Top 5 clues to detect a narcissist | 8 super helpful tips, if there's one in your family
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- čas přidán 18. 08. 2022
- I’m Shridhar, a Counseling Psychologist. Identifying and dealing with narcissists can be a really tough job, especially when it is someone close to you. Narcissistic personality disorder is one of the most menacing disorders, which brings even psychotherapists to their knees. However, there are things that we can practice to learn to deal with a narcissist to ensure a certain level of well-being for ourselves. Watch this video to find out what those steps are.
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0.00 Intro
0.30 Central features of Narcissism
0.33 First feature
1.05 Second feature
1.13 First sub-feature
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1.40 Third sub-feature
2.03 Fourth sub-feature
2.26 Fifth sub-feature
2.41 Second part of this central feature
3.19 Third feature
4.10 Fourth feature
5.08 Fifth feature
5.37 How to deal with a narcissist?
5.40 First important point
6.33 Second point
8.15 Third point
9.47 Fourth point
10.59 Fifth point
11.29 Sixth point
12.48 Seventh point
13.36 Eighth point
14.39 Channel recommendation
15.01 Need counseling from Shridhar Lifeschool?
Great to see an Indian psychologist talking about narcissism! People should know about narcissistic personalities. In real life there are more narcissist people whom we have to deal with ,both at office and at family .Spreading such knowledge is very rare in India. Keep up the good work .
Watch dr.ramani video
U will understand more
This a very deep topic
There are many facets and solutions never too simple
@@bhartihazare6478 in fact the most complicated and cruel aspect of human psychology, narcissism
Agree. This is the first time am seeing an Indian as well!
Completely agree and everyone should know about this.
I wanted a video on narcissists. Thanks alot . I was also dealing with the narcissist person. Few things I can highlight here are
1. This people tend to look more attractive or they purposely try to show off themselves as attractive.
2. Attention is like a source of life for them.
3. Superiority
4. Show themselves as they care alot about feelings of other people.
5. Self obsessed
6. Makes other person feel guilty for each and every things they do.
7. A big liers. These type of persons tend to lie at any level to showcase themselves as 'GOOD PERSON'
8. They never accept their mistakes.
9. Never apologise, instead make other person apologise for their own mistakes.
10. They want full control over their children/wife/gf/brother etc.
11. Their favourite job is brain washing
12. Sex is the priority for them. They don't indulge in emotional or romantic relationship.
13. They want new supply everyday.
14. Egoistic
To get out from narcissistic abuse, the one must stay away or disconnect with them emotionally.
I know its difficult to let them go from life but its not impossible too.
Swarangi
You just described my n. mother very well in one page👍🏼👍🏼👍🏼
@@TT-ls1yz good luck to you sister. My mom is also narcissist woman.
@@swaranginaik2847 Good luck to you too👍🏼 This is indeed one life journey to deal with this, survive and thrive. Love and Hugs from this sister 🥰🤗🌹🌹🌹
@@TT-ls1yz 😊♥️
@@swaranginaik2847 You may reach out to me at 007tillsoo if you would like to connect.
Probably a narcissist in most Indian families. Sad but true. Also, not uncommon that this is the head of the family or person who makes all the main decisions for the family even from the backseat a.k.a : covert narcissist.
I have been dealing with this personality disorder for the past 15 years and finally had to let him go after he cheated on me and blamed me for the divorce. Rightly put, its a disorder that cannot be treated with any kind of treatment. The only way to set yourself free from the daily abuse and mental and emotional torture is to let go and never look back.
5 WAYS TO DEAL WITH
A NARCISSIST:
1. Stay away.
2. Don't try to convince them they're
wrong. Stay away.
3. Don't try to "fix" them. Stay away.
4. Don't argue with them. Stay away.
“JUST STAY AWAY”
So right. DEEP technique by Dr Ramani. Don't defend. Don't engage. Don't explain. Don't personalize. 🙏🏼
👏👏👏 This comment looks like I wrote this. In fact ib was rereading again 😃 You did the right thing by staying away to preserve your sanity.
When I left the father of my son, the only way I found I could protect myself and my sanity, was cutting off all verbal communication. I did that after one month. He would talk to me, when I went to get my son for example and I would ignore him completely. I would only reply on written communication when the message was about my son. I even reverted to using Mr + his last name, to keep my communication short, polite and distant. He had already pushed his first wife to suicide. I was not willing to give him that kind of power over my life. Stay away and don't ever speak to them again. They are a level of toxic that empaths (their favourite victims) are not equipped to deal with. Everything you will say to them, will be used against you. Love from Belgium and stay safe.
@@mleys3248 "Their favorite victims are empaths". But remember that is because we empaths let them do it to us. We have the power 💪🏽💪🏽 To control what we attract. Let us know our self worth by practicing daily self love, become "LEARNED EMPATHS" and take charge of our life be designing our life paths. Love from this sister😘🤗 Hang in there, you did the right thing 👍🏼 Good things are coming your way👍🏼
So true .. I'm with such a person from 21 years
My father has always had a very high sense of ego. Nobody knows more than him, never ready to consider opinions of his children. Throughout my childhood he and my mother kept fighting and never thought of what is going on inside us. He can never apologize, always somebody else has to come and apologize otherwise he won't eat. My mother too has become somewhat like him, she too never thinks she can do anything wrong. I think living with a narcissist also makes u a narcissist. With all these in the family, I don't keep any expectations from anyone and I always keep myself first and think of my wellbeing. On the other hand I fear becoming a narcissist myself by always keeping myself first.
I can relate to you.
In that case.. my father is a narcissist who has taken away 90% of happiness of my family..esp.of my mother .. he is now 68 yrs and he is still doing it and we have to deal with it
Mshappy, you don't have to suffer all of it. Learn about Grey Rock technique. Watch channels of Dr Ramani, Patrick Teahan, Crappy Childhood Fairy. 🙏🏼
All the points go to my father. Everything has to be under his control. I can't forget all those unfortunate events, made my mother in panic mode all the time. Accusing and shouting for no reason. After my marriage, I found my happiness. I still try to forgive him but I can't.
Co-exist is impossible if that person is your spouse...when they know u have boundaries they will break them and then break you...violence will follow.
You can NEVER live with a narcissists
True. It's very difficult to survive
Yess totally agree 💯
It's easy to deal outside because if we avoid them it may be better. In family if we find such people everything goes upside down. The more we avoid them the more they break us! Every word is true👌
Sir, Please make more videos on NPD to create more awareness & laws in India against Emotional abuse. These people sabotage many lives & go un noticed. Coverts are dangerous & malignant
Well explained, makes a lot more clear to realize the Narcissist in the family - You are just brilliant @Shridhar Lifeschool 🙏
I ve gone thro lot of stuff on Narc. Your compilation is astounding.
Best Video On Narcissist People
Sir ,You are doing a great service.
Rab Rakha
As much as i understand what you say, it's very difficult to be a child of a narcissist, coz disobeying a parent is regarded as wrong and shocking in the Indian context.
Thanx sridhar as always
If you are still in school or college, just hang in there and do your best. As soon as you are capable, try to find a job and be independent. When you have a narcissistic parent, being financially independent is the most important thing. Eventually you will learn to set boundaries and how to deal with them. More power to you.
I bear this situation from my childhood, sad thing is in that situation you are emotionally depended on your parents and it impact on your mind, thought process and if you not get outside reality check or assistance it can distroy a Life.
Excellent video 👌There are many such people now days
Excellent..Thank u for the video..
I have been learning from Surviving NPD, for last 5 years. That only made me to Co-exist. Its really tough to live with female Narcissist. But unfortunately I learnt about in 2017 when I was trying to figure out why her behaviour is abnormal, not only with me, with so many, still feels ok with it with no remorse.
Anyways, really nice and very helpful video you have created congratulations. Not many people, are able great sense on this topic as you could do. Being Dr. Myself, not only knowing Psychology, not much was taught about this topic 30 years ago when I did my medicine graduation, Psychology has been my second love, first off course the subject I specialised. But I still enjoy learning about it. But yes were bang on your every point I could appreciate.
God Bless you.
Hi Dr.. Thanks for sharing.
In the west this is far more talked about. In fact there are divorce lawyers as well specific for narcissistic victims.
Very well said! I'm dealing with one, i thought there was some personality issue, i used get in heated conversations due to the same blame game things,but you have given a better insight on this topic thanks!
Watched dr.ramani video
U will understand more
Please don't engage in conversation with these narcs. By doing so, you are giving them narc supplies they thrive on. Instead give a grin😏 and walk away.
@@hardworkbitstalent2774 There is another doctor called Dr. Susan Koruth too
Very well explained 💯💯💯
Thank you so much sir ❤️❤️❤️
Awesome explanation and wonderful solution 👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼👍🏾 very helpful .... tqq soo much 😊
Thank you so much for this video, it helped me a lot, I now understand that I am not wrong, and also know that there's a disorder like that
Great information.
Small suggestion. Please look at it as a personality disorder rather than mental illness. Because illness can have treatment and recovery. But personality disorder requires awareness and willingness to improve. That almost never happens in case of NPD.
Thank you very much for addressing this issues 🙏🏼
Narcs never change
Well explained! ❤❤❤❤Thank you..
Superb....can't agree more..have dealt with one..you nailed it..
I am very happy to come across this as I may have had to deal with it for years only realising it was something else than a relationship problem or a women thing. By the time I see this video I have already figured out on my own how to deal with it but awareness would have helped do so earlier maybe. However key is accepting that you are not at fault. This is the first time I saw content with a name to the situation. Felt sad that there is no solution for the abuser who is suffering mentally. I am still married but instances of abuse are reduced but mildly a part of life. I try to not let it affect me beyond the moment. For the children this is also difficult as they don't understand the mood swings of the mother. That part I need more inputs on
After wondering and pondering for more than a year, finally I found a content which pretty much discussed all my concerns, specially support group within the family. From today, I’d probably change my strategy of coping. Huge thanks to you and looking forward for more.
Watch dr.ramani video
U will understand more
@@hardworkbitstalent2774 thanks!
@@hardworkbitstalent2774 right. For trauma healing watch Patrick Teahan and Crappy Childhood Fairy channels. 🙏🏼
Loads of love to you my dear Sridhar.... I've loved almost all your videos... I've learnt understood and applied many things you've explained...
But this one l tell was the bestest ever.... 🔥 Each and every single thing l could relate to my husband. I used to break my head why why and why .. am happy am over it now .. l moved with my two children when it crossed the limit and now he lives with us .. earlier we lived with him. There's a lot of difference in both the sentences experientially.... I've fought for myself. I have very strong boundaries now .. we coexist and am very happy in my own life though he still nags and complains. Cos am not waiting for his validations anymore ... 👍 Am in peace with myself. And that's the best feeling.
People out there trust him, this boundaries idea ACTUALLY WORKS... but also be prepared. I finally understand my husband is a narcissist..... 😀
This video is so informative, infact all the videos of you are so. One get to know and reflect on their traits and be better version of themselves and try and control the situations which is already out of control or deal with individuals who are difficult to deal with. In trying situations, atleast they can have grip on their inner and outer self for their own peace and well-being
Thank you man I needed this 🙏🏻
I was in need of this at this time. Thank you very. Whenever I feel I can't Move out , this one will help me to let go.
Excellent video!!!
Thank you very much for this video
May God bless you and you live a long life 🙏
Absolutely bang on 100% correct
U r absolutely right Sir... vry useful tips... great information...
He is absolutely right..One best way is to stay away from such people
Narcs will only get bitter and horrible as they age. So if anyone thinks, they will get better when they get old, it is like expecting a fish to walk on the street. Also trying to explain to them is another mistake. None of these will work. They have such deflated ego that they can't see anything other than themselves.
Runnnnnnnn away from them🏃♀️🏃🏃♀️🏃🏃♀️🏃🏃♀️🏃Build your life and be peaceful. There is a better life out there 😍😍😍
Woah!! So true !!
Hi Sir, your explanation is crystal clear & complete, so I shared this to my close relatives who don't understand my narc husband.
Please make a video about how narcs are formed & do Genetics play major part.. 🙏🏼
Thank you so much brother 🙏 your video made my life easy Thank you so much ❤️
I found this video the best on this topic
Very true most of the points told relate . Everyone in this situation can’t move out that is the only to be away from them rather suffering with them where you can’t do simple things at home . It’s need approval from him . Due to children also suffer end up being one same victim finally again one more girl child will be victim for this pain and suffering
Am very thankful to you that you made this content. It make me aware of the actual situation. Unfortunately i have to face this narcissistic behaviour from my own mom. I think if mothers personality is like this then impact on entire family is huge. This video will help me a lott to make myself aware.
very concisely explained
It's an unending topic and writing about each shade of narcissism would be infinite . Yes you need to make an independent life for yourself but narcissists are very smart in chhosing their targets and then isolating them and making the victim believe that it is their fault . Only when you come across such vjdeos , then you start realising the reality . And by then the victim is a lost cause or has very little control over things
Most needed one... I have some people
The best, most precise, and condensed information. Thank you for this. If the people with NPD are less than 1% why do I come across so many? It's my genuine query. I started reading about it when behaviours of some people really bothered me.
Because every person will have some degree of narcissism in them. But there are only a few who are completely narcissistic
Sir
How to expose them
They are very smart,
What they do, they had tried to defame me... And make me alone and spread so much negativity about me
But in front of others they are very nice...but I know their actual personality is different
Hii shridhar i just loved the video from the very begining and was too focused all that you speak really didn't felt skipping the video . The personality you are speaking about from start is relatable to me and you want to know more about this personality feel free to ask thank you.
I can identify this in someone close…very reassuring
My god all the points u said match one of my relatives....
Thank u for making this video
Well said 👌
Every point is Cristal clear in my famly😢...but not letting me to get away from him but surviving like the last point said
Very informative video. Howveer when you say deal with them and coexist . Isn't it trauma bonding ? Isn't it that your life becomes a battle all the time n you are in the survival mode always ?
Damn my big brother is exactly like this..nice vid Shridhar 👍🏻
Omg you are so correct 😢
Thank you sir
Thank you so much
Thank you so much
you are right...your point 5 and 6 is really so true and i am in love with the person and though he behaves so bad i still after a certain time come back and want him to talk to me and accept him as he is. but he is least bothered about me.
the issue is i guess. my children are yet not ready to earn and so am i ( a typical housemaker) and am struggling to start getting a regular income. how can i avoid or leave such a narcissit husband
From 3.17 to 3.19 second is 💯 true.... And that's the most cruel thing an empathetic person wud ever face.... Still Can't believe narcissistic behaviour is for real...
Shridhar have u made about narc moms? In our culture parents esp moms on such high pedestal but so abusive can't speak openly bout this
@shridhar what are main differences between a Narcissist and BPD. Is BPD curable? Thanks!
Exactly 100% my husband & his family😢
Thanks
most of narcissistic people among indians,its the MOTHERS, but duto our social and culture and religion we give toomuch importance to mother even if she is sick in the head, and deny that she is wrong,this destroies family and the love.
True...so true.. person matter not mother
@@poojaanimallover8720 yes person becomes mothe,person becomes father,person becomes son,daughter and every relationship we have so yes individuals personality counts just because they are related to us doesn't give them the right to be nice to us
@@HAPPY.DRAGON exactly
Please had a psychopath father who blame me that his lifetime dream was to have sons , but because I was born , his dream was never filled, he think that he was a god like being who had a king like be beauty. I was suisidal since age 8-9. There was nothing good about that monster. He damaged me , ruined my life.
At 10:59, my ex husband .... he used to make me sit and scold me like anything... over things that any normal person can not even think of! And this used to go on and on and on for the whole night. I used to feel so drained in the beginning days... I thought I will pass out. Because he used to continue talking n talking for 5 hrs..6 hrs... pointlessly... and I used to be crying all the time because of his mean words that how can this person whom I am married to be so cruel... slowly n slowly... I would be left with no energy and I thought better say sorry in the beginning itself just so that he will shut up!
Hello sir, i am following you from a long time. I am a young person who want to learn wisdom, which I really like from
Your videos. Can you recommend me the books on human behaviour? I would like to know from you because the tips you give are incredible
Same narcissist personality my father in law has I really don't understand how to deal with, he is always right the whole world is wrong to him he always pressurized every one to to what he says and the problem is that no one has courage to say no to him
Can you please throw some light on why someone is a narcissist? What's the reason?
Ya really true I have a narcissistic mom
I really really like ur videos,but wish u speak little slowly,its a little too fast,every word in dis video is completely tru n i faced it
Staying away is the best thing you can do for yourself because sometimes they can become abusive to have control over you. Later to put blame on you for provoking that person to do bad things.
If one of your parents is a narcissist, please when meeting someone new, do not mistake butterflies and nervousness for love. The feeling of butterflies and nervousness is actually your gut instinct warning you that this person is not right for you. We more often then not, choose a partner that has the same traits as the parent that never aknowledged or loved you. We will fall for a person with same personnality, because it feels familiar and we feel we get a chance to change the outcome, but it will not. It is a recepy for failure and it will impact your wellbeing for decades to come. It will ruin your life and prevent you from living your best life.
Feeling love for a person should feel like a warm blanket. You should feel at ease being yourself, you should feel supported and protected, calm and relaxed (men and women alike). That is love. I took the time to write this for the young ones on this channel, that have yet to start their life and choose a partner. If you feel nervous and butterflies around a love interest... run. If you feel like you cannot tell everything about your love interest to family or friends ... run before you have children. If you got married, take your birthcontrol pills (women) or use condoms (men) religiously for at least a year, if not 2 years. The last thing you want to do is have kids and submit those innocent children to a life of psychological abuse.
Love from Belgium.
My MIL and husband both are narc
I can put so many people in my life who i can put in this category
Government must make Counselling free of cost because many a times the person who needs urgent Counselling may not be financially independent or maybe ,that person may be facing issues to become financially independent & needs counselling for that itself......... what I mean to say is incase if one is only getting to eat food in the house but no money at all.......& due to the issues being faced by that person he/ she is mentally exhausted. ... & is losing so much time due to mental exhaustion .......due to which he/ she is not able to take any action towards his/ her own financial independence with SPEED.
My girlfriend is doing all of them wherever you saying in the video sir
And she is now done with me
Without an even fight
OM - now i got to know that i am living with a narcissist
Hello sir I have jst completed my masters in psychology I am also from commerce background , I wanted to do qualify NET so , I eagerly wanted to know about your journey after NET in psychology
Usually eldest child becomes narcissist because of parent’s fault
How can i know whether i m narcissist or not
Bcz i m feeling i have some points in myself.
My elder sister is completely narcissist and she spoilt her life
I think I am the narcissistic in my family, but
Since I have left my job, all the importance given to me, and even timely food is not being given to me now.
Karma hath fall bro
@@sonasandhuji I got not one but 2 govt jobs back to back with my efforts, now my family members love me again 😅
@@shravankulkarni786 that's also karma brro
@@shravankulkarni786 that's also karma bro 😅
My mom in law is a narcissistic she all the time blames me for everything. And she shows me bad human being to my husband. And he every time feels that I am a very bad person. If she is not in the house in advance she plan something that she can talk bad things about me to my husband. And on those days when she not around still my husband's behaviour gets worst and worst. I have severe neck pain and a cyst in brain and can't work as before but still she tells my husband that I am acting. Now I am tired what to do?
I m financially dependent.
Every one is narciin our family
We must form a community...others don't understand...d age old.. matha, pitha , guru, devam...does not exist for all...
Why did it take soo long..for...a Indian channel...to bring dis out!...
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You are psycologist assis professor?
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maine kuch din pahle narcissist mother k bare me pada tha, usme narcissist ka matlab tha ke jab ek mother apne childern me partiality karti h, kisi ek kid ko jyada pyar aur dusre ko neglect karti he to usko narcissist kahte he.
apka video dekhane k baad lag raha he meri mom narcissist h, me apne parents ki 5th girl child hu, meri mom muje kabhi accept nahi kar payi. meri third aur fourth no sis mom ladli thi kyuki wo sirf mom ki baat manti thi, mom ke close hone ka karan meri third no sister bhi narcissist ho gai wo mujse waise hi treat karti jaise meri mom karte he. its been 14 year i got married now but meri mom n sis abhi bhi waise hi he, me preshan hoke last 5-6 years se dono se baat karna band kar diya he, last year corona se mere father ki death k baad ab meri mom meri sis ko mere ghar bhejti h, ab unko aisa lag raha he ke sis's ko pyar se rahna chahiye. meri sis mere ghar aati he muje depression hone lagta he.... i feel haunted k agar meri sis ghar aa jayegi..... maine to sabke cell no bhi block kar rakhe he.
This is my husband
What if a combination of narcissist and an impotent husband...APPALLING
What to do if these kind of person is at home
Use grey rock method
You just described my husband.
Agar khud aise ho..how we gonna get over it..plss tell..coz i understand..m like that..that's why I don't want any relationship in my life..coz of this.. dominated, nd all ..khud ko aise honay se kaise bachaie
See agar tm khudko narcissist smjti ho to tm nai ho waisi. Narcissist log kbhi v accept nai krenge wo narcissist h, kabhi v nai. Thore boht traits match krte isliye khudo waise smjne lge. Relationships mei apne faults accept kro and apologize then learn from those mistakes, aise hi sb thik hoga.
Hi send Hindi link
Most of all semmed to be narcissists 😇😇
exactly my husband,,,,how to deal with them....i am always in hell
And most of them are covered in kind masks
If someone is not behaving the way we want western world call it narcissist. Never name someone narcissist unless he or she is clinically diagnosed by a professional. Western world is make huge money propagating narcissism.