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If you've experienced narcissistic abuse, you may feel like you're dealing with lasting damage to your mental health. Narcissistic abuse can leave you feeling powerless, confused, and deeply hurt. But there is hope for healing and recovery. In this video, we'll explore the brain damage caused by narcissistic abuse and show you how to reverse its effects.
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This is when your family calls you lazy. When they know they have already stolen all of your energy.
oh you know it
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Truth. ❤
EXACTLY!!!!!
What you said hit the nail right on the head. I'm 56, still feeling invisible. My name is Rosie. Childhood verbal and mental abuse made my petals dry up and fall away. I feel like I have nothing left but thorns now. I need to find a group of likewise grownups like myself to get past it. BUSY
And… you CANNOT show or reveal this pain in front of them.
They use it against you.
Everything has to be concealed to protect yourself 😢
Yes. Mother came over. Why you sleeping. Gee you always sleep.
Ya think.
After i worked hard all my life. She never will know. She never worked.
Yes. I am tired.
You’re absolutely correct. They enjoy when you’re exhausted. They want you to be tired….too tired to stand up and leave
Not every person is bad. There are already a lot of people in this comment section who can understand what you are going through and lived through the same things! But of course you do not have to force yourself to socialize.
Take your time!
Yes true, you have to hide everything no matter how much you are suffering for your own safety
So true
Can barely get anything done
Constantly in self care mode!
The hustle culture will tell you otherwise but that means you're facing the healing journey head on ❤️🩹 so kudos to you. Being on the run constantly and avoiding/compartmentalizing the grief just prolongs the process and meanwhile you're more prone to all sorts of amygdala hijackings out there in the world.. running around like a chicken with their head cut off getting into more & more trouble. I like you're way!
Same and then worrying that I'm 'selfabsorbed' :(
@@peaceofmindofpeace1650 no way!! Self care to heal-- sometimes we just need to be ministered to instead of pouring out to others.
Let the Lord pour into you 🕊️🙏❤️
@@Thankful305 Thank you ☺️ ❤️
I feel the same way...I can't get anything done
Staying the F away from everyone! Trying to heal
There isn't any way to actually heal. You can only go out and surround yourself with people and distractions. It never goes away. If you isolate you ruin the rest of your life
@@timweedon2785Yes, you can heal. But it takes long, hard, difficult work on your childhood neglect/abuse issues. And you have to make lots of difficult choices and stick with them.
@@timweedon2785answer : balance isolation whit social contact .
Same !
At the moment, I feel safest at home enjoying the peace and quiet 🤫! I really get panic attacks 🙃! One small step at a time.
Busy. In recovery. But man it's been hard.
Yes dear but its not impossible I am also going through it...
How are you doing
@@historyofenglish4583 how are you doing
It is !!!
For real 😳 😫
I'm dealing with emotional mental exhaustion from narc abuse now I'm depressed and have anxiety
Exactly
Same here
Same, extensional fear depression
Me too lovely sick of it
Anxiety attacks too? Suddenly came on. I spend a lot of time worshipping the Lord and in prayer every morning. We must focus on the Lord and let all else go.
Complex PTSD goes hand-in-hand with narcissistic abuse. Don’t apologize or explain to anyone because unless you’ve gone through this, you can’t possibly understand.
Hang tight ❤
Yes it's pretty invalidating with the normies.. it gets super frustrating . On the other hand it's definitely a good test of empathy for those around you. It really made me shuffle around my understanding of certain friends & family.
Can you recover your memory?
@@ChandChandramukhiI recovered many when I truly felt safe & stable in the present moment and knew it would help bring me answers to my healing journey. I'd highly recommend doing it with an experienced trauma specialist. Follow your intuition, it's not the path for everyone and could get some people stuck or retraumatized if they're not ready to finally process and grieve that loss of self from whatever it is one endured ❤️🩹
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Yes, I agree. Then when you try to have balance in life, others want to call you unstable and crazy. That's what I'm dealing with.
I agree. I'm healing from narcissistic abuse. There are times I feel good but I have moments of emptiness.
Those moments, or in my case days/weeks/months, are tougher for me than the complete sobbing breakdowns. It's just a flatlined state of anhedonia. You really feel like a ghost of your old self. It's rough but our bodies & minds want us to heal imo.. it's for a reason. Hang in there ✌️❤️🩹
Just the other day I felt empty,and asked God to fill that void,nothing related to NPD
@@MattyNelson-rs3ik I hope you get better
It’s hard to recover when they won’t leave you alone :(
It is !!! It's prolonging the inevitable
Protective order. Tell them in writing you don't want any more contact and block them. If they violate it file. You don't need an attorney if it's a temporary protective order
Get AWAY.. forgive but get away from them ♥️
it really is, u gotta get angry , thing is we gotta look at it spiritually we looking at the physical person not the demon an it’s familiar to you too
I know this feeling 😢
Sometimes friends get offended because I opt out at the last second from a dinner invitation. They don’t get it how hard it is to live with narc and being depressed
Please just go
Don’t do what I did and now have no one
@@Thankful305sometimes u only have energy for yourself , if u ever had someone in the first place and u were in a situation this horrible they should more than understand with a simple apology why you couldn’t be present in the relationship
Same with my sister!!!! She gets mad at me for not going to her house when she asks
She has no fucking clue the hell i go through everyday
Oh my. That’s how I feel right now.
@@Thankful305same. i isolated for years and compounded it during covid and did not answer calls and now at almost 50 i have zero friends -no family. and wonder who'll bury me
I lack all motivation. I don’t even have a job.
The only thing I love to do is go on walking mediations and ground myself in the earth.
I’ve also been relaxing my vagus nerve and it helps.
I’m 20 years old but I’m grateful I got out a young age and I can start healing.
I lack all motivation too and i dont even have a job either. All the while everyone at some point /right away have a problem with this and they tell me my problem is thst i need to get a job. Yes, i do. But that is not my problem nor the answer.
Proud of you and wish you the best
Same exact here and i'm also on my 20's, it's been 3 years of no contact but the healing it's still painful sometimes
@@notmymonkeynotmycircusdon't feel guilty for resting, sometimes God is not giving is a Job because he wants and is blessing us with that for us to be able to completely rest and rebuild our temples from everything that happened to us
Same I can’t do anything been unemployed year now
I am still feeling the same way after 10 years
10 years since my first discard and am realizing cortisol due to narc abuse messed up my metabolism and my health. gave met lung disease
MAY THE LORD GOD ALMIGHTY BE WITH YOU ALL WHO ARE TRYING TO HEAL FROM NARCISSISTIC ABUSE. I DO UNDERSTAND 100%. 😐✝️🙏🏾
Thanks, God bless you
Thank you.
Thank you 🙏 God Bless ❤
It's been 5 months of NC.. most days I'm good, some bad... but I'm pressing forward, can never go back.. I know he's been with a million ppl by now.. he's a whore 🤮
I’m apathetic. Tired. I’m so drained. So misunderstood. I just wanted to help him see he was loved. It’s the worst . THE WORST . Please pray for my son
I will pray for you and and your son for healing and living a better life.
I will pray that someday you can make it through and out! It takes time to get the courage to leave. You’re alone in your hell. When you get just 1 breath of I’ve had enough start with one breath at a time. I’m a stranger on the internet but you’re not ALONE! They’re plenty of good folks right here and now that are taking those breaths that led to thoughts that led to self doubt and fear and anxiety that led to actions and Goals and Expectations and GONE!!😊
46 years have gone by. I let myself become isolated. No one would believe my life. I can't even begin to explain the self doubt. I have auto immune I'm trying to heal from. But my mind is clearing. I cut sugar, dairy, highly processed foods. It's helped my anxiety immensely. One step at a time. I was the family scapegoat, didn't even comprehend the vulnerable narcissist. It all falls into place. My faith is comfort "Take on my yoke upon you, and learn from me, for I am gentle and lowly in heart, and you will find rest for your souls. For my yoke is easy, and my burden is light."
Your last option is nice guys ..
Amen, I will not apologize for saving myself ❤
People who have not experienced this will never understand why i truly think the day my abusive NarcMom dies will be one of the best days of my life...the greatest relief
It wasn’t a lie to say you’re busy… it was self preservation 😢❤
They are not fun at parties
I am hurting so bad from this abuse, but I need to have a plan to get away and stick to it! Narcissists make you have nothing of your own, they make it hard to leave them.
Yes so hard. Go back and forward to my abusive family
Wow, I totally needed to see this. I was near death because of a narcissist partner. At the end of 7 years I was bedridden and felt death was near
I new I was almost out of energy and knew I had to spend that last bit of energy and life I had to sever ties.
I threw her out. I had a nervous breakdown after she left. I guess all that toxicity came out all at once.
It's been a year and I am recovering. I wasn't damaged over night and I will not heal over night.
I wish the Lord would remove every narcissist from this planet.
❤️🩹 thanks for sharing. I'm sorry to hear how severe it got but glad you're on the healing path. Similar story here so you're words hit home. All the best ✌️
HE will eventually. I feel your pain. Stay close to the Lord. He is the Good Shepherd
it's been 1.5 years and I feel like square one
Same.
Sorry you had to go through this .....😔 I felt ashamed of just lying there breathing - but it was all I could do whilst trying to figure out what has happened. Took me two tears to understand I was abused by a Narcisist ....
This. Exactly this.
I dont blame u. Its 22yrs + n still in it. Its hard to fig this out as a layman. The faster u know.. the faster u can try to atleast deal with it. Good luck!
I am still recovering 7 year after the final discard
Busy...Just got out weeks ago, its hard, i promise it is, i feel weird being single, i feel like my entire world has just fallen apart, i feel like am starting from scratch, believe me am dying inside from loneliness, but somehow i feel theres a better future ahead, whether ill find someone or not, i believe my future is going to be better.❤
The only thing keeping me busy right now is my attachment ending next week. Am kinda scared, that after that, what next??!!
Our family friend was the same,20 years,married,blindsided,,wife divorced him,looks like she always had supply in the background,Hectold me.she grew up with alcoholic dad,narcissist mother. MIL,destroyed his marriage, never accepted him for her daughter, she was golden child.He could not sleep for weeks,after she left, told him he'll become psychotic,took meds to help him cope that was 3 years ago,doing much better.now. money is always a bad situation in marriages too,control,power,poor financial decisions.spending money,without consent.
@@phyzertracy9104life goes on,one day at a time,,pray..
I was bed ridden in recovery for 3 years after I finally cut off my narassstic mother. At first I tried to fight it but I realized my mind, body, heart and soul really needed to just rest and recover. It taught me to be patient with myself and that all I was doing before was keeping myself busy so I didn't have to feel and process my emotions. Healing can feel very painful sometimes.
I’m just leaving one Oofta I’m so sorry
💗 The realization is making me go in shock and denial even more. I'm where you at. My safe place is under attack, so I'm fighting myself and go in numbing/surpressing, which is sort of impossible this time with the overwhelm and everything... Take care of self and rest seems like the hardest thing ever now.☝🏽🌌💖💫
the recovery takes years and years. and I've realized the entire relationship destroyed my body I literally have zero dopamine for anything.
I feel this deeply. This has been me for the last few days. I've been doing a lot of difficult coming to terms with my abusive family lately. I can't get away from them so I suffer and endure. But I am exhausted, soul deep exhaustion. I just want to be alone and be left alone so I can conserve my energy. I'm tired.
Thanks for this.
Hi, haylenore I described my tired as soul tired also.
This I understand so well, God's grace is sufficient when all our strength is gone.
I don't know if you are a believer in Jesus Christ as I am and fallow the leading of God but I know for SURE that I could not have made this far without faith.
Psalms 91 and Psalms 86 read them and receive comfort and peace.
N'love and faith ❤️🙏🏻
Family,,I'm out..
God bless you!! ❤🙏
Oh my God.
I have been this way for at least 4 years, very very literally.
A few days. I wish to God I could say t h a t.
It's been as long as I can remember I've been this way.
It makes me heal just knowing I'm not the only one that has gone through these hard days..weeks. months. It is so healing though to see that we are not
" crazy "
I can hardly get anything done well, i miss the happy me
That's exactly jow I felt after finding out what a narcissists was!!! I had no idea what I was dealing with and thought I was crazy!! But I found out he was the one causing me to go crazy!!! Just knowing it wasn't anything to do with me, made a world of difference!!! Then I was able to come out of it a whole lot easier!!!! 😊🥰❣️🙏
Sometimes i put on a good act thinking i had to be strong But it hit me later with the inner thoughts 😊
And now I’m crying. Everyday feel like a Infinite amount of breathe I take while telling myself I’ll be ok & im safe. My whole body, mind, always wants to be at peace or almost isolated
I cut ties with my narcissistic father and his family members a little over a year ago. I am just coming terms with the fact that it was abuse for over 30 years. Now I'm trying to learn how to heal.
After decades of abuse im so tired im not even tired anymore. Ive healed tons tho ✨✨✨✨✨✨✨✨✨
BUSY! Feeling stuck and unable to move forward in areas I wish I could due to the triggers and feelings and flashbacks.
Good news is coming. I’m praying for you Stacey
✨BUSY 🛌💕
And savoring every minute of my new life living ALONE narcissist husband n adult daughter free!!✨ Thank you Jesus!! 🙌🏻✝️
My mom and older sibling are both narcissists and my grandma is a huge enabler and victim shamer. I’ll never forget the evil sh*t they’ve done to me or put me through and I just want to heal from it all. No one seems to know how to actually HEAL from being abused. Wtf
Sorry you have to deal with that with people so close, my son and I are in a similar situation. Its such a big accomplishment and advantage to be aware of the situation, stay strong.
💗 I'm there too. I feel like there's nothing left, I'm too overwhelmed and exhausted. There's a knowing within me; Patience, hope and faith... ☝🏽🌌💖💫
First get far away from them, then wake up and pray each day.just say Thank you God for saving me,look in the mirror each day into your eyes and say i love you. THANK YOU GOD.
@mattynelson that’s the best advice. Unfortunately no professional has ever helped, they just wrote you off as so damaged you can’t ever be okay again. It’s a terrible lie, they don’t know how but desperately need to believe it. So you end up being more abused by those who have to help. Very often it’s a family problem with narcissists and enablers. People really don’t understand and every story of abuse is so similar but the healing is very personal. I’m trying to escape decades of abuse right now and it’s honestly prayer alone giving me the insight and direction and hope I need. I always thought if thing are bad it’s because God has abandoned me so there’s no point in praying. For the first time in many many years, I’m praying for God to sort out everything and for the first time in 40years I have a chance to escape. It’s the hardest thing I have ever done but I’m not alone anymore. I keep getting insight, direction, information etc. I’m operating on blind faith because I myself have been unable to end the cycle of abuse.
Healing only comes from Christ the Messiah: ❤ It's God' s Blessing
To you. Reach out ...Love
Busy… Today marks the first year after leaving my ex of 12 years and I am still recovering. It’s exhausting, draining…. I still feel lost. Sometimes it feels like you are never going to be okay but as it is said, there is always a silver lining..
I'm 10 years in and scared of how I'm going to feel when I leave him
I'm scared of the hell I am ganna have to endure
@@shaniecegullison Don't be afraid. It'll be hell whether you stay or go. Pick which one is worth going thru!
@@Venuschild33 thank you and it's hell right now here with him
@@Venuschild33 🌞❤️
Take a deep breath and leave it in gods hands. I’m a survivor to.
Yes leaving it in God's hands it's the best decision, rest and take care of yourself, God bless you ❤️✝️
Romans 12:19
Beloved, never avenge yourselves, but leave room for the wrath of God; for it is written, “Vengeance is mine, I will repay, says the Lord.”
Literally singing psalms 91 in my head rn. I don’t even have the energy to talk. I feel so broken.
Yep busy in recovery and I shouldn’t have to feel guilty about it
I feel you!! people can make you feel so guilty for resting and recovering
Am 53. Narc mom is 74. Narc brother is 51. After decades of abuse, i'm at the end of my rope. I cannot take another day of this. Please God, hear my pleas. Get me away from these awful, demonic, wretches.
God gave me a plan and strategy to walk away from abusive family. He will set a path out for you too. You matter. I am praying for your complete release into joy and freedom.
@@reneetones2077 Thank you Renee. Prayer for/to me is more valuable than all the money in the world. So, many, many, thank yous. 🙂♥️🙏👍
Move far away in stealth.leave them in the dust..no contact..so sorry to know people have been going tru this all their lives..with family members.
Just starting to get panic attacks in control. Feeling less tired, slept out cold without waking for 9 hours after weeks of not sleeping properly and surviving on just a few hours a night. Today was the turning point of being this busy and it's getting easier 😊👍
What helped you to get to this point. I‘m constantly feeling tired no matter how much I sleep and overall exhausted during the day plus panic attacks 😢I just wanna feel better
That lack of sleep for months and years and feeling tormented pain and anguish is something to go through.
My head heats up from the exhaustion of thinking about it all!
It's the ruminating thoughts right ? 😕 I understand you, it's your body reacting still from everything that happened
I thought I was the only one that reacted this way! I’ve been out of my narcissistic family system now for one year and eight months. I can tell I’m getting better but still some days I’m exhausted and don’t do anything. It’s a slow, hard process but improving is the goal! ❤
Same for me. It's been a little over a year now. It still makes me feel bad on days when I don't do anything at all because I can still hear them calling me lazy in my head. It's still difficult to set boundaries sometimes, but I am slowly learning that sometimes I have to put myself first and not burn myself out to help others all of the time.
Busy healing and recovering - all of this - and I will not apologize.❤ Sending love to all!
SO relatable. Busy…healing.
I know that feeling, I’m still in recovery 6 years later
Busy…I desperately want to get out of bed and start living I’m just too exhausted to move
I feel the same way. I thought I was sick for a long time. It's just exhaustion from narcissist abuse.
I am still married to the narc. I take about 2 naps a day and need a full 6+ hours of sleep at night. In survival mode 24/7. As you get older, it’s just worse. I’m waiting for my youngest to turn 16. Just 5 more years. Almost. Already been 17 years.
Yes and my narc mom doesn’t let me rest either I’m still trapped I need to move but I gotta work and be first it’s so exhausting
Thinking of you ✨✨✨
They’re probably sleep depriving you. Get out of the house to sleep & take time off and catch up on sleep. Don’t give away your location & get comfy and sleep it out. Narcs are super selfish. They need attention on them 24/7
This is me right now😢
Me too. Even lying right there, you are not alone.
For the past 9 months I got my own apartment and only went out if I wanted to see people. If I didn’t, I didn’t pick up the phone or go out. I responded in my own time.
All I wanted was my own space, to do whatever I wanted, whenever I wanted. For the first time I could take a nap and sleep all day without interruption or without being made to feel guilty for doing it. I could rest and recover on my own time table without answering to anyone.
That was immense freedom.
For anyone struggling, get out from that environment if you can and go no contact. Find people who understand/ relate and have experienced the same trauma. Much healing comes through talking it out with like minded people because of the many years of being invalidated.
You will make it. Hold on.
Yep hope nobody wants nothing from me... I'm busy!!!
Yep. They do it to you on purpose to drain your light for themselves. Take whatever time you need to recover. You deserve it. Most people don’t understand. ❤
True and it makes me happy
Sometimes i felt as if i am a burden, i felt shame for not hanging out with others
Until i realized that i do not owe anybody my time, attention, body, ect.
It feels nice that i have made the right thing and lifted that burden off my shoulders :)
Same here
All that!!! So draining! But done and Happier 🎉🙏🌺
I am crying right now. I lost both my parents and my brother. I keep beating myself up, wondering why I didn’t spend more time with them. What was I so “busy” doing, considering I never actually did anything. But this is it. I was in a 13 year marriage with a diagnosed narcissist. I just needed quiet time alone sometimes. You just made me hate myself a little less. Thank you so much! This is a gift that will stay with me forever.
Still can't breathe. Busy
This is so heartbreaking 😢Stay strong everyone!
Busy. So so tired. Exhausted. But, for the first time, hope is slowly dawning again. 'Self' is ever so cautiously re-emerging.
100% I start every single day with a prayer of thanks for peace.
Busy. It just ended. But thank God. If he didn't leave I don't think I had the heart to not forgive him over and over again. But as always he made it as if it was my fault, telling everyone I made a fatal mistake.
Busy, regrouping, rebuilding, reenergizing. The abuse is so real and so exhausting. It took 8 months to put myself back together and it took 2 days for him to disrupt my mental peace
Max’s mom here!
Wow! Is That what I have been going through for 50 years!
Have been doing research on narcissism, this ties it all together for me! I have been letting my life pass me by! Stay Strong Out There, My People! You Got This!
3 months since I left her. Possible ptsd.
She went from abuser, to professional victim when I had enough, and left.
Such an evil behavior(s).
I can relate but I screwed up by trying to defend myself at first, now IDGAF but I believe the damage to my reputation is already done
That’s how I feel Monday, Tuesday Wednesday after spending half Saturday and the Sunday with my narc partner.
It was only 6 months but I can’t even imagine what years feels like I hate how much she is in my head she latched herself onto my soul and took a part of it away
I am so addicted to mine that I still hookup with her . She is gorgeous and sensuous and a great lover . I also still love her to death. But I was headed to an early grave because of her !
Give it back to God,promise him.its His,,which it is.tell him ,my soul belongs to you God,manage it for me.A tare tried to invade it.its gone now.good riddance.
@@stevenkovler5133a true succubus,that is what they are.vampires sucking you dry.their art is the lovemaking part.Walk away.Eve was beguiled...then she in turn beguiled Adam.look at us now.
Busy . I’m also recovering. Tough !
Busy. Was married to one for 15 years. Each day gets just a little easier than the one before. It's a process.
I can remember having energy all the time, always go go go and generally happy. And because I still have to co parent, it’s taken years and years to heal. I only just found out my exhaustion is because my body got so used to living in survival mode it doesn’t remember how to be calm and peaceful. It’s been six years… I feel so much better but there is still so much healing to do. And my body is starting to finally to heal ❤
I understand you 💔😥 you're not alone I recognise this, it's hard for your body to understand you don't need to be in fight or flight mode even when you are safe
Exactly!!!! They're so exhausting!!! I can't wait to be able to rest and re energize. I'm homeless but soon getting a place. I plan on sleeping for at least a week. Lol
Busy….yup 👍
Xo. From someone who used to make beautiful experiences and adventures for the kids… Once I broke up, he went after our kids to maintain control/attention. Now, having energy to make muffins w/ my daughter tonight is enough. RIP my twins deep relationship broken by his abuse. Golden child vs abused scapegoat child.
I Wish you all the strength and self care to do the work and return to you.
Exactly why I moved the hell away suddenly with little warning. He refused to allow me rest. He disregarded when I was sick and picked a fight, just to pick on and pick me apart. Never again.
The worst is when after the abuse the people around you will make you feel guilty for resting and recovering and judge your energy, only the ones who went through this truly understand.. it can be a lonely world because no one else understands
💯👏🏽 so true!
Oh my ... I use to do this all the time! In a meeting, busy, about to take a shower, running errands .. just anything for a little bit of PEACE
I felt this more than any other video I’ve seen …. I thought I was just lazy and antisocial or avoidant I didn’t realise narc abuse could literally stop you in your tracks like this 😳😳
God Bless everyone .
Busy. Same. So tired after 28 years.
This is exactly what I'm choosing to do today. ❤
I was busy holding on by a thread, constantly scrambling to maintain a love on life support. Love I had that he was constantly bleeding the life out of. I gave him all of my attention, put him first and so did he. I was lucky to have come in last behind his needs and dare I voice my needs or discomfort with being left out or given crumbs…… then the rage….. the punishment by abandonment and stonewalling for days on end.All to come back when he needed his cup filled and acts like nothing happened….. like ghosting someone you “love” is normal. Like leaving someone at a loss and crying is normal because I deserved it for questioning him, for doubting him, for wanting him to keep the promises he made and ALWAYS BROKE.
I was busy…… busy staying alive while dying inside for someone else.
Dealing w/ this now.💔Saw the red flags early on but ignored & rationalized. Years later, I’m paying the consequences. Jesus & I are constantly in meetings b/c I can’t hold it together. I know I’m trauma bonded so recently started therapy, again. Praying God will fix my stupid.🎚️
So sorry, Joan, one thing we must know in life, we cannot change anyone, but ourselves.red flags are always present, we have all ignored them.God is with you.hold on.pray,continue.God will restore the years the locust has eaten,I am also s h edding a tear for you,and me.find a couple of Bible promises, repeat them often to yourself,God will hold you up with his righteous right hand.
This hits my heart hard😢
My narc friend who told me she didnt want me in her life because i didnt do her bidding, then turned it around and told me the other day that im a horrible person for ignoring her for over a year. Then proceeds to tell me im not allowed use a gym near her, and told me she avoids anywhere i do be and im not allowed to be in her area? I told her she was being ridiculous! Finally blocked her today! It took me over a year to move on with my life, a lot of healing and getting my confidence back, a lot of reflection which is necessary.
Thank God the professionals on narcissism here on utube are helping us and educating us.
1000% I have to remind myself everyday itis okay to REST. TO JUST REST. IT IS OKAY IT IS NECESSARY
Same!
THANK YOU SO MUCH FOR THIS WORK. This is my story, it's so hard being and not being able to do. God sees all. 🙏🏻
I told him that I was not feeling well lately and thatI need a break from him and his constant stress.
I told him that it’s affecting my health so he’s been repeatedly asking for me to handle his very few parental responsibilities.
They have no soul and if you show any signs of weakness or not feeling well they immediately try to capitalize on it and slowly kill you. They do not care about people like normal people do. And asking for anything even for them to be a responsible parent is them doing you a favor! Good Luck
i am very grateful that i was able to get my narc ex out of my aprtment and away from me. I finally had my home to myself which became my safe space. I was so burnt out. This was April of 2023. I finally started feeling like myself again Jan 2024. Majority of my time was spent in bed. I sware it was like 9 months in bed watching self help, therapy videos, journaling. Bc i live alone i felt like i could finally allow myself to feel how i was feeling and let it all out. My mind and body eventually repaired itself. It took time and patience.
I needed this. I NEEDED TO SEE THIS RIGHT NOW.
So busy. My father is the narcissist, and we are at the point of transferring responsibilities of life. FML
busy and recovering from addiction due to his abuse.
First steps,first.
I recognise myself in that indeed. Worse wa my anxiety attacks and brain fog and the constant fatique. I had Typical ptsd trauma symptom after abuse/assault.
Today I am healed and ok
This reminds me of my sister in law. She's been married for 29 years. She's had three forms of cancer. Her husband, my brother, hasn't cared for her for a long time bc even his coworkers say they can't get him to leave work and go home where he should be. He's very overweight. If that's what she's had to see for 29 years then no wonder she's sick. The house is in disarray as well. Life begets life. They mirror one another with the exception of work bc she's never worked. He's always worked even though money doesn't keep breath in our lungs. I'm just saying. When I went to visit before my dad's diabetic ketoacidosis, coma, they were very unhappy about my light. They didn't want to be told the truth. My brother ended it for me by saying if I was at their home the two of them would argue. Dad told them to grow up and that I was younger but much smarter for caring enough to tell the truth. Some people don't accept it. And there are even some who betray you bc of it. It's very sad. I just found out about identity theft and its family who did this. My dad passed away five years ago and my mom passed away in early 2023. The family who are left are should be honest but not with me, with themselves. I already know what time it is.
I SLEEP ALOT TO AVOID THE ABUSE
This is the most relatable thing I've seen today 😢
Love you caroline ❤ you have helped me so much with your content. Especially your podcasts!
This is me for years but I finally got away in August 2023 and I'm slowly but surely recovering although I still feel this every day and it's so hard to try and explain this to others who makes me feel worse by thinking I'm procrastinating, being lazy, or that I don't want to be around or like anyone but all of that can't be any further than the truth
Wow! This is good!
omg...this almost made me cry..
I was busy trying to heal from a betrayal that tore me apart
I was busy trying to figure out how I'll get out of this horrible place I'm in.
thanks for this❤
One of my friendships still hasn’t fully healed and it’s been 2 years. I was so busy trying to survive.
Stay Focus. Know You are Valued.
Forty-five years of slow indoctrination, combined with put downs, name calling, lies and lies and lies, I am finally sucked dry of the fire that burnt so deep within, beat down, disabled and dependent. All I have left is the waiting.
Waiting for what?,Hope in God.He has the final say..not anyone else..
I appreciate your thought, but do not believe in a god. I'm 78, pretty much wheelchair bound the past three years. Too late to leave, just enjoying what I can as I wait to clock out. @@MattyNelson-rs3ik
I've had an 8 day migraine. 8 days and nights of pain. It hurts to sit up, it hurts to lie down. I can't sleep. I can't go shopping or cook. This began 2 weeks after leaving the narc. After 47 years under their thumb.
I almost went to a&e thinking it must be a stroke. But it's slowly going.
I realise now that after the initial euphoria of being free, then begins the difficult task of rebuilding me and my life. Most days I'm just in shock. Basic survival only ✔ ✅ 😢
Document, report and expose them....if you can. Society needs to become aware, understand and try to correct this. Awareness is the first step.
So relatable !
Happy healing peeps ❤