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Dementia Sundowning: Stopping Their Overwhelm and Anxiety
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- čas přidán 3. 08. 2023
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1- Activities Ideas
2- What to say/do for specific Challenging Behaviors
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Yes. Good stuff. On the geriatric behavioral health unit I worked at we would give them towels to fold etc. Another calming method that worked nicely for some was to give them a baby doll to hold. Often they’d start a rocking motion automatically and it gave them something to do to calm themselves
My cousins had babies when my gran was getting bad. She could get mean and would always be getting up and down trying to go "home" or find something.
But would instantly settle down if given one of the baby to hold (plus the baby went to sleep aswell).
She did the same thing with my puppy when i took him to meet her, right after she "found" him a biscuit or 2. She then gave him her tea to drink... 🙄
I almost wonder if there’s a factor to that of being able to self-soothe through the baby doll, as they often lose the ability to self-soothe? Kind of like in a vicarious way, calming the “baby” down is more of them subconsciously calming themselves down. Just given how prevalent and effective that particular strategy seems to be, it does make me wonder, though I’m not versed on the specifics of degenerative neurology like this.
@@chrystpick7741was he okay
@@chrystpick7741that’s really sweet. you never lose that motherly instinct.❤
My Mom is in memory care. Sometimes they provide patients with tasks like sorting buttons by color.
I was a preteen when my grandmother started suffering from dementia. The amount of times my family got agrivated and frustrated with her still fills me with rage. Im glad videos like this are out there to help people understand, if they do want to understand. I often pretended to have issues with sewing, which she taught me how to do when she had her mind right. Most nights she'd teach me how to sew all over again, just the basics. Man, I miss her
Reminds me of one time my aunt was trying to get my blind grandpa to feed himself, but every time he dropped the food she hit him on the hand, and that shit made me mad, but no one believed me when I told on her.
@@-.severly.depressed.- getting frustrated I can understand where only humans after all but hitting... inexcusable
@@dragon22214 Elder abuse is not acceptable. But I wonder if she had been abused as a child? And is that why the other adults ignored it?
Some men are going to be shocked by how their "tough love" of beating their children is going to rebound on them when they need elder care.
FYI, I think abused people should get therapy in order to break the cycle of abuse - which includes elder abuse
Keep in mind it's not their fault they're getting frustrated. It is their fault how they take it out on someone who can't help it though so I'm not defending them.
This is when, if they're still up for it, sewing, crochet, knitting, painting, etc will sometimes help.
My grandfather for the first year or so after he started showing signs could be coerced into braiding reins or plating them. He'd done it as a lad so his body remembered more than his mind.
i find it surprising that a lot of people dont realize this is part of why these things are associated w the elderly
theyre repetitive, muscle memory hobbies that a LOT of them have been doing since a young age! plus, many elderly people have impaired movement otherwise. so its a really good route of finding something they can (sometimes, of course not everyone is able to for varying reasons) actually participate in, it isnt every day that they get to make something and see finished results out of it anymore!
note: please excuse the awkward wording, speech isnt my strong suit
Everyone needs to feel they have a purpose, even if it's a simple task.
It’s useful to think about the things a person whose subdownong would be doing at that time of they went subdownong of that makes sense. Would they be doing the school run and dinner? Would they be putting the kids to bed? Would they be commuting? Would they be getting ready for work? And now they’re not and they don’t know why or what they’re missing in their day, just that it’s important. When we can fill in this void in the day with useful tasks, it’s super helpful.
You are really giving out helpful info. I have seen here on YT some adult children who try to be logical and make their parent try to understand that they have memory loss. That seems to make it worse. The way you are describing is much better and comforting to the parent.
Your videos have been so helpful to me, more than any others. They helped me to understand why my Mom would do certain things, and how to help her out of it. Sadly, she passed away peacefully this morning. Thank you, thank you, thank you!
I hope you can find some peace in this difficult time
Sorry for your loss. My mum psssed on Oct 25, two years ago …& I am still recovering from caring for her.
@@Kohlerstacey Thank you so much.
@@siouxd799 Thank you.
I used to have residents help me make their bed and fold rags! Got them tuckered right out!
I love your videos!!! I feel like they can help my partner and I when we are anxious, disoriented and disassociating! I work in the Healthcare field too and though I don't do direct patient care I feel like these are good tips if you are interacting with a dementia patient. Thanks for the education you're putting out!
Yeah I did a lot of this stuff w my ex whose borderline was so bad he would be semi psychotic in and out of flashback stufff all the time.
god, i wish i had this account when i had to take care of my grandmother by myself when i was 20. no one i knew could help or give good advice since everyone was well outside the age bracket of dealing with this sort of thing. but this advice is gold.
I remember as a kid volunteering at the memory care home (i guess they dont let u do that anymore) and baby dolls were almost a sure thing. I could also ask for help with things i knew how to do like sewing and such because the elderly back then were from a time when almost all the women could sew and even if it were something else as long as i acted like a dumb kid that needed help it was distracting enough. They liked having some of us kids there because we were good at playing along. I really wish they still let kids volunteer but i guess i get why they dont anymore. But it helped me find out that thing i wanted to do when i grew up
Unfortunately, a lot of dementia patients can become sexually lewd and inappropriate, and I don't think I'd want kids around that personally since it's not uncommon. It's not the patients fault obviously but still not something a preteen girl should be exposed to.
Your work here is so important. Thank you for sharing your insight, it is very valuable.
I worked nights and sometimes had people help me fold napkins for breakfast service. I usually had to refold them lol but it helped the residents.
Folding things simple like napkins or rags also really helps occupy the mind and makes them feel like they're helping you out. ❤
I love these videos. I was a CNA for 10 years and families never knew what to say so it’s good to teach them how to handle things.
Precisely. At the geriatric unit I work at if there's washed cups to dry or towels to fold I like to take a resident with me. I supervise them and I'd usually have to repeat a few times what the task was but I could tell they enjoyed helping.
As someone who is high risk for dementia these videos are comforting for me in a way. Kind of a "here's what's going to happen". Thank you for making this videos both for people who are caretakers and for those, like me, who have a high chance of getting this later in life.
Bless you! My fad passed in Feb and mom in Sept. This was our lives. I miss them.
A facility I worked in was built as a square. It promoted wandering automatically. The residents went around in a square to nowhere.
Brilliant and helpful content for something many people have to struggle with.
thank you for sharing your content, my mom had a health scare recently and knowing i would be able to have the skills to remain calm and cope if she suffered memory loss was one of the biggest things that kept me stable
This is very helpful
Excellent advice thank you
GRATITUDE 4 ur vids! Ur helping my family & me & many others thru education!!!
Thank you ❤️ Always learning how to be a better carer!
Great advice! I watch them all.
This is so well done, pleeees keep doing this❤
❤ thank you for all you do
Thank you so much for showing right on this so far pretty good examples
When I worked in a care home sometimes I would have some of the residents help me to wash dishes/set tables/tidy the living areas. Having a task to do seemed to really benefit them, and it didn't matter that the dishes were still dirty, or the cutlery was all over the place - the task was still complete.
You have so many good ideas!
Distractions work very well, once you figure out which ones work. Wants to go home? Take her to her bedroom, plot down on the bed and say "it's so good to be home". She will smile.
I worked in the memory ward of an assisted living home and I had one lady with sundowners. I used to have her help me fold the towels or put away her clothes. It helped sometimes. She looked so fragile until she hit you, lol.
God bless you fr 💙
😊 thank you for the sweet insight! Very helpful
I really love this channel. Dementia care is my passion I think…😅❤
My go to is to get them to help me with whatever I may be doing, given there is no danger to them. Say I’m folding laundry I’ll give them tea towels or hand towels to fold, then hankies and face washers. If I’m in the kitchen I might get the cutlery out of the draw, dump them on a table, and get them to sort them and count them. If we’re watching TV I’ll give them a tissue and get them to clean their glasses, my sunglasses, or something similar so they can at least distract themselves. Just simple little things, sure, the last may not be the best, but it’s subtle and easy to think of. The others will certainly last longer and probably have a better effect for them, but all they want is to solve their inner dilemma of feeling like they need to be doing something, but they’re not sure what.
my dad is recovering from a stroke and has been hospitalised several times, i bring home books and get him to put labels in them
What ive noticed is that taking care of someone with dementia is really like taking care of a toddler with a little bit more comprehension
when my friends ask what i do for work and what it’s like i always say it’s like working with toddlers. i’ve never liked saying that but it’s true. the only difference is is that they’re seniors who have lived a longer life than an actual toddler. when a few of my residents would sun down, we made a special juice that was just cranberry, apple and orange juice mixed together and we’d give them all juice. it’s not the most interactive but they all loved it
My grandmother we thought my toddler boy was her son, my dad when she lived with us. She lived with us for about two years. There were many times she would tell me that they were going home now. She said they were taking the city bus. Of course there was no city bus where we lived (120 miles from her home). I’d finally convince her to let me drive them “home” but I had to fold the laundry before we could leave. That dear sweetheart would fold the clothes and when she was done I’d thank her and take them from her only to return a minute later after I messed them all up and declared, “oh, dear I have more to fold before we can go” she would say let me do that. I’d say thank you. Sometimes, but not often she’d remark, “I think I folded some of these already…?” I’d lie through my teeth that I had more than one of whatever it was. Once in a while we would go through it a third time. All that might take an hour and if she stopped obsessing about going home all was good. If not, I ask her to peel potatoes or something like that for our dinner. God knows I loved that woman!
yup....hand them a cup. Its time to set the table we are having guests over tomorrow and since its late i just wanted to get everything ready so we can sleep in. easy peasy redirecting
Great diversion and deescalator
Seems comparable to what I have some students do when to they’re upset
Sundowning is so for real. My momma gets overly concerned with what time it is and most of the time is anxiety ab it getting dark ourlt or she's sleepy and doesn't say so. We listen to music together & look at her gardening books & I rub her feet and she eases into contentment so quickly with that pleasant sensory activity
"Can you help me fold these towels?"
So true
Wish I'd known some of this before my dad was put in a memory home. He doesn't even know his name anymore.
its like a the toddler stage all over again
I eventually learned these things with my mom, but I sure wish I had known them from the start. It just took me too long to realize something was wrong and I tried to reason with her.
We had been best friends for most of my adult life and her forgetting me was so hard on my heart.
I always wonder if somewhere inside it is hard on her heart as well and she is trapped in a world in her head that doesn't make sense.
At least you can communicate with them. My dog got it and she would pace and pant after dark. She was miserable.
I'm so afraid that my dad will get Alzheimers. My grandmother had it so he knows he has a good chance of getting it too. Im really close with my dad and just cant imagine seeing him like this.
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How would you help sundowning in a care home setting?
Do all these wanting to go home issues occur when the person is being cared for in their own home.
Why does confusion increase at night?
Why does this look so similar to schizophrenia, as someone with schizophrenia?
as someone with adhd who finds some of these shorts relatable to a scary extent, I think maybe some mental illnesses just present similar-seeming issues, even if the cause is different? IDK if that's accurate but it's a perspective that helps me not to spiral about it.