What You Lookin' At?
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- čas přidán 3. 07. 2018
- Welcome to #Manjelah episode 2!
We're back and we're talking about insecurities in relationships. Have you ever caught your partner looking in a direction a little too long or even been caught yourself? Is it OK to give a little lookie-look every now and again? Join us as we dive into how we feel about the world of "What you looknin' At?".
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Intentions, exactly. Eye catching is okay, but following them with your gaze while with your partner is sitting right there is just disrespectful. Have some self control. You two are awesome. You two have trust and and respect which keeps insecurities away.
Anjelah side eyeing him the whole video! 😂😂
When you are with your girl you should never look. it's plain Respect. im old school so what do i know.
B Leon Yes you are 100 percent right. It's disrespectful to be eyeing other females for there "fashion". Hell no he would be sitting alone if he tried that "fashion " statement. Patricia
B Leon ✌👊👊👏👏👏👏👏
When it comes to respect guys it’s really about intent. There have been times when my wife notices someone and makes me aware of it and I never think oh she’s disrespectful. My “fashion” statement is not tactic, it’s the truth about my love for fashion. But hey thanks for weighing in hopefully in the spirit of love. Love you guys
Yes! B Leon you are right! My husband does not do it. I actually sometimes will see a pretty lady and look and he doesnt even notice. But we have 4 kids....so usually we are so busy.
You nailed it! It's about intention. My husband is very honorable and averts his eyes from women. I've never seen him staring at a woman in public. That's how a Christian man should act. I've been with guys who just acted like dogs drooling over women while out with me. Those are not the guys you take home to momma! Thanks again for sharing your hearts.
That's why praying together daily is so important.
I disagree with Manuel. I was raised and taught differently. I notice pretty women all the time but I do not stare or follow with my eyes.
Hey thanks for the response. I never said to stare or follow. I actually said the opposite. But hey thanks for watching. Love you guys
If on a date. I believe that full attention be on each other. You are spending time with your date getting to know each other. Distractions like eye candy can mean he is not that into you.
That dog so knocked he looks like a chunky rug lol😂😴🐶😂
The bottom line is you never disrespect your woman or your man because somebody gorgeous is walking by or coming into a room. I don't care how fine or fly or fashionable they are nobody gets more respect than the person that you're supposed to be in love with. And men and women who do that and then make excuses all the time for why it should be okay and why their mates shouldn't be getting upset only reveal what's really in their heart. Because if you really cared about your spouse or your mate you wouldn't intentionally do things that you know is going to hurt them. If you can't control yourself then you got bigger issues that need to be dealt with.
Charles Brown Yes you nailed exactly what I thought. Hasn't he heard that old school song"I only have eyes for you". I guy who said he loved me would be sitting alone if he disrespected me like that. Woman need the man who loves then to stop eyeing other women. Especially in front of them. That is beyond not cool. He got this one wrong. Sounded like a excuse to look at other woman's so called "fashion". Patricia
Yes, it's all about respect and communication. I don't feel disrespected when Manny checks out a girls outfit and neither of us feel disrespected when we are both admiring a person together. It's all about what each couple is comfortable with and communicates that to their partner.
Agreed. We live in a visual world, it’s human nature that we look. But the intention, that’s key. And mutual respect and honesty about it. 👍💙
I met them both in real life there so cool and humble and really fun to be around them
It is okay to look. It all depends on the frequency and the intent behind the look.
I think it's about respect weather you "look" or not. If your partner tends to suffer with insecurities then no a person shouldn't look. But a more secure person could handle glances. . . Huge fan love the Mangela videos.
I’m a visual person. Love to appreciate beauty. If I find a man attractive though, it doesn’t mean I’m into him. I walk in the park everyday and see beautiful flowers. Doesn’t mean I’m plucking them out of the ground and taking them home. Don’t even want to. They’re beautiful OVER THERE. That’s how I feel about opposite sex attraction. Like walking through an art gallery. God made lots of beautiful people. I look. But I won’t gawk or pluck. They are beautiful right where they are. I have my handsome hunk at home.
Love you guys! Fan of Manny’s music and Anjelah’s comedy! I definitely acknowledge beauty and share it with my wife as well, but you know the enemy can creep in with lust. That’s why communication and trust is essential.
I love Angela's laugh!!
I love how open you are regarding this subject that most couples struggle with. You're on point with what the intention is on why they notice that person. At the end of the day it all boils down to what you're willing to put up with or how secure you are in your relationship. You guys are great! And I'll be seeing you Anjelah for the first time ever in September!!! I'm so excited! God bless!! 🙌🏼
Can't wait to meet you in September! So glad you're coming to a live show. ❤️
There is a difference in looking and lusting. At the end of the day if you’re undressing them in your mind then your wrong. From a Christian stand point.
I totally love this video! Married for 18 years and together with mine for 20. I can totally relate to this video. I can see my husband watch another lady walk by but I can look at him and know he’s NOT looking at her and same with me. We also do the Dang look at him or her when we are with each other. You also have to be confident with your relationship and know that the person you are with doesn’t want anybody else or BYE!
I am an older lady...Native American Indian ..1/4 Irish so I have naturally curly hair..ugh. My sisters have the straight hair..so I’m just saying.... I have been in with gorgeous and than I’ve been with okay looking but with a great heart...if I look at you 🤔😉 I agree with the beautiful lady who is both inside and out...it takes a really SPECIAL MAN...not a youth...definitely but a Real Man...my intuition shows me.. by the way Anjelah your husband..kind of resembles my first LOVE...my daughters dad...although he had perfect white teeth with dimples... He passed when I was expecting with my second baby girl...I Praise God that he was a believer, because I know we’ll be seeing each other sooner than later.... You are both AWESOME together...Love you In Jesus Name. 👍🏼♥️💕🤔🙏🏽🙇🏻♀️✝️❗️
Just found this. Loving it. Seeing you in Oxnard on January 14!
This conversation is good. Real. Relevant. Love it!
bon qui qui tell us what your opinion is! we miss you.
Love this couple!!
You guys are so funny and cute! Keep them coming
I 100% agree that it is the intention that matters.
These two just crack me up. Ok, my comment, yes, it's all about the intention.
I agree. Everyone is going to notice something or someone attractive. More so men who are more visual. But how long you linger in that gaze is what matters.
We live in a world where most everyone is “visual”... you know how they say, “first impressions are everything!” Just as long as you don’t make a huge deal or break your neck when some beautiful girl/guy walks by, then it’s KOOL. I often point out a beautiful girl or handsome guy and ask my hubby to look and what does he think...lol-just checking if we have the same taste.❤️
This is good! “Intension will dictate”. I believe if we walk with our face down we will be in denial because we’re human. Yup that’s why a strong foundation is important and foremost pray pray pray so you won’t be a prey! Lol
Ángelaerrrrrrrrr I love you...been following you for yearrsssss... I'm so happy for you and Manuel
Me and my partner will really look at attractive people and comment on what we like about them and move on, no time limit is set on it as you can't give a proper evaluation with a time limit. We sit and can give a full ted talk about the people men, women and anything that takes our fancy at the time. We got together because of our love for people watching so I guess that is why it is not one of our insecurities.
Love you guys!!
That dog! He is so relax.
Personally it would depend on what my man and I were doing at the time. For example, if we’re deep in a conversation and he breaks his neck to check another woman out, I’m totally perturbed! That’s, like, dissed x 2....once for checking someone out when you’re with me and secondly for not respecting me enough to give me your full attention when we’re deeply “conversating.”
Took look occasionally is fine. Always be respectful never make your spouse feel inadequate
My grandpa use to say that it never said in the marriage vows you couldn't look, lol. I agree with both of you though. It just all depends upon intention and attention. The more negative the intention the more attention is shown. I love you guys! #manjelah
Happy 4th of July!! You both are amazing!
Nothing more annoying than having a full on conversation w/ ur significant other & they break their concentration to look or worse look at the TV at a restaurant!
I agree with you guys, but I also think when you’re in a relationship, you shouldn’t be intentionally looking at people just to see if they look good. To some degree, you should just put your blinders on and not look. But, if someone is about to walk right past me in a close vicinity, I might acknowledge that they’re there just out of respect.
Fly - Dope....."Lust of the eyes"!
Good topic, appreciation yes, we all put in an effort as individuals to look how we feel and reflect onto the world, publicly and privately. So if no one ever appreciated your efforts at looking fly, we all wear matching tracksuits and have no individuality. It is what makes us human. Intentions is important those who are shopping with their eyes need to front up and address the problem in the relationship, sometimes it isn't a you problem just human nature people like peacocks prettty fantail style preferences and then others like soul food beyond the physical image. If you have both awesome. Personality is bigger then both 😎👌👍
That’s why dating a blind person would be good! I don’t have to worry about that.
Anjelah you are so right on the girls side. I think you described the majority of women. I'm that same way, almost every girl I know is
Me and my husband go for walks and we always do the same thing with each other when we see attractive people walking by. We be jokingly tippin saying stuff like why you still looking at her or why you're staring at that shirtless guy even when that wasn't happening. That's just us. We tease each for fun but just like yall we dont start blaming each other for noticing beautiful people. We have an agreement that we shouldn't stare and lust. Even I as a woman notice other woman and I'm not a hater.
I compliment them sometimes or ask them where they get shoes or whatever looks pretty on them. I try also not to covet and wish to look like them. God made me beautiful and I'm content with me and I'm super blessed with a man that truly loves me but if I ever catch him staring at another woman and it bothers me how he did it, I'll be honest with him. I think it's funny when we watch TV that's when he notices woman and mentions their beauty then he turns and tells me but she got nothing on you baby lol OH but when I say man actor looks good, he starts trippin and I be like but got nothing on you babe and he stays upset kinda. It's funny tho!
When people are in a relationship and they are secure in who they are as a couple, I think they know each other’s look per se. I’ve seen men and women basically devouring other people with their eyes while they’re with their spouse or significant other. That is disgusting! It’s also rude both to the spouse/significant other and to the other person. I kind of agree with what you’re saying.
When I am with someone, my attention is on that person. I have caught my eye straying when I was younger and much more hormonal, LOL. I’ve learned the superficial is not so interesting, just like reading a book. The cover maybe outstanding with fantastic artwork but delve into the pages and you see the real-ness of the person.
Regardless, I believe what’s inside us and the person we are dictates if and what kind of “observation” is appropriate!
Really Cool Topic Guys! Thanks and 10-4 👍🏼
I see it like this....you walk past a window display and think that looks nice.....that's okay
You go into the store to get a closer look or try it on then we got a problem.
Look but don't touch....and intention is the basis of the action. Like Anjelah said your intention will dictate your length of time you look and the reason you look.
Both of y'all look Lit AF lol
Anjelah, U Rock!!
Yes that's happened and dude it does annoy me.
Lol happy 4Th of July 🎇🎆🎇🎉
I think that since both men & women's eyes work, then both will notice nice apparel or nice physiques on the opposite sex or even cool stylish things about the same sex. I agree that if a person looks at another as if they are not in a relationship or married, then that's wrong. A glance of admiration is very different from salivating & needing a bib. If the man or woman is insecure about where they stand in their relationship, then they need to deal with that and figure out where they stand and not freak out or melt down about what the other person does. If there are melt downs, it sounds like there are trust issues in the relationship. If you don't have trust in a relationship, you have nothing. Either work on it or walk away.
If it happens too often right in front of me, and it’s hella obvious, I feel it is a little disrespectful. Just saying... 😆
I totally agree that it is about the intention. Good video breaking down the topic.Manwell, if you’re comfortable sharing, what does your tattoo signify?
My “rule” for my man since he did do looky look one time in front of me when were dating.
There enough hours in the day to do that when I am not around.
BUT!! When I am with you, respect me. Do not glance, look or stare. I don’t do that to him, so I expect him show me the same respect.
Married 20 years and been together total 28 years. So it’s worked for us. A woman needs to feel she is enough for her man. Guys looking, little by little takes away a bit of her confidence each time. Whether she tells you or not. So respect your partner people and keep your eyes on your spouse. If your single and still doing looky looks, then your not ready to be in a committed relationship. Men your not slick, we women know when your doing it
Good for you, girl.
He is gorgeous
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Men are gonna look, period. I tell my husband, if you're with me, show me some respect and don't do it in front of me.
It's awsome to see how cool you two can be about it .My husband has this problem he can't stop looking at every girl ,and there are times that I will try to look myself so we can look together 😂 ,but some days it really gets to me to the point that I feel like I am just not enough for him.
Wow
How did he not notice her at the wedding they were at? She's gorgeous! Also, has she taken him to the nail salon?
Does Manwell wear a wedding band?
Her excuse is he just got through working out! But I question this because if he worked out that much he would be much bigger! This is every video!
I wonder the same thing! I have yet to see him wear one, but who am I! 😒🙈
I just like to watch people lol! Some people are sooooo funny and don't even have a clue they may think they are fly or they may really be fly but its fun to watch and usually me and my husband will give them nick names and may even make fun of them and later on it helps us remember our date as we tease each other based on what the "fly" person did lol.......like one time this guy at the BMW dealership said something to me that was funny so I told my husband what he said and how I handled it and so every once in a while my husband will mock that comment the guy made to me.....in a teasing way of course......
In her stand up she mentioned that her husband looks like Maxwell he does. But definitely not Lenny Kravitz.
Ok it took me a while but I finally sorta see the Lenny Kravitz thing. He fine tho lmao
I think you can appreciate someone’s beauty without lusting. I don’t think it’s wise to do it in front your SO, though, since it has the potential to make them feel insecure.
If you love the person you are with, why would you chance hurting them... in any way. We are human. We will hurt others. But, if you know it will hurt someone you love... don't do it. Self control is a good thing.
Its the same for us women i would say
With men it's sight, with us women, it's words (KUDOS to you Anjelah for not disrespecting your Hubby on camera even after he obviously embarrassed you)...1 of the marriage vows is to honor. So, my Hubby has his convictions not to look, and I have mine not to flirt back....I just stare @ a guy/girl who flirt w/me...then they get embarrssd and it stops,
works 4 me...
Depends on how secure your relationship is. My husband and I have a rule, "dont matter what you're looking at, as long as you come home to me" my husband likes blonds w a nice curves, top and bottom. So not the way I am stacked. I have even pointed them out to him. I love a cowboy in boots and jeans. Not how my husband looks at all. As long ypu are both secure in each other, Eye candy is ok. Just respect your partner, and dont touch.
Can y’all talk about your goals and dreams, both individual ones and as a couple?
Hi Smokey!!!!
Ok to look. It do not touch.
As a guy of course it’s natural to look. No need to get jealous.
Both men and women should do the eye bounce loke Manuel was talking about he does in gym. To easy to step over line especially in todays world that is over stimulated. To easy to cross line in heart and mind and has become such an excepteted practice sadly. Respect yourself and your partner and the the person your looking at but more importantly God. Love your videos happy 4th
Yes! It's all about respect for your partner and what each other is comfortable with.
Women need to have more self respect at the end of the day. On campus I see women with literally their butt cheeks hanging out, at the university you have to dress like this? What the hell do you wear at a club then?? Dressing like a hoochie isn’t cute ladies, it’s dangerous.
Bren C Taylor Truth
Side topic: What's the tattoo mean?... main: pretty cool you guys are secure enough for this topic, wish more people were... :)
Anjelah looks fly and dope lolololol true
Girl your husband is FIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIINNNNNEEEEEEEEE!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Our pastor said its ok to look but longer then 3 seconds thats when your mind starts getting lustful thoughts and that is wrong
Thumper 1611 Thumper, what is your deal? Obviously that’s not what she meant. You are incredibly rude. Your posts show me you’re not filled with the Spirit (I don’t care how many verses you post.)
Galatians 5:22-23 English Standard Version (ESV)
22 But the fruit of the Spirit is love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, 23 gentleness, self-control; against such things there is no law.
Thumper 1611 No, it was Brittkrystine. :/ Fine, here’s the KJV:
And though I have the gift of prophecy, and understand all mysteries, and all knowledge; and though I have all faith, so that I could remove mountains, and have not charity, I am nothing. -1 Cor. 13:2
Nichole MacCalley Thank you for defending me. Yes i said the 3 second thing but i choose not to respond to Thumpers negative and judgemental comments.
Brittkrystine Navarrette You’re welcome.
Thumper 1611 Thumper, I’m going to say one last thing. People like you hurt the cause of Christ. It’s sad when you know non-believers that are nicer than some Christians. I’m not saying you shouldn’t stand for what you believe in. You’re just going about it in a horrible way. God bless.
No not if your with some one you deeply care about. Your husband should have blinders on you so fine and so funny. Have fun🤓
In my culture we are taught to lower our gaze, out of respect, Discipline your self & is it just mean or her husband seems very feminine, suspect, sorry I LOVE HER!
I disagree! Obviously, I notice a sexy man. But there’s a difference between noticing and following them with your eyes. A glance, cool! But following them with your eyes, unacceptable and disrespectful! I agree with Anjelah because it is truly all about intent because Manwell has a beautiful woman at home, in his bed to come home to. If he truly Loves her and is loyal to her, there shouldn’t be an intent. The reverse is also true for Anjelah.
OMG Everytime i see this guy hes got a jheri curl!!! 2015 curl, 2007 crew 1 rap video, curl, married video damn fro curl, baptism...long curl, jherified at the wedding, jherified at church, when will it stop, 1999 high school curl, college curl. GET A FADE PLEASE!!! Its 2021!! Boricuas stopped using long hair curls for decades now. As I lay my head down to sleep i pray the puerto rican lord to take a pair of clippers to that head.
Love ya'll! Look, yes..
Breaks necks, stare, drool no need for all that sheesh lol.
You can look but DON’T Ever TOUCH!!!
LOL @ all the comments who say men should never look or women shouldn’t wear revealing clothing that “makes men look.” I’m happily married to an awesome guy who checks out girls and guys, but at the end of the day he’s coming home to me. I don’t feel disrespected. I check out girls and guys too! We do it together sometimes, it’s fun. Also, I am that girl who dresses provocatively, I know people look, I don’t notice it, my husband tells me after the fact usually because he thinks it’s hilarious. Cool thing is I love myself and my body. When I had my lowest self esteem and utterly hated myself, I was covered head to toe. Teaching myself to respect myself and to love myself is when I started revealing a lot more because I realized what I wear, what I show doesn’t define me as a person and those who think it does clearly aren’t worth my time. I’m super loyal to my husband, he’s super loyal to me, we’ve been together for 4 years, lived together for 3.5 years, I was there for him every night when he had nightmares after his best friend was killed by a drunk driver, he lived with me and my crazy family while we cared for my terminally ill grandma (who lived with us) until she passed away at home. We both have self respect and if we have an issue or insecurity we talk about it right then and there. Communication is a great thing.
It’s ok to look but out of respect don’t stare at the other human when you’re with your significant other... and even if you’re alone... look but don’t stare as if you want to make that connection with them. You know! ✊🏻
My thoughts are that you are only so hurt and offended with your significant over looking at another when your whole existence is found in them. I have been there but now I love me and I have purpose so although I love Him what he does or doesn’t do does not orchestrate my life or how I feel
I don't think most women are cool about this topic as Anjelah is. Just my two cents.
Wrote a song called l"what you looking at "
My hubby and I went to dinner the other night and I caught him checking out a waitresses ass. I’m a very insecure person like in my mind I’m like why are you with me if you’re staring at that, I don’t look as good as that. So I HATE when he noticed another girl
Me and my man check out beautiful people all the time men and females.
It does not bother me sometimes I will even say to my husband look
Smash and pound that like🙋👍👊
You know when somebody man THIRSTY by the way he looks and acts single around other women.
It’s only been a handful of times in the last 20 years that my husband has made me feel insecure when he looks. He’s more attracted to girls who are beautiful, that don’t know they are beautiful! And I’m like is he trying to save this b*tch!? But he has never followed through! He don’t like talking to people, no matter the gender.
Lol, women aren't turned by dudes that way...we get turned on by understanding and stuff like that
::raises hand:: I will look at a girl or guy if they are hot and even make a comment to whoever is there with me lol I can appreciate how both sexes look. 😍
I also don't care if the person I'm with is looking at someone walking by. I will just look and then comment lol
Cute hands and toes Anjelah..👍..jus sayn..good job Mani