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May hearts heal swiftly, and you enjoy continuing to discover yourself/your next chapter! All my love ❤💛💙
love when my fave interact !🤍💕
thank you babyyyyyyyyyyy : .. )
MuchoAmor para los dos, que bueno saber que seguirán estando el uno para el otro ❤️🧡💛💚💙
So proud of you both! You both are rock stars!!!❤️
Well said. I'm so glad you have each other through this process. Staying friends is good and shows you've treated each other with respect and honesty. 💙
These are mature and evolved people, right there. Wish more of the human population were like this.
Absolutely agree.
Yes, high level of emotional maturity here.
They really did a good deed by showing how to breakup with love and care. I have so much respect for their hearts and intelligence about it all.
@@icekng456 I think in a way they are evolved because we don't know that they didn't show anger and those emotions. But we know that they're able to overcome those emotions in this video to still hold respect and love for each other. Only emotionally immature people imo cannot get past these emotions to be able to treat each other like respectful individuals they still love
@@icekng456 I’m sure there was sadness, fear and anger, but they got pass that. It’s not about not feeling anything, it’s about not getting stuck, moving forward without resenting each other.
I started the video thinking "I definitely stop believing in love" and ended up feeling the exact opposite "this definitely makes me believe in love a lot more". I think we forget that love has many edges and, generally, we want to enclose it in only one way. I love you both very much and you will always be an inspiration to me 💖
This comment almost made me cry. It's so sweet. I feel like that too. I don't want to ever hate my SO if things ever go awry so I really hope we're like this if that ever happens.
I love how you described this! Friendship & love are definitely two sides of the same coin, & it's so refreshing to see Fran & Ed as proof of this!
Ahh, you two are so incredible - thank you for sharing this vulnerability 💛 Sending so much love and light to the both of you as you move forward into the future !!! 🌈🍓💖
♥︎ So so so happy for the clarity you two have found!! So brave for being so open and casual with the world wide web. A very relatable "break up" too! Thank you for sharing!!! ☺︎
thank you Leiiiighhhh!!!!!
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Like you said when there's a breakup is so painful, and even for us fans watching through our screens, it's sometimes so hard to understand, but what you did here was amazing, it's none of our business, but the kindness you demonstrate towards us feels uplifting, thanks Fran and Ed for sharing this part of your journey, it makes me happy you are now feeling better and in a better and healthier place, thank you 💖
Love you ❣️❣️❣️
this is kinda weird to say, but i wish my parents have had this nice o a conversation with me when they divorced. man, Fran and Ed are healing my inner child and they didn't even had to try hahahhaa
lol tell me about it. I wish my parents were friends. I don't even get why they got married. My mom currently wants to get separated from my dad but they can't even afford to live apart or get divorced because we're immigrants. :( It's awful...
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@@humankaleidoscope4989 I think most of marriages are on that situation, or at least that seems the rule here in Spain. Maybe that cheer you up in some way haha ok no
@@ZurditaDinamita lol yeah actually we're mexican but both sides of my family are originally from spain so it's funny you say that. A lot of marriages are like that in a lot of places unfortunately. it's kinda messed up my ideas about love and marriage. x_x hopefully you and I both avoid marriages/relationships like that
you guys are so beautiful and you both deserve to be so happy
thank you Arieeeeeeel!!!!!!!
Love and identity don't need to be static or permanent, if today the label that fits the most is "gay" but tomorrow it's something else, that's totally fine! Don't feel ashamed or like you're faking it, what you're feeling right now is valid. It's really amazing that you're able to start figuring out yourself and your feelings! :)
But she could have been a lesbian the whole time? Why is that so uncomfortable for people to realise. Sexuality doesn’t have to be fluid, or change or just be a label.
@@lilymcmanaway I didn't say she wasn't, I don't remember her exact words, but she said something along the lines of not wanting to say she's gay because it's something so big, and a lot of people are afraid of saying they identify with a certain label because it feels like you're signing up for something permanent, and if in the future you don't feel the same anymore people would think you lied or were faking it, my comment was trying to reassure her that if "gay" is what fits her now but later she realizes she's something else, it is fine.
@@lilymcmanaway This is true! I think the original commenter was just trying to acknowledge Fran's feelings about her identity and how she isn't sure just yet. She might find out she's a lesbian and has always been a lesbian, and I don't think the original commenter was trying trying imply that all lesbians are sexually fluid and somehow 'chose' to only like women. Some people really do have static sexual orientations, and have never and will never experience sexual fluidity.
That said, for a lot of people sexual orientation is a lot more complex than that. And sometimes it isn't even really about sexually fluidity - for a lot of queer people they just aren't at a point where they know 'what' they are exactly, especially if they're coming out later in life, or maybe they do know but they're finding it hard translate it into the available language. For those people, it can be really scary to say that they're gay even if they think or know that is likely true, because there is always that fear of being wrong - especially because we live in a society that likes to make it seem like sexual orientation is 'obvious' and self-evident from a young age for everyone. Saying you're gay and realizing you're wrong later on can be nerve wracking for a lot of people for this reason so it can really stall their progress when coming to terms with their identity as a queer person. Sometimes being affirmed in the fact that you are allowed to be wrong or change labels is comforting for THOSE people in particular. If someone is sure that they are a lesbian then that message is typically not meant for them. They don't need to be affirmed about potentially being wrong because they aren't wrong. They know who they are so that advice doesn't apply to them.
I think nothing would top this way of ending a relationship with so much love, understanding and repect you guys have for each other.
Ed is such a sweetheart, I hope him the best in the world :)
So you're no longer a couple, now you're a duo. And that's beautiful.
It’s actually really reassuring to see people break up so amicably, never experienced that myself 😔
Same
I can only imagine how difficult this all was, but seeing you both looking so happy and healthy is so wonderful. Thank you for letting us in when we are not entitled to anything.
The level of maturity of this couple is amazing and inspiring. I wish every person who watch this video will learn from your story. Thank you for sharing this!
Honestly, I teared up when you started describing the roles you will still fulfill in each others lives. It is not "weird" to break up like this at all: it is an inspiration! Hating your ex is just a way to refrain from feeling the pain and vulnerability.
you guys RULE. i'm so happy for you and so so pleased with how you're handling all of this. wish you all the best!!
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@@ArborParva она везде
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honestly as someone who's only ever really fallen out with exes for lifestyle differences, hearing you say "being a couple was only one small part of our relationship" meant a Whole lot to hear, and believe me when i say i felt that and understand that completely. if you have a lot of foundation outside of that to move from and you both want the best for each other, of course it's possible to stay friends with people you were with - and tbh, in my experience it's totally worth the effort to still have someone who understands you so well around. anyway this is all to say thank you so much, as always, for your openness, and I wish you all the best in your new lives moving forward with this, whatever that may look like
I second this!
You guys are such fine, fine people. Talking with each other about things in a clear and caring way like this, truly seeing each other fully. Thank you for sharing with us, and for being such inspiring people. Best vibes going forward 🙏🏼
Thank you so much, man. I love your work.
@@edpavez 🙏🏼❤️
just wanted to say that we are sending all our love to both of you! thank you for sharing your life with all of us and wishing you all the best as you embark on this new chapter xx dana & lou
thank you guuuuuys!!!!
Mom, Dad...it's okay all of your CZcams children understand and we love you, also Fran you have been with me through a lot (even if I just watch your videos) so I'm here too...also... Yaaaay pride!
Fran, thank you for trusting this loving community you've built around your art! I've been following your content since the dawn of time and only until this year did I join your Patreon (which was a much more intimate side of your artistic life with the podcasts, patreon exclusive videos, lens, etc...) Even through all the hurdles, you've been such a strong person who understands that healing isn't linear. You and Ed are very much parent figures for this small art community online, and even though you're parting ways as a couple, I know for a fact that we will always support what's best for you two! I'm so happy to know you guys have found different "anchors" of supporting one another outside of the context of a romantic relationship! I'm wishing the best for you both, especially Fran since coming to terms with the fact that you are 🏳️🌈💅🏽✨ is definitely not easy. It takes a lot of trust to feel safe sharing that information with others while navigating that area in your life as you feel it solidifying/understanding the complexities! I realized I wasn't straight back in middle school, which was very frustrating but ultimately liberating as I came to understand myself as a human. You're amazing and we love you both so much!!!! I hope this brings a smile to your day or some comfort if you were feeling nervous about reactions to this video 💘Happy Pride 365~ 🌈✨
Se me olvidó decir algo: Ed Pavez, qué buena persona eres. No tiene que ser fácil estar en tu posición,y sin embargo todo lo vuelves sencillo y bonito. Abrazos!!!!
es hermoso♥♥♥
lo quiero mucho :(
You two are amazing, what a wonderful example to set, I’m sorry for all the heartache you’ve had to go through to get to this point 🌷🌷🌷 I hope you discover even more of yourselves, and with you guys having each other’s back, you’ll both become stronger than ever 🌷🌷🌷 you are amazing! Xxxx
I've always been surrounded by toxic relationships of all kinds. The way you guys handled this is the most beautiful thing I've seen. It's so inspiring.
Thank you for being kind enough to share this part of your private life with us.
I wish you both the best in this new journey of your lives.
And we all wish you to find healthy, balanced relationships in your own life too 😊
@@tangerinejukebox Thank you!
this is a very mature way to deal with relationships and identities, i can only hope to be like this in my life. i’ve been following this channel for so long, i care a lot about both ed and fran and it’s certainly surprising news but i hope the best for both of you and all support to fran for coming out ❤️🌈
No matter how you stay in each others lives it is apparent that the love is there. I like that you are still in sync and laughing together. I wish you both well and I hope that your friendship continues to grow and that you both always cherish it. Good luck on your road to discovering who you are.
Siento que se separan mis papás otra vez pero de una manera muchísimo más sana y feliz. LOS AMO
toda la razon
Sending love to both of you. You've been a part of my life through CZcams for years, I've always loved your kindness, the content that you create, the intelligence and integrity that shine through your videos (both of you again). I wish you all the best.💙
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This is perhaps the most healthy de-coupling I've ever heard of.🤔 I love that you two recognize how important you are to each other in other ways, and congrats to both of you on your personal growth journeys. You two set a great example!
The fact that you are able to still be part of each other’s lives is beautiful. You guys clearly built a deep and strong love.
You talk to each other so beautifully, it's amazing. It doesn't matter what you are to each other - there's a pure respect and I wish more people speak to other people like that.
spending love from Poland to both of you (and your cats)!
Fran te queremos y apoyamos! Ed eres un gran ser humano, de verdad. Felicidades por ser quienes son.
I'm in tears because this warms my heart. The maturity of exposing such a personal process and it's been put so beautifully; you didn't have to explain anything yet I hope everybody gets to see this and learn about your graceful family. Thank you!
You two prove that love is elastic and even with changes that stretch the meaning of love it doesn't snap.
You guyyyyys! What a lovely and beautiful coming out Fran! Congrats and the strength of the two of you is palpable! I love how you both came together side by side as humans to respectfully communicate clearly and appropriately! Wow! I didn't know my love and respect for you two could be any greater, but here we are! ❤️🧡💛💚💙💜
Dios mío ustedes tienen la relación más honesta y pura del planeta xD sí, es raro para todo el mundo que ya no sean pareja después de tantos años, pero ahora tienen otro mundo por explorar cada uno :) y que se sigan queriendo así es muy inspirador, los quiero y deseo lo mejor 🖤
floored by how amazing you have navigated this change in your relationship together, you are wonderful people who deserve so much happiness 💗
Love you both so much. You are amazing human beans on amazing journeys and you both deserve the best. I'm so happy you have unearthed this in yourself and are letting it breath. ✿❤
The world would be a better place if there were more ppl like you two
You beautiful, wise, evolved souls. I wish nothing but the best for you both! You alchemized love and it is a great inspiration.
you guys are awesome
The self-awareness from both of you is admirable.
There's so much I want to say, such as about the parents and cats thing haha, but it all boils down to MAD LOVE AND RESPECT TO BOTH OF YOU. Thank you for sharing your lives and life lessons with us 🥺🥺🥺❤️❤️❤️
Wishing you both healing through this transition, but mostly I’d like to congratulate you two on this new chapter! Lots of love xx
Eduardo es un corazón hermoso y deseo lo mejor para él (para ambos) no imagino estar con la persona que amas por 13 años, la ilusión de un bebé, perderlo y luego descubrir que tu esposa es gay. Que gran ser humano.
I've never felt so understood with this whole dinamic. It makes so much sense.
You guys are amazing! I have so much admiration. Wish you nothing but the best. Congrats on coming out 😊😊❤️❤️
The future looks bright for both of you. Filled with rainbows and life changes. All the best in continuing your journey.
I'm really surprised how well Ed seems to be in peace with the situation? I mean, I understand it had to be a lot for YOU and not to minimise your or anything, I think your dealing is amazing, but I'm just surprised how much your husband seems to be understanding, not eee... sheepish or anything. I think not everyone in his position would be doing so well as he seems to be doing in the video. Best wishes to both of you and good luck
for some it might come as a surprise but for many it's like a simmering pot. He seems like a good mature, good hearted person.
You also have to keep in mind that it's not like he found out she was gay and then they filmed this video immediately after. They've been through therapy, they've processed their respective emotions, and from what they said they were already growing apart emotionally in a romantic sense. Ed also seems like a pretty emotionally mature person. But all that aside, we have to remember that we're seeing the end result of months of work and communication. At this point they've probably both accepted it, so it seems like he had no initial negative reasons or emotional hurt, when that might not be the case at all.
Qué bonito ver como el amor incondicional te permite crecer y florecer, sin egoísmo ni limitaciones 💗 Thank you for sharing this with the world, it’s never too late to embrace yourself 🏳️🌈🥰 Un abrazo desde Chilito 🇨🇱
Creo que es uno de los videos más bonitos que he visto en youtube, con todos los cambios de emociones que tuve durante el transcurso del mismo... los quiero mucho
omg fran i’m so happy for you it’s never too late to discover things about yourself
This video is such a gracious display of love and honesty with yourselves and each other. Thank you for sharing
I cried a little. Such strength for two beautiful people!!! Thank you so much for sending us your message
Sending love to both of you!!! I can't imagine what a journey this must have been for both of you, but I'm glad that you're in a better place now and that you still have such a great support system with each other! ❤️❤️
You two are so respectful of each other, it’s inspiring to see. I hope that if and when you’re both ready to have other people in your life, they’re understanding about the dynamics of your friendship.
You're both beautiful persons 💙
I have been following your adventures along since you lived in Berlin and I'm sure your future holds beauty and joy for both of you 😊
I've been following your channel for years now Fran and I just wanted to say I'm so happy for both you and Ed ❤️ you've both come so far and I'm happy to hear you were both able to remain close friends/family. Happy coming out!!🥳
Oooh Fran! Que bonito que hayan podido despedirse como pareja de la mejor manera posible y que sigan siendo familia, se nota que tienen una relación hermosa y que siempre van a estar el uno para el otro ❤️ Los apoyo y les deseo lo mejor a ambos en todos sus proyectos :)
Sending both of you all the love
This was actually a truly heart warming video, if there were such a thing as “break up goals” this would be it! So much empathy and care for each other and the understanding that an important relationship doesn’t have to end just because the people need to go through significant changes. Thank you for sharing lovelies. 💖
I love you two! - loved this video and could really tell/feel how you to care about each other and are in each other's lives for the better. You two are just wonderful, kind and amazing people. Thank you for such an insight into what a loving and kind response to something like this could be. Often, especially in tv/movie/radio - breakups are shown as quite the opposite and what is often the normal set of behaviors.
You two have a stronger bond and much more respect towards each other than a lot of people in an ordinary "love relationship". 💞
i love how supportive you both are towards eachother, sending so much love your way! good luck on this next chapter in both of your lives!
What a beautiful, healthy way to close one chapter to start another. I hope you both find so much joy.
OMG guys you are so so so awesome! Tks for sharing this with us, for the trust. I am genuinely happy you are okay! All my ❤️🌈
I started watching this video thinking "What?! NOOOOOooooo...", but ended like "Awww!! They are both so nice and mature! And still friends - and family!" love that! It warmed my heart.
PS: Moça @Literature-se, não conhecia seu canal! Adorei e já me inscrevi. 📚💛
I'm so proud of you guys, you are an example of a good relationship that goes beyond the social precepts. I've learned so much from you.
When I see such strong and brave people, and when they share their journey with us, viewers and listeners, - this is when I feel true power of social media. You can find support, connection, understanding, joy and love when you really need it, no matter creator you are or a viewer/listener. Thank you, Fran, for your brave and kind heart. All the happiness in the world to you both ❤️
Thank you for sharing your story. Honestly it’s incredibly rewarding to see you both be civil. It just shows that communication is key
Los admiro por la forma en que están afrontando todo, son bellas personas, los abrazo, sean muy felices ❤️🌈
Im really impressed how you handled the situation. Very grown up thinking.
There's so much we could learn from you two. Sending you both love.
Wow what a personal topic thanks for letting us know and setting a great example along the way.
I went through something very similarly with my ex boyfriend of 10 years. We are still best friends and I’m so proud of that. Our society has kind of trained us to believe that when you break up with someone you hate each other and that’s just not true (in every case). Thank you for sharing with us and congrats Fran on coming out 🌈 ♥️
I'm emotional - so so happy for you guys on this new chapter of your journey. love you, Fran
It is so lovely that you are both able to respectfully communicate the impact of this significant news to each other, and also remain friends and colleagues. I'm glad you decided to take some time to process it all a little while before sharing it online as well. A lot of people could benefit from thinking and reflecting before posting their news. I wish you both all the best.
Dearest Fran, I’ve been watching your videos since when you were still living in Berlin and your work has helped me through some pretty tough times. I’m so grateful and I genuinely love you and wish you so much joy and happiness. So proud of you. ❤️🧡💛💚💙💜
This journey of being human is quite a trip. Wishing you both the best as your relationship continues to evolve! 💕🌈
I didn't see that coming! I wish you both all the very best in your futures and look forward to continued Art content Fran. Well done to you both for being so honest and open.
I’m not crying. You’re crying!!! This level of maturity, I aspire.
i was expecting a sad video but i’m so overjoyed to see that you both seem super happy
Here from Ed's channel. Didn't actually know about this relationship. I can relate to the internal shame of coming out later (and coming out in general) Inspiring video and wishing you an amazing future!
Good for you! Great that you two can talk about this with so much care and respect for each other!
I love y'all! I know this can't be easy and I'm glad that y'all have found a healthy way to grow apart/together. I hope you both find joy in your new journeys ❤❤❤❤
Los he seguido por tantos años que siento que my relationship terminó también JAJAJJA, me alegra que los dos se han encontrado aún más a ustedes mismos y espero que esta nueva era de su vida sea mucho mejor de la que ya tenían, les deseo mucho amor como individuos y una relación muy sana como amigos.
This was so wholesome and honest, and honestly it's so nice to watch this and see you two being so open :) Thank you
My gosh. Couldn’t love and admire you both more. I think to share this with friends and family is hard enough, but to be open and share it online takes a lot. Obviously you’re in a good place mentally if you’re able to share it and I’m glad. I think this helps a lot of people. You are both such beautiful people 💕
Bittersweet news but you both share love for each other. Going seperate ways as friends/family is something great and awesome. You two are just such lovely people. And I'm proud and happy for finding your sexuality, Fran. It's never too late. I'm turning 49 this month and I realized I'm pansexual just last year.
Hands down, this was the most lovely, gentle, filled with love, respect, kindness, jokes and honesty break up video I've ever seen. All the best for both of you. And the cats ;-)
Dios mío! Montaña rusa de emociones lo describe bien, ay querida Fran y Ed, me da gusto que estén bien y qué grandes noticias Fran! Me alegra saber que volverán al podcast en español, se les extraña muchísimo. Les estimo!
@Scraps'n'Scribbles Edo y Fran
it's beautiful to see that level of trust and love between you too. It shows a lot of strength. Sending you the best vibes
"we still love you. you don't have to choose" you both are so so sweet and thoughtful to yourselves and to each other.
omg, es un poco inevitable sentirse en shock, son mis personas favoritas, con que ustedes estén bien, todos estaremos bien
I love how calm, mature and intelligent handle your break up. You two are good people and it shows. I hope you can find yourselves again in the chaos that is life.
Lots and lots of love ♥
I'm so happy for you! It's incredible seeing you and Ed just radiating so much love and respect for each other, and communicating so clearly and with so much support towards each other. I wish you both just the best times in your lives!
Fran, thank you so much for sharing and letting us into your life the way you do. Sending you both so much love.
it's so so lovely that you guys are in such a good place even after the breakup. I loved the way you articulated that being in a romantic relationship is just small part of how you can be in each other's lives and how you contribute to eachother's lives. I felt the same with my ex of 10 years and wanted a similar situation, sadly he didn't want the same.
I didn't come out as a lesbian to the majority of people in my life, including my immediate family, until just a few years ago (I'm 38 now) so I feel like I can relate to the fear of doing that later in life. I was worried about how people would react, if they would walk away from me or hate me, etc. I am happy to say that never happened with those that truly mattered 😊 Whatever happens from here, Fran, just be sure to allow yourself grace and patience to figure it out and find the label that feels right and authentic to you 🌈 💛
All my love to you guys. Thank you for sharing this and being so brave! I wish you guys much joy and peace on your new paths!