So much food. My boy isn’t quite 13 yet and I already can’t keep him full! …I have three more coming up behind him. Pray for my budget in this economy 😂
@@chelseamatchett Do a lot of cooking. Have them help. I would get only a little help but something every night. Almost 30, they both cook for themselves. And, they've discovered the cost savings. Good luck.
This is great advice! I have two boys 13 & 16… was shopping the other day and I asked my 16 year old what he thought about a shirt I was looking at. He says mom I have no opinion. I’m just here to be your body guard 😂 sweetest thing!! ❤
When I was a teenager I went with my mother everywhere for the same reasons. I’m 23 years old now and I still drive over to her house to go with her when she goes out lol. Boys will be boys.
The world is not gonna treat you with kindness just because of your cute little face. You want something? You work for it, cause the only things that fall from the sky are the rain, snow and the pigeon's poop - My mom Extra points if she gave you some healthy doses of the belt, but hey, latina moms will beat you up just for existing. I miss her so much.!
My oldest is 17 years & I swear he got there in the blink of an eye. 😭 Nick's right (per usual), but you don't have to wait til he's a teen to make him feel strong & capable. I started when my boys were as young as yours. I'd start to lift a laundry basket & grunt & say it's too heavy for me to lift on my own & ask them to help. Then when they helped me get it to the washing machine, I'd, "Whew! I couldn'thave done it without you guys!" & we'd take turns throwing clothes in (they still kid me to this day that I, "throw like a momma"). 😊 I cooked a lot when they were little & always insisted that I needed their help, washing/rinsing dishes, holding the dustpan, throwing something in the trash. I loved playing music, dancing around the kitchen with 'em as WE cooked. They learned to dance standing on my feet, same as I learned standing on my Daddy's. It wasn't just important to me for them to become men, but before them to become gentleMEN. I'll always remember my oldest, at maybe 4, coming up to me, formally bowing, & asking, "May I have this dance?" ❤ It'll take twice as long to complete a task with your lil man's help... & you'll NEVER regret giving that time. 17 years from now aka "tomorrow," you'll look back & it won't be any 1 moment or piece of advice that you value most. It'll be a million little moments that God gave you & you were wise enough to take. Thanks for giving me the time to reflect on all those moments with a smile & a tear in my eye (just a lil one - I'm not crying - you are!).😅
Thank you for this! Im a single mom raising a 12 yr old boy. It's difficult to go against my instinct which is to care, nurture and fix things. Single moms need more advice like this, so thank you
as an 18 yr old guy i can confirm i love doing things like that for my mom. it makes her feel cared for and makes me happy that i'm able to help with stuff.
As an older teen boy, I can say that this is amazing advice. My mother did this, and I didn’t realize it then, but it had the exact effects that he just described.
I raised 6 sons by myself and of necessity asked them to do things like carry heavy things, put things together that required using tools.....They loved it and even if we had a slightly crooked shelf, they were proud of doing "manly" things to help mom. My baby is 45 now and all are good husbands and fathers.
Such good advice. Mom of 7 boys here. For me, I had realize that boys shift at some point. They stop looking to their mother to see how to be, and then they look at their father to learn how to become a strong man. Im grateful to have had a dad at home. Make sure they have a strong man in their lives.
Tell other women if they do not have a manly man that protects women and children then they need to step it up. Get your Father to help if he is a manly person. There is an extreme shortage of manly males and far too many *COWARDS* and children need all the help they can get. Tell your lady friends to live by the rules of Jesus Christ. Matthew, Mark, Luke and John in the Bible.
Yes no doubt, the biggest role model for boys is their father (typically). So its not that they dont love their mom etc, Its just they naturally are going to look to their dad more often. And girls will look more to their mother. I hate it that so many parents coward out of raising their children. Lots of great parents out there, but lots of terrible parents too.
As a teenager, I remember seeing my mother fall while she was pregnant with my youngest brother, never before or since have I been so concerned for someone's wellbeing. Sons want to do right by their mothers, it's difficult when they don't have the right direction. This man gives very wise advice. Thank Adonai for men like him.
I was a single mom. My son was raised with responsibilities and no pampering. He worked and earned his way. He went into the Air Force and is out now, a great human being I am proud of.
My father left us when I was young, and a few years latter filed for a divorce. In my teenage years this is exactly what my mother did. My aunts and Uncles were also part of it. Worked just like you are saying. Thanks for spreading the word.
If I may offer a comment...pls ask your son's what they THINK about something, not what do they FEEL. It's ok to feel, but most men, young or old, will tell you what they THINK before they will tell you what they FEEL. ALSO, if at all possible, ask the question then say when you decide,/figure it out, tell me. Or come back to the question in a couple of hours if possible. Men like to have TIME to sort things out, not bc they're slow or stupid, but bc they tend to be more analytical simply bc they're guys🤷. I only WISH I had known this EARLY ON. Would have saved me NUMEROUS headaches and tons of frustration. They're BIG on RESPECT, so show common everyday respect to them, not scolding/belittling/shaming them IN THE PRESENCE of their peers/girlfriends/teammates/esteemed family members. Keep your tone firm, but respectful. It cuts DEEP in a man/ boy when he is disrespected by his Mother/wife/girlfriend. Think of it as disabling as kryptonite to Superman. May take a little practice to polish the technique, but you will raise fine, confident, able young men as a result.
.....also, if they tell you they are thinking about NOTHING, they REALLY ARE! Men have the innate ability to think about NOTHING! Women simply do not have the knack for this. I STILL don't understand this one. So if they say nothing, take it at face value. Will save you numerous headaches
As a single mom with two boys, though my middle boy is autistic, I did that very thing. Now, my eldest son is my protective, strong and capable protector. He's 31, and I guess I did a pretty good job.😏 And both my boys protect their baby sister, though she sometimes wishes they'd back off a bit😅 At 27, she says she can protect herself, thank you very much. Guess I did okay with her, too.😊
I love the videos! The last line on this one though, almost made me cry. I’m a HS teacher and I see this in our young men a lot. So many just want to help and not a one would ever let anyone harm me at school. (Which is, unfortunately, a real concern for teachers.) Thank you for fighting the good fight. You give others strength.
Amen to that. I had a son and adopted my two nephews when my sister passed, I raised all three the same, I never intended on raising boys, my intention all along was to raise three men! Well, I have two with doctorates and I have one that chose to be a forest ranger…. All three are married, own their own homes already and one has children. They have paid off their homes before they were 40! I’m impressed with all three
My 16 yr old is definitely now stronger then momma and knows it and has now taken it upon himself to carry or lift things Im struggling with. He'll be like here mom ill ger it. :) so sweet!
This is also true for girls. My mum did this with me. It led to me being able to confidently handle situations that girls my age usually felt scared to do. It also made me appreciate others who did hard work and never take things for granted.
You are spot on. He went from my snuggle bug to a 6'2" 15 yr old super hero. He absolutely needs to be needed. I stand down and step back. He is an absolute gem. My future daughter in law will not be disappointed.
@@tariblevins955 that's nice your grandma had her family around at the end when you get older you understand that the is nothing more special then having you family around you can keep all the fancy crap it's family meals and doing fun stuff together that's the best
I thaught they were all clowns too, until I watched the long form interview that Vivek did on the Shawn Ryan show. First time I've ever heard a candidate actually lay out their plans in detail...and not just in 3 minute soundbites, but 3 hours totally unscripted.
@@nessavee2205 His Stossel interview and his long interview with Tim Pool had the same effect on me. I'm voting Vivek in the primary. He's the best candidate right now, hands down. He also did a short interview with Colion Noir about his views on the 2A that was interesting and further cemented my choice. If Nick ever runs for POTUS, I'll definitely be voting for him.
I laughed at the dog thing, it’s my 2.5 year old boys little job to yell at the dogs when they’re fighting. His little “Dixie be nice!” Is weirdly authoritative
Wow!! Last night I needed his height and he was all about it and came to my rescue. My son's dad passed away when he was 13. I've done the complete opposite of this and tried to be as sweet and motherly as I absolutely can. While hearing what you said, all I could think about is how his father would do exactly what you've described. This makes so much sense and I thank you for this!! Probably the best advice I could have ever gotten and 100% what I needed. Thank you
As a female I remember my dad teaching my brothers the same thing. And no cursing around females . When men gathered to look at a vehicle or work on one with my brothers , the girls went in the house to avoid the man talk so to speak. I must say I had 2 amazing , faithful , protective, and good men. They never cheated on their wives and always protected their families. As teenagers they protected me and my sister and we respected their judgement. This advice helps make good men out of them.
Let them learn to be leaders, If you are going to help, give them hand warmers to give out to the younger kids when they need them. Teach not to be bully's but to carefully help the younger siblings and watch out for them. They will most likely do the right things.
Praise to all the strong moms out there. Don't forget, that adults are constantly learning along side their kids. Really take time to understand each boy individually. They are going to find out things about themselves, and the more you know, the more you can relate, and the more of a connection there is. I never talked with my parents until after college, but they never really attempted to past the basic questions. We don't like basic questions😂😂 or at least I don't.
IF they've got uncles and cousins who are older,let them teach,OFTEN,MY UNCLE HALF RAISED ME,I HAVE NO POLICE RECORD,MEN RAISE MEN,sorry for your loss,EVERYTHING IS GOING TO WORK OUT,DON'T FRET MOM
Thank you for saying this because I didn't realize I was doing some of these things already. I'm here when they want to talk, but they both like feeling like they're needed and actually protecting me when I ask for help. I've learned my oldest especially is an "actions show love" kind of boy, and these simple things help him feel like he's expressing that by being helpful and will feel needed and appreciated by doing them.💙
@@cosmickinks I don't know why every time someone says "keep a good father around" or something similar there is always at least person to type something like what you did. Bizarre to me
@@CedanyTheAlaskan if you knew about the huge culture of ppl who blame women who leave bad fathers for all of society's problems, it wouldn't seem bizarre at all.
True, my mum got me to help by making the furniture and moving it, carry the heavy shopping as we didn't have a car or painting the house. I loved doing those things as it felt like i was making a difference in the day to day difficulties and helping support someone whos always supported me.
That's true! My grandad left when my dad and brother were in their teens and they laughed about how she always had them working or doing things. But they enjoyed doing it. When she was ill and dying, they were devoted to her and did everything for her.
I'm sorry for your loss. Lost my dad at an early age. Say calm, carry on. Don't run from the challenges, embrace them. You'll end up strong and capable whille your classmates grow up lazy. 😮 The adventure of your life awaits you!
@@HeatGeek1 haha thanks! Im sorry for yours as well! I hope he’s resting easy! I’m still young but almost done moving on to adulthood and I’m saddened my mother couldn’t watch my graduations but i know she would be happy to hear i didn’t give up so thats what i strive for. Thank you kind internet stranger!!
I’m a preK teacher. One particular boy I had was a real trouble maker…. He was always picking on the other kids and when ever he got in trouble he’d just pull out BIG fake tears! Well, I started giving him jobs that were more masculine! Like picking up the big “heavy” cots and dragging them over to me to put onto the pile after nap time. Every time he did this job I’d praise him for how strong and helpful he was! And I’d talk to him about how men are supposed to use their strength to help others. Mind you, he was only four! He matured so much after I started doing that with him! He stopped getting in trouble everyday and he had more friends! 😊 So don’t wait until they’re big to start doing this with boys! I think this one boy I will always miss the most!
Thank you for this advice! I know my boys love responsibility and proving they can do a hard task. I like these tangible things that go beyond having them do chores - especially nurturing the protector side of them.
I was a single mother raising a son. Every time he walked out the door , I would ask him if he could call and check on me to see if I was ok. This made him feel like he was caring for me but it really was a way for me to know where he was and what he was doing. This was before cell phones and so it worked. I knew where he was at all time 😊
Boy mom here! This is SO right on. And I’ll add, the more capable and strong they feel, the more they will do without you having to ask. My boy is such a good hearted blessing to me.
I LOVE your videos - like all of them. But this one I think I love the most. My oldest (1/7) is turning 17 this week. I am so proud of him. I had someone tell me something very similar when I was a young mother and it is true! It works ❤
Yes to the first part, no to the second. Positive reinforcement is FREQUENTLY a bad thing when applied to things that should not be praised, such as mediocrity or falsehood. You definitely want to encourage your kids, but it's not an indiscriminately good thing to praise them. You have to exercise caution and use it properly just like any other tool.
Yes yes yes! My 13 year old son has been lifting weights and I use every opportunity to ask his help lifting heavy things or other tasks that require strength - love how eager he is to put those muscles to use!
Great advice, I was honored with being mom and dad, thankfully it worked out and he’s a freshman at Embry Riddle and started ground school this semester. I messed up a lot as a parent, nobody is perfect, but never gave up. The sacrifice and challenges were a blessing in disguise.
Honestly , thank you . I grew up without a nice father figure, lots of times I don’t know how to act in life , and I’m a fricking grown adult now . If one day I have a kid , I will remember this advice . Thanks again .
What is way more important is that the mother DOES NOT belittle or emasculate them (or male bash in general). Either in private or in front of others. Most definitely not in front of their peers.
Absolutely! Angry mothers may have no idea how much they undermine their sons' progress into adulthood by taking out their frustrations and disappointments on their boys--- that they attribute to their husband or to men in general.
Bro my son is only 16 months and he already flexes for me we say to him “show me your muscles” and he flexes and gets all intense..for like 5 seconds. It’s cute yet him not wanting to be babied as a literal baby.
This is so true. My son was diagnosed with Asperger’s Syndrome when he was two. I did a lot of research as to how to meet his needs, and at home I gave him tasks to help out. As he grew older I involved him in projects and he learned to build things, change tires, and heavy lifting. He is still living with me as an adult but is working full time and is planning to find his own place. This advice works with boys of all mental capacities!
I love hearing this. I have 3 boys as a single mom and they definitely seem to naturally want to take on projects and stuff to help me. Its very sweet. ❤
I'm a single mum of 2 teenage boys, both are well grounded, helpful and loving. Teach your kids right from a young age and by the time they are teenagers they will be right with the world.
I love this! I've been training my sons to do this since they were preteen. Now they are tall, strong and handsome 17 y/o who have stepped up in all of those areas you pointed out in this video. They are filling in that void their father left since being deployed. I feel very confident that the house has been hatched down correctly at the end of the day because of the courage that has arisen in the breast of my young men.
Yes, also keep lots of food in the house. They need food .
Especially if you have two of them, and they’re both swimmers, which my brother and I both were.
@@schumi246 or are 6'2, 6', 6'1" and 6'6"....anyone else do second dinner ?
Don't wrestle in my house! Take it outside boys!
So much food. My boy isn’t quite 13 yet and I already can’t keep him full! …I have three more coming up behind him. Pray for my budget in this economy 😂
@@chelseamatchett does he do any sports??
@@chelseamatchett Do a lot of cooking. Have them help. I would get only a little help but something every night. Almost 30, they both cook for themselves. And, they've discovered the cost savings. Good luck.
"Thinks back to all the times my Dad asked me to lock up at night because he worked nights....", Can confirm this is excellent advice.
No snark, no condescension, just some good ideas based on a clear understanding. More like this please.
...."Thank you for all the times you Protected them...." I teared up. Such a perfect analogy and response.
This is great advice! I have two boys 13 & 16… was shopping the other day and I asked my 16 year old what he thought about a shirt I was looking at. He says mom I have no opinion. I’m just here to be your body guard 😂 sweetest thing!! ❤
Oh my gosh that's adorable. I hope my boys are like that at that age. They're just 2 and 6
That's so sweet! ❤❤❤
When I was a teenager I went with my mother everywhere for the same reasons. I’m 23 years old now and I still drive over to her house to go with her when she goes out lol. Boys will be boys.
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@@kylecounter9271that’s sweet 😊
My son's only 17 months old and I'm already taking notes!
So... did he check the locks?
SMART WOMAN …
YOU WILL MAKE A GREAT MOM …
BLESSED BE 🌹🙏🌹
*WATCH YOUR MOUTH WITH THAT “only” TALK!*
Today he’s 17 months.
“Tomorrow”, he’ll be 17 years!
Ask me how I know…
(Sadly, years fly by all to fast!)
The world is not gonna treat you with kindness just because of your cute little face. You want something? You work for it, cause the only things that fall from the sky are the rain, snow and the pigeon's poop - My mom
Extra points if she gave you some healthy doses of the belt, but hey, latina moms will beat you up just for existing. I miss her so much.!
My oldest is 17 years & I swear he got there in the blink of an eye. 😭
Nick's right (per usual), but you don't have to wait til he's a teen to make him feel strong & capable.
I started when my boys were as young as yours.
I'd start to lift a laundry basket & grunt & say it's too heavy for me to lift on my own & ask them to help.
Then when they helped me get it to the washing machine, I'd, "Whew! I couldn'thave done it without you guys!" & we'd take turns throwing clothes in (they still kid me to this day that I, "throw like a momma"). 😊
I cooked a lot when they were little & always insisted that I needed their help, washing/rinsing dishes, holding the dustpan, throwing something in the trash.
I loved playing music, dancing around the kitchen with 'em as WE cooked. They learned to dance standing on my feet, same as I learned standing on my Daddy's.
It wasn't just important to me for them to become men, but before them to become gentleMEN.
I'll always remember my oldest, at maybe 4, coming up to me, formally bowing, & asking, "May I have this dance?" ❤
It'll take twice as long to complete a task with your lil man's help...
& you'll NEVER regret giving that time.
17 years from now aka "tomorrow," you'll look back & it won't be any 1 moment or piece of advice that you value most.
It'll be a million little moments that God gave you & you were wise enough to take.
Thanks for giving me the time to reflect on all those moments with a smile & a tear in my eye (just a lil one - I'm not crying - you are!).😅
Thank you for this! Im a single mom raising a 12 yr old boy. It's difficult to go against my instinct which is to care, nurture and fix things. Single moms need more advice like this, so thank you
Me too, single mom of a 13 yr old
as an 18 yr old guy i can confirm i love doing things like that for my mom. it makes her feel cared for and makes me happy that i'm able to help with stuff.
same here
My 16 yr old boy helped his alcoholic "dad" to make mom homeless. I guess because he wanted to get high and drink and mom didn't approve
As an older teen boy, I can say that this is amazing advice. My mother did this, and I didn’t realize it then, but it had the exact effects that he just described.
BLESSED BE 🌹🙏🌹
Well done young man
Go hug your mom if you can. ❤
You seem very mature and responsible. It’s obvious in your writing. ❤
You are blessed to recognize your mom is awesome! You are obviously a huge blessing to your mom as well. Thank God for young men like you!!!
I raised 6 sons by myself and of necessity asked them to do things like carry heavy things, put things together that required using tools.....They loved it and even if we had a slightly crooked shelf, they were proud of doing "manly" things to help mom. My baby is 45 now and all are good husbands and fathers.
It sounds like they had a great mom!
Good advice and what a good Mom!
Great Job mama bear!
Can't even imagine how difficult that must have been alone! Great job mom!
Exactly. same here.
This is literally the best father on the whole of the internet🥲
I'm a fatherless man and this is amazing to see and hear. Good job God bless
Me too, I now have a toddler and I want to bring him up just as well as my mum did
Such good advice. Mom of 7 boys here. For me, I had realize that boys shift at some point. They stop looking to their mother to see how to be, and then they look at their father to learn how to become a strong man.
Im grateful to have had a dad at home. Make sure they have a strong man in their lives.
AMEN!
Thank you👍👍
Tell other women if they do not have a manly man that protects women and children then they need to step it up. Get your Father to help if he is a manly person. There is an extreme shortage of manly males and far too many *COWARDS* and children need all the help they can get. Tell your lady friends to live by the rules of Jesus Christ. Matthew, Mark, Luke and John in the Bible.
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Yes no doubt, the biggest role model for boys is their father (typically). So its not that they dont love their mom etc, Its just they naturally are going to look to their dad more often. And girls will look more to their mother. I hate it that so many parents coward out of raising their children. Lots of great parents out there, but lots of terrible parents too.
“They want to feel strong and capable” that hit me hard because it’s 100% true
Same here dude, hit so hard it hurts
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Of a mother of 3 sons all above 20 I totally agree this is spot on and works in the mother’s favour 💯
Did this with my sons and I loved the big smile they got lifting something heavy or up high for mom. Love your channel. Best regards
As a teenager, I remember seeing my mother fall while she was pregnant with my youngest brother, never before or since have I been so concerned for someone's wellbeing.
Sons want to do right by their mothers, it's difficult when they don't have the right direction.
This man gives very wise advice.
Thank Adonai for men like him.
God bless.
I was a single mom. My son was raised with responsibilities and no pampering. He worked and earned his way. He went into the Air Force and is out now, a great human being I am proud of.
What happened to his father?
Good job mom!!!!
Well done, mum!
You've definitely beaten the odds with statistics. I salute you
@@Tse3581That's a quite a personal question. Why would you ask that?
Dude, you are now my favorite YT personality. New Dad here and I am glad to know there are Dads like you out there to help
Even when he doesn’t have something funny and sarcastic to say he is an absolute joy to listen too
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My father left us when I was young, and a few years latter filed for a divorce. In my teenage years this is exactly what my mother did. My aunts and Uncles were also part of it. Worked just like you are saying. Thanks for spreading the word.
As a mother of two little boys, I’m listening and totally taking notes.
Same
Smart women for listening..
The dumb men and women do most of the talking..
If I may offer a comment...pls ask your son's what they THINK about something, not what do they FEEL. It's ok to feel, but most men, young or old, will tell you what they THINK before they will tell you what they FEEL. ALSO, if at all possible, ask the question then say when you decide,/figure it out, tell me. Or come back to the question in a couple of hours if possible. Men like to have TIME to sort things out, not bc they're slow or stupid, but bc they tend to be more analytical simply bc they're guys🤷. I only WISH I had known this EARLY ON. Would have saved me NUMEROUS headaches and tons of frustration. They're BIG on RESPECT, so show common everyday respect to them, not scolding/belittling/shaming them IN THE PRESENCE of their peers/girlfriends/teammates/esteemed family members. Keep your tone firm, but respectful. It cuts DEEP in a man/ boy when he is disrespected by his Mother/wife/girlfriend. Think of it as disabling as kryptonite to Superman. May take a little practice to polish the technique, but you will raise fine, confident, able young men as a result.
.....also, if they tell you they are thinking about NOTHING, they REALLY ARE! Men have the innate ability to think about NOTHING! Women simply do not have the knack for this. I STILL don't understand this one. So if they say nothing, take it at face value. Will save you numerous headaches
As a single mom with two boys, though my middle boy is autistic, I did that very thing. Now, my eldest son is my protective, strong and capable protector. He's 31, and I guess I did a pretty good job.😏 And both my boys protect their baby sister, though she sometimes wishes they'd back off a bit😅 At 27, she says she can protect herself, thank you very much. Guess I did okay with her, too.😊
I'm not even a parent, but I find these shorts are amazing advice for those who needs it.
I love the videos! The last line on this one though, almost made me cry. I’m a HS teacher and I see this in our young men a lot. So many just want to help and not a one would ever let anyone harm me at school. (Which is, unfortunately, a real concern for teachers.) Thank you for fighting the good fight. You give others strength.
Amen to that. I had a son and adopted my two nephews when my sister passed, I raised all three the same, I never intended on raising boys, my intention all along was to raise three men! Well, I have two with doctorates and I have one that chose to be a forest ranger…. All three are married, own their own homes already and one has children. They have paid off their homes before they were 40! I’m impressed with all three
My 16 yr old is definitely now stronger then momma and knows it and has now taken it upon himself to carry or lift things Im struggling with. He'll be like here mom ill ger it. :) so sweet!
Aww, sounds like a good kid
@tayh.6235 yes he really is. Can't be more proud of him.
Get him to piggy back you 😂😂 so fun & bonding
This is also true for girls. My mum did this with me. It led to me being able to confidently handle situations that girls my age usually felt scared to do. It also made me appreciate others who did hard work and never take things for granted.
Also teach them to do their own laundry... Trust me! You do NOT want to be picking that stuff up off the floor! 🤣 🤣 🤣
You are spot on. He went from my snuggle bug to a 6'2" 15 yr old super hero. He absolutely needs to be needed. I stand down and step back. He is an absolute gem. My future daughter in law will not be disappointed.
AWWWW!!!!!
Great Job Mom!
My 4 adult sons still look out for me and I am grateful for that and so proud of them.
You must be a great mum and I am sure your sons see it as a privilege to help you in any way
Yep, remember my 95yo Gramma so happy all the 'boys' were home the week we lost her. 💙💙💙
@@tariblevins955 that's nice your grandma had her family around at the end when you get older you understand that the is nothing more special then having you family around you can keep all the fancy crap it's family meals and doing fun stuff together that's the best
You hit the nail on the head again. Thank you. ❤
I needed this today. I've been thinking about how to be a mix of supportive and give them space. This is perfect advice.
Why are we stuck choosing between the clowns arguing last night when we have people like this available. Politics make me so sad.
I thaught they were all clowns too, until I watched the long form interview that Vivek did on the Shawn Ryan show. First time I've ever heard a candidate actually lay out their plans in detail...and not just in 3 minute soundbites, but 3 hours totally unscripted.
@@nessavee2205 Vivek has impressed me with each interview he does.
The clowns last night, anyone would be better than the clowns in the present administration.
@@nessavee2205 His Stossel interview and his long interview with Tim Pool had the same effect on me. I'm voting Vivek in the primary. He's the best candidate right now, hands down. He also did a short interview with Colion Noir about his views on the 2A that was interesting and further cemented my choice.
If Nick ever runs for POTUS, I'll definitely be voting for him.
He's a Virginia State delegate for the Republican party. Tried running for a Senate seat back in 2018 but lost out in the primaries.
As a teenage boy, Yes.
As a fellow teenage boy, I second the yes.
That fact y'all are teenagers and watching this instead of typical TikTok bs shows me you guys will be amazing fathers.
Stay 💪
@@WhiteBoogeyman They are definitely off to a great start towards being good men.
I love seeing the strong teen boys and future men in this thread.
Stay strong to the young men. You'll be a good example and a good leader to others one day. And also I'm proud of you guys. 💯👍
AMEN! as a Father of Four Girls! THE SAME! Feel STRONG! Be Strong! be Wise! Be Kind!
Thank you from the mother of an 18 year old son who didn’t know any of this! It explains so much and I’ll start doing these things right now!
I laughed at the dog thing, it’s my 2.5 year old boys little job to yell at the dogs when they’re fighting. His little “Dixie be nice!” Is weirdly authoritative
Wow!! Last night I needed his height and he was all about it and came to my rescue. My son's dad passed away when he was 13. I've done the complete opposite of this and tried to be as sweet and motherly as I absolutely can. While hearing what you said, all I could think about is how his father would do exactly what you've described. This makes so much sense and I thank you for this!! Probably the best advice I could have ever gotten and 100% what I needed. Thank you
Wow Nick, you are a great dad. My concern about our generation not being good fathers is put to rest by men like you.
Thats beautiful man, as single mum my son turned out great strong and very capable. ❤
As a female I remember my dad teaching my brothers the same thing. And no cursing around females . When men gathered to look at a vehicle or work on one with my brothers , the girls went in the house to avoid the man talk so to speak. I must say I had 2 amazing , faithful , protective, and good men. They never cheated on their wives and always protected their families. As teenagers they protected me and my sister and we respected their judgement. This advice helps make good men out of them.
As a widow (2 years now) with 2 sons, 15 & 12, I needed to hear this. I've done a little bit of this, but now I have more ideas. Thanks so much!
Sorry for your loss Godbless
Let them learn to be leaders, If you are going to help, give them hand warmers to give out to the younger kids when they need them. Teach not to be bully's but to carefully help the younger siblings and watch out for them. They will most likely do the right things.
Praise to all the strong moms out there. Don't forget, that adults are constantly learning along side their kids. Really take time to understand each boy individually. They are going to find out things about themselves, and the more you know, the more you can relate, and the more of a connection there is. I never talked with my parents until after college, but they never really attempted to past the basic questions. We don't like basic questions😂😂 or at least I don't.
IF they've got uncles and cousins who are older,let them teach,OFTEN,MY UNCLE HALF RAISED ME,I HAVE NO POLICE RECORD,MEN RAISE MEN,sorry for your loss,EVERYTHING IS GOING TO WORK OUT,DON'T FRET MOM
Thank you for saying this because I didn't realize I was doing some of these things already. I'm here when they want to talk, but they both like feeling like they're needed and actually protecting me when I ask for help. I've learned my oldest especially is an "actions show love" kind of boy, and these simple things help him feel like he's expressing that by being helpful and will feel needed and appreciated by doing them.💙
Thank you for always giving out parenting advice, I really appreciate you!!
Great advice especially for a mom who doesn’t have a dad around
And keep a good father around.
And remove fathers who treat their mom like sht
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I don't know why every time someone says "keep a good father around" or something similar there is always at least person to type something like what you did. Bizarre to me
@@cosmickinks That's a corollary of what I wrote.
@@CedanyTheAlaskan if you knew about the huge culture of ppl who blame women who leave bad fathers for all of society's problems, it wouldn't seem bizarre at all.
@@cosmickinksmaybe we should be teaching our daughters not to fuck with bad men
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True, my mum got me to help by making the furniture and moving it, carry the heavy shopping as we didn't have a car or painting the house. I loved doing those things as it felt like i was making a difference in the day to day difficulties and helping support someone whos always supported me.
That's true! My grandad left when my dad and brother were in their teens and they laughed about how she always had them working or doing things. But they enjoyed doing it.
When she was ill and dying, they were devoted to her and did everything for her.
As a female: this goes for me too. I agree! Love helping out with the heavy stuff for my father. Would do the same if my mother was still here 😊
I'm sorry for your loss. Lost my dad at an early age. Say calm, carry on. Don't run from the challenges, embrace them. You'll end up strong and capable whille your classmates grow up lazy. 😮 The adventure of your life awaits you!
@@HeatGeek1 haha thanks! Im sorry for yours as well! I hope he’s resting easy! I’m still young but almost done moving on to adulthood and I’m saddened my mother couldn’t watch my graduations but i know she would be happy to hear i didn’t give up so thats what i strive for. Thank you kind internet stranger!!
As the mother of a son, I approve this message!
What a solid man. We need more of your type!
I, as a 16 year old boy ageee, that it would be really satisfying and helpful.
Cheers to all the caring and hardworking parents out there!
I’m a preK teacher. One particular boy I had was a real trouble maker…. He was always picking on the other kids and when ever he got in trouble he’d just pull out BIG fake tears!
Well, I started giving him jobs that were more masculine! Like picking up the big “heavy” cots and dragging them over to me to put onto the pile after nap time. Every time he did this job I’d praise him for how strong and helpful he was! And I’d talk to him about how men are supposed to use their strength to help others. Mind you, he was only four!
He matured so much after I started doing that with him! He stopped getting in trouble everyday and he had more friends! 😊 So don’t wait until they’re big to start doing this with boys! I think this one boy I will always miss the most!
Thank you for doing that.
Good advice that also felt wholesome.
I am lucky enough to have two strong & capable loyal sons❤
Thank you, God❤
I love this so much... taking notes! Our oldest is 16 now! Thank you so much for sharing ❤️
As a teen this is on point 100%
That’s actually really solid advice. Wish my mom did that for my brother. Would have helped him a lot
Thank you for this advice! I know my boys love responsibility and proving they can do a hard task. I like these tangible things that go beyond having them do chores - especially nurturing the protector side of them.
Great words!! And as a Gen x previous single mom while developing a young man.... Stop short of the door and insist your young son open it for you!!!
I was a single mother raising a son. Every time he walked out the door , I would ask him if he could call and check on me to see if I was ok. This made him feel like he was caring for me but it really was a way for me to know where he was and what he was doing. This was before cell phones and so it worked. I knew where he was at all time 😊
Genius :D
@@lesleyhuntley thanks 😊
Boy mom here! This is SO right on. And I’ll add, the more capable and strong they feel, the more they will do without you having to ask. My boy is such a good hearted blessing to me.
As a boy-mom, I appreciate this advice! Thank you! 🥰
Nick, you are an absolute genius. So......when are YOOOOUUU running for president???😳😳🤣🤣🤣
I LOVE your videos - like all of them. But this one I think I love the most. My oldest (1/7) is turning 17 this week. I am so proud of him. I had someone tell me something very similar when I was a young mother and it is true! It works ❤
When you treat your sons this way it also builds there confidence in themselves which enables them to take on bigger things in life and succeed.
Simple , clear and unambiguous . EXCELLENT .
This man is EVERYTHING!
You definitely need to do this with your kids. You also need to praise them for being competent. Positive reinforcement is never a bad thing.
Yes to the first part, no to the second. Positive reinforcement is FREQUENTLY a bad thing when applied to things that should not be praised, such as mediocrity or falsehood. You definitely want to encourage your kids, but it's not an indiscriminately good thing to praise them. You have to exercise caution and use it properly just like any other tool.
@@kingofbudokaithank you, was going to say something similar
Only your sons.
To add to this good advice, I think planning projects is a good task, for both creative and mental resilience
As a mother raising my 9 year old: you got it. That's what I needed to hear, and that's what all mothers need to hear. God bless you. ❤
Oh shoot. As a mom of teen boys, this made me cry. Thank you. I love this.
Bravo sir. Teaching boys how to be men.
We need more of this .. kudos
Yes yes yes! My 13 year old son has been lifting weights and I use every opportunity to ask his help lifting heavy things or other tasks that require strength - love how eager he is to put those muscles to use!
You are such a blessing to the world right now. Absolutely sound advise.
Great advice, I was honored with being mom and dad, thankfully it worked out and he’s a freshman at Embry Riddle and started ground school this semester. I messed up a lot as a parent, nobody is perfect, but never gave up. The sacrifice and challenges were a blessing in disguise.
Honestly , thank you . I grew up without a nice father figure, lots of times I don’t know how to act in life , and I’m a fricking grown adult now . If one day I have a kid , I will remember this advice . Thanks again .
Champion of good advice which is severely lacking these days....STRONG PARENTING BUILDS STRONG CHILDREN ❤❤
KEEP UP THE GOOD WORK 👍
As a single mum, I didn't think this was going to be to relatable, but this so is! Thank you.
This is the same advice I was given for our rescue dog. He needs a job to do. He needs to protect.
Father of 3 boys. Sir, outstanding suggestions !!! Respect!
What is way more important is that the mother DOES NOT belittle or emasculate them (or male bash in general). Either in private or in front of others. Most definitely not in front of their peers.
Compliments too boys tend to stop getting any compliments once they start puberty and ones thats outside of being just useful.
Boys dont just exist as a form of utility for others to use and discard
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Absolutely!
Angry mothers may have no idea how much they undermine their sons' progress into adulthood by taking out their frustrations and disappointments on their boys--- that they attribute to their husband or to men in general.
Yes. That is very important too.
Bro my son is only 16 months and he already flexes for me we say to him “show me your muscles” and he flexes and gets all intense..for like 5 seconds. It’s cute yet him not wanting to be babied as a literal baby.
This is so true. My son was diagnosed with Asperger’s Syndrome when he was two. I did a lot of research as to how to meet his needs, and at home I gave him tasks to help out. As he grew older I involved him in projects and he learned to build things, change tires, and heavy lifting. He is still living with me as an adult but is working full time and is planning to find his own place. This advice works with boys of all mental capacities!
That is amazing advice and I truly hope the world hears it, takes it into their soul, and abides by it.
My boy is 3, but this brought a tear to my eye. What an honor to raise strong men and women.
Amen to this.
Me too!!
Same ❤
Raise boys to be strong, respecting, and masculine. Raise girls to be strong, but feminine, and nurturing women.
Me too 🥲
These videos are a Masterclass for life.
Thank you so much! I've struggled in the area of encouraging masculinity in my boys. Your advice is much appreciated!
Man, Nick has so much great, on point content. Encouraging to see people (in a world so stuck on "toxic masculinity") taking it in.
I love hearing this. I have 3 boys as a single mom and they definitely seem to naturally want to take on projects and stuff to help me. Its very sweet. ❤
That's some really good (and touching) advice.
As someone who did those things as a teen, I can absolutely endorse this. Well said.👍
I ❤ you mom.
I'm a single mum of 2 teenage boys, both are well grounded, helpful and loving. Teach your kids right from a young age and by the time they are teenagers they will be right with the world.
You are the best!!! Thank you from a mom with a young son!
Yes, letting young men be men.
Asking them to do manly things vs violent, deliquent things.
Damn strait!! Lift, carry, mow, mop, sweep...you get it!!
I'm a single mom. With no support feom anyone. Thank you!!! I have started doing this without realizing. Much appreciated ☺️
We need more men like you in this world.
Excellent advice worth following.
Well said.
I love Nick’s coffee mug collection.
I love this! I've been training my sons to do this since they were preteen. Now they are tall, strong and handsome 17 y/o who have stepped up in all of those areas you pointed out in this video. They are filling in that void their father left since being deployed. I feel very confident that the house has been hatched down correctly at the end of the day because of the courage that has arisen in the breast of my young men.