ANSWERING ALL YOUR QUESTIONS | Q&A WITH PETER
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Your idea of having them pick out a plant and their bedding and talk to you about their food shows so much intelligence and insight into the human experience. You are very humble person but extremely extremely intelligent.
I am a single mom and I have given a young woman a home, she have so many trauma but we are doing really well, don't be afraid of trauma, give them love, thats what they need.
absolutely. love that for sure
As a Retired Sexual Assault Counselor we helped every race, creed, age, male or female. When you get a call to assist it doesn’t matter who, they just need help! Using your skills to help humans especially when you can relate as a prior survivor is how many of us heal as well.
thank you for what you do, I get that question a lot. I signed up to help every child in desperate need
I am a foster parent too. I also have 3 Bio children. You are doing a great job Peter!!! God bless you and your family. Those kids are so blessed to have you ❤️
thank you for you kind words
You are so understanding of your kids, Peter, because your life was also tough. It also helps that you and Anthony are big “kids” who love to have fun too! You are doing God’s work. Love from Canada ❤️🇨🇦
I'm very happy to know that you keep in touch with your older children. Having been raised in foster homes I always got put in terrible care. I have adopted a couple children and fostered several. I appreciate 🙏all you do.
you are awesome
Thank you 😊
Peter, I pray for you all the time. You are doing such a good job raising your children. You can see the love you have for them and they for you. You are teaching them valuable life lessons. God bless you 🙏🏽
You are precious with your girls. For them to have a loving and tender father for however long they can have you will impact their lives forever.
I really enjoyed this Peter❤ Your strength and grace is contagious.
My boys who came to me through the foster care system have taught me MUCH more than I think I could have learned if I would have been given the biological children that I longed for. I'm so thankful God knows our hearts so intimately and what we need.
Wow, the world is small. It was awesome learning more about you, Peter, as you shared at Midtown today. I excitedly told my family that I knew you, lol, well, to be more exact, I have been following you for a few years. Yes, indeed, you are chosen and a great example for others to follow!
Your an awesome dad Peter ❤ really thoughtful and kind. Thank you for being a role model for others and an honest and loving advocate for kids!
Yep my dad was absent and always wished I had one that cared. Can you adopt me Peter 😂😂😂😂 I'm only 50 😂. Jk you're doing a great job being there for them.
The people's that ask are new Subscribers. You told your Story many time your life in Africa. You are a good girl dad .
thank you
What a beautiful soul you are ❤ May Gid bless all your ways
I'm single. Former child abuse investigator, juvenile prison case manager, foster care licensing counselor. I live in Raleigh. Granted, I don't sleep well, so I'd need my own room... however, I do make a nice living, so we can just buy a bigger house! I say we just relocate to Wilmington. 😆
In my opinion ; the love of a parent transends gender. If you ask most parents their first concern is often for a child of their own gender. After all we know how to take care of ourselves.. A mature, adjusted individual understands that another human being is in need. We soon realize, as parents, that children are children, they will define themselves,male and female. I respect that you have taken on siblings to keep them together, There are so many reasons this is vital. Thanks for doing all you do sir.
You really are an amazing Dad Peter x
thank you
You are not only an amazing man, you are just simply an amazing human being. I love watching your clips and videos. My parents fostered and adopted. I love ALL my siblings. All of them, no matter where they came from.❤
Kids don’t see colour, that is a learned thing. You are a great man and Dad, would like to meet you!
You are such a beautiful soul Peter. I love everything about you and the way you raise and love your babies.
Even children who have both parents, married… get trauma. Most folks don’t survive childhood without some painful lessons… or battle scars at least mentally if not physically. The key is learning how to discern who is truly helpful and effective in wanting the best for you - who is not willing to accept any less? Once you learn to identify those people, you can feel their love and learn to return it or pay that support forward.
Love the idea of fosters simply extending the family and leaning on extensions when we need them because it takes a village.
absolutely, well said
Peter You Have A Beautiful Spirit, A Great Caring Heart. GOD Bless You And Your Children ☺️❤❤❤❤❤❤
Peter, you really are amazing how kind, understanding and loving you are to the children you foster. Your doing a great job! Your a blessing to your children.
Every foster parent should have to watch this video. You should do classes at foster agencies around the country. No one explained why we couldn't cut hair when we fostered, they just said we couldn't. Also, most foster parents think they can love trauma away but there is much more to it. Your background has really prepared you for this. Thank you for helping these kids.
You are doing a great job Peter! I applaud you! God bless you and always provide for you and your little ones.
What a great Q&A!!! I really respect your views on fostering and on valuing children. My husband and I fostered and adopted our (now 12 year old) daughter 7 years ago, then fostered her newborn sister 2 years ago for a few months. Prior to fostering we were told by so many people not to give the foster child our whole heart because it will be broken if they leave. That is SUCH boloney!!!! I am an adult and I can heal, they are children who have been through SO much, they need our whole heart!! Thank you for sharing what fostering is really all about. ❤
That's so very true!
I am so glad I stayed to watch. I got to know you. You do a great job Peter. Humanity is very blessed to have you.
Peter, your story and postings warm my heart and give me hope. I'm a birth and adoptive mom, have hosted teens in transition and I'm a teacher so I am aware how many children are in need. Bless your efforts and wish you and your flexing family all the best!
You are one amazing guy! God bless you and your family through all the highs and lows!
You give Foster Parenting a good name and inspiring others to become a Foster Parent.
More Blessings to you and your children, Peter ❤
Peter you are a fantastic person watching your vlogs from Australia those foster children have a wonderful life with you .
Peter thank you so much for enlightening me on foster parenting.
Thanks for the honest video - I am impressed with how you foster.
I love your videos! I was put with a family at 17 and was there until I was 20 and moved out. It was really difficult for me to go through and I haven’t spoken to my biological parents for 11 years now. Fostering is incredible and it’s something I would like to do some day when I’m more financially stable ❤
You are an amazing foster dad. You are a very informative, positive, loving role model for everyone.😊
You make my heart warm Peter. Blessings to you and your family 🌿🤍🇳🇿
Please don't take this as a Debbie downer comment, as a child who had foster siblings, I truly wish that there was counseling to help me learn to deal with separation anxiety. As an adult, I totally understand and support what my parents did, however as a child it was hard to have people I loved leave
Oh gosh-that would be difficult!
Peter, it seems that you, like Esther from the Bible, were born “for such a time as this.” You’ve heard God’s call for your life and you are joyfully obeying. I thank God for you! Well done, good and faithful servant (if I may say so).
Peter I love you so much for the person you are and what you are doing for these children,I would love to be a foster mum one day I have a very strong passion for children regardless of race or age.
That's the key Peter...you're content🎉 Love how you parent...👏
In NC it's mandatory for children to be enrolled in school and preschool for foster children so there is a check and balance.
I really enjoyed this Q&A session.😊
Great video! I enjoyed hear the questions and answers. You are doing such a great job as a foster dad and an adoptive dad.
Because my foster dad and he did not even plan on fostering me was a rabbi a Jewish man Who gived up being a rabbi to take care of me His father was very upset He gave Running a synagogue To look after me His life changed and my life changed So I have to thank Charlie Rosenthal For loving me And given me the future and the opportunity to grow So sometimes religion is another thing Sometimes the color is not the thing But as long as long as you get love And safety And security Stability The child is happy And he was a single dad And I was going to Going to school And I joined an after school program that is how I met him And he said I can come and live with him If I don't feel safe in the group home group home So it doesn't matter race or religion Love is love
Thanks for sharing Peter
You are a beautiful soul Peter. ❤️
Thanks for sharing!!!!❤
You are an angel! Thank You 😘💕
It's a hard journey but worth it
God bless you and your family.
thank you
Loved this Q&A
You are an awesome dad
Peter, I always enjoy listening to your ? answer videos. May God be w you & those precious children.
do the kids get attached to you though ..especially the two young ones right now ..how the child deals with emotional bond..i like especially the positive energy about you
Is there parenting training for foster kids?
I’m in a parenting class now to become a better parent to my own children. It’s good to get fresh perspectives or review the basics when we need them.
Yes, most agencies to training in trauma
Great answer ❤❤❤
You sound very educated and have a great outlook on it all. Thanks for sharing your knowledge!
I can only imagine how hard it is for the children, especially the small ones, to leave you when the time comes…they have bonded with you so it must be difficult for them…..😞. The smaller ones may not understand so is there counseling for them after they leave?
Awesome. Awesome. Awesome.
Bravo🎉❤❤❤
Awesome video 😊
thanks
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thank you.
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You are a fantastic foster father, I would like to know why your kids wear sunglasses on every video😊
It's to help conceal their identity. Peter talks about it in the very beg. of this video.
@@divahc1 Thank you, I’m becoming more and more educated in this area.
@Barbara Lockett You're very welcome.
Hi Peter, I’m curious about who looks after your kids when you are away from home.
Cheers from Australia 🇦🇺❤️
Skin color is the most IRRELEVANT thing ever 😑
Not one person on this planet can pick the color of skin they are born into..
ALL children need a structured and loving home, so I really don’t understand how someone can actually ask why you would foster a white child? 🤦🏼♀️ it’s so terribly sad that children are taught to hate and to be judgmental 😢
thank you, its always part of the learning the foster care system
I think you mean it should be irrelevant, but unfortunately it's not. And just because this person asked the question doesn't mean they are hateful and judgmental- he didn't show the actual questions anyway. Perhaps people are surprised that he has not fostered any black children during the time he has been vlogging because surely there are some in the foster care system there in North Carolina, plus from what I've read, there is a lack of black foster parents and many black kids are fostered by white parents- not that there's an issue with that, but it might be nice for some kids to be fostered by a black family. He really hasn't shown that many kids on camera, though. And perhaps they are not familiar with the foster care system, like maybe they think you choose your kids (my aunt and uncle did technically choose a child from a list of profiles of kids to adopt).
@@kellypat125 Well Said. I would like to see him have more children of all different races. He a great role model. You can tell he takes
Good care of the children
@@kellypat125 I actually meant what I said, skin color is irrelevant. And asking someone why you would foster kids of a certain skin color is dumb, i don’t care who you are, wether it’s meant in a bad way or not, there’s no other way to take it other than a bad way 🤦🏼♀️
all children need a loving home..
Hello not a foster a parent here but one day plan to be. My question is does it confuse the kids to call you dad either during your care or after they leave?
yes it can be especially when they go back home and then get to visit you. They always still call me dad unless they are teens
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Do you ever run into their parents/family while out in public with the kids? How do you handle that?
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I havea question for the next time you have one of these. How do you handle discipline when it meeds to happen?
And for black people Just because you black does not mean you have to discriminate for children children are the Just because you black does not mean you have to discriminate for children children are the innocence and if he's black and he's taking white kids so be it and if he's white and he's taking black kids so be it instead of criticizing support them
Do you ever get like really stressed,if so,how do you deal with it?
yes not often, taking time for my self helps, exercises and check in with friends
My crush 😊
if kids want to talk to or visit their bioparents, are they ever allowed to do this?
How is Zay doing? Do you hear from him?
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Where’s Zay?😊
❤Hi Family, is there a reason your kids wear sunglasses on every video?
Barbara Lockett it's to protect the children's privacy. Foster parents are not allowed to post anything that can give away the children's identity.
yup, its against the rules to post pictures of a foster child's face so that's why he has to cover their face with sunglasses.
@@charlettefalk1 thank you
@@LuxsRainbow thank you so much for that information, i did not know that.
@@charlettefalk1 Thank you Charlotte for the information, I wasn’t aware of that.
Do they get to visit their biological parents?Do they sometimes refuse to be reunited with their Parents? Anellie.
yes most kids get to visit their bio for a hour or two every week or other week. Yes kids can refuse to go back home but have no choice since they are kids until you are a teens then you can stay
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How do you keep them from running away when they are angry?
You seem to have a Christian home. Have you taken in foster kids with other religions? If so, how do you honor their beliefs?
Usually the children are best matched with foster carers. I'm sure that Peter would be respectful of peoples right to believe what they want to. However, these children are coming into his family environment and those placing children will take religious beliefs into account.
Yes I have or kids who don't like church at all, some kids experience abuse in the church os it would trigger them going back. for me if teens don't want to go I will never force but rather let it be there choice.
The Crazy Middles channel- a family that has fostered many kids in Arizona- said once they never had any who practiced a religion. Many had never been to church (or another religious place).
@@kellypat125 they also exploit their children's stories sooo...
He answered this in the video😊
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Can't u meet potential wife at church, after school activities, work?
You your protice themself from ss mead So there family and frieands dont see this kids to there safety
💢Hi Peter! I've been wanting to tell you something for weeks! A few weeks ago, I woke up in the night and for some reason you vcame to my mind quite clearly. I'd been angry at your father the previous evening, so I believe the Lord wanted me to see something and also, to share it with you.i saw it very clearly.
The Lord showed me that from the time almost, of your birth, your father was jealous of you! Unseemly and insane as this is, it is the case of another brother in Christ whom I know too, who suffered physical, verbal and emotional abuse like you (though I don't think the physical abuse was quite so bad, but bad.)
Your father saw the great love your Mom felt as she held you to her breast, smiling at you and just loving on you. You were quite special and it showed; your dad hated you for the bond that he perceived she and you had; which bond, he knew he could never share.) Rather than tell himself, "Hey, he's *my* son too!" And try and overcome his hatred and jealousy; being a drinker, he just let it mount up. Every day he saw you, filled him with rage; demons had entered him, and he began to abuse you outwardly and within, in the latter case, by belittling you and trying to make you feel worthless and rejected. Long before you ran away, you were living with a literal devil who likely (as I've heard you say,) would have murdered you. Your father was swallowed up of the devil: he was literally a demon, and that demons" goal was to kill you, steal your joy, and inheritance in God, and leave you a destroyed wreck to roam earth *until* he could kill you.
But jealousy is how it began Peter. I saw it all so clearly, as I sat up in bed, in the night.
It wasn't any fault with YOU!
The exact opposite!
It was jealousy in extreme.
May the Lord continue to bless you brother.
This mat be true. We don't know if it was jealous or not. It could have just been. The dead was a psychopath a sociopath or still caught up in his drinking that he didn't care about his kids. Should he say his father drank, by the way? I don't recall
@@personincognito3989 Yes, I believe I heard
Peter say that his father did drink a lot.
Peter, you mentioned most of the kids you take in are white kids...do you find that "white" families have more family issues when it comes to dealing with kids, VS other nationalities, where they more or less take care of their own? I'm not part of the foster system, but its always seemed to me like other nationalities jump in and just take in someone else's kids if they're having problems, where it does seem like white families seem to just turn their backs...using the they're not my kids who cares mentality, rather than stepping up and just taking care of the kids until their parents are ready to take them back....I think it would be a much better solution, if a friend, relative, or neighbor could take the kids in until the parents get things straightened out, and leave the foster system for there are no other options type situations...what is your take on something like that?
You also mentioned that you had a Native American child at one point, would really be interesting to see some of the different cultural things these kids get to be involved in, if that is possible.
I always thought things have gotten so regulated that even if friends of the family were willing to take kids in, they still have to go through an approval process by the state or county? So they'd have to be placed somewhere else first? But relatives like grandparents seem to get to bypass this? Would love to know more about how that works. I've heard it called kinship care.
@@kellypat125 Its definitely a common practice, anyway the government can stick their noses where it don't belong and be able to profit from it they'll do it.
I think some non-white ethnic groups are more likely to live in multi-generational households with aunts, uncles, grandparents etc. Besides that, I would never make such a broad generalization, because it sounds extremely ignorant. The reality is that Peter lives in a very white area. It’s not that complicated.
To the original poster of this thread,This sounds like an attempt at cloaked racism to me
@@personincognito3989 Sounds more like you never listened to the question, nor the answer.