DAMONNNNNN i am delighted to see you in my comment section welcome king never stop creating bc i love what you make. excited to keep aging tbh.... what else can my mind cook up
"resentment is drinking poison and expecting the other person to die" - I've never heard this before but it resonates so much (especially currently going through a really painful breakup).
Omg putting up a picture of your child self and realize that’s who you’re berating was such an eye opening statement! I’m turning 25 this year and sometimes I’m so hard on myself for not being where I think I should be or where my peers are. But reminding myself that every time I hate on myself I’m just hurting child me who is trying her best. Gives me such a new perspective!
I hate on child me so much, I blame a lot of stuff that really wasn't my fault on not being good enough of a person.. but looking back I see a lot of the stuff I took so seriously in elementary school wàs basically teasing from other peers but some were actually bullies.. but anyway.. I made a distance between myself and other peers because I didn't feel I was good enough looking back.. I was such a cute kid.. should have shown myself a lil empathy instead of doubling down on myself and feeling worse.. bless all of yall
It's crazy how everyone is at completely different stages of life at 26 years old. I'm 26 and in recent times, I graduated from pharmacy school, got my first job, got married, bought a house with my husband and now we are trying for a baby. I have friends who never went to college and who still don't know what they want to do with their life, friends who went to college and are unemployed now, friends who travel the world and have no budget, friends who are already divorced, friends who have multiple babies, friends who live with roommates, friends who own multiple properties, etc the list goes on and on. ALL of them are the same age -- 26 years old, yet we are all doing something different. Isn't it crazy?! This shows that no matter what you are doing in life, it is OKAY. Never compare yourself to others! 💖💖💖 YOU are ENOUGH! ✨You are enough, you are able, and in the end, we will survive✨
@@boredguy5805 thank you! i literally said "Never compare yourself to others! 💖💖💖 YOU are ENOUGH! ✨You are enough, you are able, and in the end, we will survive✨" and this person got upset!
I really appreciate your introspection. I'm 25 now, turning 26 this year, and it has probably been my most difficult year ever. My then-fiancee ended our 7 year relationship and left me. The past several years I'd been working a job that I wasn't wild about, but it supported us. I was ready to move halfway across the country so we could be closer to her family, but there was always a reason that she wasn't quite ready - but in just a few months, we surely would. She was my world, I had no doubts that I would spend the rest of my life with her, and I would gladly devote it all for her. Well, she dropped the bombshell that she wasn't happy anymore. Didn't know where she wanted to go in life anymore. Wasn't sure of her future with me. I suggested therapy together, but she needed time away to help process it all. I gave her space while she stayed with her mom, and when she showed up to our first therapy session, she said she was only there to break up with me. As we talked more, she went on to tell me all the things I did that made her unhappy, but she would never tell me because she didn't want to upset me. Even when I had asked her point blank about these things, she would say she was OK with them and had no issues. Needless to say, this was a gut punch. It felt like a laundry list of my failures. I felt abandoned. As I tried to go back to work, I realized just how unhappy it made me - when I no longer had the motivation of providing for her, I had absolutely no reason to stay. I dreaded every minute, had to force myself to complete the simplest tasks. I was at my lowest point ever. But I still have my friends. I still have support. I can wallow, or I can push on and come out a different person. Your point about resentment - as the one on the other end, really resonates. Hearing her list of what felt like my failures destroyed me a bit on the inside. But as time passes and I can process it better, you really hit it - she never spoke her piece. She never expressed her needs. Her concerns. Lied and said it was all fine, even when it wasn't. But that is her poison, not mine. I tried my hardest to be receptive to her needs and thoughts and feelings whenever she told me, but it is not my failure if she would not ever communicate this with me. I still have rough days where I feel that I was the one in the wrong, but as time passes I am slowly healing and realizing that at the end of it all, I am still myself, and she does not define me. With this major change and emotional turmoil, I'm ready to start something new. I've been applying for jobs in California, where I have friends. I can go do stuff there. Meet new people. See what life still has to offer me. Maybe I won't be ready for another relationship for a while until I heal, but when I am, I have a lot of love for the right person. Sorry to ramble, but the stream of consciousness feels appropriate for this video's comment section. I'm taking it a day at a time, and today is a good day. Thanks for sharing your thoughts on life at a similar age.
@brandovlogs Thanks for the kind words. It definitely hasn't been easy, but in general days are getting better. As I get farther away, it gets easier to look at everything without the grief painting it all. I have better perspective on what really wasn't fair in the relationship, where I should have stood my ground - and other places where I could've been more empathetic. I've also started to appreciate being by myself more, I've been focusing a lot on self improvement. Been going to the gym more often, cooking more because I can make whatever I want whenever I want, and just in general becoming more confident in myself. Crazy to think where I was only a month ago.
Thank you for sharing this. I think one of the kye aspects of a healthy relationship is open communication, even if that means telling your partner that something they're doing is making you unhappy, as a matter of fact I thing that's one of the most important things because if you don't express yourself you will end up resenting them in the long run. This comes with psychological maturity and growth. I'm so sorry you had to go through this but I think with time you'll see how beneficial it'll be for you, and when you'll be ready and healed you will find the right person for you. Sending you love xx
Hi Katherine. I am literally twice your age (52) and continue to be struck by your insight and awareness. I was not remotely as wise when I was 26. I thought I was reflective, and perhaps I was in some respects, but mostly I passively allowed myself to think within established paradigms. It is heartening to see you arrive at better places, so much more quickly than I did.
So as a 32 year old who is really working on caring for my inner child I’m really enjoying the resurge of 2000s aesthetic because now I feel like I can enjoy it without all the judgement I had for myself the first time around 😂 but I fully agree that as you get older you realize you can just enjoy what you enjoy and not worry about what’s on trend and seeing thing through the lens of society at large.
I loved this part so much.. I always wanted to just wear bell-bottoms with crop tops.. the wedge heels.. all of it.. even if it wasn't in back then that was me
For some reason at the end of the video I was on the verge of tears? Not to be ~parasocial~ but you feel like the genre of person I could see myself being really good friends with. Hoping to meet some new people who share my values and inspire me soon. 💗
This wasn't a realization you articulated specifically but the thing you said about transitions always being hard. Oof it hit me between the eyes. I'm preparing to finally move out of a place that has caused me two decades almost of deep trauma and sadness and I know the transition out of living in that trauma will be the hardest and most rewarding thing I have ever done in my entire life so it felt very meaningful to hear you say that.
You can do it!! However hard it gets, you'll know that there's no going back (no reason to). I just moved out of my childhood home about 3 weeks ago (I'm turning 23 next week). I similarly grew up in a home that raised me to be so insecure, so ashamed, dysfunctional. I knew it would be hard, and it has been hard in ways I couldn't have imagined. but for the first time in my life I'm getting to know myself. awareness of your own agency is something that can't be taken away from you once you've felt it
I'm 26 going on 27 and the whole brain finishing baking thing is so insanely real???????????? I remember being like "wow ok this is so much easier now"
I’m only just realising now that we’re the same age, and it’s interesting to see the commonalities between the lesson’s we’re learning at this crucial point in our lives. I’m looking forward to seeing where we’’re at when we’re 27 ☺️
I'm 24 and honestly life is getting better, ANd I'm becoming slower and more patient. Also, my brain is starting to develop fully that delicious pre-frontal cortex. Great video!! 😃😃
This was an amazing video-I'm only 23 but have very much realized that a non-rushed life is the life for me. Although, I do think that people being their true, honest, carefree-selves are the coolest people. I am always in a simultaneous struggle while I finish up graduate school watching my peers try so hard and do so much, while I have no energy and would much rather work on my knitting, crochet, and other hobbies and do what is best for me. It's hard to put yourself first in a world that is not set up that way, but I am glad I have started to do it before I become a true "adult"
This is exactly what I felt when I turned 26 last year!!! This is very accurate and I now consider it peer-reviewed 💞 Of course, having time to take a step back during covid and reflect was also a big help. Here's to growth - I can only say that it just kept getting better for me 🧿
I just turned 23 and I relate to these so much! I have been adopting a more mindful lifestyle and it is so rewarding, but also a little scary! Facing reality and eliminating distractions forces you to see the truths of reality. But ignorance is not bliss :)
I am going to be 64 in May Lord willing and I know for a certainty that no one living today had, has or ever will have "it all figured out". That's my faith in that truth talking.
I'm 40 and coming here to compare. I have been alcohol free since I was 14. Yes, I tasted alcohol as a child, but I decided that it was dangerous. I was exposed to DARE and Nancy Reagan, but I also grew up with an alcoholic mother and I saw first hand how it affects people, their bodies, and their relationships. I had friends on all sorts of drugs as a teen, but I didn't experience anything more than a second hand high (marijuana). I witnessed enough to know.
wow, this video came at the most perfect moment in my life. funnily enough, it's been sitting in my 'watch later' for maybe over a year? but i decided to finally pop it open today, 2 days since i graduated undergrad. every single point resonated with me in a multitude of ways, and it astonishes me how someone i don't even know could craft something so warm (?) and well-thought out that it struck me so deeply. this was an insanely cool video, so many ideas from this have inspired me, and i felt my heart seemingly becoming lighter and lighter the more i watched. thanks katherout!
Not sure if your open to astrology but I’m curious if you have looked into when your Saturn return was / is? These huge changes happen again later in your 40’s ( literally going through it now in my 40’s) 😳 and then again! knowing how your birth chart works, when your Saturn returns is insanely helpful in navigating these changes and growths in our lives. By the sound of this video I’m sure it’s right up your alley. 👏🏼 it’s refreshing to hear someone in their 20’s speak of these changes and create this motivation for others.
Thanks for this, I turn 27 in July, and I had a lot of the same take aways when I was 26. Its so very odd, I'm not old but I enjoy the quiet moments a lot more. Listening to the nature from an open window is nice.
Loved your turning 25 video and love this one. Your 25 video inspired me to make my turning 24 last year 😅 as always, it’s a pleasure hearing your well-articulated thoughts and introspections!
Not caring about being cool, peak cool 😎. As a 30yo this all resonates well. Also helps when having a kid that some of these worries tend to get replaced and forgotten about… Which was a strange turn for me when I realized the things I worried about prior dadlife to these days. Also kudos on edits! V entertaining and calming at the same time.
Love this. I turn 40 this summer and I’m still working on my perfectionism and body image. Siiiiigh. But I’m slowly chilling out with both. I have a pic of me from high school next to my desk to remind me of my younger self. Kind of like your 8 year old. It’s a great tool for compassion. Happy Birthday Katherine. Cheers to your best year yet.
Being a beginner at anything is harder and harder the older I get. I spoke with a friend recently about what we'd do if we didn't have to work (inspired by a past video of yours). They said they'd find ways to help their community. I mentioned that I'd write, paint, sketch, learn programing, spanish, instruments, etc. I'm a senior/director level product designer day-to-day... the thought of doing 'creative' things poorly easily takes the wind out of my sails before I've even gotten onto the boat. I *hate* that feeling.
Thank you for this video! I’m 25 turning 26 in October & I struggle with substances too & fear based thinking and decision making. This is so relatable.
Loooving this video Kath, I’m about to turn 24 in April and so many of these truths resonate with me. If anything, we can trust that things are unfolding and occurring exactly as they’re meant to for us. You’re so well spoken, ty for sharing your beautiful vibes 🤍💖
This was so refreshing to listen to. This one made me decide to stop being a lurker on CZcams and I just wanted to thank you for sharing all these realizations. I'm on my way to 26 in November and especially after spending the past year traveling to the point of rock bottom (coming back up...), I can't help but feel I've entered "second puberty." I'm looking forward to the mess and lessons that come my way. It's funny how eeeeeveryone seems to be doing something different at 26... I appreciate you sharing your journey!
I turn 25 in July and honestly the entire video made me feel very validated in everything i've been feeling recently about life lmao so thank u. The part about summoning your inner parent to comfort your inner child really hit home... I repeated those few seconds 3 or 4 times
I too just turned 26 this month and love this reflection video (also live in SD and appreciated all the footage) Here’s to a beautiful year of being 26 and continual growth ❤️
Beautiful video as always, Katherine. Even though you’re only like a year older than me, watching your videos makes me feel like I’m with the big sister I don’t have. I resonate with what you said about “being cool” and keeping with trends so so much. I’ve spent most of my 24th year in the messiest, most anxious mental state ever. However, in spending the days fighting with my own mind and panic disorder, I’ve lost all ability to give a shit what others think. You have to act in your own self interest because apparently that’s what everyone else is doing. I cannot even FATHOM how I cared about what strangers who I saw in a grocery store for 40 seconds on a Sunday thought about what they saw in me. The only person I need to please is myself. I’m the one that has to live with myself everyday!! Love your channel and online presence so so much. You are a light, Katherine.
CZcamsrs tend to have a “sponsorship voice” and I felt it coming as soon as she said ‘what hasn’t changed..’. I don’t personally care about the sponsorship itself and support CZcamsrs making money but this started out as some kind of wistful self reflective video and then you switched into the sponsorship voice, it put me off.
I went to Occidental College and was confused (but enjoyed my stroll down memory lane) when you started showing the footage of the campus (and Town Pizza)
Just realising most of these things a month before my 30th, and I’m thinking, how come did it take me this long to arrive here, but I’m taking it as lessons for the new decade. Thank you for sharing
Watching while eating Gyoza completely mesmarized. The editing, your writing, your ideas, your wiseness. Hope you're proud of your 26th years old self. I'm two years younger and I hope I'll grow as much as you :)
I knew before you said your birthday that you're a pisces lmao. My birthday is Feb 27th and I feel like everything you say is exactly how I feel 😂 A few years back my mom digitized old baby videos of me and whenever I watch them I felt this overwhelming need to love, protect and nourish my younger self in a way I never felt before. I try to carry that feeling with me when I catch myself engaging in negative self talk or doing something that doesn't serve me and it's literally changed my life.
The fact that you've learned so much and then gone and shared it with us is enough to be inspired by. But you learning to be nicer to yourself is my favorite. Because I really like you and want everyone to be kind to you, especially you! You are a very full hearted person and Happy Late Birthday!
I am also susceptible to doubt when it comes to trying or doing new things. Also, I’m def going to check out Julia Cameron’s book! Also, Happy be-lated birthday! And thank you for sharing your words of wisdom
Loved this Kath!!! Feels like time flew by so fast since your amazing video marking 25 and this video was amazing too. Loved what you said about resentment being poison and also about letting go of a ton of hair manipulation/adherence to today’s trends. I think that’s a joy of the 20s that I’ve enjoyed a lot - this realization that trends will come and go and it’s neat to watch them, try what you’d like but be super comfortable being you and maybe choosing functionality and comfort and focused faves over it all. *Love* from a fellow end of February Pisces, hopeful that I’ll feel that shift to my brain’s full development in this 25th year for me!!
loved the video, very interesting take on todays climate, of social "coolness" changing so much in such a little time. It is draining to try to keep up with trends, they are here to day and gone tomorrow.
I really resonate with your idea of being a reformed perfectionist and keeping things at a slower pace. I am 22, about to enter my first "big kid" job, and it is quite the era of being a people pleaser. Which is ridiculously frustrating to be making so many decisions based on fear or worry rather than want. Seeing you at 26 and more at peace with the world, gives me hope that I can reconcile some of my own issues.
Just realized this isn't an exactly recent video but I came across it after your "how to make friends" video and I am absolutely in awe of your content already and the way you edit and share your message. I recently turned 27 and this video ressonated so much with me, I turned to my journal to do my own version. Keep up the good content and you've gained a new subscriber!
I decided to go sober and my life became better, all areas of my life improved and I realize that my sobriety is one of my greatest gifts. I don’t need anything external to change my reality, I have learned to live life exactly how it is, with its ups and downs, and appreciate and be thankful for living :)
so wise. thx for sharing these gems. Related a lot even though I'm in my early 30's. beginner's mind resonated with me because I started capoeira a few years ago and even though it was/is hard to be a beginner, it brings me so much joy, community, and connection that all the tears and embarrassing moments are infinitely worth it. And the one about slowing down and taking care of yourself really resonated as well.
great post, yes,none of us know it all, i do appreciate a community and those that vibe with compassion for all fellow humans and the rock we all live on and ourselves. still learning much and stumble a lot but ill take it, and i have zero minutes for bad intentions. enjoy 26! ✌️🌈!
Loved this video Katherine! Been seeing your journey since USC days and really proud and inspired by your growth 💗 I am 28 right now and resonated with most of the points you said. Especially the coolness related one and the physical limit vs mentally able to have a packed schedule
Turned 22 not too long ago and I have been going on a really emotional personal journey (with the help of lots of Delta 8). I always wanted to be my authentic self and my peers had always shunned me and ridiculed me for it. Along with my Dad hyper enforcing masculine stereotypes. (Non of which I followed because I couldn't stop myself from crying and I was more interested in Video Games in stead of sports) Thanks to this I have always had atrocious self-esteem and I was self sabotaging and constantly down-talking to myself without even realizing it for most of my life. Thank god I realized this now instead of when I'm 32 like when alot of Men FINALLY start emotionally examining themselves. I wonder how many cool things I could have done If I didn't doubt myself so much. I'm trying to change my toxic mindsets so I can flourish in life but man it is tough when its so ingrained in you. Glad you were able to fully dicover and explore your self, this is all great life advice that EVERYBODY CAN USE. Regardless of gender, race, and so one
Having a more kookiukiuky (😂) mindset is something I want to improve in because there is a high percent chance that I will never see them again, so why not
Welcome to Gen X. You qualified for membership when you said “not my circus, not my monkey “. The bad news is our generation is also starting to get membership of AARP
Happy birthday Kath! I always go to your videos first anytime you upload. Thank you for sharing so openly always. Wishing you the very best for this new year of your life 💛
I swear life got REAL good at 28!
DAMONNNNNN i am delighted to see you in my comment section welcome king never stop creating bc i love what you make. excited to keep aging tbh.... what else can my mind cook up
That’s good to know. 😅 I’m 27 turning 28 this year.
Just turned 28 still waiting lmfao
25 to 26 hits hard, honestly. This video was really comforting
"resentment is drinking poison and expecting the other person to die" - I've never heard this before but it resonates so much (especially currently going through a really painful breakup).
Omg putting up a picture of your child self and realize that’s who you’re berating was such an eye opening statement! I’m turning 25 this year and sometimes I’m so hard on myself for not being where I think I should be or where my peers are. But reminding myself that every time I hate on myself I’m just hurting child me who is trying her best. Gives me such a new perspective!
I hate on child me so much, I blame a lot of stuff that really wasn't my fault on not being good enough of a person.. but looking back I see a lot of the stuff I took so seriously in elementary school wàs basically teasing from other peers but some were actually bullies.. but anyway.. I made a distance between myself and other peers because I didn't feel I was good enough looking back.. I was such a cute kid.. should have shown myself a lil empathy instead of doubling down on myself and feeling worse.. bless all of yall
It's crazy how everyone is at completely different stages of life at 26 years old. I'm 26 and in recent times, I graduated from pharmacy school, got my first job, got married, bought a house with my husband and now we are trying for a baby. I have friends who never went to college and who still don't know what they want to do with their life, friends who went to college and are unemployed now, friends who travel the world and have no budget, friends who are already divorced, friends who have multiple babies, friends who live with roommates, friends who own multiple properties, etc the list goes on and on. ALL of them are the same age -- 26 years old, yet we are all doing something different. Isn't it crazy?! This shows that no matter what you are doing in life, it is OKAY. Never compare yourself to others! 💖💖💖 YOU are ENOUGH! ✨You are enough, you are able, and in the end, we will survive✨
Stop bragging.
@@rses916 Huh...? I think you need glasses and you need to re-read my post honey...
@@rses916 Stop being jealous.
@@rses916 lol how in the world is she bragging, stop getting jealous so easily
@@boredguy5805 thank you! i literally said "Never compare yourself to others! 💖💖💖 YOU are ENOUGH! ✨You are enough, you are able, and in the end, we will survive✨" and this person got upset!
I really appreciate your introspection. I'm 25 now, turning 26 this year, and it has probably been my most difficult year ever. My then-fiancee ended our 7 year relationship and left me. The past several years I'd been working a job that I wasn't wild about, but it supported us. I was ready to move halfway across the country so we could be closer to her family, but there was always a reason that she wasn't quite ready - but in just a few months, we surely would. She was my world, I had no doubts that I would spend the rest of my life with her, and I would gladly devote it all for her. Well, she dropped the bombshell that she wasn't happy anymore. Didn't know where she wanted to go in life anymore. Wasn't sure of her future with me. I suggested therapy together, but she needed time away to help process it all. I gave her space while she stayed with her mom, and when she showed up to our first therapy session, she said she was only there to break up with me. As we talked more, she went on to tell me all the things I did that made her unhappy, but she would never tell me because she didn't want to upset me. Even when I had asked her point blank about these things, she would say she was OK with them and had no issues. Needless to say, this was a gut punch. It felt like a laundry list of my failures. I felt abandoned. As I tried to go back to work, I realized just how unhappy it made me - when I no longer had the motivation of providing for her, I had absolutely no reason to stay. I dreaded every minute, had to force myself to complete the simplest tasks. I was at my lowest point ever.
But I still have my friends. I still have support. I can wallow, or I can push on and come out a different person. Your point about resentment - as the one on the other end, really resonates. Hearing her list of what felt like my failures destroyed me a bit on the inside. But as time passes and I can process it better, you really hit it - she never spoke her piece. She never expressed her needs. Her concerns. Lied and said it was all fine, even when it wasn't. But that is her poison, not mine. I tried my hardest to be receptive to her needs and thoughts and feelings whenever she told me, but it is not my failure if she would not ever communicate this with me. I still have rough days where I feel that I was the one in the wrong, but as time passes I am slowly healing and realizing that at the end of it all, I am still myself, and she does not define me.
With this major change and emotional turmoil, I'm ready to start something new. I've been applying for jobs in California, where I have friends. I can go do stuff there. Meet new people. See what life still has to offer me. Maybe I won't be ready for another relationship for a while until I heal, but when I am, I have a lot of love for the right person. Sorry to ramble, but the stream of consciousness feels appropriate for this video's comment section. I'm taking it a day at a time, and today is a good day. Thanks for sharing your thoughts on life at a similar age.
@brandovlogs Thanks for the kind words. It definitely hasn't been easy, but in general days are getting better. As I get farther away, it gets easier to look at everything without the grief painting it all. I have better perspective on what really wasn't fair in the relationship, where I should have stood my ground - and other places where I could've been more empathetic. I've also started to appreciate being by myself more, I've been focusing a lot on self improvement. Been going to the gym more often, cooking more because I can make whatever I want whenever I want, and just in general becoming more confident in myself. Crazy to think where I was only a month ago.
Thank you for sharing this. I think one of the kye aspects of a healthy relationship is open communication, even if that means telling your partner that something they're doing is making you unhappy, as a matter of fact I thing that's one of the most important things because if you don't express yourself you will end up resenting them in the long run. This comes with psychological maturity and growth. I'm so sorry you had to go through this but I think with time you'll see how beneficial it'll be for you, and when you'll be ready and healed you will find the right person for you. Sending you love xx
“Say something or make peace with it.” whew! Went straight into my notes app. 🤧
Hi Katherine. I am literally twice your age (52) and continue to be struck by your insight and awareness. I was not remotely as wise when I was 26. I thought I was reflective, and perhaps I was in some respects, but mostly I passively allowed myself to think within established paradigms. It is heartening to see you arrive at better places, so much more quickly than I did.
So as a 32 year old who is really working on caring for my inner child I’m really enjoying the resurge of 2000s aesthetic because now I feel like I can enjoy it without all the judgement I had for myself the first time around 😂 but I fully agree that as you get older you realize you can just enjoy what you enjoy and not worry about what’s on trend and seeing thing through the lens of society at large.
I love this for youuuuu!
I loved this part so much.. I always wanted to just wear bell-bottoms with crop tops.. the wedge heels.. all of it.. even if it wasn't in back then that was me
For some reason at the end of the video I was on the verge of tears? Not to be ~parasocial~ but you feel like the genre of person I could see myself being really good friends with. Hoping to meet some new people who share my values and inspire me soon. 💗
there are an abundance of lovely people out there!!! i have so much faith we will both find great new people enter our lives in the coming years
This wasn't a realization you articulated specifically but the thing you said about transitions always being hard. Oof it hit me between the eyes. I'm preparing to finally move out of a place that has caused me two decades almost of deep trauma and sadness and I know the transition out of living in that trauma will be the hardest and most rewarding thing I have ever done in my entire life so it felt very meaningful to hear you say that.
You can do it!! However hard it gets, you'll know that there's no going back (no reason to). I just moved out of my childhood home about 3 weeks ago (I'm turning 23 next week). I similarly grew up in a home that raised me to be so insecure, so ashamed, dysfunctional. I knew it would be hard, and it has been hard in ways I couldn't have imagined. but for the first time in my life I'm getting to know myself. awareness of your own agency is something that can't be taken away from you once you've felt it
I'm 26 going on 27 and the whole brain finishing baking thing is so insanely real???????????? I remember being like "wow ok this is so much easier now"
living for the kath and Sheriden footage ❤️❤️❤️ love this video!! so many great takeaways
Soon the tiffxkathxsher collab will happen...
I am 25
Will turn 26
I have been feeling the same way since 21
But I started learning to cook at 22
I couldn't boil eggs til 22
I feel independent now
Aging's such a blessing-happy birthday Katherout :)
As a recently turned 27 year old Pisces, I needed this. 🙏
I’m only just realising now that we’re the same age, and it’s interesting to see the commonalities between the lesson’s we’re learning at this crucial point in our lives.
I’m looking forward to seeing where we’’re at when we’re 27 ☺️
I'm 24 and honestly life is getting better, ANd I'm becoming slower and more patient. Also, my brain is starting to develop fully that delicious pre-frontal cortex. Great video!! 😃😃
Pedantic correction at 00:13-if you're turning 26, your last year was actually your 26th lap around the sun. We're all older than we think we are. 🙂
yes!! a minor nitpick but i couldn't ignore it hehe
Thanks, was gonna say it if someone hadn’t already
ok I'm only a minute in and THE INTRO!! the writing, the cinematics, the nostalgic vibe!! big brain energy
This was an amazing video-I'm only 23 but have very much realized that a non-rushed life is the life for me. Although, I do think that people being their true, honest, carefree-selves are the coolest people. I am always in a simultaneous struggle while I finish up graduate school watching my peers try so hard and do so much, while I have no energy and would much rather work on my knitting, crochet, and other hobbies and do what is best for me. It's hard to put yourself first in a world that is not set up that way, but I am glad I have started to do it before I become a true "adult"
What are u doing now then?
This is exactly what I felt when I turned 26 last year!!! This is very accurate and I now consider it peer-reviewed 💞
Of course, having time to take a step back during covid and reflect was also a big help.
Here's to growth - I can only say that it just kept getting better for me 🧿
I just turned 23 and I relate to these so much! I have been adopting a more mindful lifestyle and it is so rewarding, but also a little scary! Facing reality and eliminating distractions forces you to see the truths of reality. But ignorance is not bliss :)
point vi!!! I am so thankful my mom never let me pluck my thick eyebrows lol. you will ONLY and ALWAYS have YOU!!
your mom is absolutely GOATed for that
I am going to be 64 in May Lord willing and I know for a certainty that no one living today had, has or ever will have "it all figured out".
That's my faith in that truth talking.
Yes from a 61 yr old!
:)
The worst part about being 26 is not having my parents health insurance anymore lol
Love this. I’m 25 atm and wondering what this year will hold for me. This helps me reflect mindfully on the past and look into the future.
I'm 40 and coming here to compare. I have been alcohol free since I was 14. Yes, I tasted alcohol as a child, but I decided that it was dangerous. I was exposed to DARE and Nancy Reagan, but I also grew up with an alcoholic mother and I saw first hand how it affects people, their bodies, and their relationships.
I had friends on all sorts of drugs as a teen, but I didn't experience anything more than a second hand high (marijuana). I witnessed enough to know.
wow, this video came at the most perfect moment in my life. funnily enough, it's been sitting in my 'watch later' for maybe over a year? but i decided to finally pop it open today, 2 days since i graduated undergrad. every single point resonated with me in a multitude of ways, and it astonishes me how someone i don't even know could craft something so warm (?) and well-thought out that it struck me so deeply. this was an insanely cool video, so many ideas from this have inspired me, and i felt my heart seemingly becoming lighter and lighter the more i watched. thanks katherout!
Not sure if your open to astrology but I’m curious if you have looked into when your Saturn return was / is? These huge changes happen again later in your 40’s ( literally going through it now in my 40’s) 😳 and then again!
knowing how your birth chart works, when your Saturn returns is insanely helpful in navigating these changes and growths in our lives. By the sound of this video I’m sure it’s right up your alley.
👏🏼 it’s refreshing to hear someone in their 20’s speak of these changes and create this motivation for others.
Thanks for this, I turn 27 in July, and I had a lot of the same take aways when I was 26. Its so very odd, I'm not old but I enjoy the quiet moments a lot more. Listening to the nature from an open window is nice.
I am nearing 62 and don't have it all figured out either. But young people like you give me hope that someone will
Loved your turning 25 video and love this one. Your 25 video inspired me to make my turning 24 last year 😅 as always, it’s a pleasure hearing your well-articulated thoughts and introspections!
Not caring about being cool, peak cool 😎.
As a 30yo this all resonates well. Also helps when having a kid that some of these worries tend to get replaced and forgotten about… Which was a strange turn for me when I realized the things I worried about prior dadlife to these days.
Also kudos on edits! V entertaining and calming at the same time.
00:46 this fit/nails are everything
I'm turning 26 this year in august and this video describes so much of what i've been feeling this past year. Thank you so much!
Not willing to rush anymore. 27, same same feeling
Love this. I turn 40 this summer and I’m still working on my perfectionism and body image. Siiiiigh. But I’m slowly chilling out with both. I have a pic of me from high school next to my desk to remind me of my younger self. Kind of like your 8 year old. It’s a great tool for compassion. Happy Birthday Katherine. Cheers to your best year yet.
Being a beginner at anything is harder and harder the older I get. I spoke with a friend recently about what we'd do if we didn't have to work (inspired by a past video of yours). They said they'd find ways to help their community. I mentioned that I'd write, paint, sketch, learn programing, spanish, instruments, etc. I'm a senior/director level product designer day-to-day... the thought of doing 'creative' things poorly easily takes the wind out of my sails before I've even gotten onto the boat. I *hate* that feeling.
I feel that! I’m a graphic designer and it’s so difficult to do any creative thing poorly because of my inner design eye
Thank you for this video! I’m 25 turning 26 in October & I struggle with substances too & fear based thinking and decision making. This is so relatable.
Around 25-26 is when a lot of clarity came to me. Must be the age, for sure! Happy Birthday! Xx
Loooving this video Kath, I’m about to turn 24 in April and so many of these truths resonate with me. If anything, we can trust that things are unfolding and occurring exactly as they’re meant to for us. You’re so well spoken, ty for sharing your beautiful vibes 🤍💖
This was so refreshing to listen to. This one made me decide to stop being a lurker on CZcams and I just wanted to thank you for sharing all these realizations. I'm on my way to 26 in November and especially after spending the past year traveling to the point of rock bottom (coming back up...), I can't help but feel I've entered "second puberty." I'm looking forward to the mess and lessons that come my way. It's funny how eeeeeveryone seems to be doing something different at 26... I appreciate you sharing your journey!
Watching this on a treadmill going 3mph and wholeheartedly resonating with all you're sharing ❤
a 12/3/30 GIRLIE!!!!
I turn 25 in July and honestly the entire video made me feel very validated in everything i've been feeling recently about life lmao so thank u. The part about summoning your inner parent to comfort your inner child really hit home... I repeated those few seconds 3 or 4 times
I too just turned 26 this month and love this reflection video (also live in SD and appreciated all the footage) Here’s to a beautiful year of being 26 and continual growth ❤️
6:27 the fact that I’m on a treadmill literally at 3 mph as I’m listening to this 😂
ohhhhhhh yeah this one hit, the whole video like yeah okay yeah
thank you for in particular calling out the "putting on a performance for new people"
Beautiful video as always, Katherine. Even though you’re only like a year older than me, watching your videos makes me feel like I’m with the big sister I don’t have. I resonate with what you said about “being cool” and keeping with trends so so much. I’ve spent most of my 24th year in the messiest, most anxious mental state ever. However, in spending the days fighting with my own mind and panic disorder, I’ve lost all ability to give a shit what others think. You have to act in your own self interest because apparently that’s what everyone else is doing. I cannot even FATHOM how I cared about what strangers who I saw in a grocery store for 40 seconds on a Sunday thought about what they saw in me. The only person I need to please is myself. I’m the one that has to live with myself everyday!!
Love your channel and online presence so so much. You are a light, Katherine.
CZcamsrs tend to have a “sponsorship voice” and I felt it coming as soon as she said ‘what hasn’t changed..’. I don’t personally care about the sponsorship itself and support CZcamsrs making money but this started out as some kind of wistful self reflective video and then you switched into the sponsorship voice, it put me off.
I went to Occidental College and was confused (but enjoyed my stroll down memory lane) when you started showing the footage of the campus (and Town Pizza)
i luvvvvvv highland park! my fave neighborhood in LA
"say something or make peace with it" the hardest pill to swallow for me but SO VERY important!
So grateful for your context lately!! I feel like it has helped me chill out in college and see the problems of hustle culture
My middle aged self is still learning the concept of disinterest.
I'm so glad I've just found your channel. As a 23 year old teacher in london feeling lost, this brings me so much comfort
Just realising most of these things a month before my 30th, and I’m thinking, how come did it take me this long to arrive here, but I’m taking it as lessons for the new decade. Thank you for sharing
Loved hearing your perspective! I just turned 29 and many of your messages resonated with me.
Watching while eating Gyoza completely mesmarized. The editing, your writing, your ideas, your wiseness. Hope you're proud of your 26th years old self. I'm two years younger and I hope I'll grow as much as you :)
I knew before you said your birthday that you're a pisces lmao. My birthday is Feb 27th and I feel like everything you say is exactly how I feel 😂 A few years back my mom digitized old baby videos of me and whenever I watch them I felt this overwhelming need to love, protect and nourish my younger self in a way I never felt before. I try to carry that feeling with me when I catch myself engaging in negative self talk or doing something that doesn't serve me and it's literally changed my life.
Love it! I'm a 1996 baby, too
10:28 personally it looks like fashion can't decide themselves so we must do it for ourselves
The fact that you've learned so much and then gone and shared it with us is enough to be inspired by. But you learning to be nicer to yourself is my favorite. Because I really like you and want everyone to be kind to you, especially you! You are a very full hearted person and Happy Late Birthday!
I am also susceptible to doubt when it comes to trying or doing new things. Also, I’m def going to check out Julia Cameron’s book! Also, Happy be-lated birthday! And thank you for sharing your words of wisdom
girl you always make me cry. i too am a sensitive soul and i just adore these reflections and learning to grow together
I think this is my favorite video of yours! I'm probably going to come back to it when I need a reminder.
I’m a year older than you but I appreciate your content. You inspire me to check in on myself and see how I can grow
I’m turning 26 this year and there are so many points to this that I relate to ❤️ such a beautiful video, loved this
Loved this Kath!!! Feels like time flew by so fast since your amazing video marking 25 and this video was amazing too. Loved what you said about resentment being poison and also about letting go of a ton of hair manipulation/adherence to today’s trends. I think that’s a joy of the 20s that I’ve enjoyed a lot - this realization that trends will come and go and it’s neat to watch them, try what you’d like but be super comfortable being you and maybe choosing functionality and comfort and focused faves over it all. *Love* from a fellow end of February Pisces, hopeful that I’ll feel that shift to my brain’s full development in this 25th year for me!!
loved the video, very interesting take on todays climate, of social "coolness" changing so much in such a little time. It is draining to try to keep up with trends, they are here to day and gone tomorrow.
I really resonate with your idea of being a reformed perfectionist and keeping things at a slower pace. I am 22, about to enter my first "big kid" job, and it is quite the era of being a people pleaser. Which is ridiculously frustrating to be making so many decisions based on fear or worry rather than want. Seeing you at 26 and more at peace with the world, gives me hope that I can reconcile some of my own issues.
Just realized this isn't an exactly recent video but I came across it after your "how to make friends" video and I am absolutely in awe of your content already and the way you edit and share your message. I recently turned 27 and this video ressonated so much with me, I turned to my journal to do my own version. Keep up the good content and you've gained a new subscriber!
I decided to go sober and my life became better, all areas of my life improved and I realize that my sobriety is one of my greatest gifts. I don’t need anything external to change my reality, I have learned to live life exactly how it is, with its ups and downs, and appreciate and be thankful for living :)
so wise. thx for sharing these gems. Related a lot even though I'm in my early 30's. beginner's mind resonated with me because I started capoeira a few years ago and even though it was/is hard to be a beginner, it brings me so much joy, community, and connection that all the tears and embarrassing moments are infinitely worth it. And the one about slowing down and taking care of yourself really resonated as well.
great post, yes,none of us know it all, i do appreciate a community and those that vibe with compassion for all fellow humans and the rock we all live on and ourselves. still learning much and stumble a lot but ill take it, and i have zero minutes for bad intentions. enjoy 26! ✌️🌈!
turning 26 this year and I resonate a lot with this video
I turn 26 next month and I am subscribing
This video actually made me realize a lot about my current life status. thank you
Thank you so much I needed this. Happy belated birthday ✨
Loved this video Katherine! Been seeing your journey since USC days and really proud and inspired by your growth 💗 I am 28 right now and resonated with most of the points you said. Especially the coolness related one and the physical limit vs mentally able to have a packed schedule
Turned 22 not too long ago and I have been going on a really emotional personal journey (with the help of lots of Delta 8). I always wanted to be my authentic self and my peers had always shunned me and ridiculed me for it. Along with my Dad hyper enforcing masculine stereotypes. (Non of which I followed because I couldn't stop myself from crying and I was more interested in Video Games in stead of sports) Thanks to this I have always had atrocious self-esteem and I was self sabotaging and constantly down-talking to myself without even realizing it for most of my life. Thank god I realized this now instead of when I'm 32 like when alot of Men FINALLY start emotionally examining themselves. I wonder how many cool things I could have done If I didn't doubt myself so much. I'm trying to change my toxic mindsets so I can flourish in life but man it is tough when its so ingrained in you. Glad you were able to fully dicover and explore your self, this is all great life advice that EVERYBODY CAN USE. Regardless of gender, race, and so one
I remember 26. That's when the despair really started taking off.
Viral marketing on CZcams has gotten so clever in the past 15 years.
I’ve watched this video multiple times, so good.
Having a more kookiukiuky (😂) mindset is something I want to improve in because there is a high percent chance that I will never see them again, so why not
TOTALLYYYY
You've self-actualized. It's a struggle for a lot of people. Good job!
this video is absolutely beautiful
Welcome to Gen X. You qualified for membership when you said “not my circus, not my monkey “. The bad news is our generation is also starting to get membership of AARP
Absolutely loved this.
I’m turning 26 too, and I’m struggling. I have hope but…I hope I make it!
Happy birthday Kath! I always go to your videos first anytime you upload. Thank you for sharing so openly always. Wishing you the very best for this new year of your life 💛
Amazing this should rewatch recurrently 💕
I’m also 26 and I last year stopped drinking. Alcohol is so normalised and no one questions it
Love your video style
i really needed to hear your revelation about resentment, thank you for this video
Every word resonated with me, and I'm not even 25!
Happy Birthday Kath!!
Im crippling with depression at 25
Kath, you're so refreshing.
incredible reflections! Thanks for sharing your wisdom, so much love
I'm turning 26 next week and I'm terrified