The Biggest Sign of FINAL Narcissistic Discard | They're not coming back
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00:00 introduction
00:48 The 3 stages
01:44 Biggest sign of Narcissist discarding you
03:25 People are convinced against you !
04:21 Why is it the biggest sign ?
05:39 BETRAYAL !
05:59 Workshop Announcement
06:24 The reverse discard !
08:03 Intuition
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Az chu chalan mea seeth yi... Final discard😒
We dont need them back. They can go to space and stay forever for all we care. Demons in human form
Facts
Absolutely 🎉🎉🎉😂❤
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AGREED! They can go to space and stay foreger! My ex husband tried SO HARD to get me to say that I wanted a divorce, and I kind of knew what he was doing, so I NEVER SAID IT. I would always say, "No, I don't want a divorce, I just want you to stop lying." Or , "No, I don't want a divorce, I just want you to stop staring at porn 8 hours a day." Or whatever. I knew he wanted me to say it so he could blame everything on me. At least I was wise enough not to do that. He is gone and I am still alive.
Yesssssss
The only final discard happens when you realize the narc is not worth it- not your love, your time, your effort. When you finally decide to go no contact and disappear from the narc’s life.
There are many different signs. These include spending time on phone that was not spent previously, withholding sex from you, withdrawing in communication with you, agitation or anger over Petty stuff or making up situations to get angry or agitated over, lying, being secretive in any way, randomly spending more time caring for and pampering oneself such as putting on makeup or wearing cologne or coloring hair etc. Any type of changed behavior that is not aimed at pleasing or benefiting your relationship. With all of that though, follow your gut. your gut is telling you that something isn't right and it's telling you that this could or is happening, therefore listen to it. Just Free yourself from all of it! Run and don't look back. Go 100% no contact. The mental and emotional abuse is not okay at all! Do not bring anything up to her. Don't try to rationalize or have a conversation about anything. Don't let her know that you know she's in narcissist. All of that can cause a narcissistic rage. If you have not yet witnessed one of those just trust me that you don't want to! A narcissistic rage is beyond any rage I have ever seen or witnessed in my entire life. I am an army combat veteran and served front lines for a year and afghanistan. I have abuse going back from as long as I can remember, the first time in my personal memory is 2 years old. With everything I have been involved in, and my rape, other sexual abuse, their physical abuse, etc in narcissistic rage is by far the worst! If you need to contact your local police department and start a new contact order. No one can protect you like you can! free yourself from it all and move forward in your life. The minute you run and go no contact is the minute your life begins again. If need be seek out professional help. Therapy is the best thing I did for myself. The best gift I gave to me! The abuse is so deep and overwhelming that having a professional guide you through the steps of the healing process is extremely beneficial! Just remember, there is great strength in asking for help. There is great lack and strength or no strength at all in putting on a mask and hiding behind the opinions of society and pretending that you are okay! As human beings we all witness A Time In our lives where we are not okay! Those that heal, move past, and move forward, and have a brighter future are those who ask for help and do the work that is needed through the help! I'm so sorry you are going through this and I wish you the very best! Good luck! Always remember that you are stronger than you believe you are, you are worthy and deserving of better and always, and you are enough just the way you are and who you are today! Take this time for you! Get yourself again. Fix that meal that you're all time favorite, rent that movie you've been wanting to see, have a guys night out with your best friends, remodel a room in your home, go purchase that item you've been wanting to for so long, just do for yourself! Self-acceptance, self-love, and being able to forgive yourself is far more important than what anyone else can give to you! Believe in who you are! You deserve nothing less than that! You're not alone! Feel free to tag me in any other questions that you have! I'll help if I can. Additionally you can hire a cyber expert to help you get remote access to their phone so you can track them and monitor all of their activities without them knowing. You may locate the top cyber specialists locally at digitalinvestigate@gmail.com where you can engage a well-trained professional to assist you..........
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They may discard us but they will always remain a narcissist
Hahaha!! Yes Indeed!
They don't care about it.
That’s what got me through my breakup with the narcissist. I left him, but I still thought about him all the time. I found out he married another woman and I thought, good, he’s someone else’s problem now, not mine. I didn’t need that narcissistic abuse back in my life. But I did feel sorry for her.
@kgs2280 but you literally sound like the narcissistic one here... It sounds like he moved on with his life and is loved and happy while you are bitter and alone, stuck being your own problem...
@@MrGodgivemeaname You couldn’t be more wrong. A few months after I left him, I met a wonderful man who showed me what love really looks like, and we were married some months after that. I don’t know how soon the old boyfriend got married, but I only heard about it a few years later. I was long over him by that time.
They won't come back if you don't let them back
Block them.
When they no longer have a need/use of you, they will smear and discard you. They are always looking for new supply.
Yes and the courts are not ready to realise emotional abuse on children either 😡
Emotional abuse is the hardest to get over too. I have survived sexual, verbal, and emotional abuse. This is by far has been the hardest.
Because if they recognise it there won't be jobs left for the judges. It's all part of the system.
Children are 3rd class citizens. Even prisoners got more rights than them
Yes! This is so so painful.
Every single one of them have the same mind ! Disturbing . I’d give anything to be able to go back and walk right past this monster at 17 years old. 22 years later here I am in the remains of what a covert narcissist has left behind .
Do your best never to get near and look at the narc again...let the narc be
I am 67 and have not awakened to the truth until the last 2 years. I also should have left when I was a teenager but my mind was damaged by trauma bonds. No matter what age the light bulb goes on, at one point we must leave. Staying in these relationships is too damaging. Walk away, let them go!! Who cares what people think? God knows the truth and one day they will have to face Him! Love yourself!
And I bet you will remain as far as you're still trying to meet someone you're not anymore.
Please.consider: if you were 17 again, you would have done the same one time and another.
You don't have to go back in time to rescue from your past. You have to get over it. Life is not going to give you a 2nd chance unless you start telling yourself: "Yes, it's true. I met a monster and I survived. Now I'm starting over knowing that I will be fine and do better next time. I'm not done".
Then, life starts again. ❤
emijean8391 Yes, I was married to a narc for 9 years. I am glad that I am alive. I hope that you find a healing path and keep loving yourself. Don't give up no matter what! It will take time, but it can get better. Just try to forget about all the nasty stuff and when you notice yourself thinking about it, do something for yourself, or something you find fun, or call someone for support. Love yourself! ❤
It is like coming out of a horror movie... I know. Hugs.
I was in a web of absolute lies, deception and illusions. The covert narcissist had planned his discard meticulously ahead of time. One by one, his masks began to fell. He became vile and hateful towards me for no reason. He looked at me like he loathed me, was jealous and vindictive. Like I was his arch enemy. One by one, people we knew in common began to rapidly turn on me. All of this happened in the exact same timeline. The common friends were his flying monkeys who he had secretly convinced to betray me with his false smearing. I witnessed the shocking chain of events and understood this was no coincidence. I felt it in my gut even though I couldn’t understand it. The discomfort became so colossal that I ended up blocking this narcissist and every single person associated with him and supporting him in their hate against me. I did this for protection and self preservation and to heal. I have purged false people from my life and now developed a radar for narcs. I’m grateful for the lessons but would never want anyone to experience the abuse I did with various narcs in my life. Thanks Danish.
They may discard you without letting you know, always keeping the door open. They'll come back at the slightest hint of an opportunity..
Unfortunately, infidelity tends to go hand in hand with narcissism. Especially, somatic narcissism. Narcissists believe EVERYTHING they need is external, including self-worth, self-esteem, validation, etc. Those things are what make up our inner world and we are supposed to develop and cultivate them within/on our own. Narcissists DEPEND on people to supply those things for them. Because we cannot (nor, are we supposed to) supply every want/need of a partner, narcissists are always on the lookout for "better supply". They will always gravitate toward anyone they feel can meet the needs/wants their spouse isn't (and can't). Narcissists are unstable and they cannot soothe themselves. They cannot meet their own needs and their needs/wants are constantly changing. Narcissists are black holes. They are human abyss' of unmet needs/wants. Even if you gave them everything, they'd still want MORE... All while giving NOTHING in return. Narcissists are also pathologically bored. They do not experience boredom the way normal adults do. They're like children. Once they become bored, they tend to throw their toys (people) in a corner to collect dust. Then, they search for new ones... Untilllll, they realize that their newest toy isn't as fun. Or, it doesn't function as well as the old toy did. Then, they'll go digging in the corner to find that old toy (the reason their relationships tend to be off and on). People are objects meant to keep them occupied and entertained. The newer the toy, the better/more exciting it is. However, EVERYONE will inevitably lose their shine with the narcissist. You must accept their reality and realize that it's NOT ABOUT YOU and it never was. This is also the point when it becomes crucial to sit your ego on the curb. Your ego will want to fight to be seen. Your ego will want to fight to prove you're enough. Your ego will feel it's "worthy" of the narcissist and fight to "keep" them... But, again: IT'S NOT ABOUT YOU. Most narcissists are extremely irresponsible. Many of them marry to secure stability. Or, to have someone they can count on to help with bills to free up their resources. It also ensures they'll have somewhere safe to land when they fall - because they always f*** up... Do yourself a favor and pull that rug of security out from under them and save YOURSELF. Narcissists do not have a moral compass. They do not respect the union of marriage. It'll always be a one-sided arrangement with you being the giver that's making their life easier and them being the taker that's making your life harder. We deserve the same love, attention, support and understanding that we give our spouses. You will never get it from someone suffering with NPD. Moreover, if you feel sure that your husband might never cheat on you, you might have to rethink. Most wives in marriages are shocked when they find out their husband cheating, and it happens more with people who never thought they would cheat. This is why you have to take the tiniest suspicion carefully. If your husband is cheating on you, the best and probably the only guaranteed way to catch him is to spy on their phones. However, spying on a phone is not something you can do without any external help unless you have the James bond level of spy skills. In such case you will need an expert phone spyier Metaspyhub@gmail. com for the purpose,,,
Get help
True. Indifference is the outcome of healing. You know when it’s over when you become indifferent to the narcisist and anything they do or say. They become someone you used to know.
I publicly exposed my ex when I did a reality show. He was so embarrassed and mad. Best decision ever bc my truth set me free and let him know I wasn't dealing with his shhhh anymore. He never hoovered me again! 🙏🏽✨️
@tinaleigh3273 you literally did the narcissistic thing this dude in the video describe narcissists of doing. You ran a smear campaign against your ex because you are a narcissist.
@@MrGodgivemeaname sometimes you have to play their game to get rid of them evil mfs so no not necessarily it doesn’t make them one. They go through great lengths to fck with you mentally, emotionally and physically so I say all this to say if they got rid of the narc completely by doing that, then kudos to them. Trust they caused harmed to them 10X worse.
The demon finally gave up after calling me 65 times with no response
Oh you've patience counting so high, prob same amount with me and older overt coke head sis, I'm very satisfied with not being pushed to change my number, they inconvenience me enough!😊
they are on a Break. taking some energy drink. (new supply) . they be back and ruin your day if you allow them . close the door completely
@@TataShiku He's blocked, but you can still see he calls, not changing my number
@@joseenoel8093 Right, me either
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This is my poor cousin brother's story. For 40 long years he was suffering from a narcissistic b*#&@ch without uttering a single word against her. It was a reverse discard from her. He finally filed for divorce and she took everything away from him - his entire life worth of hard earned money and assets, including his ancestral possessions. Her abuse continued even after the divorce. He was so badly traumatized & wounded that he died only two years after the reverse discard from his wife. 😭
Oh wow 😢. I’m so sorry
There should be courses on NPD taught in school and on public television.
Prob is that teachers are narcissists more often than the average Joe...Same in politics, everywhere, where you can flex with your power.... I'm for strong parents. Kids learn some cr00ked stuff in schools, nowadays.
Interesting video, My relationship of 5 years ended a month ago. The love of my life decided to leave me, I really love her so much I can’t stop thinking about her, I’ve tried my very best to get her back in my life, but to no avail, I’m frustrated, I don’t see my life with anyone else. I’ve done my best to get rid of the thoughts of her, but I can’t, I don’t know why I’m saying this here, I really miss her and just can’t stop thinking about her..
its difficult to let go of someone you love, i was in a similar situation, my relationship of 12 years ended, but i couldnt just let her go i did all i could to get her back, i had to seek the help of a spiritual counselor who helped me bring her back
Amazing, how did you get a spiritual counselor, and how do i reach her?
Her name is Shelly renee white , and she is a great spiritual counselor who can bring back your ex.
Thank you for this valuable information, i just looked her up now online. impressive
When someone is anyway able to bring you back a narcissistic ex, I bet than someone is perfectly able to be a narcissistic person as well.
There is no final discard by the narcissist. Only final when the victim says no more goes no contact.
yes especialy when u were the best supply
Dealt him a narcissistic injury by telling him I was seeing someone else.
Smart you, I torture mine by 'not' having an affair, he may as well be stuck with me too! ❤
Gaslight the gaslighter? Fair play in my book.
yes !! good job. but now work on the inside. and cleanse sleff off their energy. otherwise when you get away from them, you will meet them in a different body
Love it!!!❤
I actually am seeing someone else.
Don't ever relax that the final discard is over. If they are alive, they will hoover, when their need arises.
So true. The hoover can come years later. Never let down your guard.
Good thing my ex could not do that with MY FAMILY AND TRUE FRIENDS! He may have convinced HIS family, friends, and enablers that I was the evil one....Good thing I don't need anyone close to him in MY life! 🙌🏾
This is my story, I made sure I cut communication with his family members.
People already know him for whom he truly is.😢
Glad your family and friends are able to see it! My sister just went through this but luckily I know all about narcs due to an old friend who stalked me and emotionally abused me. His family have all taken his side despite him being addicted to coke and having multiple DUIs to the point where he can't drive without a breathalyzer. Yet he still borrows other people's cars (including my sister's) so he can drive drunk. Yet he's convinced his family that my sister is a "crazy alcoholic" who has "emotional outbursts" because she was crying and screaming during one of their last fights. She had finally had enough and started sticking up for herself, and he used it to his advantage. When she claimed he hit her, he was able to convince everyone that it was an accident because she was "freaking out and crying" and "super drunk." Nevermind he was high on God knows what and also inebriated. And nevermind that she only started drinking when he came into her life. She was a shell of her old self up until this past month after finally ending things!
He'd already started his smear campaign, fortunately, (i say fortunately since that means it's OVER for good!) but thankfully all of my sister's friends and of course our family are there for her because we understand what was going on. She was sad to lose everyone in his family because they're very nice people, but better to lose them than the people who really matter! So many narc victims are left completely alone in the end. Their own friends and family are fooled by the narc, and it breaks my heart to think about it. Glad both of you have good people in your life it sounds, and congrats on being free from the narc!!!
Happened to me in the worse way while pregnant. Absolutely awful
When will I be so lucky? Discard me. No more stalking.
Eventually they will, they’ll find a new guy or girl to chase and terrorize, then, the narc won’t even remember your name.
@@EricaChavira-on4oz I can't wait.......the sooner the better.
@@user-dv8xb4ve8vsame. That’s exactly what I’m going through now. He stalks me makes me think he will beat me up if I test him. I think I’m his ultimate supply berceuse I’m a huge empath it’s fkn annoying.
Mine is completely gone forever. He died 2 years ago. He cannot come back.
Congratulations
How does that make you feel? I am genuinely curious.
They always lose. They're losers. God never lets them get away with their games. I have witnessed them wither away like weeds. They destroy themselves.
they pass on at 90+ years old from natural causes after destroying peoples lives for decades ya real justice there.
I had the reverse discard. After i started divorce my Ex-Husband married before me. It was impossible to stay any longer in this house, now i am the monster, my own children and the complete relatives are my enemies. Very painful experiance in my life, no contact to 5 children and 12 grandchildren. But Jesus Christ helped me, so i can live a good life now. The narcisst is leaded through demons and they are pure evil. I forgive them and trust in god. Thank you for this very good explanation.
Danish, I just want to say thank you for your videos, they have opened my eyes and helped me place boundaries and start healing from my ex properly. On behalf of everyone healing from narcissistic abuse syndrome, thank you.
Yippee it’s a party when they leave for good 🥰☮️⚖️
You are so good at explaining narcissism with much more depth than most other narcissism experts here on CZcams
My ex bf stood me up on my birthday, after that, I was done, no more. He was accusing me of being with other guys, going out and drinking, which I was not doing, I didn’t beg or cry like I had before, I said, “ok, it’s fine, I understand” and didn’t give him a chance to respond, I blocked him. He came to my house about a week later, I didn’t answer the door of course. I was done with the disrespect. That was about 9 months ago. Stay strong guys! We got this. ❤
Just happened to me in last couple of days.When i got to know that she is a covert Narcissist, i said all the truth about her on her face and at that time she was cheated on me for several time with another guy . As always she ready her next supply by manipulating him and finally discard me bcz she can't tolerate the truth about her and i just unwear her fake mask
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I did have that feeling inside that it was truly over.
Me also after 7.5 years of separation. He’s come into some $$$ and already gradually pre discarding hopefully he serves me divorce papers. I been ready to sign those papers
I hope there is a justice system in place for narcissistic people. It's damaging your mental health when you are in this relationship. These people have no empathy or sympathy that they do anything to break you into pieces. I hope and pray that people who have been through this situation will get out of it because it's never easy to get out of a narcissist after being trauma bonded. Have faith and pray because this experience will teach you to be strong, resilient, and have faith in order to get out of it and be free. ❤
My husband and I were mentally and verbally abused by our evil narcissistic demon of an adult daughter, for years. It got so bad that the stress cause an emotional breakdown for my husband, One day he started crying uncontrollably with him gasping for air ( this is a guy that never cried because of his upbringing of men don't cry ) He was asking what he did wrong on raising her to be so evil then he collapsed and took his last breath 4 years and 7 months ago. She always had anger issues since she was a teen but we chopped it up as just being a teen and hormons since she seemed to be a very well rounded person overall. We noticed the changes in her as she got older and thought she was bipolar. But it was too late for us to get her help because she was over 18. She wouldn't amit that she has mental problems and get help. By the time I learned about narcissism, it was too late. The trauma damage was already done. In those horrible years of walking on eggshells she had us under her control because she was kicked out of her ex husband's home for stepping out on him and the trauma she caused. She ended back with us because she was homeless and 3 months pregnant with another's man child. So of course we took her in. She was lying from the start, telling us her marriage failed because he was abusing her physically. I know different now. We tried to help her, going through her pregnancy and the birth, then she couldn't handle being a mother. She wouldn't do what a mother should do and we ended up raising our grandson until he was 6 years old, She hunted down for a new supply because my husband became disabled and we couldn't give her a free ride anymore. She had to start paying her own way. That pissed her off and it really got bad. We ended up homeless with her stalking us and still messing with our heads. Then my husband died. She destroyed me beyond repair. I have been abandoned by everyone,... She made sure of that.. I went no contact but it is slowly killing me from the inside out. I can't have a relationship with my grandson. I can't function anymore. I'm the one that is at fault somehow. And you know what.. I'm starting to believe I must be. I'm just a failure and a lost cause.. I'm so tired of trying. I quit...
I am sorry
Don't give up. That's what they want. They want to kill you from the inside out. They are full of hate and jealousy and rage because you can love. Lean on God. He gives peace that surpasses all understanding. I'm praying for your peace and I'm sorry you have endured this abuse. It's not your fault.
When I told my ex that “I wanted my own place and proceed with getting a divorce”…his reply was “but I am not done with you.”
I found his words choice very odd…but now it makes sense.
Oh wow!
I was told the same thing!
Yep mine said that too. He said we aren’t over until I say it’s over
@@duck9886wow!
@@weaselwacker5462wow!
If someone leaves you or tells you to leave in a relationship, respect their wishes and leave.✌
I literally feel like you are telling my story word for word. I feel that my heart has been tore out of my chest, like am going to die and he walks around happy as can be my children and I are hurting so much & he doesn't care at all
I'm so glad you're free of him though! And I know it's hard, but please just know that narcs can NEVER actually be happy. It's all an act. I know you probably know this, but it can't hurt to hear over and over! When I was dealing with my narc I kept questioning everything until it finally sunk in and clicked one day...and ever since that day, I haven't shed a single tear! Truly! I can look back and just shake my head, sometimes I can even laugh. Mostly I just feel bad for whoever they ended up marrying. (They seem like a really nice person...because narcs always choose a good supply, which means someone kind hearted and selfless. Too bad I am actually not quite as "nice" as I appear at first glance lol. Meaning I did NOT take crap for very long! (But can admit I took it too long...it took a close friend and my family convincing me that I wasn't crazy to finally cut them out of my life completely in one fell swoop!)
But all that to say, I am SO sorry you're going through the tough emotions, as good as it is to be free of your narc. Keep telling yourself that the reason you feel like you're going to die is because you actually have a heart and a soul. This man does NOT! And he's in "actor" mode now trying to win over his new supply (if he hasn't already.) But a narc does not feel true joy, love or happiness. You can be assured their smiles are all hollow and are only for show. They may have a "fun" time for a month or two, but they never have "happy" times.
What helped me was to just keep watching videos like this and listen to other people's stories so I felt less alone and less crazy. Eventually, like I said, I woke up one day and the grief was gone! It took a little while of course, but it WILL come for you too. Having kids makes it that much tougher, but just keep reminding them that nothing he does is their fault. If he doesn't have shared custody, it's also ok to gently start talking to them about narc abuse (if they're old enough to understand of course). And if they're too young, a good therapist or even school counselor can help them at least talk through some of their emotions in a specific way to encourage healing. Sending you healing vibes! Hang in there...surviving a narc is one thing I can assure you DOES get better. It won't be as painful as it is right now for very much longer now that you've discovered the truth behind what's really going on
The sign of final discard is waking up in heaven
My ex's favourite quote was "the hardest thing in the world is the coldness of indifference". I used to ask him there are uncountable words that have been said and you chose these cold words? This quote is chilling. When he discarded, betrayal trauma was so severe that I had to walk around clutching myself to keep my heart from bursting out. And I didn't had closure. Then when I learned about narcissism, then finally the pieces of puzzle fell together suddenly and I could finally see the truth and was able to make peace with myself.
Hi Danish ❤ contradicting you this time, I don’t think so there’s final discard ever actually, they always comeback and hoover when they get bored of the new supply and finds you more interesting and valuable
Maybe when they're younger and there's a bigger gene pool to chose from, people more flexible..... Pickings sure wane as we age but peace appreciated!
Found out the truth last week to why he discarded me in March. He still hoovered me up until then. Doubt he’ll be back now. He blocked me everywhere.
Sometimes they still want you back after the final discard. My mom let me be homeless, but now she still wants me back so she doesn’t have to keep arguing with my “golden child” brother. So yeah, they still want you back, or else they will start to destroy each other.
In my experience & research narcs are never really gone. They always linger in the background & many do try to come back & see if you are still open to their bs. It's common 4 narcs to keep their exes around if possible
Infidelity,lies and gaslighting goes hand in hand with them
I ended up being the one that "got away" from him. He's finally moved on to his next victim.
Thank You Danish, preparation is my biggest defense weapon. No bad surprises with your videos, it helps the necessary self control
I have defeated a number of narcisist by standing my ground and not giving them an inch, at the end i get discarted, and thats fine by me.
This episode really helped me with what i am going through at the moment!! Thank you Danish!!!!
Thank you for explaining it so well.
It’s word by word exactly my life rn and it’s nothing I have ever experienced or imagined. I’m so confused and in my own head still trying to make sense of what to do and feel, like I don’t know how to move forward. The most basic life chores seem impossible like something is stopping me from doing them.
Great video.
This was highly informative. I façed the exact things in the whole course of last year, and was confused what's happening and how to overcome. U have great clarity
I don’t think it’s over
He calls me incessantly previous night as he always does 50-60 calls one day and suddenly disappear for months. I never pick up a late night call as I feel if someone wants to have a mature talk they will call sober in the day time. So in a weak moment I revert his call next day. He was sitting with his family and said the exact things which made his family believe that I was the one who was disturbing him. He actually said.. stop hurting me and disturbing me with your calls. Totally left me shocked and baffled. Confused me totally like..what??? I am the one who is bothering you? Something was not clicking at that time now your video has helped. Thank you
Thank you Danish 🙏
They discard you completely when you stop giving them the tormented attention they so crave. Im done playing these games. He needs to be to.
Damn! Everything you said happened to me. My final discard was because I know to damn much about him and he decided to give me the final discard because I was on to his fooliness. It’s been 1 yr and 5 months, he’ll tap in once in a while as a unknown caller to play games on my phone. 😂
😂😂😂Good for you 😂😂😂 Congratulations 🎉
@@patriceroach6373 Smh! You’re trying to be sarcastic!
❤❤❤You are so right!!!
He had a countdown for me, once the kids were old enough he said he would be "done" with me. I have been discarded almost our whole relationship. His cheating and humiliation of me was my downfall because I loved him. He gets mad and kicks me out. I can't remember a time when I was'nt a disappointment to him.
Thank you! ❤
❤Thankyou so much .
Once it gets nasty and fearless, it's final discard time. It doesn't mean she's done with you anyway. The smear camp will go on basically forever.
You are so accurate every thing you say is what I have lived in my entire life with 2 important relationships with narcissists .
Actually when I was blocked and deleted...
I knew there was something going on...
But I couldn't put a finger on that cruel missbehaviour....🧐
„Legally, you can’t take action. „ The legal system has to change. I talked to a lawyer, and he said he couldn’t do anything, even though the impact was high. I could not accept a better-paying position in time as I developed depression. If he had stolen money from me, it would have been a different story. In the end, I was told that I would find a new man soon, which I found insulting.“
I'm not sure if the final discard has happened from his point of view. I thought it had, but he's tried to contact me recently. But I do know that I reached a stage where I knew I was done. Completely done. I now feel immune to his nonsense. It came at such a high price and I've got so much work to do on myself, but I'm at a good starting point. Thank you, Danish
Thank you for this truthful
Your words are million times true.
The discard is the PRIORITY for the: NARCISSIST
Thank you🎉🎉
Thank you 🙏
Thank you
How I knew was I was done!
Couldn’t live like that anymore
Amen!
Thankyou Danish
I am a avoidant so that narc chases me, I love him but I discarded him and i do not reach out no matter what.
Thank yiu
So true. I didn't think my ex was a narcissist at all. After 5 years of love & dating, and ready to move in together, my doctor said my ex gave me vd. My client (an ex stripper, no less) showed me numerous people online he was sleeping with, including his ignorant *gangsta" BM. After I told him about the disease he gave me (I was 100% loyal), he blew up & denied everything. When I showed him proof, he laughed. I broke it off, and ya, he basically framed ME as a stalker to his family & friends. There is NO WAY he wants the truth to get out in Inglewood that he was dating, loving, & lying to a white woman behind everyones' back. He made ME out to be a stalker, when I was the one who broke up with his diseased f'd up life azz. I admit my crime: I fell devoted in love with a man who pretended to be loyal. I surely will never do that again. Count on it.
I think this is the final for my wife.. I finally called her out on her treatment/ abuse and her infidelities... now she's playing the victim.. and being the sad one now
Yes, my ex-husband was completely as you described; however, it was extremely severe because he had no one to replace me with. He caused me to lose my career, stole every penny from me, forged my name on so many money related documents that were unknown to me or my attorney until after the judge stamped the papers, he stalked me until I filed a police report, sabotaged my car, and so many other evil things, even eluding to the safety of my life. My life was hell for fifteen years, and it took three years to get the divorce finalized. And the behavior didn't stop there. It continued for a couple of more years. Penniless, I had to find a way to move away. In fact, one of my children does not want me to come visit him because if his father finds out I am anywhere in the vicinity, he is afraid for me. So he has to travel to come visit me instead.
The worst for me is my daughter who the demonic narc monster is now destroying in the most horrible and mean way just to hurt me...and talking behind my back doing her toxic and sick smear campains
Same, it's been 3 years since I've seen my grandchildren. We were very close and my heart breaks for them and myself. When I cut the money off out of necessity, I was no longer of use to her. Of course her version is different and very defaming of me to all her friends. I spoiled her rotten and was still giving her money at 29 years old. I have no choice but to go on with my life. Maybe one day she will come to her senses, not holding my breath.
It's the parents' fault the child become a narc by either heavily neglecting or heavily spoiling them.
@ErikAdalbertvanNagel thanks doc
Exactly explained a narcissistic relationship...
ex nard told me to leave, i filed for divorce, he illegally evicted me and our son, we moved out, he knocks on my door, giving gifts, our eviction records end in august, we are going to move away asap.
So true.
I shocked to hear from you so clearly u can explain even I can't explain so well even though this all I am facing and experienceing in every day life, just like a slave living the life having no other option.
Idk how tf to get away from him!! I been trying for months. They just show up whenever they want and he scares me so bad!
i have overheard my so called old man telling somebody that "he's always been like it"
How about narcisistic siblings? My brother has destroyed our wntire family.
He manipulatively ,repetatedly discourages his partner also regarding the religious field,if he sees that his partner has or could have support there,even in his own faith.
This just happened wow.
Yeah, they are done.
Sil tried to lure me 📞 with starting lie"I miss you" onto "It wasn't me who hung up on you it was your bro", now he can voice shift change, guess she's past trying to convince me he's gay! 😊
Don't know what to do. I've tried to leave him many many times but he always came back at my door and because of my feelings, I've allow him to access my body and my mind.
When I've blocked him it was worse because he popped up to my place randomly.
We saw on Sunday, one week ago and spent the entire afternoon together ( usually he gave me just two or three hours ) and after that he disappeared. No communication no meeting.
It's been almost six month that he was "committed" to me and we stood in contact every two days maximun.
I've asked him previously to leave with love, a hug a kiss and goodbye, due to the fact that he said he didn't love me. But he never accepted.
So why he is so coward?!
I have his key house.
Do I have to put the key in the mailbox and block him?
Too easy for him...if so he don't have to confront me and it is unfair
Thank God, they won't come back! 😊
I dodged an atom bomb. It has forever changed me for the good. He's new supply is a lovely women l have met her many times. But God love her. I knew she has low self esteem...when l asked her how she likes her name (unusual name) said. She turned to him for the answer. I was so shocked. He met a women who he knows he can cheat on. She will forgive him and stay. What one calls the "cool girl" . She will put up with all the drama, manipulation and toxicness. He's new therapist and Mama. That's her growth unfortunately. I am in gratitude l got away.
This is scary all ur saying is what I went through with my ex
True i kicked him off when he insisted that its time to get apart i didnt say anything n just packed my bag😊🎉🎉🎉🎉
Absolutely true
that's my ex did to me
im about to lose my mind.... i went back with her after a 6 month break, it lastet for 2 days and endet so fucking bad......
like i just dont understand her behavior....
im so done with life...... im tired....
guess schizophrenia + Narcissm = run away
im glad i was not in the same room as my relatives at the last wedding i went to i felt left out bit they are forgiven i sort of understand whats going on
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