REGULAR PEOPLE ARE BENEATH THEM. This obsession with luxury & excess is toxic.
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Kevin Samuels did a show on this topic talking about The Jeffersons that made me cry. My husband and I have been married for 25 years and we didn't have two pennies to rub together when we got married. These women will never know how fantastic it is to build a life together from nothing. We aren't wealthy, but I count myself as one of the luckiest women in the world to have a happy marriage to an amazing man and healthy children. I can't tell you how happy it makes me to see people from your generation sounding the warning on where this attitude will inevitably lead: more broken marriages, more sad lonely people, and more damaged children.
I'm happy that you are living your best life and grateful of it
So true, married for 4 years now and I got blessed with a hard working man. I didn't know it when we first got together (best friends in high school and got together in the end) but when I got pregnant right out of high school we both got straight to work and have been working our asses off to provide for our baby (fingers crossed we get our own little home in the next 5 years! Tough to do in california though!). He's my world and I couldn't be more grateful.
Pin of wholesomeness
sis stop it. that is your life
that is not the same for everbody else who date deal with broke men
Love, there are a million different ways to live this life. Your path worked for you, and I'm glad it did, but it may not be what works for others.
So many women passed me up... when I told them I’m a plumber 😂. I never tell them I own the business. Made my first mill at 26 and I barely wear anything except work clothes.
Good 4 u man !! 👍
A millionaire and you simpin like Sanji. Gotta love it
@@itsAurora-zq8cb thanks buddy 👍
@@juliansykes782 😂 I thought the name was funny ... bc sanji is the king of simpin
@Simpin Like Sanii. You dropped this my guy 👑
It is not arrogant to earn 100k a year, it is arrogant to pick someone solely because they make 100k a year and their "lifestyle"
This
It's also not arrogant if a person with 100k says they make 100k and take pride in it. It's only arrogant if someone exaggerates his self importance. Key word is exaggerate. It will however make others feel inferior, which will likely make them think he's an asshole--especially if he's constantly bringing up how much he makes.
Bingo
@@solidsnake5644 Well if it’s brought up in the right situation. Very good to be proud of achievements.
Thank you !! Say it louder
“ You’re not looking for safety you’re looking for luxury”
An amazing distinction.
It 666 likes.
Had to make it pass that
Men dating bodies womens dating pockets that’s why everybody unhappy ☹️
Top comment right here
Dang!!!! That's the absolute truth! No one could've said it better.
NAILED it.
nowadays, "high value" to people that aren't shallow is simply someone who cares about their physical health, doesn't care about money, is loyal for life, has self respect, and accepts gender roles. Unfortunately, for both sexes, this is rarer than a six figure man that's 6ft tall apparently
And neither want to change. They just want to complain and change each OTHER.
“Some people are so poor, all they have is money.” - Bob Marley
That blew my mind...great quote.
Wowwww. I have been reflecting on this comment for the past 2 minutes. Wowww
Been on both ends. I'm not any happier with money I'd say.
The hypocrisy of it though is bob marley had hella money. When you're rich as fuck you can say retarded shit like that though because you can afford to. Just like John Lennon when he preached about no possessions yet lived richly all his life and never gave all his money away.
@@candideggplant1575 I think he meant how literally even tho your poor everything you do everyday will involve money. Everything around you took money to be. You want to eat. Not walk. . Once you have nothing and lose everything (besides family of course) is when your mind opens to all the alternative methods to making money and using your common sense lol
You’re not arrogant for having a lot, you’re arrogant for thinking you deserve more than others just because you exist.
These women should get to read that quote every day for 2 years so they can slightly self reflect, they seem incapable of that
Perfectly said. There’s no problem with earning the money because, by definition, you deserve it.
Like, you said, the problem is the mindset that some people have where they think they can just enter that life of luxury without doing shit. Elizabeth from across the street wanted to marry into that same life of luxury but failed to do so. What makes YOU (I’m not talking to you in particular, I’m talking about the people who have this mindset) think that you can do it and, most importantly, do it without actually putting in the work. Are you just THAT high-status? Are you just that much better than other people like Elizabeth?
Like you said, that’s where the arrogance comes in.
That’s a lotta people in America, too.
God bless you sir
If used in politics, this one wins the argument 👍
When I dated my husband I was looking for someone who felt like we were family and who took marriage as seriously as I did. We got married at 20 and we earned about $10/hour each and it was such a fun happy time. After a while my earning potential grew more than I ever expected and we’re at $300,000/ year combined now. It’s comfortable but it’s the same stuff that makes us happy. We have the same jokes, the same hobbies and we do the same stuff we always have. Our favorite is BBQ on the weekend and just open the house and friends and family come in and out, very casual. Nothing beats that. The difference now we don’t make ppl bring their own meat 😂😂😂😂 We got this.
Bro can i come to one of your bbq? Meat is expensive, i can cook, my bbq are godly, its the argentinian blood in me.
@@VonRibbitt that comment 😂😂😂
Awesome!
This is some goal of mine, being able to pay the meat or whatever food if I want to organize something big and not break my bank account.
Man I started watching f&f after a bad breakup and it just made me bitter and insecure. All the talk about wanting a rich man and downing blue collar workers was infuriating to me, but after seeing this video it really put it all in perspective. I really appreciate you guys keep doing your thing
Same fuckin thing here. It’s easy to become bitter and insecure after something like a breakup, especially when listening to bitter and insecure content creators. Slippery slope
FnF also always call men losers for not being self made richbois or for not being able to woe every other woman even though both would represent the majority of their audience lol 😂
@@bloodshotred6334 that’s why I never considered F&F misogynistic. Cuss they shit in guys too. Particularly average ones. If you’re comfortable where you’re at, if you don’t have 50+ bodies like they do, if you don’t have abundance, shit even if you’re depressed you’re a loser. And I find that ironic. In a society where it constantly shits on men even in some parts of the manosphere you can’t escape ridicule
You were smart enough to snap yourself out of the Redhill mindset before you were in too deep. None of those high value men really know what high value is
Also they ALL were exposed as hypocrites eventually, so there’s that. Watching all the vids on A&P’s channel now 😂
There is nothing wrong with a regular life, regular job, regular career, regular people. Do not let this crazy social media age make you think you always have to strive for high salaries or luxury. You can be just as content with your life as a rich person provided you accept that happiness and peacefulness is not external. Do not let these people make you feel bad about your life.
People just despise the word “regular” nowadays. I don’t know if society on average will ever be ok with regular again.
I think a lot of people would be content if it weren't for people questioning why your content.
@energizedbones I think it only becomes a problem when people feel entitled to a elite, lavished lifestyle
The bare necessities are what matter.
@@freudianslip2192 but people who want to be content will always seek out people who are then ask them why they are content and either be like I want what you have or be like no that's not what I want how can you be content with that? That's the problem with the contrast and compare society we live in.
That one guy who speaks truth in a group is always that guy who is “politely asked to leave”
@@AxxLAfriku I dont get it
@@AxxLAfriku pics or it didn't happen
>> "That one guy who speaks truth in a group is always that guy who's 'politely asked to leave'"
Yeah that's happened to me too
In a room full of arrogant and prideful fools, the one who speaks wisdom and truth is a threat to those who live with convenient lies and half truths.
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I got a little teary eyed when Aba started talking about childhood. I grew up poor, in shitty places, our home was broken into and burglarized on 3 occasions.
But I also had an awesome sister, a hardworking mom who loved us both unconditionally and plenty of friends in my community. Despite the hardships my childhood was full of joy and happiness. I’m 30 now and reflecting on it all made me emotional and grateful for the life I’ve had so far. I love these guys man.
Random childhood story, the toys people donate for toy drives, I was the kid who received them. My mom used to take us to a community center where they had a Santa handing out the toys to kids of low income families in the area. The toys were categorized by sex and age. So a boy at between 10-12 years old gets a toy from this pile, a girl between 5-7 gets a toy from that pile. My friends finessed the Santa by lying about their age to get better toys. I was so scared of lying to Santa but they convinced me and it worked. We did it 4 years in a row. Never stopped. 4-0. We had a system, instead of quickly rushing to get in line like everyone else, We would first look at the piles, look at the toys other kids got, ask them how old they were if they had a cool toy. After some investigative work we determined the age range that got the best toys and we would tell Santa that we are in that age range. There was nothing he could do about it lmaoooo I was young but just looking in his eyes I knew that he knew I was lying and that calling me out on it would put him in a really awkward situation so he had to accept it as long as I could hold my poker face and double down on my age. We laughed together about it like maniacs every time we got away with it. One of my fondest childhood memories is finessing the community center volunteer Santa with my friends
Awe such a sweet story thanks for sharing
So your most favourite story of you childhood is lying to a volunteering Santa for a better free toy. I'm not a troll I think this is literally Aba and Preach's point. What was wrong with regular?
@@alyssawoodmanoh god oh fuck an impoverished 6 year old said he was 10. Society is doomed.
Bruh find a hobby
@alyssawoodman Yeah but kids are entitled to good Christmas presents. Thats the difference lol.
@@alyssawoodman they were children 💀
Nobody on their death bed says “I wish I made more money” or “I wish I bought a bigger house.” They always say..”I wish I spent more time with my family “ or “I wish I had more kids.” “I wish I spent less time stressing.” “I wish I lived more fearless.” Money wasn’t even on the list.
I have what I consider the least stressful job I could have, and I enjoy it, and I always want to get better at it, and sometimes I worry about how much I make, but then when I look at what I have, I breathe a sigh of relief.
Thankfully, every time I stress about it, I can talk to my wife. We talk about making the most of our money, but making more is rarely the focus unless it's to save up for a trip, or, eventually, retirement.
So many things are just enjoyed in the moment, especially when you're working for it every day.
Facts!
Fear is a the one and sadly for me a lack of children. :(
Not like you care about the poor anyway. Stop the cap.
Capitalism is what destroys this. They force us to pursue money.
I make $45k. My wife makes $35k. When we first got together, I was POOR. Slept on the floor type shit. It feels like we have a yacht RIGHT NOW! Happiness in abundance.
God bless man, that makes me happy to hear. You guys are rich in the right type of way!
And you will have more blessings
Lmao that's the crazy part. I make 45k a year as well but I'm single. But I started from the bottom, working factory and hard warehouse labour jobs. Like I'll legit have savings at the end of the month and I'm not even the stingy type. It made me realize aba is right, after your able to afford life necessities money becomes meaningless in relation to happiness or fulfillment.
I had a very rich father. Owned over 50 properties and he never really provided for me and left my mom when I was very young but seeing how miserable and angry he always was taught me more than anything else. To this day I cringe whenever a friend tells me some ridiculous dream of becoming a billionaire or buying a sports car. I think it's my firsthand experience-simply understanding that happiness is mostly internal.
Aye congrats to you King I hope you both live a rich and fulfilling life
Women only want to be there at the finish line 🏁
They won't date a plumber because they can't stand the idea of their social circle judging them on it, because they know they will cuz they all think that way.
Mr Plumber could make $200k per year.
@@dennisrobinson8008 shit even a heavy duty tech can make 6 figs if he works at the right place, or owns a business
@@dennisrobinson8008 And that's always the funny part
If that woman can do better than a plumber then more power to her. If not, and the plumber is the most she can get, then that's what she'll go for. There are men who won't date a woman who wears a size 16 or is a 6 in the face. In general, people tend to seek out the best option available to them. 🤷🏾♀️
@@TomikaKelly dont equate being obese to earning potential
I wonder if this is an American thing. I live in Sweden, and when I talk dating and dating criteria with my female friends, salary NEVER comes up. It’s astonishing how it’s the first thing that comes out of some women’s mouths
Most likely an American thing. Its really common to bring up salary here.
It’s not an American thing it’s just the circles these people live in. Normal women in America aren’t like this
Sweden is a Social welfare state, you all have a safety net to fall on, USA doesn't have that, you can fall back into poverty and bankruptcy very easily in US. So Sweden had a different culture due to this
It is. I’m from the Netherlands and we are known to be very direct and it’s not uncommon to ask blunt questions to people we don’t know very well but in a romantic setting I have never heard people talking about salary or demand a certain amount of money. It’s just not a thing that people focus on when engaging with each other.
Norwegian here, and I feel the same. Women here are way more comfortable with regular men, however the standard is (as we all know haha) better in Scandinavia XP people are generally better looking on average, humble and insightfull. (janteloven). And like mentioned above; we are more financially secure and therefore not dependent on a rich partner :/
My boyfriend and I have been together for over 6yrs. We're not married because we've both agreed to get to a place where we can live comfortably. He went to school for HVAC and I doubled down working to be able to pay our bills. He now has a great paying job and we've moved somewhere affordable. We were blessed to get a house and now, I'm the one going to school. We've been broke to the point we fed our kids but starved ourselves. I thank God I was blessed to find a man like him who is so committed to building together.
A1 glow up story ⭐
Where do I find ladies like you?
These girls: What's wrong with being a gold digger?
Yeah, she's a triflin' friend indeed
Oh, she's a gold digger
Way over town, that digs on me
Whats wrong with self prostitution?
@@griselgriselda2901 over her head alert
@@griselgriselda2901 yep ...your public image is ruined ...your using the other person for their money by pretending you like them ...then list goes on ...so how tf is it “literally nothing” ...would you want your daughter to be a gold digger ..no ..so behave
@@GingerDrums everything....it’s job that diminishes any sense of self respect ...and if you see nothing wrong with it ...I don’t wanna hear you complaining if your daughter gets passed around ...and gets run through 😂
This video may be a year old, but it still speaks volumes. This is why I have so much respect for these two.
Women honestly don’t think men need reassurance in relationships. I’m not afraid to talk to my wife and tell her. “Hey what’s up we haven’t had a deep talk in awhile and I haven’t heard you say I love you” so it just makes sense to talk to women
I have been told by a guy that males dont need that. I argue with him and say yall do. Then he said since I'm a male then I dont know what im talking about
@@shaysfashionablejewelry9859 Some do, some don't. A lot of guys do, but are uncomfortable since they never do talk about it, so it is strange to them and would rather not.
@@KapeeshPC because of how they been raise . If they experience emotional neglect as a child. They will feel uncomfortable with those
Basically "I want everything that someone else worked insane hard for because I feel like I should have it."
Sounds about right!!!
@Joe Berrera Probably should start making them show their work. If not, deuces.
I said what I said stfu
Ugh, all the "feels" will be the demise of modern women
@@mf8125 you're being funny, right?
They thought you were talking about the GUYS being arrogant. They missed the point where you said THEY are the ones being arrogant, thinking they all deserve that six figure life.
Exactly. Incapable of self-reflection.
A-haaaaa!!! (in my Coming to America voice)
This is one of the basic characteristics of a narcissist. This is what social media has fostered in them.
Tbh I don't think he made that clear enough or came back to that point. I wish they did hear that tho cos that would've been a great discussion and possibly enlightening for at least 1 girl?!
@@jodiegordon5559 I agree with you. I think Aba didn’t notice they misunderstood the arrogance he was talking about. Would’ve been interesting to hear their actual thoughts.
I grew up poor and black in Germany. I recently moved back after 2 decades abroad and went back to the neighborhood with my daughter on my shoulders. When I heard the ice-cream truck ring, I shed a tear..she asked me why I was shedding tears…
I just remembered how amazing my childhood was. We were so happy with the simplest things…always out to new adventures.
The rich kids always came over to play with us.
Thank you for sharing ❤️ good one
Hello. Just wanted to let you know that Jesus loves you very much. He is coming back very soon and He wants you to be ready.
Just go to Him as you are. You don’t have to be perfect. The only thing He requires is a full surrender of your life. Go to Him and give Him your life and everything. Once you surrender everything (from the heart). He will give you The Holy Spirit in His fullness. The Holy Spirit will then give you faith, the power to overcome sin, peace, fulfillment and above all, eternal life. You cannot do it on your own strength. It’s only by the Holy Spirit. And you get The Holy Spirit once you lay everything down, including your life at The Lord’s feet. He says in His Word “Not by might, not by power but by my Spirit”.
@@mamabear3610 Hello. Just wanted to let you know that Jesus loves you very much. He is coming back very soon and He wants you to be ready.
Just go to Him as you are. You don’t have to be perfect. The only thing He requires is a full surrender of your life. Go to Him and give Him your life and everything. Once you surrender everything (from the heart). He will give you The Holy Spirit in His fullness. The Holy Spirit will then give you faith, the power to overcome sin, peace, fulfillment and above all, eternal life. You cannot do it on your own strength. It’s only by the Holy Spirit. And you get The Holy Spirit once you lay everything down, including your life at The Lord’s feet. He says in His Word “Not by might, not by power but by my Spirit”.
I met my husband when he was a stockboy at target. I fell in love soon after, he made me laugh, he was always supportive. We literally had nothing, on food stamps, wic paying for our baby formula. We were happy though. Today, he makes six figures a year as an electrical power lineman and I am a successful hair stylist. We are each other's ride or die we've been together through the worst and the best and I will say the same about him that he will say about me, loyal af. None of these women are loyal, soon as you lose everything they'll leave you..LMy husband knows I have his back no matter what, because of that he puts me up on a pedestal, he knows I don't need those things, all the extras, but, he wants to give them to me for that specific reason. If he lost everything tomorrow, I'd pick him up off the ground, dust off his knees and we'd work it out together, these type of women make me sick. You are right they will either die alone or be with someone who makes them miserable just so they can have things, material things that we can't take when we die. I'd rather be broke and have someone holding my hand that I love than have a million pretty things and be alone
I met my husband, an exterminator, he was driving a 15yr old POS truck and lived in a bad part of town. Well, one thing led to another, we've been married over 20yrs. Little did I know when I married him he was making 6 figures but he was just frugal. We still live under our means because our nest egg is important to both of us. We were just talking the other night and he said, you could have done so much better than me. And I said that's impossible. He said why? I said because you bring me peace. How could i do better than that? And he agreed. Cause we rarely argue. We both value peace and loyalty.
Grew up in the early 90s and all I can say is social media is absolutely the biggest mistake ever created.
I kind of agree with you. So much good comes from it but the bad is CATACLYSMIC!
I think the idea of it was cool, but it’s implementation had terrible psychological effects. But then again I wouldn’t be surprised if it’s implementation wasn’t just one big case study to begin with lol
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@@d.l831 children grow up with the opinions of thousands before they even hit 15. Opinions that usually change your perspective on life for the worst. Not counting the random gore videos facebook pops ups. Children getting torn apart by cartel,. Fuck the internet. Before i was 18 I was already apathetic in seeing someone die on video. Parents dont even check on their kids while theyre at it.
I hate social media
My heart broke for my father who is a tax-paying plumber, who put my mother through university so she could become a public school teacher, who together with my mom raised two engineers, two police officers, one university lecturer, and at the moment, working hard to put my two sisters through medical school.
When Aba mentioned the disgust coming from these ladies towards men who work blue-collar type of jobs, all those years of listening to my Dad's CCR music while I watched him arrange his tools--all those years--they all came rushing and I felt emotional. I will never be disgusted nor ashamed that my father is who he is. He is not perfect, but my god... my god, did he try.
Wow, just wow. Your parents sound amazing. Please share your story and experience as often as you can so that these young men know that a life of hard work and dedication is worth living, and these young women can learn that so long as a man is focused and driven, it doesn't matter if he's a bricklayer or investor.
Your father did what he had to do. That makes him a great man.
Your father is an amazing, hardworking man. It's unfortunate that those people that should be praised for their work ethic are looked down upon because they aren't super wealthy.
Try! He succeeded.
That’s awesome! Toss the two police officers in the trash and I would say they sound like a pretty ideal couple!
To all the men out there working hard to keep our society going, we see you. We respect you
This mindset is part of the problem. The problem is when you don’t have class consciousness is when you fall for this division tactics. We need everyone regardless of gender or age, race, religion who’s working hard to keep society going. The problem is the wealthy people rigging the political and economic system in their favor. Class war over gender war
I agree. This is thoughts and prayers nonsense. @@morenitomoreno1282
Man am I so glad I have come across this channel recently, the amount of reason coming from you guys is honestly inexplicably rare to find during these times. I never thought it'd be able to find anything like this that resonates on so many levels.
You guys are honestly doing so much just by talking about all of these subjects and showing people that there is more to a debate than left or right, extremes such as "with us or against us" and it's honestly just sad there isn't more like this.
I enjoy these videos immensely and I hope you keep it up as long as you can!
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Welcome to the community here, you are exactly right about this channel and it's been solid content from these guys during these times and alot of videos are very important to bring up in discussions, they're based AF.
When did average become offensive? My guess is with the last couple of generations who were told to chase thier dreams rather than get something realistic. It has directed our society into a wierd place today.
Tbh I think most generations pushed the idea of success so hard that it looked like we can’t be content until every desire is fulfilled in our lives which isn’t good.
Exactly
Being rich has become so much more common that everyone thinks they have a shot at reaching it but don’t actually know what it takes to get there
Yep big reason of the student loan debt nonsense right now.
I think part of the problem is all dreams are getting similar. Before, we can have "I want to take over my dad's trade shop" or "I want to be a talented artist". Some are unrealistic sure but they are varied. Now, most dreams revolved around "I want to be a CZcamsr/streamer/gamer cause those people make a lot of money".
I have a friend who is a plumber. He makes 6 figures a year. He's a good hardworking man. Women look down on him for simply being a plumber because they see it as dirty, and yet will call themselves CEOs because they have only fans.
Make six figures, and show my butt checks🙂. I’m in!
@@letsgetit90 HELL YEAH!! ME 2
That's thing I don't get about some people. Being a plumber, electrician, truck driver, computer programmer and among other fields, they make very good money and people can live a comfortable life, if ya live within your means or cheaper. If they're good individuals and have similar end goals as you, then go for it and see how it goes. Yes money is essential but it isn't everything.
I have my construction company ( is actually I and my two workers) but I work in something I really like and enjoy and I'm good at... I make good money, and yes, most women look down on me cause I wear frayed jeans construction boots and a loose t-shirt....
@@lynf5562 The programmer-stigma is different, though. Most people know that you can make a lot of money "with computers". There, it's more about being socially awkward and not presentable, even if you make a lot of money.
This dialog is so important, bless you guys from PJ
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Good job on talking to them like that. They were quiet and some nodded their heads. Sometimes, all you have to do is plant the seed. It's on the person receiving it to allow it to grow.
Statistically speaking, most of us will not become hyper successful. And that is not failure.
That's facts
People should really learn that there are different levels of success and life isn't like a disney movie where you're the main character and after everything you get rich in the end.
@@timilehyinhussain7963 but they NEED us to buy that story so that they can get us to go in debt with an education, a house and a car and .....our vote! ❤️
I don’t need it I make enough for me to pay bills an have money left over for me why am I over spending for. I don’t need the latest shoes or phone or devices I don’t need it
True try atleast
Marriage is not for the weak, selfish or insecure. And unfortunately, our generation has produced a lot of selfish and insecure people.
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No I disagree to an extent you are right but not completely , Our generation has produced weak people. It takes a lot of strength and toughness to come together with another person to build a community a family and raised them right.
Facts.
@@daryllndemmayah4874 for some it takes strength for others it’s a weakness instead, something or someone else to lean on instead of build up with, some things work some don’t.
Amen
This is why I have so much respect for these two and thankful that they speak on issues like this. I’ve put so much unnecessary stress on myself trying to keep up with people who make more than me and choose to spend their money on expensive things and experiences, absolutely nothing wrong with that. But in trying to emulate that in my life, I was so depressed that I wasn’t living the opulent lifestyle that I saw on IG. It wasn’t until I got into a stable relationship with someone and lived with them and really checked my values that the most rewarding experiences weren’t at the club or 5 star hotels and restaurants, but it was with the small, consistent group of people who made ordinary life fun because they were there to enjoy it with me. Nothing wrong with realistic standards and consistency. But I understand how easy it is to get caught up in that idea of luxury and how destructive it can be to your wellbeing.
The years I've spent building a life with my husband have been the toughest but the most rewarding. I'm grateful. We've both grown as individuals and as a couple. We are not the same people we were when we met. Goals change, haircuts, and the like, but our willingness to stay committed to the long term journey has remained constant. I'm grateful. I got a good one.
“Everyone thinks they’re the exception” that’s shit hits hard
I knew this in the late 80’s.
Mm right Darrell.
@@KeepitOneHunnedGrand yeah it's obvious but we all need a reminder sometimes
And it hits harder when they hit the wall. Hope they like cats.
not at all, maybe its my way of thinking.
I had some wealthy friends as a child... but 30 years later our favorite memories are about how we raced each other in abandoned shopping carts down an empty street. Priceless connections that required ZERO dollars.
That's so cool. 🥺
For sure, money beyond certain matters is an illusion to keep those that dont have buying tickets to the lottery of life. They are a slave to it. Obviously it is key in certain matters but 80% of it is consumption based mental conditioning. Social media has poured gasoline on the whole thing.
@@mnb9162 Social medial is ineffective without human interaction. People have poured gasoline all over each other and our meaningful connections. Our usage of social media is the problem in regards to this very helpful tool when used appropriately. 🤍
If we learn this lesson early enough we can bring and keep some of that energy with us as we go forward, including the community.
That sounds very fun as hell.
"Everyone thinks they're the accecption."
- Aba
That's goes for both men and women. That quote rings such truth.
The knowledge you two speak is just refreshing. So many ppl talk about the extreme of one side and never touch on both sides nor what really matters. Makes my day listening to you two.
"It's not safety you're looking for, it's luxury." BOOM. Hit the nail on the head right there.
That was so on point, right? What BS, "I can feel safe here" or whatever she said. B.S.!!!!!!!
@@7RB373 gotta protect the base of your ring finger finger from getting sunburnt. Safety enough right?
Most females don't want to work for the rest of their lives, they want to sit home with their kids and do nothing. So the logic is, if the man makes alot of money they can stay home and still live in luxury.
Well yeah, most of us will love to live in luxury. We may not all attain it, but it would be nice to have a life of security. If not with a partner then I’ll make the life on my own
#word
As I enter my 30s, I realize that peace in my home is more valuable to me than any actual thing. These women just haven’t been through enough to understand a rich partner does not equate to a good partner.
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Right I'm not looking for the beauty queen just someone I'm attracted to that gives me peace
Absolutely right!
We've been through enough to understand a poor one doesn't either.
Yeah, they don’t get that having a rich partner means bringing something to the table he wants and because he is so well sought after you might have to deal with other things. If you are not equipped for that, that is on you.
I was one of those kids! We had the best times and learned that happiness came from the ones we were around. We didn’t need validation from strangers. A luxury for me is having a conversation with someone. Really exchanging ideas. My ability to grow is not materialistic based.
Well said.
0:13 - 1:05
Who doesn't like arrogance...everyone
Who's actually arrogant...everyone
Irony explained in a clip
"You can't argue with an idiot. They will drag you down to their level, and beat you with their experience" - Mark Twain
I am 24 year old woman, an immigrant. When I came to North America, I had different ideas and views about the world. Since I am highly impressionable, I got sucked in. I started obsessing over my looks ALOT. I got new clothes, makeup, accessories etc. 6 months later my life and my feelings were still the same. I threw out my makeup, donated the clothes. I uninstalled instagram.
I realized when I was walking back home alone, nobody stopped and stared at me, nobody cared what I wore, nobody said anything bad at work when I was wearing mediocre clothes. Once I switched off my Internet, life was slow and at a normal pace. I had lesser anxiety, I was more patient and polite.
Yesterday, I visited an old student to help with Math. At the end she gave me a hug and her mom made a special bulgarian bread for me. I was smiling the whole day. Its the little things that matter in life. I used my knowledge to help someone and that feeling is greatest.
Waaw
Awsome ❤️
i guess,you are from Bulgaria.
and not from bvlgari-a.
much respect to you. be well.
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Most women are highly impressionable without strong male guidance. Don't feel bad about it.
Honestly, in the last few years I’ve gotten so caught up in the rat race of life that I’ve forgotten where I came from. I’m from a poor family that worked hard to provide what they could for me and my siblings. At times, we didn’t even have food to eat. I’m so glad I watched this video, because thinking back on it, I really was happy. So so much happier than I am now, worrying about how I can make more and more money. Ironically, my husband has been trying to explain this to me since we started living together, but I didn’t understand what he was really trying to say until y’all said it here. I want to start giving back to my community in more meaningful ways and bring everyone up. I want to make meaningful connections to the people in my life. Thank you so much ❤
My mama always used to tell me!!! "It's not how much you make, it's how much you save!" 🤣 I love a hardworking man working a 9-5 job!!! 😌🙌👌
The women there didn't realise he was calling their behaviour arrongant. They thought he was asking why they were looking for arrogant men.
Their behavior isn't arrogant, I believe. If you want something nice and expensive, that's fine. But to think you're entitled to that item because of who you are, that's arrogant.
@@TreeFry he was calling them out for overlooking guys that don't have that in favour of guys that do because that what they want and feel is more important and pointing that it isn't what you need
Tree fry...brain fry would be more accurate...........
@@TreeFry "Their behavior isn't arrogant, I believe. What's arrogant is this kind of behavior, the kind of behavior that is their behavior. THAT'S what is arrogant, their behavior. Not their behavior, no, it's not arrogant. It's arrogant....
It's also not... arrog-..........
What was I saying?
I'm fuckin doped up brother. Where am I even? This isn't the chronic 2001...i thought I was listening to Dr. Dre!
Dude...
Funny.
Man."
- You, probably.
@@TreeFry Soooo they are arrogant.
"Some people are so poor, all they got is money." - Never seen a discussion more fitting for this quote
Wow! That was so simple I had to read it twice. It's sad but true.
Well I must be filthy rich then...
@@uok6216
Maybe go back and listen to what Aba was saying to the ladies on the podcast. All of these women are seeking wealth and excess. These ladies didn't speak of a relationship, love or a companion. They just want wealth.
@@uok6216 It's less about their current situation and more about their life goals.
@@uok6216 I also believe the quote refers to moral values and character more than it does to happiness, family, true love etc.
I'm so grateful for this channel. I think part of what makes my generation more selfish and insecure is the negative feedback loop of self centred content and themes in our lives perpetuated by our peers or on social media. Having a channel like this which reminds me that my choices to strive towards being humble have meaning behind them and are valuable, helps me so much with staying on this path and keeping sane. Keep doing what you guys do it's amazing
I think I’ve watched almost every video from this channel in the last year plus... and this video will always be my favourite. Super insightful and the honesty of Aba’s and Preach’s character and mindset protrudes with such candour I think it’s the one thing I absolutely admire about this channel. Insanely underrated, I cannot put into words how much I appreciate y’all.
They dont want a "humble life".
They want a millionare that is "humble" of being a millionare.
Its this lottery ticket mentality throughout society. Social media has poured gasoline on the whole thing showing people these pages where celebrities sell a vision that they dont even give a sh*t about anymore. Its just mental conditioning for the masses. Rounding up the sheep.
@JoMoe G. I totally agree with you. Its a culture promoted by the media and specially the social medias like instagram and facebook
your words are gold bro
@JoMoe G. Even though the media perpetuates these lifestyles..one needs to think to themselves that its all just an illusion and not be gullable to fall for that shit.
@JoMoe G. I hear you Jo..what I'm saying is we as people don't take the time anymore to look into things before we just believe.
I met my husband in college and we were BROKE. We’ve been together now 8 years and we now live comfortably, something we built TOGETHER. I wouldn’t change our journey for anything.
What did he look like?
the price of finding an actual life partner is priceless compared to actual material wealth.
This is similar to my relationship and we have had the best spring planting our garden and hanging outside amongst the growing plants. Best feeling is growing together building together happy to hear your definition of success one not based on material desires!
@@Matt-fh4bk ??
@@Matt-fh4bk you good bro?
This video really hit hard it kind of brought me back to reality, I grew it being a first generation immigrant with amazing hardworking parents that really did everything the best they could. And now I feel like I have gone into a whole of consumerism and greed and it has not made me more happy or fulfilled more unhappy than I have most likely ever been, I want to change and I think this is the right move forward thank you,More people need to hear the message that you guy spread 👍🏼 thank you
Thank you for this! Now I remember how happy I was with my cousins and friends back in the Philippines when we were kids. We didn’t have a lot but those were the best moments we have. Now seeing my niece playing by herself makes me depressed. And I Wishing I could have enough money to send her to the Philippines and spend her childhood there.
For some just the dream of middle class is luxurious. Having hot water and heat that isn't shut off and a clean house.
100% and we take such things for granted!
Me af!
Yep, just the stability of rent/mortgage and bills paid and food/heat and hot water is hugely appreciated!
We're middle class, nothing fancy but f everyday I feel blessed for my life bc I know ppl would kill for it.
Thank you 🖤
I’ve been with my wife for 20 years now. I was making about 30k a year when we had our 2 children. That pushed to be a better provider. Joined an union electrical apprenticeship 16 years. For the last 7 years I’ve made about 145k a year. Didn’t have much but was happy. My wife is a gangsta with the finances. She and my kids are my blessings and reward!
Nice
Aint gotta be a G with finances when you make 150k a year lol.
I hear you though. Im a union carpenter, been with my wife for almost 12. We crushin shit together too
Im Broke Every Wednesday
That's the thing. You have each other! Props to you sir. Society is being fed a lie and that young ones have bought it.
you are so lucky, sir. and your wife sounds like respects and loves you for all you did. thats rare these days.
That was deeply insightful, I hope to see a day when people don't just jump quickly to revoice what you've both said or similar, but actually take the time to understand and possibly appreciate it themselves...
Just flowing with, 1 year later…. Still on deck today … more blessings
Man: I’m a plumber and own my own business
Girl: gross, I’m an entrepreneur, I have an only fans account.
People who do manuel labour that helps people/Infrastructure should be taxed the lowest.
E.g. Plumbers,Construction workers,nurses,doctors,caretakers,police,firefigthers, millitary,navy,air force,bin cleaners.
@@TheBlackpilledMirpuri why? Out of interest?
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@@bobbobson4030 Lower taxes & Guaranteed pensions incentivies people to do those jobs.
@@beautifulwithbrain8827 Biden is a dumbass, who is not willing to reduce taxes for blue collor workers. The best stimulus for people is tax cuts.
This goes for both men and women: men will not find fulfilment only looking for beauty and women won't find fulfilment only looking for riches. It all comes down to a person's CHARACTER.
True
Very true
If everyone fell in love with character, marriage would be bliss.
Not only that. Some men are also obsessed with money! Every conversation they have evolves around making a dollar. Even when they approach women, their pick up lines are about money. This needs to stop
THIS
I love this video. It's so freshing. Thank you Aba and Preach. Talk that truth, especially on F&F.
ABA, Preach, lemme tell you. I am a woman, at 23 I was making around 50,000 a year working a blue collared gone white collared job. That's a lot of money for a single woman with no kids. I wasn't spending it like crazy, I saved most of it and lived off it when I needed. Helped my mom, never bought beyond what I needed. You wouldn't be able to tell I made that much when I drove up in my 20 year old car or my new mid trim Mirage. If I went out, it was to hike or enjoy myself, I never partied, I thought it was meaningless. Majority of the "high value" men that made that kind of money drove Camrys and Rangers. My boss drove a F-150 base model.
The men and women with these showy cars, showy homes, don't have money. They spent it all.
The people who have money out there are going to be stubbornly conservative. They won't be driving or being flashy.
True
I'm technically poor, yet my family has all our needs met, we owe no one money, and we manage to save up enough for a big trip every summer. It's not about being rich, it's about using what you have to enrich your life beyond monetary gains.
Dang, I'm trying to get there. Thats the goal right there once that happens 🥳🥳
@S A By poor I mean according to the class system, and I never said they were expensive trips. We go camping with an old ass tent my parents used and use the state campground because I'm a vet so it's 10 bucks a night. The entire trip including gas usually costs about 400 bucks. Yes it's a trip, it is by no means a lavish trip and almost everything we use is hand me down so it cost us nothing to get. Just because my family can pull something fun off once a year doesn't mean we aren't poor, we may not be eating dirt or anything like that but as far as I know under 30k a year is poor in this day and age.
I've never had a trip. Hope 1 day I can
Umm..that's not poor
@@nikam4167 anything around the 25k a year mark is considered below the poverty line.
My husband and I married young and was broke, but we worked hard, supported each other, and grew our family. We now live very comfortably together! These women need a reality check before they end up alone.
chances are very very good they will end up alone
#Goals! Everything you just said, you two guys both strive for goals etc....
@@flycrack7686 they will be 50 looking around trying to figure out what happened.
@@DangerouslyActive I wouldn't have it any other way. It makes the relationship bond stronger. I'm still rocking the wedding set he bought me when we were broke and I love it!
@@candace4187 yo do you got a sister named Joanna Rice?
Yes this is exactly why I got rid of social media; everything is a facade. Most people on social who were “happy” knowing them and working with them I saw they really weren’t.
I just got into your guy’s videos after i saw the beef you guys had with fresh and fit (i’ve been binge watching them) and you were the best guest they’ve had. I’d love to see you do a similar podcast to them cause you were only one speaking the truth and focusing on what really matters.
"Most of y'all ain't gonna get one"
Actually, most of them will probably get the same guy lmao
And the same STDs ! Sisters in chads.
😁😁😁
I got them all and I’m hitting it
Having a guy run through your walls and then kick you to the curb is not really 'getting' him lmao but sure
Yeah but they want to keep one. That would be "getting one" for the. So u less they wanna be one of Solomons concubines, they're just gonna get smashed and passed. The opposite of what they want.
I’m 29, have two vacation homes, have been making 6 figures for the last couple years, and launching my 4th company in a few months. These women looking for guys like me will not understand that we do not want women like them. First of all, I don’t have time to go on luxury trips or lux brunches every weekend. Until this year, I didn’t take a weekend off since 2016. Second, If I was dropping $150k on a Porsche or luxury things, I wouldn’t be able to afford to launch more businesses. Launching companies and investments is very risky, I will most likely lose that money. I’d rather drive my Prius and know that worst case scenario, if I lose everything, I’ll be fine.
I mean aside from this topic, that’s pretty sad. You should be able to enjoy yourself and not just work. What’s the point of having money if you aren’t having fun?
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im an insurance broker for private solutions clients and the most wealthy clients i have drive old cars and so rarely take out their Porsche out of the garage!! if you have money, you dont need to flaunt it!
only poor people try to impress others with their materials things while having their credit cards maxed out!
@@Las645 obviously his definition of fun is different from yours. Building businesses can be fun especially if you have the cash to have people lay out the ground work . Sounds he’s living , creating for humanity not just consuming goods.
You are so right. I'm in real estate and most of the people who live in luxury homes aren't driving 100k+ cars.
@@Las645 r/whoooosh 🛫
This may be 2 years old but I immensely enjoyed this, I hope more people are able to see it. Being humble and truly giving insight and honest advice in love is something that seems to be missing these days. Of course "you can lead a horse to water... " But I sincerely hope people do see this and absorb it's message, again thanks this gives me hope for society.
loved your talk on the show. I am a fan of FnF but I watch your channel as well. Love the wisdom y'all share for the men out there.
When you were talking about not liking arrogance, they thought you were talking about a high value guy that was arrogant, but didn't realize you were talking about them being arrogant for thinking every single one of them deserve a rich guy lmao.
Yup they lack self awareness and don't understand shit.
To be honest, I'd have understood it differently, too. For me, arrogance is more about the entitlement and thinking of yourself being better, and not about having more. There are humble millionaires and there are arrogant poor people. Wanting to be rich doesn't mean you are or want to be arrogant. The arrogance comes from thinking that you deserve to have it, not from wanting to have it.
This. It's unbelievable...
Exactly. And I giggled when the two girls just pointed at eachother as if to say they are the ones who will get a rich man. Missed the point and proved the point LOL
@@somebod8703 Yes but that was essentially what these women were though? They all thought they DESERVED a rich man and that they were the one out of one hundred who were going to find that rich guy without doing anything different from other women.
Preach is still talking about the one time his dad told him he loved him. That shows how impactful it must have been to him.
It may have only been that one time
A lot of times in life you convince yourself you dont need something because not having it is too painful to bear.
It is very important and valuable. I'm a therapist and many grown adults still have issues wanting their parents approval and love. People want to hear they are loved, important, and that their parents are proud of them!
@@anitaknight3915 this is massive facts. when you feel alone it is always important to know ppl got your back.
@@RasenRendanX absolutely! I gained a lot of wisdom and spiritual growth after enduring a near death experience, becoming disabled, car wrecks, long illness, and losing my brother within a couple years. It definitely showed me how fake, shallow, and selfish most people are focused on all the wrong things that don't matter when our lives end. You need someone who is loyal and authentically loves you for you and adds value not subtracts from your life. You're blessed if you only have a couple 2-4 true friends in this lifetime. I promise you the hard times in life will expose a person's true character and their loyalty to you.
I always think about deleting myself but I can say with honesty that AnP’s channel makes me feel genuinely better about myself and my “normal” life. I know there are so many major blessings in my life that some people would kill for. Health, roof over my head, food to eat, water to drink, car to drive. The list is literally never ending. I’m so blessed and I’d never want to put my family/friends in a place of sadness because I take my own life away. I’ve been through so much and I know that I have the strength inside to keep pushing forward. You guys keep doing your thing and thank you so much for the inspiration to keep going and working hard at my blue collar job.
Never ever do that. People love you. You mean the world to them more than you know. I seen the devastating affect it has on those left behind a few different times. They are broken People afterwards always wondering why they weren't enough and how they replay their every moment trying to figure out why. It's truly heartbreaking.
@@missp498 I appreciate the honest response. Thank you, I’ll never give up.
@@PorterStephens I sincerely hope you don't your life is precious and you are special to those who care about you. X
Abba and preach you guys bring so much wisdom at such a young age I see how much you care I see you guys Trying to be big brothers for these young men and women It breaks my heart they don't listen to you I'm so glad That you guys are here to balance all the craziness on the Internet May you be blessed always keep doing what you're doing
People hate average cause of social media, too much flaunting
Well all they see is rich kids who get boosted in the algorithm .... and then everyone thinks that being rich is average ....
Couldn’t have said it better. Social media has completely warped things.
Flex culture
Which is sad because there is literally no way for the majority of people to be anything more than average. Guaranteed failure right there...
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As someone who has experienced and have friends that live "Life on an Instagram Filter"... I can personally tell you that behind closed doors every single one of these individuals are crying themselves to sleep with Sex, Drugs, Alcohol, Flexing, Etc...
Yeah a very large proportion of these folks are drug addicts fr. Full on junkies man.
And that's why they want a rich man, who can pay for their lifestyle of drinking and doing drugs every day. Because, no one who does that daily is capable of holding up a job and paying for it themselves.
Yeah you can see there depressed post once in awhile 😅
Literally every self proclaim models i follow for (💦) , post's stories like "i need love" ,"i am single what about u, I'm lonely" ,"i want peaceful life", "i need man who understand me and appreciate me for who am i", "i need someone who don't judge my past and nudes on internet 😭".
😂😂😂👆 those are the actual post i saw on insta this only this month
I think women mis-interpret arrogance. They think just cause on day 1 he is outwardly 'humble' that this is him. Most of the time its simmering nicely underneath. When you start getting serious cheques the ego is like a little devil in your head. It will be flexed, maybe not on day 1, maybe not in sight, but you are going to have to work to tame it.
Yah after I broke my phone in 8th grade I didn’t want to restart social Media cause it’s such a fake competition like I have friends that always flex thousands but when we go out they never have money and it’s always me pitching in
Great video. Appreciate all the hard work you Brothers are doing.
Damn Guys, Video After Video ON POINT! Love the Message y'all both put out and the way you lay it out on the Table. Masterful stuff
"Everyone thinks they are the exception." True wisdom.
So the first chick who opens her mouth in rebuttal basically says: I want a high value man, but not one who knows it, because than he might start asking what I bring to the table.
😂 😂 😂 😂 😂 😂 😂 😂 😂 😂 😂. Noooooooo 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣 it's 23 03 hrs and people can't hear me laughing out loud like this 😭🤣🤣🤣
Thanks mate, good reminder too know your value!
Bro 😎!😂😂😂😂
glad you noticed it lol, a high value man thats switched on wont have himself parted from his money so easily.
Hmmm. 🤔
I’m listening to this a year after. Preach said he can’t have a conversation with someone who isn’t willing to listen.
I think it’s still important to have these conversations with people as Aba did. Because the hope is that even though they didn’t show it in that moment, he probably shaped some of the values for which some of those women or others watching will come to elevate towards when they take some time to recalibrate within their lives.
At that moment he seemed to be talking to a wall, but life humbles us all and after being humbled guidance can be remembered.
Y’all’s outro songs are beautiful for no reason
"Wealth is the slave of a wise man, and the master of a fool." -Lucius annaeus Seneca.
Based Seneca.
Lots of based Roman's before the fall.
@@coreydudley2256 ironic
@@avioracrown6967 right? Still great pieces of wisdom. Plenty off correlations can be drawn between our societies and their degradation.
Marcus Aurelius
Oprah said it best “everyone wants to ride in the limo but, no one wants to take the bus with you when the limo breaks down” beware of those who want the lavish lifestyle but aren’t willing to work for it.
I like buses too
I love riding the bus and walking, but I understand the saying.
@@Jrockk999 Same, if it's less than an hour away I'll walk there or take transportation there and walk back if I have a meeting or something. I just walked about 2 hours or so today because I had things to do and it wasnt raining lol
The same can be said about driving a regular car.
Lol i know 2 people like that in college. We usually carpool with my ride, one time my ride was put in the workshop for maintenance i rode the public transportation and they ditch me for someone with a car
I just found this channel... Aba, you a real one, I dont think I've ever related to anyone on this platform so much.
@11:58 I just had that moment with my father earlier this year and it came right after an extremely heated argument. It healed me and I didn’t even know how broken I was.
It’s one of those things that you really don’t know how vulnerable you really are until you have moments like that with people. It’s something that seems to be lost on a LOT of people unfortunately though.
Broke Girl: 40k is not enough
Also broke girl: I'm not arrogant, I just want safety.
Also broke girl: I’m currently single
Also broke girl: I'm not currently working because I make more on unemployment.
CZcams comment incel: Broke girls wanting guys with money is F*cked
Also CZcams comment incel: *gets butthurt when they realize good looking women don't take any interest in them after they've spent a lifetime generalizing and demeaning women*
@@jsmusicanddrums If a job gives you less money than unemployment then it's not a job worth having.
@@batmanfan2005 I wouldn't know, I have a great one.
When girls say “don’t settle, go after what you want, get a high paid man”.. then when she can’t find that man, and she finds a man making 30k/year, small house in an ok neighborhood, she’ll feel like she settled for less, and will not be happy because she thinks “I’m not supposed to settle, I’m supposed to be taken care of without lifting a finger”
You are stating facts.
My guy
The 1950s are long gone
The problem is people want opulence and material things from their partners more than ever before, instead of building something with another person out of love.
And they’ll find out real quick the men they want don’t settle either
Y’all rock. Keep doing what you’re doing. Much love from Texas.
I really needed this. Thanks guys🙏🏾.
I grew up as a "rich kid" now im with a man who is a gm of a fast food chain. My family doesnt talk to me and i couldn't be happier because i found someone who cares more about me than they do about money or image.
Most wealth is lost between the third or the fourth generation because when wealthy families don’t cherish values, they bring children that grow up not appreciating the valuable things in life. You are the exception to the rule and it’s no surprise why you are no longer with them. It takes a strong person with character to understand money is a tool and not a way of life.
I hope wat U write and say prove till the end of Ur life wit him.
It doesn’t matter what you start out as or what people think of you currently, what matters is whether you’re living a life of purposeful passion.
Your family's loss. But on a side note, though, as a previous team lead at a fast food chain, many GMs make bank! I used to work at Whataburger and Taco Bell, and I know that my GM cleared over 100K one year.
BRAVO girl! Love before money!
I don't understand how one would feel they "deserve" a six figure man when they bring nothing to the plate themselves other than an overpriced coat of makeup and a body with an expiration date...
You deserve a round of applause for that excellent comment! 👏🏿🔥👏🏿🔥👏🏿
Bars🔥🔥🔥🔥
Also, what they do bring to the table any man could get in literally any other woman. Completely disposable.
Yeah my girl might be beautiful but so are our conversations and the laughs that we share. Only one of those things will fade, but the other are what matters to me.
😖😅 well said
I listened , truly listen, to what you two were saying in this video especially to latter part and i must say women who strives to be women should listen to this. Because i felt that as i heard you speak my heart overcame with Joy and my mind became so much humble to hear you say certain things. Because these young women who have no real life experience to how life works will influence the other generation with their way of thinking and dressing. Yes i believe in not settling, i believe that i should do what it takes or requires to be a best version of myself . However, when one of them said he was ''happy before...'' that hit different. I'm like wow. Because i watched other podcast and all they talk about attracting a high value men and women these days are 304s but never about family, creating a safe space within the relationship for your partner. Men strive to be men, husbands and a father. Protect your women mentally, emotionally and physically . Women dont prey upon these men. Pray for them but dont prey on them. Dont see these men MONEY=TIME as something for you to waste because you want some ridiculous party, brand name items ect to show off. But use his hard earn MONEY=TIME to build something valuable and longlasting, this also goes for the women. And last but not least choose your partner wisely. Dont be going with anyone who only thinks about themselves. Like come on dont see a snake and mistake it for something harmless.
Fellas, I really appreciate and enjoy your content. All I've ever wanted was to find someone that loves me and wanted to be on my team. A man that would join me in working hard to build OUR foundation, our little empire - stone by stone. My pops taught me to be independent from a young age, to make sure I could always count on myself. However, he also told me to always make sure I bring something of substance and value to the table. A man and woman can be on different levels as far as what they're capable of bringing to the table, but as long as you're doing what you can and not coming empty-handed - that's what matters. Hearing these females say, "I AM the table!" - b**ch how? I don't understand that mindset. I remember going on a date and him arriving at my place. I sent him a text beforehand saying, "Hey do me a favor and give me 20 please." When he arrived he handed me a twenty-dollar bill. I was so confused and asked what it was for. He said, well you said you needed $20. Skinny mane, I needed 20 minutes, not dollars. He replied that it was just what he was used to. On a first date!? That just blew my mind. It's just hard to wrap my head around this mindset females have today.
You don't say that you're humble, you actually show it by the way you live.
I think that's a good point. It raises the question, can you be humble and ambitious at the same time?
@@andrewkim2013 I think so. Being ambitious doesn't necessarily mean that you are going to flaunt what you have, more so it means that you strive to achieve better. You can strive to be better and not be boastful about it.
@@andrewkim2013 I guess it's like beauty is in the eye of the beholder it also reminds me of the definition of greed . It changes person to person so humility is ever changing in many people's minds
The world is not humble.
@@andrewkim2013 you can strive to be better knowing full well that you aren't entitled or deserve your goals any more than the next person with similar goals.
They're two different metrics but I would definitely say that there is a greater tendency in those with ambition to get their sense of ambition from some sort of arrogance.
My grandma married a truck driver. My mom married a truck driver. I would be proud to marry a truck driver as well if he is a good guy who works hard to take care of his family like my grandpa and dad were.
Truck drivers make decent money lol. People underestimate blue collar jobs when trades are some of the highest paid professions. I know truck drivers making $50-60k+/year.
@@thelonercoder5816 ya but those that make a lot have to work a lot more, therefore taking away family time.
@@thelonercoder5816 and I think that's on the low end, depending how much they work, they can make close to 3k a week.
@@oyl23 Yes. I know. That's why I put the "+" sign. But alot of them started off making that and are now making much more. It just depends on the contracts you can score. It still amazes me how frowned upon trades are when some of the highest paid people I know didn't even go to college but picked up trades instead.
@@thelonercoder5816 I had a friend that worked as a welder contractor, one time he showed me a pay stub for 1750 in a week, after taxes.
There comes a point when you realise you were given a huge gift in the survival of childhood deprivation. As you’ve said, you knew you could get by without “things” and that’s the gift I refer to; I’ve met some who never knew that who truly believe they can’t be happy without what’s sold to us, and in those times of less, they panic when I’m still fine.
A lil late here but I think this video has one of the most positive and reassuring points on the platform, What matters most to somebody is community and intimacy. Aba and Preach aren't discouraging ambitions, they're encouraging stability and personal growth. Not only is this message true but it is assigning value to our lives that material objects can't. Wealth is nice to have but if you don't know what to do with it, despite ur bank account, you're still empty as fuck. Go get the bag but first, find people who care for *you*, not the life u live.