Why You Should Relax Your Hair | Style Domination by Dominique Baker
Vložit
- čas přidán 17. 01. 2022
- Here is a solid case for why you should relax your hair. Got questions? Drop them in the comments!
What I'm Wearing:
Peekaboo Top: (Black) shopstyle.it/l/bC47I & (Coral) myshlf.us/p-290745 &
Total Domination Lipstick: (CAD) myshlf.us/p-290760 & (USA) myshlf.us/p-290764
Glasses: pleinlesmirettes-lunettes.com...
How To Moisturize Your Hair: • How To Moisturize & Se...
Join my Style Domination Relaxed Hair Society: / 2659872167604057
My Amazon Store: amzn.to/3pBNxT6
Follow me on Instagram!! / dominique.baker
Follow me on Tiktok: www.tiktok.com/dominiquebaker...
**Relevant Videos**
How I Grew My Hair 5 Inches In a Year & Retained Length: bit.ly/3A75AWt
How To Repair Protein Overload & Save Your Dry, Damaged Hair: bit.ly/3lXiArN
How To Use The Dyson Airwrap Complete on Relaxed Hair: bit.ly/3jWOUJk
Relaxing Your Hair At Home - What Worked For Me: bit.ly/3i6Nagj
Post-Relaxer Wash Day Routine: bit.ly/399jFoM
**Popular Haircare Blog Posts**
These 5 Small Things Are Ruining Your Relaxed Hair: bit.ly/3Cfv0CN
Is The Chanel Classic Flap Bag Worth It?: bit.ly/2Yl8Xw5
Deep Conditioning - The Key To Relaxed Hair: bit.ly/2xh7hWs
Relaxer No-Nos: Stop Doing These Things To Your Relaxed Hair: bit.ly/2Jqms31
Everything You Need To Know About Growing Long Hair: bit.ly/36w1tUS
How To Retain Hair Length: bit.ly/2lvdeJA
Thanks for watching!
Dom xo
SUBSCRIBE: / styledomination
BLOG: www.styledomination.com
INSTAGRAM: / dominique.baker
FACEBOOK: / styledominationblog
TWITTER: / styledomination
____________________________________________
I USE AFFILIATE LINKS
You as a customer do not pay more because I have used an affiliate link. Affiliate links do not affect you in any way other than a small percentage of the sale may go to the person who generated the link. You do not pay any more or less for buying, but a few dollars will go to the person who influenced the sale. - Jak na to + styl
People tend to have this narrative that a Black woman has to prove that she loves herself by wearing her hair in an afro. "Wow she wore her natural hair to her wedding." or "Wow, she wore her natural hair for graduation pictures." My Motto is: "If you love it ! Wear it !"
Thissss 👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾
The truth Is not everyone Is builted for the struggle of whatever it Is ...
But you’re agreeing with the narrative you said people have.
@@kiv_daniels Which narrative ? The narrative that I highlighted is people wanting black woman to prove that she loves her hair by wearing it in an afro. I'm unsure where you notice an agreement. "If you love it ! Wear it !" Refers to the topics that were discussed in the video.
Not everyone looks good with their natural hair. My face is so small I do not look good with my curls. I relax it once every 6 months and that's enough.
Relaxers aren’t for everyone, I don’t use them because they don’t benefit my hair, but I would never criticize another woman for using chemicals if it’s working for her. Thanks for the informative breakdown of the benefits of natural vs relaxed.
I went back natural last year but before that my hair was healthy and thriving and it was almost waist length. You can definitely be relaxed and have healthy hair. The reason I went natural was because I felt limited in what styles I can do(I don’t want straight hair all the time Lmfaooo) I love my hair natural hair now though
They break my hair off.
@@adetomiakintitan4980 exactly how I feel, straight hair is sooooo boring. I love love my nature, once I learn what MY hair liked, chef kiss easy to care for.
Edit - it takes me 2 hours maximum on wash day.
I've been relaxing my hair since I was 16 years old. When I turned 49, I noticed my hair was starting to thin out on top. I've always had extremely thick and dense hair, so this scared me, at first I thought maybe it was hormones.....I decided to chop it off and go natural. I'm 52 now and the thickness is back, it grows much faster and healthier. I , personally, would never go back to relaxing my hair.
@@preciliabuya5456 same it takes about that time too? I can’t relate when people say it takes them the whole day to wash their hair. I was always like whaaa🤨 might take longer if I decide to twist it(but only an hr and half longer) but I don’t do that all the time Lmfaooo
You very eloquently expressed the pros and cons of both natural and relaxed hair. THANK YOU! When I was relaxed I had short damaged hair. I’ve been natural for over a decade and my hair has thrived. I’ve heard the exact opposite from others. You have to do what’s best for you. For me, once I learned what my hair likes, natural hair is easy. Wash day is only 2.5 hours and doesn’t take all day. I do my hair once every 1.5-2 weeks and leave it alone. It stays moisturized and healthy. I hate that our community is natural vs relaxed. There is beauty in both. What’s most important is health. Some of my favorite CZcamsrs are relaxed and we all can learn from each other.
Me too, I hate that our community divided also. My own daughter turns her nose up at me whn I said I need my relaxer back. She went to hair school and she’s stuck on what she learned about relaxers being harsh. Smh
@@ancestorbackwithanewname They are harsh she isn’t wrong she just wants the best for you.
I like this video because you talk about the pros and cons of both. I think it's ridiculous that we, as black women criticize each other for selecting natural or relaxed hair! We should take pride in the fact that we are blessed with hair that is more versatile than anyone else. Acknowledge the beauty in it all!!!
@@ancestorbackwithanewname I feel like everyone should style their hair anyway they want without judgement
I wish us as Black woman can be more accepting of our Natural and Relaxed Hair, instead of judging each other based on our different Hair Choices. We should embrace both instead of being divisive.
Girl I’m natural and I watch ur videos all the time not because I want a relaxer , just simply because I think ur killing it , keep at it boo , ur doing a great job and ur hair is beautiful.
Yup same!!! I think it’s a beautiful thing how black women are choosing for themselves without letting society or even the natural hair community which I’m very much in look down upon and condemn them for what they choose.. freedom to be who you are
I’m natural and I feel the same. Do what works best for you
SAME!
I was natural and went back to relaxer after 6 years. My natural hair experience taught me how to care for my relaxed hair.
I am entertained by people telling me having relaxed makes me hate being black, 😆. I also had a male friend tell me that having natural hair is better for me as a black women. Hair is a personal choice and people need to mind their business.
Absolutely
Exactly
Right, we as black women are harder on each other than any white person could ever be, sad.
In the future if a black man says some crap like ask him how would he know about managing kinky hair when he keeps his cut. I think if more of there brotha's actually grew their hair out and took care of it, they would be more empathetic.
Lisa-you said something in this response that I can relate to. I been natural for some years now, 5 years to be exact, and lately been thinking about getting a relaxer. I been taking care of my natural hair for years now with no breakage, but steady growth. I know if I have taken the time to care for my natural hair, surely I can take care of my relaxed hair. I'm ready. Not rushing but ready.
You’re the reason why I went back to relaxing my hair. I jumped on the natural train and I really wasn’t wearing it out. For me it was hard to manage, and eventually it became extremely unhealthy. This caused my hair not to grow and stay shoulder length for 5 years. After relaxing my hair it has been super healthy. I wear less weaves, braids and wigs. Now my hair is bra strap length and super thick. We as women have to do what works best for us and relax hair works for me.
AMAZING! I love this for you! xo
Or you could get locs? They are a natural hair style that doesn't require much maintenance and you can get much longer hair.
Wow my hair is doing the same thing not growing I been natural since 2013
@@gothbat676 my hair loves locs. It grew like crazy but then I cut it off. I cut my hair every seven years it seems.
@@maudlyn25 Yes exactly! Locs are a perfect low-maintenance style that allows you to keep your hair as long as you would like.
If you’re getting haters, they’re just jealous of your classiness, sophistication, elegance, & beauty. Continue to block & banish them. Keep the videos coming - you are loved & appreciated by your subbies. 💐💐💐💐
that part
There is this ridiculous concept called “an opinion”. It is not based in jealousy it comes from life experience and preference. When a person discounts peoples right to alternative opinions and categorize them as jealously it’s shows that persons limited thought process and experience.
I loc’d my hair in December 2019 and it is now hip length. I have cut 6in. off summer 2020, because it was too heavy. I wash and condition weekly in the summer bi-weekly in winter. If I have a formal event I go to a salon for an updo. It’s an option that is not for everyone but it works for me.
Relaxed and natural hair can both be classy and sophisticated. Any haters of anyone is a problem.
I was just about to say the same thing, but you said it better! Your choice of words are on point!
Not that you weren’t already confident, but you seem more comfortable being bold and honest with your viewpoints, which is awesome. I appreciate all the practical tips you share Dom!
Thank you! Trauma and hurt really build you up! Lol! Thanks for your support - I mean it. ❤️❤️❤️
I love your content. I just turned 51 and have finally "owned" my good looks. I suffered from so much hatred in my younger years from fellow black women with whom I just wanted sisterhood. You are beyond gorgeous and an inspiration for me in beginning a fitness journey to peel off 20 pounds. Wish me luck! Keep up your great content, you really are killing it!
Damn. Dom, you are making me want a relaxer again. I like my hair natural sometimes, but for every day I want my hair straight without worrying about it reverting if it gets humid. What a life!
Awww! Thank you! My hair really loves being left alone! Lol. And I hear you. Many, many of you who are natural write to me asking for tips on how to manage hair in the humidity. I would trade this freezing weather for frizzy hair and warmth. Lmao
I relax my hair because l look better with it. I look old and hard with natural hair and refuse to feel bad about it! 😌
Omg. Good for you!!! 👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾
Lol. I remember when I was natural I thought I’d look younger- nah.
❤️❤️❤️
That’s interesting I always thought natural hair made us look younger
😂
Recently relaxed my hair, and I’m happy. My wash days are much shorter, I felt like I was worshiping my natural hair, I obsessed over the tiniest of changes. I’ve maintained some natural practices into my relaxed haircare. But I’m definitely relieved!
Listen. It got to the point where everytime i was combing my hair and I heard it break I would jump and then proceed to die a little inside.
That's exactly it. Incorporate natural practices into your relaxed haircare routine. Ex i still air dry my hair (in rollers) takes about day to dry but the moisture retention was EXCELLENT hair was thick and silky.
LIMIT heat i only used hair dryers right after a touch up. Every 12wks
Protective styling (buns) and natural oils and creams KEEP length and limits scissors.
Silk/ satin wraps always.
This is coming from 10 years of relaxed hair trial and errors.
Best of luck👍😉
@@carolinesalv thanks Caroline💛
@@Rita37739 most welcome 😊
I’m natural with no plans to relax and I love your videos because they’re well produced and full of valuable information. Keep them coming.
I texlaxed my hair yesterday! 😫
I’m no longer natural and my hair looks so good!!!
I let it air dry and I put some product in it and it looks really pretty.
I decided to texlax because I didn’t want to lose my curls but I wanted manageability. I can’t go more than 4 days without washing my hair and as it gets longer it’s very time consuming to do every few days. I used a mild relaxer. I’m going to try to keep heat off of my hair and deep condition once a week.
Like you, natural hair to me, is hair that grows out of your head and it isn’t a weave or a wig. Natural hair can be chemically treated (relaxed, permed, colored). As long as it’s growing out of your scalp, it’s natural.
@Allurah You're right. That was the definition of natural hair for all these years. Natural hair for every human, even when they get a chemical process, still means hair that grows out of your head. Then along came the natural hair nazis within the Black community and they changed it to mean whatever suits their ego.
As someone with unprocessed hair, it's annoying to see self-proclaimed naturals being abusive to other self-proclaimed naturals and duking it out on social media platforms, all because one natural who colored their hair and still has 4c coils 'dared to call herself natural'. Grown ups losing their minds over hair styles, as if there aren't other issues to be prioritised. SMH.
@Trinity M Read my second sentence. I’m not claiming to be natural nor do I care about the natural community. I like the videos on how to care for natural hair but at the end of the day, I do what I want to do. I don’t have time living up to the expectations or standards of others. I went natural because I thought it would be healthier. However, based on my experience and my own personal philosophy on the matter, healthy hair depends on how well it is cared for, whether chemically treated or natural and without chemical treatment.
@Kay Ade I agree with you! I am always changing my look and trying to reinvent my style. For me, it’s about what my current style is at the moment and my hair is a reflection of whatever look I’m going for. I’ve been shaved bald, TWA, Bone straight relaxed, colored, bleached etc. You name it! 🤣
@Trinity M I personally think it's wrong to not include relaxed hair as a natural hair. It's a wrong term to say it's not natural, in African countries we call it virgin hair vs relaxed hair but we day both of them are natural hair from the scalp
I was a naturalista my whole life, but then I got busier and busier, and tired of spending an entire day or sometimes a weekend on my hair. I did texture release, which is somewhere in between, and my way of testing out life with straightened hair. So far so good. Getting ready in the morning is so easy!! I'll decide if I relax my hair probably next year.
Everything you said I went through and so glad I relaxed my hair. I couldn't manage the natural state any longer. Thank you for this video I am encouraged to stay relaxed!!
YEESSSSSSSSS❤❤❤ people ain't understanding they don't have to take care of your hair or realize the changes we go through to take care of it, especially the men.
I just relaxed my hair today after 7 years natural and I feel free! I was tired of not being able to really style it the way that looks good for my features ( in my opinion) I will say going natural will help me to take better care of it relaxed. I never deep conditioned or moisturized my hair when I was relaxed before but now It’s definitely going to be in my new regimen.
My 2 cents not to you Dom but to the world. My relaxed hair IS natural. I naturally grew it from my natural head with the natural foods I eat. You know whats not natural... make up, acrylic nails, lashes, high heels cause you not that tall. And yes, I wear all of that fake stuff too, but my hair is F$×#ing natural.
I LOVE THIS. ❤️🔥❤️🔥❤️🔥❤️🔥❤️🔥
Agree 100% Sick of the hypocrisy and politics around our hair. I'm not relaxed, but I love her channel because she's so classy and gorgeous.
Yes!
What’s natural about putting a chemical on your hair? Researchers have done autopsies on black women that relaxed their hair and found a green substance on their brain. Black women that didn’t relax their hair was void of that substance.
Lol relaxed hair is not what your hair looks like naturally
Thank you for sharing this! I wore relaxers from age 6 to 23. From 16 to 23 I only relaxed my hair 2x a year. So it was easy to transition to natural for me. I have now been natural for 11 years. But Im a lazy natural and I dont fall for all the hype with products etc. I also dont judge those who relax. People can do what they want. You are awesome and keep doing you!
Honey this is my sign to get it together....my relaxer and me. I am a busy mom with three kids and my natural hair takes a lot of time. Never worry about the negative fragrance, the wind will blow it somewhere else. Stay blessed.
I feel you mum of 3 aswell trying to sort out my natural hair while my 1 year old is screaming is too stressful 🤣
Yes your hair is thriving! I really got upset at one of the negative messages that you disclosed in a short! I never realize how much of a target you can be on social media.
You have such a positive attitude that I would never know if you hadn't mentioned it.
Thank you for being YOU! And, yes, we are beautiful.
Thank you so much! People are so cruel. It’s doubly hurtful when it’s a fellow Black woman making fun of how you look or what you wear. Thanks for the kind words and support. 💜
@@StyleDomination Just remember and always remain peaceful and in prayer because jealousy is dangerous. Love ya girl. ❤️❤️❤️
Im natural but loving this video. I really love how you are trying to help people change their mindset of worrying about what others think about their hair. I just love how you are supportive of both sides. 💗
I was natural three times over the past ten years and hated it every time. I just thought I Had to be natural because everyone else was. I would heat train and fail, tried keratin treatment at home- rubbish. but going back to relaxers was awesome this 4th time around- and I finally realized this is how I like my hair 😄
I tried so many times to transition from relaxers back to natural, rightnow it’s going on about a year and a half since my last relaxer, but I noticed my hair sheds a lot during this transition. But when am relaxed my hair seem more healthier and grow longer. So back to getting a relaxer.
I’ve had success either way. Both natural and relaxed. I do understand feeling like you have to do it cause everyone else goes. It’s a huge commitment with tons of work that I just don’t feel like doing, so I decided to relax. I still enjoy braid outs and twist outs and etc. so I definitely embrace a textured look, it’s just more manageable.
I related to everything you put on that list which is why I went back to relaxers!! I listened to bw say relaxers are this and that, but hey, THEY DONT HAVE MY HAIR!! I was relaxed for about 20 years and my hair thrived 🤷🏽♀️ it works for me. I love when you post yay!!!
Haha! Thank you! People should spend less time judging and more time taking care of their own hair. Lol!!!
I’m natural and it takes me 1.5 - 2 hrs to do my hair, the same as when I was relaxed. What’s interesting for me is I Always wanted curly hair and never knew I had it. So sad. I love my natural hair and would never shame or bash anyone who wants to wear their hair relaxed. I think both are beautiful. Wear it the way you like it. Whatever makes you feel beautiful. Be your BeYouTFul self. Period.
I’ve been natural for almost 15 years and loc’d for 2.5 years. I say: do what works for you (natural, relaxed etc). Your hair is beautiful!
This is so great! You not only talked about the benefits of relaxed hair but also encouraged natural hair women to be proud of their hair.
There’s pressure from both sides and you are right in that it’s about being your best. Be blessed.
I am natural and i love it. But i am glad someone eventually made this video.
There are a lot of unnecessary pressure in the black hair community on people going natural. It makes sense that we are trying to preserve our heritage and embrace ourselves but what if you cannot handle the stress, pain and devotion that comes with it? Then you get painted as the black sheep and say you hate yourself. I love every bit of this video and i hope other people that are struggling with being natural but are scared of societal critics get to make peace with themselves and learn that your hair doesn't define you.
I didn’t do it for like 3 years and it was so unmanageable just started again and I don’t regret it my hair is very thin not like most mixed people it works a lot better with heat and chemicals natural hair was so damaging for me your hair is so beautiful ❤
I stopped relaxing my hair because it made me feel as though I was appropriating. I never want to give anyone the impression that I hate myself or that I want to be something other than a black woman. I love being black and I feel that people respect the fact that I accept and feel comfortable with myself. I appreciate that everyone has a choice and many chose to relax and silk press. I am most comfortable with how my hair feels in its natural form when it grows out of my scalp. The people who are offended by my natural hair is always other black women. Bottom line we have to do what makes us feel whole and complete no matter what others think.
I'm loving my hair natural. I have no problem with those who want to keep theirs relax. However I have found that others want me to have relaxed hair and get so up set with me to the point were they don't want to be seen with me. I even had a stylist lie to me about getting a keratin treatment and saying it's not a chemical but a protein treat and it would make my hair more manageable. She even went as far as to set up me an appointment and said she would cut my hair in a style I didn't want. We all should have a choice on what makes us happy.
@@annalishagoring yes I think it's because we are all looked downed on by so many people why some feel that way
i find it strange that other races can do what they please with their hair but for some reason when black women explore things like perms, jeri curls, and experimenting with their texture suddenly it’s “appropriating” or “self hatred”
@@Diamond-db3fx exactly.
You can look at it another way. There are many Black people in Africa with naturally straight hair. So straight hair can also be a Black trait.
I like how happy you are delivering this topic😊. I am feeling a "haters go hang" vibe. Go Dom. You are awesome.
I went relaxed last year after binge watching you and its the best decision i ever made😁
Oh my! THIS comment makes it all worthwhile. Girl - I am so tired of these loser haters. I had one publicly light me up for an outfit I wore - was really rude and then ended her nasty comment with “Love you!” BLOCK. DELETE!
I love this video! I tried getting relaxers but I didn’t like how they felt or how it looked on me to have straight hair all of the time. Natural hair frames my face better. Like your mentioned, it’s SO important to live life. I couldn’t subscribe to wash DAYS let alone not going out because of my hair. It took time but I learned how to work with my natural hair and now it just feels like a part of me, like skin care of body care. I love your energy, I’m definitely subscribing!
I can for the first time truly take care of my hair
Wash days aren’t long and tiring
I can comb through my hair and not break my combs
I retain length because I can easily see where I need to trim
The weather no longer dictates my hair for the day or week
I feel absolutely great and proud of my hair
It’s healthy strong and beautiful
Never going back
My relaxed hair is thriving because of you! ❤ You taught me about protein overload, and from that point on, my hair is thriving!
Thanks Dom 👏🏾 I have been relaxed since 12 and I always take care of my hair. Do what makes you happy 💇🏾♀️ i go to the salon and wash it myself because I workout 5 times a week 👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾
Sallyann - we are on the same page. Love it! ❤️❤️❤️
My husband was begging me to go blonde. I am no way close to being blonde. I am olive tone, with curly brown hair, and facial features (nose, lips, eyes) that do not resemble Anglo Saxonism. I gave in and bleached my hair (I spoke to a great hair dresser and she refused to bleach my hair) I bleached my hair in another country. My hair was so tangled and dry that I fought with my husband. Never again, I love everything about myself. If he wants a blonde then he should go to Sweden and get him a wife there.
Oh how I love your videos and the way you handle trolls!! I relaxed my hair last year after being natural for 5 years😩 It was way too much for me. I didn’t feel “put together” (just my experience) when I wor my 3c/4a hair. My relaxed hair is so much easier to manage. I LOVE IT.
So giving you a virtual standing ovation! You are spitting the facts as we used to say back in the day! Confidence is key, no matter how you do your hair, if you don't own the look it will own you and nobody has time for that. Knowledge or at least access to a person with knowledge will be essential. CZcams is a great resource just don't try all you see, do a bit more research and buy quality over quantity. To paraphrase Lizzo and T Swift Haters gonna do what they do, hate. Take heed of my boy JZ and just dust that sh#% off your shoulder. You look great so of course you must hate yourself! LMAO isn't it funny how that works. My confidence at 46, okay 45 and 10 months is higher than it was at 25. My relaxed hair is longer and healthier than ever, still have my 6-pack abs, my skin is on point and I have to coin to dress my ass off! I know what works for me and everyday I walk every inch of my 6ft body like I am back on the runway!
Oh God. You’re my shero. I love this so much. YOU are spitting hot facts!!!! Thank you so much for watching and thank you so much for supporting!
Yesss, sis!
👏👏👏
Yesss 👧🏾
🙌🏾🙌🏾🙌🏾
Thank you! I'm a straight haired natural and I'm not about to pretend I like to wear my hair coily...I just don't.🤷🏾♀️ I straighten my hair and I'm free for the next 2 weeks. I don't have to spend hours moisturizing and detangling in between washes. This is a good compromise for me. Great video!
I just cut off bra strap length locs. I am looking forward to RETURNING to my bra strap length RELAXED hair. My natural hair journey has been put to bed and I have never been more happy!
Yes you kept it so real in this video! I loved the points about how much time we spend on our hair and letting it get in the way of living. We all don't have all day to do our hair, I am relaxed now and spend 3 hours on wash day. Even that some days I don't want to do so being natural is not for me either at this point in life. I also appreciate that you did not diminish natural hair, it just as beautiful. I love all black hair but we have so many options, all women should do what works for them without judgment
Beautiful comment, Corine! Agree 100%! Means a lot that you took the time to watch!
I have been natural over 10 yrs and managed to grow healthy, waist length hair✨ But like you mentioned, there's a learning curve and it took me all that time to figure out what was best for my hair. With relaxed, and natural hair it's all about learning what's best for your hair💯 Your hair is beautiful by the way❤️
I just relaxed my hair for the first time in 10 years to combat breakage. My hair was breaking excessively and it wasn't due to diet, hormones, heat, chemicals, weaves and over manipulation. The breakage was due to knotting that naturally occurs in kinky hair. Examination of my hair revealed multiple tiny knots at breakage points. I figured get rid of the knots, get rid of the breakage. I'm not kidding when I say, that after perming my hair the breakage immediately stopped. My hair is more manageable, more receptive to moisture and shinier. I used ORS perm making sure to follow the instructions. Often times when perming goes wrong, people fail to simply follow the instructions. I'm very satisfied with my results and will continue to perm my hair in the future.
Hi Dom. I just turned 68 today. Don't look it one bit (wow). My hair is natural. When stretcher out, it is just below bra strap length. My hair strands are thinned from years of medication (hbp). All and all there is quite a bit of density. Since it is very fine It is a tangled mess when washed. The shrinkage is real. I used to do relaxes when my stands were much thicker. I have also decided not to color it any more. Its like I don't need excess chemicals absorbed in my scalp. Great vid. 💝
I went natural in 2010 because I couldnt take care of my hair. Went back to relaxers in 2016 and im never going back. I’m the only relaxed person I know and I have been shamed but idc I proudly discuss relaxing my hair and my hair wants to be straight.
Hmmm, this is one thing I love about relaxed ladies. No insulting naturalistas. Keep it up Dom, doing a great job. I honestly don't understand why someone will tell you natural hair is best for me or that relaxed hair is best for me. Let me make the choice myself. But no, all I see is naturalistas trying to force it on everyone, even to the point of using such horrible words. I am glad you made this video to prepare those who will like to have their hair relaxed after being natural for a while. I went natural for about 3 years before I relaxed my hair again. This was because wash days days were a nightmare. It was so draining. I relaxed again in 2018 and have been relaxed since then.
Please do a winter hair care routine. I live in Canada as well and I honestly don’t know how to combat the harsh winter. This is the only thing that’s keeping me from relaxing at the moment. I am natural now but it’s always hidden beneath braids.
Will do. I have some tips that will help us northern girls out. LOL! xo Stay warm!
I live in Canada too... I recently relaxed my hair and I am loving this relaxed life.
I'm a firm believer in letting people do what works for them. Love this channel already and you gained a new subscriber!!
I’ve been relaxing my hair since I was old enough to go to school, I’m 20 now and it just works for me, I tried going natural and I just can’t. Plus I prefer straight hair anyways always have. My hair is waist length and it’s the healthiest it’s ever been in my entire life
Thank you for your honesty and transparency ! This came at the right time ❤️ Love your content
I texterize my hair five months ago, because I was tired, my natural hair was taking me two days. Even though I had a bad experience with the stylist that did my hair, I’ve decided to do it myself. I’m loving the freedom. I love all what your saying.
Good for you! Thrilled you’re following your heart!
First and foremost, you always look so amazing. Secondly, I love this so much!
Sometime last year, I attempted to transition to natural. I was 15 months into it. Literally my hair was half curls and half straight. I loved the way my curls felt and looked....when wet.
But once it dried, nope! Tangles and frizz galore! None of the products I tried moisturized my hair. I was spending too much money, lol.
More importantly, my self esteem was so low. I had so many bad hair days and I didn't feel pretty at all. I looked and felt so unkempt.
My hair is healthiest and most manageable when relaxed. Thank you so much Dom for your wisdom! 💖
I just relaxed my hair after 16 years and I feel much better, besides my roller sets lasts longer. ❤ 😍
Thank you for the reassurance.
Love your hair.
This is the reassurance I needed today. I have just relaxed my hair because it was stopping me from alot of things. So well said. Thank you for this 💕
This was a great video. To each their own. We need to get comfortable doing what works for us and allowing others the grace to do the same. I was natural for a year and I had fellow natural cheerleaders but I RAN back to my relaxer. Just like you said, there is more to life than dealing with my hair. I have no regrets! Thanks for the excellent, positive content.
You are a testament and my hair is thriving since going back relaxed after 3 years of being natural I hated the shrinkage only time it wasn’t thriving is when I didn’t know how to take care of my hair I actually enjoy my hair now good video 😊
Thanks for the in-depth convo on having chemically processed hair or natural hair. I love watching your videos because they are positive, have great tips for all hair types and you’re very chic and beautiful.
I’m natural but I do enjoy supporting my Sisters in every hair community. 🙏🏽
I relax my hair because it's easier for me to maintain and I am not one to fuss with my hair.
This is me. I hate fussing with my hair too. Relaxers just make sense.
@@StyleDomination Yes!! I also actively workout and I find it easier for me to maintain my hair in a relaxed state.
Love this helpful video! This will help many woman! Thanks for your honesty and good tips! And hell yes, love your self and educate yourself!
Great video! Thanks for bringing balance to the conversation. I have natural hair and I get a keratin treatment that loosens my curl pattern and makes styling more predictable. I don’t care what other people say about my hair. It took almost 10 years of being natural to ignore the outside noise. I agree with you Dom, when it comes to your hair choose a method that gives you the ability to feel confident and enjoy your life!
What a great comment. Thank you so much! I’m so thrilled you found something that works for you! People can be so judgmental. I wish they’d mind their own business!
Right?!!! 😆
I stumbled across your channel while looking for a deep conditioning winter hair mask. I enjoyed your perspective. I have super long natural hair that I maintain in straight styles. I have severe dry scalp and chemicals don’t work for me. If you can eat it I put it in my hair lol. Good job job sis for fresh insight. I won’t perm but I do enjoy a new view point on black women and hair.
This is a great video on the pros and cons. Black women are beautiful no matter what they do to their hair!
Hi Dominque in less than a week, you are the second person encouraging me to relax my hair. I have been natural for 9 years, cut it 4 years ago due to being frustrated and tired. My hair has grown back to that length I was struggling with and I decided to heat train it last year, because at that point I was over it. I love my natural hair but it is way too much. I don’t even mind dealing with the struggles but my hair does not even allow me to win in detangling, styling etc. Everything is a struggle and I never win. I literally spent the weekend washing, blow drying and straightening my hair and I still can’t easily comb my hair. It’s crazy. So I’m done. I have been watching ladies who are texlaxed and relaxed since then. I am done and over this. I can’t do the things I want to do in my life if I have to dedicate so much time to my hair in order to look decent. Smh
I don't understand this term that natural hair ladies use when they say "heat train"...you are damaging and frying your hair with heat, therefore you're not natural anymore. Your hair will be so much more healthier with a mild relaxer than "heat training" your hair.
You are a blessing in the sky for me on relaxed hair. It helps me and brings confidence in myself versus listening to what others say. Keep doing you and be blessed. 😇
Yes! I got my 1st relaxer when I was 30. I'm now 49 and still Iove my relaxed locks. Great video! 👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾
Loved the video as per usual. After 20 years of struggling with my natural hair, I am now a flat ironed natural and it's working for me. I do dread wash day though. Wash, deep condition, blow-dry and flat iron takes a couple of hours. You made an excellent point, I could never understand the point of people wearing their hair natural if it was always covered by wigs/weaves/clip-ins either...like what's the point? If your covering it constantly then you don't want to wear it and that's okay but why keep it natural in the first place? Your hair looks beautiful girl!
Thank you, Tracy! And thanks for taking the time to leave such a thoughtful comment. I’m making a video entitled: “How Not To Andreas Wash Day” - and I’m dreading it. Lol
I love that the video is about relaxing your hair, but you advocate for both nature and relaxed hair. 🥰
I love what you said about learning to love yourself before you change for other people. Where I currently work, (as a cashier) I’m constantly being judged. I’ve literally had customers ask me if my hair was electrocuted, I’ve had some customers compliment my hair, and I’ve had some customers try to touch my hair. Currently my hair is not relaxed, it is naturally kinky curly, and I think it’s beautiful because that’s what naturally grows out of my head. With customers being so “bold” it’s definitely taught me to rethink how I see myself. And at the end of the day I tell myself, “Joy whether they like it or not, you do, and you’re gorgeous so they can just deal with it” #Periodt
I ain't knocking natural sistas, I love ya'll for it. I have an issue with those being judgemental of us relaxed ladies. The main thing I hear is "you're trying to be white straightening your hair like theirs". No, I'm relaxed because it's convenient to maintain my hair. I was relaxed for the 1st 13 years of my life and when I got my 1st relaxer I did not look back. I had setbacks just like anyone else but I cut it off and kept it moving and learned how to take care of it better. I have seen natural sistas with setbacks too. How you choose to do your hair is your preference and your business; we sistas and we're all beautiful however you choose to do your hair. But I love the Domination group on FB and the ladies give great hair advice and supportive of each other ❤❤
I had really healthy relaxed hair I loved it. I’m natural now but lately I’ve been thinking of relaxing my hair again. I really love my natural too so I’m indecisive.
But I think everyone should go with what they prefer especially if it’s well kept and healthy.❤️
Update I relaxed my hair I’m very happy with it !
Love you, love your hair. What you had to say was spot on, so intelligently well said. It was well worth the time to listen to. Thank you.
Good for you girl👍 I just started my natural hair journey about 6 months ago. I want to turn back and relax soo bad but everyone I talk to about it is against me relaxing... thanks for the encouragement!
I tried to go natural and my hair did grow, but lately it started to be hard to manage. My hair hates shea butter products and argon oil. It's so hard to find products that don't have those ingredients in them. So today I tex-laxed my hair. It's more manageable and instead of the tight tangled coils it's wavy. I didn't have to fight with it, and I feel better about it. So, if someone wants to relax but not fully go straight they can try that.
I have a relaxer and probably always will.. I know so many people are saying they’re wearing natural hair ,but honestly I don’t see them. Maybe they are protecting it!!!!
I have never worn a weave or a wig and never will..
I’ve been natural for years and I know which products work best for me but it’s still so time consuming omg. I feel like my hair can’t handle relaxers but I love your personality and this conversation
Thank you, Kiara! It means a lot to me that you watched!
The pandemic forced me to go natural. I could never get my hair straight enough doing relaxer touch ups at home but could do all my other hair maintenance and had a regimen that worked great for my relaxed hair for years! I just started my loc journey something I always had in the back of my mind to do. I tried loose natural hair and I definitely couldn't see me doing that for long. Relaxed hair can be easy to maintain and healthy.
I just loveeee your channel. You are such a breath of fresh, non-judgmental and classy air. Thank you Dom :)
Thank YOU for being so supportive!!!
@@StyleDomination You are so welcome. I relate to you and your videos so much. There are so many women who are crucified for how we speak, dress and wear our hair; especially in our community, and I find you inspirational Dom! You are completely authentic and comfortable with who you are. Thank you many times for being an audible voice and presence
Thanks for the info! I am a natural hair lady but choose to style my hair with a roller set to straighten and smooth the curls sometimes! I feel like natural vs relaxed hair is something that divides Black women and wish this would stop! It’s an individual choice
It definitely divides us! The judgement is real!
Oooooh weeee! I love every piece of this video and can relate so much! Definitely have to do it for yourself!
Lovely video. Thanks for all the wonderful advice ❤️
Thank you for this video and discussion. All of it is gorgeous and people have to do what’s best for them!
I love that you give facts. People can make the decision on their own. Whatever that is, don't criticize others for choices that are different. We are individuals. Our hair is personal. We can celebrate each other and be right in our own skin. Love to us all.
Love, love, LOVED this video. The irony is that naturals often wear ‘protective styles’ with wigs and weaves, while relaxed women often just wear and care for their natural hair. 🤯 I think the terms we use are a bit outdated. I know naturals that I haven’t seen wear their own hair in months.
And that’s ok if it works for them. But the blaming and self-righteousness is extra.
I love relaxing my hair. When it was unrelaxed I loved it, too (sometimes 😜). And I might choose to grow my relaxer out again. It’s all a personal choice-not a communal one.
Thanks for being so transparent and for sharing how life is meant to be lived. Our hair should not control our daily decisions, and it’s so important to not let other people’s opinions manipulate the choices you make that are best for you.
I really enjoyed your message and how balanced you were! I’m natural for 8 yrs now and detest how much time I have spend on my hair some days. I know it very well but my density requires all the hours sheesh!! I’m thinking about becoming a straight natural or maybe sista locks. But thanks for your positivity and viewpoint. Your hair looks great btw!
I think black women should just do whatever makes them happy. I love both natural and relaxed hair.
I really loved your approach to this question. The advice seems to be rooted in self-love and appreciation. I also agree with you that it's about making the best choice for You regardless of societal pressures, influences and preferences.
I've been thinking of relaxing my hair for awhile now as I can't deal natural hair anymore plus it's getting thicker and longer now. I think this has given me that final push.
Great video! I love this!❤
New subie! I enjoyed this miss topic very much. I was natural for a few years but after having four kids I didn’t have the time to focus on my natural hair texture. Relaxing my hair was the best choice for me and my lifestyle.
15 years natural and never looking back. This is a good video and people need to be comfortable making their own decisions.
Thank you for the information you share. I am natural and love it. For many years though, I did chemical straighteners. My concern is a connection between the chemicals used and the fibroid development. I have read that the chemicals used for relaxing are dangerous to our health in other ways as well. Since I have been natural my hair has grown like crazy. It takes me an hour to wash and style (my hair is past my shoulders). Wash day is not a big deal. People should do what works for them. If it's natural or relaxed. Be yourself. Thank you for your info!!!
Be happy! Hair is just hair. If you get a relaxer eventually it all grows out over time. Your natural hair will always be there if you change the mind. So do what makes you Happy and F what other people think. Your hair is yours. By the way I'm relaxed and have gone back and forth for years listening to people's opinions. Relaxed has always worked for me and my hair grows like crazy. You have to keep your hair moisturize and listen to it.
Absolutely great job!!
Love it. You are so right!
Love this video, it's really a mater of preference and lifestyle. I am texlaxed and I love it because I use a great relaxer that's more on the expensive side ( Phytospecific), but sooo worth it, doesn't break my hair, and It no longer takes forever to style, which I love. Do what brings you joy and allows you to enjoy your hair.
Phyto anything is FANTASTIC. Love their hair vitamins!
I absolutely loved watching this video ty 💖
Love. Love your glasses! 😍
Thank you! I had been on the hunt for pink tortoiseshell glasses!
Honestly Dom,if the only thing that they have to worry about is if someone should be relaxing their hair or not,then they live charmed lives 🤷🏾♀️.More important,is what's in our heads not what's on it! Women should be supporting each other.I couldn't give two hoots about who relaxes their hair or not - it can look nice processed or natural- end of ! I'm glad that you rise above their emotional poison 👊🏾👊🏾
Thank you so much for this video. Very well spoken and put me at ease ❤️
I fast forward through the white background 😅 but I relax my hair bc I have thick hair I struggled through the natural renaissance!! Bc I love the curls but I made the decision to have healthy hair natural doesn't equal healthy so with that being said relaxed doesn't equal white alliance it just freedom to be whatever you want to be or do.. Peace Queens!
There’s only one thing holding me back. I have fine hair and when it was relaxed in the past it wasn’t thick at all. As a natural right now, even when my hair is straightened, it has more volume than relaxed. I’m still holding on but by my fingertips lol 😂
Aww! Follow your gut on this one. Thick, lovely hair is my jam! Thin looks a bit unhealthy.
My hair is also super fine so I only relax my hair twice a year so it helps to keep some volume, although you will really need to deep condition regularly and moisturize and seal. Also my hairdresser washes out the relaxer pretty much as soon as he puts it on so that helps my hair too to maintain some volume
Have your hair dresser not make your hair bone straight. Don’t leave the relax for too long on your hair. Also, limit the amount of times you relax your hair per year.
My hair is super fine, as I’m mixed. I got my moms hair and my dads texture. I use dry shampoo to add volume to my hair if I feel like it’s flat and has no volume. Because when it’s fresh it is FLAT lol. But after a wash or 2 it definitely is lived in and the volume kinda naturally comes back!
That’s what’s holding me back. My hair is fine