it at all anymore...you realise it's basically just sedating you with the knockon effect of being more agitated when it wears off. Trying to get some loved ones to cut back but it's difficult until you see it for what it is. Not going back. My sleep is also better than it has ever been and stress/anxiety much diminished. Best way to relax is to just breathe deeply and meditate...no need for alcohol as it ultimately has the opposite effect. I wish i had realised this sooner but that's life!