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Today I'm back with a new video on Things You Shouldn't Say or Do to a Visually Impaired/Blind Person.
This video is no intended to offend anyone, but there are a lot of misconceptions towards visual impairment and blindness that I really wanted to discuss.
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Over there...
Where?
Over there! Don't you see it? Is there!
No I don't see it.
Tara Wills OMG YES!
+Tara Wills Just tap it. I'll hear where it is.
Tara Wills Yes that drives me mad.
#11, NEVER grab my belongs, groceries, luggage, without my consent, not even if you know me. What would you think if someone just waltzed up and grabbed your brief case or your purse? You'd probably think you're being robbed. SO DO I! and I'm not likely to be very polite when I think I'm being robbed. If you get an adverse reaction, it's not because I'm too proud to let you carry my stuff. I DON'T TRUST YOU! and who would. You'd be amazed how often this happens. It's a boundary issue and people with disabilities routinely have those normal boundaries violated. No one likes that.The bottom line here is that you should never do to a blind person what you wouldn't do with a sighted person. It's all about simple respect.#13 DO NOT tell me how to manage my dog. Avoid saying things like, "Oh, don't correct him. He was just sniffing me." Well, what if he wants to "sniff you" in the middle of a busy street with a sem-I approaching? I simply can't let him do it. It's not fair to him. With dogs, it is either okay to do it all the time or not okay to do so any time when working. And for God's sake, don't let your dog play with mine. That absolutely puts me in danger.
Shelley Magnussen
Yeah on top of ( can you see this, I hate it when cited people say you shouldn't be doing this because of you Vision Impairements.
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It gave me chills down my spine when she said someone grabs a blind person by the arm.
Refusing access to someone who is blind that is illegal. I have always been bothered by that.
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I can so relate! I am visually impaired as well and I get these so much. You should do more of these
Aimee Ups & Downs
Yes
Emily got everyone of those completely right.
Omg all of these happen to me I’m visually impaired I have bilateral amblyopia and an astigmatism in both eyes
Hey Emily, I'm seeing this video right now and it's just true! As a visually impaired who experiences most of these things every day, it's amazing to see that there are other visually impaired people in the world like me who
experience the same things!
Neta
I've long since lost track of the number of times I've had to tell people "please don't grab me" when I go out in public. Or pull away, get startled, throw off my orientation, etc etc. It's multiple times a day, and so very tempting to shout "get your hands off of me" instead. But no, have to be nice to all the people assaulting me because they're just trying to help. Argh.
Rarer is if they grab my cane, which is just … how about I grab them by the eyeballs?
Sai I used to be polite about telling people not to grab me without my permission. Then I was injured by someone who grabbed me despite numerous warnings not to do so. Now, I’m a complete bitch when people grab me. I’m all about giving education about a poor decision from the school of hard knocks. Some lessons need to be learned the hard way.
Sai I’ve had people grab my long cane. I’m like erm now how can I use my cane with you holding it, drop the stick please.
My mum always says "It's over there"
She seems to forget that I'm visually impaired lol
Love the video by the way
mums are weird. She insists on showing me items in a jewellers shop even though I keep telling her that I have to be close up to see them. grrr.
Neah Brown my mom does that too
Neah Brown If my sister asks me to do something or get something and do it wrong or get the wrong thing she says no, no what for crying out loud. I have also been called stupid for collided with glass cabinets or fish tanks, erm well I can’t see glass, 2 meters blurred tunnel vision in my left eye nothing in my right eye which is now plastic but never had vision in my right eye.
Neah Brown my mum says the same.
Same
this is such an awesome video in many ways. I am visually impaired myself and can relate to just about everything you mentioned. I've never viewed my impairment as something that has held me back or devalued my quality of life, rather, I've acknowledged and used it as a tool of empowerment. Kepp up the amazing work.
Mum did it again. This time with a box of teabags, I asked where the teabags were this morning, she said in that cupboard over there. Where is over there honestly mum you’ve known me for 32 years.
Oh my goodness! I just stumbled on your channel and LOVE this video! My sweet baby girl has low vision and seeing an amazing woman like you doing this is so wonderful!!!
Hi Emily, I've just found your channel, it's great! We need to break down barriers and educate people to live together happily. I believe it's so important for all young children to see positive images of disability every day. My story, ' A Day at the Seaside' features Hattie and Lucy. This story includes lots of sounds, smells and tastes of the seaside because this is how Lucy experiences her day out. Lucy is blind, this isn't mentioned in the text so that she isn't defined by her disability. I will be following you now and look forward to your new videos. Best wishes, Lesley x.
Oh my days, so glad to have found you! I'm partially sighted due to Glaucoma and I've had several operations to try and lower the pressure in my eyes. After each operation at least one person has said to me 'so you can see now, right. Arrrrgh. I've also had the comment about getting glasses to fix my vision.
I used to work in an office in a heavily Latino area. The business two doors down from us was heavily used by Latinos and people would come into our office looking for that business. Instead of talking to them normally, the receptionist and a couple of other people (my boss for one) would shout at them! After explaining to the people that they were looking for the business two doors down, I often said to our staff "Just because they don't speak English, doesn't mean that they're deaf. Don't shout at them!" Kind of like speaking slowly to a blind person--LOL!!!
Yeah!! Right on! 👍🏻 . Thank you 🤗 I wish. CZcams would run vids of your built points instead of ads.
I am right with you on all of them.
Once, I was asked to leave my then guide dog outside a smallish convenience shop in London. And even after I had shown the store person the guide dogs issued card they still said he had to stay outside.
So they didn’t get my custom that night, or ever.
I also passed the stores details to Action for the blind, and guide dogs the next day.
Thank you for this video. I am constantly amazed at the universality of our frustration as visually impaired people. You created this video with such great humor, and the situations were all real, I have had the same situations come up over and over again.Great work. Thanks.
+William Elliott Thank you so much! :)
thank you for all your thoughts, working with a visually impaired person and I learned a lot from you- thanks
Thank you :)
Really good work. I can relate to most of your list. I have maybe 10% left in my left eye and zero in right eye and getting used to this new chapter in my life. Great help, thanks
Hello Fashioneyesta (smiley face) Thank you so much for posting this! Our daughter has Cerebral Visual Impairment, she is 15 and was only diagnosed last year. I recently attended a CVI conference and it was an eye opener for me (as a sighted person) despite observing my own daughter all these years and knowing things from my perspective, I am still learning about my 'daughter' and HER perspective! For instance, I thought her friends used to hide from her in the playground in school. She used to say she couldn't FIND them and I assumed that they were hiding.
It wasn't until I saw a case study by Dr. Gordon Dutton, where a young man had moved from one school, where he was relatively happy to another, where he appeared to have no friends, when asked why, he said he couldn't FIND his friends in the school yard! I hope you don't mind Fashioneyesta, but I've shared your post on Facebook, the more informed we sighted people are, the less likely we are to do stupid things! LIke grabbing or pushing someone! In my ignorance, I've done it myself with my own daughter! You will be pleased to hear I no longer do it! (smiley face) Huge thank you for enlightening me!
+MaiaB123 Thank you for the lovely comment! i'm so pleased this video helped you :) Hehe I wouldn't worry about that, my mum does some of the things I mentioned (like walking off and grabbing my arm) sometimes too and she's had 21 years to get used to it :)
Thank you so much for this vid! As a newly diagnosed VI person this vid helps friends and family to understand! hope the dissertation went well! I'm in my finals for law school at the min so I feel your pain x much love x
Thats fabulous! I'm so pleased and lols its funny because I'm not writing my second dissertation for my MA. Major Deja Vous at the moment. And oh thats great, I hope your finals are going well and I can imagine how much work they are xx Much love back xx
Thank you for saying number 10. It made me cry. And it made me feel good inside.
Another one captioned for you Emily, love this video. I've had the "over there" comment plenty of times when looking for things!
Thank you so much Glen! Lols I know right its that classic eye roll moment when you're like 'really?'
Fashioneyesta Don't worry it works the same for people with perfect vision too. When I ask for directions and I'm told over there my brain says over there where I just politely say thank you. I have near perfect eye sight but I'm very directionally impaired. Like when you ask for directions in the country as they say it's just around the corner. You drive for miles and miles and there is no corner. hehe
@Fashioneyesta I am a sighted person with a little visual impairment that requires me to wear glasses. I had to have surgery to reattach my retina but now my right eye I gotta get new glasses to read from it. I know a visually impaired person in my church and visually impaired that can't see or hear a thing. but visually impaired people are not stupid they are very smart I love your videos God bless you
All of the things you said are so true!!! I have experienced a LOT of them! I think the worst one is definitely when people talk to the person that's with you instead of you. That happens to me quite often and it's so annoying!! I try to explain to that person that even though i'm visually impaired i can still speak for myself but a lot of people just don't listen. Great video as always xxx
Thank you :) I'm glad that you can relate to what I said in the video, I honestly think people who speak to the person with you instead of you are afraid of disability and don't know what to say. Which is of course wrong and they shouldn't do it, but its all about getting them used to it. I think more work needs to be done on the medias part about showing disability to the public. Glad you liked my video :)
I'm legally blind , I have been this way 23 years .when I lost y sight I was devastated. I lost one eye and my tissue and tear ducts. My eyes stay so dry and hurt . People treat you like you are a dummy. Jesus kept me. Its not easy , But I'm thankful. For my husband of30years and our children for staying by me. for staying by me.
That was super hilarious!… I am blind… And listening to you describe some scenarios were totally off-the-wall and so funny!
+Agata Rosicki Thank you :) I'm glad you found them funny
Oh Emily you made me chuckle as every point you made rang true for me. Yesterday I was stopped on my walk home and given a long talk about a tiny hole in my leggings and what I should do and why. I often have this kind of scrutiny. I smile back and quietly seethe. I'm not STUPID lol. 🙋 X
Trinity videos Emily I can totally relate to what you have been through as a blind or visually impaired person I did the same thing done to me on a daily basis so I completely understand thank you so much for the videos to extremely love and like them so thank you keep them coming
I've had a person ask me if I needed help walking. They then proceeded to ask me if I knew which way was forward. And yes, I'm blind.
This is excellent, covering some items not included on the video I watched before (one of a series)
I love this so much, it really helps me understand and be more aware of how to act around someone who is visually impaired. I'm sorry that some people can be so insensitive and rude about it, we really are just so naive about these conditions and its hard for us to understand. what it is like.
The screen reader reads the letters to me
Thank you :) I'm glad my videos have helped you.
I totally agree with #6. "over there", WHERE???
Loved your video❣
I'm visually impaired with something called Achromatopsia. I am also a beauty vlogger on CZcams, and when my friend Rikki told me about you, I just about jumped for joy. I am so happy to have found you, and you have a new subscriber. :)
Thank you much for getting in touch and for subscribing to my channel! It's so nice to find a fellow youtuber coming from a similar perspective to my own :) I shall go and sub to your channel too xx
It also stuns me sometimes how people get SO amazed by blind people being able to use mainstream technology. I've known people who've become just stunned to find out that yes, I DO have an iPhone and that all iPhones, iPads, and Macs come with a screen reader that enables us to use pretty much all the mainstream apps sighted people do. The same concept ca be applied to Widows, though admittedly the Windows screen reader, Narrator, sucks. We're far from incapable of using tech. In fact, technology has been an amazing help to visually impaired people as mainstream apps and devices have gotten easier to use. There's no way I could take notes in class if I didn't have my iPad Pro and my Logitech K811 Bluetooth keyboard or some other variation of technology like a Mac or Windows laptop with JAWS. The better technology has gotten the better my experience at college (university) has gotten.
Exactly
just out of curiosity, how hard is it to type on a phone when visually impaired? I've always wondered if the screen reader reads the letters as you type or if it just reads it all afterward, sorry if this question is annoying
+Marissa Mesa Oh, it's not annoying at all. I love answering questions like this, particularly when phrased as respectfully as you have. It's not hard but it can be a little time-consuming because I just one finger and go letter-by-letter so my typing speed is pretty drastically reduced. What I do is slide my finger around and Apple's VoiceOver screen reader read's whatever's beneath it. An example is if I pub my finger down in the general area of the letter B which I can almost see because I have some eyesight and I know the location anyway. I might just miss it and get N instead. All I have to do then is slide my finger to the left a bit until I hear VoiceOver say B. I then, depending on the typing mode you can set it in, can either just lift my finger and have the B entered, lift my finger and then double-tap anywhere on the screen for the B to be entered, or just keep hilding my finger where it is and tap anywhere else on the screen with another finger for the B to be entered.
+Jade Scribbler same with me
+Marissa Mesa Sorry, I was writing so much I had to split it into two comments. I did that for a long time way before I got my handy Logitech keyboard and before I had an iPhone with dictation and a newer version of iOS. Now, fortunately, there's dictation and something called Braille Screen Input which I typically use over the standard on screen keyboard. I only use dictation for things like texts and other short messages as I hate having to read through it all and edit the mistakes dictation can make. It's more trouble than it's worth at times. Braille Screen Input, on the other hand, has been a godsend. What it does is turn the touch screen of my iPhone or iPad into a sort of virtual Braille cell. I take the three middle fingers from each hand and put them on the screen in a Braille cell formation. From time to time I calibrate the dots to where my fingers are in slightly different positions. This happens especially often on my iPad since the screen is so big.
Yes!! My family moves my belongings without notifying me often, and I try to tell them to tell me. Great video!
I'm the same, but I think its because they are so used to our sight loss they forget we have it sometimes :)
Go ahead girl!!
Great video and well presented.
Thanks for the knowledge!
This video is amazing, thank you. a life time of 'it's there!' number 4- My biggest pet hate about having visual impairment. even been bruised by it and them refusing to let go. They always do it as I'm getting on a bus and all my concentrations on finding the gap with stick. I know they're thinking it's helpful but I jump scared every time.
Thank you :) and oh my gosh yes! the amount of time I've had bruises from where people have grabbed me as I'm waiting to cross the road or walk down the stairs. I know they are trying to help and its done from a place of kindness. But it can be so disorientating and startling when it happens.
Oh wow! Everything you've said is so damn true! Specially number 3!! As a blind and an immobile person, people tend to ask the person sitting with me stuff they want to know, about me! Its like i'm not there, its so annoying.
The last point you've made, i experience that a lot. People walk off without informing me, and i end up talking to myself. Thanks for making this video!
Zaina.
Glad you liked my video and that you could relate to what I was talking about. I know exactly what you mean, its like people will come up to me when I'm waiting for the bus, offer their help and then walk off without telling me. And its like...what was the point in that.
Hi I’m 13 and I have 10% vision in my right eye and I can relate to all of this
Emily that last one gets me a few I know exactly what you're talkin about
1.Question: WHERE WERE YOU ALL THOSE YEARS GIRL?! 2.Review for the video: I'm a blind person (ability of vision 10%) and walking balance disabilities (not b'coz of my eyes but b'coz the nerves on my body are atrophic) I really apprisiate of you making this video. All over my life I've got a lot of bullying (during school, after school, even feeling ignored by my cousins and shit). Even those exact question you mentioned in the video are always a part of my life when it comes to meet new people. The sad thing is not only what they say behind you, or what they ask you, but the way they act infront of you advantaging the fact that you cannot see them very well and you keep acting the same way like nothing happened. B'coz of this video, I subscriped to you, and I finally feel that I'm not alone, good and matured people still exist! Cheers girl.
Thank you so much! I'm so pleased to hear this video helped and that you have joint the Fashioneyesta family! :)
U R very welcome dear :)
Takis GorEStoneD me too kind of
Hi Emily! All of the things you listed are spot on! I am an older person with about 50% in my left eye and maybe 10% in my right. I don’t have a guide dog. I lost my vision from Severe Glaucoma. Thanks so much for doing this video! 💖🙋🏼💖
CraftyJoy9 aww thank you so much for your lovely comment! ❤️
This blind man totally approves of this video! You did a very good job highlighting the issues that we face, often from well meaning individuals.
+Michael Espinoza I'm glad you think so :)
+Michael Espinoza Hey Michael It's Kayla! :-)
+Kayla Collins hi
I love that before your vid there's an ad about eyewear lol
I appreciate the perspective.
3 must have Bern a response to my story in your previous vifro, about my brother and sister in law encountering the newbie server in the restautant.
Thankfully I've been to more places since then and I've learned more patience.
I love people, and I want to help them understand. I am not my low vision... I'm me :)
Another thing that I would say is that when a visually impaired or blind person has a guide dog you should never touch the dog without the person's permission always ask permission for them to be able to do it first before doing so
you are amazing, thanks for the advice
Aida Shaar thank you x
Excellent, informative video. I have Retinitis Pigmentosa and can relate to all the point mentioned in this video, well except any experience with a Guide Dog.
Gerry Harris Thanks! I'm so pleased you found it relatable!
+Gerry Harris I put off getting a dog way too long. It was foolish. Check it out. You have nothing to lose but a little time. Most schools will send someone out to evaluate you after you submit preliminary paperwork. I always tell my VI friends, "If you're wondering if you need a dog, you probably do or you wouldn't be wondering."
Don't know how I ended up here, but by coincidence I have like 5-10% vision left in my right eye - Glaucoma - I'm also moderately deaf, but ya know how it is, you just get on with it.
Great video, I had to die with laughter at the 'down my bra' comment
Now off to find that other video you mentioned.
Keep it up!
"Stuffed down my bra" that made me laugh so hard! You are hilarious!!! I heard about you in Molly's video, and I'm so happy that I decided to visit your channel!!!
Girasol Hehe :D Glad you got a giggle out of it! Aww thank thank you for stopping over I hope you like my future videos.
loved this and as a visually impaired person totally connected with all of these and did literally lol abit x
Thanks :)
Hey, I am also viually impaired. Thanks for expressing yourself, I felt really rehabilitated:)
Thank you :)
Great advice! -- And "over there" or pointing are not helpful to a blind/impaired person. We need specific directions, or (such as store clerks) walk with the person to where it is. If it's on a shelf, offer to pick it out as though asking for size, color, flavor, whatever, but show where it is so the person can see for themselves. -- I only rarely have had anyone as an adult wave a hand or hold up fingers and ask if I could see something, but it sure can happen. -- And I have sure had someone ask someone I'm with, as if I'm not there or can't hear or as though I'm unable t think and answer for myself. That one's so, so rude and wrong.
If a blind or visually impaired person is walking along using their long cane you shouldn’t look at the cane then look at the person using it then repeat. That happened to me a few weeks ago. A couple were completely blocking the pavement and they looked at my cane then looked at me like well are you going to move.
I loved this xx
I hate when people leave me talking to an empty chair half way through a conversation.
I can totally relate to all of these. Even friends and family know me really well what's the make the sake of occasionally thing over there. As for the moving thing telling me about my new time if I walked into furniture even it out in a different place than its usual. As far yes speaking to the person you're with. At school teacher will from time to my assistant rather than me. Coming from kids it's One thing but coming to adults it's really frustrating. You would think that people would have come in since enough not to force their help on any individual who have informed them that is not required. Whether they are visually impaired or not. You would think that people would know not to punch someone suddenly and attempt to guide them somewhere or grab them anyway. Regardless of the disability.
Exactly, the thing is regardless of disability, people still need their personal space.
I think the biggest misconception I have encountered of people thinking that being visually impaired requires the use of signed language. Funny story about that, yesterday, a security guard at my school asked whether Learning signe language was difficult. I responded that I wouldn't know and went on to explain the Marianna differences between visual impairments and hearing impairments. The funny thing was he'd known me for like my entire high school career so what you would think that by now such a classic misconception would have long since been disproven. But I guess somethings need to be spelled out clearly in great detail and thoroughly explained before they think it.
I am visual impaired and would like to say that yours video are a big help
+jordan allen awesome!
Everything u speak about here is true.. I also hate when I am walking with a friend and we come to crossing a road and they put out their arm to stop me walking out.. They might think they are helping but it is so annoying.. I know there's a road there and I was going to stop but thanks for the elbow in the side and making me jerk.. 😂😂 really good video.. Well done!
Thank you :)
I am visually impaired as well and I use a white cane if I need it but I do have enough vision to use voice over on my phone but I just can't see on my sides.
I understand all of these it's so true follow this vid ppl great vid
All what you have said is completely true
this reminded me of my dad who is blind and people sometimes ask me questions or anybody else that's with him the wont ask my dad that's my biggest pet peeve
Regarding point #6, I fully understand how "over there" is useless, but I'm curious how many visually impaired people keep good track of cardinal directions (I presume none of them, since I don't think it's something humans can really do), or rather perhaps how many carry a compass for visually impaired people.
I think the number of people who use compasses is probably low, but I'm curious why that is. It seems to me like it would be quite useful, namely if someone wanted to tell you where to go. I guess like it was said in the video, one could just use degrees on a clock for relative directions.
With GPS now, I guess compasses aren't necessary anymore though. Since after walking for a few seconds, it should figure out what direction you're heading, and if you need to correct or not. So I guess another question would be how many visually impaired people use GPS systems on their phone? I think that number might be a significant one, even if it's not a majority.
Lastly, while it's obviously dumb to point to a person where something is, I would think that it would be okay to maybe ask them to straighten their arm out so that you can move it to where something is? Or is that not effective enough? I would think that it wouldn't help to indicate the height of something if it's a reasonable distance away, but the direction should help.
Hey!!!! I am also visually impaired. Somebody told me about your channel so I looked it up. Love the video by the way. How do you film your videos? Do you do it on your own or does somebody film it for you? I'm asking because I want to start a CZcams channel myself and I needed some advice.
Aracely Rosillo Thank you so much! I'm glad you like my videos. To answer someone does film them for me (my mum) and I edit them. I film them on my sony hx400v and my blogs are on a little samsung camera. I do use lights as well but you could easily just use your webcam or iPad camera.
This is entertaining & funny as well as very true! I enjoyed it very much! I'm visually impaired & having more serious problems than you mentioned in this video by the government refusing to assist me in finding employment due to the fact that they claim funds are no longer being allocated to the visually impaired. From what I'm being told, I can't receive any sort of assistance with gaining employment other than a bus pass & a cane! This is a very serious matter & I'm not kidding. I see 15% in my right eye & my left eye is a glass eye. I've been visually impaired since birth & have congenital cataracts. Do you have any suggestions? I live in Ogden Utah in the US, so I might not be seeking advice from the right person, but honestly I keep getting nowhere by going through the proper channels. I think you are drop dead gorgeous & love your accent. Thank you & God bless.
Thank you so much! I'm glad you liked my video and that you found it relatable. I do relate to the problems you mentioned about obtaining employment and not getting any help from the government. It is exactly the same here in the UK and you really have to fight to have your case be heard. There is a lot of discrimination from employers around disability and a great deal of work needs to be done to take it. Unfortunately as I live in the UK I'm not the best person to ask, but there are two very good podcast audio sites one called Blind Abilities and the other called VI Talk podcast that allow you to interact with people who are sight impaired from around the world. I suggest to look into going on there and talking to some people on there who might be able to offer you some tips on where to go for advice and support, I hope this helps :) Best of luck to you and don't let the big wigs get you down! And thank you for your lovely comment and I hope you enjoy my future videos. Best wishes, Emily x
+Hal Schmidt My counselor referred me to Goodwill Industries. I was skeptical, but honestly, they were great. They helped me brush up on computer skills and new technology, put together my resume and in about 4 months, I was hired at a cable TV company as a customer service rep. They worked with me in conjunction with the local gov't employment office where they do give you leads and do things like moch interviews. It was really helpful.
Fashioneyesta I can relate to this topic because Im blind from my right eye and I'm a freak cause people make fun of me cause I look different
I hate that. ;( I sometimes want to die
First of all, please do not ever say you want to die!!! I understand your struggles but they are the challenges you are dealt in life. My daughter has Aspergers syndrome and we are having a devil of a time finding her a job much less I hate the looks she gets while we are in public just because she looks different!! I am a sighted Spanish teacher who hopes to be given the challenge of teaching blind students Spanish. I can not say I understand all the things a blind person goes through but do understand that a person with a disability is just that. It is someone who gets along differently and/or learns differently. You are never a "Freak" you are one of God's children that is different in one way or another. We have way too many people who have everything and take it for granted or use it for bad purposes!!
Imagine how small the world is to find a comment from my cousin on a vlog I was watching , although I'm three years late to the party! As I'm now losing my eye sight and of course having several family members with visual impairments in my life, I have always known my chances of getting it at some point were pretty good! Love ❤️ you Halvin ! Hal will you remember me? Ha I'm the only LDS family member on your dad's sister's children! And no I do not use my real name on the internet!
I found your vlog as Molly had tagged you, thank you for sharing your experiences with the world, hopefully it will make the sighted world a little less ignorant and more caring and compassionate to others!
Interesting video I'm visually impaired and why u said is right thank uuuuuuu
Thanks!
Love the vid Emily!
I'm severely physically disabled and am s full-time wheelchair user. I absolutely hate the "does 'she' take sugar" type questions to my PA and people ignoring me completely!
Can I make a small suggestion please, I found it difficult to understand everything you were saying, as the so-called 'background music' was rather too loud. As someone who has a like hearing impairment, it is difficult to hear people properly if there is too much background noise. (This is a common pet hate for people with hearing impairments - too much background noise and no subtitles!) If the volume of the 'background music' is reduced, it will be much easier to follow what you're saying!
Keep doing these great vids!
best wishes,
Cat
Thanks so much for your feedback Cat :) of course I will be sure to have the background music Lowe for future videos X
Thanks Emily! :)
xx
+Fashioneyesta Could you please add captions to your videos please?
The four worst words for blind and visually impaired. This, that, here, and there when we are looking for directions or assistance. A lot of them are Rude and I like the way you put sarcasm and humor into it. But seriously number three. Anytime I go to the states to visit family my dad loves putting those ignorant people on the spot. They ask him what I would like to eat he says I don’t know why don’t you ask her yourself. The baby talk is really irritating and yes when somebody grabbed your arm you don’t know if they’re going to rob you. Several times I’ve use my jujitsu techniques getting out of the army lock and twisting their wrist and they are shocked by that. Some of them claim I’m just trying to help you. I said grabbing me like you’re about to steal something is not assisting me. How do I know what you’re going to do if you don’t say anything? You don’t go up and do that you were cited or non-disabled person so respect disable people because we are not machines we are people and we do not want to be touched and fondled by strangers. This is something different but it’s just somebody venting about blind people. I was on a train this is also back in the states visiting people. The aisles were relatively small and I hear a woman talking to somebody in the seat across from mine she is trash talking blind people very loud. I was on the phone with my boyfriend who is a German so I started tracks talking her in German. Then she was even more irritated thinking I was a foreigner. Which even if I was why does that matter? Turns out she said anyway I need to go so she was getting off at a stop way before mine. I slowly unfolding my cane. I did not have a guide dog yet. And folded my cane and put it behind my leg and with limited vision in my right eye was able to see enough contrast and movement since that seating is very small anyway and saw her get up and as she walked find me a trip there with my cane and cussed at her and said next time you want to trash talk make sure I can’t hear you. She didn’t appreciate it but she deserved it. And I’m sure she found out that I’m American. Not that it’s anything I’m proud of but the fact that she was trash talking me thinking I was a German makes it that much more hilarious.
Spot on. Exactly! i would suggest another peeve.
My husband is totally blind . He was at work and a customer grabbed him by the neck instead of having him take there arm. My sarcasm about How many fingers am I holding up? i joked amongst good Freinds was explaining the middle finger ,birdie. Another I find the most annoying is What sin did your parents do to cause your Blindness? That might be here in the USA. I would love to go back and visit the UK.
My husband attended Dorton House school for the blind.We are both persons with Retinopathy of prematurity. Great videos.
I got to visit the UK for two short weeks. i think when people find this video funny ,yes you use a bit of sarcasm but your message should be taken seriously ,respectfully. We have experienced what you have.
There are also graphic embarrassing questions as well. I notified my orientation and mobility instructor of a woman who grabbed my long cane on the bus for balance.ignorant of the marshmallow tip at the bottom. she fell! i asked her if she was ok! to da loo! nice chatting! 😃😃😃😃😃
I got the sin one. This guy said it's either because my parents had me out of wedlock or that I'm not close enough to Jesus. Consequently (and I'm not trying to offend anyone) but I'm an atheist. I just found it too upsetting.
I found the last one funny, even though it can be annoying at times. I recently became severely visually impaired and whilst I'm talking to my boyfriend he will get distracted by a shop window and leave me talking to myself.
+DDonSon1 It is really amusing at times, but yep also annoying. My mum does it all the time and she'll randomly walk off and leave me in the middle of the shop floor. One of these days i'll make her do a my guide session with guide dogs so she can know what it feels like. Hey, I may even vlog it.
Hi im Ryan i live here in Las Vegas and my family would be the first to ask #1 its like they all think they are comedians anyway it was nice of you to put out a video i love to network take care will be in touch
your new friend
Ryan
+Ryan Hernandez Thank you so much, I'm glad you could relate to the video :)
I am a writer, a musician, a body builder and strength athlete. I currently study chemistry with a particular interest in nutritional science. I also happen to have a visual impairment.
I used to see normally, now I don't. That's really all it is-- we can't see that great. It doesn't mean we're any different and cannot be active or contributing members to society. There are those with problems that let it define who they are, and then there are those that become successful, in spite of whatever disadvantage they posses. This is true with every human being, disability or not. Once people realize this, it makes understanding others a bit easier.
Thank you for covering these kinds of topics. I know that it personally affects you on a daily basis, but I admire your efforts in trying to make the mass population more aware and educated on something they might be unfortunately ignorant about.
-Ryan J
+koZmo .seVen I couldn't agree with you more, you are absolutely right that a disability doesn't mean we can't contribute to society. Thank you for your lovely comment and I'm glad you find my videos a positive depiction of sight loss :)
Emily
+Fashioneyesta People are surprised that I wear nice clothes, am married to a sighted man, live in a nice home and photograph Victorian houses. I'm an artist and musician + writer. I have a full, rich life and I let no one define my disability for me.
+C4eternity "DRINK OZONE WATER, CURE BLINDNESS
+C4eternity The ambiguity of your vision condition combined with a ''x product made it better'' statement just gives me giant red flags is all.
I apologize if I'm being a bit of an ass, but I can't tell you how many times people [uneducated?] lump everyone with sight loss into one giant homogeneous group and then proceed to offer a ''cure'', or remedy, when makes no sense, since we all had very different reasons for our sight loss in the first place.
+C4eternity
I'll just leave you to your soap box, you seem to be doing fine without me. Take care.
Is it okay that I shorten 'visually impaired person to VIP?' I still accept no as no, and don't use the phrase 'over there'. Also wheelchairs mean that the legs or spine are a little bit less able. Not a person's mind. (This is my pet peave)
The how many fingers thing is so annoying, I just say something stupid like 50 or something then walk away
God bless you Emily.....
People talk to the person they feel is in charge. I had “presence” until my 40s. The work I was doing. I was *take charge*. When I understood friends, family comments. I came upon a train/pickup accident. *no injuries*. I had come from a country/Western bar/line dance. Except my hat I had boots, belt, custom Western shirt.. EVERYONE checked in with me. Train Engineer, tow truck driver, pickup driver. I told everyone “see that guy wearing a badge, he has a flashlight, & a gun? Yes the Police Officer. HE is in charge”
Think restaurant waiter asking guy only. But times 4.
I like your video some people you have vision and Pam minutes because I have one myself and keep it up
Is it okay to share this video on Bromley Libraries social media platforms like Facebook and Twitter during Make a noise in libraries week?
Omg "Over there" drives me crazy!!!! My husband does it, my mum does it. So glad I am not the only one haha
Tahlia Whan Lols I know its so annoying :) I even wrote a poem about it on my blog
I only just subscribed to your channel today and omg so happy I did. I love the videos you do and am looking forward to more =]
Tahlia Whan Aww thank you :) That means a lot to me!
2. i don't mind people asking if i can see anything if they're giving me directions, i DO mind people who give me directions using street names. If i'm asking for directions i don't know where i am, therefore i have NO idea what the streets are called, half the time i don't even know the street names of familiar places, just that its x street with y shop on, or next to z other street.
3. OMG YES! I have a couple of examples of this that i'll 'try' and keep brief. I was walking just ahead of a friend and heard a stranger ask the friend how i knew where i was going. The friend replied that i had some sight, so i walked back to explain my sight level & that as where we were was familiar, i was fine getting about. She also asked how the long cane helped, so i half explained, half showed her. The conversation went well from there, until she ended it by patting me on the shoulder and saying something like "well done" or some other meant to be kind, but SO patronising phrase. (WHY do people think we need praise and compliments for simply existing?). I've actually had a Visual Impairment teacher sound surprised / shocked when i told her i'd got the bus to meet her, seriously? She should know better!
The other example is from when i was still at college. I was maybe two desks away from my tutor when i heard her say to my TA that she was doing a presentation and would i be able to see it? My TA then comes over to me and relays the question, to which i say "she could have come and ask me, i don't bite. And no, i won't see it". The TA goes back to the teacher, who then comes over to apologise for upsetting me, which she hadn't. I find sighted people getting it wrong rather amusing, most of the time. Oh and then there was this conversation between a ta and tutor "i assume you're with zoe?" "yes" "oh okay. i haven't taught any visually impaired, or disabled students before". I was sitting right next to the TA being talked to... That tutor didn't make the best first impression!
4. I had a guy grab my arm, tell me it was safe to cross the road i was standing at and then walk off. Having not notice him walk off i thanked thin air, woops! Another guy grabbed my arm at a junction to tell me the car in the first lane was waiting for me, so i started crossing. It turned out in the second lane and just behind first car, was a second that wasn't waiting. I got across the road pretty quick! Lesson learned, ALWAYS check its safe myself.
I lost my temper with a Science TA over the 'over there' thing. She wanted me to get the equipment for an experiment so i asked where it was stored. Her reply? *pointing* "Over there" "where?" "over there" "Where?!" "Over there!" "My line of sight ends at the end of your finger, i have NO idea where you're pointing!" "in the drawers at the back of the room" ALL it takes it a bit of direction and / or a landmark near X thing. I can look directly at the item in question and not realise. I once asked a classmate if there was a bin in our room, she said "yes over by the door, under the table" Perfect!
Sighted people are a confusing / amusing / irritating bunch.
You are precious!
Hehe thank you xx
Hi. Great video. What do you use to record/edit/publish vlogs? I'm a blind person who kinda feels excluded from this arena but obviously there are Vloggers such as yourself so....?
Hi Dino :) Thank you so much for your comments. So to respond to your question I use a Sony HX400v to record my videos (it is a bridge camera) and I use both iMovie and final cut to edit them and to publish them to CZcams. I also use a cannon camera for vlogging (but I can't remember the model name.) I hope this helps and do let me know if you have anymore questions :)
fashioneyesta Do you know if Finalcut/IMovie are screenreader friendly? I've got even less sight than you so screenreader accessibility/navigability of editing software constitutes a huge stumbling block.
***** I think that iMovie has an app for iPad and iPhone users and as far as I am aware this is pretty god with voiceover. A friend of mine used to use it on her iPad
I can relate I am visually impaired and cant see out of my left eye
You should do more of theirs. There are so many questions and comments. People say to me and it's very annoying.
Take when people say. You can't see very much Can you, it's just very annoying what People think of people with disabilities
hi I've lost a lot of confidence going out because I had problems with people coming in my face saying are you really blind waving there hands or got judgment in my own family questioning me how blind I am making me feel I'm lying. So I've hid and got no help.
Yeah, I could see someone in the family saying something like that just joking but not someone you barely know. That's good to know about feeding guide dogs. I will spread the word. I wonder where the word toodeloo came from...
+Brandi WL The other problem is that they always throw it up at 2:00 AM and I'm down on the floor with half a roll of paper towels playing minesweeper. Try that with your eyes shut some time. So not fun. Additionally, my dog has to watch his weight. An overweight dog can't work as long. It'll take two or even three years off their working life. My dog is my Porsche. It cost the Seeing Eye $65,000 to give him to me. My Porsche only gets the best fuel. No junk. No one gets to "key" him either.
Shelley Magnussen Oh wow!I hear that!
Most unimpaired people have no experience with any handicapped person, so they have no real idea about various conditions or how to help properly, and they somehow don't think it through first. Many tend to think the person can't think or talk for themselves, which usually is not true. Rarely, someone is naturally graceful about helping, or has some training or has known a person with a disability and helped them. Training in how to help is available at hospitals or at non-profit organizations for various handicaps, for those who really want to know in depth. But basically, think what you'd need if you were unable to see or hear or walk or move, whatever the condition might be. Use common sense, be courteous, and treat the person like a thinking adult. Basically: Care.
Great list and lovely accent! One thing that annoys me is when someone says "I wish you could see this" me: duh, so do i. haha :)
I'm currently in Marching Band and I have a visual impairment some people don't think oh why is he on the field if you can't see bowl crap I can see where is it Clarence netting and I can play clarinet by ear ha hacurrently I am a senior at Chesapeake high school in Chesapeake Ohio and I plan to go to the blind school and work at the airport doing security
I have the same amount of vision as you also in my left eye
I am visually impaired I have peters anomaly and optic nerve drusion
My mom does the over there thing and it drives me bonkers because I don't understand what that means so I ask her politely can you give me directional cues for finding something in the room we are in together and she doesn't do it which is really mena.
I have about the same vision in my left eye too
I am. Visually impaired and thank you for making this video
Thanks for commenting :)
As a visually impaired person I would want the person to tell me where something is in more details for an example the keys is over there on the table by the cup
great thanks for info
Thank you :)
U R welcome
Number 3. When this happens to me, if I'm with a person I'm very comfortale with, I will do the same thing right back. "Oh, could you tell this person that..."
In aldi recently with a friend I asked an assistant where something was, he said over there so I said where is over there, over there then he walked off muttering something along the lines of stupid woman asking where over there is despite him being told I’m visually impaired by me.
I so hate number 3.
And Iʻve had it happen in the hospitals here in USA. Like, the doctors who would not talk with me - when I was the "patient" - but talk with my husband instead.
That happening more than once has left me with a fear of hospitals.
EMT and law enforcement in this country also suck in recognizing visual impairments. Itʻs frustrating.
I am ABLE to take the bus by myself, find and do some cool stuff in the city I live in. I am ABLE to read and write in braille and use VoiceOver comfortably (because I donʻt see comfortably and my eyes hurt). I am able to run in the bright daylight (without caring if ai fall - so what? Running feels like freedom)... It just doesnʻt have to mean anything more or less than that. I donʻt want to use the ʻselfiestickʻ when I can get around without (especially close to home)
Some more disabilities/other issues I have are frustrating. I have many past brain injuries, some of them having quite a bit of time erased from my consciousness. The most relevant one is probsbly from 13 (or also 10) years ago. As all healthcare in tis country focuses on health care industry maling money, thstʻs bad enough. But when anyone tries to test me... Sigh. English is my third language. Te first two are completely different, as in how you even build frases or express something. I have three comfortable languages, but I canʻt speak ANY of them without getti the ʻwhere are you fromʻ stuff. Itʻs a personal thing but I just hate when random strangers ask it. So I donʻt often want to talk to people using my voicd. :'( because the accent too makes me feel like Iʻm somehting less, like i donʻt belong here or there or anywhere.
So iʻm happy talking.
Amd it doesnʻt matter how blind I ever will be, I can mostly alwys confidently pass as a sighted person. Would I choose to. Insteax iʻm keeping my face expressionless, and donʻt acknowledge any sighted people most days unless there is a reason to. Because that just is my way to deal with life right now. Itʻs my "in your face". - and I donʻt really get how the sighted can use their electronics especially outdoors...
+Unuhi Nuiʻi I used to do that until I stepped off what I thought was a curb. It turned out to be as high as my bathroom counter and I had some serious road rash. I got a dog. I lost my privacy. That was the hardest part. People nearly drove me nuts. I'm a high-spirited person and don't like being controlled. Sometimes, when I'm polite, the person "helping" doesn't listen. When I raise my voice, then I'm "rude," but I make no apologies for maintaining personal boundaries, but I always try to approach it with humor. Most of the time, it works. What people with disabilities want most is to be empowered.