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- čas přidán 17. 08. 2024
- This is the scariest thing I’ve ever posted!! Please be gentle!! I love you guys, thank you for letting me figure things out as I go.
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Girl, having Shannon as a first girlfriend is like hitting a lesbian lottery jackpot. I’m so happy and excited for you and Shannon.
i think she found her through Fletcher lol ... she literally said Fletcher's music video was her gay awakening...
ikr!! lmao that's what i was saying
@@anonymouse0123 if you’re referring to her talking about meeting shannon on a set of a music video, she’s talking about zolita’s music video
@daniellemoonstar6947: She might want to work on not staring at someone like a creep for an entire day and feeling entitled to do so just because she likes them. It isn't like she hasn't been educated about harassing behavior, living in today's society.
@@derekg5563 i mean her staring got her Shannon lol, so i don’t get why you’re so triggered by it 😅 i’m sure she meant she was trying to make eye contact to initiate a convo. You need to chill
listening to a girl talk about what she likes about her girlfriend is literally the best thing ever
@slauthordraws3363: Being someone who can get approval to the point of someone calling what you're doing literally the best thing ever, simply by talking about what you like about your partner, which would be fun and easy to do anyway, seems even better (for the people in that situation, at least).
THE MAIN LESBIAN THAT THERE EVER COULD BE has me CACKLING
The moment you do “am I gay “ quiz is the tell lol
lollll
Right.. if you're taking the quiz that's pretty much your answer...
@TheRealVille why are u even commenting, do u really think ur gonna change our minds 💀🤢😂
@TheRealVille i’m aware, and the previous statement is still applicable regardless of who u were talking to, and why read comments under a video about a queer woman if that’s how u feel 💀🤦♀️
@TheRealVille so you choose to be straight?
I love that everyone was like "Uh YEAH no shit she's SHANNON BEVERIDGE" in response to you spiraling about being attracted to her 😂 She is truly everyone's type
Imagine coming out and you have an ARCHIVE of reassuring content made by your new gf over the last 10 years to help you and others get through it aww
I can't get over u discovering you're somewhat queer then starting to date Shannon Beveridge like?????? That's like going to Vegas for the first time and winning the jackpot.
Your first born (or next cat) has to be named Zolita now, i don't make the rules..
😂😂😂😂
More alisha
this representation is so important!! i am super feminine and only dated men, and when i started dating my gf everyone was super shocked, which was hard on me. it was the biggest transition of my life being out later in adulthood, but being on the other side now, its so worth it. im so proud of you and so excited for this new chapter!!
ughhhh yessss about femme queer representation! I feel like growing up I did not see any super feminine lesbians, so I kind of just assumed I wasn’t queer because I didn’t fit the mold of lesbians I saw in media. So grateful for all the queer femmes now for changing my perspective & helping me recognize that my queerness is more than just how I dress!🌈
@@bellebellebelle123 The majority of lesbians in the media are femme as are the majority in the community.
I just hope we can normalize femme with femme relationships… no one needs to be the “dude “- masculine
@@llebron9678 exactly
The teary “shannon” 😭😭
ty for sharing and for being so vulnerable and creating representation!!! you and your experiences and emotions are so important and the different feelings will come in waves. People, whether in real life or online, who choose to spread hate or negativity are not a reflection of the validity of your feelings, who you are, or who you love. Hold your head high. You’re braver than most 🤍
that shit ripped my heart out of my chestttttt 😭😭😭😭😭😭😭
that was so cute 😭
I teared up 😭
oh my god this comment is SO sweet 😭🫶🫶
It’s allowed to feel big to you, it is!
Every time someone steps up and says who they are, the world becomes a better, more interesting place.
The way becca talks about shannon is so sweet. Coming out is hard and takes bravery.
Shannon asin fletchers ex?
@@MBGeneration Yes, Shannon beveridge and cari fletcher dated 2016-2020.
@@anikarahman193 oh wow ok
The “It could happen to anyone!!” cracked me tf up 😂 as a femme, welcome to the winning team gurl 💅🏳️🌈
"shannon looked like a cartoon character" lol so true she is real pretty
She's stunning)))
Have u meet shannon?@@ekaterina6758
This representation is so important!! I am femme and bisexual, and seeing more people like myself come out and be proud would have helped me figure things out a lot sooner!! Thank you for being so vulnerable!!
Remember: missfenderr ➡️ Alayna Joy
The teary Shannon call got my heart. You found someone who makes you feel safe and a soft place to land through this journey. Hold tight, the ride can get bumpy but it’s all worth it in the end. My wife and I have been together 17 years. We had to work through her family the first 3 and they could have tore us apart had we let it. We put our love first and protected it from the beginning. Best of luck to you both.
"The main lesbian there ever could be" 😂❤
Becca casually stumbling upon the love of her life~ and it’s Shannon… so so so happy for you both. Shannon deserves this type of healthy love & so do you!!!💖💖💖💖
I've been watching Shannon for 10 years and I found Becca around 2020. It's been cool to see 2 beautiful and amazing women find each other. I love queer love. I love y'all's version of queer love. Welcome to the queer community Becca. We're so glad you're here and thank you for sharing your story
I am here bc of Shannon. Been a fan of hers since her early youtube days and of course I got curious to see who is this Becca she is now dating. Let me tell you, I went on IG and didn’t vibe too much with her content but this video shows so much vulnerability, honesty and emotion I can only say… it is all clear to me. Becca thank you for sharing this video. You couldn’t have fallen for a better person, especially in this community. Welcome to this particular roller coaster of life but filled with lots of laughter, joy and love. You got new fan here 😘
becca please dont think that just because we are in a more "progressive time" that it should be easy or not scary to do this! you have every right to feel any type of way, i just hope you know that you are incredible and amazing either way!!!! sending loooooots of love!
I identify as straight, have never had a physical relationship with a woman, never attracted to women AT ALL - but when I was 30 years old I met this girl who I was sooooo attracted to. Her personality, her vibe, her everything. If she had made a move on me, I totally would’ve dated her. It was very confusing to me at the time. 15 years later and I’m still thinking of her to this day ❤You’re not alone!! Congrats on your wonderful girlfriend :)
Wish you had made a move instead! Maybe find her today and try, if you still think about her. You never know if she thinks about you too :)
@@watzlowski I wish I would have too!! 😫 I was too scared. I’m happily married now, so no going back in time 😔
@@hoopgal3216 go find her please. She might be your soul mate. For soul mates, gender doesn't matter. There are many stories like this. Give us an update.
@@watzlowski you're right.
go find her please. She might be your soulmate. For soulmates, gender doesn't matter. Even marriage cannot stop soulmates. Also, you might just be a late bloomer. You might realize it later in life. You might just be influenced by compulsory heterosexuality - it's a real thing.
The MV she was talking about
IS ZOLITA's "Bloodstream"! ♥
“I like the wine, not the label”. So happy for you girly!
Love that adage
*The teary "Shannon" was so cute🥺 the internet ruined the surprise for me back in January but I'm happy for you both🥰💕*
Becca! This is so so amazing. To hear this kind of queer vulnerability from a girl who is “small town sorority girl straight passing” woman is so validating and I feel so seen. I love u and I wish u the best forever and ever!
One of the best things i learned in therapy is what other people think about me is none of my business. Takes time to really set in and practice but has helped me so much! So happy for you guys!!
This is exactly the kind of representation I need! I am super super feminine and felt the EXACT same way starting to date girls after dating boys, THANK YOU THANK YOU THANK YOU FOR SHARING! I feel less alone!!
Comphet is a real thing indeed. Many people didn't realize they were gay because of comphet.
shhh my novel has started
“I talked about her to EVERYONE”
That’s the situation I’m in. Can’t get this girl out of my head. She’s so pretty and funny. I’m so down bad
This was such a sweet episode, i've never seen you be so candid, plus Becca T and Gabby supporting u is super nice to hear considering you and Shan's story is so similar to theirs with their current partners (it girl starts crushing on it lesbian lmao)!! And obviously your taste has gotten better, Shannon's the best but i'm sure you know that better than any of us atp
I relate so hard to this. Both my gf and I are super feminine and she was in a sorority (we just graduated). Everything is perfect within our lives objectively, but when I think about little stereotypic intricacies like weddings, date events, etc… it gets overwhelming. Knowing that she’s worth it is so amazing and being wlw is truly a blessing and wonderful life to live, even with the little doubts. You’re doing a huge HUGE service to girls like me by coming out like this. It’s so so amazing to see “cool girls” be openly gay, it makes me feel sm more normal. My gf and I are sending love and we’re so happy for you and Shannon :))
as a late blooming bisexual who figured it out at 24, I feel so seen by your emotional reaction to being self-aware about your attraction to women!
...a girl? You're DATING
THE GIRL I LOVE! 😭♥️
same like i didn't expect me and Becca to share a gf but here we are
It’s just one big parasocial polycule.
This video had me in shambles in the best way 😭 I can’t thank you enough for sharing it. I could have echoed every single word. I’ve been dating my first girlfriend for a little over a year and still haven’t hard launched because of my fear of those who will hate me or see me differently, especially old (church) friends and most of my family. This mayyyy just tip that scale for me… so thank you for your bravery. It begets other bravery. 💖 I am so sorry for the inner turmoil it has caused you and I totally get it… but I also couldn’t be happier for you and your happiness. For the girls!!
In conclusion: we sould all be thankful that Shannon Beveridge exists!
Becca, thank you so much for sharing. I know it wasn’t easy, but this representation for someone who might be going through the same thing is so important. To call you brave is cliche’, but it’s true. I love that you love the person. That’s the message here.
If you took an “am I gay” quiz as a kid chances are you’ll grow up to be at least a little bit 💅🏻
And we love you Becca! Love the way you’re so open and real
i always knew you were too funny to be straight lol. thank you for being patient with yourself and sharing such a happy and loving part of your life with the public eye! very excited for you to experience your first wlw relationship girls are truly the best
it's so cute to see you talking about your crush and your realization that you like girls 🥺
welcome to the club
@TheRealVille it aint
I love how Shannon always introduce us to new people and amazing people like you !
I saw shannon at a renee rapp concert and she does look like a cartoon character shes got the best skin of anyone ive ever seen it doesnt look real 😂
She needs to drop her skincare routine because wth
you’re gonna help so many people feel comfort into coming out, so many things come as relatable and I am so here for it!! you’re the best and I’m so happy for you both 💗
I love that you candidly shared your story! I came out at 26 too! I’m a lesbian, but, I grew up very religious and dated men up until that point. Some people were surprised, some people weren’t. There’s no right way to do things and don’t let anyone tell you otherwise! 💕 Welcome to the family sis!
The advice portion of this podcast was hilarious.
The coming out portion of this podcast made me tear up. I’m so happy for you. Very very jealous that your gay awakening is now your girlfriend! I wish I had been so lucky!!
I think you guys might be the most beautiful couple I’ve ever seen, like how can two people look SO GOOD together🥺😭💛.
I needed this. like I think I would’ve died without this
"You're gonna be a man and be introverted? Shut up" lmao
I was 27 when I finally figured out I was queer - better late than never
that's crazy but happy for you
28 and realized the same thing…. Its so refreshing
@@elizabeth4689 I had been in a 6.5 year relationship with a man, so I didn’t really consider the fact that I was interested in women too, despite realizing now that I absolutely had crushes on women but I was in a monogamous relationship so I never thought much about the meaning of my feelings, I just knew I would get really excited to be with certain friends
@@elizabeth4689probably because straightness is seen as the default and until someone has concrete feelings, they have no reason to believe they’re anything but that
30 for me!
This is why it’s so important to be open minded! Sexuality is soooo fluid! If you like a person, you like a person, regardless of gender. Happy for you two!
Had such a similar come to Jesus moment with a hot lesbian & also didn’t know how to act. It felt like 5th grade all over again. I am so happy for you both. The people that don’t get it aren’t a supposed to and you’ll create space for people that do. Celebrate how fun it is to grow and evolve in new ways-us humans are always learning- and know that the best is yet to come ❤️
@@mckennahiller7048 where is she? Are you together?
@@mckennahiller7048 where is she now? Were you a couple?
Shannon singlehandedly lesbianizing the world for us. I think her ability to turn "straight" girls gay counts as a superpower.
Ehhh I get the joke but it really trivializes sexuality as a spectrum. Becca did this on her own! ❤
@@Anna-19928 I think straight girls are the only ones who have fluid sexuality. It's possible for them to change if it's done right.
@@Anna-19928 exactly, sexuality is really a spectrum
That sounds a little gross to me, anyone who can be turned isn't straight to begin with. Also feels like a man bragging about "turning" a lesbian.
@@thebatmanwhoposts9600 exactly what I was thinking
“Maybe I’m scared of conversations I’m not apart of” is so … just spot on. I never know how to word it. Which is so funny because I wanted to jump through the screen and help you get your thoughts out because you’re so genuine and so sweet, and I just relate to you and this and a lot of what you said toward the end. It’s a battle for just every day personal life things and letting go of those scares thoughts will release a weight so heavy. But, easier said than done, and all we can do is try !! ❤️🩹 SO HAPPY FOR YOU!!! Feel your emotions! You’re human! And so loved 🤍🤍
Truly, you're doing great. I yearn for the day that “I like who I like” is enough said. So happy for you, you're both wonderful.
OBSESSED WITH YOU AND WITH THIS!!!!!!!! Way to snag “the number one lesbian in the world” lmaooo died at that 😂😂😂
people may be talking about it and there may be articles but it’s because you are becoming the representation that so many people need. that you needed. your story will help so many people have life changing realizations earlier and with a positive representation of how they’re life might have changes but they are still exactly the same person.
This is so real and you’re handling it so well and you’re so earnest and sincere about it. I love this so much. You’re doing great. Thank you for being authentic and vulnerable here, you’re voicing things that are so relatable and real that not everyone opens up about.
I have been following Shannon for 8 years and she is the best.
Thank you for sharing your story. I cried the day you came out, and you made me cry again in this video. So proud of you❤
Same
I was my partner first relationship with a women! We have been together for 5+ years and still has not labeled herself. Don’t feel like you have to either. She always says she feel in love with human being not gender!
Thank you to all the young women living their truths. Your representation was exactly what I desperately needed when I was forced out in 1988. Yes, you can have a long, fulfilling life living as a lesbian. None of your feelings or stories are new. They just happen to be amongst the first to be on open social media platforms. I love hearing what my generation was able to carve out in order for our generation to live the lives we dreamed of back many generations before you. Your vulnerability and truth will touch lives. Thank you!❤❤❤
Thank you for speaking out Becca! I cannot even begin to explain how happy it makes me that I can finally relate to someone’s experience. I can totally understand the fear of how others may change their perceptions on you after coming out. Your experience is so valid and just because you did not know that part of yourself before does not mean it’s not you or not a real experience for you. I’m happy that you’re happy!
Great episode and so relatable. I'm a late in life lesbian and I met my fiancée 32:55 3.5 years ago. I've felt a lot of the same feelings that you talked about. I'm very happy for you!
You're figuring yourself out - don't be afraid of changing. At your core, you'll always be the same, lovable person that you've always been, but now you're coming into yourself. It's scary AF and the self acceptance is a journey. There's so many thoughts and emotions to go through and it's a part of the coming out journey. I can't imagine what it is like to live your life fully thinking that you're straight, then realize that you aren't straight. That's got to be a lot to process. Sending you lots of love. Glad to have you as a part of the community. You definitely struck gold with Shannon - welcome to Internet Lesbian Royalty lol! I'm very happy for both you and Shannon!
First off i dont know you very well. As a 41 year old male who just came out out june 1st 2023 i understand the nerves you have. I grew up trying to be who everyone else wanted me to be. I tried being the normal guy who loved only girls but i never was in a serious relationship. As a teenager some things happened that looking back on now were experiences that helped me become the person i am today. However i ignored some signs for over 20 years. Finally in 2022 i realized i was attracted to both males and females. I was so scared the first few months after i got honest with myself about it. Over time i realized that if i came out i would lose friends and probably family members as well. I also knew that if i wanted to be able to live my life and love who i wanted to love i had to come out even it meant losing friends and family. Finally on june 1st 2023 i told everyone in a facebook post i was bisexual. Most people were positive like you said they were towards you. Do i still get looks and all whenever i am out in public and wearing my pride clothing or accessories; yes i do but at the end of the day i am confident free and able to be my trueself. I hope you continue to live your life for yourself and love who you want to love. HAPPY PRIDE to you.
Loving this entire beautiful story 🥰 I came out 6 years as bi and eventually unlearned people pleasing and realized I was actually a lesbian underneath it all. Proud of you for being vulnerable and sharing this!
I recently led a ceremony in a celebration of life/memorial for a friend that passed away. When I finished speaking, I was chatting with a friend & said, “I couldn’t help choking up, the tears just came & my throat closed up, there was nothing I could do about it”; my friend responded by saying, “it is expected- eulogies are not often spoken without tears & cracks in the speakers voice”. You are being vulnerable & sharing your experience in navigating something new & life-changing (even being the same person you’ve always been, it’s still a significant experience that has a beautiful impact on your life)- as well as talking about your relationship with someone you’re obviously very in love with. So, in the words of my friend (basically), it is expected- you’re coming out/“announcing” your romantic relationship, acknowledging & accepting parts of yourself & sharing it with your followers, you’re stepping into authenticity, & you are allowing yourself to blossom. It makes sense that emotions are coming up & it’s difficult to express everything in a way that feels secure. All this to say: I see you & I’m proud of you, & it’s okay to be emotional. 💗
I’ve known that I was bi for quite awhile now & I still discover new things about myself/my sexuality to this day. We have each other- the queer community. We can be emotional & complex, & that’s okay.
missfenderr ➡️ Alayna Joy
I’ve never heard something so close to my experience. What you said at 10:40. 🙌🏼 exactly! I’m very feminine, only dated men and then I met my (now) wife. All the love to you, it’s an amazing journey and I hope you enjoy the ride 🫶
I feel so seen in this video. Thank you for being so vulnerable. As someone who is openly bisexual but have only dated men I never felt like I was part of the community. You’re always scared to say the wrong thing because you feel like you’re not qualified. It’s so valid. I am so so over the moon for you ❤
First of all, congratulations on coming out! The soft and hard launch was absolutely adorable. It was great to see you being so candid and vulnerable about your feelings (the happiness and the confusion). You are becoming the represtation to others that you needed. That is something to be really proud of. As a lesbian that didn't come out until 28 (while married to a man) and in a small southern town, it can be scary. But you're doing great and you will be ok, I promise. ❤ Those who truly love you will be happy for you and will continue to stand by your side. And remember that you never have to put yourself in a box or label yourself at all. Just be you. Be happy and enjoy life. You will be ok. Welcome to the family! 🌈
Becca we love you much!!!
Also you have not changes ONE bit, this cute little love story is nearly identical to those you've said about guys, just with a girl instead. You seem so happy talking abt Shannon it's so so so adorable 😭😭❤️❤️
We wish you love and support on this new chapter!!!
tbh this is so beautiful, especially considering you're both pretty feminine and you're what most people would consider "a normal girl" it's breaking stereotypes and literally showing that people can just like other people without needing to "change" who they are ❤️
You have great taste bc Shannon is one of the most remarkable humans out there. I loved hearing your story of meeting and thank you for being so vulnerable with us. Have followed you for about 2 years and Shannon for over 10 and you both are so deserving of a healthy love like this. It’s been a long time coming so congrats. It gets easier too so please don’t stress and enjoy the ride. Just take care of and protect each other first over anything else
Im having such an internal crisis with my sexuality lately, listening to your thoughts and how happy you seem to be was really helpful to me
One of the biggest misconceptions about coming out or dating the same gender or whatever different from the “norm” or what society tells us is, that we are different people and that’s the farthest from the truth. We are exactly the same people. Who we love makes no difference to who we are at the core. You’ll be okay and Shannon is great
You said so many of the same things I've been feeling and worrying about, and it made me feel less alone ♥️
Dating "A" girl? gurlllll your first gf is Shannon?? gahhdayumm i mean how lucky of you haha!! Anyway congratz on your new relationship YAY! ❤😂🤣
I'm so happy for you! This sounds so similar to my experience, except I didn't realize by getting a crush it just was a long journey of slowly unpacking my sexuality and trusting myself. I always felt confused about whether I was queer because growing up I never had any experiences with girls or had a crush on any, which all of my queer friends did experience. Then I finally realized in my early twenties (after questioning my sexuality for years), and now I'm pretty secure with my identity!
One of the best quotes I ever heard was..." STOP shrinking yourself to make others happy. Be authentically you. Let them adjust."
i totally understand the heaviness after the initial happiness and relief of coming out. i knew i was gay at 12 and didn't come out until 20. i was fine with it and was ready to tell my family. i thought it was gonna feel great but mostly i just felt exposed and like they saw me differently (even though they didn't). it took some months but i got to a place where i was soooo much happier that they knew because in the end it was heavier when i was the only one holding onto it
You care too much about the people whose opinions won't matter. If someone is a homophobe or hater, or unsupportive, it doesn't matter. Let them gossip, just be in your little love bubble and keep doing you.
okay but your advice is v accurate. all you have to do is make vaguely prolonged eye contact with a man for them to think you’re interested in them
I was literally gonna say the same thing bahaha. That is the easiest way to let someone know you’re interested in them lmao - lingering eye contact with a playful/flirty smirk or smile
Even though I'm very jealous that you found out you were gay by falling in love with a woman and getting to date her rather than heartbreak and spending five years on the apps 😂, I am very very thrilled for you. Shannon is the salt of the Earth and it sounds like y'all are in a very sweet supportive and healthy relationship! Wishing you all the best with your podcast.
She's bi, not gay
@@1985cactus I thought I already replied to this but it's not appearing so, yes you're correct, I meant to say queer not gay. Although you never know, for me it was a journey to discover I was a lesbian. Comphet is a biiiiitch!
This is so real 😭the confusion and talking to everyone about her LMAO
Truth is, you feel naked for a while once you come out. I’m glad you’re not putting yourself in a box - it has taken us a lifetime to figure this out. Sometimes it’s just the one girl, might be more than one girl. It’s okay.
*pretends to be shocked* omg no way 😮
In 2024, liking Shannon Beverige or Chappell Roan is pretty much lesbian requirement 😂
Welcome 😉
“You’re gonna be a man and be an introvert? Shut up” 🤣🤣🤣 literally!!!
lol I just got to that part and wanted to comment 😂
I LOVE how you’re simping for Shannon omg this is precious
BE SO PROUD OF YOURSELF! This is not easy. But we are all so excited for you 💜💜💜
I have exposure to very few female queer influences online, and I can’t describe how impactful it is to get to follow you and hear your stories, as a queer woman who finds it hard to express herself or see representation. Thank you for sharing 🤍🤍🤍
i never ever thought i would like a girl until i met one that peaked my interest (love at first sight as you called it haha)! i love how we have that in common
It's like the wine label analogy from Schitts Creek. That seriously gave me an "aha" moment😅
*I edited aha it's a confusing little sucker
It’s Ok Becca! You got This! Happy for you and Shannon! Be Happy! You are Loved❤️
Dear lord, Shannon’s ego must be on 10 right now. 💀welcome to the club girl. Give yourself space to feel how you feel. No one else matters honestly.
this is the first video ive ever seen of u outside of ig and this might've been my sexual awakening lmao
i only heard about you because of shannon, but let me tell you that i am so proud of you! i have been watching shannon’s content for a while along with ally hills, amy ordman, rose and rosie, cammie scott, ava capri, etc and i’m glad you are joining the iconic group! ❤️❤️
Her girlfriend won the lottery. She’s gorgeous.❤️
I've known I was bi since I was 13, but I recently made it more public than ever before by posting for pride on Instagram and I totally get feeling vulnerable and a little nervous about having your identity be so public. Thank you for being so cool and brave. We need more people like you
Do you know Alayna Joy? Are you experiencing comphet?
Haters will always be loud, but know that there is a whole community here to support you. The queer community is a family, and we take care of our own. Live your truth and shut out those who spew their negativity.
Not a man, but that comment about men being an introvert was pretty toxic.
watched once then had to rewatch with my girlfriend to show her. i appreciate you being so vulnerable and sharing, representation matters!!!!
ik you’re early on in your journey but i would also consider the intersectionality of it all! during your representation part i saw that you mentioned wanting more shows and people like chappell and rene, but there have been tons and tons of out, queer POC people for years now that they’ve taken inspiration from! For example, Kehlani, Victoria Monet, Syd, Orion Sun, and so so many more even megan thee stallion! intersectionality is so important in delving deeper and knowing your history as a girl who likes other girls!