That's really deep! And it takes a lady with great discernment to detect this but I also pray after detecting that greed & selfish interest will not override it
1, impatience and haste. Go slow while in the relationship so it will last. Get to know them, study their values, observe them, take your time, evaluate their personality and don’t forget to take your time with them unless you like pain(then you can go fast). 2, over rating people Study people and don’t over expect. Be careful of premature validation. If you want to live long be careful of your expectations…Beware of people who might want to take advantage of your small season... Do not allow anyone to possess you. They are people who don’t like you, they only need your validation. Take your time to study and relate with people and also be smart while at it. 3, Underrating people You can’t sum people by the season you met them in, some are in their last phase of being small. Don’t leave a man who is in the last phase of his smallness for a Man who is in the last phase of his greatness, you will REGRET it. 4, Assumption Never assume people’s intention until they say it. And even after they say it observe their actions to further understand the truth which they may not say with their lips. Never assume they intend to go far till they say it. Always value the moment with people for times change. 5, communication People communicate what they don’t mean and fail to communicate what they mean. Be open to speak your mind and always clear the air. 6, 7,
1) Impatience and haste (Take your time. Study their orientation. Observe. Evaluate their personality. Don’t get too excited that you forget to take your time. Except you love pain sha) 2) Overrating. They assume people’s character should be based on their tongues. Or your perceived character of them. Be emotionally smart. Be careful of immature validation. Don’t forget their humanity. If you plan to do this for long you just minimize chances for offense. BTW: Be careful of people who want to take advantage of your small season. (People can be of help. But don’t let them posses you) 3) Mistake of Underrating someone 4) Mistake of assumption 5) Communication issue. Side note: Remember some people don’t like you they just need your validation.
They don't only need validation but "help". They've seen your kind personality and potentials and want to exploit them qhile hiding in the name of love.
Impatience and haste : take things slowly . Observe and study them well evaluate their personality 2 overeating: some times people and not bad just that u over rate them be careful of inmature or premature validation ....stop over expecting things from people .don’t trust people 100 percent expect humanity to manifest from people Be patient 😊 3 underrating people : don’t leave a man at the last face of his smallness or the one at the last phase of his great ness 4 mistake of assumption : spell what ever is in ur mind out Value the moment u share with people 5 communications:people either communicate what they don’t mean or refuse to communicate what they mean
A wise person should analyze this speech bit by bit.... there is so much knowledge in this speech...most of what this speech is all about is what am struggling in my relationship right now.. and trying to make my partner understand the challenges within and how to resolve it
What happened to the old day of believers seeking for God's direction for a partner and wait on God's direction until he makes it clear on whom the partner is? It seems this generation of young ministers are teaching people to relegate God in their quest to find a spouse and rather depend on their sight, knowing fully well you can only know what someone wants you to know about him/her(some people have dark secrets). If you decide to get too close to an opposite sex the probability of falling into sexual immorality is high. Our forefathers who didn't know God married by asking people close to the individual they want to marry about the person's character and also consult their deities to find out about the family and person. They didn't need to date everyone around them to find out who's compatible, yet their marriage lasted till death and they mostly married as virgins. Why dont we christians return back to consulting God who knows the End even before the beginning to give us our spouse. God gave Eve to Adam, adam didn't need to test her, God still gives spouses if you depend on him
Our parents consulted deities that weren't God yet their marriage lasted not cuz of their fake gods but because of the efforts made by the man and woman going into marriage. Even if God himself gives u a spouse,if u don't put efforts to make it grow and work,it will fail.
@@kingsleyimiefoh899 But I believe we need to hear from God because marriage is beyond just being happy, it's about destiny and kingdom. If destiny is settled, we can now focus on putting efforts to make it work. I pray God gives us more wisdom and direction in life.
@@kingsleyimiefoh899 have you ever witnessed a believer who married a devil disguised as a good person? Haven't you seen ministers who married terrible partners that were used to destroy their ministry? God formed the institution called marriage, and it'll be f00lishness to choose a partner without his leading. Seek for God's direction for a partner, then you both do your own part to make the marriage work.
@@JerryAlumka God won't come down to give you answers,however he gives you signs to know that a particular partner will be good for you. We know what we should look out for in his word and also we pray about partners that God should reveal the bad ones or show the intention of people coming your way. When u have people throwing advances that their behaviour doesn't tune with the promises of God in his word to us,you know it ain't it cuz his word can't lie as He is same yesterday,today and forever.
10:26 there are ppl who don’t like you ! They just need your validation , Dey take time oooo avoid traps and see through smoke screens - applies to allllll relationships,,, Dey take time ooo
It is only God that knows the heart of a person. People can pretend for as long as.......... but the holy spirit knows the heart of that person and he will let you in on it. The holy spirit helped me too in my single season. I had this guy I planned hooking up with. A pastor friend actually approved of him when I expressed my fears about some of his shortcomings as enlightened by the holy spirit. The Pastor waived it aside by saying "no human is perfect." "All humans are imperfect. Whoever you marry eventually will have a flaw too. Yes! Whoever I eventually marry will have his own shortcomings but not shortcomings that will destroy my life or detrimental to my destiny, not flaws that will make living hell, not flaws that will make my life a waisted one. The holy spirit must have prepared someone that will be able to help my destiny. Cos the reason for our lives is to fulfill our life dreams. Whoever the holy spirit prepared for us will be able to help us achieve the reason for our existence all through our life time. Yes! He may have flaws, not flaws that are detrimental to our reason for living or capable enough to mar our destiny. This is actually the job of the holy spirit. He knows the heart of every human and knows what is good or bad for us. I can't think of any other capable person that can help on this journey of knowing the hearts of Men and making a choice of a life partner than the almighty Holy Spirit. He will do a good job!
Hmmm.. First things first, having an uncontrolled temper is not a fruit of the spirit, so it is important to seek the face of God. Whilst doing the above, you can consciously cultivate the habit of being swift to listen and being slothful to react. Ensure that you have properly digested the information coming to you before reacting. Then, consciously channel your mind to be optimistic, you see firstly the good, doing this also helps you to be less defensive every time. Seek counsel from the scriptures to help you and lastly trust God to lead you to a superior who is able to guide you hand to hand.
@@tobidavid1909 thank you so much. Yeah I have been working on it so far the superior is the only problem I have now. You really understood what I meant for you to have given such a clear and understanding advice. I appreciate
And while you're at it remember that it won't get better overnight. So stay consistent despite the frustrations. God is faithful to those who CONSTANTLY seek his face.
This man is so smart he softens with humor and hits with hard truth amen
"Study people and do not over except" 👌Man will always be man.
*expect
Don't leave a man who is at the end stage of his small season for a man who is at the end stage of his big season. This hit differently
True. Very true. It struck me in a different way.
Nice
That's really deep! And it takes a lady with great discernment to detect this but I also pray after detecting that greed & selfish interest will not override it
1, impatience and haste.
Go slow while in the relationship so it will last. Get to know them, study their values, observe them, take your time, evaluate their personality and don’t forget to take your time with them unless you like pain(then you can go fast).
2, over rating people
Study people and don’t over expect. Be careful of premature validation. If you want to live long be careful of your expectations…Beware of people who might want to take advantage of your small season... Do not allow anyone to possess you. They are people who don’t like you, they only need your validation. Take your time to study and relate with people and also be smart while at it.
3, Underrating people
You can’t sum people by the season you met them in, some are in their last phase of being small. Don’t leave a man who is in the last phase of his smallness for a Man who is in the last phase of his greatness, you will REGRET it.
4, Assumption
Never assume people’s intention until they say it. And even after they say it observe their actions to further understand the truth which they may not say with their lips. Never assume they intend to go far till they say it. Always value the moment with people for times change.
5, communication
People communicate what they don’t mean and fail to communicate what they mean. Be open to speak your mind and always clear the air.
6,
7,
Thank you
1) Impatience and haste (Take your time. Study their orientation. Observe. Evaluate their personality. Don’t get too excited that you forget to take your time. Except you love pain sha)
2) Overrating. They assume people’s character should be based on their tongues. Or your perceived character of them. Be emotionally smart. Be careful of immature validation. Don’t forget their humanity. If you plan to do this for long you just minimize chances for offense.
BTW: Be careful of people who want to take advantage of your small season. (People can be of help. But don’t let them posses you)
3) Mistake of Underrating someone
4) Mistake of assumption
5) Communication issue.
Side note: Remember some people don’t like you they just need your validation.
Thank you was helpful
They don't only need validation but "help". They've seen your kind personality and potentials and want to exploit them qhile hiding in the name of love.
Thank you so much for this summary, you made it easier writing my own note🙏
Impatience and haste : take things slowly .
Observe and study them well evaluate their personality
2 overeating: some times people and not bad just that u over rate them be careful of inmature or premature validation ....stop over expecting things from people .don’t trust people 100 percent expect humanity to manifest from people
Be patient 😊
3 underrating people : don’t leave a man at the last face of his smallness or the one at the last phase of his great ness
4 mistake of assumption : spell what ever is in ur mind out
Value the moment u share with people
5 communications:people either communicate what they don’t mean or refuse to communicate what they mean
My own question is that
How do u know God is directing you to someone
And also when God want u to leave a relationship sir
Emotional Intelligence( Emotional smartness). I love this part sir
It's what God keeps that is kept
🔥🔥🔥
Good bless you sir. I'm really bless
Such a great message, amen!
The Lord is your strength apostle, thanks for your message
I wished i came across this earlier 🥺😞 but i pray God's give me the grace to do right 😢 next time
I’m happy with this preaching
Thank you Jesus for this message 🙌
Your preaching is a bomb,it has really helped me
This word is personally for me. Thank you sir.
I am blessed. Thank you, sir.
When people are in your life for a season, value the season you share...
Thank you for this sir. God bless you and your family.
Thank you JESUS
More grace Pastor Femi
Greater Grace Sir
This message has enlightened me and I'm grateful to God for coming across this message ❤
This is so funny but very helpful! Thank you 😂
I am blessed
Thank you Apostle
The Lord will bless you more with wisdom from above
Thank you sir... U have been adding value to my life
Thank you very much for this sir
Thank you sir for these
👏👏👏👏👏👏👏👏Glory to God..Just simple Wisdom.
Premature validation
Emotional intelligence 🙌🙌
Thank you sir for this.
Thank you Jesus ❤
I love this teaching.
I will listen to this over and over again till it sticks.
It is what God keeps that is kept...God please bless me with wisdom
A wise person should analyze this speech bit by bit.... there is so much knowledge in this speech...most of what this speech is all about is what am struggling in my relationship right now.. and trying to make my partner understand the challenges within and how to resolve it
I’m happy that I’m currently living by all this pastor said.i learnt the hard after my last relationship ended years ago.i had to learn!
I'm blessed Sir
Powerful word ❤
Everything I got from this message is keep your expectations low in that way you will know how to out do the rest
Lord pls help to wait on you
Ive learnt something today and im glad ive come across this sermon❤️🤚🏾.
From today it's different 🤚🏾💯
P
Ahhhh timely message
😢😢kaii..gate man
I've learnt my lessons
Thank you Apostle Femi Lazarus 🙏
Very true
In relating with people please take your time...be patient
"Study people and do not over except" 👌
God bless you sir
I love this message 😂❤
Find your bearing
Thank you sir
Thank you sir 😌😊
I love you sir
You have scartered this table sir
Thanks sir 🔥🔥🔥💯💯💯
Powerful
My Pastor
Thank u sir ❤
9:17 he who pays the dictates chooses the tune amen!
They will boo you 😂😂😂😂😂
Powerful lesson sir❤
'capital letter tongue ' 😂😂😂😂😂😂this one got me laughing
Very inspiring❤
Are there witnesses in the house. . Apostle, this is massive
What happened to the old day of believers seeking for God's direction for a partner and wait on God's direction until he makes it clear on whom the partner is? It seems this generation of young ministers are teaching people to relegate God in their quest to find a spouse and rather depend on their sight, knowing fully well you can only know what someone wants you to know about him/her(some people have dark secrets). If you decide to get too close to an opposite sex the probability of falling into sexual immorality is high. Our forefathers who didn't know God married by asking people close to the individual they want to marry about the person's character and also consult their deities to find out about the family and person. They didn't need to date everyone around them to find out who's compatible, yet their marriage lasted till death and they mostly married as virgins. Why dont we christians return back to consulting God who knows the End even before the beginning to give us our spouse. God gave Eve to Adam, adam didn't need to test her, God still gives spouses if you depend on him
I wonder the same thing too. Should we focus on discerning who God wants us to marry or should we use our mind to detect based on some pointers?
Our parents consulted deities that weren't God yet their marriage lasted not cuz of their fake gods but because of the efforts made by the man and woman going into marriage. Even if God himself gives u a spouse,if u don't put efforts to make it grow and work,it will fail.
@@kingsleyimiefoh899 But I believe we need to hear from God because marriage is beyond just being happy, it's about destiny and kingdom. If destiny is settled, we can now focus on putting efforts to make it work.
I pray God gives us more wisdom and direction in life.
@@kingsleyimiefoh899 have you ever witnessed a believer who married a devil disguised as a good person? Haven't you seen ministers who married terrible partners that were used to destroy their ministry? God formed the institution called marriage, and it'll be f00lishness to choose a partner without his leading. Seek for God's direction for a partner, then you both do your own part to make the marriage work.
@@JerryAlumka God won't come down to give you answers,however he gives you signs to know that a particular partner will be good for you. We know what we should look out for in his word and also we pray about partners that God should reveal the bad ones or show the intention of people coming your way. When u have people throwing advances that their behaviour doesn't tune with the promises of God in his word to us,you know it ain't it cuz his word can't lie as He is same yesterday,today and forever.
I wish i heard this in March. Now i'm heartbroken...i rushed things
Sorry comfort 😢
Sorry, you will overcome!
@@IgeKehinde-Mary hi kehinde
@@tbagtech Hi
I wish I heard this last week November
11:12 no Dey underrate be smart , don’t leave those last stage of greatness for last stage of smallness, don’t judge by how you met them
Don't expect too much from people, and don't be impatience and take ur time.
0:05 😂😂😂😂 why is this man so funny , put love in reserve love and why you love em
Amen have learnt
GOD help me
Please can you be uploading the title of the messages?
Exactly, you are very correct sir
I wish i heard this message before now😢
It’s okay it is not to late to change. Trust me ❤ We learn and unlearn 😊
2:40 😂😂😂😂 it’s true oooo stay smart out here
From today onwards, i wil do this
"Dont get too exicted that you forget to take your time."
👏👏👏
Observe people!
Tested and trusted😂😂😂
🙏
My God, this is my message 😂
The gate man😢😢😢😅
10:26 there are ppl who don’t like you ! They just need your validation , Dey take time oooo avoid traps and see through smoke screens - applies to allllll relationships,,, Dey take time ooo
But can you talk about marriage after three months of knowing each other??
How then do you balance taking time to study someone before taking it further into a relationship, and spending too much time in talking stage?
It is only God that knows the heart of a person. People can pretend for as long as.......... but the holy spirit knows the heart of that person and he will let you in on it.
The holy spirit helped me too in my single season. I had this guy I planned hooking up with. A pastor friend actually approved of him when I expressed my fears about some of his shortcomings as enlightened by the holy spirit.
The Pastor waived it aside by saying "no human is perfect." "All humans are imperfect. Whoever you marry eventually will have a flaw too.
Yes! Whoever I eventually marry will have his own shortcomings but not shortcomings that will destroy my life or detrimental to my destiny, not flaws that will make living hell, not flaws that will make my life a waisted one.
The holy spirit must have prepared someone that will be able to help my destiny. Cos the reason for our lives is to fulfill our life dreams. Whoever the holy spirit prepared for us will be able to help us achieve the reason for our existence all through our life time.
Yes! He may have flaws, not flaws that are detrimental to our reason for living or capable enough to mar our destiny.
This is actually the job of the holy spirit. He knows the heart of every human and knows what is good or bad for us.
I can't think of any other capable person that can help on this journey of knowing the hearts of Men and making a choice of a life partner than the almighty Holy Spirit.
He will do a good job!
Comprehension is a rare gift
12:34 they communicate what they don’t mean or what they mean they can’t communicate
Sound words
7:40 it’s true ppl change….. don’t live By Compliments as you’ll die by critics, be wise or you’ll get. Offense and die ooo 9:17 I cannot be bought !
Hosanah 😂😂
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Dealing with pain that doesn't go away, check his CZcams
What about people like us that don't know how to read people,or how to study someone attitude
You learn how to do it
Entitlement Mentality to me seems likely to be an African issue
Dating for marriage that is a necessity, cause why are you dating ?
Please where is the church located?
Ibadan
Lagos (Lekki and ikeja)
Abeokuta
Portharcourt
UK
Abuja
Ife
People character are not based on the gravity of their tongue
1:59 😂😂😂😂😂😂😂
Capital letters tongue 😅😅
11:31 never assume ppl intention to go farrr . Christian minsters are behavioral pyscologists oooo
Capital letter tongues 😂😂😂
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Take it slow so it can last👌
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How to deal with pain that is not going away.
How to deal with pain that is not going away.
Hmmmmm, take ur time. Take things slow.
Premature validation hmmmmmm
My problem is my temperament how can I fix it my temper scares me at times.
Hmmm.. First things first, having an uncontrolled temper is not a fruit of the spirit, so it is important to seek the face of God.
Whilst doing the above, you can consciously cultivate the habit of being swift to listen and being slothful to react. Ensure that you have properly digested the information coming to you before reacting.
Then, consciously channel your mind to be optimistic, you see firstly the good, doing this also helps you to be less defensive every time.
Seek counsel from the scriptures to help you and lastly trust God to lead you to a superior who is able to guide you hand to hand.
@@tobidavid1909 thank you so much. Yeah I have been working on it so far the superior is the only problem I have now. You really understood what I meant for you to have given such a clear and understanding advice. I appreciate
Spend time in the place of prayer. Talk to God as a father.
And while you're at it remember that it won't get better overnight.
So stay consistent despite the frustrations.
God is faithful to those who CONSTANTLY seek his face.
@@MayAsi_Com. thank you 🤗
3:36 😂😂😂😂😂😂😂
Take it slow so it can last
Premature validation.