5 Struggles of the INFP-T (Turbulent Mediators)
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A turbulent mediator is a person who possesses introverted, intuitive, feeling, and prospecting personality traits. These personalities are known for their high level of sensitivity, making them struggle with so many things.
Here are five struggles of the turbulent mediator.
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I’m guessing that many of the comments below are from young people. I’m a 59 year old INFP-T and I’m here to tell you that you will learn to love accept and protect yourselves. Set boundaries, find a great partner, one that grounds you and shows you how to be a little more social in a healthy way. Do what you love doing and what gives you life not exhausted frustration. All shall be well….you’re going to be very happy and fulfilled….eventually! Sending love ❤️ oh and accept it…there is no perfection on planet earth….except your grandchildren! 🥰
Thank you so much, Karen, you gave my whole body chills. Lots of love
This is so sweet! Thank you 🥹✨💕🪷🌷
Thanks a lot ❤ sending love!
Totally true, there are two stages of INFP-T and as described, well said.
At 51, words cannot express the comfort and sheer relief for your share. Believing I am near the doorway of the upturn. ✨🐸✨
Lmao my toxic trait is thinking I'm better than everyone else while thinking I suck and need to improve
Same
You too?.. :( same..
haha, sounds totally like me, too
Allow me to add to that, me too.
Every single thing is so truee!! 😭 big hugs to my fellow INFP-Ts 🥺 even though we have no idea how to overcome all of these struggles, the most important thing is we always try our best!! i appreciate you all, keep fighting! ❤️
I just took it today and I watched this video and it explains so much everything is also true for me too I hope you overcome them and get through them too cuz its hard out here.
I had to laugh at myself because I relate too much 🤣
Thank you.😢
Ugh Jesus Christ this is rough
(*´ω｀*) we got this!!!!
It sucks being an INFP - T
Especially for me with the fact that I am DESPERATE to please everyone, my every single moment is overthinking everything I do to make sure I don’t embarrass myself, I make the people laugh, I make them feel good, and not hurt them, it’s stressful : (
to all my loves out there, we’ll get through this together.
I just don’t want to be this type anymore 😭
I wish I was INTJ OR INTP
I agree with youuu. Like i get easily stressed if someone dislike me for something and i often try to change myself to be a person they would like to be friends with ;-;
im just like you omg
lmao , just wrote full on story that happened just before watching this video about me thinking how would my dad be dissapointed cause I didn't buy enought bread and then getting pissed in that imginary situation thinking of the ways that I wouldve have avoided that , but then have thoughts at the shop of how embarissing I look just me feeling the bread on the shelves to figure out wich one is the bigger one , cause I'm short or just go back for another bread
not like I didn't do those actions before , but today I wasn't feeling it
This is so freakin' relatable 😭 It's so hard being an INFP. I'm constantly feeling all these deep emotions and it's just so hard to deal with them. It's so hard when you're so self-critical and a procrastinator at the same time, lol.
GOD YES
not to be rude,but infp-t and infp are different
i was once INTJ but after over a decade, am a procrastinating mastermind that now cares about ppl's feelings, f me 😭
Relate to everything you said…
Totally with you. I've always thought I was alone, but listening to this, I realise that there are other people like me, in this constant cycle. It's made me want to address the issue, and find ways to push through. How fascinating. Oh and I'm INFP-T, every aspect of this description was relatable.
The self-criticism is brutal
To all my INFP-T peers: (づ￣ ³￣)づ *hugs*
Hi ☺️🫂
*virtual hug received.*
Thank you!🥺🥰 Sending some right back to you🤗🤗
we totally need a INFP Masterclass.
Fr this personality is not easy to navigate. I don’t see other types feeling around in the darkness like us
So I basically got saddled with the broken and indecisive personality who’s overly self-critical and who can’t get anything done because I’m too much of a perfectionist. Great 😢
This is painful lol. Sometimes I wish I could just be one of those E-type Golden Retriever people
I cosplay as them in social interactions sometimes but tbh i think those ppl actually have thick skin. Regardless at how likeable you are, ppl will dislike you and treat you poorly but they seem to bounce back easier. Maybe those blows feel less intense to them
As a INFP-T , I thought everyone felt this bru 😭
SAMEEEE I JUS FOUND OUT I WAS INFP-T BRUH 😭😭😭
i relate to this sm especially the loneliness part. I love feeling connected and close but idk how to connect with new people in new enviornment . i end up feeling frustrated because of that and i hate myself after that
i have to go to my new school in a few days for my junior year of high school and i'm so scared of ending up feeling lonely around people. I want everything to go well
@@06aruu It will, we usually take a backseat approach, listening and watching others for awhile until we see something that we relate to. At least, that’s what I find I do when meeting new people. 😊
Same 😭
@@06aruuhow are you doing now?
I pretend so much for the sake of others. Fake smile , fake laugh , trying to please everyone. Constanty Thinking about ,what the other people will think about me ?
Drains my all energy 😔
Man, we all just hate ourselves, don't we? 😂
Yup 👍🏽 here fo u
I love you all
I feel so defeated, cannot achieve anything because I cannot communicate myself effectively. Even if the answer is too simple, it feels so hard to explain or to say out loud, I also doubts everything I was about to say and ended up with nothing.
Which leads them not believing in me, thinking that I am not capable of anything even when I know in fact that I can.
This is so frustrating and trying to blend on profession that I don't even like. So frustrating and draining. I just want to call it quits
I love you too and I believe in you fellow infp-t💗💗
I love you too brother im feeling the exact way i have all these ideas and have the desire to act on them but my thoughts start to distract and make me doubt everything in the first place i wish i had some clear state of mind
@@JocyASMR I know that feeling well, but I'm sure on a good day you can see that leaving your ideas fluid, by not making that first chisel mark in the block of marble. The possibilities can continue to flow. You know the story about the butterfly effect. A butterfly flaps its wings and the knock on effect, the domino effect, causes something seemingly unrelated to happen the other side of the world.
Well what if the butterfly didn't flap its wings, what if it waited 🤔
the right friends would defenetely improve this situation
friends who understand that you have a hard time explaining it
and will be patient with you and try to understand and make sense of what you're saying or writting
I do have 2-3 friends out of my already small circle of friends , that , even thought might not be really intrested in my stories and ideas , would listen carefully when it comes down to it and ask question when they find something unclear
the fact that my friends know how bad I am at explaining stuff made it more easier to joke about it when silence comes in when I'm trying to think how to explain certain things wich made me easier to bear that feeling of making the other person wait for me to think how to do it
i try my best not to hurt anybody with my words and actions, even tho they won't do the same for me 🙂
I just recently took a MBTI test and I found out I’m an INFP-T, and I completely agree. It really does align with some people, and I’m one of them. My art teacher used to always tell me I’m such a perfectionist, she said I’m a great artist but I am too indecisive or picky to finish my art piece lol. It’s true, I procrastinated so much because I seek perfection and just want to feel like I did the best that I could, it doesn’t always end well but it’s something I still try to improve on. I hold my standards highly and maybe sometimes unrealistically. It’s unhealthy and I know it. It’s also true that I feel like I just take in whatever people throw at me whether it’s teasing or bullying or hardships, it’s hard for me to truly cry unless my emotional bottle just exploded when it’s full. I’ve always just taken it and didn’t care too much because in the end I tend to try and see the better side of people and life. When I lose that trust of someone because of their actions and words I take it as disrespect and won’t tolerate it anymore. I may look like I am not phased by anything on the outside but on the inside it’s an internal battle with myself and the words of other people. I guess I see that many are like me. I wish we weren’t so US, but it’s up to us if we want to change, we just have to accept how we are first we the first step and take action. Good luck my fellow INFP-T’s. We got this, the world might be frustrating but we are stronger than that.
Thanks 😊
This was so incredibly relatable I felt like you took words from my head that I’ve kept to myself because I can’t seem to explain it correctly! Thank you for your words, I’m also INFP-T and it can get so challenging to be myself, I sometimes just wish I could stop being me
Number 6: too self aware
I feel u man
I'm at the very low of this whole thing. I'm self criticizing so much i feel like what i think is what's going to come out of others mouths if i go out there and "do the work". I need constant validation that it's going to be okay or i'm just not going to do it. I react to others reactions badly which causes my anxiety to get worse. In the end i just get mentally exhausted & i have not even done anything yet. But i want to learn so much, yet i can't keep up with the 'normal' world.
I get exactly what you mean. At least 50% of my energy at work goes towards managing my anxiety about social interactions with coworkers. I’m always afraid ive said something wrong or I’m always finding that the leaders lack ethics and disliking and not respecting them. In reality, I’m making my own experience negative when it doesn’t have to be but i cant unsee or unthink things
Life is too difficult as an ADHD diagnosed Turbulent Mediator
Same here. Adhd is already a tough card and then add the infp-t and it’s a shitshow.
@@pippalongstrum4780same here, it's a Gigantic pain!!!
I thought I was the only one on the planet!! It's just nice to know I'm not alone. But, also.... I'm sorry. 💞
Same
🙂😶our struggle is real
Just found out I am INFP-T. Now I have to research and analyse it. Good luck too you all.
and yoouuu!!
I coined the term " toxic creativity" to explain what it's like. People may think that's a backdoor brag, but the struggle is HARD and real!!
It’s funny , Im crying about a softwares voice describing my personality.
Hahaha
It took my into my late 20s and having children to realize that:
NOBODY IS WATCHING AND JUDGING every step I took like I thought.
I came out of introversion in steps.
It does help to have
Family and friends that love u for who you are.
I can only image INFP Ts that don’t have anyone.
It has to be hard.
I will say the greatest thing you can do is achieve those lofty goals you set as an INFT.
It’s ok to f**k up
It’s the BEST way to learn
And ALWAYS ALWAYS keep your chin up.
Thanks for your comment. But, this is a real human voice
I disagree with the first one about perfectionism. Just because it's acknowledged that there is a chance for perfection, that does not mean that perfection is expected. That means that while we can strive for perfection on the small chance there is to come across it, "good' is expected from trying for perfect. Think of it as a motivator.
True, i agree🥲👍🏻
I sense you seek perfection in this video😬
@@RyanKeane9 Hm? It'd be preferable, since theyre speaking so confidently... this wasnt a criticism, just my thoughts..
Yeh - I do too. I'm an INFP-T but I don't consider myself a perfectionist at all. Quite the opposite in fact, and I certainly don't expect others to be perfect. Apart from this, I find this to be very accurate.
I want perfection but I don't have the energy
How dare you exactly describe me in this video, 💀
This is very me. It's tiring and mentally draining, can't be helped 😓
yeah very spot on. i hate the ' a person who might dislike' because like i can't even picture disliking somebody. I love everyone (on a spectrum). I do want peace, that's all i ever wanted i hate conflict it just makes me sad and sick.
Please hold space for me y'all. I'm a newly tested beginner on my healing journey. Forgive the long post. All of those video traits resonated with me.
The hardest part about learning about your personality type isn't learning about it; it's managing it on the day to day. I woke up from a closed construct high demand religion that raised me to be the perfect enabler with zero boundaries as a permanent codependent to only breed and raise a family and nothing else. Now that I've left my ex, during COVID, (still trying to divorce his narcissistic controlling passive aggressive ass) now I've got to deconstruct myself, and, what I thought my identity was, down to the very foundation only to find I have to shred that too and start from scratch... Heal from being raised in a cult, heal from a narcissist in a toxic marriage, heal from codependency, C-PTSD, now I've got to do that while managing a neurodivergent mind that is also an INFP-T....all as a single mom of 5 kids...... That's how I party folks 🎉💯❣️
all personalities are unique, even within types. learning what type of the mbti you are is only a fraction, a tiny one of truly knowing and understanding yourself. Its more like finding the name of a theory you always had but had never read about or heard of, but it made perfect sense to you. Then one day you read somewhere that that idea or theory has been written about and has a name, its kind of relieving to find out that name. You gotta manage the hard aspects of our inclination on a personal level as there is not a panacea
This is so true, especially the last one. I can be too self critical of myself.
We need a support group or something 😅
i swear to god this is more relatable than anything else 😭
It’s true, I can’t even finish seasons of classics shows because I know they won’t end perfectly 😂 but on a real note - I only finish things when I have a deadline or end-up place for a project. It’s hard to just do things into a void of time and space.
I find it so interesting how I can understand my traits but still have no power to change them. It's like I'm hindering myself from succeeding because I understand that I'm only a drop in the ocean, but I still want to live a meaningful life. I find it so hard to get things done since I want to help my brother and mom at home, but that leeds me to get disappointed in myself for not staying focused at school. It's really comforting finding people with the same issues. I'm not special at all, and perhaps I'm not a mediator, who knows. But this is a way for me to get some kind of grip of my own feelings to try to explain them. I really do relate to this video, and I know it sounds cliche. But I really feel like this video describes me in a way that I can finally understand myself a little better.
Bro you’re definitely a mediator like me and I can relate so much to what you’re saying. Our biggest gift is our compassion and kindness. We do want to live a meaningful life and achieve our dreams. We just need to make sure we take action to turn our dreams into realities.
the longer i live on this planet as an INFP-T the stronger this longing feeling gets for someone to tell me,
what route we should take together.
I will put my heart and soul into whatever route we take, hiccups and bumps included.
in the end nobody is perfect, but together we can be and overcome everything.
Throw in a (un)healthy dose of ADHD-I and get all those negative feelings constantly confirmed. Ouch
Hi sweet angels 😇 I believe in all of us infp-t’s we can do this yall! 💗💗
This was sooo accurate! I absorb other people's emotions like a sponge at times, wow didn't think I'd relate to this that much.
Ugh. Unfortunately so true. 😭😭
it's scary on how accurate it is o_O
😭10000000% true! let's build a self help group guys
Being a info-t with a broken family and a criticism society of my damn country is just live in a hell nobody understands me i have no friends and too imaginative.always ready to cry but nobody even knows that i am crying 😭😭💔
The most true things i've read about myself !!
The struggles are real😭
I won't say I care about perfection and yet I would worry about a project I'm working on being not good enough.
We are here together!
Oh yikes, this is spot on.
As INFP-T I want to clear some things. Yes we are Idealist but its not always the same for every INFP-T. For example: I want to my drawings to be as good as possible they can be and be at least at level of my idols and this is my way of perfection and for other INFP-T it can be that Their drawing have to be Realistic or For everyone to like it, My Perfect Partner is someone who can be also my friend and is anable to accept me and other people and is anable to come up with possible explanations for things that are not 100% sure and other INFP-T Perfect Partner is this and that.etc so Idealism of INFP-T Can show its signs in diffrent ways for people.
I think that perfectionism aspect is mostely true , but the interpretation isn't quite right
it doesn't have to be perfect on paper but perfect to us , our minds and expectations
it is perfect if what it is is according to what we imagined as ideal
@@k0r034 Did I accidently write it that its easy to misintrepit it? (Sorry for Grammar I'm not native English and On paper I write most thing properly lol)
@@PolishAzazel no , just saying my opinion , nothing to worry about
@@k0r034 Oh Sorry i got confused
@@PolishAzazel nah , it's ok
I was actually doubting whether to post that
But I was thinking too much about it so I just let it be
Just like other channels, I wish they would get it right. Where does "Prospecting" come from INFP? The "P" in INFP has always Perceiving or Perceiver.
this made me cry..everything is accurate. i really hope i figure it out soon.
Who else is here at 3:30 am after having taken the personality quiz because they couldn’t sleep (probably because a racing mind)
🙋🏽♂️
I'm not a perfectionist, though. I could never expect anyone to be perfect when I am far from being one.
You just saying you aren't perfect, makes you a perfectionist person.
Deep down you desire that feeling, to be perfect, but you probably tell yourself, that you could never be one.
You are perfect in your own way. don't let anyone take that away from you.
This was pretty deep
“..he imagines something better and then he’s not achieving anything”
FML I hate this so much about me
This one hit the nail on the head.
Hello all, I've just found out I'm INFP T and it is mind blowing! So accurate especially Number 3 distracted for me! I change my mind so many times 😅😂 Good to know there are other people out there like me 👋 Has anyone come across any resources to help with these traits?
Changing your mind many times is called ‘creative thinking’ in my book. You are simply working hard to find the best solution or outcome. Not changing your mind is simply stubbornness! 🥰
I'm INFP-T but I've been starting to realizing those thing and started dialed it back a bit. Tbh it feels much better that way
Facts! I jump from one thing to the next very quickly as I get bored easily if it doesn’t interest me, an being eclectic I have many things I like and I want to do them all, so yea, you can see the issue we types have lol! This videos on point!
I understood what broke me better now
I feel very much exposed
Shout out to my lovely INFP!! Sending lots of love💗💗
I sometimes think that INFP doesn't belong in this world, it's exhausting. People don't understand us and we are socially very awkward.😢😢
WHAAAAT!!? I think I might embrace it because every single words he uttered was correct. Hahaha
Nailed it. 🥺
So accurate to me.
This is me! It hurt hearing that we're unsuccessful because we have too many ideas. Going through this now. I want to be successful. I put plans to actions it just doesn't pan out sometimes. Like I'm doomed to be in this level of life.
true ... why this is so much relatable... 😭
why is this so accurate
I resonate with this and INFJ equally 🤷♀️
Accurate. I have hypersensitivity, chronic depression, chronic anxiety, OCD, and INFP-T. Life is tough every day, but my inner world is so rich of experiences, creativity, empathy, understanding people and life in general.
Nail on the head! Thank you!
Thanks
Spot on. Thanks.
You're very welcome
Damn right! Oh how I wish I could cope better with these things, but it's haaaaard
Omg spot on!
Yeah....
It's just this morning I know I am INFP-T, I take 2 different sites with personality test and same results. Yes, I can relate to all of that, I pity myself not knowing this long time ago. It's so hard to be me but now I am aware. Hi fellow INFP-Ts! ❤
So true!!
So good
Why this is this much relatable? Hate to think like that.
We’re awesome actually. We sense things others don’t. Intuitive , thoughtful, insightful , creative, empathetic, loyal. Once established healthy boundaries & ppl leave us TF alone it’s laid back & effective experience 🔥
Well, I somewhat agree, except that finding the job/steady income is incredibly hard for any creative INFP. We also need grounding and until that is met (usually finding the right partner) we are floating in the air. Floating in the air makes us hard to find the right partner... Rinse and repeat. Being an INFP is great when you - eventually - get grounded.
Any tips for an INFP-T suffering from C-PTSD? It has made every single weakness 100x worse and you can't really be yourself and always feel stressed and anxious, this ussually happens from a series of traumatic events in early childhood which makes the victim feel very alienated from other humans.
i'm sorry you're also going through that. i would suggest looking up c-ptsd therapy or even self-help videos (i like the "crappy childhood fairy" channel). what helps me personally is 1) trying to accept that what happened to you was not your fault, and that you did not deserve it. 2) other people don't care about your shortcomings nearly as much as you do. 3) some things are just out of your control, just do your best when the time comes because worrying doesn't solve anything. wishing you luck on your recovery 💖
@@crescent_moons Thank you so much I appreciate it!
you just described my whole life
As an infp-t I love caring for other people like make them laugh, treat them nice, be good to them to the point that sometimes it’s hard for me to say no to those things I don’t like. I always overthink everything, as in EVERYTHING. I think that mindset is not healthy because these days I’ve been stressed out but I can’t help myself to overthink even the smallest little things to my decisions and embarassing moments. How to get through this?😭
I hate being born .
How can I accept my self as what I am? I don't even know what I am 😔
@@HINOK8 ...that's it 🙄
@@HINOK8 you don't need to accept
Let them be
Man it sucks so much
Very relatable 😔
RAHH IM GONNA CRY BECAUSE OF THIS :(
Spot on...and great explanations for each one listed
Sounded EXACTLY right in my opinion! LOL! Sounds like me! 😂
100% on this
Ok, I'd say this info is pretty accurate. It lacks a solution though.
this felt like a callout
This just straight out described my life of a mistake
I'm apparently an INFJ, but relate heavily to this.
I disagree with the perfectionist part of the video. For me it’s kind of the opposite but nonetheless everything’s pretty accurate. Here’s a INFP-T with ADHD and Bipolar disorder. ❤️💟🌻🌎🎨
I started laughing when you said "Number 3 Distracted" coz thats when you got my attention back coz I was dming my mum lol omfg
so true
I took the 16 personalities test last night and got INFP-T, to my surprise... and now the more I learn, most of it makes sense, but some of it doesn't really apply to me. I may have to re-take the test, because I expected INFJ or INTJ like I got years ago. Hmm. I mean, the part about a Turbulent Mediator who has healthy boundaries might apply to me, and maybe that's why I used to be way more sensitive and now I'm less so, because of working with my emotions over the years... that could be... but still.
Thanks for the info in this video!
Something interesting that I noticed I’ve developed was that I have become a pathological liar, but only to make other people feel good. I’ll make up dumb stories just to make people laugh, even though they didn’t even happen.
Really felt that last one hard. Esp since this pandemic and this new learning system. F*CK!!!!!
Yes very true. I do have high expectations 😂
As a INTJ-A and my girlfriend being a INFP-T i am hear out of boredom
It's not true that there is nothing perfect in this world. Scientifically speaking, if nothing is perfect in this world, then we probably wouldn't exist and probably would have died off a long time ago.
DAAMNN. TOO ACCURATE THAT IT'S ACTUALLY SCARY. 😂
Sometimes my thoughts circle around pretty difficult philosophical tasks or ideas... then i come to a great conclusion and it all makes sense. I am so proud of myself and how i managed to come to Such a smart conclusion and the next second i totally forget about that and how i did it because the next thoughts rush into my brain xD . Can anyone relate to this ? Is this a common thing for infp-t 's ? I am curious ...
Exactly!!! So odd that we operate this way... we get so much clarity one day then the next day we're back to our chaotic complicated thinking and emotions. 😶
I swear I take pride in how I think like this. I seriously think I'm so special and smart because I've learned things I never hear anyone else say but it always makes sense
@@arrow1042SAME
as an INFP-T myself AND Asperger(syndrome) basically autistic, these 2 things alone clash with each other on a daily basis. on top of that, the thought circles that rush in my mind, get processed slowly but they get done to the point i know what to do or to the point i see what the conclusion is. This is very tiresome for me personally as any human interaction can tick me off and send me into a self isolating state, avoiding any human interaction to the point that i want to interact with humans again. its just a mess.. i am a mess. and it never ends.
the only trick so far i can apply to myself is to simply accept that these things happen so i can overcome them quicker.
i can already hear you think: but these things don't happen without reason..?
true. but not everything needs an explanation. things happen, and then get undone. so.. im trying to tell myself, what is the point? give it a rest. breath. and go on.
and then the next rush of thoughts flow into my mind. rinse and repeat.
Me to a tee. Thank you.
Thanks for watching