Coming Out: One Year Later ◈ Ingrid Nilsen
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- čas přidán 31. 07. 2024
- One year ago today I came out. Lots of thoughts. Lots of feelings. And I'm sharing them with you.
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Last year, I left a mean comment on your video about how you were just confused. This year, I am out.
EDIT: Wow. It’s been over a year since i left this comment. I hadn’t thought to check it but wow. i am amazed at all the support form all you wonderful people. Thank you so much! It’s been a learning experience, and I’m just so glad that I have Ingrid and this community to help. Thank you all so so much!
That is wonderful. Congratulations!
moving comment damn
congrats awee
wow
Wow. This is such a powerful comment. Congratulations on coming out
her makeup makes her look like a chocolate chip cookie n it's SO CUTE
after watching Ingrid's video I came out to my mom that I like girls
+Jana Katherine that takes so much courage! I don't know you but I'm proud of you!
+Jana Katherine wow that's amazing! Good for you!! ❤️❤️❤️
Amazing 👏👏👏
Hahaha
i love that you are wearing black and white stripes just like in the coming out video.
She is gorgeous.....
Her nose though!!! 😍
yup.
Gorgeous doesn't cover it. Ridiculously beautiful is more like it.
Welp too bad she’s gay, for us, for her it’s fucking awesome, and for us it’s awesome cuz we need to accept all people and lesbians are just fucking awesome too! lol in all seriousness tho she’s a role model for all people. She seems to be such a genuine person that you can learn from irregardless of her looks but rather from her passion and courage
@@benstark4578 aw that's so wholesome dude!!
"The most exhausting thing in life is being insincere."
dont you just love her shes so amazing agshsjsh
Here here!
so true
actually so accurate wow never thought of it that way
accurate af
the way you worded everything in this video was beautiful. so much respect for you :) x
Yaaaay! It's always so nice to see CZcamsrs support other CZcamsrs especially in a circumstance like this! Xx
love you Gabbie! ❤️❤️
get on her gabby!!!
love you Gabbs
My name is gabriela lol
You are a lovely human Ingrid.
+Gustavo Ortiz the vagina store
+Gustavo Ortiz lol
she wore a stripe shirt in that video and in this video, lol i found that interesting
SAME! I was thinking that, too!
I was about to comment the same thing lol
Why is it interesting?
She isn't fake crying in this vid.
+Sandra Tymczak Because stripes are straight... and she isn't... Heh.
Before coming out: "I hope nobody finds out that I'm gay."
After coming out: "Why can't anyone tell that I'm gay?!?"
same XD
Same!
Exactly!!! 🙃
Story of my life
yaas 😂
That's why I love Pretty Little Liars because they don't stereotype Emily with the way she dresses or the way she looks which really promotes the fact that lesbians don't look the same!!
Best tv show ever😻 Emily/ Shay Mitchell and Ingrid are friends in real life💕
+Mathilde Gjertsen is Shay gay in real life
+Aliza Hengesbach no she's not
+Aliza Hengesbach she doesn't label her sexuality but her last relationship was with a guy
+Sydney Girl she actually said that she's not gay in real life
Did anyone else notice that she's got a black and white striped shirt both in her coming out video and this one??
with all of her followers and working for youtube she is anythjing BUT poor. from the way you talk I get the feeling that you are not one of her followers, since you haven't even checked this out: she is not wearing THE SAME shirt, but they are both black and white striped shirts, two different shirts, just the same pattern. And what I meant by this is that it is probably SYMBOLIC, she came out as gay in a shirt like that, and talking about this exactly one year later, almost the same outfit. BUt you don't seem to have any imagination whatsoever, and by the way you talk you are clearly NOT one of the ones who like her, cause if you were you would've known that she has a big variaty of clothing, but have not overdone it.
oh my god guys really... she did it on purpose smh
my point exactly: on purpose = symbolic.
but someone just felt the need to make fun of me for observing it. and saying "she's probably on a budget and uses the same clothes everyday" clearly shows that this person haven't been a follower of hers earlier... anyhow, I just thought it was a cute symbolic gesture to wear a similar shirt at her one year anniversary as openly being gay
Charlene Stardust very cute
I was waiting for this comment
Wow, after 21 minutes watching, I would like to say, I'm not gay (my mums are) but your words really really inspired me so much. Thank you. I can be myself, but not as far as you can be. Respect for that. Peace, love, Merel:)
*20 minutes, sorry
Gareth Reus why do u feel sorry for her?
Gareth Reus yeah i dont understand why too??
Merel Nooijen almost 21
Merel Nooijen sorry if it feels rude but how did u born like ? I dont understand sorrt
I can't believe it's already been a year! You're such an inspiring person Ingrid! 💕
im in love with your desserts!!! 😍 😍
I agree
I see you everywhere you are so freakin creepy
I hope she does more videos like this, so inspiring!!
+Sarah Maliszewski I was just thinking the same thing
I've watched that video at least 100 times this year. Because that's why I am out, because of you.
Me too
This made me tear up.
Me too
Have fun in hell then ✌🏻️
+Wanderlust Dreamer wander on back down the rock where you live. stop thinking you get to condemn people to hell.
Hearing that you don't have a relationship currently with the majority of your family is sad to hear and I hope that it changes for the better soon, Ingrid! You're gorgeous and your nude makeup in this video is beautiful. Keep being you, inside and out.
I want to take a moment to thank you Ingrid.
A year ago I was absolutely terrified of doing anything for myself. I was making myself sick trying to be what everyone else wanted, and found myself miserable and in a constant state of anxiety. But then I found your videos, more specifically your coming out video. Not only did I find it very moving, but it inspired me to finally come to terms with my own sexuality and to start taking the steps to lead a life as my true self. A year has passed for the both of us and your videos have been like a friend holding my hand through the scary parts.
I am now proud of being a bisexual woman, working towards a degree in Anthropology, traveling with people I love, and doing so many other things I wouldn't dare do a year ago. I am finally living my life rather than just surviving, and I owe so much of it to you. Thank you.
The reason you were scared, and terrified, is because the Holy Spirit was trying to tell that being bi is wrong:
1 Corinthians 6:9-10, "Or do you not know that the unrighteous shall not inherit the kingdom of God? Do not be deceived; neither fornicators, nor idolaters, nor adulterers, nor effeminate, nor homosexuals, nor thieves, nor the covetous, nor drunkards, nor revilers, nor swindlers, shall inherit the kingdom of God."
Romans 1:26-28, "For this reason God gave them over to degrading passions; for their women exchanged the natural function for that which is unnatural, and in the same way also the men abandoned the natural function of the woman and burned in their desire toward one another, men with men committing indecent acts and receiving in their own persons the due penalty of their error. And just as they did not see fit to acknowledge God any longer, God gave them over to a depraved mind, to do those things which are not proper."
pizza pizza Soooo, are you a Christian? I don't think the previous post was cherry picking anything. It was quoting the written word of GOD. You do know that this life is short, compared to ETERNITY, don't you?
A Chicken Wing
I've read the whole bible several times but thanks for trying. Since five months ago I've actually come out as lesbian, and have never felt better. Think the spirit was tryin to tell me to be my true self ✌️
This comment makes me so happy. I glad you are embracing who you really are Eliza Singley. And to all the Hateful Christians out there. If God is our father, and God loves his children then why does he send the majority of his "children" to hell? Let people be who they want to be. It is there life not yours so leave them alone. Being gay is not wrong, being trans is not wrong, being bi is not wrong, being whatever sexuality you are is not wrong.
Im about to come out to my parents this week, wish me luck !
Good luck!
Good luck!!!!
good luck!! don't freak out. if they don't support you or if they question you, just remember to stay strong. be yourself and they will always love you.
Good luck!!!! I hope it goes well for you, and I'm proud of you!
good luck, and maybe they'll need some time to adjust, but dont worry
Broke my heart when she mentioned her family doesn't support her.
That's her family's tradition and belief. one of them has to accept the other.
+RetroKitty777 You can have your beliefs without treating your loved ones like shit.
+HalieRenee Exactly.
i just hope the one person she still has a relationship with is her mum. it would really suck to not have your own mum on your side.
The only way for someone that is anti-homo to understand is to feel the exact impact of what it feels like to be discriminated and hurt by loved ones or not. That being said, if they suddenly take a likely on the same gender, then they would understand.
You look so much like Maia Mitchell
I was thinking the same thing 😂
Maia Mitchell looks like her haha. She was here before Maia 😹
That’s what I thought!
i was thinking the same thing lool
omg her hair tho 😍
Hopefully one day people won't need to come out. you'll just be able to come home with someone you love and no one will care whether they are male or female. all that matters is that you're happy and in love....one day
one day.
one day.
one day.
is this a poem?
i mean, one day.
+November hahaha
Last year, I was one of those people who called you a liar. I never was a homophobe in fact I resent any kind of judgment and act against to who you are but later I realized that at that point, finding out that you are gay, I judged you based on what I see and I acted as a homophobic. I'm truly and really ashamed and sorry for being in the category of people that didn't support you and now I feel truly proud and happy for you because you are clearly a genuine happier and wiser person than you ever was. You are truly inspiring and you aspire me to be a better person from now on. Thank you for this, and I truly am sorry
All of this as an Internet fan of course I don't know Ingrid in real life
❤️❤️
If Ingrid we're to see this, she would be proud of you!
we need more people like you 👏👏
I appreciate your maturity and honesty in this apology. Kudos to you! People who are brave enough and strong enough to admit when they were wrong make the internet a better place, I wish more people were like you.
I can seriously relate to people not believing you when you are gay. My mother still doesn't fully believe me when I tell her about my attraction to girls. It does hurt to have someone close to you not believe you, but I'm learning that it's the most important thing that I believe MYSELF.
I'm a horse.
+Opie same
+Morgan Waymire I don't know why, but that made me smile.
I'm glad XD
Know family is found everywhere. Know you are loved by so many people, and of course, your friends( who can also be family), and I believe your actual family too. I hope they realize what a special, smart, beautiful young girl you are( I think they probably know this), and come around in a respectful, loving way. You are so totally swell. One Love.
I
That's horrible, wow, I'm sorry that the world is full of such crappy people. You and your boyfriend rock
Thank you. He told one, "She's more of a woman than you'll ever be." I didn't disagree. :)
I'm asking out of pure ignorance, but I don't get what being disabled has to be with being a "woman"? Am i missing something or the person is just completely fucking stupid?
It doesn't. Some people assume we're asexual.
Katherine Mortifine I know it's the disability. I'm in a wheelchair and they acted like I didn't exist except (in one case) to thumb her finger at me.
What I like about this talk is because it's not about "coming out" in terms of sexuality, but also about "openness" in a loottt of stuff like what she said in the video. Evolving.
Thank you Ingrid, I needed that.
*because it's not only about
I agree! What she said applies to more than just sexuality. I love how she said that meeting people's expectation is more exhausting than just being yourself, but at the same time it can be scary.
Same❤The video is as amazing as her❤
19:17 Pitch perfect 2 quote:
- "Sure, blame the minority!"
- "Girl, I'm black, gay AND a woman!"
Emma De Pauw women are not a minority
I hate my Life yes, they are
gidsmartins they aren’t, and I’m a girl
@@nicolodeon05 women are a minority because we continue to be oppressed all around the world. You don't have to resonate with that because of where you live, but many women today do not have the opportunities that men do all over the world, and it is ignorant to assume that because you have rights all women do
I cried so much watching this video. I came out a year ago as well, and you put every one of my feelings into words. Thank you.
It annoys me that coming out is even a thing like seriously love is love
"Mom, Dad... I'm straight." *gasps*
+Twenty Øne Chemical Phans not where i live. it depends on so many factors, like where you live, who you're surrounded by, how you're perceived/presenting yourself, etc.
I have sort of two friend groups, one which is way more liberal. It was so nice coming out to the liberal group cause it wasn't even coming out, it was so casual. We were just talking and I was "so there's this girl I really like, what do I say" and my friend didn't even miss a beat in giving relationship advice. Like it wasn't a big deal at all which was lovely.
People under 30 generally are pretty accepting. But you have to remember that the country is run by very old, very straight, often very homophobic people. Gay marriage hasn't even been legalized for one full year, and you're questioning the need to still come out? Gay conversion therapy, where parents force children and teenagers into mentally abusive camps are still very, very prolific. Gay sex was literally _illegal_ in Texas until really just a few years ago. Gay kids still get kicked out of their houses by their parents _every single day_. For the younger generation, yes, coming out may seem just like a shrug of the shoulders, but we live in a society that is still fairly hellbent on treating LGBT people like shit. You can still be fired in most states just because you're gay. Gay people are largely still not allowed to donate blood. Until just a few years ago, a man could murder a gay person, and claim it was self-defense because the gay person flirted with him -- and the murderer would often get away with it. A few states have laws against these kinds of legal defenses _now_, thankfully, but many, many people still think this way. Again, yes, younger people are generally much more accepting -- but the country still has a lot of people that aren't.
in some countries..it is illegal! still so scary for millions...over 70 countries!
I remember that day and just thinking "Wow Ingrid is so strong and I'm so proud" and waiting for the day gay marriage would be legalized. Which lucky happened not long after 💖
#LOVEWINS
+Shelbird :)
Gay marriage is legal
+Tehila Katri which she says if you actually read the comment.......
I see u comment on like every youtuber I'm subscribed to ha! :) from Alisha to Ingrid, and Shay and Aspyn, you're everywhere lol
I can't believe it's been a year, I was just listening to Rhett and links podcast with you last year and I came to rewatch your first one and saw this video! Congrats Ingrid I can tell how comfortable You are with yourself now compared to last year:)
Last October, you and some others on here inspired me to start coming out to the people that mattered to me. Since then, so much has happened, but through it all I've been growing and becoming just a little better each day. I lost friends along the way and had to confront myself about how I had been living ashamed of myself. But I'm prouder, healthier and more compassionate than ever before. Thank you for all you do, and know that your work makes the world a better place.
I will be 100% honest when I first watched your coming out video I did think "Oh she doesn't look gay." and I would like to apologize for that. Since that time I have learned to treat people as people, not a label or stereotype. So Ingrid I am sorry, it was an ignorant thing for me to do.
Same here
to accept this publicly is a great thing! opening our minds is not an instantaneous process, sometimes there are some deep rooted beliefs we learn as children or from other that are hard to crack. #different
I'm glad that you have made progress
We need more people like you in this world full of sh*t😄
Don't apologize
You feel very real here, more so than usual, when you're just being yourself without trying too hard.
If it's not clear from my previous comment, I loved this video!
+Lorna Kelso i agree with you 100%
ikr
Ingrid - your story has been so touching for me ever since I saw your coming out video. Your ability to put things into perspective that make them seem so relatable is what makes you such a great CZcamsr and human. I'm able to connect with you in such a way that allows me to have the ability to still explore who I am. Self discovery is still and always will be a continuous journey. Thank you, my dear. 😘
I can't believe it's been a year since you posted your coming out video! I remember watching it and getting goosebumps! you are such a beautiful, strong person and I admire you so much! 💗
i can believe its already been a year time flew by soo quick too quick
love you ingrid 😍😍😍😚😚
Honestly felt like she came out like, 3 months ago
OMG I can't belive it's already a year... feels like it was yesterday... SO proud of you!!
proud of her too!!
Same!!
This is such a comprehensive digestion of your year. Thank you for sharing this with us, it must not be easy being vulnerable like this, but I think, if anyone, I've come away from this affected and with new perspectives. And I think that's the biggest encouragement you can get from being so raw with us. So thank you. :)
Wow, its already been a year? Time flies.
Your makeup looks sooooooooooooo gorgeous
As always ❤️
YESSS she needs to post a tutorial on it
ikr!!!!!!!
9 days ago I came out to my family :D
congrats💜
Good for you. Did it go ok?
what did they say
amazing!!
Hope it went really well ❤️
You are such an inspirational woman, Ingrid. For anyone, not just people that are coming out. I think your words can be applied to people who also want to come out of their shells of being an introvert and incredibly anxious around other people. You make people feel empowered, which is why you are so successful. Keep your head up. Love all of your videos, I always feel comfy and cozy and like I should have a cozy cup of tea while I feel empowered by you while wearing comfy pajamas.
She is the definition of beautiful 😍
What what, it's a year ago? :O Holy bananas!
My thought exactly!!
+lifelikejosie Haha I thought it was like six months or something :P
+felixallover my thoughts exactly!!
+felixallover same!!! Damn😂
ikr
If you're reading this then you're beautiful and deserve to be loved and happy :)
I luv comments like this spreading the love Peanut Butter not the hate jelly
I love these comments!! everyone needs to hear this everyday :) thank you have a really good day 💓
I've been feeling really down about myself lately and this made me smile, thank you I hope you have an amazing day :)
you're hot ily
aw thats cute!!!
You're so sweet, and so wise... thank you for moving me and reminding me to not judge other people, because that is something that we should remind to ourselves every day. I wish you the best!
I'm glad to say I've never had to go through the identity crisis you have. But I watched your coming out video (pretty recently) and I was just struck by the level of emotion in it. It was inspiring and it was tear-inducing. So seeing this video, and seeing you so calm and happy and confident, it's beautiful. Not like it means much coming from an internet random, but I'm proud of you.
While i don't have gender or sexuality issues, i feel like everything you said really related to my struggles with my mental health. I let my anxiety disorder dictate my life. I ended up with practically no friends, terrified to go out and have fun and do regular teenage things, hell, regular people things like even going to a restaurant or getting on a bus with someone i knew. It wasn't until i went to therapy in my second year of university and realised that for 10 years i had allowed my anxiety to shape the person i thought i was, that i started to actually find myself. I surprise myself every day with what i can actually accomplish after i plunged myself into absolute fear and came out still breathing. Now I'm 22 and feel like i'm living for the first time.
(Sorry this is so long) I hear ya. I'll be 34 in July and I'm you before you found hope. I've never learned to drive, I live at home, I have absolutely no friends, I get aura migraine headaches which make my vision go out and they make my anxiety worse. I live in fear every day of having a panic attack. I dread leaving the house. Riding in the car my mind goes nuts, I feel hot, I sweat, my face is on fire, my hands and feet go numb, I'm nauseous, shaking like a leaf, my blood sugar plummets, I'm starving, my vision starts getting blurry, I want to scream and cry at the same time, and yet, we're just feet from the driveway. I have super sensitive hearing, so with that being a trigger for me, going to public places is super hard. I'm sensitive to electricity, so if I plan to go somewhere I have to make sure it's not near high voltage lines. I've gotten so good at hiding my attacks I fear people will think I'm faking for attention. The forced exhales I get when I tell someone that, "_I just cant_", to something they think is small is crushing. I feel I'm hindering everyone else's life. I've thought about just leaving. I mean, I'm an adult, it's not like I'm literally running away. I'm happy you found you. I'm hoping I do too, soon. --Ane
I really relate to this. I hope you're doing well and reading your comment has made me realize that I really need to start living life and to stop being afriad. Take care ❤
+Ane i totally feel that. Even now i'm super sensitive, the littlest thing will shock me. Honestly the only thing that helped was going to a therapist. I live in the UK and here it's free but i understand if you live in the US or elsewhere that it might be a lot of money but honestly it was the best thing i ever did. It taught me that my emotions only come from myself and that external factors don't have emotions attached to them. This is really hard to overcome but forcing yourself to do the scary things is the only way you'll get through them. I wish you the best of luck in your recovery and it's totally possible. Forgive yourself for your bad days too. Last year i went on a family holiday and on the morning of the flight i was hysterical and throwing up because my anxiety was so bad. But i forgave myself. I still get scared that something is going to hit me and i'll relapse back into how i was, but every day without a panic attack is a milestone for me.
+lazeday i wish you the best of luck with your recovery. Remember its okay to admit your struggling to others and to forgive yourself on your bad days. Sending all the good vibes your way.
I'm going through this right now and I've lost all my friends because of it. I'm really trying to learn from this though it's so hard.
OMG it's been a year already?! I am so glad your happy ♥
ikr? were has the time gone to?
That's what I immediately thought
Fucking same.
I'm so proud of you Ingrid, for all of the strides you've made this last year in accepting yourself and giving yourself and your subscribers and followers the permission and the challenge to be their best selves too. Congratulations on your year. I hope every year, you get closer and closer to your truest self
I honestly admire Ingrid so much for choosing to keep herself safe and happy by not talking to most of her family. There is so much pressure to allow your family members to get away with hurtful things that other people normally would be blacklisted for. To allow them over and over again, and forgive them. Family members can get under your skin in ways no one else can, and some can be toxic. When your family doesn't accept you, it sometimes feels like no one will. I hope one day I can also find the peace that Ingrid has found in herself.
Ingrid you probably won't see this but I just want to say your such an inspiring woman to people all around the world by being so confident and being brave enough to do all the things that you do.I think it's amazing that you have stood up for what you think and trying to solve many issues around the world and I look up to you for being such an inspiring and beautiful woman. ❤️
Pls keep being you because you are amazing no matter what anyone says to you.
I love this so much. I came out 6 days ago and your story really helped me💜💕
I hope youre doing well!
+Shona Allan I am, thankyou😘💜💕
Well done! I hope all is well x
+Hannah Egan Yeah everything is amazing thankyou so much😘💙
Good luck
Love this, and love the fact that your words are so universal. What you've been and are going through is such a normal human thing and as you said, we're not alone, and it's ok to be who you are... "All of it". Thank you for sharing your ups and downs and I hope the world is going to learn from such experiences. Society needs to hear about this!
Ingrid, the first time I ever saw you online was in your coming out video last year, and even from not having seen much of you since then, watching this video today, I can see how much you've grown and become so much more comfortable in who you are and it's so lovely and you seem so lovely. I really felt your personality shine through in this and I'm so happy for you even though I know so little about you. And even though I haven't had to struggle with my sexuality in my life, there are certainly so many other ways that what you had to say in this video felt so relevant and important. About opening yourself up to who you really are both to yourself and in your relationships, that's something that's been hard for me as well and accepting that your past selves are past and that you don't have to be bound to them or some abstract idea of who you are or should be. I think everyone has something that they've stuggled with, whether sexuality or otherwise, so really, thank you for this. :)
am I the only straight person here lol
No, me too:))
And me. ^^
Who's you pfp? Who does he look so familiar 😂
் Vidii ் Hoshi from Seventeen
Ur not
She's wearing a slightly different black and white striped shirt than last years vid...also is the background song the instrumental version of Aspyn and Parkers wedding video😂
I wonder if that was planned 😂😂😂
I thought that the background song was Aspyn and Parkers wedding video!!!
well youtubers use royalty free music that they dont need to pay for and won't get in trouble for, the selection is pretty limited lol
Omg 😂😂😂
you're just a beautiful person. Good for you for being yourself unapologetically and gracefully receiving the good, bad, and ugly of what life throws at you. Unpacking your own life story and sharing it with others is such a powerful thing to do and it spreads light in this world.
You made me cry watching this, kind of making me realize things. Im so happy for you and proud of you. You are an amazing woman
You are a very well-spoken woman and very empowering as well. Coming from a straight woman who supports the LGBT community ^ ^
preach it! (:
Bill Nye the Dank Guy trolling at its finest
No troll my opnion
ditto
Kirby
I remember watching your coming out video this time last year and tearing up at your bravery for even posting it! I'm so happy you made that video and I couldn't be prouder of you
I'm tearing up again at this video, your such an inspiration to so many people ❤️
Exactly :)
Honestly your coming out video was such an inspiration to me. It actually inspired me to come out to my softball team just days after you posted it. So thank you so much for making that video and being an inspiration to not just me, but to everyone who has seen that video!
The first time I found your channel was your coming out video, I loved your channel since I had seen your bravery, and that's inspired me to be more of myself instead of just keeping things in, keep being the real you
I just hope that someday being gay will not include such a painful self-acceptance process. As a human being I know how hard it is to embrace who you are independently of your gender/sexual identity. So I cannot imagine how difficult it could be when such a large part of society is actually convinced that your identity and/or the way you love is wrong. I can understand judgments about the way someone look or some choices because I do it too! It is totally human to judge. But we must know where to stop. We gotta be conscious that a) our judgments on other people don't matter at all, BECAUSE IT'S NOT OUR OWN LIFE b) that there are things and choices of other people we mustn't judge. Your coming out video made me understand how much I am close to the LGBTQ* community, because these people self-discovering could be extremely painful. After that video I will never ever stop to stand for you, because as a woman, but also as a human being I know what is like to be judge and considered wrong.
THIS!
So well put: "I just hope that someday being gay won't include such a painful self discovery process." I also sympathize with the LGBTQ community and I'm glad acceptance is happening on a global scale, I just wish it was happening faster so that the LGBTQ kids growing up now didn't have to have that painful self discovery process.
One day I want words like gay to just be adjectives you would use tp describe someone like blonde or smart. I hope that society stops putting so much emphasis on sexuality and just lets it become a normal part of life.
Yes, it is exactly what I meant. I already feel like this, I genuinely don't care about other people sexuality as I don't care about their hair color. That's why I know it is possible! And it feels much more natural to approach people's sexual identity that way...
I feel like the only time someone's sexuality affects you is if you're attracted to that person. Other than that, just love whoever you want to love.
and than the shooting happens, this week is just fking depressing
then*...
Thx 4 dat :)
yes :(((
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Yes that is very depressing , but this video is the opposite , it is inspiration and hope. This is anything but negative , even if there is some bad, but all over it is a positive and inspirational thing for others that are struggling figuring out their sexuality
I remember watching your coming out story when you first uploaded it. I was amazed by your bravery and courage. I decided to share my own story in hopes of helping others that are struggling as well. I was hesitant on uploading my video of sharing my story, but I know my story can potentially help someone. Thank you for being a voice in the community.
Ingrid, you are my inspiration.
You speak so eloquently, but with such raw understanding and emotion that I just--I can't. You are too beautiful..on every way possible. Not just externally, but soulfully, too. You're just great, m8.
You need to be a motivational speaker
In a way, She already is ;)
+Knight of Gascogne she's not.
Jade L
Haters gonna hate ^^ you're late btw.
I watched your coming out video last year and cried. I didn't know why (probably blamed it on my period tbh) but a week later, I realized I am gay. You were the first lesbian I ever saw and could relate to that looked and dressed like me. I've watched your videos since sixth grade (I'm a sophomore in high school now) and always had a mini (super gay) crush on you 😂 I relate to you in almost every aspect and I feel like we've gone through this journey together. Last summer was the hardest time in my life and hopefully will be the hardest. I was so depressed and riddled with anxiety that I couldn't sleep, eat, get out of bed, and would vomit from stress. I worked myself up so much just from the realization of being gay that I would make myself physically sick. Tbh I probably watched your coming out video 100 times over the past year because I learned something new every time I got through those 20 minutes. It really helped me come to terms with myself because if you could do it (cont)
why couldn't I? This year was the same for both of us: out first year being our true selves. It'll be a year in about a week or so for me and I'm so proud of both of us. It's sad to say, but almost a year ago I thought I was broken and wired wrong and that no one could ever love me if I came out. Whenever I had these crushing thoughts, I would watch your coming out video and skip to the part where you told me that everyone deserves their best chance (I'm such a baby lol I cried every time you did). I don't know where I would be without that video tbh. Sometimes it felt like you made it just for me bc it was so relatable. You're the first person I truly feel like I can connect and relate to on CZcams and life in general. I would really really love to see a video on femme invisibility and I would also love to be included in it if that's possible because I have lots and lots and LOTS of stories being a "hot" lesbian out in high school. Somehow I cry at every video relating to (cont)
+Ayala Ossowski being gay, and I most definitely cried at this one. When you were talking about the one thing you learned that you could pin down about this past year, I was thinking to myself "I would say that you should always be open with yourself and others" AND THEN YOU SAID IT AND I GOT CHILLS but seriously I relate to you and your views on everything that's happened so much it's scary. We both got our first girlfriends (I'm really sorry about your breakup, here's hoping I get lucky enough to stay with mine!!), and came out. The only difference is, you came out to the whole world and I came out to my school which is what makes you so admirable to me. For a long time, I didn't know why I was so sad. I didn't know why I couldn't sleep or eat or leave my house (I didn't for 3 weeks during the worst point of the summer). I was never homophobic and I was pretty sure none of my friends were, so I didn't know why it hit me so hard. (cont)
+Ayala Ossowski Watching this video, I realized why I was so sad. It was because I was mourning and grieving my past self. You hit the nail on the head yet again Ingrid!! Idk how you do it 😂❤️ After this year, I've been trying to work on myself more piece by piece. I've worked on being true to myself, then being open to others, and now this video inspired me to allow change in my life. I can never thank you enough for the wisdom you've granted me this past year through the absolute toughest time of my life. All's well now for me, hopefully for you too. I came out to all my friends and was met with eternal love and support. I just came out to my mom a few weeks ago and she was very supportive. I couldn't have done it without you. Thank you again ❤️
+Ayala Ossowski that was so long omg
+Ayala Ossowski Whoah this is scary how much of your story is identical to mine except I broke up with my girlfriend 😭. I wish you happiness with your girlfriend and I'm proud of your journey and growth in life. ✌🏼️👭🌈
What I love about this video is one, that you seem so much happier and free and open and I know that is almost exactly to what I said on your coming out video but that is what comes to me but the second thing is that it is so much more than a video about your sexuality but about person issues, addressing the change of intimacy, resentment, and lies you tell youself and pleasing others, and how things are changing, and it was just really so inspiring and relatable.
I remember when your coming out video came out, I was sitting in class and I was shocked, but I couldn't watch it in class and I waited till I came home, I was so touched that you are so brave to admit who you really are, and to discover the real you...
A year ago you wrote " we all deserve our best chance" so proud of you for having given yourself your best chance ⭐️✨
I fucking love this, Ingrid is the reason I came out she just pushed me and I knew how much it would change my life. June 22, 2015, I told someone who means a lot to me and someone who still remains a huge part of my life. This year has been amazing. Thank you, Ingrid.
Also, I love how raw and real this video is... You're amazing.
I was going to send you this. Love you
I'm so happy for you Ingrid! Acknowledging the good and the bad is crucial. I adore that you made this video because it allows me to reflect as well even though it's been almost six years now for me(and life has gotten so much better) but there is still work and "coming out" is continuous but empowering. Thanks for the vid!! ❤️❤️❤️❤️
Watching these videos where you just talk fills me with so much joy and love and makes me wonder why anyone could feel hate towards someone because of how they sexually identify. Thank you for your amazing advice and down to earth chatter. You are wise beyond your years xxx
It's crazy to thing how much Ingrid has changed since she was with Luke...
Considering what's come out about him I'm glad she got away from him
+iheardavoice1 what's up with luke
What came out about him??
I totally thought they had a physical relationship. There was a real sexual type of affection there. The chemistry was palpable. She should prob id as bi.
+Nicole Chow it came out that he was emotionally abusive and manipulative to several of his ex girlfriends. You can look it up
Stay strong Ingrid. Know that you inspire so many people. Looking great as always.
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Thank you so much for sharing so openly! Such a gift. You are amazing.
That was probably the most beautiful, meaningful, honest, eloquent and heart warming video that I've ever seen on CZcams or anywhere for that matter. I couldn't be more proud of you, just as a human being. I've never met you, honestly, this happens to be the 2nd video of yours that I have watched, the first was you speaking your truth& as well, honestly, I randomly happened upon you here on CZcams, but you now will have an enormous, forever fan. I can not even imagine the number of people u have inspired through sharing your story, specifically, the young woman that you have touched, saved & propelled into their best & most genuine selves. Just..simply...thank you & u r so beyond in my book...Much, much love to u. xoxo
Your words are very moving and caring and respectful. I'm nowhere near as articulate, my version of everything you said would just be "don't be an ass"
Thumbs up because this comment just makes me smile so much. :)
damn...its been a fucking year since her coming out? shit...
seriously though
one year of ad-revenue
+obamer Yup.
Thank you for you comimg out!!! You are so such inspiring and encouranging to people who are unsure to take the step to be true to them selfs!!! If anybody is or should obstruct or hinder you in your freedom to be you as you are, than I have, am and will be going stand up for you by the side to you!!!
can i just say even tho im 16 now and came out when i was 14
watching videos like this still help me every single day
you are one of the most amazing peopel
and i admire you so much you are such an inspiration and it would just be a dream tk do a video with you one day because i just think your just one of the most amazjng people xx live you kirsty xx 💕
The trouble is, humans do have a knack of choosing precisely those things that are worst for them. - Dumbledore! As long as you're happy, Ingrid, those things are still experiences after all. Happy 1 year
Aww
I love you so much Ingrid I am so proud.I have been here since you had about 2,000 subs. You are so so so amazing. Stay strong love. xx
Same!! I've loved watching her grow over the years :)
you are absolutely so wise and so brave and so amazing. you are such a good role models to girls and all people everywhere. you are so beautiful more importantly on the inside but of course on the outside as well. you are so incredibly spiritually mature. it is insane (in the best way possible of course) i love your outlook on life and thank you so much for sharing it with us.
You are one of the kindest, sweetest people I've ever met and I am so proud of you :) I'm proud of anyone who has overcome adversity and struggles in their lives. You are using your voice for such an important cause and I hope you will always do that :) Much love from Australia, Rosie xoxo
Congrats girl!!
You are an inspiration to many!! 👍
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This is an insightful video. As a straight woman, I will never know what it is like to come out. I will never know what it is like to have my identity challenged in that way. What I find interesting is that I have a friend who is a lesbian of the more feminine persuasion and she has talked about the difficulties of that. I also have another friend who is very masculine in her identity. Coming out is often seen from an outside perspective as an experience which is similar for everyone but it is clearly not. This is why it is important for these experiences to be shared so we can constantly be learning about a process which so many people go through. Thanks for sharing your experience.
I love this comment. It makes me really happy to see that you want to learn about different people and their coming out experiences.
This is the fourth time I've gone back to watch this video. I began my coming out process about six months ago, and it's been so overwhelming. My friends have been incredibly supportive, but my family is unfortunately very blinded by their religious beliefs. I struggle with a learning processing condition which my parents believe to be the cause of my being gay. Your words are spot on in this video, and it's really helped me find the courage to help my parents understand my journey (although that's still a work in progress). Also every time I watch this I feel like I'm getting a big warm hug, which I need right now. You've been a huge inspiration for me to get up, get out, and embrace my true self. Because we all deserve our best chance. That's something I try to tell myself everyday. Someday I hope to write a book about all of my experiences. So thanks Ingrid! You're pretty special. Keep on being awesome.
I remember watching your coming out video around a year ago, and it changed my perspective on all people, thank you Ingrid.
I remember a year ago watching your coming out video and crying with you. It's crazy how quickly time flies. Congrats Ingrid on an amazing year!!
did anyone notice how her shirts in this video and her coming out video are similar
true!!
she loves striped shirts, she posted somewhere (I think Instagram) that they're her favorite type of shirts :)
I DID!!
I was going through the comments to see if anyone else noticed!! Oh, Ingrid and her stripy shirts 💕
Yes 😂
I love you, girl! And I love your encouragement! This is more than just a coming out video... this is about discovering who you really are.
I am so glad that she didn't change since she came out. I love the fact that she is always growing and has a beautiful, open mind. I really love her. Also, she looks rlly pretty in this vid. Makeup is amazing! Love her mind, Idk what else to say, all the love 💜
So much love to you. I'm a femme bi sexual woman who married a guy. I was very lucky in some respects to how I grew up. I never had to come out exactly to my parents, they just sort of always knew. And were accepting of it. And because I grew up surrounded by those people, it created a massive culture shock the first time I was out of my protective bubble. I was 17 and dating a woman, and people reactions were ugly. Being girly princessy, and attractive, men were angry. And they were even more angry when they found out I wasn't gay, I was bi, because they had trouble grasping that I could be into them, but not right now because her.
I've faced a lot of bi erasure as an adult, because I met my husband at 18 and married him at 24. So people tell me that means I'm straight and that I was just experimenting when I was younger. But no. My current relationship doesn't negate my past relationships, or any potential future relationships.
And my femininity only seems to further sexualize my sexuality for the male gaze. I've gone out on night out where my husbands former friends tried to get me drunk so they could watch me make out with a girl for their entertainment, my husband took me home when he realized what their goal was and never spoke to them again.. I've had disgusting comments made about my being a natural blonde and I'm oversexed because of it. And it's hard and scary to navigate through this, and be me, and I'm lucky to be with the person I am, because he understands this isn't a game, who I am isn't a performance for anyone's pleasure. He sees me as a whole person, and treats me with respect. I could go one forever, but this is long enough.
Replying to my own comment because from what I'm reading (away from here) a lot of people are saying that bisexual women aren't femme, but from what I read when I looked up its definition it applies to the lgbt community as a whole, and is just the opposite of butch. So I guess it's a matter of opinion how you use the word. But I want yo clarify incase anyone was upset or insulted by my use of the word.
literally when i saw this in my subscription box i screamed "CUTIE!"
also--- I've never heard her say "fucking". this is a nice concept and IM HERE FOR IT
+Lily Keene I know right😂😂
+Lily Keene when did she say the f word?
You are so inspiring to me even if I'm not gay anybody can take your words of courage and inspiration and use it for many different reasons to help them keep loving themselves and talk to others and not keeping everything in as a big ball of pain and confusion. I am literally crying as I'm typing you this and I just love your strong sophisticated young woman you are and I value you as my idol. Love you XOXO
I love that saying "I am giving myself my best chance and so should you"