NO BIOPSY TAKEN by surgeon!! (emotional) *cancer*
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I am always saying WE GOT THIS in real life and online. We all have our own struggles and I believe we can get through anything together. When I was diagnosed with cancer in September, I thought this was my own struggle but I realised my cancer has affected everyone around me. I am a daughter, a girlfriend, a sister, a friend, a cousin, a grand daughter & more. I know my journey has affected everyone around me and I know now more than ever that I have no choice but to get better. Whatever life throws at us, we are going to get through it together. We Got This
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hi my loving tiffanythinks family. I think since finding out they couldn’t take a biopsy (area was too difficult to get to), I have been a bit all over the place. I have been crying a lot and just being so scared. If you have been wondering why I have been very quiet on social media - this is the reason. I think once I get all my results (for the scans), I will be able to move forward. I love you lots my tiffanythinks family. we got this💙 IG, FB & TikTok: @tiffanythinks💙 Subscribe for more videos💙
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I’m praying for you! You got this. !’ ❤
@@karinayerena3575 💙💙💙
We are here for u ❤️
We love you you're so Gorgeous
(As a doctor) You NEED to advocate for yourself. Don’t follow a doctor and stay loyal, be loyal and true to yourself. You are the only one who is in it 100%. Find the person who will help you. Not the person you were given who isn’t helping you like you need.
Yes Devon!! Exactly!!
Sometimes I think she won't or doesn't want to know answers. I think if you have to take morphine for stomach pain then all is not well. Her surgeon who she trusts didn't even tell her he was not doing the biopsy. He doesn't care.she's just another patient. Tiffany I think knows more than she wants to say..,.
Tiffany one thing I learned with my mom's cancer is NEVER WORRY ABOUT OFFENDING ANOTHER DOCTOR. This is your LIFE. Again...THIS IS YOUR LIFE!! Get your answers. It's perfectly normal to feel the way you do. We all are praying for you.
Its also so unprofessional that a doctor would take an upset patient personally. Like you should understand that someone who his fearing for her life is maybe not the most polite at times. You simply dont take that personally
Yes we have to fight for our selves if no one in the medical field will not.
Exactly 👍🏾🥲
@@Laura-gd4ku they are human too. They see so many people. Emotions exist even for them.
So true
She is so sweet
The instant you saw your surgeon, your concerns fell away.
-The man has not returned your calls in TWO MONTHS!
-He told you NOTHING!
-Worse. He admitted he’s not seen your scans.
-WHY was a biopsy done without first reviewing scans (to see if there’s new tumor growth, and where it is - not flying in blind)
PLEASE reconsider the trust and adulation you have with this man who is NOT worthy of it.
You deserve a second opinion.
Exactly this!!!
@@mariavictoria4853 Exactly, this is so surreal, I can't believe this is actually happening to ANY patient. It's simply unbelievable. Im appalled for her.
This, 💯!!! They must have had the scan results before doing the biopsy, yet they tell her they are still waiting on them! Something is definitely wrong.
Dulcie I agree with you wholeheartedly. What would happen if something happened to the surgeon (God forbid)???? If this is treating Tiffany like his sister, then shame on him. There are other experts in this field of medicine and its all a very poor show. The adulation is utterly misplaced!
Why would a surgeon tell you he has seen your scans before trying to attempt to do a biopsy on a tumor
(As an NHS Dr) …. I don’t believe you are experiencing the best care right now.. it is important that you advocate for yourself.. you can be polite.. but don’t worry about being assertive! Sometimes it is the only way to get what you need (unfortunately) It is your life and health on the line.. and the surgeon should absolutely be available to talk to you.. and the lack of communication and inconsistency is disappointing xx
Been said before by many healthcare professionals. It’s very disheartening to watch the viewers in this channel engage in enabling of some things that have done nothing but hurt Tiffany these past 8 weeks. 😢
As someone who works in a DGH… I think the communication she is receiving is poor … even in comparison to the smaller hospitals x
Your so right L Kayess, absolutely appalling communication.
Well said L Kayess
@@Lotsielots if this is the best I’d hate to see the worst.
Oof, this surgeon is really something else. I'm speechless. Week after week, he's disappointed you yet again. You don't deserve this at all, Tiff.
Something is definitely amiss...
It scares me as a nurse that he was the only one who would agree to do the surgery then after the 1st biopsy he backed out and he should have given you a face to face talk not just say he was sick. Maybe he is sick but it seems suspicious to me. I hope he will speak with you. Hang in there!!!
@@sheraria I do not believe the surgeon said he was sick. Tiffany was informed by his office staff that he was not working due to illness. Doctors get sick too and at times they may be so sick that they cannot work. I am a medical provider, and I was critically ill last year. Many of my patients wanted to speak with me but it was impossible. My colleagues assumed care of my patients while I was ill and during my recovery. They are all competent, highly skilled and I trust then completely. No matter what our occupation or life calling is, we are all just human beings. Tiffany trusts this surgeon and that is a very important part of patient care.
@@andiellison but didnt his surgeon talk to her that day , he is in hospital but just not performing surgeries… if he was so sick wouldnt he also not be in hospital working? Idk i find it strange…
I agree. I want Tiffany to receive the utmost good care. This surgeon is not it ...
It is completely unacceptable for the surgeon to not come and explain why they chose not to do the biopsy. This is standard care everywhere. I’m so sorry that you have experienced this.
They did the biopsy but couldn’t succeed to reach the cancerous area. That’s happening twice and they make her wait and lose so much time for the operation. That’s the problem here.
@@lizgephart2040 Even in this type of situation, standard practice is the surgeon comes and explains where things stand as well as their next plan. They also let you know what will be done differently the next time so the biopsy will occur as no one should be repeatedly be put under as there are potential serious side effects from that as well.
@@corybanticmuse8916 i thought she said he did come in but she was so high. If someone could be there to also hear what he said like Amma. Does Matt know whats happening??
Hi Tiffany. Just a little recommendation from me as a hospital nurse. Stop touching your face and mouth all the time, especially in the hospital. As an oncology patient, you are prone to infections, especially hospital infections. Take care of yourself 🙏
It is well past time to get angry! I am a nurse and so many patients think the Dr is God! They are not! Being sweet and accommodating only hurts you and the care you deserve ! You are just a number to many Drs . You are not special! I apologize for the harsh words but it is the reality in a lot of cases! You need to advocate for yourself! Do your homework. Know the options available to you and ask questions and demand answers ! You deserve the best Care and treatment !!🙏🏻💕
So true
Here in America healthcare is very expensive...but now I understand...I won't fuss anymore about the cost, (I have cancer also) I watch so many vloggers from the UK and Canada, the universal healthcare may be cheaper but according to all of them its not the best. Here I get my scans and then I see my oncologist and she gives me all of my results on the same day, I don't understand why it's taking so long for you to get your results, sorry just ranting over here, praying for you Tiffany and hoping it is a miracle, you're young and have your whole life ahead of you...thats how I pray for all my cancer vloggers that I watch. Sending love from America 💝
Everyone around the globe is praying for you & your family! You are so very much loved!!! 🇺🇸
Yes, we are praying for Tiffany!
Yes we are
You need to stop treating that surgeon like God. His care is a joke and his bedside manner has pulled wool over your eyes.
Let me just answer your question “why am I so sleepy”, the answer is: Huge amout of morfine 🤷♀️
Nobody mentions this here, but If I were you, I would think of this
Do you use mofrine on daily basis longterm? Did your doctors tell you about the risk of adiction?
And if you are using the morfine on daily long time - why? If there is no cancer - what is hurting? Do you know that drug craving manifests exactly this way? By hurting?
I pray for you every day and when I see the lack of information from the doctors I pray you and your family have little more responsibility in a way of getting informed. There are many ways. In the end of your day - your health is only your responsibility. I love you Tiffany and I am sending you all the strenght you need 🙏
I wasn’t going to comment because I see there are so many of us here for you. But then my mind went to what you said recently, always be there for someone. You’ve got this Tiff!!! We’re praying for you sweet girl.
Tiffany, if I have learnt anything from being in hospital my whole life it’s ADVOCATE for yourself. You shouldn’t have to but no nurse or doctor cares as much as you do about your life, so remember to push for answers, they get paid to do this xx
Yes!
Exactly ... The squeaky wheel gets the oil!
100% agree. Doctors fobbed my mum off for weeks saying oh you just have gastro. When they eventually did a scan she had a rare appendix cancer and was dead within the week. Do you think any of those doctors or nurses go home and lose sleep over it. No. You need to scream from the rooftops Tiffany to get your answers. It's your life!
@@susanlumley5547 dead within the week? wow, awful. Love to you and your family, Susan.
@@susanlumley5547 omg I am so so sorry,that is absoutley shocking,I am speechless,so very sorry for your loss x
I am so confused about this whole situation, chemo didn't work ,than they gave her option to do surgery or wait another 6 weeks and see what's the scans look like than ,Tiffany thinks cancer disappeared ? For me as oncology nurse it's about time , I understand cancer is stage 3 or 4 and they need to act fast ..which part I am missing? I am having feeling Tiffany may have chemo brain and doesn't understand whats going on !! Correct me if I am wrong and of course the best of luck to beautiful Tiffany ❤
@@brilliantbutblue Let's not jump to conclusions, OK? This is not helpful.
Last time she was told she was stage 4 and she said she is so confused because she has been told she was stage 3 before then said “ it doesn’t matter “
Oh my. This is a lot to take in for you and your family. Please don’t ever feel like you’re hurting a Dr’s feelings. This is serious. It could be life or death. YOUR life, not the surgeon’s life. I can promise you that if the tables were turned, or it were their family member that wanted answers, they wouldn’t hesitate to advocate. Also, sweet girl, I can pretty much bet that even though you’re frustrated and mad and upset and all of the appropriate emotions, you didn’t behave inappropriately because you’re just such a nice person. Okay, so, here’s a few things that kind of bug me, not only as a nurse, a cancer patient, and a long time Tiffany Thinks Family member: 1, prior to your first biopsy, your surgeon and oncologist and team were very adamant that no chemo or radiation would shrink the tumor. It was just to hold it at bay and stop it from spreading and that surgery was the only option to save you. BUT, when your surgeon went in, he was tossing around the notion that the tumor wasn’t a tumor anymore, but just mucus and such and that he didn’t see any cancer….that was amazing news, but I’d still be apprehensive because this huge surgeon was so adamant about the course of care. THEN, it bugs me that you’ve had a hard time reaching your surgeon throughout the waiting period, despite him telling you that he’d treat you like his sister. THEN, nobody informed you that HE wasn’t doing this second biopsy, and it kind of sounded like the surgeon in his place wasn’t quite aggressive enough since she was as T able to biopsy the area-and I say area because your surgeon expressed taking multiple biopsies of multiple areas incase he missed anything during your first one, and to further decide if possibly the cancer has shrunk or changed for the better etc. Even with no actual tumor present, biopsies NEED to be taken. As I’m sure you know, cancer cells can be so small and even singular, so it’s possible that something could’ve been missed. I’m in no way trying to scare you. I just want you to feel justified in your feelings-your feelings are very valid. Even with nothing showing on scans, I’d still want samples taken. They shouldn’t have assigned you another surgeon without discussing it with you first and the plan going into this procedure. I hope she looked closely at your scans, and if she had any doubt that she possibly couldn’t reach the area, this should’ve been discussed not only with you but your team. Your initial surgeon is supposed to be the best at this, which is why he took on your very complex case, so people need to provide you with a he*l of an explanation as to why this chain of events took place. I’d definitely second guess things now if it were me. Of course you have met with your surgeon. He may make you feel at ease, and that is most important, but I wouldn’t want them dropping the ball. It does happen. So do miracles, but I’m a believer in science first and foremost and when talking about possible life or death, I want to see a lot of factual evidence one way or another. You are such a gift to the world, and you deserve the best!! I’m anxiously awaiting your next update. I hope you get to go home soon to rest. 💙
I agree I don’t understand why or how they could be certain that no chemo and especially radiation would shrink the tumor. I was diagnosed with stage 4 colorectal cancer and the first thing they did before surgery was chemo and high doses of radiation to shrink the tumor enough to obtain enough clear margins so as not to have to wear a permanent colostomy bag . After the colon resection and removal of tumor I wore an ileostomy bag until my colon healed, then the ileostomy was reversed. If I didn’t have radiation I wouldn’t be fully functional and would be wearing a colostomy bag the rest of my life. Her medical team’s decisions are just not making sense with the information we are getting.
Very well said…👍I agree that Tiffany is being stuffed around. Pretty pathetic. ✌️
This all makes me so angry and upset! What a terrible way to treat someone!!
Tiffany please be persistent!!
Your surgeon owes you a detailed explanation for everything!!! I know you trust him but he has not been fair to you. He should take more responsibility for your feelings and care! Please dont give up!!🌝
Sending you much LOVE! You MUST ADVOCATE for yourself! My sister had breast cancer three times and that’s the number one lesson she learned. It’s completely understandable you want to hear from your doctor and no physician should be offended when you state that. You’re fighting for your life so this is about what is best for you, not them❤️🙏
I am also confused why she is relying on the surgeon to guide the medical care. Usually an oncologist guides the treatment and helps coordinate among surgeons and other specialists?? The latest videos are very concerning...
Use a recorder on your phone during your consults , Love.
@@gailcarey3597 Someone correct me if I am wrong, I believe I recall her saying that she has recorded some of her consultations (?).
I was diagnosed with colon cancer at the age of 42. (10 years ago) Within 6 months all was taken care of. I'm so grateful to be Canadian. No waiting, no delays. I've been watching your journey since day one. I'm routing for you Tiffany.
It's not like that in UK. It took for my cancer 8 years to be diagnosed. I was lucky for the kind of cancer I have... Any other one I would not be here.
Canadian here also . I was also diagnosed with colon cancer and taken care of immediately. Surgery chemo and now all clear for many years.
Which stage were you?
Our healthcare system here in the US is certainly not perfect but there is no way she would face these delays and this lack of communication here.
@@Silexize But then , she would have to have the money in the US.
Hi Matt I hope you read Tiffanys comments. I want to appeal to you directly to please go with Tiffany to all her appointments and hospital visits and admissions, she needs you to advocate for her, although Amma is a great emotional support and is there for Tiffany the language barrier is making it very difficult for Tiffany to get the information she needs to make decisions. If you were there you could ask the questions that Tiffany is afraid to ask and you could make sure you both understand the options available to her. She is drowning in a sea of uncertainty and has no idea which way to turn. The vlogs are getting more and more erratic and its plain to see that Tiffany is out of her depth and needs someone to take charge.
With all due respect I think when you have a doctor cousin in the family you'd want them with you in major appointments unless you're in deep denial which could be dangerous and consequential in some situations.
Matt and her mother are her emotional supports but not her advocates. People begging Matt to become one is not going to make it happen over a year into her journey. There is a lot of magical thinking going on.
So glad that you got to speak to your surgeon but this is so confusing. If he now wants to look at the scan results and then decide if the biopsy needs done why did they go this far in the first place? Why didn't they just wait in the first place and get the test results and then decide about the biopsy? It just feels like it's just a mess and they are not being clear with you and not being organized and it is not fair to you. It's causing you more stress when that's the last thing you need. I hope things clear up and you get clear answers. Love you💙💙💙
Yes and it also sounds as if he hasnt bothered to look at the scans until she pressured for a meeting? The scan was done a week ago, the results are there. Why is he not immedeatly contacting her to discuss the results? Also biopsy is essential to see if there is still cancer?
I don't understand why you are so instantly elated and relieved after seeing your surgeon. This is one day after biopsy, ex post the failed procedure, and he has not even taken a look at your scans and will "let you know" if he thinks a biopsy is REQUIRED? WTH???? Me thinks something is seriously wrong with this picture.
Agree
The surgeon holds her out. Maybe he doesn't have a plan.
@@curlyjen1507 yeah, and they told her that her surgeon is no longer doing surgeries, only clinicals.
Learn to write.
It may be a coping mechanism! I think it must be very hard to grasp the situaion
This is about your Life. Things can downhill very fast with cancer. It is too much for you to handle given your symptoms. I hope someone in your family - Sister, brother in law even Uncle or Aunt will help communicate with the hospital for you. Frankly, if I were Matt I would not have been away at this time. I know he has family and a life too. But this was a critical time for you. Also I agree with others who suggest St.Mark's. It is the best place for Bowel cancer. My buddy who went there was very well taken care of.
Something is Very fishy about all of this!! I am Just Do Not Understand what is Going On !!Why is Everyone so Quiet 🤐🤐🤐 ??Why do they not Tell her Anything ?!?!
I can't reassure you and tell you that everything's gonna be fine, because I don't know what it's like to be you and in this whole situation. All I know is you're one incredibly strong and kind soul. You've been in my prayers for months, ever since I came across your channel. That's all I can do. Sending you so much love, dear Tif. 🤍
I pray she is...I said that to my dying family member and I have never forgiven myself since their death..
Amen!
@@daybyday0731 we say that to feel better and make the patient feel better. Many here are saying that. But sometimes it is better to face Reality. It can help save the patient.
@@lindc1070 Agree, I think we're past the point of 'staying positive', it's time to be realistic cause the way that it's going I fear this isn't going to end well..
@@SianYu1 I totally agree
As a Theatre Nurse I have witnessed such cases wereby surgeon open and just close without doing anything due to various reasons mainly the problem is too severe or change of diagnosis etc, I don’t know about your case but I’m wishing you the Best🙏🏾 ❤❤❤
Is that what could have happened here?
@@jengetsherlifetogether Can’t be certain, there are a lot of reasons as to why it happens.... It’s an unfortunate thing really 😢 It saddens me everytime😔 , it can be tough being in the medical field but also amazing and fulfilling 😍
That's what happened to my father-in-law. He ignored symptoms for some time. When they finally opened him up, it was inoperable.
Your first surgeon should have told you he was not doing your surgery. The second one should have explained why he could not take a biopsy. I’m sorry Tiff I know you know all of this. So proud of you. We got this love Jo
they did, they couldn't get the tools to go in far enough because something is blocking it. and the risk of forcing a tool and perforating a colon is not something you want to take
If there is a blockage sounds like surgery is in order. I had a blockage colon cancer and I was dint with surgery and treatments within 6v months I don't understand all the delays I will continue to pray for her healing and speedy medical intervention as needed.
@@deeannb3735 Yes, the medical journals that I have been reading suggest surgery always to remove the blockage.
Nurse comment: Unfortunately surgeon's decide whether it's operable or not. It sounds like these surgeon's have all but given up on poor Tiffany. If they know they don't intend to do surgery then they should say that. They shouldn't just say "watch and wait" ...? Every single surgeon I know personally (around 19) has stated that colon cancer is ALWAYS removed. No matter what the size or grade of tumor. The ONLY curative treatment is surgery. Whether it's with chemo and or radiation or alone...surgery is 100% necessary for stage 3 or 4. Tiffany has been putting all her eggs in one basket with this one surgeon. There's absolutely no reason why another surgeon isn't taking over his cases. Believe me if I miss work, the staff is brought up to speed on my specific patients and another nurse can fill in...or I am called at home and I must be available to answer life threatening problems that I left on my last shift. That's why we have licenses. We aren't in the medical field to allow people to be ignored and deteriorate. This is a disgrace on that entire hospital. I don't know the laws in your country being in the US but I would probably look into legal advice moving forward. Sending constant prayers your way beautiful girl.
@@julybailey2326 💯 % correct!
This is my last post. I started feeling about a month ago that something was not right here. Like I was being played! I have read many of the comments here and I see I am not alone in my suspicions that we are not getting the truth. At first I thought Tiffany was naive and just didn't understand, then I thought she was in denial, and now I think these videos are all about drama and some motive I will not even contemplate. I have waited so many times for updates on the cancer only to sit and watch Tiffany drink a cup of tea or chop onions or post something irrelevant just to fill out the video. I have watched every one of them. This story is now so confusing and so convoluted that I am suspicious of Tiffany's motives with these videos. Is it for support and guidance from her loving online family as she has said or is something else entirely? So many people are vested in this cancer journey, including me for over a year, and I feel disappointed in what I think is happening now. I know from life experience that when something does not make sense, it is not true. And this whole story as it stands now makes absolutely no sense! I will probably get blocked for speaking my thoughts but I simply could not do otherwise. If I am blocked, then I will have my answer. I will still pray for you, Tiffany, for God's healing hand to touch you and for his wisdom to guide you.
I am doubting too
@fluffy fox calm down will you. People are entitled to express their opinions. And honestly, I understand the confusion! I'm totally lost as to what's going on with her. Are you clear on it?
@fluffy fox Block and delete every person that expresses her opinions, her concerns. That´s the way cults act. Tiffany wants 100.000subs - she will never reach this goal the way she acts.. If you put your life online you have to deal with differnt opinions.
It is completly okay to delete hate comments. That´s something different.
@fluffy fox we are all in thé same situation we don't understand what's happening !! I wish she is doing this for money !!! If not her doctor is just a joke but she stills only wanting him and ready to selle her house !!!!
@@LimeCrush444 what if they think she is not ok but waiting for Christmas and New year to Come and bé with her familly ... Maybe ... They can't do anything more !! But if chemo did not work then immunothérapy would ... Or maybe they think ... Cause all of this is just strange !! The wait and see is Never used with cancer patients even if first treatements GOT rid of the tumor and biopsies are négative !! In certain cases (not with colon cancer ) they might not get surgery but they still will undergo more chemo And more treatements... But this not her case tumor was still there
Hi Tiffany so glad you managed to speak to your surgeon at last. What a journey you’ve been on hopefully all your scans will come back reporting no change. You were so right to insist on seeing him before you left the hospital, do not worry that the other surgeon may of been offended. She is not your friend and this is your life you are fighting for!
Oh my goodness my dear you are so precious and important and you trust him and you said it as I typed it listening now 🙏🙏🙏
If they went in to do a biopsy and did not do it then they should complete the task I don’t see why you would have to pay out-of-pocket that would be awful and unfair. You will feel so much better when you go home💕🙏💙💙💙
If you are being treated publicly in the public system in the UK you are not able to ‘choose’ your own surgeon. You were luckily allocated a surgeon who works both publicly and privately. You could opt to go privately with him into that system and pay just for him but you would miss out on the rest of the fantastic multi disciplinary cancer treatment team. You are putting all your eggs in the surgeon’s basket when you should be thanking the medical oncologist and radiation oncologist for the good treatment you have received so far. It sounds like the surgeon you like, is nice and says things you want to hear. Your whole Marsden team sounds amazing and believe me, they would all know what’s going on. I can see why some viewers are becoming frustrated when things really are not making sense and they should be. It’s because people do care and want the best for you. It’s your medical oncologist that has the big picture and all the answers not your surgeon. You are a smart, university educated young woman and I hope you are able to properly piece together all the good info people give you and advocate for yourself to the right person. Yes, if you’re not happy with treatment make a complaint but do it from a place of definitive knowledge. There’s no point saying how strong you are if you don’t start learning everything about your illness and understanding exactly what needs to be done. It’s not rocket science, it is actually protocols and treatment guidelines they follow which can be easily found.
TIffany... remembering when my husband was going through his cancer journey, he was told the same thing I'm going to tell you by someone at our Cancer Clinic here -- don't worry about if you might offend a doctor, nurse or specialist when all you're doing is trying to find out answers about your own health, your treatment... YOUR cancer journey. Stand up for yourself and get all of your questions answered and don't worry if it offends anyone... advocate for yourself, first and foremost, because all too often, people fall through the cracks and don't get the answers and/or the treatment they need. And if doctors can't take being offended by a patient who is going through a very stressful time because of something like cancer treatment, then they shouldn't be doctors at all. YOU GOT THIS!!!
Can I ask why you trust 'your' doctor or surgeon, so much, when he hasn't even done what he is meant to do? Why did you send your boyfriend away when you were going into surgery, do you think whilst he's away he'll have fun and not think of you?
Whenever I'm sick or vulnerable my partner is there and likewise, for him, it makes our relationship stronger. Otherwise, he's just your friend. I'm not sure about this.
This is a frightening situation, sad to see.
I think she wanted Matt to get away from all of this stress. She loves him so much and wanted him to spend time with his family that he hardly sees. I bet she had to push him to go as I’m sure he would have rather been there with her.
Never worry that you've offended a doctor because you want to speak to the one that you know and trust. I'm so proud of you for standing your ground and being YOUR best advocate! Stay strong! We got this! 💙
Keep pushing Tiffany. Don't stop until you are satisfied that you are receiving the care you are supposed to be getting. I have had to advocate for myself many times.
Yes and it may require getting mean or threatening legal action.
@@EsaLena1 and what is that going to achieve??? The medical staff are doing their best for Tiffany. Her case is very complicated and threatening the doctors is just ridiculous.
@@bettyboo8214 It lets them know that you're not going to just roll over every time they mess with you. It lets them know that there will be trouble if they don't start being competent.
Why the doctor couldn’t get a hold of her scans and talk to her right away.
Why make another appointment again just to find out what he thinks ?
Why waste another week ?
It’s going to be 9 weeks and still the doctor is telling her to make an appointment to find out ?
This is a torture for her torture for her family and for many of us.
I hope they are not taking advantage of her soft sweet silent nature.
I just find every delay unnecessary I don’t know maybe it’s only me. It’s frustrating to wait and wait for too long for the final decision.
Oh well hopefully next video then.
Be safe be healthy try to get good rest dear Tiffany.
I wish there was something we could do now to speed up all this journey of healing.
❤❤❤
@@lizgephart2040 hi Liz I agree with you100%, I believe the scan results from the radiologist must be in her records and accesible.
Tiffany, I wanted to reach out to you again because I care so much about you and truly want you to get the best treatment available. You are a beaming light of kindness and gratitude, it is absolutely contagious. I understand your eternal optimism, as well as your patience and gracious manner with your doctors. I just want to make sure that you are going to stay on top of receiving answers from your surgeon, as well as pressing the surgeon for a clear treatment plan. If he cannot offer you one, I beg you to please seek out another doctor. I want the very best for you. Please consider taking someone with you and Mum on your appointments, as when we are emotional, we do forget things, and sometimes walk away without having all of our questions answered. I say all of this with love. ❤
I honestly think the surgeon DOESN'T care about her.. if he does like she said, at least he will be available to talk to her.
Not after she cried and cried and cried little more to show up.
I don't understand what she likes about him.. he just gave a hug and some nice words. No action 🤦♀️🤦♀️🤦♀️
Tiffany. I’m so sorry you are dealing with this. I am praying and offering Mass for you. You got this Tiffany. We are all here for you! 🥰🤗🌹
aw sweet Tiffany, seeing the thumbnail made my heart so sad for you. you are one heck of a tough human, and i want to thank you so much for being so real and honestly with everything you’ve been through and always trying to look out for us, you have a solid gold heart. we’re here for you, ALWAYS!! we’ve got this 💙 Love you, alot💙
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Dearest Tiffany,
I'm so sorry you went through all that anguish, and didn't get a biopsy done in the end. Good for you for standing up for yourself and insisting on speaking to your surgeon. I'm proud of you! Hopefully the scans will be good news. I'm praying for you dear girl. We got this! Lots of love 💙💙💙
Tiffany can i ask u please to slow down with the morphine I no ure are in pain its a very dangers drug 🙏💙
@@irmamatthys7026 she’s in pain, that’s what she needs. Lots of us who don’t have cancer are on morphine
I am so sorry the other surgeon was not able to help. I had a similar situation with a surgeon. The first time I met him, he walked in the door and said “You don’t smell like you have cancer”.
I wanted to change surgeons immediately but he was so highly recommended by Doctors I trusted. He too was unable to get to the area (in my lung) to do a biopsy.
Long story short, I ended up with pneumonia following his attempt to do a biopsy and the pneumonia caused scar tissue that encapsulated the tumor/mass and ate away at whatever was there. I continued to have scans done and there were no changes in that scarred area. I am several years out from that and in fact am getting some testing again as we didn’t just go along with his “smell”. What a wack-a-doodle!
Keep your chin up, you got this! And like you, I do not think being nice to someone is necessary. I always knew a good doctor when he saw the person (not a patient) and did what he would do if I was a family member.
At the very least that surgeon should have talked to a family member (someone not coming out of anesthesia) and advised them of what went on with the surgery. Or better yet, gave you a written note or saw you the next day.
I am a retired registered nurse so especially when it comes to my health or my loved ones, I do not hesitate to say “If I was your sister, mother etc. what is our next step? I am sure you would want a quick answer if I was your sister/mother etc.)”
Prayers are being sent your way!
PS I had a friend with an abnormal mammogram and the doctor could not see her for two weeks. She said that was not good enough and went right to his office and told the staff she would keep coming everyday until he could see her. She was seen that day! (and she did not have cancer) So sometimes we cannot or should not play nice! It is our life on the line, so we have every right to demand proper treatment or a plan.
Very well said 👍❤️
What I don’t understand is why the medical person in Tiffany’s family isn’t supporting her with speaking to the professionals. Unfair though it is, professional to professional, more notice is taken.
Different but similar, my 88 year old mum is going into the 5th week of severe back pain. She phoned her surgery and they told her to contact the pharmacist! I spoke to my line manager, who recently had major back pain. She gave me a phrase to ask for and we have an appointment to see someone tomorrow. You have to get the support from those around you who can help and advise.
Tiffany, don't worry about offending anyone. You are sick, tired, in pain and muzzy headed, and if a medical professional doesn't understand that, they're in the wrong field.
Small steps, girl. You've got this.
So many things just don't make sense. If the Dr couldn't get past a part that needed to be biopsied. Then how is she having bowel movements? Looks to me like the hospital gave her a standard breakfast.
My question exactly. It must be eccruciating at the very least, a trip to the bathroom trying to pass.
You knew before the surgery that this wasn't going the way you thought. Always always trust that intuition Tiff. It's always spot on in your case. Love you ❤️ WE"VE GOT THIS !
Tiffany I am so sorry you are going through this. I don’t usually leave comments online but your video really touched my heart. You see my husband had cancer and I am a nurse and I know and understand everything you are going through. I pray for you and your family daily. A lot of nurses and doctors take care of cancer patients and sometimes they forget that the patient needs some kind of explanation to what is going on or not going on. The patient always needs to be kept in the loop of what is happening at ALL times! Most Drs., like yours are really good at keeping the patient informed but every once in a while things happen and patients concerns and worries kind of get looked over. It is not on purpose at all, it is usually because the doctor has so much going on or the nurses are over worked. But that is not an excuse and should not happen, but it does. And I am really sorry it happened to you. I think with your doctor being ill recently, things just got off balance and he had to use a different surgeon which makes patients uneasy and makes them have anxiety. Which is the last thing you need to go through. I know when my husband and I were waiting for results of tests we were so anxious and our emotions were all over the place. Just know that your family, friends, and tiffanythinks fans love you and pray for you. If you ever need someone to just listen or chat you can message me anytime. Being a nurse I love taking care of patients and from going through cancer battles with my husband, my mom, and my brother I am well informed on what you are dealing with. I am an excellent listener! Love and prayers. Nancy from the USA.
Great explanation💕🙏 Sorry that you had to have so much first hand experience!💕
Such a great message. You've said everything I wanted to say...and more.
You explained this perfectly.
You're a saint
The roller coater of emotions you are on is so heartbreaking. I am so proud of how you pushed to see your surgeon and he came to you. The relief of knowing he came to see you is immense and the happiness on your face was just beautiful, pure joy. I love your mom so much she is the sweetest, Please let her know how much she means to all of us. I think of you everyday and keep you in my thoughts and prayers. Sending my love to you 💙💙
Hi Tiffany, it's me again. I've commented on a few of your videos and answered some of your previous questions you've asked about in videos. My answers have always been blunt and from an unbiased opinion (as you've stated in previous videos, you prefer being told things bluntly). This was one of the few videos that were genuinely frustrating to watch, if I'm being honest. You're still taking morphine, still bleeding, experiencing stomach pain, and throwing up after eating. This isn't even close to being normal, Tiffany. You really need to stop worrying about hurting these medical professionals' feelings. We get sworn at and berated daily by patients, I can assure you, you wanting to speak to your own surgeon isn't hurting anyone's feelings. Myself, as well as many other healthcare workers, have been recommending you reach out about patient advocacy programs or at the least, bring someone with you that has a medical background or can retain the information you're being told clearly. Yet, you're still always with Aemma, or Matt, who are both lovely, but above all want to give you answers of comfort, not anything that might be bad. This is why you keep coming out of these things so confused, and with no answers. You always mention your want to protect Aemma and Matt from all the "bad" medical information, but what about you? Above all, you need to protect YOURSELF, which will unfortunately not happen unless you start sincerely asking the difficult questions that you've been avoiding. I also beg you to actually do research on your cancer. I know you've previously stated that you've never searched up information regarding your cancer, but I strongly advise you to do so. It's undoubtedly scary, but you yourself, need to understand in great detail what's going on inside your own body. Having that knowledge is power. I send so much love to you and I hope to see you genuinely advocating for yourself in the future, Tiffany. 💙
Strongly agree
People have been saying all of this since the wait/watch video. No one is going to convince her to get a proper advocate. Everyone means well but needs to face reality. She's not going to do it.
@@frankiefirestone3159 I'm aware. I work in oncology and I've been one of those people telling her since the wait/watch video. I put my honest two cents in from time to time but at the end of the day, she ultimately makes her own decisions.
Honestly for the life of me I cannot understand why this family member of hers who is a doctor isn’t taking a more active role. He’s sees what she’s going through, maybe even knows this “great” doctor that Tiff is putting all her faith in. He could probably even see her medical records if Tiffany granted permission. Probably only take a phone call and a frank discussion doctor to doctor. Feel so bad for what she’s going through. She deserves so much better.
Agree 100% plus
Do you know I am lost for words with what is going on with this dear dear young woman. I am so emotionally invested in Tiffany, having three daughter and a son one of my daughters has been having issues for three years and gets her colonoscopy tomorrow.
I couldn’t be a nurse or a doctor now when they are so up against it that they are unable to provide the information.
I lost my partner to liver cancer last year and he always felt that the oncologist was overworked and literally flying by the seat of his pants and that was private healthcare as my partner had private healthcare through work.
Every cancer is different and my beloveds was inoperable and not in any way shape or form the same as Tiffany’s.
Amma my heart goes out to you having to watch your beloved daughter cry with desperation, you truly are a angel mum Xx
We got this Tiffany xxx ❤️💙💙
Tiffany, I can totally understand your frustration and anger. There seems to be such a problem with communication from your team. Your not understanding the situation with your surgeon from him(!) is a main one. You developed a relationship with him, trust him and then he is at not there when you expect it, and there is no communication as to why that is or what you need to expect in the future. As a retired RN, you deserve to know what the plan is, why the doctor who was to perform the surgery didn’t ( before the surgery), a thorough explanation after as to why it couldn’t be done when it was done before, and what the plan is now. Do NOT be concerned about making another doctor angry or uncomfortable with your frustration and questions. This is YOUR life and as I (& others) have said before you need to stand up for yourself to get the care you deserve as you are your best advocate. There is no benefit to just being nice when it is YOU (& your loved ones) who are living with your situation 24/7! The worse thing to do is NOT do anything , and then find out later if only you had….
Ask to get a clear explanation of what your plan of care is with what is going to happen in the future, who is doing what (doctors) and why things changed!
I totally understand all of the stress and emotions tied to having a serious cancer diagnosis. You shouldn’t have to also deal with the confusion and lack of communication from your care team, especially a team that works with cancer patients. They should know better.
Don't feel bad about asking for your surgeon. You have that right to be upset, anyone would.
I pray everything is good news. I'm so happy you got to talk to your own surgeon and he is following up.
When one is fighting cancer you should expect answers immediately.
Take care Tiffany. WE GOT THIS!
Tiffany, I normally would not suggest to anyone what they should or should not eat, but this is a different circumstance, where you need good, nourishing food as a cancer patient. I notice in all videos people are offering you cakes, sweets (did a relative recently send you a large box of chocolates?), and your "go-to" comfort foods are white flour pastas and breads and fried potatoes. As a cancer patient of course you seek comfort through some favorite foods, but this is the time to eat more with the idea in mind that "We are what we eat" and "Food as Medicine", and to put off the favorites until you are cancer free, if you ever decide to return to them.
*If you look up "worst foods to eat when you have cancer" one of the first thing comes up is crisps and fried potatoes, and all manner of packaged foods with processed VEGETABLE OILS. Please take this to heart, it is so important. It is these TRANS FATS, oils like canola and palm, that are highly processed, and very bad for cancer prevention. Ideally none of us would eat them, but in moderation it seems okay for many, although it contributes to many diseases.
*If you love potatoes, please get an AIR FRIER, which makes the potatoes crisp with NO OIL. PLEASE DO NOT EAT MCDONALDS, at least not while you are still ill. It is just about the worst food you could eat now. I know it seems as though a harmless pack of crisps could do no harm, but the opposite is true. The last thing you should be eating is sweets and any fried food. Please have your family support you in this, dear Tiffany, and look up "cancer diet" for anti-inflammatory diet, which will aid in your recovery.
@@janetl9546 It's frustrating for those of us who care, and who understand the food-health connection, but I'm thinking it isn't that Tiffany doesn't care, it's that she might put 100% faith in what her doctor tells her, and if he hasn't mentioned diet, she believes it's not going to help her to make any changes. Doctors get such a minor amount of training in nutrition in medical school. I have friends in England and Scotland and they all tell me their doctors rarely if ever test for vitamin or mineral deficiencies, or talk to them about their diet. Here in the U.S. it is different, although not vastly different; depends on the part of the country you live in I suppose. I live in California, where you can find doctors of Integrative Medicine.
@@Luna_and_Miles We have integrated doctors. This is the UK, it isn't a third world country.
@@traceyb3805 I know there are doctors of Integrative Medicine. But generally they are not the doctors people see. All my UK friends tell me how difficult it is to get treatment from them, and how their doctors of mainstream medicine do not ever ask them about their diet.
The attending surgeon that carried out the procedure, obviously which was postponed would have documented his findings to why the procedure was cancelled.He is the one that should be talking to you Tiffany...This is the usual post-op.
Sending prayers and hugs Tiffany! Our God is a healer!
Hey girl, I can imagine how stressful this was. I had an emotional week as well as I finished chemo but still have many other steps to go through. Pls calm down and think positively, we got this! 💛
Hello LEMONLADY, I’m following your journey too. I’m keeping you in my prayers as well. I hope you both receive the positive news you both need to hear so badly. What a great community. Yes! We got this! Can’t wait to celebrate when you both get to the finish line!
Praying🙏🏼🙌🏼💞
Thinking of you.
Wishing you the best course to succeed
Dear LEMONLADY, love & prayers your way for continued obliteration of ALL cancer by your chemo and prescribed treatments. God bless you!! Pulling hard for you ❤❤
Tiffany you mean to say your surgeon now says he'll do the biopsy AFTER reading the scans. Then what was the biopsy scheduled for? For them to open you up and poke you around unnecessarily?? Where is your oncologist in all of this??
So true. I understood that they need to scans and the biopsy to see if there is still cancer? And also why hasnt the doctor read the scans yet, its been one week? When was he supposed to do that? Like he wouldnt have called her or came if tiff didnt pressure him to talk to her. So if she wouldnt have done that, what would he have done?
Doesnt the oncologist normally manage all of the tests?
@@lindc1070 exactly!
Tiffany, it is time to be brave and face hard facts. Surgery all likelihood is going to be necessary for a cure. No more watch and wait. Waiting may have contributed to the blockage. I think that you should take your sister or brother-in-law to your next appointment. The news is hard for Matt and Oma which can lead to denial including your own. I wish you all the best and I worry about you
I would highly suggest that you stop writing such things. Tiffany is already scared and doesn't need your negativity. You have no idea why the biopsy could not be taken, so stop guessing and painting everything black. Obviously, we need more information to evaluate the situation. But this is not helping
If we care about Tiffany, we should prepare to support her at her lowest and empathize with her fears. The truth is not everything can be painted rosy.
@Justbeing real Yes, we do know it couldn't be taken, but we don't know the reason behind it yet. So until then, I think it is better to keep a low profile and hope for the best. We can still deal with it after some new information. I know you don't mean ill, but Tiff was already so scared. Please don't add more fuel to this until we know more
Precious Tiffany it breaks my heart to see and feel your pain. I know how hard it is to remain strong in such a difficult time. I am 22 days post op from my double mastectomy and going in on the 8th (my birthday) for the first part of my reconstruction surgery then starting chemo when I’ve healed from that. We Got This 💙 Love and prayers. ❤️Sandra
Hi Tiff, although I don’t know you personally, I truly feel like I’m part of your family. This feeling of family is all because of you. I’m nervous & anxious just as you are, but we’re going to Faithfully believe in miracles & healing for you. We got this💙💙
For those interested, look up: Watch and wait approach in rectal cancer. This is a new trend for locally advanced rectal cancer that has shown a clinical response. Sounds like the odds are as good as the surgery which as we know can be life altering and life threatening. It sounds like rectal cancer and colon cancer are different beasts
If you have been certain type of person your whole life, having cancer does not change you into being a warrior all at once, we are just seeing clips of her struggles, the fact she demanded to see her doctor, who she trusts, is a step in the right direction and while I don't agree with Matt not being there, it's between them not us, you can't get mad at her for not taking everyone's advice, it's her struggle to get through, alot of times people just want to talk about what's going on in their head and not to be given hundreds of " you should do this" comments, just let her vent
I feel your pain hunny. In one of my abdominal/bowel surgeries the surgeon told me the day after that he didn’t remove the organ and scar tissue that has caused me severe pain for years. I waited a whole year and he just closed me up. I cried for days and only after begging did he come and tell me. I know you now face another wait for answers and the stress to you and your family must be immense. Keep praying! Xxx
I'm so sorry to hear your story.
I'm about to have an abdominal surgery for endometriosis and Adenomyosis and I'm scared this might happen to me.
That the surgery will not work.
Having an illness and going through all the medical procedures is so stressful.
I've been on the waiting list since January this year. Just a nightmare.
@@bellesblues Before going into menopause at 52, I had endometriosis, fibroids, and cyst's. No surgery. Menopause cured ALL of that. Because estrogen feed's those conditions. Once that drops after menopause, within a year after, tests were redone, everything gone. Hang in there, and unless you're diagnosed with cancer, do not have a hysterectomy!
@@donnabaardsen5372 thank you for your advice.
I am forty years old. I really do not want to have a hysterectomy at all. I have no quality of life, for the last two years I have been in debilitating pain.
I am hoping that laproscopic surgery will unattach my ovaries and any other adhesions and that I can retain my reproductive organs. I am aware how damaging it is for the whole bodily system to have a hysterectomy.
Thank you so much for your reply. It means a lot to have advice from someone who has suffered the same illness.
I can't imagine hanging on for maybe ten years until I reach natural menopause in this state.
Tiffany I’m so so sorry, I usually a silent viewer but I’m actually in tears for you, you’re the kindest sweetest soul and seeing you like this breaks my heart😢sending you all the love in the world, I can’t imagine how they can’t get a biopsy, they should have got someone else to at least try!!!!! I hope you get some results soon, we got this ❤❤❤❤❤❤xxxx
I am sooo sorry Tiff that you have to go thru this. I think you need to stop focusing too much on the surgeon and get your scan results communicated to you ASAP by whomever is available and accessible. You have already wasted so much time by "blocking out" facts which you say you're good at. My Tiff , it's time you get in charge of your own health and circumstances and make sound decisions. Also, please take an informed person along who can ask the right questions about facts and next steps. Please please please I have prayed for you wholeheartedly thruout this journey. I apologize if I sound offensive but I reallyyy really feel bad and anxious seeing you in this situation 😢
You're so very young and navigating this chaotic journey without much communication. My son was seriously and chronically ill for 10 years...I had to push, and fight with many doctors and surgeons along the way. DON'T take "no" for an answer. Make them so tired of you, they'll be begging to give you answers!
I love you sweet girl.
Oh my goodness!!! I have no words! You should have asked the surgeon that tried to biopsy, why it was difficult to get to it to biopsy! Sounds so strange! All the waiting! And now you need to wait some more. I think YOUR surgeon is letting you down. I am so sorry. Hopefully all will get resolved soon. Please advocate for yourself!
Sending you love and lifting you in prayer. I’m so frustrated by your care. I know you trust your surgeon but I want to know why he’s not performing surgeries. If he can see patients in clinic, why no surgeries? Perhaps I’m being paranoid. If this was happening in the United States, I would think he’s possibly under investigation for something that prohibits him from performing more surgeries until the investigation is complete. I’m so worried for you as I feel you aren’t getting the care you deserve. I just care for you so much! I hope you get more answers soon. 💙💙💙
Interesting theory about him being investigated. You have to step back and look at all his peculiar actions instead of his endearing bedside manners. But, really the entire team has been strange as well. What about the female doctor who was all over the place with answers - and she was replacing the oncologist who also couldn't talk to Tiffany?? Even the doctor who performed the biopsy was vague. It's like a coordinated effort to keep the patient in the dark.
I am in complete shock!!! You need to be firm and tell your surgeon that you need answers this is unfair being left without answers. Either the cancer is there and they can't get to it or it's gone. Don't sit and wait! Be aggressive Tiff
Love you and praying for you as always. This was horribly stressful and disorganized. I'm so sorry you had this stress. Your grace under pressure is mind blowing. Thank you for sharing your journey and your faith with us.
Self advocacy Tiffany. In this world, we need to be our own best advocate. You’re so strong and remember… the squeaky wheel gets the oil!
I’m so glad you stood up for yourself and got to speak with your own surgeon who knows your body. Sometimes we just “connect” better with some, than others, don’t we. Anyway, let’s Pray that the scans are all negative and we can plan from there, going forward. And also, let us Pray for God to give strength, and also give peace and let us know that whatever our future holds, He will “have our back”. This life is a journey, but then there is so much more that we don’t see from this side.
Ok, think positive, find joy in the little things, and let God handle the big things, and let all of us give thanks and be at peace.❤❤❤
Totally agree
Love this comment!
Well said and you'll become stronger in doing this trust me..
Really beautiful post.
Yes!!!! Yes!! A thousand times yes!!
Oh my sweet Tiffany, I totally understand in having that level of "comfort" with your Doctor! I, too, have had a long journey with Renal Cell Carcinoma and while it has been surgicially removed along with my right kidney and adrenal gland, I have had it reoccur with several surgeries to remove it with the worst being in my throat/neck area. I absolutely trust my Surgeons and like you, would do most anything to keep them. I am praying that you have absolutely a positve scan results and can live many, many years cancer free. Blessings from US to you!!
Hi Nina,I’m so sorry to hear your news god bless you I’ll prey for you sending love an preys Ann uk ❤️❤️🙏🙏🇬🇧🇬🇧
I have so much to say, but I'm not
Tiffany please continue to pressure your medical team for answers. It's your basic right. Not having taken a biopsy is certainly not because they could not find any cancer. It is a really sweet explanation from your mom probably to calm you down, but please never forget you are there to fight. Biopsy means taking samples from all kind of areas to check for cancer. It is surely not possible to detect from the human eye which little folds have cancer spots. So please stay strong and fight.
This has happened to my day last week. They couldn’t get in because the surgeon wasn’t experienced enough & they didn’t have the right instruments 😫 he’s going back to see a top surgeon. He’s been with the the Marsden too. Sending you all my love & posting vibes xx
I feel so sorry for you all the pain and frustration you are going through. I have been through breast cancer recently and the NHS in Britain seems very different from my experience here in the USA. I have a secure website where I can log on to look at my medical chart. Doctor’s notes, Lab and scan results usually show up within 24 hours of the tests. Often, I know my results before I see the doctor at the next visit so I can ask informed questions. I’m not saying our system is better. I really don’t know anything about the British healthcare system. Who knows, maybe some patients here find that too much medical information makes them anxious.
I hope you feel better soon. I’m sure that everything will get sorted out. So glad your Doctor came by and put you at ease. You got this !
I’m from the US too and an RN. It seems strange to me that the scans haven’t been read yet- weren’t they done last week?. The feet dragging on Tiffs case is very disturbing.
@@pensivern
These results will absolutely be telling. One way or another there's absolutely no way to get around the results. You and I both know as nurses there is an explanation owed to her either way. I am lucky my physician has been in town 35 years and knows most radiologists on speed dial. If he can't reach them on the phone he marches to the hospital and has another radiologist on-site at that moment glance at the films immediately just to give him a quick update so our patients aren't waiting 3-5 days for the results from their oncologists. My boss doesn't care who he aggravates or offends because he sends them referrals and they make money off those referrals. If you have a good doctor you are in good hands. This comes down to one thing...why isn't her original surgeon getting the films and reviewing them and then Tiffany's mind would be at ease. Or at the very worst if the news isn't good then she can formulate the next plan of action quickly. It's not rocket science. It's call having a heart. Please God bless this young girl and help her get answers quickly.
Why can’t they just communicate to tiff and let her know what’s happening..rather than her going through all this sad emotion. And knowing the unknowing.
Just Talk and explain to tiff what’s going on! 😢😢
Tiffany. Having seen this last video I feel numb, frustrated and upset for you.
The upcoming meeting with your medical team will be one of the most important of your life.
Please ensure that you are meeting fully informed Doctors who can answer your questions.
Please prepare beforehand and list your questions, anxieties.
Please bring someone with you who will advocate for you.
Please ask for their plan of action.
Please do not leave the room until you are clear with your diagnosis and treatment/operation plan.
Tiffany, if you are still confused after the meeting, request your file and scans and get a second opinion.
Please Tiffany...we all want the best for you. No more waiting. Its your health and life.
Much love
She’s been advised this numerous times 😢
Thank you Sandra. Yes I understand but sometimes it takes repeating these things to sink in. I can only imagine what Tiffany is going through she seems to put her trust in the system not realising that within that system she is just a number. My heart goes out to her and her beautiful mum.
@@lucikate10 there are basic rules of practice which aren’t been done here and I’m truly perplexed. The Royal Marsden is renowned for its expertise.
Yes Sandra. I live outside the UK and have heard of the Excellence of RM.
Hopefully next week will bring more clarity.
My dear Tiffany...first, I want to begin by saying how incredibly strong, courageous, and resilient you are! Look in the mirror and tell yourself how proud you are of magnificent YOU!
While watching your video, I was full of anxiety, I cannot even begin to imagine all the emotions you are experiencing.
I agree with all of the previous posts that are saying to advocate for yourself .
I couldn't agree with them more!
The best scenario would be to have a family member or friend be your advocate.
Someone who understands basic medical terminology, someone who is assertive and not embarrassed or shy to ask questions, someone who stands their ground and will not settle in order to avoid offending nurses and doctors.
The Advocate needs to fight, fight, fight for getting you THE best treatment possible!
Also,plenty of notes need to be taken in addition to tape recording the conversations so that you and your family can go back and listen so that nothing is misunderstood.
Here in the States, many hospitals have Patient Advocates for those who do not have anyone.
I have advocated for my friend who battled breast cancer a few years ago.
She was and still is very grateful that I advocated for her..
Please always remember that you NEVER need to apologize for demanding information.
I am praying every single day for you Tiffany.
Sending you love from Ohio....Yvonne
We've Got This!💙💙💙💙💙💙
God bless Tiffany 🙏
Beautiful comment , Yvonne. Your friend must have been lucky to have you indeed.
Tiffany, YOU NEED TO ASK ALL THE QUESTIONS!! Any time! Every time!
They work for you! We appreciate them, of course, but they are there for YOU! And their other patients, who are hopefully getting answers. And if they don’t have answers, ask more questions why!!
Have your mother or bf do it if you can’t!!
Tough love with all the
L❤ve!
My heart aches for you, Tiffany. Out of all of your videos I've ever watched, I have never seen such sadness on your face. To see you cry so much, made me nervous. We Got This!
Can someone please explain why they put Tiffany through general anesthesia and feeling ill and a scary hospital visit if they hadn't even looked at the scans yet to see if she needed the biopsy to begin with? Did I miss some information that was shared? So confused.
I think there are gaps in the info we are getting. Tiff is on morphine. Like she admitted she isn't getting it all in a clear manner. I think her mum doesn't comprehend fully either. Wish Matt had stayed or her sister had popped in. Much easier to get info when the patient is still admitted.
@@brilliantbutblue I agree.
@@Sunshine-zi4nq Yes, I am upset that Tiffany is handling most of the communication on her own, when her family members should be a team advocating for the best possible care and best communication for her. It could be that they offer and Tiffany doesn't want to trouble them, so puts them off, says it's okay, she is fine handling it on her own, but all patients need a team of helpers and supporters.
@@brilliantbutblue Remove your last comment, please. This is so deeply hurtful to Tiffany and her family. This is in no way helpful.
It scares me that they put her through this without the scans to guide them. This makes the hospital look very disjointed. I am very disappointed that they had a surgeon who doesn’t have first hand knowledge about her case attempting to perform this very important biopsy. We should all learn a lesson from this. It is very generous of Tiffany to share her experience with us.
I came across this channel about 3 months ago when I was at my lowest mentally and physically and my family was trying to find me inspiration to not give up. I can't imagine what it must be like having cancer but I do know how it feels to be diagnosed with a life threatening /terminal illness. Her videos helped me come to terms with my illness after doctors told me the medications that could have cured me had failed and that I should prepare myself. Never feel bad about questioning doctors and looking for answers if I had not questioned and insisted I would not be alive today. I am still fighting my illness and will never give up hope and its all thanks to your videos. I wish you the best and hope you get the piece of mind and good health you deserve .
What's impossible with man is not impossible with God. Sometimes God allows us to lose all hope so we will focus on Him and seek Him only with all our heart. You Tube is full of stories where people were dying or in an utterly hopeless circumstances that have received unexplained miracles. Miracles that baffled their doctors. Look it up. Praying you can join the ranks with these other people and have one too!
Sending you love and a hug talos darkbane!
love you so much Tiffany, really appreciate the frequent uploads. We got this 💙💙
love you💙 thank you so much my darling - I really appreciate your comment💙 we got this💙
Hi hun!! 💕 I know all this has been so frustrating but know we’re here for you and are sending so many positive thoughts your way!! 💙 So glad you’ve gotten to hear from your surgeon and that he’s back on the case!! Just know you’ve got this and we’re right there with you!!! 💕
Dear Tiffany, very impressed with how you dealt with that! Good for you. I was off line this weekend in a retreat centre and wondering how you were doing and praying for you. Thank you for posting. In the midst of being under an aesthetic, vomiting and in pain and stressed you managed to clog and I really appreciate it. I hope you can receive communion from time to time. Have you thought of asking for the sacrament of the sick. It’s such a huge boost!! God bless!
This is all too confusing. I'm out. Sorry..I feel like such an ass hole. You seem like a lovely person.
I wish you and your subscribers the best.
Chow.
Good job insisting on YOUR surgeon! Peace of mind is EVERYTHING! So glad to see you and Amma smile so big 😁
What a rollercoaster of emotions. My daughter spent the first 8 weeks of her life in NICU as she was premature and seeing the emotions you were feeling (sadness, anger, relief, hope etc) is exactly what I went through with her. You go from being frustrated and angry at the staff to relieved and grateful. It's a real rollercoaster. Thinking if you xxxxx
Proud of you for insisting on speaking to your surgeon - your relief was palpable.
Next is your scan results and healing from the procedure. You Got This.💙
Sending you so much love.
Hi Tiffany, I’m so glad you are advocating for yourself and you got to talk to your surgeon. However, it should not be this hard for you. I can’t help but feel outraged on your behalf. I have been having cancer care for the last 10 years within the NHS. I have also moved hospitals 3 times due to relocating. I have also worked within the NHS myself for 22 years before having to take medical retirement myself last summer. I have worked in NHS administration within General Surgery and Oncology to name a few of the departments. I am sorry to say, categorically, you are NOT receiving the quality of care you should be receiving, so please please do not let up now, keep advocating, keep being pushy, keep asking for answers. Not only do you deserve to be heard, you are absolutely entitled to better care than you have received this far!
As always I am praying 🙏 for only the best for you. ❤
Tiffany, I was so pleased that you have stood your ground. You have a right to receive good care. Sending you a healing prayer ❤️
Hi Tiffany,
New friend here ☺️
You’re so much stronger than you know. Praying for your healing daily. Have a wonderful week. ❤🙏🏻
Hi Tiffany. Did you ask your surgeon WHY they couldn't get in??? What was blocking from him to get in?? I'm praying for as always. I'm terminal as well but with no chance of survival. I know for me, I was SO scared that I forgot to ask some very important questions so what I did was write them all down to ask. It's a good thing to do just to keep you EMOTIONALLY strong! It's important for your fight! I love you and we've got this! 💙💙💙
Sending you much love and light. I hope you will have a miracle. 🙏🙏
@@Nia_von_L thank you!
Oh Tiffany sending you lots of strength and love❤️. I had my second cancer during lockdown and because it was aggressive and no operations could take place at my hospital due to an excessive amount of covid cases I was operated on by a private surgeon at a private hospital. I saw my surgeon all of 3 mins and was very rude 2 weeks later. I complained to the Head and asked to no longer be in his care but in my consultants care as I had numerous complications and only trusted my consultant. I so understand how you feel about trusting him and feeling better after speaking to him. I know the nhs is under an immense amount of pressure but surely after all the attempts and messages you have left to speak to him he should have come to reassure you or called. I feel that one must speak up and demand what is needed. I do hope and pray Amma is right that there is no more cancer. Lots of love to you all. You got this!
Did you go private in the UK?
Tiff was this 6 or 7 days ago? By now the scan results are available so I don’t understand why this video doesn’t end with the scan results.
Right? That would be reassuring to her loving TiffanyThinks family to know up to date information
Never would have guessed that was going to happen. Glad you got to speak to your surgeon. Keep pushing for the answers you want and need. Love and prayers xxx💙💙💙💙
I read through the comments on your channel and have renewed faith in humanity. There’s goodness in the world with so many people praying for you Tiffany, so many people.
This is so confusing. There's no way a surgeon wouldn't explain the procedure. Yet another cliffhanger. 🙄
Hello Tiffany I'm so sorry that they haven't taken any biopsies, hopefully when your surgeon gets your test results everything will be fine and no sign of cancer. I'm so glad you are going home so just take it easy and have positive thoughts and let your mum look after you. PRAYING FOR YOU EVERYDAY AND WE GOT THIS 💙💙💙
I can't believe they didn't pull the scans up before they even tried to get a biopsy, it also makes me sad for you to have to go through all of this, here in the US or Utah, the scans get looked up right away, and the Dr comes and talks to you soon after the surgery. This is so mean what they are doing to you. :(
Yes yes and yes.
Why doctor asked her to make an appointment to know about her scan results. She is already there at the hospital why make her wait about scan results. This means wasting another week.
It’s outrages. Unacceptable.
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Yes I do t believe the scans “haven’t come back yet”???? Just more inefficiency? Not blaming the staff at all but the system is just not working?
@@janematthews3394 you mean the doc doesn’t want to look at it? Sorry I’m confused
I am from Austria and I get my scan results a few hours after they are done. I get a notification on my phone that resluts are ready. A doctor reads the scans and there may be some parts that are hard to understand if you are not from the medical field, but there is a clear statement if evidence of cancer was found.
Totally agree! the whole thing about her journey sounds extremely fishy! She needs to change hospitals, doctors or even go to the US if need be as this is her life! Unbelievable 😮
It’s so hard watching you get upset it feels like watching my sister cry. I’m devastated this is so gruelling. I’m thinking of you and your family and praying for you! You’re such an inspiration, you’re so kind and selfless even while going through this. I’m grateful that you’re documenting this- one days your future kids are going watch your vlogs and realise what a tough mama they have! Everything is going to be ok ❤
Hi Tiffany. I'm so sorry to hear what you've been going through with no biopsy having been done especially after how long you've been waiting for one. I don't understand why your doctor has said he will do a biopsy 'if the scans show you need one'. I'm glad you are determined to get a biopsy done regardless of the forthcoming scan results. It's sad to hear that your doctor has taken so many weeks to respond to you in person to be honest. Wishing you the very best xxxx