Demons on the boat - an Acceptance & Commitment Therapy (ACT) Metaphor

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  • čas přidán 4. 12. 2009
  • An Acceptance & Commitment Therapy metaphor
    from Russ Harris' book 'The Happiness Trap'
    Download the full 30MB version here:
    www.dropbox.com/s/xhdv5c6tmvl...
    (cut and paste the link into your browser if if doesn't work)

Komentáře • 59

  • @windmill99
    @windmill99 Před 4 měsíci +2

    Awesome metaphor. Love having components of CBT and ACT in my toolkit to ease my mind

  • @ThePickledStories
    @ThePickledStories Před 2 lety +4

    Therapy in a Nutshell brought me here! Thanks for this video!

  • @ZombyMammoth
    @ZombyMammoth Před 11 lety +35

    the ocean is where you fill safe. the demons are social anxiety, the island is the outside world. Basically accept the feeling that anxiety brings on, accept the thoughts that are running rampant in your mind making you think that everyone is judging you, and journey into the unknown

  • @jesusfreak316
    @jesusfreak316 Před 4 lety +3

    Thank you Mr. James for guiding me to this visual representation of Hope, resilience, and truth. I am eternally grateful sir.

  • @Silvic20
    @Silvic20 Před 3 lety +2

    One of the best analogies ever, thank you for sharing

  • @jonaichs1976
    @jonaichs1976 Před 2 lety +1

    Thank you,putting it in this way is comforting and reassuring. I've been battling mine for years. Thank you

  • @eternity828
    @eternity828 Před 11 lety +7

    i suffer from severe Depersonalisation , im sure this video gonna help me a lot on my path to recovery

  • @Anthony9471
    @Anthony9471 Před 5 lety +22

    Beautiful story and metaphor! I loved the animations, and it speaks to my subconscious. Some people say this is not a miracle cure, but if you listen to it enough, well, it actually can be (and this is coming from someone who has GAD).
    Thank you!

    • @ashleyransley3441
      @ashleyransley3441 Před 2 lety +2

      I love this metaphor. I don't think of it so much a cure but as a way to learn to coexist & become less hooked by the anxiety, so that you can have anxiety but not be controlled by it--to have anxiety AND live your life. :) Hope you're doing well today!

  • @glenbryan7740
    @glenbryan7740 Před 6 lety +6

    Good stuff Joe . Its really useful to remember that our thoughts are just scary demons , and roar louder when we try to make change(ie steer towards the shore ). Charming video !

  • @MajorCoin
    @MajorCoin Před 6 měsíci +1

    This is perfect, thank you 🙏🏾

  • @marcellabrady5723
    @marcellabrady5723 Před 2 lety +1

    Perfect analogy.

  • @bolognapate
    @bolognapate Před 11 lety

    Love it - And the one about Brian. These really help!

  • @thisisbob1001
    @thisisbob1001 Před 5 lety

    This is a great video. Many thanks for sharing.

  • @monikalee5648
    @monikalee5648 Před 2 lety

    What a good analogy. I'm sure it will help, especially if I revisit.

  • @hisawes0meness
    @hisawes0meness Před 12 lety

    I really appreciate your work! - Thanks for sharing!
    And if you feel bored on a rainy day... "the chessboard" would be another GREAT one!;-]

  • @farisib7593
    @farisib7593 Před 2 lety

    The demon is my boss. He can shout at me, threaten to fire me or even shame me in front of everyone. But in the end he cant touch me. He's only a powerless demon.

  • @JoeOliverContextualConsulting

    thanks for your feedback!
    if you're interested, i've created another ACT metaphor animation, on youtube "the unwelcome party guest"
    j

  • @paddylulu
    @paddylulu Před 13 lety +1

    Excellent - I've just finished the book.

  • @swanfrog22
    @swanfrog22 Před 12 lety

    Thank you so much. I get it! It helped me.

  • @suchitrarajeev1933
    @suchitrarajeev1933 Před 2 lety +1

    Wonderful .

  • @gammypage
    @gammypage Před 13 lety +3

    cool enjoyed that thanks

  • @thirtythreeflavors
    @thirtythreeflavors Před 6 lety

    This is excellent. Thank you!

  • @JoeOliverContextualConsulting

    Hi there, Ok, I'll work on putting together some subtitles. In the meantime, if you email me, I can send you the script.

  • @NickSheridanVids
    @NickSheridanVids Před 10 měsíci

    Good metaphor and nice to see the Duke Nukem boss in there. I particularly enjoyed that there was no "there's demons on everyone's boat!" unhelpful equivalence. But erm... his hands aren't moving... is he steering with his wang?

  • @emilygarcia6331
    @emilygarcia6331 Před 4 lety

    Excuse me, where did you get the gifs for those demons! I love them!

  • @cherylambrose8368
    @cherylambrose8368 Před 2 lety +1

    the demons physically poke too much and give me a headache

  • @BlackenedNL
    @BlackenedNL Před 12 lety

    noice one

  • @richeco
    @richeco Před 3 lety

    Hi Joe, what software did you use to create the animations ?

  • @jennifer8123
    @jennifer8123 Před 5 měsíci

    Saying the monsters can’t “physically” harm you doesn’t help because emotional pain can absolutely exceed physical pain.

    • @JoeOliverContextualConsulting
      @JoeOliverContextualConsulting  Před 3 měsíci

      Although it's probably true that emotional pain can exceed physical pain, it's a bit like comparing apples and oranges - they are two distinct types of human experiences.
      While physical pain serves as a warning that we are causing harm and need to stop immediately, emotional pain functions differently. Emotions provide us with valuable information, signalling what we care about, indicating loss or dislike.
      Physical pain has a clear purpose of self-preservation, whereas emotional pain serves as a guide for our values and relationships. It's important to recognise and honour both types of pain, understanding that they play different roles in our lives.

  • @lyskem
    @lyskem Před 11 lety +2

    hi! im having hard time to understand the spoken english (im italian) and i would like to read those words instead...is that possible?

  • @randyleerandyleerandylee

    scalawags never prosper

  • @paulgriffiths5389
    @paulgriffiths5389 Před 3 lety

    Do you have an updated version of this?

  • @LeviRoots2
    @LeviRoots2 Před 5 lety +2

    Mate, one of those demons is from doom.

  • @JoeOliverContextualConsulting

    no problem. give me an email and I can send you the script
    joe

  • @marimarina74
    @marimarina74 Před 11 lety

    hi! please...also for me it's hard to understand the spoken english...sorry.... can i've something like subtitles?? thankssssss

  • @pattypelella7495
    @pattypelella7495 Před 3 lety

    Vorrei sapere se c e tradotto in italiano

  • @sneakyninjamunkey
    @sneakyninjamunkey Před 10 lety

    I tried to download this video but the dropbox address you have gave me an error.

  • @davezdragon
    @davezdragon Před 2 lety

    Who are these demons? What games are they from?

  • @Dan-qp1el
    @Dan-qp1el Před 7 lety +4

    Then what ?

  • @lorilane1666
    @lorilane1666 Před 2 lety

    sound quality is low and difficult to hear.

  • @jm2trash
    @jm2trash Před 8 lety +3

    "the demons can't do you any physical harm"
    Yeah right. That's why not one cuts themselves or commits suicide because of internal demons. -__-

    • @LordHRthend
      @LordHRthend Před 8 lety +37

      +Young Golden Girl But you are the one causing yourself the harm not the demons. That's like if you got so scared of the demons that you jumped off the boat. The demons didn't actually hurt you, you let the demons scare you so much even though they really can't do you any harm or you crashed the boat into the rocks to try to escape them. What this is trying to teach you is that you are separate from your thoughts, they are just going on in your head, there is no real physical threat, only an imagined one. This is proven to be the most effective cure for anxiety, better than any medication, which just numbs the anxiety.
      Also, this is a place where people are coming to seek help, so its very unfair to others with anxiety to bring this kind of negativity around. That kind of statement might trigger an anxiety attack to someone. I'm not saying don't speak your opinion, just be mindful of where you are.

    • @quyenkelly9
      @quyenkelly9 Před 7 lety +3

      Young Golden Girl if you physical and mentally want to get better and to your goal, then no one, not even your demons can affect you.

    • @someordinarydude9147
      @someordinarydude9147 Před 3 lety

      @@quyenkelly9 There's clearly extraordinarily powerful drivers we don't even have the slightest grasp on that cause a person to terminate their existence. This is the most unnatural and irrational thing a conscious being can do yet people do it in the millions globally. I don't think anyone would kill themselves just simply because of slight discomfort. We are talking about levels of upset and distress so profound these people are exclaiming through action "I would rather not exist than continue experiencing this for even another second". That experience isn't the little harmless demons on this boat, that's Godzilla constantly terrorizing you and actually having the power to kill you. I think what this story is discussing is true for the vast majority of the population (at least 90%) but not for the ones that commit suicide.