How Love Languages Saved Our Relationship
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- čas přidán 12. 02. 2020
- How the 5 Love Languages saved our relationship and how you can use them to buy the perfect gifts!
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This book saved our marriage. But not for the obvious reasons. We understood how to show love, but it was how the other feels when their love language is withdrawn from the other person. My husband didn't realise that his "giving me space" made me feel rejected and unworthy. And my trying to save money made him feel like he wasn't worthy of gifts and treats.
Such a great book. We buy it for wedding presents for all of our friends!
7.49 Louis face drops like he's forgotten it's valentine's Day soon 😂
You know that crazy rush of butterflies and love and connection you feel when you are first getting to know your partner? Because physical touch is my top, after 2 years I still feel that any time my bf is touching me. Even a small touch makes the little light it my heart just shine✨
I live at home and for my mom it's quality time and acts of service so I usually take care of preparing food and cleaning the house so she can just relax when she comes home from work and I try to eat with her or we go for a walk together. Doing this has really improved our relationship and has significantly reduced my mom's stress levels.
This was incredibly interesting and not something I’ve ever thought about. I think mine would be acts of service because when my husband has a drink or snacks ready for when I’ve come home it means so much to me and I feel like it’s so thoughtful.
That’s so great that he’s already been showing you love in that way!
My husband's love language is acts of service and I recently realized that's also how he shows love. It made me realize just how much he loves me because he is always doing things for me. It might not be MY love language, but it means the WORLD to me because I know it's his love language. Loved the videos guys!💕✌
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I LOVE this topic! My love language is acts of service. Your example about doing something for the other person that you know they've been meaning to do is spot on! I've been really enjoying the topics you're covering on this channel. Thanks for keeping it real and growth oriented.
I love this book a lot! It has opened my eyes to see what it truly means when someone says that they like something. It's also helped me realize what I need as an individual to fill my love tank. I highly recommend everyone to read the book!
I've been watching you both for years, and it's so great to still see you working on the bond you share. The respect and understanding you have for one another is beautiful ❤ I wish you both all the best
Thank you for sharing with us, this is a gift of love, much appreciated, wishing you both always the best.
This has given me such important insight on my newish relationship. We definitely match up on acts of service. He is always adamant that he has to open doors for me and carry my bag and I like to massage his neck after work. But gifts are much higher on his list than they are on mine, he doesn't understand that I don't really want things. I'm excited to have this conversation with him and see what he thinks. Thank you!
I would say my love language is also quality time. Everything is so fast paced these days that time with friends, a partner, or family can be rare. I really like what you said about quality time. It doesn't have to be expensive. I think going for a walk together can be so rewarding and healing. Love your videos 🥰 and have a happy Valentine's day !
Enjoying this channel! I’d love to see a video going more in depth on how you approach conflicts/fights together.
I love this video and thank you for talking about this subject! I think what's interesting about looking at the five love languages is that often times, our love languages reflect back what we didn't get enough from your father (if you are a woman) or from your mother (if you are a man). I think that's also why they can shift because as we heal our past trauma and conditioning, the way we look at love and how to receive and give love changes too.
My boyfriend and I spoke about love languages pretty early on in the relationship and I feel its helped a lot as well! Sending love from Texas❤❤
My love languages are quality time and words of affirmation and my bfs are acts of service and words of affirmation
❤❤❤❤❤❤ im so glad you are spreading this idea
I'm single my whole life but I do like your videos so watching you both and drinking coffee at the same time is a quality time for myself to restore energy, give myself some positivity and to relax :)
I love when people communicate their feelings. Especially in relationships there is so much miscommunication, but I love that you shared this with us and gave tipps to really define what for example qualitytime is for us. ❤️
I had the exact same experience!!! Such a great video. So important for every couple 🥰
Guys, this is such a great video. Thank you :)
I think mine and my husband's love language is quality travel. When we ever want to buy gifts for eachother its usual a travel thing because we want to experience everything together♡
Been loving your videos lately!! 🔥 keep them coming! You guys radiate love and good vibes ✨
Thank you so much! ❤️
THANK YOU SO MUCH FOR THIS.
I'm having an insight - love languages in relationship with ONESELF!!!
Love both of you and I'm so happy that you've created this channel. Much love xx
Thanks Veronica! ❤️
Woooop so glad you created this channel
This is so interesting, I just did the quiz and got 10 words of affirmation and 7 quality time, going to get my boyfriend to do it too so hopefully it will make our relationship even better and help us to understand one another better
Who could dislike this?! Love you guys!
we touched upon the book in my marriage course last year. my husband purchased the book for me because I was so fascinated and it was such a good read!!! My love language is quality time and touch! :)
Christina
Hamilton, Ontario Canada
Quality time and acts of service
Quality time first and second I think words of appreciation ^^
Yay, one of the first to watch! Lots of love to you guys! Thank you for being so open and sharing! ✌️👊
Thanks Sasha!
Gifts is one for me, like number 2 or 3, but it's not like expensive jewelry and handbags etc, it's like if they go to the shop for milk or whatever and bring you back a little treat to show they were thinking of you. Gifts is kind of like a physical manifestation of the fact someone was thinking about you when you weren't there. Plus I love surprises. my partner gifted me a Christmas tree this year because I love Christmas but we were away over Christmas so the practical thing was to not get one but he knows how much I love Christmas so he got it for me early so it would be there for most of December
Did the love languages test.
My top are physical touch and words of affirmation ❤️
My friend had a wonderful story about this. Her husband's language was words of affirmation. He loves to hear her say I love you and such. But hers is Acts of Service. She doesn't care about words. Her example is take that coffee cup you just put in the sink and put it in the dishwasher!!
Good videos thank you
In a relationship I’ve never really struggled with this (I guess we just have very similar love languages naturally) but I always had a very rocky relationship with my dad because I always responded to words of affirmation and his primary love language is acts of service. As I have grown up I have realized this and now we are closer than ever and I have learned to understand him more!
These sit down videos are nice, but I'd love to see more vlogs of the two of you traveling together! Like the old days :)
LOVE that book. Mine is gifts.
Do you ever feel like you run out of things to talk about when your searching for deep conversations.
The way they look at each other......ded 💕😭
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A house with eight people? That's mental! But quality time and the back massages are my top love languages. I love these videos. Keep on sharing.
Raya, I adore your hair! It always looks naturally beautiful 😻
I didn't known about love languages so thanks for it. I will speak about that tomorrow with my boyfriend. Personaly I'm a physical touch person. Great video like always 👌
Quality Time is my number one love language.
Mine is quality time and touch, and being in a long distance relationship (denmark - australia) is hard, but we have a moving together plan, trips booked and well Im crazy about him, its tough but we are staying strong :) For Valentines day we bought flights for our next 2 trips ❤️
All these kinds of love languages are really good to know - It is quite fun looking retrospectively at some relations :)
I am definitely an "acts of service" kinda girl :D
A very interesting topic the of love languages. I think all couples should know about it. Having a partner is a commitment that involves patience, communication, understanding. It is not easy and it is a job that lasts a lifetime but is worth it. It makes you more empathic with your partner. Great video. It's good you brought this topic up
Thanks Pedro!
Agree 100% I guess my love language is a blend of the five, how important is one or the other might depend on my personal evolution and relationship phase at the time, I guess. Good point to check what are our friends and relatives love language too :)
Raya - if you ever need any affirmation of Louie’s love for you, just watch one of your own videos and observe the way he looks at you... The man clearly adores you! ❤️❤️❤️
1. Acts of service 2. Quality time 3. Touch 4. Words of affirmation 5. Gifts
You are such a loving couple❣️
You guys are so cute!!😍😍
Thank you! ❤️
Just stumbled across you guys recently (knew of you through Zoe and Alfie's videos) and am honestly in LOVE with your videos 😍
Edit: going to have me and my husband retake our love language quiz. We haven't done it in YEARS and I really think it is going to be helpful to refocus.
Aw thank you so much! Yess it’s so good to retake it every couple of years!
My top 2 are acts of service & quality time. My bottom 2 are words of affirmation & touch.
Quality time and physical touch was mine growing up after having my daughter it’s acts of service quality time and then touch. But my partner definitely is quality time and words
I don't really like expensive gifts so me and my partner are giving each other usable gifts that we know the other want and did't got the money for it. Like a salt lamp, coupons for massages and services, a special meal, mason jar, encent and candles, spices and tea, things from the dollar store. Some of it we made ourself too.
Acts of service
Louis: *taking mental notes* 👀
I love guessing people's love languages. Mine is words of afirmation and physical touch.
Mine is definitely quality time closely followed by physical touch- acts of service is the lowest as I really don't like it when people interfere with my stuff lol
We've talked about this early on. My bf's is physical touch and I am really not cuddly, touchy at all. Mine is quality time and he likes to have a busy schedule and for me quality time is "wasting" time together and be spontanious. So we had to decide early on that we have to find ways to learn a foreign language. It means for me to ocassionally remind myself to touch him, to hold his hand, to offer a massage, to gently rubbing his back amd stuff. At first it felt odd to "force" myself but he enjoyed it so much and now it's my second nature.
He had to remind himself to not do too much. To think of stuff we can do spontaniously. For me qualit time can also be watching an EP together so he incorporates that as well.
Quality time
I don't think this is as important as you say but deffo a good video
I just took the test, mine is quality time and physical touch
Wow Beautiful Video 👍You Both Are So Cute ❤❤
Quality time
This makes a lot of sense! I haven't read the book.. But I think it could also explain how some people feel that their love is rejected or that they personally are rejected by people. I'm thinking that if, for example, if my love language is touch and I reach out to hold my husband's hand and he pulls away without meaning to "reject" me.. My love language takes it the wrong way. Does that make sense?? I don't know if I'm explaining it properly.
I've actually wanted to bring this up as a topic of a conversation with my boyfriend for some time now as I know that we are different in this way. So thank you for this little nudge, it should make a nice activity for us to do and explore this weekend. :)
For me personally at the moment, quality time and words of affirmation/acts of service (in the sense that I want to know they think of me and they let me know in a verbal way) are top of the list.
Do you guys have plans for this Valentines Day? Another getaway maybe? ;)
I get so stuck with love languages because i feel loved the most with words of affirmation yet im not great at giving words of affirmation
I feel like its one of the more awkward ones to ask for especislly if your partner doesnt naturally enjoying talking about these things
You can actually do an online quiz to find out exactly what your love languages are
I am so happy to have learned about this before entering a relationship. Now I know exactly what to ask for. Physical touch and words of affirmation, both equal parts. Loosing one of them would still make me feel less loved. Thankfully my bf has the same love languages which makes us all lovey dovey, hugging and saying sweet nothings ❤️
I feel with me right now, given that my love has been in another country for months. I miss quality time, touch, and being told how he feels but he just keeps trying to help me with things, which is starting to feel more controlling than helpful and sends me gifts and I just want him.
Make sure to clearly communicate what you need to feel loved and see if he’s open to being able to give you some of it ❤️
@@RayaandLouisI'll give it a shot Thank you!
my top would be touch
I love you guys, your so cute 😍❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️
Thanks! ☺️
@@RayaandLouis omg I'm gonna cry❤️😱😭
For me it's words of affirmation as the absolute nr 1, physical thouch as 2nd and quality time as a very close 3rd. Acts of service and gifts are both very low on the list
physical touch for me
Cards and notes are considered gifts rather than words of affirmation. It’s not about spending money.
Do I really need it? We just celebrated our 37th wedding anniversary.... :-) I still like to watch you guys... Question for Raya: what will be your reaction if Louis gets big and fat, will you still love him just the same?
I'm not really a romantic person, but words mean not less than action. It's like, I see you, but I prefer talking sometimes. I am not a gift person. I can't give or receive gifts.