Mary Gauthier - How You Learn To Live Alone [Lyric Video]

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  • čas přidán 10. 06. 2014
  • "How You Learn To Live Alone" by Mary Gauthier and Gretchen Peters
    Album: Trouble and Love (2014)
    From Mary Gauthier's 2014 album "Trouble and Love."
    Songwriters: Mary Gauthier and Gretchen Peters.
    Background Vocals: Darrell Scott, Beth Nielsen Chapman, The McCrary Sisters
    Electric Guitar Solo - Special thanks to Duane Eddy the, Legendary Master of Twang.
    Video created by Kristen Hall / Write Away Films
    This song was sung on TV's "Nashville" by Jonathan Jackson, and features Duane Eddy on guitar. It was recorded in Hendersonville, TN, at Ricky Skaggs studio.
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    LYRICS
    First you fall then you fly
    And you believe that you belong up in the sky
    Flap your arms, as you run
    Every revolution brings you closer to the sun
    You fall asleep in motion in uncharted hemispheres
    You wake up with the stars falling down around your ears
    When they hit the ground they’re nothing but stones
    That’s how you learn to live alone
    That’s how you learn to live alone
    Bit by bit, you slip away
    You lose yourself in pieces n the things that you don’t say
    You’re not here, but you’re still there
    Sun goes up, the sun goes down you’re not sure you care
    You live inside the false till you don’t recognize the true
    People send you pictures and you can’t believe it’s you
    It’s been years since your house has felt like home
    That’s how you learn to live alone
    That’s how you learn to live alone
    It don’t feel right, but it’s not wrong
    It’s just hard to start again this far along
    Brick by brick, the letting go
    As you walk away from everything you know
    You release resistance lean into the wind
    Till the roof begins to crumble, the rain comes pouring in
    You sit there in the rubble till the rubble feels like home
    That’s how you learn to live alone
    That’s how you learn to live alone
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Komentáře • 183

  • @ratter531
    @ratter531 Před 2 měsíci +3

    My heart goes out to everyone who has lost a loved one.

  • @lynclark6877
    @lynclark6877 Před 11 měsíci +11

    My husband passed away on his birthday June 25th and I turned to this song for some consolation. Thank you Mary Gauthier

    • @ratter531
      @ratter531 Před 2 měsíci +1

      I repleid to you an horr ago but it is not showing my heart is with you all my loved ones are gone also My heart is with you,I am a Viet Nam vet.

    • @lynclark6877
      @lynclark6877 Před 2 měsíci

      @@ratter531 so was my husband. Thank you for your service

  • @RickStaffordcartunes
    @RickStaffordcartunes Před 3 lety +30

    How this artist has escaped my ears in all my years is beyond me but so very thankful I have found her at last,

  • @upsidedown9979
    @upsidedown9979 Před 5 lety +41

    A friend who listened to Mary for the first time told me she's the "female John Prine" and it struck me as spot on.

  • @littleelsematters-vd6wj
    @littleelsematters-vd6wj Před 9 měsíci +2

    this has not a single one of the flaws that made me give country music a wide berth early on in life. these lyrics , fit to break your heart but sung so matter-of-factly, gain all the more impact from that balance. hits hard. and that's fine with me.

  • @7ltrword
    @7ltrword Před 3 lety +4

    You sit there in the rubble til the rubble feels like home...That's how you learn to live alone

  • @GypWomLou
    @GypWomLou Před 3 lety +15

    Lost my husband 6 nights ago. I can't move. Some how this song came up on CZcams while listening to old country. It's as hopeless as I feel.

  • @sallyrutledge8238
    @sallyrutledge8238 Před rokem +12

    Everything within this song rings true. The roof crumbled, the rain came pouring in.... and I sat and worked through the rouble....and I am learning to live alone.... and to love being alone. It does take time... but it is soooo worth it !!!

    • @bryanmathew2079
      @bryanmathew2079 Před 8 měsíci

      Powerful Songs Mary Sings,

    • @user-lf5uw9nx7h
      @user-lf5uw9nx7h Před 5 měsíci

      Takes time to live through this. I might make it. Condolences to all whose hearts and lives are broken. Peace. Just breathe through it.

  • @suzaletto8489
    @suzaletto8489 Před 4 lety +32

    I sat - alone, of course - in the Egg in Albany, crying unashamedly as Mary Gauthier sang this. It was a beautiful pain that I've saved for myself. Just found it here. Thank you, Mary.

    • @markjohnno1
      @markjohnno1 Před rokem +1

      Beautiful sentiment my friend

    • @garyingraham7940
      @garyingraham7940 Před rokem +2

      Also, try "Forty Miles From Nowhere" by Rodney Crowell. Touches me in a very personal way.

    • @LazyIRanch
      @LazyIRanch Před 4 měsíci

      @@garyingraham7940 I love Rodney Crowell's music! Yes that song gives all the feels. My favorite album of his is "The Houston Kid", every song on it is wonderful.

  • @stevenfagan9047
    @stevenfagan9047 Před 3 lety +25

    I have not cried a tear in a very long time. To be honest ... I have felt numb for that long I have forgot what its like to feel joy and happiness. ( not a self pity play BTW!)
    But only 5mins ago after listening to this angles voice and lyrics the tears were flowing down my face. I am not a person that writes things like this but I felt compelled to do so.
    Thank you for making a grown ass man feel again with your beautiful music and poetry. How have I never heard off you before? So glad I have now!
    Love from Scotland XOXO ❤

    • @markkuppe6593
      @markkuppe6593 Před rokem +1

      She has a penetrating voice and words for sure.

    • @dunemedic1
      @dunemedic1 Před rokem +2

      Mary is the greatest songwriter of our time. So poignant, real, and raw. You can hear the true lived pain, and love in her voice.. she had me the first time I listened to her first album. It’s strange she is a woman and I am a man but she puts words to what I feel in my soul. Thank you Mary!

  • @user-wc3qi8po5u
    @user-wc3qi8po5u Před 14 dny

    I know how feels to lose someone you love I'm 72 and I feel like I didn't say enough how much I loved them still feel the pain

  • @DJmemoriesPlaylists
    @DJmemoriesPlaylists Před 11 měsíci +6

    I feel like Mary peered into my soul, my memories and then wrote what she observed. First song on my playlist Soundtrack From A Bi Polar Life. Only place for it. Nice to know someone understands. Thank you Mary.

  • @brendalenz263
    @brendalenz263 Před rokem +6

    You're a beautiful soul. Thank you for your beautiful songs. You're truly a blessing.

  • @jonathanclamp721
    @jonathanclamp721 Před 2 dny

    I've only recently come across your music. It really touched my heart! Thank you Mary.

  • @angelbulldog4934
    @angelbulldog4934 Před rokem +2

    Alone...but not lonely. 💞

  • @cornstorm666
    @cornstorm666 Před 4 lety +3

    "You're not here but you're still there"

  • @marcoesteban2698
    @marcoesteban2698 Před 8 lety +58

    I gave up on Country Music years ago. I thought it had died when the Outlaw movement simply lost most of its founding members due to old age! (Sorry Willie, thanks be to chronic that you're still with us!) ... I now live on the coast in central Mexico, far away from any Country-KRAP radio stations that spin the same tired, old drug-store-cowboy format. That's just commercial-pop music that wears a fake Stetson and bought the belt buckle; but didn't EARN IT! But there is a growing interest in old-school American Country & Western music here, coming from the hills of Durango . And I was absolutely STUNNED when I heard this song on a late-night pirate radio station broadcasting from here in Mazatlan! I couldn't load up CZcams quick enough! But here it is!! This beautiful, soulful art-form lives! As I prayed it would. THANK YOU MARY!! Y felicidades tambien a su banda! Me haces TAN CONTENTO escuchar esa musica una otra vez! Ustedes son regalos de las diosas en cielo!!!

    • @Lakota1067
      @Lakota1067 Před 4 lety +3

      Check out Chris Stapleton.

    • @tommydevine5104
      @tommydevine5104 Před 2 lety +2

      Beautiful 🤠

    • @hoolagirl1849
      @hoolagirl1849 Před 2 lety +2

      💯 agree. I'm don't consider myself a country fan at all. Kinda makes me cringe being from a more urban area. Probably has a lot to do with upbringing and self labels. Don't like boxing myself in anymore. As we "grow", we should grow. Emulating childhood, right? Anyway, I heard this on the credits if a movie called the sweet life (phenomenal BTW) and was stunned. Connects and resonates. Check out Jesse Stewart's marauder and grow old if you like

  • @Gulleif
    @Gulleif Před 2 lety +2

    2.55 take me home country roads............

  • @karendzul3491
    @karendzul3491 Před 7 měsíci +2

    I had never heard of Mary until October 22nd 2023 and watched her perform while I was at the Grand Ole Opry!!!! I’m totally enthralled by her music! Thank you Mary for the songs that truly touch the heart

  • @noeltyler777
    @noeltyler777 Před 6 lety +55

    I have been five and half years widowed never realised how hard it would be without my sweetheart.this is a sad but beautiful song and so true
    Noel

    • @frankmettner6106
      @frankmettner6106 Před 4 lety +4

      Let this sweet music wash over your soul. This song is on my playlist for 2019, more on my CZcams channel. ( cTunes = catchy tunes )
      Channel: czcams.com/channels/-In2eHMuFfLLXbmbm2Md7w.html Playlist 2019: czcams.com/video/Z84rtbVbIEQ/video.html

    • @tortillamiracle
      @tortillamiracle Před 3 lety +4

      May comfort come to you when you need it most.❤️🕯❤️

    • @jeanned.6706
      @jeanned.6706 Před 3 lety +4

      Sorry for your loss, Noel. Hope time took away some of your pain.

    • @jacquelinefrank871
      @jacquelinefrank871 Před 3 lety +4

      I too am a widow, he was killed in a robbery, this song tells the truth

    • @bwenluck9812
      @bwenluck9812 Před 2 lety +4

      @@jacquelinefrank871 I'm also a widow, husband died unexpectedly--quite a shock. This song resonates with me too.

  • @freedomrings5270
    @freedomrings5270 Před 4 lety +8

    I had to bury my 2nd hubby in 2012 and 1st in 2016. I have been alone for 8 years now and talk to both still; that is how I learn to live alone. One of these days, I plan to let go but I guess we can hold steady still. I want more Mary Gauthier ...please forgive me for being selfish still! You are great!

  • @billy9788
    @billy9788 Před 10 měsíci +2

    Just came across Mary..through watching Yellowstone…wow what a find…AWSOME

  • @lenielbell
    @lenielbell Před rokem +2

    I don't know who she is but she touched me damn for real dow

  • @macsong053
    @macsong053 Před 10 lety +22

    "it's been years
    since your house has felt like home..."
    ah! bleeding feelings...

    • @LazyIRanch
      @LazyIRanch Před 3 lety +2

      Yes, the rubble has come to feel like home. Sigh....
      Mary can sure turn a phrase!
      Another verse from a different song that hit me with it's hard truth was "The War After The War". It's from a brilliant album she wrote with families and their veterans about their experiences.
      "Who's gonna care for the ones who care for the ones who went to war?
      *There's landmines in the living room and eggshells on the floor*
      I lost myself in the shadow of your honor and your pain
      You stare out of the window as our dreams go down the drain..."
      I haven't lived that myself, but others in my family tragically have. My cousin's son was a Marine who served bravely in Iraq, but came home broken with severe PTSD. He was on a waiting list with the VA to get mental health help, but that help didn't come in time.
      He died by suicide 3 years ago because our country spends billions on war machines, but pennies on the brave men and women who devoted their lives to the military. His local VA hospital was hit with massive cutbacks in 2017 because the money was diverted to build the wall at the Southern border. He knew that help wasn't coming after that, so he gave up.

  • @user-lf5uw9nx7h
    @user-lf5uw9nx7h Před 4 měsíci +1

    Music as therapy. A Beacon for remembering.😢

  • @SYoung-wt9ck
    @SYoung-wt9ck Před 10 měsíci +2

    It does get easier... ❤🙏

  • @loujones5388
    @loujones5388 Před 9 lety +53

    She is brilliant writer and her songs deeply felt. Just discovered her.

  • @johnpetry5321
    @johnpetry5321 Před 6 lety +21

    This is music which touches the soul profoundly. Thank you, Mary Gauthier

  • @sergiorighetto4250
    @sergiorighetto4250 Před 2 měsíci

    Da quando sono in pensione e nonno sono più solo che mai e imparo, per fortuna ci sono i bambini che ti rialzano e vai avanti e non ti senti più solo...RESISTERE E ROCK"N"ROLL a tutti...

  • @spartnorth9587
    @spartnorth9587 Před 3 lety +1

    I had to get here to be ready to hear the Gospel of Jesus Christ. There was no other way for me.

  • @kabllbak
    @kabllbak Před 8 lety +16

    Stunningly beautiful song - the lyrics and the melody, but mostly, the emotion.

  • @jimstryker646
    @jimstryker646 Před rokem +1

    I feel like this song was written specifically for me. I’m utterly alone. I have Not a single soul

  • @esalink
    @esalink Před 9 měsíci +1

    Nailed it...

  • @jackwillson8099
    @jackwillson8099 Před 2 lety +1

    I have felt a singer move me like this in 27 years

  • @leafnlore2712
    @leafnlore2712 Před rokem +3

    Mary, you're a treasure. Thanks for the music and the words.

  • @Blackchain107
    @Blackchain107 Před 3 měsíci

    Power song. I am glad I just
    Listened to it and made feel better. Thank you 🙏

  • @lynclark6877
    @lynclark6877 Před 11 měsíci +1

    I first heard of her on public radio in Chattanooga and now rediscovering her voice and music❤

  • @Besta_Lisa
    @Besta_Lisa Před 8 lety +21

    I think Jonathan Jackson did a beautiful job on this song for Nashville. However, there is something about a song being sung by its author. Soul food. This is raw. This is real. Thank you.

  • @randyarmstrong1339
    @randyarmstrong1339 Před 10 lety +34

    This is a masterpiece.

  • @maiajintcharadze7485
    @maiajintcharadze7485 Před 8 lety +11

    "And every night I'd sit alone and learn what loneliness meant"

  • @stevenhawkyard9771
    @stevenhawkyard9771 Před 6 lety +12

    Oh my goodness, what a tremendous heartbreaker of a song, Mary G at her best. Wow...

  • @bowiesaid
    @bowiesaid Před 6 lety +5

    Mary, all of your fans wished they knew you personally. Me too!

  • @venidaisabelle9611
    @venidaisabelle9611 Před 6 lety +2

    Faye Isabelle likes this song...

  • @rojocordova
    @rojocordova Před 4 lety +5

    You have a beautiful poetic voice, Mary, thanks for your service to the world of emotions and songs :'3

  • @davestreatfield2527
    @davestreatfield2527 Před rokem +4

    Sorry to admit it , but I had never heard of Mary Gauthier until 5 minutes ago ! I saw Gretchen mentioned so thought I would give it a listen ! Stunning is an understatement ! This is a masterpiece of emotion ! Looking forward to hearing more ! Thanks , and Good Wishes from Cambridge in England

  • @sup2me48
    @sup2me48 Před 4 lety +2

    Wow.......

  • @NRubinstein1
    @NRubinstein1 Před 9 lety +3

    Didn't know 'till yesterday this was co-written with Gretchen Peters, another of my total faves!

  • @jimmyrey7728
    @jimmyrey7728 Před 6 lety +12

    I love you Mary, you make me cry, but I love you.

  • @use100ame
    @use100ame Před 9 lety +12

    Only 13 comments? Love ALL your songs, Mary, but I'm loving this one today. You seem like a beautiful person. Best.

  • @patriciaormsby8413
    @patriciaormsby8413 Před 3 lety +2

    Astounding, Mary.

  • @MaterLacrymarum
    @MaterLacrymarum Před 9 lety +24

    I heard this track first here on CZcams. Now I own the CD. :)
    The whole thing is fantastic the new Blood on the Tracks. Yes, I said it.

    • @MaterLacrymarum
      @MaterLacrymarum Před 8 lety +4

      How strange, I just got plus 1'd at the very moment this CD had finished playing! Weird. Yes, I'm STILL playing this regularly.......

    • @frostyfrances4700
      @frostyfrances4700 Před 3 lety +1

      Mary's music actually has tons of blues both in form and emotion. That's what I love most about it. Wish I could explain to people that blues is really the best gospel since it's pouring your heart out to God.

  • @susanmeyer7783
    @susanmeyer7783 Před 2 lety +2

    Completely perfect musical performance DEFINETLY WOULD BUY EVERY SONG EVERY ALBUM AND TREASHURE THEM .THANKS.!!!!sue n chicago

  • @rickyligons8705
    @rickyligons8705 Před 3 lety

    I was married for 23 years been divorced now for four years, man this song hits home, I'm learning to live alone.

  • @Country822
    @Country822 Před 8 lety +16

    Mary just nails it!!!!!!!!!!!

  • @micky44music
    @micky44music Před 5 lety +1

    creepin inside this bombshelter i call my heart hears me thinkin this brocken heart was safe thanks for breaking through mary .

  • @jacknjack1969
    @jacknjack1969 Před 2 lety

    Growing up in Taiwan I've never been a country music fan, if country-pop doesn't count 😅, guess it's all because I never got to hear something THIS GREAT AND SOULFULLY GENUINE.... Now I am in love with Mary G and her music.

  • @julyspelonchi2676
    @julyspelonchi2676 Před 2 lety +1

    Hello Mary, I just received this song I have known for
    a long time and still love. I never feel alone, however the subject always attracted me: one can be alone in a tiny corner of the soul .

  • @robertgudknecht6520
    @robertgudknecht6520 Před 5 lety +1

    Was moved to tears......

  • @debgittens5851
    @debgittens5851 Před rokem

    This is my new favorite. Glad I found you on here. From a true lover of folk & JP.

  • @gaylecarwile
    @gaylecarwile Před 9 lety +19

    Punched in my emotional hot spots once again by Mary Gauthier. Her music and lyrics make me get in touch with things that I try not to think about but it doesn't serve me well to bury those emotions so it is always very cathartic to listen to this musical genius! Thank you Mary!

  • @bkfleming4740
    @bkfleming4740 Před 4 lety +2

    Been doing it going on eight years now. I'm not sure I'll ever learn. Mostly, I tolerate. Wives aren't supposed to die first.

  • @brianconley1705
    @brianconley1705 Před 3 lety +1

    At 64 she signing about my life

  • @riemerheinen9443
    @riemerheinen9443 Před 7 lety +2

    Thanks from the Netherlands. Prachtig.

  • @jacquesgoudreault7584
    @jacquesgoudreault7584 Před 9 lety +27

    Good thing I forgot how to tie a gallows knot before I heard this song. Powerful.

  • @michellebellec7500
    @michellebellec7500 Před 8 měsíci +1

    Je ne connaissais pas jusqu’à ce jour… Chanson qui vous prend..Voix très émouvante..Bref magnifique

  • @haggiealbano7273
    @haggiealbano7273 Před 3 měsíci

    I miss him

  • @iangallon7648
    @iangallon7648 Před 6 lety

    It took about 10 years and a couple more broken relationships, but wouldn't have it any other way now. However this is just how I felt at one time. Beautiful song.

  • @lizbrosnan6267
    @lizbrosnan6267 Před rokem +1

    Can’t believe I just heard this one now. As ever Mary sings it like it is. ❤️

    • @lizbrosnan6267
      @lizbrosnan6267 Před rokem

      I lost my daughter 37 years ago. This song describes how I survived.

  • @zimmee
    @zimmee Před 2 lety +1

    Great words Mary. XO

  • @josephlucier2701
    @josephlucier2701 Před rokem +1

    All your music hits me thank you

  • @cccnieh2468
    @cccnieh2468 Před 4 lety +1

    I thought I loved living alone, until she left

  • @kurtfreund7857
    @kurtfreund7857 Před 6 lety +3

    Beautiful, Mary. 💞

  • @andrewhockley2579
    @andrewhockley2579 Před 7 lety +1

    I still remember seeing you in a tiny pub in Manningtree UK many years ago. Beautiful song, thank you for your music.

  • @lastrada52
    @lastrada52 Před 5 lety +1

    Stunning work. This is where the real music lives. You have to search for it -- but when you find it, it's worth the time. I'm buying this CD for sure.

  • @robertomignot2090
    @robertomignot2090 Před 3 lety +2

    Beautiful music, congratulations, love this .

  • @taniaroyaltr93
    @taniaroyaltr93 Před rokem +1

    Oh Wow! Beautiful & heartfelt song! ❤️❤️❤️

  • @thomaslabelle922
    @thomaslabelle922 Před 6 lety +1

    Devastating!

  • @lolaomobaba
    @lolaomobaba Před 3 lety +1

    Waoo this is so inspiring and it’s true talk ma

  • @bethfurry7461
    @bethfurry7461 Před 2 lety +1

    I don't want to learn to live alone.

  • @DanaDodd
    @DanaDodd Před 10 lety +10

    I love Mary, Mary Gautier. She writes my heart songs. I wish I knew her.

  • @ango5519
    @ango5519 Před rokem

    Such a good song!
    Congratulations!

  • @4aceshigh1957
    @4aceshigh1957 Před rokem

    Finally got to see her live at the Edmonton Folk Fest this year, love Mary and her story.

    • @josephlucier2701
      @josephlucier2701 Před rokem

      Hope you come to boston area some day .would love to see ya concerts.

  • @kristineb.mcanelly3304
    @kristineb.mcanelly3304 Před 6 lety +1

    Gratitude.

  • @fractally
    @fractally Před 10 lety +2

    WOW!

  • @nurkenurk
    @nurkenurk Před 10 lety +2

    I love beautiful ballads, and I love Duane Eddy!

  • @carmendarlinseattle
    @carmendarlinseattle Před 6 lety

    My friend just sent this to me. Such a poignant truthful song. Thank you

  • @joelee5875
    @joelee5875 Před 7 lety +2

    Great tune.

  • @AngelosMikra
    @AngelosMikra Před 6 lety +4

    Beautiful song, thank you !!

  • @b.bailey8244
    @b.bailey8244 Před 6 lety +2

    wow. she articulates it all so well.

  • @gr8blu
    @gr8blu Před 6 lety +1

    what a find! in my top 5 mary and w. gretchen recently discoverd and say what! duane eddy! i'm melting in sweet pain ~

  • @had953
    @had953 Před 7 lety +1

    Add to your playlist please!!!

  • @b.bailey8244
    @b.bailey8244 Před 4 lety +1

    devastating - and true.

  • @suzyharthcock7913
    @suzyharthcock7913 Před 5 lety +1

    Yes, exactly...thanks , Mary

  • @Gods_Healer
    @Gods_Healer Před 8 lety +7

    She reminds me of a female version of King 👑 Johnny Cash!!! \m/

    • @leatapp1255
      @leatapp1255 Před 7 lety +2

      Jason Walton So, the queen?

    • @Gods_Healer
      @Gods_Healer Před 7 lety +1

      Lea Tapp yes sir...this song hit me very hard when my father passed and i was at the bottom bottle of Mr. Johnny Walker blue.

  • @xrayit
    @xrayit Před 10 lety +12

    That's Duane Eddy on Guitar.

  • @barbipoos
    @barbipoos Před 7 lety +1

    Fabulous, haunting

  • @earthlingforever1269
    @earthlingforever1269 Před 8 lety +3

    Wow. What depth. I love her.

  • @athenamaria574
    @athenamaria574 Před 6 lety

    I just discovered Mary. Superb!

  • @TexRenner
    @TexRenner Před 4 lety +2

    Duane Eddy thought they were playing "Country Roads".

  • @OkayNope
    @OkayNope Před 9 lety +4

    Love this!!