10 Words That Tell You Have Class

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  • čas přidán 20. 11. 2021
  • What does your speech say about you? Is it aligned with your elegant personal brand?
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  • @lmmann2
    @lmmann2 Před 2 lety +1094

    US American here - in grade school, if we asked "can I go to the bathroom?" our teachers would always say "I don't know, can you?" as a way to encourage us to say "may I go?" 😄

    • @seattlegirl2077
      @seattlegirl2077 Před 2 lety +43

      This was something my mother always said!

    • @MissDuke2012
      @MissDuke2012 Před 2 lety +18

      We Americans, not “us Americans” 😉

    • @weaver7703
      @weaver7703 Před 2 lety +131

      @@MissDuke2012 I think she meant US as in United States 😊

    • @mylittlesuitcase1755
      @mylittlesuitcase1755 Před 2 lety +24

      Yes! Can - speaks to ability, whereas May seeks permission.

    • @elisez478
      @elisez478 Před 2 lety +8

      I remember this too! 😅

  • @sadkitten1649
    @sadkitten1649 Před 2 lety +1776

    Anna has helped me so much on my slow but steady leveling up journey. I’m a teenager and right now I live in an environment that’s let’s just say is not the most elegant, but thanks to Anna I’ve been learning more tips and tricks to add into my everyday life. And let me tell you people are starting to notice. I might not currently have the funds to dress more elegantly, but I do have the resources to be more elegant and sophisticated in my everyday life. So thank you Anna for helping me become a better version of my self. :)

    • @user-sg5tr6jt3y
      @user-sg5tr6jt3y Před 2 lety +51

      Yea everything step by step. The earlier the better.
      Wishing you the best :)

    • @rena6895
      @rena6895 Před 2 lety +81

      ❤️ You are still young! I am sure you are an elegant young lady just by caring. So many young ladies are trying to imitate the Kardashians and do not care about class.
      By the time you are an adult you will be so far ahead of the game and that will help you in business and in marrying a good man.

    • @seattlegirl2077
      @seattlegirl2077 Před 2 lety +40

      Good for you! You will go far in life. Treating yourself and others with respect will never let you down. Look for clothing for the person you want to be. Better to have a few clothes that are an investment are show who you really are that a lot of cheap pieces. Shop second hand! Best wishes

    • @tenak7278
      @tenak7278 Před 2 lety +24

      Congratulations! I wish I could have had this information at your age. Now I know that life may have been different. My parents were too busy trying to establish themselves in this country to always try to help. And, customs, language and social, etc were so different that they were not fully capable to teach me. So, I fully understand. Now, I went on in school and received my Master's degree. That, formal education, will make an enormous difference in all aspects of your life. But, I understand the mistakes I made along the way. Too bad for me. But, I'm absolutely thrilled that you are starting out on elevating yourself so young. Keep it up. I'm so excited for you.

    • @allisond5669
      @allisond5669 Před 2 lety +23

      Try not to use the word funds. Try replacing that with financially restricted or I'm simply on a budget. Good luck.

  • @alterbria
    @alterbria Před 2 lety +585

    "It might sound a little bit old-fashioned..."
    Weren't we all classier back in those old-fashioned days? I love watching Old Hollywood movies and the class, beauty, values and manners were so much higher back then. I love it when people call me traditional or old-fashioned. I don't take it as a bad trait AT ALL ♡ Love your work, Anna. Thank you for bringing class and good values into society again.

    • @vanessapyo7331
      @vanessapyo7331 Před 2 lety +18

      Amen to that!

    • @fanni24
      @fanni24 Před 2 lety +33

      I wish these customs would become normal again! It's respectful towards others and ourselves as well.

    • @kingdomlivingmiami100
      @kingdomlivingmiami100 Před 2 lety +24

      One of the reasons I enjoy going to church is because its the only place I can go were women are always dressed so classy even if its for one day of the week.

    • @karengabriel3202
      @karengabriel3202 Před 2 lety +3

      Movie suggestions?

    • @sevrinaanastasia
      @sevrinaanastasia Před 2 lety +6

      This is one reason why I'm thinking of starting to watch older movies. There was always so much more class the older the movies were! I follow another You Tuber who's classy and finds some of the older movies to be perfect examples of how to behave.

  • @Mia-gv8cf
    @Mia-gv8cf Před 2 lety +2038

    Dear Anna, could you make a video about elegant jewellery? I would love to hear your opinion on elegantly styling earrings, necklaces and rings ✨

    • @donnabaardsen5372
      @donnabaardsen5372 Před 2 lety +70

      My opinion is, less is more.

    • @jsrishti
      @jsrishti Před 2 lety +16

      Great idea 😃

    • @user-pz2vk9yw6h
      @user-pz2vk9yw6h Před 2 lety +24

      I'd like to see Anna's thoughts on this too.

    • @magdasz.4808
      @magdasz.4808 Před 2 lety +15

      I was about to request that video 🤗

    • @funnygaming2672
      @funnygaming2672 Před 2 lety +16

      i prefer more unique jewelry to had my own personality touch but i always choose a metal that suit my skin tone ...

  • @Strutability
    @Strutability Před 2 lety +341

    Another important part about very is to learn the correct adjectives. For example, very rich = wealthy, very serious = grave, very friendly = amiable, very hungry = starving. Etc etc etc 😊

    • @Violets14
      @Violets14 Před 2 lety +17

      That's definitely the ideal way to address this. 👍

    • @patrickmckinley9937
      @patrickmckinley9937 Před 2 lety

      Hi 👋 Karolina, can I please ask you a question?

    • @SinDesigns
      @SinDesigns Před 2 lety +5

      Great point! I would also add: very smart=intelligent

    • @mimirodolfo3689
      @mimirodolfo3689 Před 2 lety +13

      I’d say “famished” instead of starving. :-)

    • @MT-cp7lt
      @MT-cp7lt Před rokem

      That’s Very useful 🌝

  • @Sumerugeniusenjoyer
    @Sumerugeniusenjoyer Před 2 lety +515

    My teacher taught me the difference of "can" and "may". "May" in the sentence is asking permission, while "Can" is talking about the ability. So, "May I come in," is like, "Will you allow me to come in?" while "Can I come in?" is like, "Do I have the ability to come in?". That is according what I've learned from my teacher.

    • @aruhik
      @aruhik Před 2 lety +9

      Same

    • @vikiokweel214
      @vikiokweel214 Před 2 lety +14

      That’s exactly what my mom taught me.. and she learned in her school as well❤️

    • @vikiokweel214
      @vikiokweel214 Před 2 lety +4

      * Learned it at

    • @maryagbenku1058
      @maryagbenku1058 Před 2 lety +10

      Yes 'May I' is asking permission, because as elegant ladies we do not impose ourselves on anyone, neither do we oblige anyone to do anything for us, it's simply self respect and which rather portrays that we are polite, calm and alluring.

    • @janeflannery8757
      @janeflannery8757 Před 2 lety +4

      Yes, regretfully "May I" has all but disappeared from the English Language; both British and American. In many schools it is no longer even taught. So now if you mention that, you can even be relegated to the catagory of "hyper-correct". Funny how that goes eh? Biz

  • @mira31004
    @mira31004 Před 2 lety +872

    I love that Anna is humble and clarifies when she's not an expert on a subject, yet she still shares what she's learned. It shows how she really does want ladies (or men) to learn from her, too. It's not everyday I come across a woman as empowering as that :)

    • @beckycollins8923
      @beckycollins8923 Před 2 lety +3

      I like that too. She's quite humble and open. Yet, the silly tone of the videos isn't elegant as ladies don't make silly faces or bawdy jokes, big gestures, or make fun of other people.

    • @cameliap1146
      @cameliap1146 Před 2 lety +2

      If she's not an expert is better not to give advices. Actually nothing "humble" in her approach.

    • @kiranjitKaur61
      @kiranjitKaur61 Před rokem +1

      I do so Love her insightful and highly informative Videos.

    • @kiranjitKaur61
      @kiranjitKaur61 Před rokem

      She doth make the things quite easy to learn. By being somewhat entertaining.

    • @judylawson9569
      @judylawson9569 Před rokem

      RATHER instead of VERY.

  • @Jennifer-di4nl
    @Jennifer-di4nl Před 2 lety +59

    I say "right?" Over and over in conversation. My father pointed out that it doesn't sound classy 😂 My 81 yr old dad has become my class coach.

  • @Derlet30
    @Derlet30 Před 2 lety +31

    Terribly is not a positive term. We can use "extremely", "incredibly," "intensely," etc. The thesaurus can help us to expand our adjective list. But I absolutely love that Anna is bringing attention back to diction. Language is truly essential. It's power.

  • @winelifestyle
    @winelifestyle Před 2 lety +162

    As a wine educator and fellow elegant lady, I think there is a thing you could add to the part about alcoholic beverages. It is only called Prosecco or Champagne if it comes from that specific region in Italy or France, for all other cases it is elegant to just call it sparkling wine. Otherwise, it is like calling any running shoe an Adidas. In fact, it is best to ask for sparkling wine and ask what kind of sparkling wines do they have on the menu and if it is more like a prosecco or more like a Champagne. For example, if you ar in Spain, they might only have Cava, which is a great wine from that region.

    • @michellefritz8543
      @michellefritz8543 Před 2 lety +3

      Love Cava!

    • @sharroon7574
      @sharroon7574 Před rokem +2

      @@michellefritz8543 I was going to make the same comment, we enjoyed some this evening.

    • @TheJollyJokerDancer
      @TheJollyJokerDancer Před rokem +5

      Thanks for pointing that out. You would make a much bigger mishap by mixing them up. Or even worse, specially if you are at a private house, by asking for something much more expensive (like Champagne) than what your host may have prepared (like most Proseccos, for instance), you are inadvertently low-key humiliating them or forcing them to fetch something more expensive just for you because you wanted to sound sophisticated... Much better go safe for "sparkling wine" until you see the actual bottle... And never drink something more expensive than you host!
      By association, this reminds me of something my grandmother thought me: As a host, just drink exactly what you guest drinks, unless you have a really good reason to excuse you out of it.

    • @laurar.2053
      @laurar.2053 Před rokem

      This! It absolutely triggers me when people ask for champagne when having in mind prosecco/cava/cremant. Not only it shows the lack of knowledge, but may turn into an unpleasant suprise when the bill arrives 🤷‍♀️

    • @niviamaeva
      @niviamaeva Před rokem +1

      Is Cava then a sparkling wine? 😮

  • @EmmaAnimalWelfare
    @EmmaAnimalWelfare Před 2 lety +414

    Related to number 3 - please don't beat yourself up about overusing "very" - if you are a non-native English speaker, it's most likely down to a lack of extensive vocabulary and synonyms that you could use as alternative words/descriptors instead.
    For example, you could say "the restaurant was crowded" or "the restaurant was brimming!" rather than using "very" at all.
    Remember you can use a thesaurus to help improve and expand your vocabulary 🧐 but otherwise, if you are speaking English as a second or third language, never ever feel ashamed if you don't get everything perfect. You have my utmost respect for speaking additional languages in the first place 🙏

    • @acwilliams1343
      @acwilliams1343 Před 2 lety +10

      Well said!

    • @swedish_granny3153
      @swedish_granny3153 Před 2 lety +27

      When I arrived at this part of the video I immediately recalled a scene from the movie Dead Poets' Society with Robin Williams as the teacher John Keating. In this scene the teacher recommends the students to never use the word. Don't say you are very tired, you are exhausted. A person is not very sad, he is morose etc. There are many synonyms for "very".

    • @EmmaAnimalWelfare
      @EmmaAnimalWelfare Před 2 lety +7

      @@swedish_granny3153 yes!!! Love it 🤩 exactly this, such a brilliant film.

    • @pdx_fashionista
      @pdx_fashionista Před 2 lety +6

      Excellently put. English is my second language and sometimes the right word doesn’t come to mind. Also subscribing to “Word of the Day” things and reading a lot helps as well with vocabulary and proficiency.

    • @mariam3507
      @mariam3507 Před 2 lety +14

      Agreed! Instead of “it is very important” you can say “it is imperative”. I love Anna but terribly isn’t the best substitute for very.

  • @timewilltell5476
    @timewilltell5476 Před 2 lety +181

    When you excuse yourself from the table or whatever scenario you're in, there is absolutely no need to tell anyone what you intend to "do" unless you are leaving or going outside, perhaps to retrieve something from your car, ie sweater, etc. That is important for personal safety reasons especially today in the current chaotic environment. It is polite though to say something such as " Excuse me, I will be back in a few minutes" or the like. People know what you are leaving the table for.

  • @a4dd4a
    @a4dd4a Před 2 lety +234

    In my previous marriage and then as a high school teacher, I had to downgrade my language as I got made fun of and called snooty. Thank you for helping me regain that class and recognize that I don't need to lower to that level.

    • @SurrealisticSlumbers
      @SurrealisticSlumbers Před 2 lety +3

      I also find I need to do this...

    • @AstarteElviraLyana
      @AstarteElviraLyana Před 2 lety +20

      I did this for high school, my relationship and uni. I now dislike the way I speak, even though I put so much effort in to reducing my used vocabulary and changing my intonation. My previous father in law would also constantly tell me I was making him uncomfortable by sitting upright so now I slouch as well. Here's hoping we can retrain ourselves to be who we were before we limited ourselves for others' comfort.

    • @clairebeane3455
      @clairebeane3455 Před 2 lety +7

      I also had to do this at one point in my life, but finally determined that I simply didn’t care if I sounded snooty. 😆

    • @kiranjitKaur61
      @kiranjitKaur61 Před rokem

      @@barbarabrown9269 No. Class doth make a person stand out. And appear to be Attractive. Rather.

    • @kiranjitKaur61
      @kiranjitKaur61 Před rokem +1

      @@barbarabrown9269 Others may be simply jealous. And feel threatened. By an elegant person with some Class and some style. About herself. It be a very good thing.

  • @SamaraMorgan1970
    @SamaraMorgan1970 Před 2 lety +304

    I'm in 5th year of my linguistics degree, so I pay a lot of attention to speech, and this video highlighted a lot of things I've noticed in people's speech, but could never quite put into words

    • @imahighvaluewoman4424
      @imahighvaluewoman4424 Před 2 lety +4

      Could you teach me I’m trying to improve on my speech and grammar

    • @SamaraMorgan1970
      @SamaraMorgan1970 Před 2 lety +11

      @@imahighvaluewoman4424 what we do in linguistics is not language teaching, we study grammar on a very abstract level, how language is processed in the brain etc. I think you would be better off with a language coach like Anna mentioned :)

    • @imahighvaluewoman4424
      @imahighvaluewoman4424 Před 2 lety +1

      @@SamaraMorgan1970 thanks

    • @patrickmckinley9937
      @patrickmckinley9937 Před 2 lety

      Hi 👋 Tinchen, can I please ask you a question?

    • @SamaraMorgan1970
      @SamaraMorgan1970 Před 2 lety

      @@patrickmckinley9937 sure, what's your question?

  • @sweetyetunrefined9335
    @sweetyetunrefined9335 Před 2 lety +114

    There's a famous author (I think Mark Twain) who said when writing, replace the word "very" with "damn" to show how unnecessary it is. This advice has reduced the word from my vocabulary in general, haha

    • @annebrower3241
      @annebrower3241 Před 2 lety +7

      Yet another reason to read anything by Mark Twain!

  • @lexxiebodine1788
    @lexxiebodine1788 Před 2 lety +22

    Anna: " Hello, ladies."
    Me: "HEY, YALL!"
    😭😭😭🤭

    • @rosymaze
      @rosymaze Před 2 lety +2

      Me too sis💁‍♀️😂

  • @CPT_B
    @CPT_B Před 2 lety +214

    Glowing up applies to all aspects of your life, not just in improving your looks. It means tailoring your friendship circle, your work skillset, your romantic relationship, and your vocabulary. It all adds up to a positive mindset!

  • @veniesebrennan9336
    @veniesebrennan9336 Před 2 lety +65

    I am a maturing woman who lives in the Caribbean and I really use these sessions to incrementally level up! Thanks Anna.

  • @sarahroberts7374
    @sarahroberts7374 Před 2 lety +98

    Agree on the "may i" over "can i" as the latter is technically more literal as in yes you "can" have a glass of water but doesnt mean anyone is going to pass it to you whereas "May I have a glass of water" is requesting someone to give it to you. I probably havent explained that very well but there is an important subtle difference.

    • @mjkasey20
      @mjkasey20 Před 2 lety +6

      You explained that perfectly :)

    • @GGGG1040
      @GGGG1040 Před 2 lety +3

      Totally agree and you explained very well

    • @fanni24
      @fanni24 Před 2 lety +4

      Exactly. Can is to express the ability to do something, like yes, if you stand up and pour yourself a glass of water, you can drink it. May is asking for something that requires the action of another person.

    • @markjohnsalazar1412
      @markjohnsalazar1412 Před 2 lety

      Wow

  • @anastasiya8314
    @anastasiya8314 Před 2 lety +100

    One time a homeless half naked junky woman was hiding in the bushes by my car (California) and I went out to the car to grab my baby stroller from the trunk. This woman asks me “excuse me, you’re not terribly busy are you?”
    I was so surprised at her proper speech. I was actually busy and told her so but it certainly left an impression on me that despite her circumstances and appearance she spoke in that way.

    • @seattlegirl2077
      @seattlegirl2077 Před 2 lety +35

      Must have once come from a different station in life.

    • @estherbolekia
      @estherbolekia Před 2 lety +38

      The fact of their proper way of talking sometimes gives a clue of how they ended in that situation. I mean, some of them had a proper life, and they lost everything.

    • @martinasikk6162
      @martinasikk6162 Před 2 lety +19

      So sad. And you could do nothing for her but treating her with dignity and respect.

    • @DM-xj6se
      @DM-xj6se Před 2 lety +4

      Unfortunately, it's become more normal these days.

    • @seattlegirl2077
      @seattlegirl2077 Před 2 lety +2

      @@martinasikk6162 I like this reply.

  • @eshjane
    @eshjane Před 2 lety +41

    I went to Costco today and I got all dressed up. Thanks to you I’m starting to act like a elegant lady.

  • @angellawalker4948
    @angellawalker4948 Před 2 lety +39

    We have to be careful with how we use "terribly" it may come off negatively.

    • @hotjanuary
      @hotjanuary Před 2 lety +1

      She could have omitted “very” from the sentence altogether without finding a substitute. “The restaurant was full” is self explanatory enough. It’s not like restaurants accept customers overcapacity. It’s not a take out joint where you wait in line.

  • @iminfinite6751
    @iminfinite6751 Před 2 lety +126

    Dear Anna, I started a university career and a business thanks to your advice. I have a final exam in a few days, wish me success ❤️

  • @cesaraugustus9064
    @cesaraugustus9064 Před 2 lety +134

    I don't remember why I subscribed to your channel, but I am quite sure why I've stayed. This kind of coaching is missing from the education of our younger population. Although I am not a "lady,'" these tips are still quite useful for someone like myself. This video is timely and apropos. Thank you for what you do.

  • @annebrower3241
    @annebrower3241 Před 2 lety +14

    I attended university in Los Angeles. While the university itself is highly regarded and has furthered my career, I picked up terrible speech patterns there. Anyone who is familiar with a “valley accent” will know what I mean. Even now I have to be very intentional about how I speak to avoid starting a sentence with, “I’m like…” It’s an affliction!

  • @lon2336
    @lon2336 Před 2 lety +16

    "No abbreviations"
    *Australians have left the chat*
    🤣

    • @rosymaze
      @rosymaze Před 2 lety +4

      I’ve only been to Australia for a little while and when she mentioned that, you guys were the first thing I thought of😂 (in a nice way)

  • @AnnaBeyOfficial
    @AnnaBeyOfficial  Před 2 lety +84

    Thank you for watching! ❤️ Which classy words or phrases do you enjoy using? To learn more about things that show you have class, watch my next video 5 Things You Should NEVER Say To Rich People: czcams.com/video/su9r65J8dqs/video.html

    • @lazysusanlog
      @lazysusanlog Před 2 lety +4

      Panache
      Riviera
      Elan
      Elate
      Sublime

    • @inezamy9523
      @inezamy9523 Před 2 lety +3

      Hello
      May l
      Thankyou
      Please
      My apologies, we do apologize for any inconveniences

    • @inezamy9523
      @inezamy9523 Před 2 lety +3

      Shall we.

    • @LadyDr.
      @LadyDr. Před 2 lety +3

      I enjoy using “Hello” and “Excuse me” and “May I”. I will be incorporating “How ____”. Thank you for the informative video! ❤️

    • @GGGG1040
      @GGGG1040 Před 2 lety +2

      Thanks dear Anna

  • @missg8861
    @missg8861 Před 2 lety +551

    I just have to share something horrendous that I’ve been witnessing lately: I’ve noticed that, since people are being more open about their issues with IBS or lactose intolerance that they have started joking about it in vastly inappropriate ways. Even in regular society, this should be a no-no. For instance, I have a friend from college who will say “I can’t eat that-it makes my butt explode!” instead of simply “no thank you” to a food. They must think it’s meant to be funny and charming but no one is going to laugh-they will all just fall deadly silent be in incredible discomfort. I have my own struggles with politely explaining that I can’t eat many foods due to stomach issues, but I just can’t stomach the popularization of this gross joking, even in casual settings.

    • @sweetyetunrefined9335
      @sweetyetunrefined9335 Před 2 lety +63

      I don't like it either, especially at the dining table!! Even at home, my boyfriend and I use euphemisms unless we're asking for medical-type assistance.
      I think if you need to make a point because someone is invalidating your issue, it's fine to be a bit shocking and descriptive, but in regular conversation, I don't want to think about other's bathroom habits

    • @missg8861
      @missg8861 Před 2 lety +31

      @@auroras.2015 We’ve spoken about it! It’s not just them I see so it though-I’m uncomfortable with the trend as a whole. I love the normalization of these issues, but we can handle them in a way thats more polite. My friend was just meant to be an example!

    • @GiannaFiore
      @GiannaFiore Před 2 lety +26

      @@auroras.2015 I hear people talking openly about it also. It's not just her. This is a trend because T.V. commercials are normalizing it.

    • @donnabaardsen5372
      @donnabaardsen5372 Před 2 lety +43

      No one should explain anything about private matters to anyone. I simply say "No thank you." I'm not obligated to share anything with anyone.

    • @user-sg5tr6jt3y
      @user-sg5tr6jt3y Před 2 lety +29

      I also don’t get when you say no thank you to a good, get asked why, you say no thank you I have an intolerance. Then they ask what happens when I eat that?!

  • @whatwouldaudreyhepburndo4260

    I prefer to use the term ladies room 👍💕

  • @searchindex3438
    @searchindex3438 Před rokem +4

    Your English speech is beautiful regardless of not being a native speaker because you have a nice voice, mannerisms, and accent …you have elegant cadence

  • @Diana__Simion
    @Diana__Simion Před 2 lety +18

    I could hear you talk for HOURS. That’s how amazing you are!

  • @Anamillio
    @Anamillio Před 2 lety +36

    Love Anna Bey! She feels like a good friend who truly gives genuine advice without criticizing. She deserves all the success!

  • @janspell2516
    @janspell2516 Před 2 lety +28

    I use a LOT of slang. Never thought about it before… it does not sound elegant! Thanks for making me aware!!! ❤️

  • @josannedv2570
    @josannedv2570 Před 2 lety +110

    My friends and family have nicknamed me Miss English. But there is a difference between pronounciation and enunciation. Great video!

    • @seattlegirl2077
      @seattlegirl2077 Před 2 lety +13

      As long as you don't correct other people unless they ask for help. I think that is the key. The exception of course would be your own children.

    • @michelleconnor7669
      @michelleconnor7669 Před 2 lety +7

      Yes the word is actually pronunciation and not pronounciation……a terribly common mistake ha ha ……..xxx

    • @michelleconnor7669
      @michelleconnor7669 Před 2 lety +1

      @@seattlegirl2077 i agree …Yet i felt compelled to help this lady ,as would not want her to be challenged using the incorrect pronunciation of pronunciation! Its amazing how many people don’t realise xx

    • @seattlegirl2077
      @seattlegirl2077 Před 2 lety

      @@michelleconnor7669 I have struggled with this too. For awhile my son dated a young teacher out of just out of college who used " Me and Jon ..." I didn't know what to do. In the end I didn't correct her but I wonder if I did the right thing.

    • @michelleconnor7669
      @michelleconnor7669 Před 2 lety +1

      @@seattlegirl2077 I am no expert….but I definitely seem to be the person everyone asks when they are not sure!……The thing is, I’m sure most people want to say things the correct way …but we all think we are! Ha ha ……I also think my hormones are fuelling my rage when i see or hear things that are incorrect! Like Pacific instead of specific…….or proberly instead of probably! ………and nucular instead of nuclear….and now there are young people messing with all kinds of words! Some I like and some not…..But ultimately….live and let live …and let go! Ha ha …Thank you for being so gracious and understanding! ⭐️😎😇

  • @elisez478
    @elisez478 Před 2 lety +2

    Thanks for the upload, Anna! I always appreciate that you want to share with us what you know and what you are learning. You’ve told us before and many times that English is not your first language so don’t ever feel pressured to be perfect. Only a bully would put you down for that. We love you and support you and always appreciate you💜🌸💜🌸💜🌸

  • @monie3558
    @monie3558 Před 2 lety +90

    I’m also struggling with posture and speech. I’m VERY shy and trying to get over it, going to social events with affluent people and getting anxious makes the speech even worse.

    • @mamzellea5439
      @mamzellea5439 Před 2 lety +24

      You mean TERRIBLY shy

    • @cUser691
      @cUser691 Před 2 lety +3

      @@mamzellea5439 🤣

    • @lanaeni2194
      @lanaeni2194 Před 2 lety +5

      Same sis but we will get through this with confidence and belief

    • @misssincere5762
      @misssincere5762 Před 2 lety +7

      I have anxiety issues so, it’s hard for me because, I don’t like people staring at me.

    • @princess3808
      @princess3808 Před 2 lety +1

      @@mamzellea5439 🤭🤭🤭

  • @misodinamosa
    @misodinamosa Před 2 lety +4

    My mother let me go to Charm School when I was 13. It was incredibly useful my whole life! I love Anna Bey on CZcams! Thank you so much you’ve been really helpful in how I wish to present myself. I will be signing up on your website. I could listen to you all day!

  • @natashanicole67
    @natashanicole67 Před 2 lety +10

    Great video! In American english we also commonly use "restroom" instead of "lavatory" to refer to public bathrooms (such as in a restaurant, hotel, theater, etc.)

  • @oceanmoonbelle
    @oceanmoonbelle Před rokem +2

    My dad always said pardon and I think it sounds better personally. I say it mostly when I don’t understand or hear what someone said though.

  • @elsabevanrensburg2538
    @elsabevanrensburg2538 Před 2 lety +24

    As a non native English speaker, I am grateful for videos like this.

  • @sofie1724
    @sofie1724 Před 2 lety +50

    Thanks Anna, as a swedish person who spends quite some time speaking English this video gave me some good ideas about what words or phrases to change up a bit. Ive also heard before that instead of adding "very" to an adjective, learn more words that has stronger meanings. For example to say"very hot", instead saying scorching. That, however, requieres one to remember and learn words which takes more time than to simply change the "very". So thanks for another splendid video!

    • @seattlegirl2077
      @seattlegirl2077 Před 2 lety +4

      Yes or as I said above use incredibly or extremely or unusually if that is the case.

    • @lifewithedenrose2403
      @lifewithedenrose2403 Před 2 lety

      please do not use “rest room “ in uk we tend to say loo lav

  • @gloriamandala5336
    @gloriamandala5336 Před rokem +14

    This is not only self respect. This is respect and consideration for others. Something that our modern day culture is is lacking. Thank you Ana❤️

    • @faustinreeder1075
      @faustinreeder1075 Před 11 měsíci

      The USA has stage four cancer and is in a death spiral. And the reason is an overwhelming majority of the population are unsophisticated and have no honor or self respect.

  • @InHisSservice
    @InHisSservice Před 2 lety +2

    Anna, what is especially elegant to me about you is your character. Your manner of speaking and your whole purpose in your work is endearing and inspiriting.

  • @sihlempungose1578
    @sihlempungose1578 Před 2 lety +24

    Oohhh now that you have mentioned it, I have noticed that your speech and pronouncing have improved so well...I'm inspired how you always work on your self improvement.

  • @ronnielola6594
    @ronnielola6594 Před 2 lety +18

    Merci.. beaucoup, Anna... always I tell freinds... elegancy isn't only about physique or clothes... but it's a full package.... attitude...self discipline...🙏 respect.♥️

  • @graceyt.2683
    @graceyt.2683 Před 2 lety +11

    I’m 22 years old and still a uni student. I went out on a few dates well.. i wish it could happen more but I’m a med student so .. lol
    Anyway every guys that i went on a date with, they all said I’m different than a normal girls that they used to date. The way I dressed, I speak, showing my classy and intelligence. I can’t wait to come home and write a thank you comment to Anna. Thank you so much Anna. You have helped this young lady became a proper elegant lady

  • @hotjanuary
    @hotjanuary Před 2 lety +35

    You don’t always have to find a synonym for “very.” Most of the time, you can just delete that word from the sentence and the meaning stays the same. Consider: “The restaurant was full” vs “The restaurant was very full.” Did you *really* need that that extra word?

  • @MarCariB
    @MarCariB Před 2 lety +12

    That color suits u perfectly and those earrings 😍👏🏻 love u my dear elegant lady !

  • @accidentalturkish9385
    @accidentalturkish9385 Před 2 lety +13

    I only use the term 'ladies room' instead of lavatory, loo, bathroom or anything else - it always feels more elegant

  • @drironmom6815
    @drironmom6815 Před 2 lety +23

    Such helpful advice! Anna I grew up in “high society” but I enjoy your videos and find them right on target. I love how you are helping women who strive for a better life.
    I have one I’d like to add. I cringe when I hear someone use the word yacht. Rich people just call them boats. “Yatch” sounds pretentious, unless you are talking about the Yacht Club, then you have to say it. But at the yacht club, you will still find people talking about their boats. Either sailboat or just boat please, if there are no sails. Thank you Anna!

  • @Auset003
    @Auset003 Před 2 lety

    Im so happy I found this channel. I have already watched about 7 videos and am excited to make this apart of my new Sunday routine.
    I've always wanted to upgrade my life and improve myself as a person and didn't know where to start.
    Your channel is perfect.
    Thank you Anna!

  • @bellathereader1328
    @bellathereader1328 Před 2 lety +4

    Lol, I teach at the college level in the U.S. and I LOVE your tips. It is ridiculous how students communicate at times. In our department we always stress professionalism and have to correct the most basic errors and teach manners. And I'm not an English teacher but work with students in healthcare. Thank you for this important message!!

  • @marybrown8905
    @marybrown8905 Před 2 lety +5

    It’s nice to know my mother was right. She taught us manners, we thought it didn’t matter and had to use them at home anyway. It does change how people perceive you.

  • @elenayakymiv1018
    @elenayakymiv1018 Před 2 lety +9

    Absolutely love you dear Anna. Seeing you make me feel as if the life is really miraculous and full of beauty.

  • @kathryngillett9343
    @kathryngillett9343 Před 2 lety +2

    I love this video! For me, informing all who can hear that you are going to go to the toilet is awful. Anna's approach is so much more refined! And "Hey" is another word I prefer not to use as a greeting. It's too informal for most situations. When we level up with our speech, I honestly think that it changes the type of interactions we either enjoy or endure! Thank you Anna!! You have, once again, made a video that helps us to consider all aspects of the levelling up journey!

  • @MW-nr1ud
    @MW-nr1ud Před 2 lety +1

    Kära eleganta Anna, tack för en ypperligt bra video. Du kommer till din fördel i den vackra färgen på klänningen. 🌟

  • @yulyabarca7304
    @yulyabarca7304 Před 2 lety +5

    I love this! You are telling us to speak like a character from an old English novel ♥️ I adopted those words before this video. Thank you for your advice and I hope you make more videos about this!

  • @FernandaFerreira1712
    @FernandaFerreira1712 Před 2 lety +19

    When i was at school,my english teacher allways said: "i can but i may not" , to explain what is the mean of each other. Because if someone can, someone can also don´t want to do so.

    • @timewilltell5476
      @timewilltell5476 Před 2 lety

      @@emilybh6255 I am so glad you mentioned that. I was just about to pen a gentle correction. Thank you!

    • @Em_Elizabeth
      @Em_Elizabeth Před 2 lety +1

      Ability vs willingness

    • @mulliganstew72
      @mulliganstew72 Před 2 lety +1

      Exactly. When I was a waitress in Arizona after college they used to say “can I GIT a pop“. GIT (get). I was coming from New York and thought, sure you can get your own soda. New York gets a bad rap and I realize we have accents that don’t always sound refined, but there is a level of class and hospitality I don’t find in many other places. I was accustomed to saying May I please? Followed up with a thank you. Now I live in Seattle where people talk to each other with clucks and whistles, Rudest community I’ve ever encountered.

    • @My2Snoodles
      @My2Snoodles Před 2 lety +1

      @@mulliganstew72 ... What clucks and whistles??? .. Who do you associate with? ...........(Asking for someone from Seattle) :-(

  • @maysaraali5772
    @maysaraali5772 Před 2 lety +1

    Love your honesty💗You are getting closer and closer to my heart Anne.

  • @myingthungbeniodyuo1157
    @myingthungbeniodyuo1157 Před 2 lety +2

    Hi Anna, I really enjoy your uploads and you have so much to offer. Your videos are always of extreme help to me especially when I am dealing with students from different class and standards. I am a public speaking expert and a creative writing coach dealing with students from the Middle East regions .As the one teaching,the students always focus on what I wear, how I move and my choice of vocabularies and I find lots of help from your videos. Thank you so much.
    Stay safe and continue inspiring.
    Lot's of love 💕

  • @scar78217
    @scar78217 Před 2 lety +5

    My dear Anna, thank you for addressing this topic. Aside from the personal benefits that come with better use of one's language skills, better communication skills improve life within a society overall. Communicating more effectively increases personal satisfaction and reduces disappointment in several ways. It is worth remembering also that the same words in the same language can have different meanings depending upon where you are. Here in south Texas, for example, I prefer saying "men's room" or "ladies room" as lavatory would sound slightly pretentious, while bathroom and restroom sound childish. Also, "excuse me" is much more common than "pardon me". Therefore, if I am verbally interrupting, I typically use excuse me but if i am physically impeding someone, I use pardon me. Too many Americans were taught to say excuse me all their lives without understanding what that phrase actually means, making it sound forced or insincere. By using a different phrase for when you are physically getting out of someone's way, one shows a better understanding of the difference and a higher command of one's vocabulary. I also use "certainly" or "my pleasure", instead of just yes or okay, quite often. This also indicates sincerity and adds some warmth that yes and okay lack. Keep up the good work!

  • @fstarr9923
    @fstarr9923 Před 2 lety +5

    As always, excellent reminders. Thank you ❤️

  • @stardust2270
    @stardust2270 Před 2 lety +2

    I recently found your channel and viewed many of your videos , your videos have helped me discover the reason of me being different from most of the girls around me . Finally I have realised i m a very elegant girl by birth , earlier i used to think I have some issues or may be i m very sensitive but now I have realised i m an elegant person. Thank you 😇

  • @aprilpure
    @aprilpure Před 2 lety +3

    Dear Anna, I truly enjoy your videos and am very appreciative of all I have learned from you. I wish would have known someone like you when I was a young woman but at 61 years-old, I'm still interested in elevating my presentation and becoming my best self. Thank you for all you do.

  • @MrsMrtW
    @MrsMrtW Před 2 lety +5

    Dear Anna, thank you very much for another extremely helpful and valuable video! Thanks you I am currently working on changing my habits and I really love this journey. All the best for you!

  • @modgishaofficial
    @modgishaofficial Před 2 lety +5

    I do agree, I usually speak in a very formal way to people I don't know, or that I just meet, it takes time for me to adress them in a more casual way

  • @MaggietheSubstituteTeacher
    @MaggietheSubstituteTeacher Před 2 lety +16

    Thanks again Anna for keeping us covered from head to toe, inside & out!

  • @bruschetta3089
    @bruschetta3089 Před 2 lety +5

    Oh my GOD! This dress looks stunning on you! The colour and the shape 😍

  • @marianini.59
    @marianini.59 Před 2 lety +3

    I loved this! My background is linguistics and translation, these tips apply to everyone who want to upgrade their English. Thanks Anna! Nice video.

  • @Kristen71
    @Kristen71 Před 2 lety +10

    How informative! This session was quite lovely and entertaining! May I request more episodes such as this? Well, excuse me, it’s getting terribly late and I’m off to get some beauty sleep! Many thanks to Anna and all of my elegant friends. 😘

  • @kelly.nicole
    @kelly.nicole Před rokem +2

    I love this page. You kicked off my journey of being an elegant woman

  • @moca1296
    @moca1296 Před 2 lety

    thank you for being so gracious and sharing what you have learned.

  • @carissaluttonmovietalk
    @carissaluttonmovietalk Před 2 lety +9

    I'm an Australian Anna, we abbreviate absolutely everything, lol.

  • @charityhall145
    @charityhall145 Před 2 lety +3

    My son seems to have a natural inclination to etiquette at 7, and gives me the raised eye when I ask if he needs to use the potty (bad habit left over from potty training!). Instead he says, “Mom, it’s better to say, ‘Do you need to use the facilities before we leave?’” Love your videos, like so many things my mom taught me and I admired from others…sadly I get raised eyebrows and rolled eyes when I use polite language from the area of the US that I live in now. Grew up in the UK, and polite manners and speech, for the most part, were taught to all children by their parents. I moved to the States and I rarely hear even a please or thank-you from adults and, sadly, never from kids. Manners and etiquette never go out of fashion, they always communicate that you highly respect other people and yourself!

  • @amandamagalhaes6473
    @amandamagalhaes6473 Před 2 lety +2

    How wonderful, I appreciate this video. It was just what I needed. Thank you Ana !

  • @lizaldam2157
    @lizaldam2157 Před rokem

    Anna, you certainly are an expert at sharing things you have learnt. And, as someone told me years ago, there´s no higher thing than sharing knowledge. Thank you for your videos, they are a great help.

  • @raeannaroylance5401
    @raeannaroylance5401 Před 2 lety +7

    When I speak in my second language, I sound like a four-year-old!
    I’m always so impressed with those who speak beautifully in languages not native to them.

    • @fanni24
      @fanni24 Před 2 lety +4

      A tip that helped me improve my 2nd and 3rd languages was watching the tv, films, series in that language all the time. It helped a lot with my pronunciation, plus I turned the subtitles on and it was a great way to learn the way words were correctly written as well because I've heard that it's common for non-native speakers to have issues with grammar and writing if they've learnt mostly by listening and speaking.

    • @a.b.2405
      @a.b.2405 Před 2 lety +1

      @@fanni24 I need to do that!

  • @amkinspiration9676
    @amkinspiration9676 Před 2 lety +46

    I would love to have see a video on how to dress elegantly for clubbing or a party ! This blue suits you incredibly well anna !

  • @maricarcheninpelare922
    @maricarcheninpelare922 Před 2 lety +2

    I appreciate this video of you, it is really informative. I admire it when people know how to use adverbs correctly, it makes their speech much more refined. I am a little bit conflicted between using "can I or may I" though because using "may I" excessively can make one seem inferior. I think Anna of all people would be the first to advocate that the goal is to be polite, never to be inferior. Thank you for this video!

  • @applesuzannepajarillo8460

    Wow! This is new and upgraded! Speech lessons! Thank you for sharing, Anna! ❤️ Always love your content.

  • @dijonvolner6024
    @dijonvolner6024 Před 2 lety +3

    Thank you Anna. I would love to see more videos on speech and elocution. 💝

  • @MiaHasDiggles
    @MiaHasDiggles Před 2 lety +6

    I think all of us struggle with posture and speech. Thank you for this vid ❤️🤗

  • @meli1368
    @meli1368 Před 2 lety +2

    Nailed it as always, thank you for your honesty💗

  • @womenwhodate7643
    @womenwhodate7643 Před 2 lety +1

    These videos are so empowering and inspirational, you are truly a good example that you can improve your personality, looks and life. What a great upload ❤️

  • @_karishma_sony4853
    @_karishma_sony4853 Před 2 lety +5

    I'm already using some of these words , and you approved them ❤️

  • @simply_Aaisha
    @simply_Aaisha Před 2 lety +3

    I love you Anna the way you carry yourself with such grace and would love to know styling tips from you in addition would you please make a video on elegant jewelery because the jewelery you wear is quite minimalistic ❤

  • @goodvibes4062
    @goodvibes4062 Před 2 lety +2

    I Love the way u clearify all elegant mistakes and all information which are very helpful for us .. Thank you ❤️

  • @pixie3760
    @pixie3760 Před 2 lety +1

    Dear Anna, I think you do marvellously well with your speech.

  • @thetruth4373
    @thetruth4373 Před 2 lety +18

    I have a suggestion for you. Hope you'll consider it.
    Could you do a video on how to confess your love or make a man understand that you have feeling for him in an elegant manner...
    💐 By the way, Thank you for everything you teach us.

    • @adelaxhemalaj6102
      @adelaxhemalaj6102 Před 2 lety +1

      Yess!!

    • @jlina
      @jlina Před 2 lety +2

      You don't! You absolutely must wait for him to tell you that! Sorry.

  • @akiyoshidai
    @akiyoshidai Před 2 lety +30

    If you want to improve your speech in English (especially those British accent learners) , I often watch the channel English with Lucy: her lessons are easy, fun and she is always thriving to provide the words to make learners sound more educated and eloquent.
    I would say it's even useful to native speakers.
    I speak five languages so I'm always struggling to improve my vocabulary and to find new tools so if anyone can recommend the same but for French and German, it would be much appreciated. :)

  • @deniserobinson5619
    @deniserobinson5619 Před 2 lety +2

    Thank you Anna! This video was extremely helpful. You are the best. 💕

  • @lilianamuste7459
    @lilianamuste7459 Před 2 lety +1

    English is not my first language either, so I learned a lot from my partner who is a teacher in college. Good to know I have such a well-spoken man by my side, since most of these tips I have subconsciously picked up from our conversations! As always- a great and insightful video, Anna!

  • @isagoldenjewels
    @isagoldenjewels Před 2 lety +4

    This outfit and colour suit you so well 💙

  • @gemmac629
    @gemmac629 Před 2 lety +17

    I'm in the UK and when ordering drinks/food we'd say 'can I have a negroni please' or 'the salmon for me please'.
    I saw an American TV show where they ordered drinks with 'I'm gonna do a negroni' or 'I'm gonna do prosecco'. It sounded very weird!

    • @emiliabolsas
      @emiliabolsas Před 2 lety +4

      “May I…”

    • @timewilltell5476
      @timewilltell5476 Před 2 lety +1

      @@auhbreykumming4429 Many of my girlfriends often say to me "let's do lunch next week" or some other activity and time; we are all professionals and I see nothing wrong with that question. Mind you, it demonstrates a closer than average friendship. To each their own.

    • @Magpieme98
      @Magpieme98 Před 2 lety +4

      Or “Gimme the steak.” Drives me insane!!

    • @lizcademy4809
      @lizcademy4809 Před 2 lety +6

      One I'm starting to hear is "Imma the steak" when they mean "I'm going to have the steak."
      "Gonna" is poor grammar in all circumstances.
      Much better, and perfectly American, is "I'd like a Negroni, please." Or "May I have a glass of Proseco?" And follow with a "Thank you" when it is brought.

    • @mulliganstew72
      @mulliganstew72 Před 2 lety +2

      E Dennis no! Not New York City. I just commented about this in a different thread coming from New York waitressing in Arizona in college they said “can I GIT a pop”, I would think yeah sure go get your own “pop”. In New York people would say “May I please have a ____”. “Thank you”. Just because we have accents does not mean we do not have class in fact quite the opposite.

  • @Noelle762
    @Noelle762 Před 2 lety

    Dear Anna, I think that your lessons are very helpful to make the girls/ ladies realise how good they are and what they need to improve their reputation and confidence in anywhere they are. Thank you so much.

  • @ACurlyLlama
    @ACurlyLlama Před 2 lety +1

    Anna, you're awesome. Coming from a small town in the deep south of the States, this is a way of life that is quite foreign to the area I live in. You have helped me sooo much to establish professionalism and grace 💚

    • @rosymaze
      @rosymaze Před 2 lety

      Hi, from the Smokey’s. Us southern belles gotta keep up our rep, lol💙

  • @rileyscott5827
    @rileyscott5827 Před 2 lety +187

    Lavatory and "terribly" are not commonly used. Instead, of lavatory, say "Excuse me, while I use the restroom." Also, with respect to speech, it's a good idea to actively expand your vocabulary by reading books, for example. That way you don't use one term too often or inappropriately. I once heard myself saying 'that's awesome" in a formal setting. It was cringeworthy and I was mortified. Also, some people are used to swearing or using derogatory language in their day to day life. Naturally, in a formal setting, that type of language may slip out. So, it is better to eliminate that type of vocabulary all together.

    • @longtimelo
      @longtimelo Před 2 lety +35

      Agree. Lavatory sounds like something students in a boarding school would say, not adults. I think, "excuse me, where is the ladies room?" is more appropriate.

    • @funnygaming2672
      @funnygaming2672 Před 2 lety +4

      it depend may not come of has elegant but if you do it once or twice (has a joke) you may get perceive has bold and fun which is not bad either but you must know the person before because it is risky ...

    • @diorme7510
      @diorme7510 Před 2 lety +10

      Powder Room is terribly nice to use.

    • @grace24368
      @grace24368 Před 2 lety +8

      I agree. "Lavatory" isn't really commonly used. But "terribly" is quite common here in the UK. But with any informational/self-help media out there, take it with a grain of salt and adapt it to your current situation, although it seems you already have :)

    • @rosymaze
      @rosymaze Před 2 lety +1

      I would add “quite” too.

  • @Elizabeth_lowkeyluxuries
    @Elizabeth_lowkeyluxuries Před 2 lety +1

    I've been enjoying your videos. I find that my speech has become more casual over time and that is something I also need to work on.
    "A glass of bubbly" reminds me of old Hollywood movies with women in pin curls and silk robes that I used to watch with my mother. 😊
    I rarely use the word terribly unless it is something actually terrible. I prefer the word "quite full" or "rather full". That is just a preference on my end.
    Thank you for sharing! 😊

  • @Cococonutt
    @Cococonutt Před 2 lety +2

    I’m so grateful for finding your channel Anna ❤️

  • @lindaspiess3545
    @lindaspiess3545 Před 2 lety +5

    Rather is so cold compared to really. It was a rather lovely time. It sounds like you didn't have any fun. It was a really lovely time. You enjoyed yourself!

    • @bellebb8673
      @bellebb8673 Před 2 lety +1

      I think in England "rather" is frequently used as a normal part of speech, but in the US would be heard as somewhat pretentious.

    • @lindaspiess3545
      @lindaspiess3545 Před 2 lety +1

      @@bellebb8673I am thinking we do not use rather in the same way in the US. It has a different meaning. Rather than being warm, it was cold. It was rather cold. Rather than being dull, the party was actually lively. It was rather fun. Interesting to think about it. As a hostess, how would I feel if my guest said my table setting was rather elegant? Hmmm. I would feel she was surprised. She was rather surprised I knew how to do it.