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3 Archetypes of Relationship Anxiety - Indian Matchmaking

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  • čas přidán 7. 05. 2023
  • My analysis of my 3 favorite characters from the 3 seasons of the Netflix series Indian Matchmaking.
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Komentáře • 278

  • @valeria3070
    @valeria3070 Před rokem +84

    The fear of getting hurt paralyzes a lot of us, and that is why being vulnerable is so hard.

    • @dragtherapy
      @dragtherapy  Před rokem +8

      preach girl!

    • @Abie_Irabor
      @Abie_Irabor Před rokem +5

      So true! It also makes me think about how many people are in relationships yet are not vulnerable with each other. Vulnerability is hard for sure. Even with ourselves, but I do think it is so worth it.

  • @Because_Reasons
    @Because_Reasons Před rokem +185

    Your channel will get to 1 mil, I have no doubt. These shows are fantastic at showing us the plethora of attachment issues people have.

    • @keralytekid
      @keralytekid Před rokem +19

      I could not agree more. Indie Nile is so intelligent, charming, entertaining and humorous.

    • @dragtherapy
      @dragtherapy  Před rokem +13

      🤗

    • @dragtherapy
      @dragtherapy  Před rokem +28

      thank you for putting that out in the universe. it gives me courage to dare and dream of that...and yes! thank god for these shows. literally a mirror 🪞

    • @monsteratreehouse
      @monsteratreehouse Před rokem +1

      I can see that happening too !!! We love quality relationship insight

    • @dragtherapy
      @dragtherapy  Před rokem +2

      @@monsteratreehouse thank you! 🤗

  • @butterbear3042
    @butterbear3042 Před rokem +63

    NETFLIX needs to sponsor you because I don't even watch this show but now I want to 😂

  • @acd1168
    @acd1168 Před rokem +70

    Aparna got me through the pandemic 2020. My bff and I were obsessed with her. We couldn’t believe that she was actually serious.

    • @leiladash
      @leiladash Před rokem +12

      Lmaooooooo this comment sent me😂😂😂

    • @acd1168
      @acd1168 Před rokem +5

      @@leiladash Aparna is a very fascinating case. Lol

    • @dragtherapy
      @dragtherapy  Před rokem +27

      that's so true. she does come across as a lowkey comedian doing a parody. as intelligent as i think she is, i think the comedy is unintentional 🙈 i DO love her though

    • @dragtherapy
      @dragtherapy  Před rokem +6

      😋

    • @kamilarojek4073
      @kamilarojek4073 Před rokem +1

      same same :)

  • @Aquagirl-in6wr
    @Aquagirl-in6wr Před rokem +37

    When it comes to Priya, I totally see where she's coming from, I think it comes from fear of being excited to meet what you thought is your "match" only for it to go cold! So many guys out there love bomb hard, and dissapear as quickly as they "fell in love". She's being careful and guarding herself from heartbreak.

    • @dragtherapy
      @dragtherapy  Před rokem +7

      yes totally! actually i can see where they are ALL coming from. finding your partner, for me personally, is one of the biggest challenges in life...but i'm anything but a quitter :)

  • @aaliyahkarunaratne3326
    @aaliyahkarunaratne3326 Před rokem +57

    I recently heard that where ever perfectionism exist, shame is nearby. You drop such insightful nuggets so casually! My standards for what content I like really has been elevated since watching your channel 😊
    Girl 💁🏽‍♀ thanks

    • @dragtherapy
      @dragtherapy  Před rokem +3

      girl 🤗 this comment makes me want to hug you. hope to see you in LA

    • @aaliyahkarunaratne3326
      @aaliyahkarunaratne3326 Před rokem +1

      @@dragtherapy Awww that makes me so happy to hear 🥰 I really hope to be there! Working on clearing it with work... I will be flying in from Hawaii!

  • @jubiterr
    @jubiterr Před rokem +29

    It can seem intimidating to receive love because how do you know you're not getting bamboozled ?

    • @dragtherapy
      @dragtherapy  Před rokem +7

      pfff, the billion dollar question....

    • @candacenkoth
      @candacenkoth Před rokem +6

      Strong boundaries (e.g.don't get physical, dont text endlessy, get calls and actual dates instead) and date many people at the same time until tou have clarity ans certainty. It would save you a lot of unnecessary anxiety and heartbreaks. Good luck!

    • @pink_stain
      @pink_stain Před rokem +9

      Trust in yourself that whatever happens, you'll get through it and that when your intuition says something, you will listen to it and fact-check with reality.

    • @jubiterr
      @jubiterr Před rokem +2

      @@candacenkoth Thank you for this !

    • @jubiterr
      @jubiterr Před rokem +1

      @@pink_stain Yes ! At least I know my intuition is reliable

  • @alexdavis360
    @alexdavis360 Před rokem +30

    I don't know how Rushali is so attached to her mother I could neverr😂😂

    • @dragtherapy
      @dragtherapy  Před rokem +6

      :) yes! that bond is hard one to unpack

    • @xoxotous4814
      @xoxotous4814 Před 7 měsíci +1

      I think its an indian thing. Most indians are very attached to their parents esp if theyre an only child. Im in the same situation.

  • @alexdavis360
    @alexdavis360 Před rokem +28

    I think Rushali has never had any close female friendships growing up and even now and that's one of the reasons she clings to her mother.

  • @ReadinOutLoud
    @ReadinOutLoud Před rokem +29

    theres so many dating shows commentary channel on youtube but once ive found yours i dont watch others. love the editing, the lipsync scenes, the analysis, your channel will gain more subscribers! keep up the good work!

    • @dragtherapy
      @dragtherapy  Před rokem +7

      thank you so much! glad to hear that the combo works :) i was thinking today whether i could remove any of these elements to speed up the process but thank you for reminding me to stay true to myself. because that is what people respond to

  • @miaduana
    @miaduana Před rokem +42

    At least two of Rishali's besties are secretly in love with her, coz she only has guy friends and identifies as "not like other girls" growing up as tomboy. I've found women who are like that to have serious vulnerability issues around other women. She fears being abandoned again after being shipped off to boarding school at age four.

    • @dragtherapy
      @dragtherapy  Před rokem +16

      totally! i found that thing with her best friends to be so fascinating. i started talking about it but it felt like a tangent given the context of the video but yeah, it really made me think

    • @miaduana
      @miaduana Před rokem +10

      @@dragtherapy would have been a great tangent 😊

    • @dragtherapy
      @dragtherapy  Před rokem +17

      @@miaduana i'll trust my gut next time and follow the tangents then :)

    • @mariim6245
      @mariim6245 Před rokem +6

      I immediately thought that but they're too scared to tell her. She's gorgeous & a good person

    • @sashie253
      @sashie253 Před rokem +7

      ​@@dragtherapywe want aLL the tangents❤️

  • @WilliamsPinch
    @WilliamsPinch Před rokem +32

    Rushali is so deeply out of touch with her emotions. She wants to scream and cry, but she’s doing yoga in the park, taking pics and adamantly suppressing her emotions.

    • @dragtherapy
      @dragtherapy  Před rokem +9

      yeah :) that yoga in the park scene really shows the facade

    • @regularity2556
      @regularity2556 Před rokem +13

      I agree. I think she's angry at her parents for sending her away to boarding school at 4 years old, but is afraid to confront them because she is scared of losing them

  • @miyu2617
    @miyu2617 Před rokem +30

    I love this channel so much. You’re doing amazing

  • @HannahNiChiarde
    @HannahNiChiarde Před rokem +14

    I need a therapist like you, you're amazing ❤

  • @keralytekid
    @keralytekid Před rokem +15

    You get me through the hardest days. Thank you, Indie Nile.

  • @annak2756
    @annak2756 Před rokem +5

    I'm a new, huge fan of your channel and wait on pins and needles for every new video drop. I truly love your analysis of everyone from Indian Matchmaking to Love is Blind bcos you always hit the nail on the head.
    I feel everyone on the Indian Matchmaking show is like Goldilocks... "Oh he's too this... She's too that." Despite Sima Auntie presenting them with nearly 90% of what they told her they wanted in a partner. My perception of why they self sabotage is bcos most of them have not healed from their past trauma and learned self love. And bcos they are unhealed, they are still only attracted to the toxicity they had before.

    • @dragtherapy
      @dragtherapy  Před rokem +3

      thank you! 🤗and very true about the unhealed stuff causing us to continue recreating the childhood trauma 👌

  • @terrijones693
    @terrijones693 Před rokem +21

    I definitely have a fear of losing myself because I did that in my last relationship, and I was blindsided when it ended after 12 years. I was upset, but I had to admit that I didn't fully show up for myself.

    • @dragtherapy
      @dragtherapy  Před rokem +12

      i hear you. that fear can be paralyzing. i find that it helps to name it and even laugh it. finding a way to see how ridiculous our self-sabotage is

    • @terrijones693
      @terrijones693 Před rokem +4

      ​@@dragtherapy Absolutely! Therapy has been life changing for me.

  • @84Elenai
    @84Elenai Před rokem +9

    As someone stated below, I am also sure your channel will get bigger and bigger, because the quality is ... MUAKS (chef kiss).
    From a fellow Italian subscriber, thanks for what you do! I love every and each video of yours

  • @mrsfox4274
    @mrsfox4274 Před rokem +20

    The beauty Queen was separated from her parents at such a young age and she also witnessed the parents hardship… I wonder what that did to her 😢

    • @dragtherapy
      @dragtherapy  Před rokem +10

      yeah, our childhoods really shape us, don't they? for better and for worse

  • @ZariV
    @ZariV Před rokem +14

    I liked Bobby 😂 he was so sweet but definitely knew he would be friend zoned

    • @dragtherapy
      @dragtherapy  Před rokem +8

      yeah poor guy. totally sweet indeed but it was a self-fulfilling prophecy...i'm sure there's a girl out there who would love everything about him

    • @ZariV
      @ZariV Před rokem +3

      @@dragtherapy I hope so!

  • @peytonmerritt2874
    @peytonmerritt2874 Před rokem +8

    My day is made when I see a new vid from you! So eloquent, insightful, and just fun to watch. Thanks for creating this content, this channel is headed to great places

  • @BfromSF
    @BfromSF Před rokem +5

    Thanks Indie for another great video! Do you know Harville Hendrix? He wrote a very interesting book. His theory is that we recreate those childhood dramas with our partners to try to heal. So, controlling mother might mean marrying a controlling man with the hope that he will see you as a person with your own wishes and desires not a "thing" to be controlled. But, of course that never works as you have to heal yourself first. I'm simplifying his theory but you get the point, girl! These cases you pointed out have some of these repeated patterns. Wish I could travel to see your shows! Good luck!

    • @dragtherapy
      @dragtherapy  Před rokem +2

      hey! I actually never heard of Harville but will definitely look up the book. LOVE that theory of recreating trauma as a way to heal the past. makes total sense! 👌

  • @ilikemaline
    @ilikemaline Před rokem +11

    Girl, you didn't need to call me out like that. 😅 I'm going to therapy today to talk about all the shame I feel about my horrible love life and being constanly single. I have been avoiding it for a long time. I'm 36 and worked through so much trauma and grown a lot so I finally feel I wouldn't run away or sabotage a relatioship but there is still a lot of fear of rejection and abandonment plus this feeling I missed out on all the oportunities to meet someone and that I am not lovable. I know a lot of it is not rational but it's hard when parents were traumatised and totally unheathy themselves.

    • @dragtherapy
      @dragtherapy  Před rokem +3

      girl you're telling my life story with this comment. the intergenerational trauma, the deep sense of abandonment and all the avoidance, YOU didn't need to call me out like that lol

    • @ilikemaline
      @ilikemaline Před rokem

      @@dragtherapy ❤️

    • @kattell5183
      @kattell5183 Před rokem

      @@dragtherapy me three

    • @dragtherapy
      @dragtherapy  Před rokem

      @@kattell5183 😍

    • @haryel5058
      @haryel5058 Před rokem +1

      Wow we all have had experienced that ?🥹 I’m glad I can read something like that. Thank you for your comment

  • @miaduana
    @miaduana Před rokem +10

    I'm spoiled for choice today 😊, been wanting to nominate this show for your review ❤

  • @HS-hi6wc
    @HS-hi6wc Před rokem +3

    This perfection is exactly why I have no self acceptance and I take myself out of any equation or possibility of a relationship. I have accepted my non acceptance of self and being alone for the rest of my life. Watching your videos makes me want to unload all my life problems.

    • @dragtherapy
      @dragtherapy  Před rokem +3

      yeah perfectionism is truly a prison...making weekly videos on youtube has actually allowed me to drop the perfectionism....when i used to make traditional films, my focus was always on getting everything to be "perfect" because in films we are allowed to spend years on a project but being on a platform like youtube has forced me to let go of obsessing over every detail and just make content that's enjoyable

    • @HS-hi6wc
      @HS-hi6wc Před rokem

      @@dragtherapy you should know your channel is getting me through my PhD and a really tough time. 💞

  • @LittleAMV
    @LittleAMV Před rokem +5

    i love your channel so much!! i definitely have my own experiences with relationship anxiety (avoidant attachment style!!) but it's so interesting hearing your takes on each of the people on the show

    • @dragtherapy
      @dragtherapy  Před rokem +2

      glad you like my takes 🙏 the avoidant attachment style is one that's near and dear to my heart :)

  • @gardeningforburnout
    @gardeningforburnout Před rokem +3

    Just here to tell you that you are so funny and so smart. I was really touched when in a previous episode you disclosed to us your sadness/anxiety in the post-9-11 period. I'm so glad you made it to the other side of that time because what gifts you're now bestowing on all of us strangers. Wishing you all the best.

    • @dragtherapy
      @dragtherapy  Před rokem +1

      thank you dear. this comment is just lovely

  • @h3tur
    @h3tur Před rokem +23

    aparna irritated me so so badly 😭

    • @dragtherapy
      @dragtherapy  Před rokem +11

      same! but i'm afraid that's because i see myself in her 🙈

    • @drit4890
      @drit4890 Před rokem

      She annoys me quite as much as Iryna from love is blind. Makes me remember all the bullies from high school. Idiotic selfish arrogant entitled pricks! 😅 Sorry Aparna, that's just how you present yourself, please change.

  • @marlynsantos9677
    @marlynsantos9677 Před rokem +10

    Another fantastic review Indie! I can relate so much to these ladies, absolutely love how you broke these archetypes down. Somehow you manage to get so deep and cut to the core of the unhealthy tendencies and are so self-aware that you see yourself in them as well. The best part is that for such heavy subject matter you do it in such a loving, non-judgmental, lighthearted and funny way. I always feel lighter and like better when watching your videos. You spark hope and joy that I think will help so many people. I can't wait to see this journey for your channel! #IndieNilefan4everrrr

    • @terrijones693
      @terrijones693 Před rokem

      💯

    • @dragtherapy
      @dragtherapy  Před rokem +1

      thank you so much for this beautiful comment Marlyn 🤗 it's going into my folder of favorite comments...maybe one day i can do make a video about these uplifting comments that saw the potential in Indie early on

    • @dragtherapy
      @dragtherapy  Před rokem +1

      🤗

    • @marlynsantos9677
      @marlynsantos9677 Před rokem +1

      @Indie Nile omg how special that would be such a beautiful video! I will say that your Indie Nile community is so supportive and comments really are uplifting ❤️

    • @dragtherapy
      @dragtherapy  Před rokem +2

      @@marlynsantos9677 right?! i was telling a friend that the other day, everyone is supportive in the comments and even the "negative" comments are so respectful. they just express that they disagree...the older i get, the more i believe in this idea that we get what we put out...and i personally made a conscious decision when i started this channel to keep it cute ;) and not go down to the gutter lol

  • @marialov3s
    @marialov3s Před rokem +2

    Really great video! Love your take on this theme. One of my biggest anxieties when it comes to relationships is this irrational feeling/thought that I will only ever be the transitional person. Wow, that was tough to admit 😔

    • @dragtherapy
      @dragtherapy  Před rokem +1

      thanks for sharing that. i can't help but think of something Brene Brown once said about how shame grows with secrets and the more we speak about stuff, the less power it has over us. we all experience irrational fears and anxieties...you're not alone girl 🤗

  • @Netanyabee
    @Netanyabee Před rokem +3

    Yes! So glad you picked up on the anxiety that ties these three women together. It’s always easier to rationalize rejecting others. Fear is a great divider. I hope they see this one day :)

    • @dragtherapy
      @dragtherapy  Před rokem +1

      i think they will. the three of them seem intelligent. i know from personal experience that it takes a while to figure this stuff out

  • @manigorda
    @manigorda Před rokem +2

    I'm so happy that you did this show. Loved your insights, great job!

  • @jessicaeachus1115
    @jessicaeachus1115 Před rokem +4

    I LOVE your channel and I’m so happy you’re doing other shows! Jewish Matchmaking also came out recently!

    • @dragtherapy
      @dragtherapy  Před rokem +3

      thank you 🤗 yeah i did watch 'jewish matchmaking'. it was entertaining but i struggled to connect to the main characters

    • @mwoods4608
      @mwoods4608 Před rokem +2

      ​@@dragtherapy I liked the match maker and how she talks about different things to do in dating

  • @emilyz3932
    @emilyz3932 Před rokem +4

    i feel like you would be a good matchmaker because you read people so well

    • @dragtherapy
      @dragtherapy  Před rokem +2

      and like all matchmakers, i wish i could match myself up ;)

  • @melissadejesus8385
    @melissadejesus8385 Před rokem +3

    When I meet a new guy I get the worst relationship anxiety. Overthinking everything from what to say to how to look. It’s so exhausting that of course the relationship comes to a fast halt and thats when I feel relief

    • @dragtherapy
      @dragtherapy  Před rokem

      damn, what you said is so relatable...about the relief that comes from ending....frighteningly relatable

  • @HB-pi2ew
    @HB-pi2ew Před rokem +2

    I love that you covered this show!!! Keep up the excellent analysis 🙌

  • @kattell5183
    @kattell5183 Před rokem +8

    "this fear of being close leads to sabotaging relationships before they get real" i've done all 3 🙈
    "she can always read a book" 😂
    "love is not only about giving, receiving is also a way to love" ❤
    "avoiding intimacy at all
    costs" 😬
    learn how to communicate better, that's what it's about❤

    • @dragtherapy
      @dragtherapy  Před rokem

      LOL, "she can always read a book" got me together. thanks for quoting me too, I feel important ;)

  • @orangeujealous6684
    @orangeujealous6684 Před rokem +2

    The educational quality of these videos tho! 10/10!

  • @HS-hi6wc
    @HS-hi6wc Před rokem +2

    This isnt fair. Your channel has me eating out of a bucket of hummus and wondering how much more self work I require 😅😂

    • @dragtherapy
      @dragtherapy  Před rokem +1

      haha, dip deep into that hummus girl lol....i may have done something similar...maybe even still do ;)

  • @icanrelate
    @icanrelate Před rokem +1

    I love your videos. They're so spot on!

    • @dragtherapy
      @dragtherapy  Před rokem +1

      thank you!! glad you're enjoying the videos :)

  • @UKjaydee
    @UKjaydee Před rokem +3

    I think Aparna is an undiagnosed nuerodivergent individual. Same as me. I wasnt diagnosed with ADHD till I was over 40 years.
    She may be on the spectrum of something else, but there is something there for sure!
    Love the show and love your spot on analysis!

    • @dragtherapy
      @dragtherapy  Před rokem +3

      yeah makes sense for her to be on the spectrum. she's got that brutal honesty and baby like quality that's usually there with spectrum folk. i actually love Aparna a lot. i find her sweet and loveable, albeit it in a different way

    • @UKjaydee
      @UKjaydee Před rokem

      @Indie Nile absolutely..I kinda empathise with her cos to neurological folk, she will always be odd ..but I get her and I see her! Hope she finds someone that sees her for who she is!

    • @dragtherapy
      @dragtherapy  Před rokem

      @@UKjaydee she definitely will see it once she gives herself some healthy distance from her mom's influence

  • @VictoriaLynnMyers
    @VictoriaLynnMyers Před rokem +2

    Love your nails and your channel!

  • @simbaladesignsinsights
    @simbaladesignsinsights Před rokem +1

    I LOVE your creative perspective! You’re absolutely brilliant. I’m in CA. It would be amazing to see one of your shows. I think I fall under each category here 😭 I’m still doing the inner work so I CAN connect. Thank you for your wisdom ❤

    • @dragtherapy
      @dragtherapy  Před rokem +1

      my pleasure! thank you for watching....also, i fall in all 3 categories as well

  • @rinverno9
    @rinverno9 Před rokem +1

    So glad you find time to threat us with this video, love you re on top of our shows! 💓💓 wishing you the best for the shows, unfortunately cant attend as we aren´t not from the same country, your audience is very international 😘

    • @dragtherapy
      @dragtherapy  Před rokem +1

      thank you dear. and yes indeed the audience is international. i kind of love that actually. hopefully one day i can do a more international tour

  • @lisette5380
    @lisette5380 Před rokem +2

    I love your channel! You make me learn so much new stuff myself. I did not know Im the person who is afraid to be engulfed by love. It makes me realise I might be a bit tough for the people I date..
    Also I loved your show in Amsterdam!!!❤ looking forward to your show in september 😊🎉

    • @dragtherapy
      @dragtherapy  Před rokem +1

      Lisette! hey girl. thanks for being at the show and yes the Sept show is in the works....i'm also terrified of being engulfed but practicing surrendering

  • @apoorva203
    @apoorva203 Před rokem +1

    Gurrrrlll!! All insights are on point as usual. Looking forward to your channel growing big :)

  • @cakechaosandconfetti
    @cakechaosandconfetti Před rokem +2

    Indie!!!! GURL!
    Why do you call me out like that and then make me feel so understood too?
    I have no problems ( well almost😅)with my romantic relationship( together 23 years) but I struggle so much with friendships. I have such trust issues that stem from previously being very vulnerable, naive and nurturing and then being let down so many times that I no longer trust anyone's intentions anymore...much like Priya maybe...
    Ps Love your insights, kindness and delivery!
    I swear I could sit and hear you talk all day❤😂

    • @dragtherapy
      @dragtherapy  Před rokem +1

      Hey there Vanda. Nice to get this message. and it's super interesting to hear that your struggle is more in the non-romantic relationships....maybe we can switch places lol

  • @tuerelawton3850
    @tuerelawton3850 Před rokem +1

    i loooove these videos! i could listen to you for hours 😻 thank you Indie !!

  • @sunnypie2
    @sunnypie2 Před rokem +1

    Excellent job as always! Love your channel ! Thank you!

  • @thobilembuli8571
    @thobilembuli8571 Před rokem +1

    I enjoy your videos soooo much! And I’m happy to have been a day one of such a great channel

  • @lorenaesparza6737
    @lorenaesparza6737 Před 5 měsíci

    I really love this show . he makes me smile every time I see his show . ive said it before and I will keep saying it . he is a breath of fresh air .

  • @beatsventura8813
    @beatsventura8813 Před rokem

    Facts!
    Love hearing your input, and your voice / accent is so dope I could listen to you speak all day

  • @Abie_Irabor
    @Abie_Irabor Před rokem +1

    Love the Goldie Hawn quotes - so much wisdom!

    • @dragtherapy
      @dragtherapy  Před rokem +1

      right?? i love that Goldie interview. Here's the original one: czcams.com/video/u8FIGeAvNsE/video.html

    • @Abie_Irabor
      @Abie_Irabor Před rokem

      @@dragtherapy Thank you!

  • @LamLawIndy
    @LamLawIndy Před 10 měsíci

    Sima Aunty [from Mumbai] did say that she's met many Mama's Boys before but that Rushali was the first Mama's Girl that she'd ever met.

  • @patriciajeronimo427
    @patriciajeronimo427 Před rokem +1

    I'm not following the show, but watching your inputs it's always great 😃
    And please bring your show to Ireland! 🙏🏻🙏🏻🙏🏻

    • @dragtherapy
      @dragtherapy  Před rokem +1

      yes! Ireland was and continues to be on the list. to be honest, i'm even okay with just visiting the country for the sake of visiting it. show or no show. super curious

  • @sysye
    @sysye Před rokem +5

    I only had narcissistic partners my whole life and now I'm scared of letting anyone in, because obviously I can't trust myself to make the right choice.. 😢

    • @dragtherapy
      @dragtherapy  Před rokem +5

      that really resonates with me, this idea of being scared to let anyone in. i wish i can tell you what to do but i'm still figuring that out myself. fear is the worst. i just hope that becoming more aware of the fear makes it less powerful and less able to control us 🤞

    • @sysye
      @sysye Před rokem

      @@dragtherapy Thank you, I also wish that for us, we deserve to be happy and loved 🌸

    • @pink_stain
      @pink_stain Před rokem +1

      Start therapy as the common denominator is you. Eventually, you'll attract good people.

    • @dragtherapy
      @dragtherapy  Před rokem +1

      @@pink_stain 👌👌

    • @pink_stain
      @pink_stain Před rokem

      @@dragtherapy thank you so much for noticing my comment Indie! I always look forward to your videos and learn so much from them!!

  • @mariaa.7327
    @mariaa.7327 Před rokem +2

    Loved this one again Indie ❤

    • @dragtherapy
      @dragtherapy  Před rokem +1

      thanks Maria. Nice to hear from you again 🤗

  • @10qwertypoiu
    @10qwertypoiu Před rokem +1

    Omg!!! I was waiting for this 👏🏼

  • @S_8-
    @S_8- Před rokem

    I love your content so much !! By far my favorites takes about dating TV show . Thanks so much for sharing ❤️

  • @kczmonkey03
    @kczmonkey03 Před rokem

    Bravo!!! 👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽 your videos and your outlook is/are so unique and I’m LOVING it! Love from 🇺🇸!

  • @mellie1827
    @mellie1827 Před rokem

    So obsessed with your channel!! My two interests colliding 🤭 I haven’t finished IM yet but I can’t watch to catch up and see everything that you pointed out

    • @mellie1827
      @mellie1827 Před rokem

      Wait not me relating to Priya 🤭

    • @dragtherapy
      @dragtherapy  Před rokem

      same Priya's fears are so familiar and triggering 🙈

  • @farrahburke4768
    @farrahburke4768 Před rokem

    Honestly love your videos so much! Top tier analysis!! 💛

  • @raincamit9516
    @raincamit9516 Před rokem

    I have all three😢
    Again! You’re doing amazing! I love you Indie Nile❤

    • @dragtherapy
      @dragtherapy  Před rokem

      no need to cry about having all three, think of it as anxiety abundance ;) you're in good company anyway, seems like everyone in the comments AND yours truly have all three

  • @LittleBluebirdFireheart

    Queeeeen please please be safe in LA 🙏🏻 been hearing a lot of bad things that are happening on drag shows. So please take care. I also caaaaaan't stop watching your channel. Even annoying my sister to watch all of it too😂 sending much love from Switzerland ✨️🤍✨️

    • @dragtherapy
      @dragtherapy  Před rokem +1

      thank you sweetie. i will definitely take care while out there.i'm actually looking forward to being in LA, let's see how it goes. P.S. thanks for introducing your sister to Indie :) Sending all the love back from Amsterdam (and Brighton where I am right now doing some shows)

  • @Carousel5883
    @Carousel5883 Před měsícem

    I admit was like Priya once.my first husband ( God bless his soul) was way too into me and too soon.it scared me at first but then we talked about it and still he was the same.he said he cant stop being so in love with me and i was thinking wtf is wrong with me? A great ,sexy , brilliant, romantic man that any women would pray for.Till the endvhe said he loves me more than i love him and its true.Sad but true,its my biggest guilt.But i consider him my greatest blessing.

  • @kamilarojek4073
    @kamilarojek4073 Před rokem +1

    We need more content !!

    • @dragtherapy
      @dragtherapy  Před rokem

      i have a long term plan to hire an editing assistant so i can put out more content but have to wait for the channel/revenue to grow enough to allow me to do that :) as they say, all in good time x

  • @meli7315
    @meli7315 Před 11 měsíci

    Thank you beautiful soul, you are so amazing and I learn so much with you 🌺 love and light for your soul 🕊️🤍

  • @kathrynjohnson8979
    @kathrynjohnson8979 Před 4 měsíci

    Watching all your vids now!

  • @Shortmusings
    @Shortmusings Před rokem +7

    Could you please do a video on the Eboni K Williams and Iyanla Vanzant interview

    • @miaduana
      @miaduana Před rokem +1

      I second that

    • @dragtherapy
      @dragtherapy  Před rokem +3

      i was thinking about that today. i actually watched the initial interview before it blew up coz the algorithm knows how much i love Iyanla. i found it to be a beautiful interview during which Eboni showed self-reflection but her commentary later reeks of defensiveness

    • @dragtherapy
      @dragtherapy  Před rokem +1

      👌

    • @Shortmusings
      @Shortmusings Před rokem +1

      @@dragtherapy omg you responded i lov eyou

    • @regularity2556
      @regularity2556 Před rokem +1

      ​@@dragtherapy OH no please, stay out of that mess. Your channel is so dignified

  • @amberriley7633
    @amberriley7633 Před rokem +1

    Vim was literally perfect for her and gorgeous 😭💔

    • @dragtherapy
      @dragtherapy  Před rokem +1

      exactly! unfortunately i heard that they broke up after the show. they unfollowed each other on instagram which is the modern-day version of breaking up ;)

  • @buutifuleyes
    @buutifuleyes Před rokem

    Ok gurlll enough is enough!😂😂 I had to pause the video to comment your analysis for these ppl has valid points and permits self reflection, and you're soo funny. I'm interested to hear your story and see your creative expression. Please consider bringing your show to Austin. ok byeeeeeee 💜....grabs snack resumes video

    • @dragtherapy
      @dragtherapy  Před rokem

      haha, thanks! i'd actually love to come to austin. i'm lowkey working on a US tour...one day 🤞

  • @Sam-zz6pr
    @Sam-zz6pr Před rokem +2

    What is my copay for drag therapy? 🖤

    • @dragtherapy
      @dragtherapy  Před rokem +1

      😋😍 it's for free, just spread the word

  • @carolinekamya2339
    @carolinekamya2339 Před rokem +4

    Rashali might play on another side of the pitch - lol

    • @dragtherapy
      @dragtherapy  Před rokem +2

      hmmmm...INTERESTING! i never would have clocked it but that could totally be! damn girl, i can totally see it!

    • @nataliecreaven8767
      @nataliecreaven8767 Před rokem +2

      To be honest I kind of thought that about a lot of the men on this show!

    • @s.stevens4520
      @s.stevens4520 Před rokem +1

      @@nataliecreaven8767 Bobby and the doctor guy, for sure!

  • @sashie253
    @sashie253 Před rokem +1

    I love this channel❤️

    • @dragtherapy
      @dragtherapy  Před rokem

      thank you! channel and me love you back

  • @connie27100
    @connie27100 Před rokem

    Great video. I would speculate that Priya has an insecure attachment style from childhood which means she is not used to secure and open people like Vimal. Its not familiar to her and she freaks out because he is not blowing hot and cold. He's being consistent and that is unfamiliar to her and therefore it irritates her, because she thinks as you said, he should follow the script that she is used to.

  • @Refiningforge
    @Refiningforge Před rokem

    Bruh I love your content/shows

  • @lulu-love-777
    @lulu-love-777 Před rokem

    wow 🤩😍😂🧡💛💚 this is wonderful!! and goldie is too real, yo 😂🤯🙀 you legit shapeshifted 😧😹😻💖 good work, sir. 👏😋so creative and inspirational 🧡💛💜

    • @dragtherapy
      @dragtherapy  Před rokem +1

      thank you. shapeshifting is my favorite thing in the world :)

  • @islamhassan7337
    @islamhassan7337 Před 11 měsíci

    Problem in root chakra is what rushali suffers from

  • @matchaleche
    @matchaleche Před rokem

    Indie, my love, I've never watched this show, but just to get your analysis, I'll do and come back later 💖💝

  • @Amazigh_MaeMae
    @Amazigh_MaeMae Před rokem +1

    I think Roshali had zero intentions to get married and just wanted exposure for her work as a model.

  • @cococookie3830
    @cococookie3830 Před rokem +2

    Love should be easy, but it’s not 😊.

    • @dragtherapy
      @dragtherapy  Před rokem +3

      it sure as hell isn't ;) but i feel it's one of those things that needs to be hard until we suddenly and easily realize it was easy all along...at least that's what i hope for

  • @mwoods4608
    @mwoods4608 Před rokem +1

    so she thought he wasn't genuine since he was into her so quickly? he didn't say he loved her. just that she checked his boxes. didn't he also check hers??

    • @dragtherapy
      @dragtherapy  Před rokem

      yeah classic self-sabotage....i recently heard that they didn't end up staying together

  • @moraaomae6716
    @moraaomae6716 Před rokem +1

    I love that we watch the same shows yay

  • @islamhassan7337
    @islamhassan7337 Před 11 měsíci

    I have this nice cocktail of anxieties 🤣🤣🤣🤣

  • @kattell5183
    @kattell5183 Před rokem

    Getting to I Don’t Know
    Sometimes, too certain I know what love is,
    I miss love.
    It’s like thinking water is waves,
    not seeing water is also the depths of ocean,
    the muscle of river, the body, the air,
    ice, snow, fog, clouds, mist.
    Sometimes, longing to hear certain words,
    I neglect to hear the words that are spoken.
    Or craving a certain touch, I disregard
    all other touch, and my skin believes it is starving.
    There is beauty beyond beauty, love beyond love,
    opening beyond opening, an apple inside apple.
    Let my prayer be I don’t know.
    Let me find the door inside the door,
    the glimmer inside the glimmer,
    the human inside this woman.
    The god inside of god.
    RWT

  • @MissLaadyG
    @MissLaadyG Před rokem

    I have it, it's also called a djinn amoureux, I'm just afraid not to choose properly for myself or that I misinterpret signs when I like a guy, and he seems to like me back.

    • @dragtherapy
      @dragtherapy  Před rokem

      hmmm what you said about fear of misinterpreting signs is very familiar to me....if it's any consolation, i think that happens because we are still in the baby stages of figuring out intimacy...it's still wobbly and scary...and not much self-trust...i like to think it gets better

  • @a_womans_intuition7195

    You nailed it lol

  • @Lord1001
    @Lord1001 Před rokem

    If we consider Donald Nathanson's definition of shame being a rupture in the interpersonal bridge, then all of these women experience shame in their inability to establish a genuine connection with others. A common reaction is to attack self, like perfectionism, or attack other, by being critical or judgmental. Thanks for the content.

  • @gabymartiniano9919
    @gabymartiniano9919 Před rokem

    What about love is blind the new seasso? Love ur videos ❤

    • @dragtherapy
      @dragtherapy  Před rokem

      yeah can't wait for that one. it's coming in September i heard 😍

  • @werak7136
    @werak7136 Před rokem

    First, thank you for this video!! I've been waiting all week to hear your insights again 🤪
    & I agree with others, you're gonna blow up, because you are beautiful and so creative in your delivery, while making points that no one can deny! We are in deep need of seeing the mirror and you are pointing it out so gracefully to us through these shows, ugh can't thank you enough... just keep doing what you're doing! Like i literally smile the whole time i watch!
    (Btw I hope you think of doing a show on the east coast like NYC, I'd visit and bring my friends!)
    Lastly, i loooove that you analyzed the indian matchmaking cause you know we all binged season twoo
    😊 Personally i relate to what you say about Priya creating confusion, and abandonment issues in the other two hit close to home with me too... shit, all of what you said is facts 👏 my toxic trait is flipping from love to hate if someone is too busy to respond, especially if im being vulnerable in convo bc my abandonment fears are too strong 😬 eek! But auntie goldie was on point with the advice... keep workin girl 💁🏽‍♀️
    soo much love ❤❤❤

    • @dragtherapy
      @dragtherapy  Před rokem +1

      thank you so much! performing in NYC is definitely on the bucket list...and by the way, that comment of yours about flipping to hate real quick if someone doesn't respond. damn! that went into my soul. abandonment is big one for me too

  • @monsteratreehouse
    @monsteratreehouse Před rokem

    Special request for bling empire then bling empire new york!!!

    • @dragtherapy
      @dragtherapy  Před rokem +2

      that's a good one. will add them to the list. maybe when a new season returns, i can do an analysis of several seasons together

    • @monsteratreehouse
      @monsteratreehouse Před rokem

      @@dragtherapy yes I must see Dorothy’s analysis! That show is gold haha

    • @dragtherapy
      @dragtherapy  Před rokem

      @@monsteratreehouse 😃

  • @jennshoultes6195
    @jennshoultes6195 Před rokem

    I'm a combination between Aparna and Priya. I'm an extrovert, and a perfectionist always looking for a flaw in other people. That's why I'm single, never married and 45.
    Jewish Matchmaker is a lot better. I actually learned many things

    • @dragtherapy
      @dragtherapy  Před rokem +2

      i hear ya. I'm 44 and even though I was in one long term relationship in my life, i've been single for a while and i actually can't wait to practice everything i learned from my past relationship in a new one

    • @jennshoultes6195
      @jennshoultes6195 Před rokem

      @Indie Nile my last relationship ended in March 2020. We dated 2 ½ years and he's the only person I've ever really loved... I'm a serial monogamous. I don't want to date anyone else ever again. I wish I was excited about dating again. Maybe someday. Maybe not

  • @jayasmith2096
    @jayasmith2096 Před rokem

    Thanks!

  • @islamhassan7337
    @islamhassan7337 Před 11 měsíci

    Im Priya

  • @fadiamakarem
    @fadiamakarem Před rokem

    Your mom is waiting 😅, I can imagine some expectations, ready for that ❤

    • @dragtherapy
      @dragtherapy  Před rokem +1

      love you mom. yes you're gonna really enjoy the next show! who knows maybe i can even play it in Dubai 🤞

    • @fadiamakarem
      @fadiamakarem Před rokem

      @@dragtherapy I wish it works here in Dubai

    • @dragtherapy
      @dragtherapy  Před rokem +1

      @@fadiamakarem if the focus is more on the theater more than the drag, it will work...it all depends on how you sell it but first you can come watch it in the netherlands next year, we can close the tour with you being there at the final show next spring :) that will be a beautiful ending to the show

    • @fadiamakarem
      @fadiamakarem Před rokem

      @@dragtherapywish it going to work

  • @dyardsale5475
    @dyardsale5475 Před 2 měsíci

    People don't want to get married anymore. Now these problems are affecting India.

  • @aliyabear
    @aliyabear Před rokem

    Can you also do one of these about the men on the show? Doesn’t feel fair to only analyze the women.

    • @dragtherapy
      @dragtherapy  Před rokem +1

      i only analyze people that speak to me and i feel connected to on some level. the men on the show were a little too boring to be honest. none of them caught my attention. my analysis isn't about being fair and pointing out everyone's mistakes equally. i pick up on issues that i feel i have, regardless of the gender of the person i'm analyzing. there was one guy on season 3 who reminded a little of myself 20 years ago when i was in denial about being gay. i'll let you figure out which one that is ;)

    • @dahliaherrod4301
      @dahliaherrod4301 Před rokem

      ​@@dragtherapyOoh I know exactly which guy you're talking about he drove me crazy. I immediately clocked the problem and it was only reinforced by his indecisiveness. I hope he tells the truth even if it's only to himself.

    • @dragtherapy
      @dragtherapy  Před rokem +1

      @@dahliaherrod4301 exactly. i hope he learns to accept himself but that's a journey you can't walk for people, they need to do that themselves

  • @TBREAKTIME
    @TBREAKTIME Před rokem

    Yessss Bbbbb ❤❤❤

  • @valeriagandaraledezma3379

    😦I wanna do yoga with goats too!!!

  • @ornellachloe
    @ornellachloe Před rokem

    What if someone suffers from all 3 lol

    • @dragtherapy
      @dragtherapy  Před rokem +2

      haha, get in line girl. there's so many of us out here. i'll lead the way, although i'm not sure where we're going with our anxiety baggage lol