Death Before Life: A Baby's Funeral | Harmony Funeral Care
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- čas přidán 28. 04. 2021
- Today we take a look at how baby funerals are conducted in Singapore. It is never easy losing a baby to death. It is not just because the physical life of our little one is gone but also the hopes and possibilities attached to this potential life that becomes thin air with the death of the baby.
At 79 years I just had a gravestone made for my baby daughter who lived six hours. In 1981. I don't want to leave this world without a place that honors her. That is where her brother and sister can go to remember me too. My heart has been there for 42 years.
Saying goodbye to my 17 week old beautiful baby son in 1983 still haunts me everyday, the pain never ever goes away, constant reminders of meeting adults age 40 always makes me wonder how my precious son would, look, talk, be married with children of his own the list is endless and harrowing, RIP BABY JAMES, DADDY WILL NEVER GET OVER LOSING YOU X X X
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Your son will be waiting for you in Heaven.
When some dies who has been especially close to someone. That person goes to heaven. People who were old are young again and people who were sick are restored to health and people who were injured are made strong again like we remember them in our dreams gone by. People in heaven are happy and content. Except for one small thing they are not with their special person who loved them on Earth and they each miss someone very special to them who had to be left behind. Then they day will come when you land in heaven. Your baby will stop at look into distance with its eye full of intent and it’s body will quiver eagerly. You have been spotted and when you and your son meet you will cling together in joyful reunion never to be parted again. As look into the eyes of your son so long gone from your life but never absent from your heart. From that point you two will be in heaven together forever.
I'm so sorry.😢 I lost my baby too, he was almost only seven months old.❤
Im sory for you loss
You'll see him again!
The smallest coffins are the hardest to carry. My condolences for the family..
I lost my premature girl 29 yrs ago. She had a small funeral and burial.. She has a headstone. Years after I lost her, my 21 yr old daughter passed. Both of their headstones are just a few feet away from one another in the cemetery. I never thought my life would come to this. It is horrible. Child loss grief lasts a lifetime
I know Ur pain I burried 2 children too sorry for ur loss the last gift of love ❤️ is rememberance x
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So sorry for your losses. I lost my husband when he was 40. I have our two boys to raise. They've kept me going. I can't fathom losing them. I need to go before them.
I lost my first baby, a girl, 50 years ago and you never forget them, she was 18 hours old.
I often wonder what she would have been like. I have had two more children since then,
a girl and a boy. I often think of my first baby to this day.
No parent would ever get over this loss. My heartfelt thoughts and prayers. 🙏
I still grieve 58 years later. after the death of my baby girl. You never forget, you just learn to cope. It is so traumatic especially when it’s your first baby.
I'm so sorry. I can only imagine how hard that would be and I doubt my imagination is anywhere near the truth.❤
As I posted above, 42 years I've loved her. She was my firstborn. I'm always touched to see little graves of babies older than she by 50 years still tended and a Christmas wreath placed. Because they are our children.
Patricia Bro. My baby girl died 50 years ago when she was 18 hours old, you never forget
and wonder what they would have been like. I have had two more since then, another
girl and a boy. But I often think of my lost first one.
@@gailcrowe727 I had 3 boys after she died when she was 32 hours old. It broke our hearts. I hoped that one of the next 3 pregnancies would be a girl but I do have 3 wonderful, sweet, successful sons. And I have 5 granddaughters, not one grandson. The 5 girls are wonderful but I will miss my daughter until the day I die and, hopefully, join her in heaven. No one knows how very sad it is to lose any child but after losing your first born I found that I was on high alert ALWAYS while they were growing up. I still panic any time that the phone rings late at night or early in the morning. They are all in their 50s now with families of their own but a mother NEVER forgets. Now my husband died 18 months ago and I miss him more than anyone can know but I hope he is enjoying time at last with our little girl.
@@patriciabrough6367 Yes, I know what you mean I’m always on high alert with my two as well. I was very nervous
when I was pregnant with my following ones and started having migraines and have had them ever since.
You have a wonderful family, I have a little granddaughter now.
Thank you for explaining this from your country. It is a very emotional to know that a child has died but that he is being. Treated with dignity and care.
Thank you for telling us this. We will strive to do better in serving families.
My heart is full of love for the little one's family. The people were compassionate and gentle. I lost my twin sons at birth nearly 40 years ago and their sister 4 years later, they are with me every day. Blessings to all those who grieve ❤️
Why 3 children lost ?
The way you treat the dead with such love and respect brought me to tears.
All I can say, is thank God for these people! Even as a physician, there is no way in hell I could do that type of work, particularly when it comes to a child, because I just keep seeing my own child, and it just breaks everything inside me. it takes a very very special type of person to do this work, so that the family can grieve in peace without having to worry about what needs to be done before the funeral. I can’t even begin to imagine the crippling pain of losing a baby or a child, even though we are trained to keep our emotions in check, if I have to be totally honest, it’s probably the most difficult aspect of the job, because transference, despite whatever my profession says, is inevitable. As a human being, transference is a natural event, most often done on a subconscious level which we can’t even control. It takes years of practice before you’re able to put your emotions aside and do your job. I’ve lost many patients over the years, I remember each, and every single one of them, because no matter how much you try to do for them, it’s inevitable That there’s going to be a point where there’s nothing more you can do for them. Those are the days that are the hardest to Fais, and one of the reasons why I chose to relocate to research in the laboratory instead of carrying on my practice. It’s a topic many of my coworkers discuss, and it doesn’t matter how long you’ve been in the game, it’s never easy to inform a family that their loved one is going to die, or has died, and then just stand there desperately trying to give them comfort when you know that there is nothing you could ever do to make them feel better. After I sign the death certificate, that’s when these people would take over, something I simply could not do. Perhaps I’m a bit of a coward, but I always want you to become a doctor so I could help people stay healthy and alive, never occurred to me that, that wouldn’t always be the case, and that there would be many times when there was nothing I could do to save the patients life, despite our incredibly advanced technologies and medication‘s. So again, so all those who take over after we finished our job, I thank you from the bottom of my heart.
Worse pain ever losing a baby mine was six months a cry every day fr my baby girl ❤️
That poor young father will never forget this sad event of being with his baby until the last.
breaks my heart to see this.
my sincere condolences to the baby's family.
rest in peace, little one.
I work for several funeral homes .you hafe to have God's heart to help other people in this need .❤️
Wow, I actually thot that something is wrong with me, cause the last girl that I buried was in 1970 I actually lost 4 girls + 1 miscarriage,the 1st girl I lost was in 1966 I've never been able to overcome these losses, I'm 86, everyone tells me "you should be over their deaths by now, you can't keep on carrying that heavy burden all your life", seeing these comments has helped, thx
What a beautiful video thank u !! And thanks to the baby's family forgetting us be apart of their loss... I hope that they are in a better place now 🙏
Thank you for sharing this information with us. I found this video to be very tastefully done with providing the utmost respect for the deceased and their families.
Babies and children’s funerals are the saddest.💔
It is really painful for us parents but i really thanks Harmony & her team for all the hard work done.
It is indeed painful for the parents and we can’t say we understand 100 percent but we will do what we can to ease the burden of arranging a proper send off for their baby.
Caring and Beautiful handling of this little one.
I think you work is absolutely amazing, I want to be an embalmer, and I will when the time is right for me. RIP to all families shown
Condolences to the family and friends of this little angel,
God bless all involved. Rest in peace angel.
I am so very sorry for the loss of your Angel. My sincere heartfelt condolences.
💝🙏🙏🙏😇💖
Losing a baby is never easy. Let's try to make it easier for the parents.
So sorry for your loss. Prayers
😞
The saddest video to watch a baby be prepared for funeral
My deepest condolences for your loss. May your little RIP
Deepest Condolences for the loss 😢
I just have that you speak very well and explain it to the T and this, is coming from New Orleans Louisiana 💜💛💚🇺🇸
Thank you
When my little niece died at age 2 months, the funeral director carried her little pink coffin under his arm. That was the most heart-wrenching thing for me. How little she was and how my brother and his wife cried. Whew. That was back in, I think , 1984. I was just twelve then.
From one auntie to another, you have my deepest condolences
This is pain.. Omg 😢r.i.p!! tq herosss
So Sorry for your lost
Did they get hand and foot prints of the baby? A small tuft of hair? Anything like that is a great comfort to the parent or parents left.
My heart really went out to that father who just couldn’t bear to be parted from his son….even going to watch the cremation…..I fear that part will be his last memory for such a long time, but feel ALL babies hands and Feet should be printed onto some brightly coloured card….then the parents hopefully go home with these AND they have a healthy baby with them….sadly things can take a different turn, such as this case, and I can’t stress how much it means to a parent to have almost some proof that they did have a baby, and it was so beautiful that God took it back to be an Angel.
I lost my own son quite suddenly, not as a baby, but aged just 39, when he had not long prior become a father of a little boy himself.
My son had aggressive cancer and I blame smoking…it’s a killer disease, and I lost both my own parents to it, but their generation were not so aware. However in just seven weeks from diagnosis, my boy passed away in a hospice. The funeral director was very kind, and had some hair cut for me to keep, some I wear in a locket round my neck, the rest I will take with me when I go, so we are always connected. Myself, his wife and baby son also had a lock of our hair cut and put into his hand too. The other thing was an imprint of his finger print was taken, and his wife and I also have those to wear. There are some jewellery people who provide the kits which allow impressions to be taken by a nurse or the funeral director, and then they can run some silver into a cast and preserve the fingerprint permanently in a piece of jewellery. I know some people buy jewellery which will hold some of the cremated ashes, others hsvr sent the ashes away and had it made into a jewel…like a diamond because our ashes contained so much carbon with which to do this, but for me…..the foot and hand prints are precious, so I would urge hospitals and funeral homes to do this for each baby or child that they gave in their case. Godbless this little one, and his father. I truly believe they will be reunited one day when father has led a full and rich life here on earth. No one should think about trying to join loved ones sooner…there is no guarantee that this would happen unless planned by God, so no matter how sad..keep talking daily to your loved ones..kiss their picture if you have one. They are always close by, just like being in the room next door, so can hear you, Godbless everyone reading this who has lost a loved one, young or old. It’s always painful, but that pain will gradually ease and be less painful. 🙏🥰💐💕
Helen Cheadle. So sorry to hear you lost you’re son, hold you’re your grandson close. I lost my first baby at
18 hours old many years ago now but she’s still in my heart. My pain was hard to bear but you’re pain must
be much worse. God bless you.
I worked in histology, and the hardest part was receiving babies that had passed.
I had one father come down to hold the baby one last time. Super sad.
Has to be the saddest job ever, next to putting animals down. I wouldn't have the heart for this kind of profession unfortunately.
Hello, thank you, and thank you to the family of this dear baby for allowing this filming. I have worked in the uk funeral industry, but i just wondered why there was only one family member, i will presume the Father, at the Funeral service? Would the Mother, and other family members have gathered before the baby was collected from the hospital? Is it a cultural aspect, or just that individual families decision. Best wishes to you, for doing a very special service to families every day 🙏
This was a fetus from a pregnancy that was six months developed… Roughly 24 weeks.
It’s very possible that the mother was in the hospital… She might have hemorrhaged and needed surgery.
During a premature birth like that, hemorrhage and infection are very serious risks for the mother
Who knows, this might’ve been an emergency cesarean section where the baby didn’t make it and the mother is still unconscious
So sorry for your loss 😉 peace 🕊️
Oh that is so sad😢
My brother list a beautiful baby girl. It was like you could breathe but there was no air in the room. It was mind altering thinking about a one week old baby being taken.
As a father, it pains me to see such things have to happen. Only as parents will be able to know how much it takes to swallow the sadness.
My baby boy died and my daughter died age 30 no answer to any of them ?? The last gift of love ❤️ is rememberance sleep in forever peace bless you both Kerry and James xx ❤️❤️
Sleep tight little one.
Where do we put the ashes of the baby in the sea or niches
Peace to you, in all you do... if I had my choice, and it were necessary, I'd prefer you to help my baby move onward and in my heart I know, upward❤
Putting something so small in the is the saddest 😢
Sending all my love and prayers to the family LITTLE ONE RIP 🙏 💙 THANK YOU TO ALL THAT CARE FOR ALL OUR LOVE ONES AND CARE FOR ALL OF US! AND THANK YOU FOR SHARING PART OF HOW THINGS ARE DONE DEALING WITH DEATH DIEING ETC.❤
I'm sorry she died. What u did for her was beautiful
I wouldn’t think the parents wouldn’t want to cremate their baby and have a burial site they can go too instead💔🙏🏾🕊
In Singapore cremation is preferred due to land scarcity and there are columbariums where ashes can be kept, visited.
@@lindc1070 thanks 🙏🏽 for that information ❤️
@@gailjackson-chapman7085 in addition , graves are dug up after 30 years or so and families are asked then to claim the remains, cremate them. So burial is very short term in Singapore. Graveyards make way for redevelopment
@@lindc1070 thank you that information ❤️❤️
@@gailjackson-chapman7085 you are welcome
I feel so sad for the baby’s father (?). He was the only one there to say goodbye.
So sad
Indeed it’s sad. So the only thing we can do is try our best to provide a dignified send off for the baby. 😢
Where was the mother??
I've been to too many baby funerals.
Where was mom? :(
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What did she mean by "sometimes it's a willing decision" in regards to the baby's death?!!
Keep in mind, abortion is healthcare.
Sometimes, the only decision people are left with.
@@odette6779 Abortion is only health care when it is necessary, which is very rarely.
I do believe she was speaking in terms of a willing decision to 'cremate'.
Is this a reupload?
It is because unfortunately, someone logged into our account and deleted our videos and hence we are re uploading some of the videos. Sorry about that !!! 🥲
I would want to hold my baby
At 6 months it is not a featus its a baby some babies survive at this time 😮
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what cause of death
😂 none of your business
Do people in China get buried in the ground for some reason I only hear of cremation
This isnt in China. It is in Singapore. Cremation is preferred due to land scarcity
I know if I had kids, I couldn’t live with myself. I am glad that I can’t have babies.
What happened to the mom
تركبون جريمة في حق الطفل المتوفي، الأطفال ملائكه لا يجوز الحرقهم‼️😭
يقول رسول الله صلى الله عليه وسلم كسر عظم الميت ككسر عظم الحي بمعنى حرق الإنسان ميت نفس الأذى الذي يتعرض له الإنسان الحي لأن الإنسان له أربع ديار الأولى في بطن أمه والثانية في حياة الدنياء وهي دار ممر فانيه دار ابتلاءات بالخير والشر والثالثة القبر ونسميها حياة البرزخ والرابعة هي الجنة دار الأبدية دار الخلد الله يهدي قلوبهم للإسلام ويشرح صدورهم بالإيمان ويصبحون من أهل الجنة آمين 😠
I lost my baby before I knew I was pregnant. It was an ectopic and the doctor estimated I was around 3-4 weeks. I still remember the night I got pregnant, even the time because it was my one and only one night stand: 4/8/91 @ 2:08am. I lost it on 5/8/91@ 4 am(when I went into surgery). I'm sure the time is a little off but I remember most of the details because that was the one and only time I ever got pregnant and at 21 and unmarried and living on my on for the first time all I could think about was hoping something would happen and I wouldn't be able to have it. I got my wish and then some. A year later I met and married the world's greatest man. Our life was perfect except.... We couldn't have children. He had fertility issues and so did i . I'm so sorry for all of your losses. But I know they will be waiting on you.
It showed the father saying goodbye but where was the mother
No parents should bury their own child/children!!!😞
But it was a beautiful funeral!!!
I am sorry for the loss of your loved one, may you find comfort in God's word the Bible where it is promised that our greatest enemy DEATH will be brought to an end at Revelation 21:4. With Sympathy...
Thank you for your encouragement and sympathy!
My condolences go out to the family and friends of this little one. Rest in peace.
Thank you