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Don’t rip ppl off , stop acting like u know stuff ; when your dressed, look like a hobo and charging weak ppl for absurd amounts of money! You should be ashamed of yourself!
Guys, I’m saying this for myself, and you as the viewer, do not let this video turn into another epiphany high. This guy is giving advice that most people would pay thousands of dollars for through therapy and personal trainers. Act like you spent $1000 to watch this video, pay attention to it. Stop watching self improvement that you won’t improve you, watch a video and then apply it immediately. Good luck.
Going back to instagram and 20 seconds later you'll forget that you've watched this video, neither the advice given in it. Please take this persons comment seriously because you exactly know what they're about. Insanity is to hope for change by doing something over and over again without changing something. If you're not able to do something besides beeing on the phone, at least grab a copy of alan watts 'become what you are' and change your life by spending 10$
Wrote this for myself, sharing here as cheat sheet to take action. How to identify what's running you 1. Ask questions like: “What is success to you”? for core beliefs 2. Ask shadow questions: 1. Why am I not good enough? 2. Why am I unlovable? 3. Why will I always be alone? 4. What am I hiding? 5. Why is success scary? 6. Why is life so hard? 3. Keep asking “why” on every answer and going deeper 4. Ask yourself what character of a movie are you - what are the pros and cons of that character? 5. Look at recurring patterns. What core beliefs could be behind these? 6. Catch it when you are triggered - what caused the triggering - feel it 7. Action - Trigger - Release - Repeat | Do stuff that triggers you. Be with the feeling and sensation and surrender to it. Accept if fully and surrender, let go 8. Guided meditations 9. Family - being with family will trigger you, use it and let go Thanks for the amazing content :)
The more I study trauma, the more I discover it creates our entire being, albeit on a completely subconscious level. Recognizing what parts of you, you do authentically or on auto pilot is key to starting your journey to self healing. Your ego is not your authentic self, your ego is a trauma response.
To everyone watching - this is basically his paid social skills course boiled down into an hour and a half. Crazy value for a free video on CZcams. Watch and learn!! Something they tell you on these free tour events is - imagine you paid $10,000 for this information, how would you treat it then?
This is absolute gold!! I went through a breakup a month ago and through the relationship my whole self esteem that I worked so hard for vanished. And I asked myself why, but now I see I've always approached the situation wrong. I still based my self worth on other people's opinions, I just got better at fitting in and gaslighting myself into thinking people like me even when they don't. Maybe now I can finally heal :) Thank you so much❤
feeling sucks.. but its alright too. i notice that when i run away from feeling bad, i became a jaded person, angry, bitter, and ungrateful. by opening up, and putting my heart up front, i became more peaceful, sometimes hurt, but blessed. I once heard someone said if there is one part of a human that if it is good, everything else becomes good, and that is heart.
Not everyone is willing to talk about their past scandal yet Julien is here talking about it, sharing what he learned from it and dissecting it into a lesson that everyone can learn from. God bless you Julien.
Thanks brother. One of the most value packed self help two hours I've consumed. And I've consumed years of content. Biggest takeaway for me, go towards it inside rather than this relentless pursuit to escape from it via self help. We end up like junkies looking for a the next fix. Sobering to realise I've still got a lot of work to do, thanks for all you share and the reframe. Respect 🙏
I showed up to school one day and a teacher told me I shouldn't be there, I was confused and decided to leave and get a friend to pick me up, a few moments later I received several threatening texts, turns out someone had made up a rumour that I sexual assaulted them, so I went into hiding for several years, your videos are helping me let go of my past, thank you.
If these things are happening to you, and you haven't done anything wrong, I am very sorry but you shouldn't just sit with your hands still. You should sue their asses for defamation or slander. Get some money, hire a lawyer, find the name of that person and don't contact them again. Just let the lawyer do the work. Defend yourself and don't allow anybody to walk all over you like that. If some bitch out there is making wild claims against your name, they should pay for it. I hear stories like that all the time, some people even went to prison with just false claims. I would assume you live in the West. Civilization has completely fallen over there. This is completely unacceptable and the worst thing is that people do nothing about it. What kind of message does this give? If all these wrong doings are happening and people just remain apathetic and do nothing then they will keep happening to the point of collapse... That's why society is going backwards, because bullies are not being dealt with. Bullies just belittle people because they are weak themselves. The only way for the bad guys to win in this world is when the good guys do nothing. That bitch is now going to do that again to some other guy and it may get serious... If you haven't done anything wrong then you should defend yourself. She must back herself up with evidence(footage, witnesses). You can't just walk around disrespecting people like that, making false claims without justifying anything. Defend yourself. If this is the society you live in where nobody listens to your side of the story and they just rush to label you as predator without any proof, then I truly pity you. You should get out, yesterday... If this was happening to a loved one, would you do nothing? Imagine that you become a father, would you allow that to happen to your son? Doing nothing has consequences as well.
@dragongrenade false sa claims are not all that common at all. You just have been listening to manosphere garbage for too long and it's skewed your perspective with a false narrative. You are not immune to propaganda.
I went to prison for 4 months for something that never happened, soon as i got out,back on the street highly visible and busking,keep your head high fella.
Go to court. Sue for defamation and seek damages for mental anguish. If you are truly innocent, then you have the right to destroy them for attempting to destroy you. ALL allegations should be brought to court. If they are simply thrown and never see court then they are little more than an attempted assassination and should be treated as an attempt on your life. People self-end from allegations. It ABSOLUTELY is an attempt on your life and you have the right and the DUTY to defend yourself. Find out who it is, and sue their entire genetic line back to the stone age. Today its you. Tomorrow it's someone who has a lot more to lose and will end things a lot messier than they went into it. Not fighting back is simply not an option. You only make yourself an easy target. And they're demonic with it too... If this doesn't get you, they'll wait until you have something actually worth taking and then "allege" again.
The part with the self help videos reminds me of 'tutorial hell' in something like programming, where you just keep watching tutorial videos instead of getting out there and try to code and build projects; where you do the REAL learning.
Julien, thank you, you led me the Letting Go technique and it has absolutely transformed my life. I do it all the time and I am so happy. My social anxiety has gone and my confidence is soaring. It has genuinely solved all my problems. Thank you. I am eternally grateful
Start feeling again and wanting to feel again. Start connecting with your heart again, feeling it again. You will get everything to let go of what you need to let go of automatically. No need for introspection and shadow question’s. You will feel the feeling staying in it and completely letting it be. And in the process you will get the info. You will understand deeply what is going on without even thinking consciously about it. It will come as a strange thought like: „i hate myself“ or „im so scared of that or this“. And you focus entirely on feelings and feel them all out. Be completely with them. This is the hardest thing I’ve ever done. But its starting a new life for you. I dont think it is bad to do introspection and shadow questions. I just don’t think it is absolutely necessary. Big thank you Julien for bringing this long video up. Much love from Germany
As a binger of self-help material for 20 years (brief moments of coping) I only just now stumbled upon Julien the other day at my weakest hour. Thank you Julien for saving my life.
i love you man, the "asking why" question technique is so useful too, i catch myself many times just sliding over onto saying "i don't know" instead of like really analyzing it, my brain is basically on autopilot to ignore all my problems or to shut them down, thanks to this i've been more aware of it, thanks for putting this out
I love you man, it is incredible that you have the honesty and courage to highlight the “tutorial hell” of the self-help genre. I have listened to soooo many people from different areas of self help genre but your content is probably the only one I find includes critical thinking. And also, I kinda feel like you probably have a laugh or two watching David Goggins videos when he is saying that he is not affected by people but does stuff all the time to record and get external validation.
That's some weird projection? I don't think David Goggins is necessarily just trying to get exterbal validation, nor do I think he is trying to get it from social media 😂
I'm currently on 35 minutes of the video. I knew the story of the "most hated man" and it felt so wrong. I could imagine this was a terrible misunderstanding and how painful must have been for you. Similar story happened to the great film director Lars von Trier when he said one word too much (being overhonest and sort of innocent person inside, surprisingly) and he got banned from Cannes and simply couldn't understand how he managed to upset people so much. I felt for him and for you too but I must say I admire your teachings twice as much since I heard that. Tony de Mello, zen masters, Tyler Durden (outfits! :) ) somehow mixed in one person - and when I watch yoir videos and try to implement your healing ways to my life I always feel heard and understood and yes, called out but you make a whole process so safe. Marvellous work, keep going, we need you. 🎉 thanks.
Hey man, never heard of you before a couple of videos ago, but damn your content seems to be what other coaches hide in premium gold programs. As a matter of fact this is the case. Now with all of this information the other coaches seem like plastic content against this just because of your commitment to helping people. I would like more videos on chronic problems with disciplin. I have felt my whole life like I walked against a force and now and then I can cope, but I get back to almost no routine with the things I really want to achieve and I am in dire need to move forward now. If you hear me on that Id appreciate content on this a ton. Keep on going man. You seem to have survived a living hell (you caused yourself) and turned all around. That is mad inspiration.
Depression is your best friend!....🤔 Depression is banging on your door, throwing rocks threw your windows, cutting off the water and electricity. It gets worse and worse until you fling open the door and screem WHAT!!!!??? Its you. Trying your best to tell you your house is on fire and you have to get out now before its too late. You will be homeless but you have you now. Now its walking down the street, the immediate danger is gone but the world is now open. The house is gone and you still cry because of relief not of grief.
Julien @ 1:30 minutes you talked about feeling it and facing it. In my earlier comment . You find the root cause of it. You go into it and face it you delete the folder . I have had this experience which is the unknown 🤔 For some the emotions is like to the breaking a dam 💔 😪 thee emotions are exploding bring in your consciousness awareness and riding it out! Deletes it from your mind no longer has anymore energy or baggage or chains to lock you up. It is empty. Be Happy Julien is also pointing out even though it's empty. You can fill it with new stuff ! This is why you keep being aware and asking those questions. Doing the work within yourself. I guess I'm commenting to help myself as well ! Thx
I got the best example; imagine your toilet is clogged (with traumas, core beliefs, and self sabotage), then life flushes with a sensation, and the toilet starts to fill up, to the point it start going all out on the floor, you start slipping, making you fall, hitting stuff, hurting yourself, doing deep breaths won't fix things, everything is still going out. What do you need to do to fix it? Get ready and unclog it, it's not easy, it's going to be unpleasent you are going to hate it, but once it finally gets unclog, once you let go, and the sensations starts to flow, everything feels better, of course you still need to clean the floor, but now there're no more sensations going out
You just keep hitting me in the forehead with sledgehammer after sledgehammer of realization. Truly grateful for turning me in the right direction. One of my favorite sayings- "You cannot reach your destination if you begin your journey facing the wrong direction". I feel like you just turned me, finally, after so long in the right direction. Thank you.
What's really interesting is not too long ago I heard something similar, and the solution given was to create an alter ego, completely separate from your current identity. I did this sort of meditation on my own where I disconnected from me and everything I perceived as my identity, and things have just started to happen around me. I've made decisions that benefit me but I would have otherwise not made. I am actually succeeding and not holding myself back what so ever, it has honestly saved me. Think Tyler Durden from fight club. Without killing my identity I just put it to the side and created another me that has no context and no past or previous preconceptions of how the world works and what I should and shouldn't do I just let him do his thing. Kinda wild how well it's worked for me actually.
This one was one of your best videos i have ever watched. No psychologist nor book guy that doesn't love it the way you do can give such insights into these concepts, not from the "Theoretical" perspective but from the POV of someone that has lived, experienced, and eventually transcended all those shortcomings. This should be taught at schools to say the least.
The thing that I resonated with the most, or liked it the most was how you drew that split between good and bad. And that we all try to make the good part bigger, but we actually need to accept the bad stuff and become whole again. For me, the "bad stuff" is actually laughter, my sense of humour, my creativity... I thought I "didn't have a soul" or personality. But I always had, I just ignore that part of me. It's the best thing I've seen on this channel.
I watched the full video, my top takeaway from it is that now time has come to pleasure myself. No seriously, I just found your channel recently and I am so 100% sure that listening to you and applying the techniques is going to change my life for the better, thank you. Greetings from a cow village in Switzerland.
Julien... you have helped me a lot. I entered university feeling like a queen, 0 stress, 100% freedom. I used to overthink so much about what others thought. You unblocked my old me and I thank you for that❤
Oh man!! Really love how you've released this in one single video. It helped a lot in connecting the dots and understanding the concept with depth. Love your presenting skills and the person you've become. Much love and gratitude to you 🌼
I feel like this is one of your best Videos. I think it really gets to the point of how to let go. And it's not really letting go. It's going through... I took many notes! Well done,thank you! 😢
Incredible courage Julien - really the work you’ve done on yourself to turn things around nothing short of incredible! TY again for all your teachings and yes I’ve begun applying all your techniques which for me, have been life changing. At the age of 50 nobody ever told me to question if I might be living a complete lie about myself - really you’ve helped me turn my perspective into a new paradigm… 🎉.
Wow, i was always wondering why you never mention what happened in 2014! Thanks for bringing that up, being so honest and describing your journey! Extremely inspiring!
The term "Epiphany High" has given me an epiphany high. I might be able to use that to give someone else an epiphany high, aka Dopamine Rush. But yeah, it's a good one, because i'm often guilty of consuming self improvement content instead of of going to sleep to be the best at work the next day. It's midnight and I'm on vacation in Miami, guess i should go to sleep to have a more pleasant day tomorrow, peace.
Few things I hear here are I learnt by myself the hard way, it helped a lot. There are many things he gave a lot of thought and experience too. Genuine stuff. Keep it up, the interviews are eye opening.
Julien. I have watched you progress rapidly over the past year in your ability to teach. Absolutely incredible video here. I cannot believe you are putting this out for free. I'm half way through and this is one of the best self help videos I've ever seen. Incredible work my friend. I hope one day to meet you (even though I feel like I already have) For anyone who needs help watch this and take all of this to heart.
I watched this video a couple months ago and applied only 1-2 things in my life and it changed everything for me. I'm eternally grateful. Ima come back to this every year
I am so grateful for this content which had been put up here for free. I mean this was such an eye opener u pointed out exactly wht im going thru and the anxiety i get from trying to make life perfect at every step. You're a real one man thank you so much julien . Huge respect❤
Thank you for decoding a lot of the language that we hear constantly but whose meaning change or get a bit lost. This really bridges a lot of the gaps.
By watching your videos, I not only learned a lot of things but also by seeing that you have put such a long video with so much important learning of yours for FREE, I learned how much helping people is important, cause I feel that you are helping me, and this makes me want to pay back and help you in the future if we have encountered each other. Thanks for your kindness. I wish you the best.
Thank you for this video that ties many of your teachings together. I have been diligently taking notes from each of your videos, and taking consistent action. This video helped me fill up the gaps in what I didn't understand about letting go and breaking of the invisible prison. After you discussed 'Files versus Folders', I realised that I wouldn't need to keep letting go of every single fear that triggers me, but instead aim to let go of the underlying fear/s that encompasses other fears beneath it. Looking forward to more! 🙏God bless.
You are amazing, Julien. This is the answer I’ve been looking for all of my life. I couldn’t even find this answer in religion to be honest with you. Thank you from the bottom of my heart, for simply and courageously being authentically you.
Thank you Julien. I cried some and “dared” to meet an old friend and felt a lot more relaxed. Thank you so much for the wonderful work!You look really whole 🎉
I love Julien's videos usually and even take notes but am I the only one that felt like the beginning is just a therapy session with an audience for Julien? I love you my man. I'm glad you're recovering from the traumatic events in your life just like the rest of us! ❤
Thank you Julien❤I really appreciate your good intentions. I have no wise words or promises that I am now moving my ass. I hope that I can get back to you one day as a product of your work and help.
I prayed for this. His videos started appearing after a night of desperate prayer. My new meditation mantra is “I let go and live in the now believing I am good enough and choose positive to create the reality I desire.” Julian is a gift from the universe. God Bless Him.
I have this feeling of leaving my comfort zone when i perform a song that i dont know by heart on a big karaoke stage in front of 300-500 people. i just go on stage and i dont know the lyrics , i read and go with the flow of the song, but then there is no connection with the crowd, no eye contact. When i perform a song that makes me emotional i feel like im going back to my most beautiful moments in life
Wow, the "core identity" point really clicked here. Looking at superpower movies like spiderman I use to always identify as the hero character. But given reality I am usually the version of the hero that is found in school without any fancy superpowers, and that leads to some social problems. These heros suck at social life and are bullied, but they have this secret power about them. For me that secret power was like working hard, but that also leads to a lot of stress. Now to figure out how to let go of this core identity
excellent and honest advice Julien. i’ve been actively working on myself the past decade +. daily strength/cardio workouts, hydration, clean diet, regular sleep, gratitude, and God. plus, everything you stated re core identity, core beliefs, and past trauma. ❤
Thank you so much. This is what really matters. This should be priority for everyone wanting success including me ❤️❤️ this is the most important video for me that I’ve watch from you. Thank you again from Sweden
@@dmt7674 I just see the value in his content and want to give back a lil bit 😊 I love the truth, dont like lies at all, and it feels like Julien is one of few that dare to even tell the truth
Thanks for the video! That this content is free is insane. Others would definitely ask payment for it. I resonate a lot with your story. My anxiety can also reach weird heights when I'm with family or around good friends. Sometimes I'm charismatic with strangers, sometimes I'm anxious around my parents. I just don't know what to think of it anymore.
Julian, for all the knowledge, guidance and advice. Although I align with a lot of things you discuss, along with helping others break through their obstacles. I have achieved great success with health, physique, finance, career and hobbies. Admittedly, as strong as I might appear, there are some deep rooted things of my past that no one else knows of that hinder me from specific things. The use of analogies and thorough discussion toward success is excellent. I still need to work on a lot myself and will continue to help others with such knowledge. Thank you sir!
Hey Julien, this video made me discover something. So, my goal is to start a business. I've procrastinated for 6 months, and I still do that. Without discipline and motivation, I find it hard to stay on top of my daily tasks. I doubt myself a lot and often find excuses. Following the trail of "whys," I found this: For me, success = stress. It involves a lot of responsibility, and I need to put myself out there. Why is that bad? - Because I feel weak, and I believe that only hardworking people can achieve success. That's why I don't feel deserving of it. Now, please tell me, what should I do? Should I accept the fact that I might be weak? What do you recommend?
If you always do what you've always done, then you will surely always get what you have always gotten. Meaning if you don't do anything nothing will change. So just make a change and do it. What is there to lose if you don't?
What free time man…I get what he is saying. Honestly when I watch self help I feel like shit after and try it for a a couple weeks in real life. Honestly, my mental and relationships have improved. Self confidence through the roof thanks to not just Julien but a few individuals on here. The conditioning virus took 6 months to get out and I still do work on others that I have found.
I really like your current content. I was a bit side-eye when I saw you were previously in the pick-up artist crowd. But this content is actually how young men can become more attractive in potential relationships. Perhaps its the internet culture these days, but a lot of young men come off as feral, unsocialised, and emotionally/spiritually undeveloped as Jung puts it. This is largely what gives women "the ick" as they say. Being real, authentic, and introspective are attractive qualities in a man because there is something real to connect with. Its largely unconscious ego-driven behaviour that makes healthy women feel unsafe and repelled by some men. I wish more men understood this instead of getting fixated on their maxilla placement and body fat %. Laid back, non-egocentric men are extremely attractive cos its genuine, self-derived confidence not false, hystrionic, and dependant on the external
You're a brilliant man Julien. Helped me screw a few relationships up many moons ago, then recently i came across the new you, I didn't have any faith at first just watched out of curiosity but this is the best self help content I've come across and your transformation has gave me refreshed hope for mine.
Book recommendations on the mindfulness method: Emotional Resilience - David Viscott The Six Pillars of Self Esteem - Nathaniel Branden Man and His Symbols - Carl Jung
Holy shit this resonates with me so much, like almost word for word. I've always been wondering why when I try or when I try to make progress why it doesn't feel like I'm getting anywhere and it's always me pulling myself away from success and what I want because of who I "think" I should be and not for who I actually am. Thank you for making this man! You're saving me!
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Julien, do you still go around pushing women's faces into your crotchety?
Don’t rip ppl off , stop acting like u know stuff ; when your dressed, look like a hobo and charging weak ppl for absurd amounts of money! You should be ashamed of yourself!
that you rock!
Not a damn thing
Guys, I’m saying this for myself, and you as the viewer, do not let this video turn into another epiphany high. This guy is giving advice that most people would pay thousands of dollars for through therapy and personal trainers. Act like you spent $1000 to watch this video, pay attention to it. Stop watching self improvement that you won’t improve you, watch a video and then apply it immediately. Good luck.
Going back to instagram and 20 seconds later you'll forget that you've watched this video, neither the advice given in it.
Please take this persons comment seriously because you exactly know what they're about.
Insanity is to hope for change by doing something over and over again without changing something.
If you're not able to do something besides beeing on the phone, at least grab a copy of alan watts 'become what you are' and change your life by spending 10$
So true. My trauma therapist says the same thing. She says it's like people who watch a an exercise video but never do the exercise.
im gonna rewatch it. its still sticks with me no matter how much i ignore it.
This video is a spark. Go get some damn firewood (do work) before the spark goes out. Make your fire burn bright. You got this, brothers.
Healthy Gamer is also very good but when applied and not ignored.
Wrote this for myself, sharing here as cheat sheet to take action.
How to identify what's running you
1. Ask questions like: “What is success to you”? for core beliefs
2. Ask shadow questions:
1. Why am I not good enough?
2. Why am I unlovable?
3. Why will I always be alone?
4. What am I hiding?
5. Why is success scary?
6. Why is life so hard?
3. Keep asking “why” on every answer and going deeper
4. Ask yourself what character of a movie are you - what are the pros and cons of that character?
5. Look at recurring patterns. What core beliefs could be behind these?
6. Catch it when you are triggered - what caused the triggering - feel it
7. Action - Trigger - Release - Repeat | Do stuff that triggers you. Be with the feeling and sensation and surrender to it. Accept if fully and surrender, let go
8. Guided meditations
9. Family - being with family will trigger you, use it and let go
Thanks for the amazing content :)
Thanks man! Cutting and pasting into my notes
Thanks for the amazing notes 👍👍👍
Thanks👏👏👍🏻
Thank you soo much Julien for putting such good and lengthy contents for free, i can't explain how much respect i have for you ❤️❤️🔥🔥
You're so welcome! Enjoy! 🙌
@@JulienHimselfnah Fr it should be illegal spreading so much lessons
This video just snapped me out of a horrible depression. Clearly the voice of love.
@@JulienHimselfthank you Julian 🇳🇬❤❤
@@highdesertbikerits done the same to me its amazing
The more I study trauma, the more I discover it creates our entire being, albeit on a completely subconscious level. Recognizing what parts of you, you do authentically or on auto pilot is key to starting your journey to self healing. Your ego is not your authentic self, your ego is a trauma response.
Great stuff
Hiiiii I know you. I have seen your comments on the nameless narcissist's channel. idk just wanted to tell you that 😅
@@farmcottage5404 I try to help both the narcissist and their victims. Both suffer from unhealed trauma...
@@fingsandstuff yesss. Your comments are actually really informative. :)
what a insight. Love that last bit. And how the core beliefs and identity are built around trauma.
To everyone watching - this is basically his paid social skills course boiled down into an hour and a half. Crazy value for a free video on CZcams. Watch and learn!! Something they tell you on these free tour events is - imagine you paid $10,000 for this information, how would you treat it then?
The Skin in the Game!!!!
Preciate it
This is absolute gold!! I went through a breakup a month ago and through the relationship my whole self esteem that I worked so hard for vanished. And I asked myself why, but now I see I've always approached the situation wrong. I still based my self worth on other people's opinions, I just got better at fitting in and gaslighting myself into thinking people like me even when they don't. Maybe now I can finally heal :) Thank you so much❤
feeling sucks.. but its alright too. i notice that when i run away from feeling bad, i became a jaded person, angry, bitter, and ungrateful. by opening up, and putting my heart up front, i became more peaceful, sometimes hurt, but blessed. I once heard someone said if there is one part of a human that if it is good, everything else becomes good, and that is heart.
Not everyone is willing to talk about their past scandal yet Julien is here talking about it, sharing what he learned from it and dissecting it into a lesson that everyone can learn from. God bless you Julien.
Thanks brother. One of the most value packed self help two hours I've consumed. And I've consumed years of content. Biggest takeaway for me, go towards it inside rather than this relentless pursuit to escape from it via self help. We end up like junkies looking for a the next fix. Sobering to realise I've still got a lot of work to do, thanks for all you share and the reframe. Respect 🙏
I showed up to school one day and a teacher told me I shouldn't be there, I was confused and decided to leave and get a friend to pick me up, a few moments later I received several threatening texts, turns out someone had made up a rumour that I sexual assaulted them, so I went into hiding for several years, your videos are helping me let go of my past, thank you.
stay strong champ
If these things are happening to you, and you haven't done anything wrong, I am very sorry but you shouldn't just sit with your hands still. You should sue their asses for defamation or slander. Get some money, hire a lawyer, find the name of that person and don't contact them again. Just let the lawyer do the work. Defend yourself and don't allow anybody to walk all over you like that. If some bitch out there is making wild claims against your name, they should pay for it.
I hear stories like that all the time, some people even went to prison with just false claims. I would assume you live in the West. Civilization has completely fallen over there.
This is completely unacceptable and the worst thing is that people do nothing about it. What kind of message does this give? If all these wrong doings are happening and people just remain apathetic and do nothing then they will keep happening to the point of collapse...
That's why society is going backwards, because bullies are not being dealt with. Bullies just belittle people because they are weak themselves.
The only way for the bad guys to win in this world is when the good guys do nothing.
That bitch is now going to do that again to some other guy and it may get serious...
If you haven't done anything wrong then you should defend yourself. She must back herself up with evidence(footage, witnesses). You can't just walk around disrespecting people like that, making false claims without justifying anything. Defend yourself. If this is the society you live in where nobody listens to your side of the story and they just rush to label you as predator without any proof, then I truly pity you. You should get out, yesterday...
If this was happening to a loved one, would you do nothing? Imagine that you become a father, would you allow that to happen to your son?
Doing nothing has consequences as well.
@dragongrenade false sa claims are not all that common at all. You just have been listening to manosphere garbage for too long and it's skewed your perspective with a false narrative. You are not immune to propaganda.
I went to prison for 4 months for something that never happened, soon as i got out,back on the street highly visible and busking,keep your head high fella.
Go to court. Sue for defamation and seek damages for mental anguish. If you are truly innocent, then you have the right to destroy them for attempting to destroy you. ALL allegations should be brought to court. If they are simply thrown and never see court then they are little more than an attempted assassination and should be treated as an attempt on your life. People self-end from allegations. It ABSOLUTELY is an attempt on your life and you have the right and the DUTY to defend yourself.
Find out who it is, and sue their entire genetic line back to the stone age. Today its you. Tomorrow it's someone who has a lot more to lose and will end things a lot messier than they went into it. Not fighting back is simply not an option. You only make yourself an easy target. And they're demonic with it too... If this doesn't get you, they'll wait until you have something actually worth taking and then "allege" again.
The part with the self help videos reminds me of 'tutorial hell' in something like programming, where you just keep watching tutorial videos instead of getting out there and try to code and build projects; where you do the REAL learning.
Yes! I like that saying "tutorial hell" - Very true!
I was thinking the same thing
Ever since my therapist introduced me to your videos, my life has changed. This was a masterclass - THANK YOU!
Julien, thank you, you led me the Letting Go technique and it has absolutely transformed my life. I do it all the time and I am so happy. My social anxiety has gone and my confidence is soaring. It has genuinely solved all my problems. Thank you. I am eternally grateful
Amazing to hear! Congrats on your progress!!
Start feeling again and wanting to feel again. Start connecting with your heart again, feeling it again. You will get everything to let go of what you need to let go of automatically. No need for introspection and shadow question’s. You will feel the feeling staying in it and completely letting it be. And in the process you will get the info. You will understand deeply what is going on without even thinking consciously about it. It will come as a strange thought like: „i hate myself“ or „im so scared of that or this“. And you focus entirely on feelings and feel them all out. Be completely with them. This is the hardest thing I’ve ever done. But its starting a new life for you. I dont think it is bad to do introspection and shadow questions. I just don’t think it is absolutely necessary. Big thank you Julien for bringing this long video up. Much love from Germany
As a binger of self-help material for 20 years (brief moments of coping) I only just now stumbled upon Julien the other day at my weakest hour. Thank you Julien for saving my life.
i love you man, the "asking why" question technique is so useful too, i catch myself many times just sliding over onto saying "i don't know" instead of like really analyzing it, my brain is basically on autopilot to ignore all my problems or to shut them down, thanks to this i've been more aware of it, thanks for putting this out
This guy is phenomenal
I love you man, it is incredible that you have the honesty and courage to highlight the “tutorial hell” of the self-help genre. I have listened to soooo many people from different areas of self help genre but your content is probably the only one I find includes critical thinking. And also, I kinda feel like you probably have a laugh or two watching David Goggins videos when he is saying that he is not affected by people but does stuff all the time to record and get external validation.
That's some weird projection? I don't think David Goggins is necessarily just trying to get exterbal validation, nor do I think he is trying to get it from social media 😂
I'm currently on 35 minutes of the video. I knew the story of the "most hated man" and it felt so wrong. I could imagine this was a terrible misunderstanding and how painful must have been for you. Similar story happened to the great film director Lars von Trier when he said one word too much (being overhonest and sort of innocent person inside, surprisingly) and he got banned from Cannes and simply couldn't understand how he managed to upset people so much. I felt for him and for you too but I must say I admire your teachings twice as much since I heard that. Tony de Mello, zen masters, Tyler Durden (outfits! :) ) somehow mixed in one person - and when I watch yoir videos and try to implement your healing ways to my life I always feel heard and understood and yes, called out but you make a whole process so safe. Marvellous work, keep going, we need you. 🎉 thanks.
Hey man, never heard of you before a couple of videos ago, but damn your content seems to be what other coaches hide in premium gold programs. As a matter of fact this is the case. Now with all of this information the other coaches seem like plastic content against this just because of your commitment to helping people. I would like more videos on chronic problems with disciplin. I have felt my whole life like I walked against a force and now and then I can cope, but I get back to almost no routine with the things I really want to achieve and I am in dire need to move forward now. If you hear me on that Id appreciate content on this a ton. Keep on going man. You seem to have survived a living hell (you caused yourself) and turned all around. That is mad inspiration.
Depression is your best friend!....🤔
Depression is banging on your door, throwing rocks threw your windows, cutting off the water and electricity. It gets worse and worse until you fling open the door and screem WHAT!!!!???
Its you. Trying your best to tell you your house is on fire and you have to get out now before its too late. You will be homeless but you have you now. Now its walking down the street, the immediate danger is gone but the world is now open. The house is gone and you still cry because of relief not of grief.
Thanks for this ❤
Julien
@ 1:30 minutes you talked about feeling it and facing it.
In my earlier comment . You find the root cause of it.
You go into it and face it you delete the folder .
I have had this experience which is the unknown 🤔
For some the emotions is like to the breaking a dam 💔 😪 thee emotions are exploding bring in your consciousness awareness and riding it out!
Deletes it from your mind no longer has anymore energy or baggage or chains to lock you up. It is empty.
Be Happy
Julien is also pointing out even though it's empty. You can fill it with new stuff !
This is why you keep being aware and asking those questions.
Doing the work within yourself.
I guess
I'm commenting to help myself as well !
Thx
I got the best example; imagine your toilet is clogged (with traumas, core beliefs, and self sabotage), then life flushes with a sensation, and the toilet starts to fill up, to the point it start going all out on the floor, you start slipping, making you fall, hitting stuff, hurting yourself, doing deep breaths won't fix things, everything is still going out. What do you need to do to fix it? Get ready and unclog it, it's not easy, it's going to be unpleasent you are going to hate it, but once it finally gets unclog, once you let go, and the sensations starts to flow, everything feels better, of course you still need to clean the floor, but now there're no more sensations going out
You just keep hitting me in the forehead with sledgehammer after sledgehammer of realization. Truly grateful for turning me in the right direction. One of my favorite sayings- "You cannot reach your destination if you begin your journey facing the wrong direction". I feel like you just turned me, finally, after so long in the right direction. Thank you.
What's really interesting is not too long ago I heard something similar, and the solution given was to create an alter ego, completely separate from your current identity. I did this sort of meditation on my own where I disconnected from me and everything I perceived as my identity, and things have just started to happen around me. I've made decisions that benefit me but I would have otherwise not made. I am actually succeeding and not holding myself back what so ever, it has honestly saved me. Think Tyler Durden from fight club. Without killing my identity I just put it to the side and created another me that has no context and no past or previous preconceptions of how the world works and what I should and shouldn't do I just let him do his thing. Kinda wild how well it's worked for me actually.
How did you create alter personality ?
Bro is indisputably, objectively special. He may say whatever he wants but I have no doubt he is a true beacon of mental guidance.
This one was one of your best videos i have ever watched. No psychologist nor book guy that doesn't love it the way you do can give such insights into these concepts, not from the "Theoretical" perspective but from the POV of someone that has lived, experienced, and eventually transcended all those shortcomings. This should be taught at schools to say the least.
Bro it's seriously one of the best video you have watched ? 80% of motivational video is shit.
i agree yes bro! u get the dewpth ehre and the art of letting go!
I love how clearly you break it down and weave in relatable stories
The thing that I resonated with the most, or liked it the most was how you drew that split between good and bad. And that we all try to make the good part bigger, but we actually need to accept the bad stuff and become whole again. For me, the "bad stuff" is actually laughter, my sense of humour, my creativity... I thought I "didn't have a soul" or personality. But I always had, I just ignore that part of me. It's the best thing I've seen on this channel.
I watched the full video, my top takeaway from it is that now time has come to pleasure myself. No seriously, I just found your channel recently and I am so 100% sure that listening to you and applying the techniques is going to change my life for the better, thank you. Greetings from a cow village in Switzerland.
Julien... you have helped me a lot. I entered university feeling like a queen, 0 stress, 100% freedom. I used to overthink so much about what others thought. You unblocked my old me and I thank you for that❤
Amazing to hear!! You're so welcome! 🙏
Oh man!! Really love how you've released this in one single video. It helped a lot in connecting the dots and understanding the concept with depth. Love your presenting skills and the person you've become. Much love and gratitude to you 🌼
I cant believe how much value you share for free. Thank you, Julien!
I feel like this is one of your best Videos.
I think it really gets to the point of how to let go. And it's not really letting go. It's going through... I took many notes! Well done,thank you! 😢
Incredible courage Julien - really the work you’ve done on yourself to turn things around nothing short of incredible! TY again for all your teachings and yes I’ve begun applying all your techniques which for me, have been life changing. At the age of 50 nobody ever told me to question if I might be living a complete lie about myself - really you’ve helped me turn my perspective into a new paradigm… 🎉.
Wow, i was always wondering why you never mention what happened in 2014! Thanks for bringing that up, being so honest and describing your journey! Extremely inspiring!
What happens in 2014 stays in 2014 😄
The term "Epiphany High" has given me an epiphany high. I might be able to use that to give someone else an epiphany high, aka Dopamine Rush. But yeah, it's a good one, because i'm often guilty of consuming self improvement content instead of of going to sleep to be the best at work the next day. It's midnight and I'm on vacation in Miami, guess i should go to sleep to have a more pleasant day tomorrow, peace.
Brilliant and so well explained, grounded fresh perspective to put into action, thank you
Few things I hear here are I learnt by myself the hard way, it helped a lot.
There are many things he gave a lot of thought and experience too.
Genuine stuff.
Keep it up, the interviews are eye opening.
This is the best summary of all your teachings and the letting go technique yet!
Thank you! Been working on this "manifesto" for quite some time... 🙏
Julien. I have watched you progress rapidly over the past year in your ability to teach. Absolutely incredible video here. I cannot believe you are putting this out for free. I'm half way through and this is one of the best self help videos I've ever seen. Incredible work my friend. I hope one day to meet you (even though I feel like I already have) For anyone who needs help watch this and take all of this to heart.
When a person is generous like he is, it’s the Divine working.
I am kinda surprised how he summarized my last 2-3 years in just a couple of sentences. Wish I learned these things before w
I watched this video a couple months ago and applied only 1-2 things in my life and it changed everything for me.
I'm eternally grateful. Ima come back to this every year
I am so grateful for this content which had been put up here for free. I mean this was such an eye opener u pointed out exactly wht im going thru and the anxiety i get from trying to make life perfect at every step. You're a real one man thank you so much julien . Huge respect❤
im starting to believe bro is on purpose dressing like a 7 year old to force us to focus harder
Now it all makes sense 😂
Oh man, everything you say is so on point! I recognized my crazy patterns clearly through your words! Thank you so much for sharing! ❤
Thank you for decoding a lot of the language that we hear constantly but whose meaning change or get a bit lost. This really bridges a lot of the gaps.
By watching your videos, I not only learned a lot of things but also by seeing that you have put such a long video with so much important learning of yours for FREE, I learned how much helping people is important, cause I feel that you are helping me, and this makes me want to pay back and help you in the future if we have encountered each other. Thanks for your kindness. I wish you the best.
Thank you for this video that ties many of your teachings together.
I have been diligently taking notes from each of your videos, and taking consistent action.
This video helped me fill up the gaps in what I didn't understand about letting go and breaking of the invisible prison.
After you discussed 'Files versus Folders', I realised that I wouldn't need to keep letting go of every single fear that triggers me, but instead aim to let go of the underlying fear/s that encompasses other fears beneath it.
Looking forward to more! 🙏God bless.
Why you have to be better than the person next to you? We are living on the same planet arent we? Stop comparing yourself to others.
Thanks Julien, biggest takeaway, thinking fuels it, feeling heals it! great content
Wow thats a great take
You are amazing, Julien. This is the answer I’ve been looking for all of my life. I couldn’t even find this answer in religion to be honest with you. Thank you from the bottom of my heart, for simply and courageously being authentically you.
Thank you Julien. I cried some and “dared” to meet an old friend and felt a lot more relaxed. Thank you so much for the wonderful work!You look really whole 🎉
I love Julien's videos usually and even take notes but am I the only one that felt like the beginning is just a therapy session with an audience for Julien? I love you my man. I'm glad you're recovering from the traumatic events in your life just like the rest of us! ❤
Thank you Julien❤I really appreciate your good intentions. I have no wise words or promises that I am now moving my ass. I hope that I can get back to you one day as a product of your work and help.
Im going thru the hell right now, you who know you know, stay strong💫💪
The amount of value in this video is out of proportion 👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽
I prayed for this.
His videos started appearing after a night of desperate prayer.
My new meditation mantra is “I let go and live in the now believing I am good enough and choose positive to create the reality I desire.”
Julian is a gift from the universe. God Bless Him.
I have this feeling of leaving my comfort zone when i perform a song that i dont know by heart on a big karaoke stage in front of 300-500 people.
i just go on stage and i dont know the lyrics , i read and go with the flow of the song, but then there is no connection with the crowd, no eye contact.
When i perform a song that makes me emotional i feel like im going back to my most beautiful moments in life
Wow, the "core identity" point really clicked here. Looking at superpower movies like spiderman I use to always identify as the hero character. But given reality I am usually the version of the hero that is found in school without any fancy superpowers, and that leads to some social problems. These heros suck at social life and are bullied, but they have this secret power about them. For me that secret power was like working hard, but that also leads to a lot of stress. Now to figure out how to let go of this core identity
youve jsust won half the battle brother..awarness yeah! second half tune into your feelings and triggers and practice not resisting , letting go
This is pure Gold🙏🏻I took some notes to implement this work. Thank you!🙏🏻❤️
Thank you Julien. I think this information and content is worth thousands of dollars.
Fuck ya...Great stuff. "quality of life has more to do with what you remove from it rather than add" simple brilliance. Damn.
excellent and honest advice Julien. i’ve been actively working on myself the past decade +. daily strength/cardio workouts, hydration, clean diet, regular sleep, gratitude, and God. plus, everything you stated re core identity, core beliefs, and past trauma. ❤
This would definitely be the most valuable video I 've ever watched. Thank u so so much.
Thank you so much. This is what really matters. This should be priority for everyone wanting success including me ❤️❤️ this is the most important video for me that I’ve watch from you. Thank you again from Sweden
I’ve seen your user more than I usually do on this platform it’s so weird
@@dmt7674 I just see the value in his content and want to give back a lil bit 😊 I love the truth, dont like lies at all, and it feels like Julien is one of few that dare to even tell the truth
@@dmt7674everything happens for a reason ❤
I'm in the group #2, it's been decades since I realized that
Sadly that's a lot of people... Keep watching to find the way out!
great mindset he’s got
Not sure if this applies to me specifically. I have a feeling my failures are down to lack of ability rather than self-sabotage.
When im ready to teach other people how to let go this is the first video im showing them🙌🏾🔥
Thanks for the video! That this content is free is insane. Others would definitely ask payment for it.
I resonate a lot with your story. My anxiety can also reach weird heights when I'm with family or around good friends. Sometimes I'm charismatic with strangers, sometimes I'm anxious around my parents. I just don't know what to think of it anymore.
You're welcome! Let me know if you'd like my help letting go of that anxiety: application.julienhimself.com/?l=xpnjwuap7b
Julian, for all the knowledge, guidance and advice. Although I align with a lot of things you discuss, along with helping others break through their obstacles.
I have achieved great success with health, physique, finance, career and hobbies. Admittedly, as strong as I might appear, there are some deep rooted things of my past that no one else knows of that hinder me from specific things. The use of analogies and thorough discussion toward success is excellent. I still need to work on a lot myself and will continue to help others with such knowledge. Thank you sir!
The most important video on your channel
Hey Julien, this video made me discover something.
So, my goal is to start a business. I've procrastinated for 6 months, and I still do that. Without discipline and motivation, I find it hard to stay on top of my daily tasks. I doubt myself a lot and often find excuses.
Following the trail of "whys," I found this:
For me, success = stress. It involves a lot of responsibility, and I need to put myself out there.
Why is that bad? - Because I feel weak, and I believe that only hardworking people can achieve success.
That's why I don't feel deserving of it.
Now, please tell me, what should I do? Should I accept the fact that I might be weak? What do you recommend?
If you always do what you've always done, then you will surely always get what you have always gotten. Meaning if you don't do anything nothing will change. So just make a change and do it. What is there to lose if you don't?
@@Shamefulroleplay!
What free time man…I get what he is saying. Honestly when I watch self help I feel like shit after and try it for a a couple weeks in real life. Honestly, my mental and relationships have improved. Self confidence through the roof thanks to not just Julien but a few individuals on here. The conditioning virus took 6 months to get out and I still do work on others that I have found.
Protect this man at all costs, real light worker! ❤️
Wow Julien, this may be one of the best ones yet. This video right here is all you really need.
facts yes yo!
You might just be the help and guidance I need to recover. Thank you for giving this video for free, I appreciate every second of it.
This whole speech / keynote was incredible. So much valuable information. Amazing!
I really like your current content. I was a bit side-eye when I saw you were previously in the pick-up artist crowd. But this content is actually how young men can become more attractive in potential relationships. Perhaps its the internet culture these days, but a lot of young men come off as feral, unsocialised, and emotionally/spiritually undeveloped as Jung puts it. This is largely what gives women "the ick" as they say. Being real, authentic, and introspective are attractive qualities in a man because there is something real to connect with. Its largely unconscious ego-driven behaviour that makes healthy women feel unsafe and repelled by some men. I wish more men understood this instead of getting fixated on their maxilla placement and body fat %. Laid back, non-egocentric men are extremely attractive cos its genuine, self-derived confidence not false, hystrionic, and dependant on the external
This is one epiphany moment too many for me, Julien. Absolute gold! If I don't work on myself after watching this, I will never pardon myself.
You're a brilliant man Julien. Helped me screw a few relationships up many moons ago, then recently i came across the new you, I didn't have any faith at first just watched out of curiosity but this is the best self help content I've come across and your transformation has gave me refreshed hope for mine.
Book recommendations on the mindfulness method:
Emotional Resilience - David Viscott
The Six Pillars of Self Esteem - Nathaniel Branden
Man and His Symbols - Carl Jung
"Thinking feeds it, feeling heals it"
This video is GOLD, thank you Julian!
Mindblowing when we are ready to accept this wisdom 😳
I teach others what you do! Love your stuff, has helped me alot.
Holy shit this resonates with me so much, like almost word for word. I've always been wondering why when I try or when I try to make progress why it doesn't feel like I'm getting anywhere and it's always me pulling myself away from success and what I want because of who I "think" I should be and not for who I actually am. Thank you for making this man! You're saving me!
Julien reminds me of an Earnest Hemingway. One of those get out and brave it, face it, -be honest, wrestle it down, conquer it types of people. Badass
I feel so called out, haha.. I binge watch all those self-improvement videos and I wondered why.. This video is truly gold
I'm guilty af of the epiphany high. I threw out all my weed stuff today. Taking the next step forward in my evolution. Going for a jog now.
Please put more of these 1hr plus videos out, they're a great watch!
This is the last self help video I'll ever watch. I watch so many but this one had me question everything. This software is it.
I have seen few people with high self discipline who wins those guards, but it's always takes a high price on their mental health.
Thinking fuels it.
Feeling heals it.
Action trigger release repeat.
This lengthy content is so necessary! Thank you Julien!
You're so welcome! Glad there's still an interest in longer, and more nuanced videos!
Me: I’m hungry
New thinking: why
Me: I feel like I’m not good enough
Me: I’m doing my best ( avoids eating )
Thanks Julien
Hopefully I have watched my last Julien video. Much gratitude for your work! Thank you 🙏🏽
The book "You Suck" by Paulie Amigo actually helped me this month get real about my situation and see things more realistically.