Feminists HATE This Take On The Male Gaze
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- čas přidán 26. 06. 2023
- TikTokers are going absolutely ballistic in response to a woman’s dating advice on how women can make themselves more attractive to men by doing certain things that “men love.” Is she reinforcing old sexist stereotypes by suggesting women should want to carry themselves in a way that appeals to men, or does she have a point? Let’s watch and react.
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When Dylan comes out with a video with his nails and hair done he gets the worlds support and when a natural woman encouraging other women to take care of there bodies she gets hated on. smh. It’s women that’s bringing us women down.
Join me in calling for the revocation of women's voting rights. Help save women from themselves.
Bill Burr said it best. czcams.com/users/shorts1cxLwSHm93A?feature=share
Actually, no men like women who take care to look good. What they don’t like are dumpy women. I don’t like dumpy men. I notice clean nails on men, and good grooming. What makes you think that men don’t want the same from women?
@@clwaid5407
It looks like you didn't read what she wrote.
Yeah! Now I'm pissed
I'd rather put in the effort to look hot for my husband than put in the effort to get approval of feminists 😂
I think the point is that they don't want to have to put forth any effort. "You're beautiful just the way you are." It's the most disingenuous statement. No man has ever been "beautiful just the way he is."
I would love to see some guy who's 5'3" and has a potbelly just swimming in female attention.
You need to look hot for your husband. If you don't, he would leave you for another woman. Duh! That is part of your job as a wife.
I guess men love women who appreciate themselves. And it shows visibly when you work on your figure, your hair and your looks in general, which means you smell nice, look nice and therefore have a nice charisma.Of course, men also love other qualities such as friendliness, helpfulness and a good sense of humor I guess. Am I right or wrong, male mates?
All the power to you! 👊👊
@@nathanbarnhart7823Danny Devito
What makes this so ridiculous is that I have a friend who is a lesbian. When she is single and wants to meet women, she makes sure to have her hair done, she wears flattering clothing and she makes an effort to keep trim. Although she is not a particularly feminine lesbian, she also puts on a little make-up. This has nothing to do with men. If you want to meet a partner then make the effort to look good.
Great point!!! All my lesbian friends do the same.
off course man loves beautiful woman, well dressed and all. But we don't care and notes about details. And we hate filled lips, plastic surgery, etc. Over makeup it's a red flag too
off course man loves beautiful woman, well dressed and all. But we don't care and notes about details. And we hate filled lips, plastic surgery, etc. Over makeup it's a red flag too
Did you ever think that maybe she's talking to straight women?
I mean..saying it has nothing to do with men is a stretch. They accentuate the features that men are attracted to BECAUSE men are attracted to those features. Push up bras and BBLs and blush…that’s for men. Straight women tend to think the prettiest women are model types, high cheekbone, skinny, narrow chiseled faces. That’s not men’s preference. Just look at porn. It’s all about curves and youthfulness. That’s what men like.
Women have two ways they compete in regards to looks. Men are easier to please than other women (they do dress up for other women to an extent). But the things like nail polish and Birkin bags and Gucci purses..that’s not for men. That’s for the gays and the girls. It’s about showing status and “look at what my man bought for me, I have a high status guy who’s very invested in me”. It’s a different kind of mate value signaling
A message to feminists: Bitterness and negativity turns off most people.
This is pretty key. People are attracted to happiness, love, compassion, respect, etc.
*all
Men seek approval and care, then they will happily work to make the woman feel secure. No approval or praise and the man feels like an overworked donkey.
A message to misogynists: no one's trying to turn you on
Then feel free to stop complaining that nobody wants to date you.
That girl got a lot of backlash for advice that boils down to “make yourself look like you take care of yourself and put forth effort”
Because these new feminists stay get mad if they go to the gym and guys are looking at them, and they're, they are keeping themselves Fit hydrating blah, blah, blah. They don't want men to be a Attracted to Them. Even when all there wear is(basically) a bra and underwater. We had a name for that when I was young😂(initials PT)😊
Omg exactly, like it’s crazy what is going on with these females 🤨 it’s annoying
Yes in some ways, no in others. Nail paint for instance, is usually hiding something, usually mineral deficiencies and lack of general health. Accessories and perfumes are to likewise distract from similar flaws.
@@spacewater7 I’ve never heard that before, that’s interesting
Who cares if you have paint on your nails or you carry a purse? Exactly zero straight men care about this.
The biggest thing she hit was having respect for herself. That is what people who want a healthy relationship find attractive.
It's actually quite a bit more subtle than that.
A person who has self-respect is a person who BELIEVES that OTHER people will respect them.
This indicates good things about their character... reputation.
In turn, that tells you that they are either a good person, or they think they are, or they are good at faking it.
Impossible for a man to respect a woman who doesn't respect herself.
Guys like girls that respect them as well.
It's sad y'all think THAT'S what feminists were disagreeing with!
@@Victori.A1 I don't think anyone here said that's what feminists were disagreeing with. But when we say self-respect, we mean something very different.
Both male and females love it when their partner is taking care of themselves and are being the best they can be
Yes, red or pink nails, skirts or dressed well, intelligent, sophisticated, good manners, polite, kind. A woman who is proud to be a woman and understands the power and responsibility that femininity bears. It is a paradox that the more feminine a woman is, the more power she wields.
Pink was once considered a masculine color. It's true. The idea of pink for chicks and blue for dudes is a 19th century invention.
I think that only works if the women is in a committed relationship otherwise femininity at lest from my knowledge and experience isn't really empowering.
@@fatimaibrahim2200 Perhaps only with the right men who appreciate women. There are a lot of louses who just try to go through as many women as they can like a game. You are correct in that the men I am talking about are true hearted and desire a committed relationship.
Also, a woman who appreciates her femininity and is intelligent will help the man become increasingly committed. You must talk at some time and intelligence allows conversation and friendship between the couple.
@@TheRealBrook1968 I get what you mean but my perspective is from how society treats femininity as weakness and something to look down a pond which is why I think women now a days becoming more masculine cause its seen as more respectable. Also you get harassed less when you don't look so feminine as a woman.
@@fatimaibrahim2200 I'm afraid that the society you are living in does not understand human nature of men and women. My girlfriend in a foreign country is the equivalent of a United States senator and is the most feminine woman that I know. She is on The advisory board to the king of her country.
Yes we love healthy feminine atractive women. What's so complicated?
Can you define what "feminine" means to you? Not say that this necessarily applies to you, but for some people, feminine even mean being housewife and not having a career
THIS... Any Man worth having wants a FEMININE FEMALE.
All this current propaganda in the modern age is so weird to me.
Women complain about men NOT committing (not to mention they IGNORE about 80% of men)
But they never stopped to ask themselves, why would a man WANT to date OR MARRY someone who acts like a man?
@@technoloverish tztztztz..... Pepe
@@technoloverish Soft in appearance and demeanor
Do you care about cute sunglasses? I hope not bc I have a friend who will spend hundreds of dollars on nonprescription sunglasses. When she has a boyfriend it's very expensive for him.
"Men don't have standards."
Funny, I thought that we were considered toxic because we do.😂
It's funny cuz the men they attract don't have standards but the ones they actually want do. Then when they get rejected by the men with standards they get mad at all men. It's a vicious cycle.
That woman has us all figured out. I have been staring at a straw all day trying to figure out what might work.
The hypocrisy is jokes
Well played
Toxic only to feminists. The rest of us respect men.
As a Man, a pretty woman could wear a burlap sack and I could care less, what attracts me is a kind heart, being kind to me and making me feel relaxed around her, someone I can show my emotions to without ridicule, someone I can Love… I married a Woman like this….42 years ago and I love her more now than ever and it just keeps getting better every day. It’s amazing how screwed up people are today.
She watches Amala, right?
Awww, this is so sweet. I wish you and your wife the best ❤
My husband of 17 years tells me the same thing. ❤️
Men love when you are there for them. That's what men love.
What a beautiful comment ❤️
She literally says at the end to do it for yourself and self respect. People just hate being accountable or called out or criticized at all
Look after birthing to two children and going through a rough patch in my marriage, I let myself go; honestly. I then started to shame on the other women who took the time to get ready, do their make up and just love on themselves. It was easier for me to say “oh they’re so vain” instead of takeing accountability of the fact that I felt extremely depressed and unhappy with my appearance . It takes so much time and effort to look AND feel good; which I do now 😊 Today, I am able to appreciate another woman’s appearance much more humbly!
Thanks for sharing
@@LovelyLady1111 thanks Lillian 🩷
Putting on makeup means you don't love how you look, though.
@@ems3991 That is absolute nonsense.
@@ems3991 Makeup can be used to hide things you don't like, such as blemishes. But it can also be used to enhance features you do like. If you don't love how you look, you probably won't bother with makeup either like you also likely haven't bothered in any other way to make yourself look good..
As a man I'll put it plainly and simply...Men don't like your nails and lip gloss, they like that you've made an effort. We don't care for your Chanel purse or your Jimmy Choo's, we care if they look good on you. Make an effort to portray yourself in the best way you see fit and the men that enjoy those traits will be the ones you attract.
Like #69 lol
Exactly! As a woman I have deep appreciation for you and for commenting here.
I would agree, don't care for nails don't care for accessories, also don't like too much makeup, keep it simple I don't think most men enjoy a women being extra. Also don't act desperate.
Also your purse probably doesn't have to be Chanel. My boyfriend for sure doesn't care whether my purse cost 20€ or 2,000€
The men who enjoy those traits are the worst kinds of men.
I love how Amala is so grounded and doesn't jump on the band wagon of hate and anger, she looks at things from calmness and then she assesses, hugely inspiring to look at things in a much more loving and accepting way to all. It's how we create a better world and I'm definitely going to take a step back on things I feel emotional about and see if there's a much more calm and grounded middle ground there that doesn't ostrastise others 💕
A man in his 80s whom I’ve known for years, finally saw me without mascara. He said he loved the way I looked naturally. I’ve heard a table of men discussing how they prefer it when women wear dresses. My brother said it is a dealbreaker for a woman not to have her toes looking polished and perfect. Ive heard many men like long hair better.
I still put on a bit of lip stain, not gloss, and brush my teeth and hair before my man comes home. My ex demanded I never wear flower print nightgowns. It reminded him of his mother. Men are all different, but listen when they tell you what they like, not your girlfriends.
Well put.
Yes, I prefer women with long hair. Alot of the other stuff aren't exactly deal breakers.
Definitely different but I can say almost all men don’t care about accessories. At all.
Your brother likes feet. Nothing wrong with it. Some people are feet people. I personally hate feet. Don’t care if someone polishes their toenails and such.
@@user-ok6ht5bk3esame. However, I dread the day that I finally get a gf and she comes home one day with hair as short as mine...
I definitely prefer long hair! Short hair can only work if the woman has a smoking body so she still looks feminine. Chubby girls with short hair are disgusting to me.
Generally, we love a lady that looks like she knows how to take care of herself
Agreed 👍
Could give a fuck about their purse tho
... in moderation. Start with good health and hygiene, and add a reasonable amount of grooming. Some nail treatments are over the top, though, and convey excessive vanity and a lack of seriousness about having a job or taking care of the everyday chores of life. Shoes and bags that suggest high-maintenance, obsessive vanity aren't encouraging.
-- Dressing like a feminist is not going to attract men other than messed-up men, and feminist women have been complaining about what jerks feminist men are for decades.
I feel like ya'll are women in disguise. I see so many comments like this one that applies to what women look for in men (i.e put in the effort to take care of yourself, confidence, etc).
I really don't think that advice works the other way around. I would have no idea if a girl took care of herself; all girls look the same to me (I mean just in terms of that; obviously they're different degrees of attractiveness), I have no idea who's taking care of themselves and who isn't and frankly, I'd be more down with a girl who needs more support than a girl who's completely self-sufficient and doesn't actually need me.
@@YSFmemories When I say take care of herself I mean she can get about her day without needing to babysit. I'm talking about how she looks when she's doing stuff. I could care less about makeup and stuff.
She's right, we basically love it when you're taking care of yourself and are feminine. We don't stare at your toes but we don't have to stare to notice.
but who cares what men love?
@@bluebellbeatnik4945 women
@@aleekscribblerofdeydras9036 manipulated women with low self esteem yes. nobody else.
lol my husband just told me my toes are cute yesterday 😅
Yes. Men do look at toes. They do like taking care of themselves. But more than anything men like butts and boobs lol
Men actually do notice these things, they are signals she is confident in her femininity. We aren't staring at your fingernails or toenails, but if I see something shiny on her fingers or toes out the corner of my eye or something it shows you take care of yourself and look pretty. A healthy body shows you respect yourself, the makeup and accessories show your trying to look your best. We don't stare but we do notice ladies.
From the compliments I've received, men seem to like bright colors and "feminine" patterns, well kept feet, nails, and hair, preferably your own, and someone who smells nice. I also receive a surprising amount of compliments when I wear flowers in my hair, have my braids in a pinup girl with a scarf hairstyle, and when I'm casually eating fruit, yes when eating fruit. They basically like to see exactly what they're getting presented in a neat hygienic way. I think most people are attracted to people who look like they take care of themselves.
Lip gloss yes / lip filler no
Hydrated yes / hungover no
Nails done nice yes / Claws Nooo
Toes done yes / flip flops and gross no
Fit yes (of course) / BBL No!
Girly accessories IDK / ???
Put together yes / sloppy (see hungover) no
Effort yes / outrage because she said these things no
She's on the right track overall.
I have never been more upset that I can only upvote a comment once!
@@jonroberts5239Lemme help you with that then 😉
Girly accessories, 99 out of 100 guys don't care. Always figured the accessories were just women competing w other women on who got the cool sh*t.
Bang on!
Nails done ✅ MTGs feet hella no
As a man, I can confirm that the young woman misses the mark for some of us. I prefer my wife without cosmetics. She's beautiful and needs no assistance to make that seen. She applies makeup when it suits her, but she knows that she need not wear it for me. Also, my wife looking feminine is a delight, but I am just as enamored of her in my sweatshirts and flannels. Never underestimate the attractive power of a woman appropriating her man's things. These are not true of all men, but of some of us.
This matches what my ex's have always said. They preferred me not to wear makeup unless we were going out to do something special, and they particularly loved seeing me in their tops/shirts. Tbh though, I think this may vary a lot by the woman. Some women's faces really only come alive with a little makeup. Without it they look washed out and you don't really notice their features. But if you've got defined enough, symmetric features, it does seem men like bare skin most of all.
I think that it varies by woman and by man. Some women's features do benefit from accentuation via makeup and those women prefer to wear makeup because of that. Some men prefer their lady wear makeup for reasons of their own.
My husband is a lot like you! He always tells me I don’t need makeup and he prefers me without it, although he doesn’t mind me wearing it. I’m thankful to be married to such a wonderful man!
i mean, what is even the point of marrying someone who sees you only as a pretty doll? i love caring for myself, keeping hair clean, nails done, etc, but the moment you go ill, or something happens and you can't care for yourself for some time and look not-feminine as hell, that man just what? abandons you, because you don't match his aesthetic anymore? men like that don't sound reliable and trustworthy.
My boyfriend says pretty much the same thing
I remember when I first met my wife I noticed she had a cute, sturdy looking purse. My thoughts were "Great, that means I won't have to buy her a new purse for years to come if things work out." You can imagine my surprise.
Hahahaha!!!
Sending my regards to you and your wife from South Africa.
😂 that is, in fact, how they get ya!
I use to put a massive amount of time into my appearance out of insecurity. I still groom daily and have basic hygiene, but I no longer shame myself for skipping a day of shaving because I was busy being a super interactive mother with my kids. My husband admires my beauty at its lows and highs.
We both believe in inner beauty being the true matter of a solid relationship between eachother.
All the women that responded have one thing in common, they were quite visually unappealing, and claimed to not care, but took the time to make response videos, which shows they do in fact care.
Basically 🤷🏽♀️🤷🏽♀️
Ha, nice observation.
A good portion of them that I've seen were actually beautiful, they just want points from other women.
It's not jealousy - social power no longer comes from having a quality man, it now comes from appeasing other women.
Be pretty enough that other women like you, but not too pretty or they'll hate you.
The women have the social power- and if they don't like you, the men don't like you for very long.
It works the same with conservative women.
Look at the conservative women with male only fan bases- they last only 2-3 years. Men listen to women, socially.
If you're going to boycott hygiene and showers just to spite men you're the definition of a red flag 😂
they don't need to be hygienic for men, that's the point. Most men aren't hygienic and going out their way for women. They made fair points. Also men get upset when women state they like tall, masculine, financially stable, intelligent, fit men.
@@claff4573 , you are hygienic for your own health, but to avoid hygiene in spite towards men is among pathetic things feminists do that can only do harm to themselves.
@@niarlatotepbassetno one is saying that in the replies
@@claff4573 I agree we shouldn't be staying hygienic purely for the appeal of opposite sex but if you're deliberately going to stop staying hygienic just to spite the opposite sex there's something wrong with you and I'd stay well away from that individual lmao
@@niarlatotepbasset yes this is what I mean
I'm not a man, but I think a lot of it comes down to being confident in and comfortable with who you are as you are. That and being a decent person.
Finally a comment about the importance of being a decent person. I've been reading comments and it's only me who commented about that. Cheers!
I am a man, coming up on my 25th year of marriage, and I agree.
For me, my man has never seemed to love me more than when I'm comfy & bonding with our toddler. I'm so damn grateful. But I'm an oldhead at this point 😅 I think some of the "redpill" podcasts got people confused about what actual people are like. Love is built from reality, if you pretend you're something else, and the relationship grows that way... Eventually true colors and just natural human behavior gonna sprout. Then what? At that point he's not gonna give a F About lip gloss if you're not taking care of business. You'll find who's right for you by being YOU. Don't play games you can't keep playing forever, unless forever isn't what you're looking for. In that case, I ain't got no advice but be careful & stay safe. I'm not even hating on anybody I just honestly think being yourself is the best way to find somebody who's genuinely attracted to you as you are, whether that's this OR that. At first, while you're getting to know one another, you want to present your best self, of course, but you still gotta *be* your true self. Or they'll be troubled waters. And a whole waste of time. ✌🏽🖤
Yes! Too many people wanting other to date their representative-not who they really are.
@@moniqrupley6019 exactly. I feel like there's also so much money to be made with those false narratives that you'll find love... IF you pay this fee and act like a totally different person. It's taking advantage of insecure young men & it's an exaggerated example of women most ppl wouldn't actually encounter offline. Most women are not shaped like an hourglass with nothing upstairs. Things are warped. I'm glad to be "old" & loved, and I mean that with all my heart cause it's gotta be tough out here for young people trying to navigate reality vs likes. And what that even means. Whatever it means though, being fake will never fulfill you or your partner. Period. This always makes me sad. 😂 Bless everyone fr, relationships *can be* tough, and I truly want happiness for people. Cause we all really need that in the world right now. 💞
Yes! I care about how I look but I'm not wasting my time doing a whole bunch of subtle little things to look good to a man. I'm either wearing bold nail polish because I like it or I'm not wearing any at all because I don't want to. I'm pretty the way I am, and doing all these little "subtle" things to improve my appearance is not something I would do out of "respect" for myself. My respect for myself is that I dress up when I feel like it, and do the bare minimum when I don't. And guess what? I have a husband who finds me gorgeous on the average day when I'm looking rachet.
Every man is different. "Men" don't love those things, SOME men love those things. Just be the best woman you can be and don't stress the little things
Sex wasn't mentioned in that original poster's video at all. She was talking about what men like in a woman. Period. Full stop. Not sexually, not kink wise, not even for a life partner. She was just making observations of things they enjoy. To reduce men to their sex drive and point out the creeps in the world as examples is just tired and disgusting.
I appreciate that you stand up for men. Thanks.
That is a very good point - it’s not the first woman, but the respondents that are obsessed with reducing everything to sex!
Projection for ya.
A lot of men that find women attractive are sexually attracted to the woman. You're assuming all men are A sexual
It’s just so odd. She’s just listing off traits lol
When I met my wife for our first date (in a park), she wasn't wearing makeup, didn't have her nails done, nothing but just being herself. Yes, she took steps to look good, but nothing excessive. Men who look at the superficial, can be drawn away by the superficial. Mena want the real person, not the image. I've been married to my wife for over 20 years. Never "looked" at another woman. My wife is beautiful inside. And that is what matters.
I applaud thee sir!
Thats how it should be. Christian ppl are like this too
Great for you. That's also what my brother in law said about meeting my sister, until years later he cheated with a woman who looked very much like my sister but wore makeup.
@ramjetrth too bad for your brother.
🙌 We need more men like you.
As a hispanic woman, and also being surrounded by hispanic men all my life ie: brother, husband, friends, cousins etc. I can abide to what she said in the video, almost all the men I've known do love when a woman does all those things. It does not mean that the women that dont do it are less beautiful, but i think it just means that men just like to see effort on your part to look better.
Man or woman, there's nothing more attractive than a person who treats himself/herself like they're worth something, and lifts others up to their level.
She's not wrong, she's just way too specific. Of course we love when a woman is well put together. But it's not the individual effort, it's the sum of the parts that we really enjoy. I'm not going to notice what color you painted your nails, but I'll notice that they're done. I'm not going to know every technique you used to get your hair looking good, but I'm going to know it looks good. But no, chilling at home you do not have to be dolled up. The number of times I've been crazy attracted to my wife when she's been in Coke bottle glasses and a bonnet is crazy...
heh, it's not the makeup you're attracted to. :D
Hehe that's cute
Bahahaha I do the shower cap while piling my hair and have coke bottle glasses ala lunch lady chic and my husband told me I’m super sexy unironically. It’s hilarious but also very sweet
Fully agree with this. Almost all men tend to notice the whole picture. Not the individual details. We may say you look beautiful. We will not say "Wow I really like that new pink shine color on your nails. Where did you get it?".
Exactlyyyyy!!!!!
I love when my wife dresses up for me and puts a bit of make up on… but.. because she takes care of herself, she’s clean and has a good amount of self respect.. when she dresses down, let’s her hair hang, and has no makeup on.. she absolutely shines! While I do enjoy the “dress up”.. I find I am much more attracted to her natural beauty and shine. 10 years this October. She gets more beautiful every day.
Blessed ☦️🙏
It’s so sweet the way you talk about your wife 😅
I can respect that.
@@somesuchx8912 lol ty
My husband is enamored with the most when I’m highlighting my health (working out) intelligence (engaging with him about my work or current events), or talent (singing or cooking). He really does not care if I get my nails done or have a little purse (what the girl in the video says guys will notice). This is why feminists have an issue with the video. If you want to get your nails done for yourself do it. Don’t do it for someone else.
This! ❤
Not gonna lie, as a man some quality lip gloss, a nice physique, a kind disposition & self respect in a lady will make my knees weak
"men love when you look healthy and hydrated"
*me doing skincare but my skin doesn't care* 💀
🤧🤣 this one
probably some nutrient deficiency or microbiome problems.
If you don't fix those you can spend as much money on skincare as you want and it'll never be better.
Men love a woman that looks like she loves herself!
And can also get along with other people, not hating on 90% of the population. :D
Oh goodness BRUH...
The main problem in the modern age is women love themselves TOO MUCH
Yeah, I don't expect a woman to like me if I look like a fucking neck beard. Why would they expect men to like women that looks like she doesn't wash her ass
@@michaelquaid4679 Look deeper. There will be a glow about them.
@@michaelquaid4679 there's the difference in actually loving and caring for one's self verses being selfishly indulgent stuck in denial. It's sad that the latter is the modern view of "love yourself"
I think there is a difference between women who do this level of self care out of habit and lifestyle and the ones who will only do it with the intention of attracting male attention but otherwise couldn’t care beyond the bare minimum 99.9% of the time. Guys are guilty of this too. They’ll hit the gym habitually until they lock down a girlfriend or wife and then the couch sitting, the bad diet and missed workouts begin. That bait and switch is what people hate.
As a man, I'd just like a girl who's humble and healthy in every way.
Feminists: You want to look nice for a man? Ewwww...
Also feminists: Why am I alone at 35? Where are all the good guys?
Being a feminist has nothing to do with this and I hate how the label has gotten misused. You can still be a feminist and be feminine or even submissive. The main difference is about choice. I really wish we'd stop labeling these crazies as feminists. I'm a feminist that is supportive of any choice a woman decides what's best for herself.
@@anonplussedhuman2615 the word changed meaning because what activists want changed over time. If you are looking at old school definition, I'm also a feminist. But unfortunately, that's not how language works. Maybe it's time you label yourself just as a normal person? Women can do whatever they want, at least in the West, but surely broader.
In a good church
😂
@@anonplussedhuman2615 And I'm not.
I saw a girl with the cutest short haircut at the gym, I couldn't take my eyes off her, her ears and neck showing. She wasn't necessarily my type, but her short hair was so feminine, even though I'm usually drawn to long hair. I kept thinking of how I would compliment her hair out of the blue, or during conversation, but at the risk of creeping her out, I just minded my own business. I think men notice these things, not the toes, lipgloss or purse specifically, but the whole "non-manness" of it all.
Absolutely shoot your shot next time. Just keep it simple and straight to the point and it won't be creepy. Women do love compliments, they give a great confidence boost and sometimes it's so helpful when you hate something about yourself but someone compliments you on it. Gives a good chance to change their own view on it too
Dude, you don't sound like a creeper. I'll let you in on a little woman secret. Most of us decide if you're creepy before you even get near us. You could've just said, "hi, I'm Dan. I couldn't help but notice you. I really love your hair". Complimenting hair...good...remarking about body...bad. You have little to lose and everything to gain. If it doesn't work out and she gets bent out of shape, just say, "I'm sorry, I didn't mean to offend you". Keep it simple. Saying that, if she looks away like she's looking for the door as you approach, walk on by.
Exactly. I agree w both those earlier messages.
@@christracy2144
In this case basically:
"Nice haircut" - good
"I like the way your ears and neck are showing with your haircut" - bad
😂😂😂
@@nuggywaggy5869🤣🤣😂
It's easier to accuse others than admitting you're wrong.
Oh yes. Just ask my ex wife. 😆
She's definitely right. My partner goes crazy about my femininity and whenever I am girly. However, when I act masculine he gets put off. That's for sure. That's because opposites attract. But it's not only beauty, it's also the mind, morals, being nurturing, and having personality and qualities.
It's just knowing partner more is better and not prioritizing all men. Some men like tomboys, some is feminine, or straight up bad girl and some more mature. But we don't need to bother with does things because at the end of the day only one person should we please and love.
I'm the same way. I love feminine, cute, kind, gentle women 100%. It's when they start acting masculine, cutting their hair to guy length, and calling me "bro" and such that really turns me off.
Feminists: we want women to be free
Also feminists: Women must do what we say...or else...
Well shit. You hit the nail on the head there.
What feminists? Do they have names?
Feminists: Women are just as mentally and physically strong as men if not moreso.
Also Feminists: Any woman who isn't a Feminist has had her weak little girl mind brainwashed by the Patriarchy.
It is also a double standard. If a girl is talking about what women like in men, it would not be so criticized. This is perceived as a woman making herself attractive to men and only to men. This "feminist" generalization and misandry (cuz let's call it for what it is) is not progressive, it is regressive. I agree with you, It is not making women "free" from men, it is making them subordinate to other women, ironically.
It is also an opinion of A WOMAN, so who cares, only men interested in her, should care. It is her point of view. It is the same when a man comes forward and makes a video of what he likes in women. Like, ok, good for you. 😏
@@sophieruby5893 Im sure they do but since the vast majority of "feminists" are basically NPC's who speak from the same script does it matter?
As a man, I can say that what I find most attractive is a woman who doesn't obsess over what men find attractive and who also doesn't assume that all men are identical.
I think that's one of the main reasons why this girl's video is so hated. Women who disagree with the girl agree with you on this.
There are still standards that apply on average, across time and culture. It is generally true that male humans like female humans who are good examples of their sex. It is generally true that beauty stems from good health, lifestyle, and self-care. It is generally true that people who are high quality will have many more choices available to them. If someone has many options, their standards will raise. If you want someone of high quality, it helps to be of high quality, yourself.
Based on many of these replies, women think men are all trash.
The 'I'm having a good time and don't gaf what you think' energy is highly attractive
that's odd. Most men just find attractive women attractive.
I feel like when I am able to fully relax and get comfortable in whatever I decide to wear, make up off, hair all crazy or not, it allows my husband to fully relax too. When I'm not constantly having to keep up with my appearances, he is able to do the same. I'm sure no one enjoys the pressures of feeling they have to look/be a certain way in order to be fully accepted. When we allow ourselves to fully relax from that we get to fully enjoy our unconditional love for each other. That connection you have with your spouse/bf/gf goes beyond the cute/subtle beauties. And maybe these material things are extensions of the subtle beauty seen in an experience where unconditional love is at the core of the connection. Beauty is in the eye of the beholder. We all have our ideas of beauty. And so maybe that tells us beauty is everywhere to be seen.
Well said sista !
I dated a girl who’s bummy days were like a homeless drug addict… You can still have chill days that look cute by just having clothes that fit well
I can't ever remember a time when I approached a woman and said, "Damn girl you lookin' hydrated" 😂
well we do love it when they're moist😎
You may not know it's because they're hydrated, but good hydration affects the skin, hair, eyes and so on, that improves general healthy looking attractiveness.
I take it you don't live in Texas, New Mexico, Arizona, or Florida 😂😂
Funny you should say that. Over the weekend, I visited a friend and I gave her a bottle of water because she always looks dehydrated.
I've seen more than my share.
I've never been more disappointed in being a woman than when listening to the responses to this young lady video. There were so many assumptions, accusations and just downright bitter comments it's crazy. So much generalization about men🤦🏾♀️ People need to heal
whenever these people reply, it shows a mirror of their own lives
There is a 100% overlap with the buy-in from women to contemporary feminism and having a horrible/non-existent relationship with their father.
I have yet to find a single exception.
@@Greenwood4727 with every response I literally cringed like these women sound hurt and bitter and I can truly understand but when a person starts to generalize ppl based on very little information that says a lot about that person
@@RighteousJI feel most people could still have a good relation with their father and still hate men.
@@domc9801 yes, but that's not what I said.
Also, those people tend to be able to be reasoned with later instead of spending their entire lives devoted to the same ideology.
I really appreciate you... I'm so glad there is a woman who is trying to find the sensible happy-medium!
We're not actively checking out for those things but we can appreciate the effort you did in making yourself look pretty. As she said, subtle stuff is nice when it comes to looks.
It boggles my mind that so many people totally don't get what the young woman was saying. "This is what a lot of men like. And by the way, these are things you should be doing for yourself - taking care of yourself, valuing yourself." I can only conclude that these people are willfully misunderstanding because they don't value themselves.
Or they're simply jealous that an attractive young woman is saying it.
@@wstavis3135ell compare and contrast what the girl who's giving thr advice looks like compared to the 3 woman who are being critical of her. Might be a superficial observation on my part but....
@@wstavis3135 I'm young and attractive and I agree with the other lady. What does this have to do with jealousy?
Because it feels one sided. Women want clean, attractive, tall, masculine, loving, financially stable men with a nice member attached. But they get called out for stating their preferences.
I think one of the prettiest things a woman can wear is a smile. Confidence and kindness can go a long way as well. Caring for people other than yourself is another head turner. Not all beauty is so superficial.
A combination does help yeah.
It's annoyed me from the beginning when people started saying "don't tell people to smile" there is a psychological effect smiling has. If you frown all the time you'll likely become a miserable cunt. I don't mind being reminded to smile.
@HellenaHanbasquet I agree! People told me to smile as a teenager and I took it to heart. A smile goes a loooooooong way.
Yes, but I don't think we should call out women who don't smile because you don't know what they're going through.
That's like telling me "Hey, puff out your chest a little more man." Like, who are you and why should I look more attractive to you right this second?
I guess that's what it is. Smiles are attractive, but objectifying strangers or women or men is not. Like, I think it's more attractive for men to hold babies and be cute to babies. But if I went around putting babies in men's arms... it'd be weird.
@rayesafan9628 right like the reason you shouldn't tell a person to smile when they look upset is they could be going though something awful like a loved one dying
Women are responding by saying that it is easy to get a one night stand?!?!? No s**t, Sherlock. Finding a guy to marry and provide for a family for the next 60 years is something else entirely.
I've always loved been a girly girl even as a kid. I remember back in primary I had friends who fooled me into thinking that being a tomboy was way cooler than being girly and I wanted to fit in so I'd agree with everything knowing deep down I'd kill to wear heels. Lol cut them off and now I'm back to being the girly girl I used to be and I love it! Ugh I just love being feminine
lol that's rare to find someone like me. I used to act boyish in elementary school, but that's because my entire class was made of boys. I was the only girl. I thought that's cool.
I couldn't choose what outfits I want to buy or wear, so I'd wear whatever.
Once I got to buy my own clothes, I wore the most stylish , cute and beautiful stuff. I ended up being overdressed in many occasions just bcz ppl were just simply underdressed. I love doing my hair, wearing dresses and clothes that compliment my body, and just look cute. I just loove it so much
I was a tomboy as a kid but a girly girl as an adult. Maybe because I liked climbing trees & riding my bike 😅As an adult, I prefer dresses & makeup ❤
she basically said "keep up with your personal hygiene and try to look nice and put together" which is good advice for anyone, man or woman!
A few weeks ago my husband of 33 years complimented my nail polish. He really liked it and found it very attractive. I had a manicure at a salon so I did not remember the name. I have been searching for something close ever since then. I think that is a natural tendency to want to be attractive for the opposite gender, especially when it is your spouse…even after 33 years!
I know it's a SHOCKER huh..
REAL men LIKE feminine LADIES
I did full face make up the other day...the way my husband was looking at me, I blushed 😳
I was looking for this comment too. I am not married but I have had boyfriends compliment my manicure and nails whenever I do it, which is a lot! Heck, I've had random guys compliment my manicure.
Does he look good for you too?
So true! I’ve been married for 23 year’s and couldn’t agree more! My husband isn’t really into the nail thing… but he does certainly like some sexy lingerie just for him. We both find a lot of joy in just being silly sexy together. Best of luck to you both❤
You are so right! I’m so glad I finally found a response to these videos
Just have to say, kudos to the editing! Got me laughing several times throughout. Good job!
I speculate that a lot of the things she says men love are actually a reflection of when she’s feeling good about herself. When she’s feeling great, men will respond more.
Yep.
yeah and .. well.. sadly.. when the men are the cause of this opposite of feeling great.. and they ghost.. then hmmm.. what is that dynamic about...
smh
you sure? I feel like that's true for girls looking for men; that they want confident, positive men. But I don't think the same is true the other way around; men mostly don't care about confidence/positivity in women.
Just asked my husband about accessories and nails. He told me he only notices how I smell, my boobs, and my face.
Makes sense. We've been married for going on 13 years.
So.. there ya go.
Boobs & bum are always at the top for my fella 😅
Personally... she's so close, men don't care about lip gloss or your nails. It's the opposite. If you show up with crazy colored hair/nails, it could be a turn-off. As long as a woman is clean and respectable looking, their a ten. If they look fake, then it's a turn-off.
Men see red flags way more these days because self-proclaimed 10s throw them up in bulk!
Just look presentable and you're in! We aren't complicated, just careful!
She did say white or soft pink nails, more muted colors nothing crazy :)
You don’t represent most men. Most men are not simply normal people with normal standards. Most men objectify women and hate if they express themselves in any way that isn’t to their standards. But they never care about their looks as much, they never think they have to ask their girlfriend what’s okay to wear, they never show up crushed by a beauty standard that was created to subjugate women. Men treat so many of us like objects. The feminist take to stop caring so fucking much and dress for yourself is what this world needs. If I like crazy colored hair I’m gonna fucking wear it. And ya know what? It’ll attract the exact kind of man I want, one who loves my fun style, doesn’t want to pressure me into society’s norms, and is open minded and expressive just like me.
I think her point is that you should keep it natural. Like I'm not into make up myself but if I use it it's limited to making it look as natural as possible. I also usually have natural colored nails.
Ok the girl in the video said a little lipgloss and clear or pink polish and looking cute. You jumped right to crazy colors and flashy fake style.
It's so refreshing to hear logic.
My father courted my mother in a time when women wearing gloves was fashionable. He said that he often judged the women by the way they wore and maintained their gloves because it spoke of their overall care and attention to detail. It wasn't about the gloves. It was about what the gloves said about the girl. Gloves are no longer the fashion for women today, but there are other tells that reveal the quality of the woman. Amala, for example, isn't dolled up or covered in makeup. But, her appearance is clean, well groomed, and though obviously not her focus, it is enough of a priority to receive her attention. This speaks to her quality as a woman, as well as a human being.
I have often said that women are like Christmas Presents: they are expected to come in a pretty package, it is understood that the packaging is temporary, and ultimately it is the content of the package that matters. Unfortunately, too many girls today are so focused on the packaging that--if men are VERY lucky--the box is empty. I like a girl who isn't afraid to show her face, instead of hiding her beauty behind layers of makeup. My wife has radiated beauty with undone hair while wearing frumpy sweat pants and a sweat shirt. Let the inner beauty come out, because that's the beauty that's going to last. For guys, finding a quality girl, like Amala (pretty package containing desirable character content), is rare; making her all the more attractive.
That's friggan cool!
I would love the trend to go back to gloves 😂
I am the Christmas box equivalent of that repurposed fundraiser oranges box that your Auntie sent you containing the odd knitted sweater and the really good cookies.
👀 Amala is wearing foundation… if I’m seeing it correctly
Bro, she has an arm-sleeve tattoo. By your father's standards, he would be ashamed of his son being so blind. But hey, cope all you want. I do generally agree with your father, by the sound of it, he was a sane & good man.
As a man, I couldn't care less about accessories, toes done, lip gloss, or any of that stuff. Perfume? You shouldn't stink, but please don't overdo it! Healthy, natural, sweet: that's it.
Lol as a woman I also thought that was ridiculous 😂 there is no way men are out here noticing or even giving a shit about what kind of purses ot accessories we're wearing. I could put on a necklace made of macaroni and my hubby wouldnt notice 😂
@@mary-janegreen1513 not everyone is the same though, there are definitely men who do care and notice.
@@mary-janegreen1513Speak for him, not for us. Unless we're going to the gym or to take out the trash, my girl will be made up as much as she wants that day, I'll wait! And sure as shit I'm noticing when she does make an appearance or there's hell to pay.
People will live up - or down - to your expectations. Expect more of him and he'll rise to the challenge.
@@MiaogisTeas lol I didnt say anything about appearance/grooming, of course he notices when Im done up! I meant the "accessories and purses" part. You really care what bags or jewellery your woman wears? LOL im not a materialistic person so i dont really wear much jewellery, and my handbag/purse is literally there just to hold all my stuff, so why tf it gotta be a big deal lol? I mean if you care about that stuff, good for you! I just dont see the appeal.
Everyone is offended by everything, I'm sure I just offended someone....
I don't intentionaly look for lipgloss or painted nails. However a woman is able to use those things in such a way that looks good it gets my attention. Also if I would tell a woman that I liked her purse if I felt like I could do it without getting accused of being a mysoginist
I don’t compliment women very often because anything you say can be seen as creepy or misogynistic as a male. Heck, you couldn’t say half the compliments that other women make about each other’s outfits as a male, saying that you love their skirt, heels, shirt, lipstick, hair, any revealing outfit, etc without it being seen as creepy or running the risk of so if a male is the one complimenting her on those things.
As a man who knows and talks to a lot of other men, you can name any aspect of women and there's guys out there who love it.
Um, NAH.
Fact is most men are struggling so they'll say any simpy type of thing and accept almost ANYTHING.
All men really worth having or that have OPTIONS...
Want FEMININE women. Not bossbabe overly masculine FEMALES
okay. i’ve grown up most of my life around men. not as a tomboy , but as a woman who just clicks with men. my understanding of this is men like different things. many hate makeup, some like makeup. some don’t even understand what makeup is lol. i’ve met men who hate nail polish and men who love it. BUT a common ground is a woman’s aura. how does she present herself? is she confident? is her smile pretty? can she make you feel seen and heard? also: presenting yourself in a good way doesn’t mean makeup and shit. it’s however the woman is most confident. many women dislike makeup and accessories and all these things and many men LIKE THAT. why? usually, because this woman is also confident and loves herself and isn’t letting society tell her how to be. and this goes both ways of course. if you truly enjoy makeup, men pick up on that and will appreciate you for that. but from my understanding it’s not THINGS that make men like you, it’s your energy
It's more about authenticity
People like different things. It's life. But when women generally state female preferences were called shallow (which isn't an insult) amongst other things.
Now if she had said THIS, lol, well put.
@@claff4573 you say that like it’s obvious that people like different things when in this video she never stated some men, specific men, anything like that. it was MEN. everything is generalized. some adults may understand people are differently but some people are also socially awkward / young / etc and are starting to generalize everyone and everything bc they see this stuff all the time and they think life is this black and white. the men judging women for their preferences PROBABLY view the world this way to “omg i’ve seen like a handful of women say they want a man that’s 6’ women suck it’s all of them!” i honestly think all this dating advice stuff has done so much more harm than good for young people.
this is just factss! my bf has had a crush on me since the 8th grade (we're juniors now) and he said that he likes my bc of my confidence and the fact that i don't let the beauty or appearance or fashion of other women dictate how i present myself. i'm very extroverted, energetic, and opinionated, and my fashion sense is all across the board and isn't just a pair of straight leg jeans and a short top, and he loves that about me. men are just attracted to how you carry yourself in public, if you're confident in yourself and don't let the approval of others stop you from being yourself.
She’s spot on 100%…!
People need to stop over thinking simple stuff & over analyzing everything.
So glad I found this page. Just straight logic in this silly world.
I love wearing cute dresses, painting my nails, doing my hair and wearing makeup. And I always get stupid comments from other women (the silly feminist ones) about why I dress up. I love showing up as my best self. And if I have to leave the house why would I go outside looking like a hot mess.
The feminist movement has gone off the deep end. Most women just enjoy these things.
I personally love all of this in a woman. Nail polish, lip gloss, cute dresses, frilled skirts, it’s all adorable. Traditionally feminine women just melt my heart ❤
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I'm sorry but that does not sound straight.
same
@@ems3991 you might be a kid, a teen, a woman, or just someone who does not understand, but knowing what you like in a woman is the opposite of being a homosexual. This being girly/feminine things makes sense because you're not attracted to masculinity but femininity. May you learn some day.
Though of course everyone has different tastes, too.
@@snailsrslow625 mental gymnastics or somehow who has yet to learn, I suppose.
Bitter women can be so....bitter! Imagine that. I'm going to continue to be girly for my husband and they can continue being hairy, smelly and single 🙃
Omg! I had to comment on something kinda silly but I loved that you had the gif of Kenny telling Barry to watch his profanity on Storage Wars. I literally was just watching that episode and I thought my other video popped up while yours was playing on a different tab. haha it made me so confused and giggle. Love your channel! TY for telling so much truth. You are a breath of fresh air in an otherwise toxic environment.
The way men can’t just like what they like, is insane to me.
Being a strong and independent woman who don't NEED no man should not make you feel like you are not allowed to WANT a man. Two different things.
You will find the older you get.. you need a man. There’s a lot of things men can fix and do that are heavy that women cannot when they get older(or even when they are younger)
BUT any MAN who has options and is really worth having.. DOES NOT WANT A HYPED-UP, MASCULINE INDEPENDENT QUEEN
Modern feminists must hate the Eurythmics.
🎶 I Need A Man intensifies 🎶
What I mean when I say this is not that ladies don't need help lifting boxes, it's that a lot of delusional women nowadays have fooled themselves into believing that being strong means you can't have a man nor let other women pursue men. Wanting to be in a happy and healthy relationship does not make you stupid or weak. "Feminists" are tying to make everyone miserable just because they're single.
And even more, God made men and women to NEED each other.
I love the right out of bed look that nobody else in the world gets to see. The side that is just fir me. The most beautiful look in the world.
Damn! Andrew, you must be in LOVE. But a woman who doesn't primp up for you, well, she's stopped caring for you. Do you also like IRRITABILITY? Andrew, if you ever notice the LOVE OF YOUR LIFE turning into a dirt bag, then wait for the nitpicking and the bad modes... that would be two strikes. The Third Strike would be Jealousy, her telegraphing the wish that you should find somebody new. then, DO, find somebody new and don't look back. This might happen a lot in your Life. Love is just Sexual Bonding and people really aren't SEXUALLY MONOGYMOUS, and if they do stick together, it is out of friendship and respect, and RESPECT never dresses down.
@leovolont Nope, not in love, single at the moment. The statement was not for out and about. Like I said, it is just for me. Also, I am well aware of red flags, and apparently not everyone is aware that my red flags are not universal. But hey, live your best life man. That is what I am doing.
@AmalaEkpunobiUnapologetic The men that echo this sentiment all think they came up with it themselves too. It is hilarious, because this is the natural state of mind for men that truly appreciate women. Not something anyone came up with. When out and about, these kinds of men have one preference for their lady. Just that she is happy with her own appearance, that her efforts and attentions to herself make her feel beautiful.
I feel like my femininity is more than painted nails and make up. I’ve never worn either and I feel very feminine. How we express it is different from woman to women. Some men love natural and some men love done up so it’s the same for men as well. Preference differs man to man
I don’t give a shit about lip gloss or painted nails. That stuff is just distractions
As a man:
When you go out of your way to coordinate or touch up the details, it registers subconsciously when we're engaging with you. It isn't something we generally look for. Most of what we want is you not to look like you've given up on the bare minimum of being presentable in public.
I realized a long time ago that the "accessory" bags are a byproduct of the fashion industry deliberately making your clothing to not have large enough pockets to be functional, so use whatever is practical for your needs; we genuinely do not care what bag you use - only other women do.
The exception to this is when/if the occasion calls for being "fancy". As a man, I'm expected to have a nice well-fitting suit for formal occasions; the feminine parallel to this is having at least one nice dress with coordinating accessories. On those occasions, we each accessorize each other by looking as put-together and "cleaned up" as possible, and as such each of us reflect on the other when viewed as a couple.
These are presented as general concepts for a reason. There are many specific choices color-wise that go into one's appearance that largely have to do with what matches your specific skin tone/hair color/personality. There is no "one size fits all" when it comes to your nail polish color or cosmetics palette; on this subject this particular woman is being absurd - and men know this just by seeing all of you in passing even if we don't say anything (not that we'd have a reason to in the first place).
Regardless of any of this, when it comes to men's opinions on what any given woman is wearing, literally none of us genuinely care about designer labels or whether we see you in the same outfit several times in a week or a month - only other women do. For the love of all that is holy, don't stress about that if you're dating anyone.
As another man: tldr😂
@@theinnerlight8016 But as a woman, I did read the entire comment and I do not disagree with anything @RighteousJ said. I've been married to the same man for 25 years and we still do these little things for each other.
Same with men. If the average man isn't in the gym trying to look good for his wife he shouldn't be speaking on women's looks at all.
im a dude and i dont rly care specifically about lipgloss or nails i think the bigger point is generally looking put together
I always look put together before I go out, makes it look like I have my life together and not a depressed potato.
@@Animelover540 Same but at home I look like an old, moldy, depressed potato.
My girlfriend only uses a purse when we are sneaking Popeyes chicken sandwiches into the movie theater. That’s my type of woman. 😏
Such wise words, I SUPPORT YOU 100%
If I see a woman wearing jeans with functional pockets that’s a massive green flag
I'm with ya. If I see a woman wearing jeans _without_ functional pockets that's a massive red flag to me. It means she's form over function. A poser. All show, no go.
@@OgamiItto70 yep
@@OgamiItto70 Not necessarily though. Most women's jeans aren't made with pockets; plus, purses exist too.
@@kendalllynne6807 "Most women's jeans aren't made with pockets..." Then why wear them? Pockets are part of what jeans _are._
However, you're right. Not every single time. Maybe I should have written, "It likely means she's form over function, etc."
I was reminded of the value of femininity recently…
I went for dinner with a coworker. We both spent our days exhausted, stressed, fighting fire. Covered in ash, dirt, sweat. Wearing long sleeves and heavy boots.
So for an evening out we both wore jeans and t shirts. He wore Converse, I wore flip flops. (Wearing normal clothes is a rarity when on assignment so you pack the absolute minimum)
The most “femininity” I could muster was filing my nails, putting some Vaseline on my lips, and brushing my hair. (To be fair… freshly washed hair is the softest, most luxurious thing after not having a shower for a week, and the dirt is so caked in, it acts as natural eyeliner LOL.)
He commented that I would look so good in one of those flowery skirts.
I just thought HECK yeah you’re right! It would be so much more comfortable too!
I didn’t take offense.
Especially given that I got to appreciate his insane muscles when he didn’t have his thick long sleeve work shirt on.
There’s nothing wrong with men appreciating women and women appreciating men.
You both are clearly appreciating each other quite a bit, there's an avenue to pursue :)
Hmmm…Y’all like how each other looks, are friends, have a career in common . . . Haaayyy!
im totally shippping yalll badly
I have a dirty job too, I treasure the days i get to look like a girl. The finger nails are never gonna work out tho
We need a part 2
I think this applies for everyone and for more kinds of situations besides finding a partner. You’re more likeable and attractive if you show you find yourself worth the effort. And you don’t need a face full of make up or spend 100s of dollars on your clothes, but care about hygiene, know what fits you in terms of clothing and hairdo etc. And of course look healthy and fit.
I fully agree. Such a bliss to watch this video and speak up again for feminism. People make such fast jumps and assumptions. Perhaps some of us simply want to be attractive to ourselves, how about that? I love nail polish, wearing dresses and so on, all for myself. I also want to dress neatly on a cosy day. And even though, I care about my appearance, I do hold professional success ;)
For decades women have bought magazines that tell them what the look is to attract the perfect man, spent billions on their hair, make up, diets etc. But one woman gives her own opinions on tiktok and the whole gender rises against her. It's proper weird. We all know they're still going to spend all that time and money regardless.
No. We get the right not to look perfect, not look like we must attract the perfect man. And yet another young girl thinks she's the only one who found the recipe of attractiveness. No, TikTok girl. We KNEW and still KNOW how to attract men. But that's not our only purpose in life now. We can look pretty, but the way it's still comfortable to us.
Sorry for my bad English.
@@aureliaaurita8138I didn't care to "look pretty" until I met my husband. Then it inspired me to dress nicer and do my hair nicer, sit up straighter. Wanting to marry and please your spouse should inspire u to look your best. I didn't look like a dirty orphan before meeting him but I had no reason to "pretty" myself up. I had self dignity and that's it. I hate vanity that makes girls spend hours in front of a mirror just for themselves.
@@aureliaaurita8138 Your English is fine. What you're forgetting (and this is leaving a lot of women lonely) is the biological imperative. When it comes to motherhood and having a family women have a "use by" date. By all means concentrate on the things you feel are important, but don't be surprised if it doesn't work out well in the long run.
@@JohnJ469 "Use by" date? If a woman similar to a can of tuna for you, if your unborn child is more important to you, than your actual existing spouse, then we have nothing to talk about, as our life views are totally different, I'm afraid...
@@aureliaaurita8138 And that's all you took away from my comment? Nothing about the biological reality that conception becomes harder and harder for a woman as she ages? You might dislike the term but that is the reality; If a man is looking for a partner to have a family with then woman have a "Use by" date. It sucks, but that's the reality, no woman gets pregnant after menopause.
If biological reality offends you then I guess our life views are entirely different.
BTW, I didn't say anything about valuing a baby over a current spouse, that was entirely in your head. The discussion is about "winning" the mating game.
I'm gonna trot out the "not all men" line. Not all men want girly and cute all the time. I love a practical woman who demonstrates critical thinking and an understanding of maintenance, like cleaning out the filter on the dishwasher if it needs it and especially how she is around her car (or motorbike) - I take that as a sign they might also be invested in maintaining a relationship. Girly and dressed up is nice if it's appropriate, like going out to a bar or the movies or the theatre, but day to day, just clean, neat and practical and then demonstrate intelligence, kindness and a strength of self but most of all an appreciation of simple fun. Concentrate on who you are before what you look like.
I'm enjoying reading the comments to see what different men are looking for in women
So I'll go ahead and flip their common response to Not all Men around on you. If one in five men want to suck them toes are you going to risk not getting that pedi.
Thank you for this video appreciated
It’s about the whole package, a genuine air of confidence and kindness in the heart etc on top of staying hydrated and basic hygiene lol - looking your best are what matters most - I think beauty standards based in the beauty industry like makeup, certain clothes and accessories or shoes, tanning or skin bleaching, getting your nails done - are a different category
Men love girly, not ratchet.
I love when my wife only puts on lip gloss, the tiniest amount of eyeliner, and paints her natural nails. No acrylics, no weekly trips to the nail salon.
At work she wears jeans and a semi dress shirt, and that home she wears summer dresses and nightgowns.
She refuses to touch a trash can, but jumps at the opportunity to jump in the kitchen.
Over the last couple of years, she gained weight due to having some health issues and once those health issues were no longer a problem... She went on a diet and is currently lost over 40 lb.
Her reasons for doing so were because she wanted to be healthier for the kids and more attractive to me, even though she was never told that she was unattractive by me. The extra weight fits well. But getting her back to where she used to be, I'm damn sure not complaining.
Women that tend to carry themselves this way, typically tend to get exactly what they want in life. It's not because they're weak-minded and willing to be a slave to their husband. It is because they are willing to be fit, friendly, submissive, and most importantly feminine.
I've been with my wife since she was 19 years old and we're now 15 years into our relationship and 8 years into our marriage this November.
Women need to stop taking advice from other women, when it comes to what men find attractive. We've been the judge of your beauty since the beginning of time and I think we all know what we're talking about when we say that we don't want our women filled up with plastic, fake hair, fake nails, eyelashes that look like wings and a bad attitude.
Feminists are rattled because she is a real woman.
These feminists should get a life!
😂😂 Not the armpit vag! My friends in college had this hypothetical conversation. I was shook! 💀💀🤣
Vanessa is 100% correct - not just for the attraction of men, but to feel good and healthy!!! I always feel good when I keep my chin plucked, my hair washed and my clothes clean ❤️
I’ll tell ya… I did the feminist thing for years. Stopped wearing makeup etc, and honestly, I felt like shit. And I was doing that FOR FEMINISM. Now I take care of myself, do my hair and try to dress cute, and I feel so much better. It’s for myself but it’s also for others - to show that I respect myself. Bonus is that guys like it. And that keeps me motivated, and there ain’t nothin wrong with that.
There's this really "funny thing" about the biochemistry of "self-respect".
In a very real way, you DON'T do it for yourself... but doing it DOES reward you.
Dopamine...
It's an animal hormone... and one could say that it is the built-in mechanism (reward) to promoting the ABILITY (and desire) to live in a society, herd, pack, tribe, etc...
When you behave in a way that promotes society...
People react to you in a positive way.
When people react to you in a positive way, your body rewards you by producing dopamine... pleasure... sort of "self-respect" in this context.
(This is also the fundamental reason behind virtue-signaling... they are basically addicts looking for their next hit of dopamine... and may well ALSO be suffering from the same basic symptoms as withdrawal.)
The important thing to remember about this, is that it is triggered by OTHER people's reactions to you... or your own expectation/prediction of those reactions.
Without THEIR approval (or your own expectation of it), there is no dopamine... no reward.
There is, of course, an "opposite" hormone... or a couple of them...
One (cortisol) results in a feeling of stress... which might be the reason that the OP "felt like crap"... and in increasing levels, results in a feeling of guilt and/or shame for doing anti-social things... basically, your biological trigger/mechanism for a "guilty conscience".
As the OP noted in her comment... it's no wonder that she felt like crap... and it's no wonder that so very many of those with her FORMER mindset are so bitter and angry.
They are their own worst enemy... the enemy they can't escape... because they see her every time they look in a mirror. They are, quite literally, punishing themselves emotionally.
If you think about it, this also explains the body positivity movement...
They are trying to escape the results of their actions/inactions, by changing how OTHER people respond to them. They are trying to avoid their own shame/guilt by preventing other people's disgust. In turn, this just demonstrates that they are NOT happy being obese... or they wouldn't be trying to avoid the shame.
funny how most of what i saw online are men who said they don’t like women with makeup
@@dian277 I'm a straight male, and it surprises me, too.
I don't see why feminism and wearing make-up cancel each other out?
You were doing feminism wrong. I have never not worn makeup but I do vote...
If there is one thing a modern feminist cannot stand more than a man and his preferences. It’s another women who is much more attractive than her and appeals to those men. It enrages them that they cannot have the attention that those beautiful women get.
Hollywood is filled with gorgeous feminists.
Also, when a women can think for herself, that also drive them crazy when other women don't go along with what they push or say.
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It's funny how these feminists never have names. It's always feminists this, feminists that. Like everyone else, they are individuals with differing opinions.
It can be very confusing at times. If a woman is hot, is that wife material or not? But just like women, against our better judgement, we go after the bad guy with big muscles. It works both ways.
Don't men get upset when women say they prefer, attractive, fit, younger, tall men, who are financially stable? Start calling them all names in the book inbcluding shallow for a preference that anyone would like.
6:10 has me dying for some reason. The big eyes got me. Love your content!
at 4:55 had me in stitches XD and I love the clothes you are wearing Amala! i love that style