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If a man ghosts me, I am no longer interested. Period. Doesn't matter if he tries to come later or not.
spaciousgalaqxy Yeah! Don't come for me!
spaciousgalaqxy yes I had a guy ghost me but he still like my pictures on face I'm like go away please
Danny D he is trying to sneak you in to your life.
Danny D He is playing mind games
Why would they come back
If a man pulls away, you do NOT want him. If he wants you, he will pursue you.
Inanna Jacque Kay That's true. You look beautiful and if your wearing eye shadow it looks so pretty.
Inann, can I ask you something?
Sometimes men who ghost are too weak to have you and they know it!
No he won't your living in a dream land
sad but true, nice advice 😔💓
It hurts especially when you’ve invested a lot of feelings into it
Your right
It leaves you confused
Go to bed thinking everything's fine, you feel good in the relationship. Waking up the next morning to being blocked and 0 explanation as to and trying to find a way to move on is really hard.
Ghosters are NOT worth it, does not matter how much you like the guy: KEEP MOVING. When somebody is into you it will show, the dating game is not complicated, if you like me you will pursue me, that's it! :)
Amen sister, amen 👍
i love how you say "its not about you". that really helps a lot of women gain their self confidence back.
We all ready know that it's not our fault.. he havent told us nothing we didn't already know..
Paula C exatly........
Indeed, that's very well explained
I am a relationship coach too, and a lot of women think it's their fault, that they did something wrong
Juliana Soares if a man has stoped showing an interest it’s her fault.. she couldn’t t keep him switched on into her
everyone is a ghoster to the person he/she isn't interested enough :-) The only thing you can do is keep the relationship as the level you receive, and find someone else that will treat you as good as you treat them. That's it. Don't let the ghoster have the chance to be more important to you than you are to him. He's not worth it. You deserve someone that will treat you like a queen and also someone that you're willing to treat like a king!
Dung Luu U are right
No, that's not true, I never ghost! Where is the problem to tell a person who is waiting for your response: "I am sorry, you are a nice person but I didn't feel chemistry between us, thank you for the nice date, I wish you all the best." Is that so difficult? Is it really easier to be an as...ole? My goodness... where is your education gone guys?
Mireille Claire I agree with you 100%. But for some i belive sometimes something better comes along for them so they like to keep their options open. Some say they'd rather not hurt feelings. To me, its lack of communication skills or cowardice. In any of those scenarios, the person being ghosted by them are better off they left. IMO.
I wrote this before watching all of the video, oops. i do that sometimes....
yes
Dung Luu Amen!!!
In other words, they either aren't taking you seriously, do not respect your time, or do not have basic good manners. None of those are good qualities to have, so there's no need to invest yourself in pursuing them further.
We have decided this with one of our partners in my business, and we couldn't understand. We do now ! It happens in all kinds of life situations.
Emotional Immaturity is the biggest cause of ghosting, I think.
thank you i just needed this !
they 'leave the door open' so they can walk in and out of your life' with no strings attached. smh
Patrice Ryan Exactly.
Precisely
Patrice Ryan Exactly
Yes ! And they know you will respond
Fool me once, shame on you. Fool me twice, shame on me.
LOL
Don't be bitten by the same snake twice...kill it the first time
In this case, I would say "fool me once, shame on me. Fool me twice, shame on you" as in, I was an idiot for letting it happen. I will give you a second chance, but if you mess it up, you will really have to pay for it.
lol
Kay Hawkins absolutely 👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾
Thank you Matt. I waited 3 years for my ex to recreated from a Ghost to a Human being....sadly I wasted 3 years...time...energy....pain. Ladies....if you met a ghost...call ghost busters.
I block them all, they never can contact me again. Thanks to the modern phone technology... YEAH... press the button... ghosts don't exist, so what...
Mireille Claire I blocked one too girl
I like the part about calling ghost busters
Bella Angela 😂😂😂
Bella Angela I was ghosted by a man for 10 years! The last ghosting episode was 18 months ago. No more. I'm done!
Sometimes people ghost when they don’t think they’re enough for you! As crazy as it sounds
Yep. Especially men.
I'm laughing with this comment. The only one that sounds really true..
So true!
I met a ghost man last year and finally I’m his girl friend. The key is if he’s ghosting you , keep your confidence high and ignore him and have your life! If he’s interested in you , he will come back , no matter what ! Even after a month ghosting. I hope my advice is hopeful for u😘
Fashion Fashion I don’t need to wait for a month for him to come back or 2months. Just leave him also.
It works for u..not for everyone
Amen!! Thank you!!
He texted the next day after he ghosted me saying he's sorry for everything and Ok you're mad at me? So that's it? then saying ok I'll block your Number so I don't bother you and I said nothing to all the comments.
Seems like great advice. Nice to hear your happy story. Are you still together?
Women /men don't waste your time block his/her number and move on. These are emotionally inept adults and have not grown up. Move on.
Elena Rotestan Yaaaassss!! Inept is the key word! !
Elena Rotestan well said
Facts girl...I’m ready to do that I don’t like to waste time either your in or you’re out
AGREE.
LOUDER
All dating coaches say: "if he ghosts you, relax, it's not personal, bla bla blah"... of course it's personal, if a dude ghosts it's because he thinks you're not enough for him... Reality sucks.
well thank your lucky stars because fact is, "he" is the one not good enough for you to be with you. Good riddance, less time wasted on a guy with no potential. :-)
then he shouldn't say things like, "I'll call you tomorrow about going out again this weekend". Shit like that is so wrong.
Alicia Moncada good one or maybe he's not capable of keeping up with a real woman...👍 people like that can never be happy or find the rite one.. they usually die lonely with a lost soul..
Alicia Moncada or because you pushed him away.......
True
online dating is all about ghosting...I've been through this so many times it doesn't even phase me anymore. The window is usually two weeks then they go ghost. It's either they are moving too fast or they ghost you. As a matter of fact, I have come to expect this and it is really sad and an absolute waste of time. I am actually ready to give up on the whole dating, finding the right man thing because I am very frustrated at the lack of respect most men give.
N P, Ain't that the truth!!
It's best to meet someone in your everday life then to waste meaningless messages with online guys
Unfortunately, it doesn't matter if they are someone you meet online or not. I was just ghosted by someone I've known for 30 years!
Preach, I wish I was a lesbian
If I was you I would send a message and basically tell them you understand they aren't interested, but that is is rude and to be more polite to the next person. No one should ghost. It is cowardly and terrible to do so no matter the reason.
If it happend so often, maybe you are the problem in your love life.
Maybe you have personal issue to work on.
You hit the nail right on the head. "Ghosters" are offensive, they're misleading & waist your time. No love for Ghosters.
good ole' matty boggs! Love both of those reasons and the analogy at the end. And, I also think men ghost because they're confused about what they want, and they don't have the level of vulnerability necessary to be honest about this. When I was younger I ghosted this woman because I felt like I would hurt her, or lose respect if I told her about my confusion. As an adult now, I realize I did just that by not being transparent.
I really appreciate your comment. I think this can apply to men who "ghost" women and who even communicate verbally that they "aren't emotionally available for a relationship." Even though the latter is preferred...it can still cause some level of confusion by the women. Thanks again for the insight :)
Clayton Olson Coaching Thanks for sharing your experience, Clayton. I think I was ghosted by a younger guy (he's 32, I'm 38) who was so warm and sweet and romantic towards me. We met and hung out all night (no sexy time)-- he didn't want to go home. He seemed very vulnerable and I shared some experiences as well. We even kissed! He even wanted to know when he could see me again. Then nothing. But your experience, and well as Mat's insight, helps me.
And I recently came about your channel, by the way! Great stuff there too. I like your approach.
I am 58 and been single most of my life (except for a few years of marriage); I really believe that AT THAT MOMENT IN TIME, the man really is all into the date and the person, AT THAT MOMENT. Then, once he gets home and into his daily routine, the "thrill is gone". They can be fickle, but we read them correctly at the time of the date, unless there is sex, then a man will say anything!! lol
It's fine to say what's going on.Either way it hurts so just be honest
+Linda V yep! at that moment, at this moment... you can put those words onto the end of their sentences.
I don't think they lack the communication skills to let us to know what the situation is. Some choose not to communicate so its easier to come back into your life; because lets be real if a man communicates that he is pursuing other options, a woman who knows her worth and value will start pursuing her other options... Sometimes it is a strategic move to keep you in limbo.
jvrbreaker I don't think it is conscious and thought out for the most part - I think it is fear of confrontation, poor communication, and emotional unavailability. Ghosting is a character flaw indicating a man who has no regards for your feelings.
It also can be lack of respect and empathy, so they feel we don't deserve an explanation as to why they ghosted us
jvrbreaker, yep! maybe not a 100% of ghosters, but I'd say those that ghost and reappear have a plan of manipulation going on.
Real talk!! I've had to school my female friends on this.
jvrbreaker True,but rude to not communicate. 🙄
"Sometimes it’s easy when someone seems charismatic and attractive to advance them more credit than they have actually earned. Manage your expectations with people until they’ve proved that they are quality, amazing human beings, worthy of being in your life."
I love your explanation. When I am "ghosted/left hanging" I love it. It's most likely because I thrive on efficiency and I welcome it. I don't demand closure because that's exactly what he gave me with this action. Silence speaks volumes! It was left for me to interpret. So I decided he let me off the hook. We don't mesh. We're not on the same level. He thinks the grass is greener somewhere else. He only wanted sex. I mean 👐 pick your poison! Whatever reason you want it to be or what helps you move on and no longer dwell with forcing a relationship that clearly shouldn't be. At least that is my female perspective.
"If they only have 4 ounces of love to give, bless them and release them." Such to-the-point advice!! Hit home with me.
I got ghosted for the first time in my life. This happened a couple months ago. I’m a self assured woman & I have ZERO tolerance for mediocrity. I let him know my disappointment & a lot of tongue lashing. He must have enjoyed doing this to other women... until he did it to me. Lol. I didn’t hold back. :-) I’m super picky on who I associate with, but my heart is open to all good things. I love your videos. Thank you so much!
you are a very strong girl , hats off to you
"A small fraction of men ghost". That is decidedly untrue by now 🤣🤣🤣🤣
"Bless them and release them!" - good point! ha ha :-D
I swear avoidant types get away with so much.
Ali Vargas makes me want to slap them into adulting. lol
They should honestly just have no one talk to them at all..they don't deserve human contact
@@blueblaze9862 you're quite radical. Who hurt you ?
They literally avoid everything and they don’t actually seem to want any depth of relationship or any actual connection with other humans at all, just a superficial level to show others that “they have friends” and aren’t the loners that they actually are - all for the sake of their fragile egos and their human “act”
They don't feel the same way as real humans, do they?!
I was talking to this guy at church, we were on a mission trip to Haiti. I was in the hospital with a bacteria infection while in Haiti. at the end of the trip he seemed interested. we get back home and everytime he saw me he'd check up on me,.make sure I was OK. he wanted to be near me and couldn't wait to talk to me,. we were just talking OK and 8 months later he ghosted, he came back in October and was like how are you? we go to the same church. we weren't dating we were just talking. he initiated the wanting to talk to me. I released him to the Lord!!
I'm laughing so hard, I'm practically crying!
You talk too much
@@redfather5342 you need deliverance from demonic forces. Jesus loves you. I pray that you receive Him. John 3:16, Romans 10:9🌻🌻
Hahahaha 😂😂😂😂!!! Ghosters exist even in church and they need a serious délivrance with the Holy Ghost fire.
Matt, thank you for explaining it so clearly! It makes it so much easier to let go of someone, who ghosted you, when you know the reasons for their behavior. Like the lack of communication skills, or expecting 16 oz of love from someone who only has 4 oz. It's like you said - it is hard to screw up the right thing, and if the person can't or don't want to put same amount of effort into relationship, he is just not your person. Thank you again, I am so moving on! :)
This guy I used to talk to ghost me..haven't heard from him in months! Everything was going so good too..still trying to get over it 😒
Beauty&all Same right now. It is detrimental to my mental health.
So bad for our mental help.
I meant health..I do need the help right now!!
I feel ya - it hurts like hell
Happened to me. He probably has moved on. Well I feel that in my case
I love you!! This is what I have explained to young women all the time. I 58 and single, so YES , I certainly have been ghosted, but I take it on the chin and move on and I try to enforce that with young women I know.
You ghost, I block, simple as that. Don't give two hoots about who's nature.
Fionna How long before you block ?
You block the minute it became obvious they ghosted.
I was once ghosted by some one who I deeply loved .. It was heart breaking and dignity smashing. I was so young to understand that it was not me but him .. It still aches till now, but when i watched your video i realized how damn wrong i was.
However, few years later when we reunited, when the spark of love and passion was ignited in his heart, i did him a favor and ghosted him. It was really against my soft and beautiful nature, but he deserved it.
Mika Far i just being ghosted four days ago. I watched this types of videos to make me feel better. But deep in my heart i wanted to clear things up with him. Its not that i wanted him back but i just wanted to get him into me and ghosted on him. Because peole usually learn when they gone through it!?
so... my ex broke my heart badly... asked me to marry him then chose to have sex with a friend of mine on christmas day.. i thought i won't survive it.... then some months later i found a great man... we were great together.. friday we had a talk.. he told me he loved me and won't turn his back on me and he wants a future with me... well guess what... i didn't hear from him since and yesterday i thought i should probably call him, cause maybe he's not fine.... i saw that he blocked me.... i don't know how this can be... how to treat someone like that... someone you just said you want a life with.. that he won't mess up with me cause he loves the way i am and my pure heart.... i feel so hurt
@@lindalemoni5428 Just think it this way. It is better he did it now rather than later after you are married to him and pregnant or with kids already. At least your life is saved.
I had been in a "ghosting situation" and it was like I haven't heard from him not only for weeks but for a year. we were dating and all of a sudden he just disappeared. I felt bad. but I never lived in that sadness. after a year we bumped into each other and he explained to me what happened. I talked to him what I really felt. we started dating again and i can say he is really trying his best to cover up that long period of time we were not together...but I will be honest I still have at times that fear that one day he will disappear again even if he is saying that won't happen again.
So its bin 4 years you commented. Has he ghosted you again?
So,How'd it go?/How's it going?,hè ghosted you again?
great video! what's really frustrating is ghosting online in dating apps... some guys will send you some questions, you respond, and they drop their profile or block you. they start the conversation, then take easy way out instead of saying, hey nice to meet you but I'm not interested now... run little boy... lol
Wow this sounds like me , I need to work on my communication skills/social skills . Sometimes we just don't want to be rude but end up making things worst
Yeah you keep your options and other things open and end up fucking everyone!
Get some counselling and stop interrupting people’s lives
🙄🙄🙄🤦🤦
Celeste He
It takes courage to admit that publicly. So well done! Now it's time to open your heart and be delicately honest with them going forward. They may not like what you have to say but they'll respect you for it.
"I've learned that people will forget what you said, people will forget what you did, but people will never forget how you made them feel." Maya Angelou
I recently match your channel and subscribed. In this video your advices were so clear and helpful:
1) Don't take it personal. It's not your fault. It's their nature.
2) They have so little amount of love to give or so few relationship skills that is better to run. 🏃♀️
3) Try them polite when they come back but you deserve better. So make place.
Thank you. You helped me.
Greetings from Argentina🇦🇷
Yes my crush from the last 3 years. He acted very interested but then after a couple of meetings he started to drift away from me without giving me any definite reason. Moreover he's too introvert and very mysterious. And his mysteriousness attracts me towards him every time. And he knows very well about it.
i just got ghosted by a supposedly great guy. no texts or calls and when i ask him he goes all angry at me. I really thought we had a great chemistry and this has left me sort of disillusioned. I will need to learn to release and move on. Thanks Matt for this video.
PREACH. Credit where it’s due, criticism where it’s warranted. Understanding someone’s nature - instead of getting upset bc they are who they are - saves everyone time and energy. Another great vid, thanks Matt!
I really think that it's so nice that you aren't punitive or shaming toward the ghoster or ghosted. People that do this really have much more going on, and don't make great partners or friends anyway. Thank you for your compassionate advice!
Ghosting is so frustrating. I didn't know it even happened because I met my husband in college in the late 90s. The first guy I dated after my divorce ghosted after 2 months. I had met his kids!!! I totally didn't see it coming and I was devastated. And he did the whole text back a few weeks later! Now I am far more cautious about letting someone into my life and if someone ghosts it is far less painful. I wish I had this explanation when this first happened to me that first time!
actually Mat, you didn't get "ghosted," you got "benched"... (yes, that's a real thing too, apparently...) b/c that guy was "benching" you until he found something better to do... i'm sorry you had to go through that too... :(
Bella S I know this is a 10 month old comment but if you or anyone else sees it... whats the definition of benching and the difference between benching as opposed to ghosting? Just curious as I've never heard of benching before.
A Person I think it’s a similar thing but if it’s between guys or people whom are just friends it’s benching , if it’s someone that you had connected with as a “ date “ “partner “ romantic interest it’s ghosting .
Actually essentially it’s the same behavior but because there are more emotions and vulnerability in the ghosting I think it is a bit heavier experience... emotionally speaking .
tanya shaw That clears it up. Thank you! 😀
Thank you Mat, this video took a half burden off from my shoulders. For sometime, I've been accusing myself so hard for men disappears. But not entirely because of what I did or didn't or who I am, it's a character of him, and that's all asset he's possessed.
Thank you for your authentic straight talk always. I want to be like you as authentic and brave to be content and relaxed to have energy to help others.
When I was ghosted. Never heard from him again. Lives in a different state. The second time I cut off communication options. I hate it personally. Bothe people were the highlights of my life. Now I feel unworthy for anyone. Dont ever want to date or meet anyone. They completely destroyed my heart. Both knowing I had many problems due to my husbands death from suicide and me finding him. People should really think before they act.
Im so sorry to hear that. I have the same experience too but it was my dad who passed away. I had already dated the guy last June. But it seems that he has other options too. We live in neighboring countries. These people are so inconsiderate. They should just tell the truth and let us move on easily too. 😢
Yesssss. I was ghosted last week. I WISH I had seen this before that happened. I took it personally because he was to fly out here & was to call me back in 15-20 min after he purchased a new phone... with his flight schedule. 4 days later I get a text unrelated to wtf??? Claim he got his phone 4 days after he told me he was going in the store to purchase it... Nice try... He has kids so he has to have or borrow a phone to arrange to pick them up...he has email and he has a work phone...until he vanished,
I was rearranging my schedule for him & we were to celebrate our birthdays together. (He's flown out here before)... I believe he chose to celebrate his birthday early that weekend with someone else. But still expected to fly here 2 days after he reappeared. I told him I was cool on not seeing him, that I wouldn't be picking. him up. I was hurt, (this is a on again off again 4 yr relationship) but then I had to take a step back & realize that's his nature (he's disappeared before) & I deserve better. So one day I'll meet a guy who will be & do everything this guy kept promising to me ...and more.
Wow, 4 days is a long time to not have a phone..
ErikaH331 Yeah... lol....
Taking it personally is human...but I'm so glad you are processing it and moving forward. He simply made space for a quality person to enter your life. Continue to be the positive and kind person that you are...and you will literally attract the person for you :)
Barbara Thomas he's just not into you. Sorry
if a man CAN come in and our of your life, HE WILL FOREVER
+Mathew Boggs Every sentence in this video helped me so much. In 10 minutes you cleared up decades of wonderment, frustration and tears. Brilliant! I really like the bunny/scorpion analogy; it's their nature. This has been by far the most helpful video to me, not just of yours but any human behavior video I've watched. Thank you Mathew, I appreciate your knowledge and you sharing it. Wish I had found your channel sooner. You rock! ! !
i share the sam eopinion there.... this vid,just helped me to heal alot
kangakong yes this explanation so helped me as well to also think of it differently.
I agree. We had this with one of our partners, who wouldn't show or call for meetings.. it's everywhere.
When men ghost, it's also because they have strong feelings for you, that if they are emotionally unavailable and immature it'll feel like uncharted territory for them and they'll disappear to either regroup, fuck around with other women or try to forget you, but if you had an emotional connection after a few months of dating without sex and when they pull away you don't run after them 9 out of 10 they'll be back better, worse or the same, at least if his interest was strong enough..update..my "friend" reached out after 10 days of silence and was even better this time around, I kept everything copacetic, but slightly pulled back, from now on I'll let him chase!
What happened in the end
So true. Kinda like “ahhh your light is so bright, it burns!!” 🌞🥵 lolz Especially if their last relationship was dysfunctional, they wouldn’t be used to the love n goodness that you’re giving.
Ps- copacetic... great choice of word 😄 Yes 🙌 Letting him chase is key. Scarcity drives value after all!
This is wishful thinking. A man who is interested will not disappear
Thank god I've found you!....You're making so many things clear for me, and helping me building myself and my self esteem.
Omg! I Needed to know & hear this! Thank you so much for the insight Mat! Being ghosted is so difficult to not take personal and it's good to know I handled it properly by addressing it straight up. :Thanks for the nudge to make room for my right guy too! :) Love your videos 👍🏼
I have had this happen to me a few times with this guy I've been chatting to, he's bipolar..
Oh man this was an eye opener for me! I have been a ghoster myself and you hit it on the nail when you said lack of communication skills and fear of confrontations...guilty am I! Thanks for this video cuz I needed to hear that, it's something I've always known I needed to work on😊
If guys don't have enough communication skills it is time to learn it!!
I was ghosted by a guy I was seeing very frequently for about 6 weeks. I had met some of his friends, he had met some of mine, and I felt we were already at the point of being exclusive. We had a little disagreement one day and instead of replying to my texts asking when we could talk about it, he just disappeared. I never heard from him again. I wasn't sad to lose him because I knew I didn't want that kind of person in my life, but I definitely took it personally and felt very betrayed and disrespected by someone who I thought actually cared about me. Obviously he cared more about himself, and just didn't have the skills to communicate what he wanted or didn't want. Four years later I still sometimes wonder what that was all about but I'm grateful I dodged a bullet. I've moved on and have made room in my life for much, much better! Thanks Matt for this video!
To be honest your story doesn't count as Ghosting.
Except you tried reaching out, calling, texting, reaching out in one form or the other and u were sure he was getting the reaches, and yet he ignored.
Plus, u didn't go into the details of what issue you guys had to settle, but let's say for example it was an issue of "pure disrespect" like you totally disrespected him to his friends/ur friends etc.
OR
you had some very specific characteristics to him that he never knew & he considered it a massive Red flag.
But the most Important trait of Ghosting is you trying to reach out at least once or twice or thrice and No reply
This is so true! How come I only can see all that was wrong with my past relationship now that is over?
Now I am in an amazing one! Especially because of your previous video about ghosting. You are the best dating coach Matt!
Nathalia Santos l
Wonderful video! And exceptional timing... I needed to hear this right now.
I loved the bunny and scorpion example. Thanks Matt!
This is the best explanation that I've heard for ghosting. You have clarified some things for me. Thank you!
Thank you for making this video! I appreciate all of the advice. Keep up the good work!
Thanks Matt, it happens so often that I finally got used to be ghosted, which sounds worse than it is, since I am pretty relaxed because I know it CAN happen and it has nothing to do with me. I am dating via Tinder and I got ghosted, but at that early stage of a friendship (or whatever it is after 1 or 2 hours first meeting...) I am not expecting anything, that's why ghosting doesn't bother me, it just shows me "again a little immature boy..." and then I'm just happy getting rid of that guy so easily and have space again for the better one coming yet!
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Mireille Claire I've been ghosted by every man I've ever liked, but I don't mind. I also dont expect anything from men, most of them are actually children and a real person will like me for who I am......eventually. being chill about it, learning how to validate your own self worth without others definetly helps.
I think many women (and men) are creating self-fulfilling prophecies with the words they speak. Goro, I'm not surprised that EVERY man you liked ghosted on you, you're speaking that over your life. The fact that you EXPECT men to ghost you shows you just creating a self-fulfilling prophecy. Life and death are in the power of the tongue. Stop Expecting men to ghost and start saying that the right man for you will show up at the right time.
A Matt Aah yes death and life are indeed in the power of the tongue I see you are a kindred spirit with me.
Hi Mat, I really appreciate your knowledge in your videos. Thanks to you I found my life partner and I have improved my relationships at work and stronger connection with my love ones.
So incredibly helpful. Thank you. I’ve been suffering for three months and your 4 vs 16 ounce analogy has helped me immensely. He is so damaged and has a decades long history of poor behavior to prove it. I’m moving on.
Thank you Mat for explaining my husband to me! He, like my mother, lacks communication skills and has only 4oz capacity to be in our relationship. I didn’t think I needed to listen to this message on ghosting but I’m sure glad I did as well as so many of your other ones that explain my sad marriage to me.
This was great. Thank you, a lot of things make sense now
Love the video. Great topic and I can relate to this. I had a situation happened to me and I learned to let it go and agreeing that it is what it is.
Perfect, perfect, perfect timing! Just the video that I needed. Everything makes so much sense now. Thanks Mat!👍🏻
Thank you Matthew Boggs for communicating well what is going on in the male mind. It made a lot more sense to me. I have been 'ghosted', but don't wish to relive it. I have moved on and am enjoying my singledom. Thanks for sharing!
Thank you so much for this amazingly helpful video, Mat!! It was definitely the most insightful one concerning this topic of "ghosting". Some time ago there was a guy I really liked who "ghosted" me as well after really showing interest in me. I was so confused and even though I was pretty sure that I had not done anything wrong I could not help but feeling insecure about myself. But now everything makes sense to me because he definitely is that scorpion-type of guy. I think that now I can finally release the whole thing and get ready for something that is bettet, real and amazing. Thank you so much, Mat!! 😊❤
Thank you Matt for these amazing videos which have helped me in my recent "being ghosted" experience. It's the first time that it happened to me and it was pretty hard for me to get over. Thank you again for your great content!
I've heard a lot of Love Coach including Matthew Hussey but you're AUTHENTIC and Really Have the Heart to HELP people... You're HEAVEN SENT... SO GLAD TO discover you...
I love it!..."dumplings bless them and send them on their way" wonderful!
this is an extremely satisfying video. thanx a tonn.
If he's so juvenile to " ghost" me...he gets no second chance.
Loved the way you addressed this issue, very positive way of handling it.
I have been watching your videos and I had to comment this one because you pointed it clearly,I have been in that situation where by guys come to me and then a few day the just go with no reason and I was like hating my self and blaming but thanks to this video I can now understand why they do that.thanks a lot and I confess that your video tells so much I watched it a lot and it has been a while that I don't even go to Google in search of this about guys because your video says it all !!!!!!
I've been ghosted by the same guy 3 times already. He makes plans with me and when it's time to actually go with them he disappears. Thanks for the videos and making me feel a bit better that it's not actually my fault but his character.
It's obviously tiime to delete that guy out of your life. clear the air and move on girl, you deserve better.. someone who knows how to treat you with respect and love that you deserve.
Thank you, sweetie! That's what I am doing right now.
Ewww. The fact that he did it over and over is disgusting though. My gosh. Thank god you cut that off. I hope you're in a better place. He deserves absolutely no compassion or sympathy. These types of people are honestly so disgusting. Yuuuck! Goodbye dude.
A guy ghosted me came back 3 months later telling me he was scared off how strongly he felt about me and told me he loved me! 😂😂😂gtfoh dude
What an idiot!! 😂😂😭
Lol wtf
Thank you so much for the advice!! Bless them & release them. I’ve been online dating a guy for several months & he has cooled way down after making plans to meet whn he gets back to the States. Your video is just what I need RIGHT NOW. It’s not me…it’s him. Wonderful!!
what an amazing and refreshing video. It's so clear now thank u!
I was seeing a guy for about 5 weeks and really liked him, I was even taking my son to spend time with him and his kids. When he had a kid free weekend coming up we made plans to go out on a date just the two of us. I had a sitter planned for two weeks. He strung me along all day while he was working, not committing to a time he'd be ready and waited until my son was off to the sitter, (which cost me $50), and I was almost ready to leave to meet him, to tell me he was going to be getting off work too late because he needed to stay and make the money. Bummed as I was I just simply said, "ok, I understand" let him be and met up with some friends. About two hours later I discovered he was ghosting me! He even had me blocked from FB and that really stung. I noticed he did unblock me after a couple weeks, like he was leaving that door open and me as a possible option again. Well, I finally heard from him today. He wants to hang out and have some fun. You're so right though, Matt...it's him not me. Obviously, he's not capable of communicating very well and quite possibly just had better options that night. Either way, I think I should take your advice and clear the path for a man with better character that's going to be able to give more than that 4% or at least communicate. I would've been ok with it if he just wanted casual and fun instead of a committed relationship like he lead me to believe, but I don't want a vanisher with that kind of nature wasting my time like that.
This video came right on time :) THANK YOU
Cheers from Morocco
you just dont know how i love this topic,you really give me a big relief.....thank you so much..
Stumbled upon this video, great timing. Met a guy online a couple weeks ago, we got together for lunch, turned into the whole afternoon. The next day we went on a hike, the day after that we took a blanket to the park and fed the ducks and just enjoyed the day. We had plans for other things we were going to do, and then *poof* he's just gone. Hard to not take that personally, that stings, I still don't get it but this made me feel better just knowing at least it's not just me.
I'd never heard of this term, but certainly I've been just ghosted. The analogys were greatly helpful. Thnx.-k
I'm being ghosted right now and I'm only 13 thanks for that video though it really helped me understand. You see I met this boy at my church choir. He immediately showed interest and a couple of casual text convos.All of a sudden he stops talking to me and I had no idea why. A couple months later he starts texting me again and asks for my snapchat the next day I get unfriended and I'm back where I was before
Hi Mathew. I met a guy at a concert and we really hit it off. We spent alot of time together the following 2 weeks after the concert. I felt a true connection with him and he claimed to had a true connection with me. He moved a few states over by the 3rd week after meeting. I never really heard from him again. ONE year later, he was back in town and asked me to go to a concert with him.... Super confused but happy all at the same time. Have not gone yet but this video helped me to understand his communication style. Thanks
You're so on spot.
Nice, quality video Mathew.
l have once been ghosted but now l understand best....thank you so much.
hey mat. I was ghosted yesterday. it was quite a shock, but when I heard you earlier I understood everything tnx. 💖💖releasing..
Hey I really like when guys compliment me on my physical appearance or something I am wearing. It shows me they pay attention to detail.
I was recently ghosted and now three months later he is asking me "how I am doing?" .... so thankful for your insightful videos!
Thank you for this video. A very close friend of mine was ghosted off and on for over a year. He would tell her everthing she wanted to hear. He gave a lot of empty promises. Whenever she confronted him he had some excuse or he made it seem like she was being negative. She bought it every time because she didn't want to run him away. He was really good. He'd tell her if anyone ended the relationship it wouldn't be him. Which made it easy for him to be in and out of her life. I gave her the same advice. Let him go!! He is in the way of something greater. I think she finally sees it.
such a truth slap, but thank you so much, bless you
This Video and Insight Was Awesome Awesome Awesome!!!
Mat is amazing! Thank you Mat because you really helped me to UNDERSTAND my situation! No need to be upset now.... it’s just the nature of the person.
This happens to me at least twice a week with friends and dating prospects. This life has prepared me for an amazing career in sales. Onward!
Thanks for your insight but showing through your own story. I wish I had known this a while ago so that I didn't have to beat up myself for another persons actions.
Catherine W me too
I'm a female ghoster because I have PTSD and severe trust issues. Ghosting and coming back is how I communicate, like you explained it, if they don't stick around to be my friend at least. That is how I judge how accepting they will be of my anxiety disorder....
nice discussion about those ghosters its really accurate. but quietly hurting my inner peace 😢😢😢
Brilliant!! All makes perfect sense. Thanks for this.
I'm going to send this video as a reply after him trying to come back :D
The problem is when you meet narcissistic psyhopath and you didn't recognize him at the beginnig, could you please make vid about how to find out if the person is psyhopath and narcssit?
Now I understand what's going on with ghosting, and I pray for people who does that, it's very hurtful and the pain goes through and through, mind body and soul. God bless always
Wow this video took me on a real developmental journey. You’re an excellent communicator. Bless x