A lot has happened… | Haleigh Everts
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Being single isn’t so bad. You should try it for a year, it would be healthy I think. Good luck!
once you're single and free you then realize how great it is to be independent and you don't need anyone in your life haha
she couldnt last. shes already engaged.
How else is she going to pay for her kid? has to get remarried ASAP to stay afloat.
FYI: Everything you say can and will be used against you in the divorce proceedings.
This comment is the best!
Yes, especially the dirt talk about the ex. Parental alienation is looked upon VERY seriously by family court judges in custody decisions.
@Cook Me Up Her husband cheated on her. That’s way worse than airing out “dirty laundry.”
MGTOW Moment Not really. While I don't consider porn cheating, my partner doesn't watch it as he's uncomfortable with it. Especially mainstream variations of it. You identify as a MGTOW so of course you watch porn.. But that doesn't actually apply to every single guy. Maybe you should try not watcing porn and you know.. Actually going your own way.
I think you’re great! You are a true Christian. I am a semi active member of the church (health issues prevent attendance.) I am from Gilbert but live on the East Coast now. I am totally cool with my convert active spouse having a coffee, or glass of wine every so often. It’s seriously a no guilt non issue for us, and I truly think God understands.
take it easy sis, rushing into things can be crazy. you will eventually want to make changes again.
She is pregnant with her 2nd baby(4 kids altogether) with another man 😬
You don't get to skip the rebound phase. Watch out, that rapid connection and intimacy is a projection from your marriage and isn't earned yet in the new relationship. There's no short cut. Just slow down... Your future self will thank you
That’s your opinion. Rebounding isn’t required. And connection and intimacy is earned because of the things we’ve already had to experience together, and the things we connect on because of our pasts and who we are today. And it will only continue to grow as we date and get to know each other more.
@@HaleighMarkar best wishes, I am more than happy to eat my words if they prove false
@@HaleighMarkar in one month you don’t know each other yet. Lots and lots of men felt like Mr Wonderful in month one. Please remember this is too early in a relationship to know if it’s real or not
As I've said before, always a good idea to tie up one "project" before beginning another. You seem very organized, but you haven't finished the huge divorce "project" - so you can begin the new "remarriage " project.
@@thewrongshoes she seems a bit wreckless. Take a pause and relax before running into another relationship. She's already talking this guy up. I think she's got holes she can't fill right now
He IS a rebound. It's the exact definition of a rebound.
Agree ... My BS detector went off the instant she claimed "It's not a rebound." It's a rebound.
Amen
The second guy will end up being hurt pretty badly.
Slow down on dating, work on yourself and being a mom. A year is a good time to start with. You are a strong woman, you CAN do this. It's wonderful to have love in your life but you need to learn to love yourself first.
That's how crazy Mormon woman are. Why are you surprised?
“I don’t wanna be single”… really. What’s wrong with being single? Sometimes that’s the best you can do for yourself especially after a breakup or divorce. I understand wanting to be in a relationship because they can be amazing, but don’t knock on being single either.
She seems kinda neurotic, happily married to kinda split up then suddenly into another serious relationship ? The divorce papers aren't drawn up yet but she's ready to commit to someone else, she needs therapy.
@@thatkajunguy8029 She came from broken home . I saw her on Mormon story podcast. That's just how crazy Mormon woman are. She was on a cult even dough people say Mormon isn't a cult. But it is.
SLOW DOWN GIRL......you can do what you want but your children need time.
Exactly, it needs to just be all about the small children
Please don’t rush a 2nd marriage . You can enjoy dating awhile
It sounds like she’s going to I mean she’s barely dating this guy and just talking about having another baby and getting married. In less than a two year time Spand
@@jinettebright2741 she says they will be married in a year and start a family, and she will move in from the home her ex is supporting her in, right into her new husband's home--and that was within a month's time of meeting this man. I feel for the children who are going through so much upheaval as it is, and then to add a father figure in the blink of the eye is way too much for them to take on. She and her children would do well to get counseling.
@@jinettebright2741 she says they will be married in a year and start a family, and she will move in from the home her ex is supporting her in, right into her new husband's home--and that was within a month's time of meeting this man. I feel for the children who are going through so much upheaval as it is, and then to add a father figure in the blink of the eye is way too much for them to take on. She and her children would do well to get counseling.
@@jinettebright2741 I think she is just excited. When reality sets in she may change her mind. I take your point.
@@SaffronHammer I think we don’t have to worry . I think her dude is going to eventually freak out that she is planning marriage and a baby after only knowing him a month.
I won’t give divorce advice but I will suggest you slow it down, girl. What’s the rush? He’s sooo opposite and sooo wonderful. What about you? Have you given yourself a chance to find out who you are and work through your own crap aside from the church?
Someone once gave me the best advice to help make decisions. The advice is, “stop choosing to be confused. Things are usually exactly how they seem.”
The best thing I did for myself, was to spend a year without pursuing a relationship. My ex-wife had an affair and was already into a relationship and I wanted to compete. I felt like a loser, but I took the advice of a good man and dedicated a year to self improvement and focused on my kids, my health, my finances and my hobbies. Expressing yourself on this venue gets to be so freeing. It’s very inspirational. Thanks.
I waited 3 years before getting married again...give yourself sometime..let the Children get used to all that is happening...I wish you all the best..and your family to..❤🌹✌🙏
Too soon too soon too soon. Don't date until you heal. You are still healing.
She go' s to counselling, may be she is healed?
You should re-watch your video and listen to the words that you’re saying you literally say you connected with CJ’s due to trauma and you don’t want the next guy to be the same a divorce is a big trauma it’s one of the most stressful things that happens in your life to think that a trauma relationship where this new guy just happens to be everything that CJ’s isn’t in a good way you were in such denial and on such a rebound it’s horrendous. truly sending love I see so many red flags with this you really need to wake up.
You are looking at things that will give you a good future, 2-3 years to date and really get to know someone is a minimum, statistically speaking, you owe this time to your kids, I am sure this is a very hard thing to lay out in the table!
Waiting a year before tying the knot is a very good idea. I just celebrated 16 years with my wife (2nd marriage for both of us) and it’s so nice to be with someone that is on the same page. I wish you the best!
All I hear [and I say this as an active member who is going to the temple at 3 today] is a strong woman enduring. It sounds like you didn't have a strong support system across the board regardless of your strength and capacity to overcome trials. I think you are amazing for living your life in any way that brings you joy. Do not listen to anyone but yourself when it comes to joy, period. You are so graceful, and beautiful. Go live life hard.
As kind as your comment is, it's not biblical. And, I'm referring to THE actual Bible.
I’m sure your new boyfriend is a great guy, but remember he is not without flaws. We all have flaws!! Take it slow. Rooting for you!!!
You new boyfriend is probably much the same as your old husband even though you claim otherwise. You are doomed to repeat this cycle over and over again
@@corrypeterson4254 wow how encouraging... "I doubt you've learned anything from your marriage and faith transition, and I bet your new boyfriend who I've never met and heard about once is going to hurt you. Your future is doomed"
@@rulaci9988 Yep, we can all welcome Haleigh to the single mother treadmill. The guy who is dating her, is dating a MARRIED woman who acts like she's in high school, who flip-flops every few months and totally destroys and rebuilds her life plan. He is there for one thing and when he gets bored with that he will be on to the next hot momma. WASH, RINSE, REPEAT
@@corrypeterson4254 I mean you obviously have no hope for her to change, so if you don’t like it you can just not watch her videos and not comment discouraging things
@@rulaci9988 I can't help it. It's validating to see people screw up their lives and marriages because of being raised Mormon.
Getting married a year after your divorce is very risky, give yourself time time to get to know yourself again, and your boyfriend. Experience things with him, really get to know him, a year after such trauma is so quick. I know in Mormonism they tend to get married SO quick, but life doesn’t have to be a mad rush.
The worst situation would be another divorce in a few years, just because you know marriage with your previous husband doesn’t mean it will be anything like with your new boyfriend.
I would wait longer than a year to get married or engaged. People change and you don't truly know someone in a full year.
They are married now she didn’t listen her poor children
It's your life do what you want. I would just say be careful. I would be extremely skeptical and cautious. Honestly not dating for a while would have probably been the best choice all around. Do you but think of all the consequences good and bad.
I’ve been a single mother since day one with my son. I do think it’s WAY TOO SOON that her children have already meet and have spent so much time with her boyfriend. Like they are too young to understand any of this and I cannot imagine the emotional trauma they are going through with that. Those kids didn’t need to met that man yet. She should be more careful because this consequence could be good and bad .
@@jinettebright2741 what is the difference between him and any other male that is in her life? Family friends, teachers, neighbors, whoever? Like why do we think it's bad? I don't get it....
@@mommyofthree8271 there are lots of bad people out there that are into things you did not list
@@katerinahernandez4778 I completely agree! However I'm pretty sure she isn't leaving her kids alone with a new boyfriend. Beside being left alone with him, you take the same risk everyday stepping out of the house.
@@mommyofthree8271 Are you really comparing family and or teachers?? Even friends when those are very different type of relationships. Make it make sense
Being single for a while was the best thing I have ever done. And also I felt like it was the best example I can give.
Slow the fuck down. I’m a child of divorce. Now 38. Both parents after divorcing, as Mormons, dove right back in to a new relationship. My mom buying a house with a new guy we barely knew less then a year later. I was 11. It was fucked. I’m now divorced myself. 2 years later still no desire for relationship. Because it would be wise to just chill. Focus on your kid and not on you and your romantic relationship needs.
This shit got weird. I’m sorry.
But seriously. Take everyone’s advice here. Many of us have been there. For me I was the kid caught in the middle and it fucked me up.
For some reason we’re trying to help you.
I should mention that guy my mom hooked up with who became my step dad was a decent guy, sort of, early on. He turned out to be a narccicist. And I grew up with narccicist abuse. An example of why you don’t rush it.
That’s a lot for your children to deal with: their family breaking up and you having a serious relationship instantly.
It's selfish if you ask me. She's a total narcissist
Don’t think it’s narcissist just she doesn’t like being alone
@@TheSpiderella look at how she shares things about herself and what she says. She's your typical "influencer"
@@Sheilas4AlexJonesyour rude. just because you would do things differently, there's no need for the name calling. Getting divorced is HARD. But everybody does what they feel is right at the time!
@@aliali-vy7oi just because something "feels right" doesn't make it right.
I don't know girl. Your story very similar to my friend's story. She got remarried 2nd time too fast. Now after 10 years, she regrets doing it. Turns out the guy was not as better than the 1st one. But best of luck❤️
Good advice, out of the frying pan and into the fire didn't come from no where!
You really need to just put your kids first right now they are going through a lot with their parents separating and you don’t know people in a months time to even have them around your kids I just pray that you don’t leave them unattended with someone you don’t really know it’s just really fast you would do yourself a favor and especially your kids to just take the time to focus on healing yourself and your kids getting through this difficult time.
Yay green/hazel eyes! The blue contacts to please CJ was blah
No need to drag CJ’s dirty laundry out into the public. That could come back to bite you in court/through the divorce. And please, slow down. Going into a new relationship so quickly could be just as damaging as rushing a relationship into marriage.
*ESPECIALLY considering he’s still 100% financially supporting them and she doesn’t have plans to get a job
@@arethamongue5447 yeppp.
@@arethamongue5447 you clearly have not watched many of her videos over the last few years. The court will decide a percentage of the noncustodial parent’s earnings/potential for earnings. It is not a voluntary amount he decides based on the mood he is in. She may be earning money even with a younger child at home.
I just subscribed, especially after watching you on Mormon Stories. I think there’s some things we wouldn’t agree upon, but I really respect your grace and kind, genuine heart. Listen to that heart-as often as people are saying to wait and slow down, it’s God’s timing, and you deserve these blessings of love and a hopeful future, regardless of the timeline. Much love!
Men are not the be all or end all of life. You can be stronger alone now. I'd strongly recommend you do not get desperate and fall into a second bad relationship.
Concentrate on your children's emotions as they've got alot to work through in their little minds. Don't introduce your children to new men in your life until you have met people who know this new man/men.... anyone can act a part to get close to your children. Yes, I'm always suspicious and I would be over protective.
Drinking 🙈, you need to stay in control of yourself and your emotions. Take the time to mature. You've made one mistake don't make another, sorry to sound harsh 🧡, this is said in love although I appreciate it doesn't sound like it. Life isn't a fairy
My dad moved on from my mum very fast after they divorced and it gave me trust issues for life. I hope you consider this as I understand from your mormon stories podcast that trust issues have been a presence in your life, too.
By the way, very fast = more than one month
Gosh it’s so great to see you so happy! Divorce is always hardest on the kids but seeing happy parents is always better for them.
Remember that compability is overrated. What's required is unity. Unity doesn't mean you're the same. It means you're together.
Well said!!!
The video about telling members about your leaving would be great! Also to the commenters, as someone who jumped from one long relationship to the next quickly, I was definitely emotionally/mentally checked out of my long term relationship long before meeting my now husband. It was only a couple months single, but I was ready to move on. Just so y'all know that things are always more complicated than they may look, so let's not be judgmental. Just keep your own emotional wellbeing in mind and keep going to therapy Haleigh, it has helped me so much!!! Thanks for sharing your life with us.
Love this comment
Agree!
I truly mean this with all of the love and respect in the world but please take a step back and just breathe. If this guy is the one, that's wonderful and that's not going to change in a year or two years or three years. Speaking as someone who was married young and divorced, it's easy to be a serial monogamist and jump from serious thing to serious thing. This is where I feel "purity culture" becomes toxic. People jump into marriage because they can't fathom not being intimate for a second longer. Have the sex, get to know one another. You've dated a month and you're talking about getting married in one year? He's not going anywhere. Get to know yourself free from your ex husband first. Being married is not the only thing in life worth doing. Spend time with and on yourself. Ultimately, do what makes you happy but as someone who did what you're doing...I wish somebody would have told me this and I would have taken them seriously. Truly, I do.
I’m so happy for you !! you’re literally glowing you look like you’ve come alive the best things are yet to come I’m so excited to see where life takes you !!
This video easily might be your journal of “red flags” in the next relationship. Your husband has chosen to leave his marriage, and is not a biblical person. You say you are a Christian, yet dating while still married. Stop. Center your life on Christ, not another man. If you’re not a Christian, sure, do you.
After leaving Mormonism, it can be very confusing figuring what the rules are when you want to remain Christian. My husband and I had a lot of re-learning to do when we decided that we wanted Jesus but not the Mormon church.
I am happy for you. That being said I would caution you to say this is real after so short of time. And I would pay to God for direction and see where he leads you two. I got married after six months, and that lasted twenty year. After seven kids my ex wife left me for someone else. I never prayed to see where God would lead us and I got caught off guard. Be cautious and look to God to be your foundation and Jesus to be the corner stone.
I am definitely different than you and coming to the realization that I maybe like one of the ones Paul talks about that live their life for God alone. And I’m great with that. I guess what I am saying allow what the Old and New Testament have to teach you before saying this is real.
I Just followed your story and see you’ve gone dark. I think that was wise. Just wanted to encourage you to keep reading your bible and asking God to show you the way. You shouldn’t share your updates until you’ve had some time to reflect -so much has happened to you in such a short period of time. Praying for God’s continued work and healing in your life.
So this new dude was cool with you still trying to get back with your CURRENT husband while seeing him, you’re in a very significant spiritual crisis, you’re in somewhat of an identity crisis, now you’re divorced, and you have a kid/kids in tow.
This new guy - after all that - still being interested says one thing. He thinks your really hot and is simping for you. He’ll say and act however he needs to, to please you because you’re hot. That’s it.
Maybe you’ve escaped the simulation and you found a one-in-a-million guy and you’ll live happily ever after. But more than likely your rose colored glasses are making everything pink and you fled to the arms of another man (any man who can smile and say the right words) to escape uncertainty.
I don’t say any of this with malice. Just as an un-invested outside third party. Regardless, good luck out there.
I was engaged to a very abusive man. When it ended I vowed to be single. 2 months later I met someone. A month later we were engaged. 6 months later we were married. That was 25 years ago and it was the best decision I ever made. It's your path. Let God guide you. His timing is always perfect. 1 year, 5 months or 2 days. God will never rush but he is never late. Many prayers to you.
Wow exactly same thing happened to me but we have been married for 5 years
Love this comment! So many people are commenting and projecting their own fears and experiences on Haleigh. She’s happy and if she’s found Jesus, that’s all anybody needs. So happy for you and your marriage of 25 years xx
@@taulagoioane3865 thank you! I guess it's human to expect one size fits all but as I have learned... God is not a one size fits all. He is my size. Which is different than your size. Thank God he is a personal God.
@@jbsbb5 amen and amen! Thank God He is personal. I’m happy for Haleigh and her journey and I pray she continues to allow Holy Spirit to guide her. God bless you too Betsy, love from Australia xx
@@taulagoioane3865 Thank you. Howdy and God Bless from Texas USA
You are stronger than you think and braver than you know. Take time to be you and learn who you are as a single parent. You and your children have been through so much. Best wishes. You're amazing with or without a man.
So happy you found a church and a community of believers!! I’ve been praying for you and your family, and will continue to do so. God’s got you!!
You don’t know if this new guy is by your side, a month, a month??? Cmon girl!
I think she is still stuck in the Mormon mindset for quick marriages... At one month no one should be thinking about marriage 🤷🏽♀️
Agreed, take a break...get to know yourself as single person.
And no planning babies before you even know if you are getting married, contrary to popular belief, your children would be much better off if you would plan to not get married until they are legal age, we can’t be dreaming about life’s reality! Keep a straight head on your shoulders Haleigh!
@@China-Clay idk about that one. I waited for my kids to be grown and I can say the dating market is not as a great at 45 then it would have been starting over at 30. I think if I could do it again I would have tried to date and remarry sooner...::
@@thewrongshoes ugh such a tough subject, it’s just looking seriously at the needs of the kids, so very hard!
12:32 - THANK YOU LORD! I was hoping you didn't walk away from Jesus in general. Happy to hear that you found a church you love and I pray you experience the true meaning of liberty in Christ and the concept of a God who has a love for you that you cannot earn or keep. He just gives you love because He is love! Yes God is holy and wants us to live righteous lives, but no longer do you serve a god who loves you as long as you are good. You are a mother and you know that there is nothing your kids can do that will stop you from loving them, showering them with love and attention. Bad grades or bad behavior won't stop the love. If you, an earthly mother, have that love for your kids, imagine the amount of love God gives to you, when you do good or bad as a Christian, especially because you are made in His image. You have that ability to love your kids because it's a God given ability that comes from His nature. Long rant, but just happy you haven't left Jesus. I'm really sorry about the hard times you are going through, but plug into that church, the love and community will ground you and you'll be able to ground others. God has made you a leader.
Really happy for you to be in a better place and have some closure on the relationship with CJ! I don't live your life, so I cannot know what you're really dealing with and feeling. But I do encourage you to remember how much you've been through in the past year and a half. You have so much to process and accept. No problem with dating if that's what you feel ready for. Just please make sure you're getting the therapy or whatever else you need and let go of expectations for how life has to be, like having a certain spacing between kids or getting married on a certain timeline. You do not need to have all the answers! Best wishes for whatever you decide is right for you!!!
Hi Haleigh, I just wanted to say that I am very proud of you! I know how much you wanted one more baby, and confiding to your ex husband that you do not believe anymore when he finally agreed to have another child must have take serious strength!! Many other people would have laid low and pretended all was good. For whatever its worth, I am very impressed!!!
Good on you, Haleigh. People are saying “Slow down.” But I went through something similar a few years ago. So I know your feelings. Keep doing you!
So outside of the mormon faith now, what is your view on pornography? I feel like the mormon church criminalizes this way too much and puts way to much shame on someone who looks at it. If its normal pornography, consenting pornography, I dont see anything wrong here. We are very sexual creatures, as animals are. We have just evolved to be more aware of things. But the mormon church just ruins marriages because of things it teaches and has against things, and the education it gives its members on these things
guilt and shame, it is what the cult does best.
In the video she said that she still opposes pornography.
@@Grumpollion The cult is still in her head…
Pornography is a sin according to the Bible.
@@lubago I don’t believe in the Bible
Dating but hoping your marriage will get better?
That seems super fast.
What if Christianity is as false as Mormonism ?
Im so happy for you and the kids. Hopefully CJ can find happiness someday and get whatever it is he is looking for.❤❤❤❤
I have been wondering what was happening. I’m glad you are happy. We can now get to know the real you… only better.❤️
I would like to add. I love your daughters name. My sir name came from the Dublin Wexford area. Ireland is an amazing name. Secondly welcome to the Christian faith and step away from organized religion. If your ever struggling read the New Testament in 40 days. It helps I do not understand why. Yet I have done it several times and it answered what I needed to know. God Bless
It sounds like you are doing really well and have thought things out. I’m glad you are going to counseling and powering through major issues. I don’t understand how CJ can choose other women and pornography and take his children to LDS Sunday worship and support you in such a positive way. To me that is a red flag and he needs intensive therapy. I don’t think he is happy with the choices he has made. You have done lots of work to get to where you are now. Keep going strong and I always have something decadent, Double Chocolate Raspberry Chocolate Chunk Ice cream when I make major life decisions. Sending support to you ❤️💜
IF you are going to go the full length of learning about the history of mormonism, you cannot deny the issues with Christianity itself, you need to go further and learn about history of christianity and historical Jesus and all the issues there.
I'm pretty sure she will when she realizes it. One thing I think is safe to say she is uboundantly honest about what she learns about religion and her personal journey.
I’m sure it’s annoying to keep seeing these comments...but really, slow down. Don’t be in such a hurry to get with someone else. Get through the divorce. Let yourself heal before you hurry and move on to someone else. Your kids and future self will thank you.
Have you ever seen the episode of How I Met Your Mother entitled "Oh Honey?" That's the only fathomable response here.
"Oh, honey."
exactly
I could be mistaken but I swear her parent’s divorced at some point. I think she knows what the kids will be going through.
Only when I learned and loved being on my own this part of my life truly changed.
I’m so happy for you! Thank you for sharing your story and I’m so glad you haven’t given up on believing in Jesus. He is you answer to all of life!
Not a rebound?
Well done on your move, the 1 thing to keep in mind is Stay Classy. The rest will be fine.
If you drink it reasonably achol can be very relaxing and enjoyable. ｡◕‿◕｡
Thank you for sharing, and I am praying for you! I see a lot of comments of giving it time, and I do agree with them, but only you know what “giving it time” is for you. Sending love and blessings from Johanne, Norway 💕🙏🏼
Girl!
Don’t let anyone tell you what to do with your relationships. If you’re happy with the new guy, it doesn’t matter. I met my husband two weeks after breaking up with a different guy and we’ve been together for 4.5 years now. I knew after only a couple dates that I was going to marry him. Everyone said “he’s just a rebound”. Nope… When you know, you know.
Same here. My now husband was a friend who loved me when my relationship was on the rocks. My then bf was sleeping around & physically abusive to me. I started dating soon after I broke up. I kept hearing how he's my rebound. He is now my husband and father of my 2 children. 3rd one's on the way.
I started watching your videos when you would make videos about church topics, and I’m still an active member of the church. Sad to see you go, but I’m happy you’re happy and that you found yourself! Whatever comes next, you can do it!
I am a single man who left the church. I said that I would return when I become a perfect human being just like all the other stuck-up wealthy white-collar LDS members who judged me as a piece of trash. I was a blue-collar worker who did my best to be worthy to enter the temple. But a domineering narcissistic bishop treated me like garbage while berated me in front of some of the decent members.
When I challenged his authority by asking open questions this cockalorum bishop was combative and treated me like I broke the Eleventh commandment 'Thou shalt not question the leaders of the church because they are top dogs with chips on their shoulders...'
Haleigh is back!!!!
Please hit the brakes!! Take a year off and work on yourself and your children, you have been through a lot.
Each marriage is different though. Just because you know what happened within your first marriage does not mean you can predict what will happen within a second marriage. Each person is so different, the disagreements will be different, their actions will be different, the compromises will be different.
I’m happy that your life is headed in a good direction. You deserve all the best in life!
I knew Jesus had a hold of your heart strings, I could see it everytime you spoke 😊. Very happy for you!
What an unholy mess you've been through! But it sounds like you've finally got your head screwed on straight! I'm so glad to learn you are still wanting to pursue a personal relationship with Jesus (the REAL one.....sorry...I'm ex-mormon..). I have to say, on the subject of marriage, I, personally, would rather chew off my own arm than get married again, but I realize you are young still, with a lot of life ahead of you, so naturally you need a companion to share your life with. I really hope and pray you will finally find true happiness with your new man. You surely deserve it. God bless you, Haleigh, and please be sure to pray about every major decision you have to make, to be sure you are in God's perfect will for you. All the best!
You said the new guy is 180° different from CJ. Do not you think there are also things that were good in CJ but the new guy lacks?
I can relate with you to the idea of CJ giving up on you, that must be horrible feeling. I mean, it might be good idea to figure out his "dark side" and then decide if you still can live with it. Just to make more informed decision this time.
Sometimes, couples file divorces and then later re-marry. It is entirely possible that this could happen also here, but we just need to go different routes to learn before we are ready for each other.
I am happy that you are not bashing him publicly here. It is a sign of a grown up woman.
Older married people told me an advice when I got married that never talk your marital problems to your family members or friends because they usually hear only your side, and as a result judge completely the other spouse and start encouraging divorce. When we hear such talk from our family/friends for long enough, it starts to manifest.
BTW, I am having an interfaith marriage. My wife is a Pentecostal and I am a Noachide (I cannot convert to Judaism because I do not want to divorce as Jews and non-Jews are not supposed to be married with each other).
I said in the video that there are good things about CJ and obviously things I love about him. Of course the “new guy” isn’t perfect and I am aware of his mistakes and flaws. I was just pointing out the unhealthy & toxic & incompatible things i had with CJ I do not have in this relationship, because this man is very different from CJ. Doesn’t mean there won’t be issues, just different (less problematic) issues.
I have felt the same when I was in a really bad place, prior to my divorce. I’m happy for you! Don’t listen to anyone in regards to your life, no one, BUT God. There is so much freedom in Jesus alone. I get it!
It’s nice to see you happy. I’m glad you and CJ are able to figure out the logistics of a divorce in a respectful way. That’s so good for the kids! People will say what they will and that’s on them.
Hi Haleigh. I watched your Morman Stories interview. It was great. I’m not a Morman (I think the LDS Church is up there with Scientology in cultish beliefs. Joseph Smith was a conman and no decent religion should ask for 10% of your earnings to be closer to God/Jesus). Your interview was fascinating to watch. Haleigh - you are enough. You are enough on your own. Why not take your time before heading into another marriage? Your boyfriend may be “the one”. He may not be. Take your time. If he is and you have truly found love again - I hope you have a wonderful future.
I hope you are finding a job btw. If not please make sure you two agree upon alimony and have it written in the divorce decree...
So many questions! Maybe some seem interesting or other watchers might be curious:
With the loss of a marriage or if men may come and go, what if the children could be impacted, and carry attachment wounds into the next generation? I wonder where there's information about healing the children's trauma of the changes in the family? Is there any good resource for if the kids think their father seems replaceable in their mother's eyes? Do you ever feel like you're on a roller-coaster, when eternal family was your most cherished dream, and now your earthly family is not staying as together as you might have hoped it would? And you're rebuilding again?
Lovely to dream again, beautiful.
I am committed to continuing to pray for you as my sister in Christ as you take this journey 😊 I really admire your courage to speak the truth I am so excited for you😊
I’m glad you found the real Jesus! It’s good to be with believers.
Remember not to overwhelm yourself and your heart. Good luck girl, happy that you seem happy!
Be careful with the alcohol also high in calories and harder on the liver and does effect your senses. Everything in moderation ♥️ Jesus loves you all ♥️
Premarital counseling , therapy 🦋
Haleigh sounds like she's already made up her mind that she's going to marry the new guy, plans to get pregnant next year. Wow, her kids love him? And he loves them? They've been together a month? And wait, she's not divorced yet? "I'll live in a new house when I get remarried." "I'm not changing my name until I get remarried in a year." Bet it won't be that long....I see absolutely no independence whatsoever here, despite the comment that she doesn't need a man to save her. I feel sad she has no autonomy. Wish she could take a breath and look around for a second. What IS the hurry?
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The patriarchy really fucks with people's development. She doesn't have to depend on a man to survive, to be happy. But in many ways, economically, our world makes it so this is so. I hope she can break free from this completely and find true happiness within.
@@LivingforTruthPBUH Patriarchy ? ?? Really ??? So she can't stop living off guys and get a job like most any other women ?? Some mean man is holding her down and the only option she has is to jump from one guy's bed to another. ? We can see where this is headed, 5 marriages by her 45th birthday..... Please do us all a favor and give us a break from your nonsense
Just focus on your kids and your mental health for a few years. Dating apps when you have babies? Calm down already. Get divorced if you need to but work on yourself and your kids instead of playing weird ultimatum games with your husband. That’s some twisted stuff that is not going to end well for anyone.
So happy to see you continuing to find your new footing and go for what you really want/believe 💛 as someone also living in AZ, I gotta say the west side is where it’s at! I love the Mesa/Gilbert area but it can feel very isolating if you don’t fit into a particular mold.
come on girl.... you were happily married 3 months ago. dont tnk abt having kids with your 4 week old relationship. it seems so fast.
So excited for what's to come for you!
So relieved you're away from that nightmare of a man. Glad to hear you're focusing on yourself and still in therapy 💕
I'm so happy for you💕
You know what is best for you and your family. Keep on enjoying your life!
You are so happy and glowing. God always knows best but as humans we fight him and cause us pain.
I am glad to see someone learning how to be their own person and finding joy as an adult. It's definitely a lifelong process. I wish you the best of everything!
Thank you for the update sis. Praying for you 💛
You are a beautiful person and I wish you the best. Thank you for the update.
Best of luck to you, Haleigh! My mom and dad got married young…about 19 when they got engaged. They are celebrating their 30th year anniversary, successful, and still head over heals for each other. Hope you find the same with this new boyfriend!
It turns out, if she gave the Bible and Christianity the same critical scrutiny she gave Mormonism, she’d also reject Christianity and Paul and at least the Biblical Jesus. That said, good luck and best wishes to everybody involved.
There are different opinions on this. I am ex-Mormon Christian, I study the Bible and am trying to go back to original languages. I happen to like Paul and the Biblical Jesus. Paul did say a couple of things about women that I don't much care for, But I believe that for the most part, he was a great leader. But everyone is different in how they feel and what they accept. Haleigh will decide for herself what she's willing to accept. She will learn a lot more in time about the Bible and religion, and will work it out herself. Everyone has the task of figuring it out for themselves.
Wondering is all the new women CJ is talking to are LDS - have a feeling the aren’t. Also, remember that a new broom sweeps the best but the new man seems like a catch. Got to get back on that horse!
Pretty sure that LDS women wouldn't date a man who isn't divorced yet. If CJ is having sex with women before his divorce is finalized, an excommunication probably waits in his future.
@@Grumpollion That’s what I was thinking and ironic one of the reasons he left the marriage was because of mixed-faith. Good, Luck, CJ!
@@dreamdisturber On the other hand, I'm not sure it's fair to say that CJ "left the marriage" if Haleigh was the one who filed for divorce. There's a couple holes in the narrative that we're hearing here.
@@Grumpollion Yep. That’s a whole other story we probably won’t hear unless CJ starts a channel. I’d be tempted to watch him talk about his Tinder dated and porn addiction. CJ Loves To Play Play. CZcams after dark. New Vids every Tuesday!