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❤ thank you for this beautiful conversation. I just wanted to share my appreciation.

Mind blowing the idea of not being enemy with ones own self and anything in the world experiences thoughts emotions. Being with them and not avoiding anything at all. So first be always with your ownself dont turn against yourself and everything will be your friend on this way. This is the first commitment that will open the way towards living more fully and more content

I have listened to this podcast multiple times, and I continue to take things away from the interview!! Being a clinically trained Chaplain, this interview sheds so much needed light on our discipline.

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Great podcast❤

Amazing interview

Thank you :)

great interview, great questions, great answers

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MVP Steven Hayes

Wonderful fellows! Thank you Steven.

I get that you are excited. Your voice is intense. I am not sure I can watch, but I will give it go. I love Stephen Porges.

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Really nice interview. Thank you! Stephen Hayes is a treasure and his work is such an important guidepost on our collective journey to rich and meaningful lives.

We weren't once reptiles or fish or anything other than human; we were created with this amazing system by an amazing Creator. I'm so grateful that Creator created Dr. Porges and gave him the inspiration to uncover this, decipher it and share it with the world.

Dr Hayes…. My hero!

I really enjoyed this interview. I found it very helpful. Thank you both.

I was expecting some solid science on the physical and mental benefits of movement and basic exercise. Instead, it seemed like a lot of soft, therapeutical jumbo-jumbo. Disappointed.

Lovely interview !

Self-hate tho - I'm not in the mood to make friends with it atm ..... maybe later after a trial separation.

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How tf did she get a job as a marketing coordinator with a psych degree?

This video should be watched by everyone on earth. Thank you Dr. Porges and podcaster.

Very good interview! I appreciated the tempo and flow of the interviewer! And much thanks to S. Pourgea!

Steven Hayes has an exceptional way of talking to our hearts. I never walk away from hearing him talk, or reading his literature without feeling inspired.

This is the absolute best -- most in-depth and complete discussion of Polyvagal Theory -- with Dr. Porges I've found. I've watched 14 (60- to 90-min.) interviews so far (there are more), so thank you Luke for your insightful questions that made this one such a standout.

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Very good conversation.

Thank you Dr. Stephen Porges for co-regulating instead of keeping yourself and your findings solely to academia. Aloha Luke and mahalo for sharing yourself and your passion.

This is so interesting and exciting! Thank you for this. "Acceptance is not tolerance, it's receiving the gift" Wow.

She is such a toxin in Alex life, that was so clear in free solo. Yes they are married now. She will be his downfall. Just watch the documentary and see how much she makes it about her, while she is just a generic dime a dozen. He is special.

THis theory really made me understand why I am who I am. Thank you so much to both of you.

Great upload with Patrick

She seems like a very beautiful person inside and out.

What an awesome interview. Great questions and great responses. A dance. I am so keen to learn about Dr Porgers' take on psilocybin.

Thank you for this interview-- it is making more and more sense in my daily life. I wish I knew about this 50 years ago!! Never too late.

Good interview. Is there a transcript by chance?

Really loved this!

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Great job Luke! Dr. Hayes did it again. Such an amazing scientist, leader and speaker. Greetings from The Netherlands!

I’ve just had a realization that the leader or center person in a group is most likely the person who can co regulate the best. Therefore I would think that person can send the greatest level of safety signals to other people and easily receive them.

A wonderful interview!

That's why environment is key. I wish Porges could feel those who energetically rape others bodies and minds - then he would know what kind of reptilian predators we are really dealing with and why there's no safety. Yes frequency is key and when you have mass consciousness in the shadow frequency then those who can feel it, it ain't a safe world. He needs to talk about Stockholm syndrome.

 yup, polybagal theory clears up a WHOLE lot of crappy beliefs we've developed, and its an organizing principle like Einstein's General Relativity, only Polyvagal theory is a unifying theory about social human behavior.

35 minutes - "Polyvagal Theory gives you the narrative to create an (approach) to self care". instead of just being selfish and favoring self over social, Dr. Porges has a brilliant explanation of WHY and HOW we care for ourselves with the understanding of why and how we operate; it puts us in touch with our whole self, instead of just fragmenting off a slice and calling it 'self-care' and getting inward and dangerously close to distancing from people, its an INCLUSIVE theory that ties us TOGETHER with other people, cause we all share these Polyvagal responses, and so it empowers us to take care of our own self WITHOUT being selfish (placing ourselves above others or distancing / being other than) it includes is as part of everyone else WITH the permission and understanding of why we take care of ourselves. I was suicidal because taking care of myself, INDEED, HAVING A SELF was selfish, and distanced me from my core people, having come from emotional trauma/abuse that ruined a healthy sense of self = so the endless question/feeling was "If im me, I damage other people and risk ruining the relationships I need in my life ....wait for it....to even BE me. cause what good is being you if you're alone? so you give up a big part of what makes you YOU to kind of have something with other people, even if its crappy. see Crappy Childhood Fairy on CZcams. but I felt I couldn't be me unless it meant rejecting other people and being alone, or pissing on other people to be me, and that felt horrible and also like Id wind up alone. This Polyvagal theory of how we work explains we're ALL together, and we all connect, and as such we can all take care of ourselves, and HAVE A SELF. dude, this just cured my suicidality. and how we poop ourselves as part of our lizard brain - I remember trying to poop myself really hard when I was a baby cause someone was doing something sexual to me - I can't remember exactly what and that's been hard for me to wrap my mind around, is I don't have any memory of what happened, only the feeling remains, but luckily I remember trying to poop myself to make them go away. its all I had, lying on a bathroom sink countertop. and guess what? the relationship I have now that makes me suicidal because of messed up vagal responses - cause she was abused by HER dad and got messed up, and now projects that shit onto me, that anger, is messing ME up cause she can't/won't look at her feelings, Hell, they're so far down there buried under abuse she can't acknowledge, just easier to keep daddy safe and that relationship safe in her mind and take it out on me as scapegoat. I can't break away because of the ties we have as people, and the ties I have to my mom to keep her safe even though there was mental abuse, but I can't put my finger on /in it to deal with it, just a jumble of strong awful feelings I can't come to the end of - and my wife (the relationship) is recreating that abuse via her own abuse, and once again, I can't put my finger on how to come to terms with it or deal with it, just suffer. and taking care of myself feels like killing someone, dropping those ties I desperately needed as a baby and didn't get, and hoped for in marriage but once again don't get, but get abuse instead. This just saved my life because now I can have a self and take care of me without damaging someone else, which is what I thought 'taking care of self' meant. The interview completely missed the point, he should have taken facial cues from Dr. Porges on how 'upper-faced' he is, all lit up about the sum of his theory at 35:00, but just glosses over the point, which is the whole point of the interview. anyway, it was huge for me, and hopefully by reading this huge for you. We CAN take care of ourselves without severing ties to other people and being selfish, and discarding others by taking care of self. it all goes together, whew!

Wow. This is so powerful. The idea of really having the ability to write your story and think about the kind of story you want your life to be is so engaging.

That was a Very informative session Opened my mind very much 🙏👌

It's uncanny, but I missed or didn't understand this segment until I started studying Polyvagal Theory in my own coaching continuing education. I have watched many presentations explaining the theory, but this is the one that hit home the best, producing a good understanding of what it is and how it relates to coaching. I'm pretty amazed that in my search for a broader understanding of PT, I happened upon this presentation that turned out to be a product of my "alma mater of coaching," iPEC! Good work, Luke!

....*goes off to buy a clarinet*

This is such important information. Thank you.