Newborn Sleep Tips: Active Sleep vs Quiet Sleep
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- čas přidán 11. 09. 2021
- Knowing the difference between quiet sleep and active sleep will save you some zzz’s during the newborn stage!
Every time my babies fussed during their sleep I would pick them up. Even though they weren’t crying, I assumed they were frustrated and wanted to be held. Little did I know they were in a state of active sleep and I was waking them up when I did that!
There is a power to the pause when it comes to newborn sleep. If your baby isn’t crying and doesn’t seem to be in distress, give it a minute before picking them up. They may be in an active sleep cycle!
I wish this was something I learned about sooner! My 4th baby sleeps so much better than my other three and I know a lot of that has to do with me not disturbing his sleep when he is in an active cycle!
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I always understood to wait a minute or two before rushing to the baby when they fuss a little, but I never knew a baby fussing in their sleep could be so noisy and ACTIVE! My babies are LOUD active sleepers. They move A LOT and make lots of little noises. When I would hear them do this I assumed they were up, uncomfortable, frustrated, mad, and wanted to be picked up. I never realized they were still asleep and picking them up was actually waking them! How about you??
I learned the same thing one month into newborn sleep deprivation, now I know for future babies! I was waking mine up too because I thought he was awake, but finally read takingcarababies and was shocked!
My third kid is almost 5 weeks now and i didn't know that before😅
THANK YOU!
I’m pregnant with my first and learned this like two days ago. I’m feeling so ready now with this in my corner 🙌
I don't think I realized this before, but on another note.... How do you get him to sleep in his bassinet by himself??
I'm not a parent amd I know this. Babies move in their sleep. The golden rule "NEVER DISTURB A SLEEPING BABY!!"
I knew this too but it’s easy to still get confused if they are sleeping or not because they don’t just move they also make fussy noises that particularly at night make parents instinctively pick the baby up
@@gracepearl3379 if they're awake, sure. Even as adults, we make noises in our sleep. Idk....id leave my child be unless they wake themselves up. Then that's different.
I had my first baby when I was 16 and even I knew the difference, I let my baby chill after sleep or move unless they cried. Crying means something is wrong (uncomfortable) or it’s time for feeding or diaper
Ya right? It’s common sense 😮
Right bc they would get more and more frustrated if they can't finish their sleep. Imagine falling asleep after a hard day and at the first deep sound you make while falling asleep or the moves by coming into REM phase being waked.... I think we all know that this leads to psychological problems. (Doesn't mean that the mom there is torturing her baby, just saying)
I was spoiled, my son slept through the night and day. He was chill. I use to check to see if he was dead. No terrible twos . He was chill and he is 15 now and still chill.
same but my mom is. she told me I never cried and she didn't even noticed I grew up. (legit didn't cried cause I developed a habit of thumb sucking until i was a kid)
Did we have the same kid?
I wish i have a kid like that
so lucky...
My girls is going through a terrible two. her personality changes so quickly. Hope this episode ends soon. i feel terrible too.
They alway say : "don't jump and go over to them right away. Let them fall back asleep on their own". Most of the time it works.
Right! It’s important to let them fall asleep on their own or else they don’t know how to later and have to be comforted to sleep every time which can be so taxing on the parents
Ha! That NEVER worked with my youngest. 😭
Unless they were crying, I didn’t pick them up. And even then, the first few cries, unless they woke up screaming, I’d ignore them to see if they settle down again.
You ignore them? Did you mean you avoid waking them up while checking if they were fine while still sleeping? 😂
@@valentinamaiullari I used to wait and listen, depending on the cry, if it was a full on cry, I’d go to them, if I knew it was time for food, I’d go to them, but a few little cries, I used to wait, if they settled down after a couple of cries, I’d let them be, while listening for a while longer, if they cried longer, I went to comfort them and to see what was wrong. Sometimes babies just wake up and makes some noise, nothing to be anxious about, my kids are nearly 30, 24 and 23 now.
@@jacquerablack Well I'm glad you didn't actually ignore them that'd be abusive 😅
@@valentinamaiullari I also had them in the same room as me, close to my bed.
@@valentinamaiullari a lot of kids wake up for a few moments and then will go back to sleep. I’m curious as to how many babies you’ve taken care of before?
When I had my first kid, I turned off the baby monitor because if this. I'm a very light sleeper. Every time my baby moved, I would startle and wake up and then couldn't get back to sleep. She was just across the hall. I knew that if she really needed anything, I'd hear her cry. Never used a baby monitor again.
I can't rest if I don't know for sure if my baby is breathing or moving... I need to have that reassurance that he's ok, I don't mind loosing sleep over making sure he's safe and well, and I love hearing his little movements and grunts in his sleep. You better enjoy your baby, once they grow up you can't go back...
I still never got a baby monitor from my shower or anywhere else and I realized, I probably won't need one because there are beds I can use in both my room and my baby's room. I'm still just 36 weeks pregnant with her, but no matter where I put her down for night sleep or naps, she will be fine because I'll literally always be right next to my little girl. We have a cradle and twin bed in her room rn and in mine and my husband's room, we'll be in our queen and keeping a bedside bassinet in there with us whenever she sleeps in our room. If I want, I can even bring the bassinet into the living room and sleep on the couch while she naps in her bassinet. I even have a pack and play I could use to let her nap if I really want. I'm so glad to learn this about newborn sleep now so that when I wake up and she's moving, I'll always know that she's okay
@@thefryinator7774 I just sleep next to my baby on a flat futon on the floor. That way he's far enough away that I won't accidentally smoosh him, he won't "fall off", and when he wakes up I'm right there next to him to feed him or soothe him back to sleep. Everyone will tell you not to do this, but honestly if you know you're a light sleeper and don't move a lot, just trust yourself and do what works best for you and the baby.
@@nicoledoubleyou you know what, she is already 5 days old and my husband has now worked nights for years (he's just one of those people who actually does thrive on night shift, some people are actually totally built for it and he's one and I've always been more of a day person) and so with our differing bio clocks, he can stay up with her at night, wake me in the morning and I take over. This morning our sleep overlapped about 30 minutes and we just had her on the bed, swaddled between us and other than that, she sleeps at night and takes all of her naps in her room with the door cracked so we can hear when she cries or stirs awake.
me too, no monitors ever. I have rarely had a night I woke up in 10 years.
If there was no vocal noises and eyes closed I left my first be. Didn't want to bother their peace. 😂 I guess I unknowingly knew
More like, you have common sense.
Yes! Let ‘em actually start to cry or open their eyes THEN you grab them!
@@ShellyMellyBelly this video is actually a really poor example of what she’s talking about-babies will often cry or yell during active sleep, and some flail about. It can be REALLY hard to tell sometimes lol
I loved watching my daughter during active sleep she would smile and even coo or frown and quiver her lips. I never felt the need to pick her up unless she was actively awake and crying .
My babe would move his lips like he was breast feeding. It was super cute.
YES YOU ARE THE ONLY ONE WHO JUST DISCOVERED IT!!!!
My baby had a tendency to open his eyes and check if is not alone. In which case I would stop what ever I was doing and close my eyes and he would go right back to sleep. Good old days
Aww, that’s really sweet ❤
My boy does this! He won't go to sleep alone but the other day I was folding laundry on the bed and he went to sleep by himself
😂
My daughter did this for a while too
😂❤
Well holding your sleeping newborn while shouting aint a good idea either 😂 you woke my baby up shouting 😂😂
Right!!! She can get the point across without all the theatrics....drama queen...
The French do a thing before picking up their babies called “The pause”. They make sure their child is actually awake.
After a few sleepless nights you catch on to that really fast
Provided you got the mental abilities to catch up on anything...
... apparently some people need 4 kids till they figure that out. Apparently those people also don't have a single friend or family member (left) that ever had a baby before.
Right
Unless i heard a cry or eyes were open i wouldnt touch him because every second was valuable.
I had four as well but I was very lucky to have a midwife for a mother. This is one of the first things I remember her telling me! All four of mine were great sleepers!
I thought you only pick a kid up when they start crying not when they move, common sense? no?
Exactly! No common sense there at all
Yes... but with all of the hormones and (possible) paranoia it's easy for someone who doesn't know to jump the gun
@@whatchyagonnado she has like 5 kids if she doesn't know no one knows.
yes it's absolutely common sense 💯
@@sng9846 some people are around babies before they have their own babies, so they can learn from other moms, like relatives.
I'm not a parent but I knew that... We call it the fairies are visiting part of the sleep. Sometimes they cry, sometimes they laugh in their sleep according to what fairy visits
@redbrexit Where does that tale of fairies come from? I'd like to read more about it.
@@sailordede1
I have no idea where is coming from. Romanian folklore. Possibly coming from the whole region of eastern Europe
Oh thats cute. ❤
As Muslims we say he or she can see the angels and because of them they're smiling in their sleep
I am 50 and raising our 5 month old granddaughter, and none of my kids did this, but she does. It took me a while to catch on.
God bless you for taking care of your grandbabies ❤we truly see and appreciate family like you instead of the baby being taken in custody
My grandmother taught us this when we started having children!
You are the only one,i never disturbed my kids when they were asleep
Time is key. Even with toddlers. My son when he was 1 would wake up in the middle of the night. I learned to just give it time and he would always fall back to sleep eventually. Sometimes it took 5 minutes and sometimes it was 20 minutes. It was better to leave him be. I found he stayed up more and took longer to fall back asleep if I intervened in any way. I learned the hard way after many sleepless nights. I felt so silly watching him fall back asleep so quickly if I just let him be.
Yup, I have gotten ugly looks from people but it is 100% true
Worked in a daycare that have 5 newborns when I started... we always gave them a couple mins because waking one was usually enough disturbance in the room to wake them all 🤣 I miss those kiddos they're all 7 now 😭
Currently 27 weeks pregnant with my first baby, so thank you so much for sharing this, will be very helpful when the little one comes 🌺
You don't need CZcams shorts to learn how to take care of a newborn 😅 you can buy books that have all important info's about newborn ❤
Sometimes they even open their eyes during active sleep, so dont be fooled haha My sister told me about sleep cycles before I had my son, and hes such a good sleeper :)
My baby would open her eyes, look around, then go back to sleep and my son was a really noisy grunty sleeper. I learned pretty quick to leave them until they actually cried. Both slept all night from 9 days old
Thank you for this!! I’m pregnant with my first baby and will take all the advice I can get!
Same here. Congrats on your pregnancy and hope everything will be well and smooth, before and after delivery!
Also keen to hear any advice you guys have!
You also do not need to rock or bounce a baby to sleep. It’s not necessary and probably a bad habit for you in the future. Voice, touch and or sound can soothe a sleepy baby to sleep. Movement isn’t necessary.
Also babies take about 30 minutes to go into deeper sleep. They intermittently cry like we tiss and turn. If their crying gets longer and more frequent check the usual causes. If short and less frequent leave them alone.
4th kid here and I JUST LEARNED THIS TOO!! Say waaaaahhhhh
This
Is Just
*COMMON SENSE* 💫
I've had 4 babies first at 20 and only picked my babies up from sleeping if baby was crying and couldn't settle and needing reassuring or if fully awake,I kind of knew babies moved around a lot during sleep and knew baby didn't need picking up.
I literally trained my first born to wake up every hour cause of this...she still can't sleep through the night... she's 46.
Oh dear. Every hour? ☠️
Oh, poor her..
@@ukhtieadeebah9930 it wasn't intentional... Lol
I feared she might stop breathing.
@@peggymctaggart7314 yes, I understand. As a mother, you just did what you thought was best for your baby..but, now as an adult, to have trouble sleeping through the night can be very tiresome for the body the following day. I hope she's ok and has been used to it..
Parents like that make their kid teeth perfect 😂😂
I’m pregnant with my 4th baby atm.
I always knew to leave them alone when moving around (never knew it to be called active sleeping) I called it as they were dreaming. 🤷♀️
The more you know.
I just watched all of your videos. You are AMAZING big sis'!! I can't wait watching all of those again in a few years when I will have babies🥇🥰
I'm just now finding their page. I'm going to watch them all, too!
Yhup me too ✌️
I think it's not just newborns. Lately, cosleeping with my 1.3 year old son, I've noticed he can roll around A LOT and not wake up, just wake _me_ up.
my 4 year old is able to move across our whole bed if he's able to
I am pregnant with my 3rd and also did not know this. Another tip in my back pocket!!
First time mom I learn new things everyday taking notes here
I thought this was common sense?! 🤷🏻♀️ my boys slept thru the night @6 weeks, & @3 days….because I never picked them up, and I vacuumed and lived life while they slept. Both excellent sleepers .
Yeah I mean I don't even have children but full-grown adults move and whimper/talk/grunt in their sleep too. I don't see why babies wouldn't.
@@tillie_brn yeah exactly some babies cry all the time or are really light sleepers
@@tillie_brn coz our mom sense think our baby is about to wake and we badly need to help them to continue the sleep.
@@tillie_brn also it's not coz we don't have common sense, it's coz we want to comfort them all the time 😊
This is why I moved my son out of the bedroom by the end of the first month. Every time he would do this I would be wide awake. He slept so much better in his own space. Still woke up in the night but not nearly as much as when I thought he was waking.
Psychology studies actually say that the healthy bonding happens when the baby sleeps with the mom up to 2 years in the same room as her. The baby wont have any neglect, being alone, or rejections feelings and provide healthy relationships with other people. It looks like a simple thing but plays actually a huge role. Also breastfeeding up to 2 years is very important.
I feel like whatever works best for you and baby is the right choice no matter what anyone says. Moms are human and need sleep 😂
@@aestetics3505 ever read up on studies that talk about the dangers of sleep deprivation? I'd say it's a good idea to let moms do what works best for their family.
I am on my first kid and I knew this. I took actual classes to learn from pregnancy to toddler stage. I am a single full time mom. Just keep learning every single day we should learn something knew. If you didn’t make it a goal for the next day and learn on purpose not by coincidence. The more you know the better you’ll live.
I’m a first time mom with my baby being just 10 days old. I’m so grateful to see this video 😅 Thanks for sharing ❤
Wow!! It’s like she discovered America
Good to know for all parents, thanks! ❤️🎶
I want to hug this baby. so cute
I've realized this as I'm having a newborn rn. Sometimes just waiting until they really wake up and shove it into your face is the way to not frustrate them even more. It's also really interesting to watch
Darling! YOU ARE THE ONLY PARENT WHO DIDN'T KNOW SOMETHING LIKE THIS 🤌
I thought parents knew that instinctively.
Innit!🤷🏾
Right, that's just common sense...
No not always I’m sure if you ask a lot of parents if they knew this they’d tell you no. I have two kids and did not know this nor was this any kind of information ever shared to me either. Most parents will react when their baby does this and pick them up.
@@christinabrown3322 or at the very least they will try to shush them and get them "back to sleep" (that's what I do) now I know to just wait a little bit
@@christinabrown3322 most parents absolutely DO NOT do this lol just read the comment section, Google it. and/or common sense tells ya so.
You had to get to 4 before realizing this. WOW!!! You have to got to be tired😂🤣❤
Soooo many unnecessary wake-ups/midnight feedings with my first. I will remember this!
I'm so confused by this lol. You didn't know that people of all ages move around while sleeping? You can clearly see they aren't awake, and that once picked up you're the one waking them up.
This had to have caused issues with them being constantly woken up once they go into deep sleep.
I only had one kid and you bet I never touched his sleeping precious body until his eyes opened and he cried for food or hugs. The second you touch them they wake up and he would cry for hours if I woke him 😂
I learned this with my 4th too. You're not alone 😂
I just sent this to my daughter! She's got a 3yo, 9mo & due in early Sept. I keep sharing your tips & tricks with her! Thanks sis!
When my babies do that it’s usually cause they end up dream feeding. Each baby is different
WHY ARE YOU SCREAMING?!?
I WANTED TO MAKE SURE YOU COULD HEAR ME!!!
I love takingcarababies!! Her program helped me sleep train my now 2yr old and she is the best sleeper. She puts herself to sleep, doesn’t really fight bedtime and wakes up generally happy. Sooo thankful for her program. At 4mos old, she was sleeping through the night without waking up.
I never pick them up unless they are crying BAD
Neglect.
Are you a parent? If not Go away.
@@azraorucevic2438 r u gonna help me ? Yeah u don't even hv kids
Put the phone down and enjoy your family
I learned this and I’m only on my first baby😅 you learn quiet a bit from that first one.
I always use "shhh" sound to see if he goes back to sleep or continue the movement to know if he's actually awake or not
Maybe if you covered him up in a cozy blanket he might sleep longer
In the USA they strongly recommend against anything in the crib a sleep sack maybe but it might be summer he seems comfortable enough
You are suposed to wait untill they cry. And even when they cry there is no rush because a lil bit crying is good for the development of their vocal cords.
Interesting
This is why we move our babies out of our room fairly early. The nursery is right next to us, and we put the crib right on the other side of our wall from our bed. I can still hear baby when they need me, but I don't wake up to every shuffle and grunt.
My second is 9 mos old and I just learnt this. I picked both my kids up every time they’d start to move, too. You’re not the only one
Adopted my daughter and now I'm grandma to her newborn. This info was sooo helpful to me! Thank you!
My daughter is 5 and I wish I knew this!!!!! I only have 1 child and I'm glad I'm learning this now so I know for my next children.
yup 😀 I'm mother of 5 and my first born is adult now I learn it at the time of my first born not only this but many more useful things about new Borns
Seriously you never knew not to pick up a baby the moment they move or fuss! Always give them some time to settle back down! Sheesh!!! And only took you to baby number four to figure this one out amazing!
I gave birth a month ago, due to covid there were no parenting/prenatal classes and one of my friends sent me this video before my surprise c section, it has saved me. My sweetest and I now wait and listen to our baby to see if he's actually awake or just being noisy
As a mom of 5 dogs I knew this haha, they also have quiet and active sleep 😂
I have one baby and I learned this after my baby was 1 🤦🏾♀️. I am there with you girl!! I’m taking note 📝 for my second baby!!
Yeah I learned this with my second 😅 so filled with anxiety with the first so I'd always pick him up but now I know better to wait a little bit and see if they'll actually cry first lol
No you are not alone ❤
Babes always turn in their cribs worry not they're finding North (compass to check)
I just had my second daughter, and I realised the same. I had the same experience ..... we learn as well every time something new 😅❤
I learned it while pregnant with my fourth kid too!!!
This is why I'm so happy for having nannied and babysat countless children and infants prior to having my own. I've known for years to just let them hang out, even if the fuss. Give it a few minutes. It won't hurt them.
Damn wish I had this information a few years ago
I'm a new mom and this give me relief
Thank you so much I'm 16 weeks baby on the way 1st 😮😅😊🤗
Just conveniently learned this on my second baby! CZcams must be reading my mind because another video explaining this popped up right after a rough night of active sleep and me nervously watching her all night 😂
When my baby moves around I just watch her too see if she wakes up. If she does then I still give it a minute and she usually goes back too sleep by herself
My sister told me about this, with my first, and hes such a good sleeper :)
Active sleep is the REM state (dreaming) I will only disturb mine if they are actually crying because they have woken up
My toddler still does this!!
You, ma’am, are the only parent that didn’t know this… But then again, I had an overbearing mom who would offer unsolicited advice ad nauseam. Not picking a sleeping baby up unless they fully vocal & clearly awake was one of the more valuable pieces of advice.
Good tip! I'm not yet a parent but I'll remember this.
I knew that. My mom taught me that.
I have two kids and two grandchildren, a niece, a nephew (which I took care of the first year of his life along side my daughter. They're only eight days apart) and three grand nieces.
I never picked up my baby until I saw eyes looking at me 😂but congratulations to finding this one
Im on my fourth as well and just learned this! 😢
My kid is currently making noises in her bassinet 😂 and although I know this, the urge to not bother them is hard. My baby squeals and grunts really loud in her sleep 😂
Unless I see here eyes, I'm not touching mine.
My second baby and I just learned this. 😂😢😅Thank you for sharing. 🌻
I have heard this, actually, and I was so grateful for the other new parents who told me about it like two months before the birth of my first, haha.
You’re not the only one 😂
Takin Cara Babies is the literal best
Her class was the best money ever spent
My mom used to say to me: the more a baby sleeps, the more the baby is going to sleep. In short when a baby is tired they have problems getting to sleep and they get cranky, but if a baby is well rested and well fed they will fall asleep more easily and often.
Ok
One is always learning about children as they are all different-great you’ve had four and know more than you did with one -I’ve had 11 and I’m still learning;)
It made sense to me to let them sleep, move in their sleep, and not picking them up immediately after opening their eyes. Simply because I hate it when someone wakes me up.
The amount of backlash I received from my MIL, though.. or from any other "experienced mother"..
My first was a deep sleeper, but my second would full-on holler and thrash in his sleep. My pediatrician said he was just a noisy sleeper. He was also a huge baby and started sleeping 10+ hours through the night at 3 months, so I just let him do his thing
I'm so sorry u took this long to know this... I have 1 son and girl let me tell u....if he didnt cry I wont pick him up... Up until he was 3 he slept twice for the day... I try to know as much I could ABT babies from the grandma's the aunties cousin neighbors everyone.. and one most important thing I could say I learnt too.. was to train him to sleep with noise... Cuz it's not always going to be quiet... That was really helpful.. he would sleep with the music.. with carpenter hammer anything.. and he would sleep soundly...!
I babysat an infant while in high school...learned everything I needed to know. I didn't have children and I have NO regrets.