I made some terrible decisions as a small business owner - where I am now
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- čas přidán 19. 02. 2024
- I've recently made some bad decisions for my business... in contrast, I've also recently made some of the best decisions for myself as an individual. Nope, nothing magical happened, I didn't find a way to work 'smarter' while still staying true to myself, but we are going to be ok, and healthier and happier because of it. I wanted to talk about this, perhaps to deglamorize my experience being self-employed, what I'm doing about it, and where I am now. The future is unknown, that being said, that can be super scary when faced with expecting a child in five months and having to take time off work! We've done our best to save and plan ahead, we have supportive parents and know we will be ok, but making the decision to cut back on work for health and balance has been incredibly daunting to say the least. The good thing is we are facing the future as a team. I wanted to share because I want my story to be a reminder to all of you to stay true to yourself, very few things are worth selling your health and life. Make sure you make changes with that in mind, know what it is that is priceless and that you value above all else. Let it guide you. For us, that means living very simply, not going on trips, being careful with your spending, and it's worth it. But this may be different for you. We are all unique, and that is what makes it interesting. Sending you much love and light ❤️
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Pretty much the entire time I was talking my cat was throwing around a cat toy 😅 I am so sorry about all the random sounds. Sending much love and light ❤
Its.puuurfect ❤❤❤❤❤❤❤
Thank you for your honesty
I've learned so much about self care lately . It's so important.
Well done for listening to yourself ❤
No need to apologise! It wasn't loud.
You're a starseed and you shine very bright! ❤
You're so much more than a human. You're a multi-dimensional being and there's great power in that.
You are so truly a special soul and ❤ always love 🙏🕊
I understand I am with you - love the simple life
I just watched your video and would like to offer a kind bit of advice. I’m a 70 year old artist, mother of 4, grandmother to 5. You must not bother addressing other people’s concerns on your choices in life. Live intuitively, don’t overthink, don’t try to explain who you are. Live by faith, it works out, it really does. My husband and I have been married coming up on 46 years and most of our extended family don’t understand why we choose to live so simply but happy to say, the proof is in the pudding, we have a beautiful life that now they envy. Be true to yourself with no need to explain. Your child will appreciate the freedom that brings to you as a mother
@pasuhi - Thank you for saying what I was thinking, but have a hard time putting into words as you so beautifully have. I am a 59 y.o. artist, mother of 4, grandmother of 5, married 36 years to my husband (my very best friend) and I have found the very same is true. Live by faith and do it simply Paola, like a child would. Oh the wonderful blessings that come! xoxoxo
Explaining is just what people need because the world does push us to be someone we are not. So, the message has a powerful effect because it means living simple is allowed.
This is sage advice. Thank you!!
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Co workers think I’m boring, one told me I live the life of an “old lady!” I’m 35, single mom of two. I love reading, journaling, watching horror movies, drawing and walking through the woods. I keep getting told I need to go out to the bars and meet a man, none of that sounds appealing to me! I really value my quiet time, I’m still heading from what my ex put me through. I’m finally just being me, doing what makes me happy. At least for the most part, I’m still working through a lot. But I’m finally doing it! Just be you, do what you need to do for you! ❤️
I think your life stunds awesome❤
@@monalarsson5586 thank you! ❤️
Watching horror movies? If it's ghost stories and hauntings, I love those too (i.e. the show "A Haunting") but if you're talking slasher horror movies with the gore, how does that fit in with reading, journaling, drawing, walks through the woods and other peaceful activities?🤔
@@zariballard I’ve always loved horror movies, of any kind. For me that’s comfort. It’s not for everyone but it’s definitely for me! I can go from watching a slasher to watching Ever After or Pride and Prejudice! It makes me happy! 🖤😊
@@zariballardWhy not? Balance in all things! :)
Agree, agree! I’ve been a “professional” artist/crafter for 25 years. Went to prestigious art schools, had a business with a few employees after school, licensing and publishing deals with large companies, blah blah blah, did all the things you’re “supposed” to do, got really sick. After a decade of that disaster, I left everything and everyone behind, bought a van to live and travel in to reconnect with my true self. Now I live on a small island building my own home as time/budget allows, work odd jobs and make art and crafts primarily for myself that I sell when I can/want. Never been happier, even though I’m “doing it all wrong”😂!
I love it! 👍
this is a little bit too much but would you consider doing a channel about your life/artwork there on the island? no pressure tho i just feel it's so brave and fantastic of you leaving behind all and living your best life...
@@danthanh98 I do… sort of! I value my privacy, so I don’t get on camera, but I recently began making short (mostly nature) videos on my CZcams channel
This sounds like a dream tbh
@@islanding-salishsea Oooh, I'm checking out your channel. It's awesome you're doing that. 🌼
My mom always says, "Go to sleep and leave it in Gods hands ." I seriously worry too much about the future.
As a disabled person on a tiny disability check (less than 1k a month), I can attest to the fact that it truly is the simple things that give us peace. I know I will never have much materially, but I am so grateful that I do have the time to read lots of books in the company of my cats. Yes, it's a quiet and boring life, but it's mine and I plan to enjoy it to the best of my ability ❤
Edit: Thank you all so much for the kind and encouraging words, they mean a lot - love this amazing community ❤️
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I love this! Blessings to you.
You are not living a quiet and boring life- but a beautiful, real and true life, God speed!
Agree
OMG!!! You are SO not living a boring life at all!!! Book. Cats. sounds wonderful!! and...... one can go to more places through books than can travel on this planet!!! Enjoy!
Paola - I never comment. But this requires one. You have tapped into immense wisdom. Never apologize for it. If anything, keep embracing it. I’ve been an entrepreneur for 20 years and I have worked with a lot of these “build bigger, more more more” business owners. Not a single one. Let me repeat. Not a single one is actually happy. They never feel like what they are doing is enough. Almost all of them have health issues. More is not the answer. Enough is. Health is everything. Family is everything. Being aligned and living a peaceful happy life with the time to actually live it is *everything*. Find your balance. Find your enough. And truly, let that be enough. Don’t hold yourself hostage to anyone else’s definition of what that is. You are absolutely on the right path. Thank you for doing what you do and for being the cottage fairy 🧚♂️ You have enriched all of our lives with your presence and art!!
Well said. Don’t apologize. Live and learn. ❤❤
👏 👏 👏 THIS! You speak the truth. As a previous small business (coaching) I've seen it too. Our culture doesn't like people to be content and happy, they want stressed out people. Why? They consume more in every way.
Amen.
Hey sorry it's out of the context but your pfp radiates so much positivity and joy.
You are a lovely lady 🤍
So wise ! Thank you !
I was beginning to think that I was the only one who didn't care about making tons of money. I was always satisfied with having "enough" and God always provided it.
@kathyann9643 no, you're not alone there. Many years ago, there were a range of magazines such as Grassroots and Simply Living, I guess they were the precursors to a movement *back to basics* that we see today. Simplicity doesn't automatically equal deprivation, you and I know it (but many have been brainwashed to beleive a consumerist, materialist dream). The dream easily becomes nightmarish if life goes out of balance, for sure
Same here!
Hallelujah. ♡
same here. you’re not alone ☺️
And can I ask, where do you work, I mean in what profession?
You are perfect just the way you are. After 25 years of business, my favorite place now at 50 years old is at home, reading my Bible, journaling cooking a good meal and making an herbal tea. You just arrived quicker than me.
I am an 81 year old man in a time of much change, as I seek to live more the truth of myself. This video sharing of yours, is much a gift to me. Thank you.
Your comment touched my heart. I wish you the best as you navigate the changes you speak of. Be kind to yourself as you find soft places to land. Love and light to you. Namaste.
This is so beautiful. I am 45 and if I am allowed to live and experience another 40 years, I pray my mindset is like yours.
Lovely comment. Thank you.
God Bless you 🙏 . My 92 year old mom always says "getting old isn't for sissies " . She never complains and keeps busy on her word games that I, for my life , can't do !!
Thank you for the kindness of your blessing.
People say we're boring but honestly, what greater privilege than being confortable with yourself and satisfied with your life? No need for much, just pure happiness out of little things
You said it 🤗
That was a lovely video thankyou! ❤😊 all the very best to you ❤
I just wish I realised years ago that it is OK not to want to go out, travel etc. Like you say, it's a true gift to enjoy your own company.
Someone told me I was boring and I needed to do more. I finally got frustrated with him and told him I like my life just the way it is. I know what it is to live in chaos. I don’t want that. I live the life I live because of that chaos I’ve been through. I am finally comfortable with who I am. People always tried to make me feel like something was wrong with me because I’m quiet & shy. I finally fully came into myself last year (and the process began long before that but he made me realize how happy I am with me & who I am). I told him that he has an issue with my life because he is walking chaos. Well, let’s just say we no longer speak for various reasons but that’s a major factor…for me at least..he may say something different directed at me 😂…and I’m okay with some of that too 🤷🏾♀️…even my brother tries to get me to do more…I think I might need to have that talk with him too. 😂
@@obridget01 I endorse your attitude 100% 😁 👋✌
I nearly cried when you talked about how too much pressure/too many responsibilities brought illness and panic attacks; I related to that so strongly. We "sensitives" do have to make choices that will preserve our health, even if it means we aren't living up to the level of "success" that others, or we ourselves, think we should be able to achieve.
we sensitives were not made for the matrix work systems....and shall no more feel pressured to do so. We are successes in another sense
Yes yes and yes
Can you explain what you mean but “sensitives”? I am going through much stress and my body is going through digestive issues, with panic as well. Would love to learn how to heal and have the courage to walk away from a toxic job.
I can relate so much here. I started my channel as a hobby and never though it would become my ""job"" one day, but so far I'm happy I've never had a single video sponsored, and I don't sell merch because that's not my vision either. I think this is the secret to some kind of longevity of any art form: do what makes you happy, and you'll do it for a long time. After a few years watching every video you release, I think it's safe to say that you're staying true to your vision, and this is why so many people are still here supporting you. You may have made "mistakes", like everybody does, but in the end, we're still here to spend a timeless moment with the beautiful Cottage Fairy 😊 As you're saying: you're enough. Take care dear Paola!
Hello Diane! I absolutely agree with your statement. I've also been watching your channel for a few years now. As I contemplate starting my own channel, for educational and entertainment purposes, can we really make a sustainable, full time living with just the ad sense from YT and not having to get sponsored videos and other merch?
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I love your channel Diane. Watch your videos multiple times each. You recently took some time for yourself and all your followers were very supportive. The CZcams community is not all toxic ;)
Coucou Diane. Entièrement d’accord avec toi. Profitons de la vie et continuons à faire ce que l’on aime. 😊😊😊😊
Absolutely agreed.
My daughter just looked over my shoulder and said “She’s so beautiful!” I couldn’t agree more. Thanks for being so naturally you. Great message too!
I always loved this certain short story of a fisherman: one day a hard working man in a suit finds this fisherman next to his small fishing boat sitting in the sun in the afternoon. They start talking and the buisy man asks him why he isn't fishing anymore. The fisherman tells him he already went fishing in the morning and catched a few fish that he brought home to his wife. The man in the suit tells him how if he would just go fishing again in the afternoon he would catch more fish that he could sell, make more money, buy a larger fishing boat to catch more fish, to make more money, than he could hire people to help him and earn more money that he could use to expand his business,... And then when he would be retiring he could sit down in the sun and relax and enjoy his life. Then the fisherman responses: "but that's what I am already doing right now"
Lovely! Thank you!
I have read it as a child, too
I love this story, thank you for sharing 🤗
My brother shared this story on his fb page a few years back. He died in his sleep last Sept, before he reached 62. He was enjoying himself before this happened, but he needed to take better care of his body.
Wow, that struck a cord
The soap is beautiful but the wrapping of them is just enchanting
When I got pregnant I knew I didn’t want to miss raising our child and being the one to give him his life foundation. We didn’t know how we would afford to live as my husband was a student. But 5 years later here we are, and my job is still being a mother ❤, wouldn’t trade it for any thing.
Bravo Paola, bravo. So much wisdom in your words. You have probably run into the story of the Brazilian fisherman and the American businessman. It is appropriate here. If not, here it is:
There was once a businessman who was sitting by the beach in a small Brazilian village.
As he sat, he saw a Brazilian fisherman rowing a small boat towards the shore having caught quite few big fish.
The businessman was impressed and asked the fisherman, “How long does it take you to catch so many fish?”
The fisherman replied, “Oh, just a short while.”
“Then why don’t you stay longer at sea and catch even more?” The businessman was astonished.
“This is enough to feed my whole family,” the fisherman said.
The businessman then asked, “So, what do you do for the rest of the day?”
The fisherman replied, “Well, I usually wake up early in the morning, go out to sea and catch a few fish, then go back and play with my kids. In the afternoon, I take a nap with my wife, and evening comes, I join my buddies in the village for a drink - we play guitar, sing and dance throughout the night.”
The businessman offered a suggestion to the fisherman.
“I am a PhD in business management. I could help you to become a more successful person. From now on, you should spend more time at sea and try to catch as many fish as possible. When you have saved enough money, you could buy a bigger boat and catch even more fish. Soon you will be able to afford to buy more boats, set up your own company, your own production plant for canned food and distribution network. By then, you will have moved out of this village and to Sao Paulo, where you can set up HQ to manage your other branches.”
The fisherman continues, “And after that?”
The businessman laughs heartily, “After that, you can live like a king in your own house, and when the time is right, you can go public and float your shares in the Stock Exchange, and you will be rich.”
The fisherman asks, “And after that?”
The businessman says, “After that, you can finally retire, you can move to a house by the fishing village, wake up early in the morning, catch a few fish, then return home to play with kids, have a nice afternoon nap with your wife, and when evening comes, you can join your buddies for a drink, play the guitar, sing and dance throughout the night!”
The fisherman was puzzled, “Isn’t that what I am doing now?”
Brilliant story !!
So beautiful and deep story 💝
Brilliant story
Lovely story. And so true of life, we sacrifice to be better, but lose that that makes us feel better. I like the Brazilian Fisherman's philosophy.
I've heard this story before and always liked it, but never knew it was a Brazilian fisherman. As a brazilian myself, I find this reference quite interesting, in spite of life not been really easy here (making ends meets is a real stuggle for many, just to survive), there is so much joy going on too.
For 40+ years I worked hard as a teacher pushing myself and my body and my mind. Then an injury forced me to retire a couple of years early and my life came crashing down. People told me I should be volunteering and I should be doing more interesting things and one family member even said " live or die"... And I'm glad I instead listened to my own heart and I found the simple things that bring me joy...an they are enough. I never wanted more than just enough. So now I work to help save feral cats, and I pick up trash every day for the environment, and I teach my Mexican neighbor English, and I love my simple simple life. I don't need much to be happy so everything you said I resonate with. Oh my! Paola, you are so wise at such a young age! You're little boy is going to be so lucky to have such wonderful parents who understand the beauty of simplicity and frugality. Thank you for being so open and honest! Who you are and what you share with the world is such a purposeful gift to the universe!
As a fellow cat lady….thank you for what you do to help the feral cats. I’ve been feeding and caring for a feral for over three years. Finally last summer he started getting closer and closer to me, eventually purring and rubbing up against my legs. Since I can’t bring him in my home I took him to my local shelter, where I do some work with, and now he’s a lover boy (orange cat), and ready for adoption! I’m so proud of him! Bless you for what you do! ❤❤❤
This is amazing, I love your story. As someone who almost ended up in academia but chose differently in the end due to not wanting to sell my soul, this is exactly the type of slow paced way of life that I'm after.
"I never wanted more than just enough" ❤ thats exactly me. Thank you for these words!!
You sound lovely and living a purpose driven life,,,, love❤️
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Your emotional intelligence and self awareness is off-the-charts amazing! The message you are sending out into this busy, noisy, smelly, chaotic world to slow down and seek balance is exactly what the world needs to hear and do. I am also an HSP. It's not our job to fit into this world. When you find yourself in a world you don't fit in, it's time to make a new one. That's why we're here. To show the others a better way. You are a lighthouse, my dear. You are fulfilling your purpose.💖💖💖
Yes!! ❤
Beautiful response. Totally agree and gives me peace too actually (I’m also a HSP)
I'm a painter, and I've been repeatedly told by friends and acquaintances that I could easily sell my work and that people would love prints of my pieces. But I've always gravitated toward making them gifts, whether for friends and family or for myself. I'm starting to consider what it might look like to start selling, but there's a big part of me that's wary of the push to make everything you enjoy doing profitable. It doesn't have to be. It can just be life-giving.
Your beautiful cat takes his responsibilities very seriously as he "supervises" your creative activities.
Yes indeed, self appointed overseer and quality control expert 😂
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Thank you Paola. I almost lost my husband of 26yrs last year. We now see life differently. We will definitely continue to live frugally but have decided that saving and accumulating money for that one day we might have an emergency is not what we will focus on anymore. I ask myself if I would’ve lost him....we never took a vacation, we never splurged because we focused so much in the future. A future without my husband is something I just can’t fathom. We are blessed and pray for many more years together. Blessing to you! 🙏♥️
Blessings to you both! May God bless you with many more good years together. ❤️
@@jacquicherry1721 Thank you so much. Blessings to you as well. 🙏
Blessing to both of you ♥️♥️-30 years for us ♥️♥️
Patricia (Daniel)
Blessings to you ❤ there is only the moment. Live fully and enjoy and love. Let the rest go 🙏
My sincere condolences, I just lost my dear dad on Feb 1st, I am so sad.
I don't think you even realize how much value you bring through your videos. It's so valuable to see a simple, humble lifestyle while everyone only pushes you to make a lot of money and travel around the world. Lately, I have been questioning myself a lot. I also feel that I don't need much; sun, relationships, and nature give me everything I need. I don't want to conquer the world anymore. I let go of my ambitions. And seeing your videos is like a confirmation that it's actually alright to live a 'boring' life, and you don't need to become anyone. Your existence is more than enough already. Thank you 🙏💛
Dear Paola, I often think that you're wise beyond your years! Most people come to this very realization too late in life or when a serious illness strikes. From my experience as a nearly sixty year old small business owner and more importantly mother/grandmother, I can assure you that you're on the right path... for you. Thank you for sharing your experiences and wisdom so beautifully and artfully. All best wishes to you and your little family.
Your son will be so blessed to have you for his mother. A woman so gentle, thoughtful, careful, present, and wise.
And those of us who follow your channel are blessed by your honesty, and generosity in sharing yourself and your growth as you move so gracefully through the stages of your life.
This is such a precious and personal time for you, thank you for sharing so much with us.
Paola, in my opinion, I enjoy every video you bring to us . If you used a drone and filmed the landscape and just spoke your stories, caring advice, you would STILL have my attention. Your content is so calming and your like listening to a good true friend.
Keep pursuing what makes you, you. You are authentic and appreciated!
Another fellow being here who also agrees to this post 🥰
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Paola, you are a gorgeous HSP soul shining incredible light. I totally "get" you and I'm just a little further along the path~I had our 2 boys back to back 7+8 years ago. I recognize everything you speak to here and while I have experienced a great deal of heartbreak due to devastating and totally unexpected medical diagnoses for us in that era (and even heard some of the terribly rude sentiments I see in just maybe 2 of these thousands of comments), I seek to stay true. Stay magical. Love reigns. You are going to be a phenomenal mama for always~
May many many blessings come your way. You are a caring and kind human.
I'm currently struggling big time. I was living my life with the usual struggles but I had a good job, a home and what I thought was a happy marriage. It wasn't perfect but there was a lot of good. Then I was blindsided by my husband taking off with someone else, losing my "secure" government job, then I got sick and became clinically depressed. I don't have kids because the X didn't want them (but had them with someone else) so that didn't happen for me. It's been brutal to be honest so I am grateful for this channel as Paola you have shown me that we can be true to ourselves; that there are kind, sensitive people who are unique and true to themselves. Sometimes I wish we all lived in the same area so we could be surrounded by a like-minded community. I wish I could meet you all.
i’ll be 80 next month (can hardly believe it) and I’m finally feeling comfortable and happy with myself. You are very wise. thank you. I’m sharing your video.
Happy early birthday!🎂 🥳
You are a TRUE ANGEL !
When I stumbled upon your channel by accident a couple of years ago, your words, and your lifestyle made a BIG IMPACT on me…
I was a workaholic who did everything to please OTHERS…much as you feel now.
I wasn’t happy until I had …”the most… the best…the money”. But, it was YOUR words and lifestyle (when you were out living in your simple cottage) that struck a nerve with me.
You showed me that it is possible to be happy, really happy with less “things”. Your videos of your walks in solitude, taking in and enjoy Nature, showed me the way. They changed my life! BLESS YOU for being the person you are…
Maybe taking the time to go back and watch your earliest videos will do wonders for you?
Listen to your words… Live life for YOU, and not for others…BE YOURSELF… The Cottage Fairy who has touched so many people’s lives. Thank you from the bottom of my heart for showing me the path to true happiness.
May God watch over you and your family, and provide you with the inner peace and serene wellbeing that you certainly deserve…
how on earth could anyone think you're boring? you're extraordinary! we love you!
What is boring to one person is interesting to another.
I am a boring person also....because I am a very highly sensitive person. I am incredibly happy with my boring.
This video came at the perfect time in my life, so I thank you. When I first discovered your channel over a year ago, I was suffering terrible anxiety & depression. Starting my day watching a few of your videos really helped me get my head in a better place and I truly credit your channel with helping me climb out of the darkness. I’m in a much better place right now, so much so that I’m working on a business. I’m currently at a crossroads where I’m questioning whether to take on more, even though I’m starting to feel stressed. Thank you for this very timely video for me. Going to go walk in the woods and think about who I really am and what I want/need.
I think we forget that businesses can grow slowly over a long period of time. As current tasks become more familiar, we can add a small task next year if we want to. Quick growth can be disastrous. Slow growth can be solid and sustainable. I've recently made this decision for myself, and I am experiencing a lot of peace and authenticity.
Very smart!
I love this comment. Thank you
As a Self -employed artist for 20 years- I feel this on so many levels. I refuse to outsource and hire assistants- I cannot meet demand for the product I create- and I’m okay with that 🤷♀️im an empath -- i cannot create good art when stressed so yeah I’m serving less and charging them alot! The American business model- “make more money this quarter than you did last quarter” is broken.
I like how you crossed out the words after Self. Deeeeeeeeep!!!!!❤❤❤❤
Right on!! ❤
It’s so refreshing and comforting knowing that there is someone like you Paola, people in my life also tell me I’m strange, boring, weird, that I should get a job so I can help my husband save money. But deep down in my heart I feel satisfied with what I have. I don’t dream of living in a mansion, I don’t need a nice car. I yearn for simplicity in my life, quietness and slowness. My dreams may be laughable to some but to me that is MY dream. People seem to have an opinion about how you decide to live your life, I never tell anyone that they’re boring or weird for choosing how to live their life.
I can't put into words how MIUCH I needed to hear your words today. Ive always struggled with not being enough for someone or something ,be it a job, relationship,etc. Im turning 65 in a few months and the world will have to accept me for who I am and what I can accomplish in my own time. Thank you so much,youve made me very happy
Same here, I'm also in my 60s. I woke up thinking that I was too sensitive for this world and working so hard for so little reward is no life at all. I also needed to hear this as a reminder.
Me too at 73
“the world will have to accept me for who I am and what I can accomplish in my own time”
and if it chooses not to,I can't be bothered@@thehoehub
the other day a friend left me hanging for a lunch date (she's done this before) I inevitably get a long, breathy explanation of what happened, the husband this the kids that etc etc. Because I'm single and childless I'm expected to understand that lunch with a friend can't be a priority. I never expected to be a priority, but that I don't rate a phone call or quick text ahead of time is what really bothers me Ive ignored her last message with the "oh sooo sorry!"@@mortalandwild
Oh Paola, I totally get you. I've had friends think I'm not taking serious life decisions because I'm not setting glamorous life goals as them. What they forget is, I prioritize my mental wellbeing more than those big goals and making plenty money to travel the world. I love slow living and it's even more difficult to have this kind of mindset as an African living in Africa but I have done the inner work enough to be strong and confident with my life choices. Peace of mind is what I value and I don't hesitate to give myself that. Thank you for always sharing with us.❤
Wow! You follow Paola too. She’s a GEM!! Great seeing you here. Much love 👍😊
@@NickFinanceNaija Oh wow😂. Yes, she is🥰. Good to see you here too. Was binging watching your videos 2weeks ago😂
Where are you in Africa? I'd love to connect. I also left America to live the slow life in Ghana and Nigeria.
I became friends with Carl, founder of "The Slow Movement" a few years ago, and never looked back.
Isn't it funny how "you're slow" is an insult in America 😢😀
@@nauticdixons I live in Lagos, Nigeria. Oh nice. I trust you're enjoying your time here. Yeah sure, let's connect!
@holisticlivingwiththatdada9732 OH WOW! We live in Lagos as well (Apapa). We're currently in Ghana, though, until the end of April.
Where are you in Lagos? We should connect when we return.
I am 67 and I am just now realizing this very thing....I have cut back my "day job" as a florist to only a couple days a week. I continue with my Etsy shop and in person events but nothing at all like I use to do! I'm happy for you that you came to these terms when you are young! Thank you for this honest video! Blessings
Thank you for this. I work a day-job that is SO hard on me mentally (I work with k-12 American kids lol) and am a small business owner/ content creator. I used to push SO hard to be competitive in my industry and try to make as much money as possible and squeeze as much out of each day as possible... but then I developed Ulcerative Colitis.
It has turned my world upside down, and it has also forced me to slow down and question what's really important (and, sadly, possible) in life. I have felt so guilty about not having the energy or capacity to do more or be creative on demand. Hearing you talk about this is honestly really comforting, so thank you. 🖤
Wishing you and your family well on your new chapter. ✨️
And I don't know who needs to hear it, but please take care of yourself. "A healthy man wants a thousand things. A sick man only wants one." Your health matters. 🖤
Look at hypnotherapy to discover the root cause and the meaning it is really helpful
@@alisonhoyte7608 I already do this. Sadly, it has been unhelpful in preventing flares 😕
@@TheMagicCrafter keep doing the detective work it can take a few sessions to peel off the layers of the bodies pain
@alisonhoyte7608 I've been at it for a few months now. Sadly, I don't think this disease has a cure. And if it does, I think it would involve an extremely strict diet, controlled microbiome, zero environmental allergens in the system and a stress free environment. Hypnosis has helped with relaxation and a more positive outlook, but, to my knowledge, the studies don't back it as a cure, only prolonged remission in some cases. 😕
Your comment really resonates with me 💓 thanks for sharing
Paola, I always love your videos but I must say that this video is my favourite. You are almost like my soul sister, we are so similar. I am a highly sensitive person and I have also struggled with perfectionism and being a workaholic. As an elementary school teacher, I love my children so much and I have always put their needs above my own. After 7 years of slaving away as a teacher, my body finally reached its breaking point. I am currently on sick leave and I am enjoying time off away from work. It's crazy how being a teacher was such a huge part of my identity that when I finally stepped away from it, I could find time to explore who I truly was. I know that I am a daughter of Christ and that God loves me, regardless of my achievements or hard work. You talked about feeling unworthy in your video and I can definitely relate. I think the moment when I realized that God still loves me even in my brokenness and despite my imperfections, that is when I felt true peace in my heart. Thank you for baring your soul out in this video. I think it isn't easy being able to be so vulnerable to strangers on the Internet. It takes a lot of courage and inner strength. I pray that you would find peace and happiness as you live a life that is more frugal, more slow-paced and ultimately more satisfying to you. Sending you love and hugs ❤
You are a natural at film artistry - the timing, the moments you choose to show, the sequence you choose in which to show those moments, the soft piano, the natural sounds mixed in with the piano, your authentically transparent voice ... what you choose to film ... what you choose to say ... the way in which you say it ... the beauty of how your words fall together ... are all so healing. Your medium is the message and the message is the medium.
Thank you very much Paola for talking about this! You are speaking from the bottom of my heart! I've been going through some similar business adjustment in my life as well, and it took me 5 years of trying and doing until I finally understood that what these business experts and coaches were telling me are just unnatural for my personality. It's been 2 years now I've been running my business under my own terms and financially might not be as rewarding as it used to be but I only do dream projects - literally 100% of my projects are the ones I'd do for free if needed - and this brings more value in my life than $$$$$. And somehow the $$$ is always enough and I am never in a need of more. So gratitude and keep on following your true self because she is a wonderful real fairy!
This is so precious. I am 74 now and have done exactly what you speak of. Now I grow my own food and create most of the things I need. I can no longer be pressured to do anything that isn't in alignment with myself. I live very frugally but my life of full of beauty and love and satisfaction. I am more content each day. ❤
I totally understand this... I had people telling me I should sell, have a business with my att.. However I don't want to turn what I enjoy at a slow space into a "business". I like life to feel light.... Even if it means not having tons of material things. G-d bless you! Listen to your heart ...
Beautifully and wisely said Paola. I myself am a highly sensitve person and worked way beyond my boundaries for decades. Now I am very aware of my own regenerative process and prioretise and appreciate it deeply.
Thank you and go on fully being you 🌷
I saw my sister struggle with her pottery business too, versus doing what she wanted to do and becoming more and more unhappy. She ditched it in the end, in favour of making pottery for herself, her friends and family now, and not relying on it as a source of income. Peace of mind in a relaxed body are far more important for many people, in conjunction with wanting to be creative. Commerce and true creativity are seldom good bedfellows. So it's the best decision to cut right back in any direction you can and examine where you are going and what you hope to achieve. Excellent video!
That's why I decided I would never launch a hand crafting business. Bc I know that what I love as my hobby and joy would turn into my nightmare, my every day labor. Ppl will always tell me, "oh you should sell this!" Even this morning as I watch this, someone texted me about selling my art, but I know it's not right for me. And I could never truly put a price on each piece. So I give them as gifts knowing each one is one-of-a-kind, priceless, and was made with love.
Awe, thanks for opening up. We would be great friends😂😂😂 I have a small home town business from home. I bake and make skin oils and salves. The first year was so successful it shocked me. But I was baking every moment of every single day and then packaging until midnight. Like you said it turned into 24/7 work. In return I was exhausted, I didn't enjoy it like I used to as it used to relax me and didn't anymore, my mind was foggy, my body hurt, and the quality of my goods I felt went down. So the next year (which was 2023) I pulled back 95% and got a part time cozy job taking care of 1 year olds in a daycare. I feel so much better physically and mentally now even though I don't have a lot of business sales anymore and I lost a lot of people. Because now I can leave work at work, spend all my time with my family when we're together, have spiritual and mental time for myself, and I LOVE those babies and my coworkers really aren't even terrible😂 my quality of goods in my business went back up, I enjoy it again when i do create, and I can go back to be just intentional, slow paced, and boring. Thanks for this video. It's so comforting to see others out there who are content with just enough 😊
Wow I get you, after school was struggling to find a job and I started baking to pay for long distance learning at a University. In the beginning it was the perfect job because I loved baking but as time passed I lost the joy of being able to bake, decorate and do my own marketing and make sales.
I ended up being stressed, overworked, sleep deprived and physically sore because I had to stand all day..
I now do an office job which I totally love since I am working from home mostly but the best part is being able to see my pets during the day, water my plants during breaks and just take stand outside soaking up the sunlight and taking in the way birds talk to each other while trees are swaying in the breeze.
Blessings to you 🤗
You’ve got it totally right. The world’s definition of “success” is not true success at all. Money and “things” only end up getting in the way of true happiness. You are an inspiration!
Vanessa Lau recently shared her experience of why she quit a 7 figure business ... now promoting a lifestyle of "feel good, have fun, do less and make enough". You are both tremendous truth-tellers and inspirations.
You may have made mistakes - but you learned things many people twice your age have not learned yet. Consider yourself ahead. I raised a family, retired from 3 careers, became a grand mother of 7 - and am finally learning what you already learned. Take care of you, your son, your husband, and of course your lovely animals the rest will fall into place. Take care and enjoy.
I was told I am behaving as an old lady since I remember myself. My inner peace may irritate less introvert people, but this is who I am and I am very happy being myself
The reason I watch your channel is because you're not like all those out there doing it all and preaching productivity and hustling. I'm getting ready to have a baby like you are, and it has completely shifted my perspective on what's important and what I want from life. I've hustled and done it all and I've realised that's not the life for me either. Thank you so much for being so real and so you.
I feel you, I was living a high stressed life owning my own business for 28 yrs with a staff of 10-16 ppl and always have so much anxiety and never have enough time for myself or my family. I started to get physically sick and my mental health was suffering badly. I just sold my business and now I’m beginning to see the light. I meditate twice a day and that helps so much and keeping me grounded. I am going to focus on my health and living intentionally. I am grateful and had no regrets, I’m on a different path now and I’m so happy. I wish you all the very best, enjoy your channel.
I just wanted to say that this video appeared on my page during a time when I needed it. I am also at a cross roads in my life and I have been sacrificing my health and what I want for a longtime, because I didn't see any other way. I have been offered a management position in a corporate office, and while I know I can do it, I feel like I would be sacrificing my health and my happiness, and for what? All I crave is a simple life, and everything that you shared has resonated with me so deeply. Thank you for being brave enough to be vulnerable, you have truly inspired me. You are a beautiful human :)
I have a home, food, clothes, we can pay our bills, I have a loving husband, and I am fortunate. I don't hanker for a rich life. I am so fortunate, and feel so grateful.
When you respond to the call of simplicity, your life changes in amazing ways. The rat race out there is killing people. I did the corporate thing for years and I retired a little earlier than I had planned. I was exhausted and suffered from nerve pain. Two surgeries later, I'm feeling much better. I adopted a slow living life style and at 71, I am more happy and content than I ever had been. This is truly the happiest time of my life. God bless you. Don't be afraid of what you are facing. It will be wonderful.
This is why I keep coming back to your channel. You are just you. Your art has kept it's heart. You haven't sold it to the highest bidder. Thank you.
A focus on “creativity, love, and excitement”, “wholeness”, and being “gentle toward yourself” is a wonderful aim. 🙏🏻❤️
As someone who is also self-employed, I can totally relate to the “do more” drum beat. The good news is, we can each establish a rhythm for ourselves based on our own values.
Congrats on your baby boy on the way! 🎉 Being a parent is a wonderful treasure. You will be a great mom! 🙏🏻
Thank you for sharing!
I'm so glad you decided to make this video - I am in a similar space. Having spent so much of my youth chasing one goal, and then trying to live my ideal, I feel unsure now. It seems to me as though the world has changed around me and what i believed in once, is no longer true or relevant, and perhaps part of it was my own lack of wisdom, or even self awareness. It's even more saddening to be going through this now because i have always tried to be self aware and spent a lot of time and energy trying to understand why i do what I do and think how i think etc...I did identify as an HSP a while ago, and it was a huge relief to finally stop wondering why i was so sensitive, and trying not to be - to be "normal", not overthink, not be so sensitive, as people adviced me. Even so, life and our minds are moving targets, and constantly evolving. What we thought might work for us last year might seem irrelevant now. But I think that we have been cordoned off into societal squares and circles for so long, and it is important to challenge that status quo - we are a part of a process of human evolution, and the evolution of society. Hearing of your experience makes me feel a little less alone on my path of discovery, much as I hope that my comment will do the same for you, and others here who have gone through similar experiences. I hope that our investigations will lead to our children having even more autonomy and choice to be more sensitive, more gentle and choose slower and less consumptive lives in harmony with the planet.
I usually don't comment on your videos, but this one really resonated with me. We are enough! We've just been indoctrinated to believe we're not enough. We just have to find our own centers and determine what is enough for each of us and be okay with it. We were meant to enjoy our lives to the fullest, not to slave away at a job we don't like just to make more money. We are meant to create the life we want and live the life we love, and that should be enough.
I love how curious your cat is about your soap making! I absolutely love the soap molds and your beautiful attention to detail in packaging.
Faith, health, family, and good friends. That's enough for me!
Not need to explain anything to anyone. You are happy with little and more inspired by little things. It's okay. You inspire a lot of us. Thank you.
I truly love how your kitty is so completely enmeshed in everything you do and is a comforting soul❤
Thanks for your explaining! I started a small business this year and it was growing too fast. I stepped backwards, people don't understand, but my husband does! Your video expresses exact my feelings. God bless you
I’m so happy your husband supported you. That’s wonderful to hear. 🧡🥲
Thank you Paola this is so beautiful. I’m a children’s author and creative developer of 25 years and HSP and I completely relate! It struck me that you doing THIS is you doing ‘IT’ - the authentic alignment with you and authentic sharing which actually is your greatest gift to those you connect with. It’s wonderful for everyone to do what’s aligned with them and so so so wonderful for you to do what’s aligned with you as we get to share in that beauty, truth and your fierce, sensitive heart. Thank you 😊
What you say here resonates with many of us. I quit trying to fit in. I realize that I am a highly sensitive person whose health is affected by stress. I love my cats, bunnies, birds and aquarium fish. Learning to balance my enjoyment of them along with my Etsy shop business is a daily effort. Getting enough rest so as take a break from this world we are all in is so important. It is the little things that bring so much joy. Thank you so much for sharing your thoughts here. I can totally relate!!!❤
Its okay to be an introvert. Many people are. You be you, that is enough.
Those weren’t bad business decisions! Those were great decisions for YOUR business!! ❤❤
Sweet lady, you have opened my
mind and heart this morning. 🌸 I journaled this morning about the very things you’ve shared and felt I should express how grateful I am for your honesty and compassion. I’ve lived 66 years pleasing mostly others and now it’s time to just be me…and that’s enough. 🌸
I love hearing you talk about honoring yourself. Never feel like you're not enough or that you aren't doing enough. Stay true to your body and what it's telling you to do.
Oh, The baby bump is beautiful to see!!! ❤ I hope you are having an easy pregnancy so far. I know you will be an amazing mother. You have such a soft and nurturing personality! Thank you for this realistic take on being a solo business owner.
Oh my gracious dear! Thank you for posting this video. I'm 46, and have been living lime this for the past 2 years. My nervous system is calm, and I am happy walking my dog, playing video games, reading, yoga and gardening. It kinda wonderful.
I worked in traditional, corporate jobs for 30 years. Corporate employers don’t care about your physical, mental or emotional health. They just push for more sacrifice on your part. If you are lucky enough to be self employed, enjoy that freedom and listen to your mind, body and heart. It’s just not worth it to put those things second to a job. You pay for constant stress later in your life. Live within your limits and financial means. You’ll be happier in the long run. ❤
Often I don’t share much of my thoughts because I feel I am alone thinking/feeling that way (I enjoy so much time alone or with a close person / I cherish a balanced life that includes time to wonder, think and take care of my home/husband/myself) Thank you very much for having the courage to express yourself: it soothing and it helps me accept little more who I am;)
Everyone thinks you’re always supposed to be wanting to “10x” a business venture. This couldn’t be further from the truth. Do what is fulfilling for you🙏
As a super small scale self employed person who is also pregnant.. this was resonant and a sweet reminder, that "enough" is all I've ever wanted for me & my family. Enough holds so much space for abundance in time/energy to be with each other/ourselves! Thank you, I hope this message reaches everyone who needs it!
I AM RELATING 100%! 😭😭😭. This is the problem that I’m having with my businesses that I keep letting sit because I get overwhelmed and that causes my body to be in a constant sick mode. Ppl give me the same advice for my work and I reject it for the detrimental effects it causes to my mental health so I end up not doing anything. I want to live comfortably not work myself to the grave. 😞
Failure is not failure, its feed back. Life is a journey, everybody has to figure it out for themselves. Thanks for sharing cottage fairy!
What you said at 7:15 is so relatable to me! This mantra of always doing "more" and getting "better" and reaching "higher" is so harmful. People coming up to me and commenting/questioning on my life decisions has hurt me a lot during the past months. They imply that you are being "lazy" if you don´t work 45hrs a week, if you want a slow and peaceful life. Thank you so much for sharing these feelings and thoughts with us. It´s such a relief to see that there are other emotional souls, who experience similar things. Best wishes to the three of you!
I made the mistake of thinking success and happiness were associated with my job and how much I earned . A hard lesson to learn . Now I am very content being me . I love being boring and quiet . ❤❤❤❤❤
Contentment is a rarity these days but is a gift. A neighbor's huge house now sits empty, the husband passed away from high blood pressure and the wife passed away from cancer of the breast. I thought of the life of paying the monthly equity for their house, and the hard work that was put into it only to be left behind hence, I can totally relate and appreciate your outlook in life.
Have you thought about writing picture books for babies and kids? I now have two toddlers and read lots of picture books written long time ago, before I was born. I just think it’s so fascinating that something you created lasts for a long time. You will read for your kids and your kids will read them for your grandchildren… it’s not directly related to this video but I just wanted to tell you because this is something I’d love to do if I had a talent like you have. And you’re a strong person and you will be even more so after you have your baby. I have lots of respect for you. Hugs❤
I am so happy for you coming to this realization at such a young age.
I am 65 and I think you are on the right track.
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Thanks for this video, Paloma. I actually think you made some wonderful business decisions! Those who told you to do more and work more and hire staff were not correct; that kind of business is not for everyone! I am also an artist and while I crave a virtual assistant to do my marketing, I certainly would not want someone else making my art! Then it wouldn't be mine. It's SO important to be true to ourselves and to take care of our health; I'm glad you figured this out while you're still young. People have been trying to tell me what to do-usually "get a real job"- for most of my life, and that is not helpful. Nobody ever says "you need more customers" or anything else useful, they just suggest I be someone I'm not. NO thank you! I love that you made soaps dyed with plant materials; your molds are beautiful! Keep doing what you do and keep enjoying your life and taking care of yourself and your health. BTW I did not hear any random sounds from your kitty! What a beauty. Hugs!
I am so sick of the 9 to 5 retail job. I've wanted to quit because of the toxic work environment for so long now. All my friends talked me into continuing with the job and i did. Now my health is getting worse that i can't even do the 9 to 5 and I've firmly decided that I'm going to quit this month and do the things that bring me joy and are in alignment with who i am, not what people think i should be and doing.
Thank you for this. I needed to hear so much of this advice. I'm also an extremely sensitive person and the world can be rough when I try to be more "normal". This video has helped me make decisions about a few things going on in my life right now that have been stressing me out. Instead of beating myself up for not being tough enough to blow off the stress and anxiety, I realize I need to deal with and end those situations that aren't healthy for me and not worry about how it will look or sound to others. So glad I found this video today. Thank you so much.
To be sensitive in this world is a much compliment to you….never change who you are. ❣️
Thank you @@joannabruns529 😊
Such power and gentle sensitivity. A balance not easily managed. You're a truly magical being 💛
The real reason why I struggle and live in anxiety and fear of not making enough money is that the cost of basic living (having a roof, health insurance, food) seem to be increasing by the day. I am terrified to wake up one day, maybe being sick, and having to choose between healing myself versus keeping a roof over my head. It is disheartening...
The Internet is such a beautiful place...cause not me sitting on a rainy evening all the way in Nigeria and 110% relating to this video... thanks for sharing ❤❤❤
I think it's great you are staying authentic and being true to yourself and not pursuing turning your business into a huge business that could be very "successful" and profitable, in exchange for your own well being. Running a business like that clearly is not you and does not suit you. If I was doing what you're doing, I'd be the same way! That type of mentality would never fit me. I am so similar to you and also so sensitive. I personally believe there is really no need to expand your business to that extent and you are clearly have already had so much success with just being yourself ☺ and just because you "could" make these changes to expand your business into a huge business doesn't mean that you should or need to. I think what's most important is just doing what is in alignment with yourself even if on paper you are "less successful". You are the most successful when you are doing what is in alignment with yourself and what makes you feel happy, fulfilled, inspired and creative and forcing yourself to make these changes to your business clearly was not in alignment with that. So in my book that is not success if you find yourself constantly feeling miserable and stressed. So in my book these "bad decisions" you've made for your business were actually the right decisions to make. Like you said, having enough to live comfortably is what should matter and not over extending yourself to have "more success" just because society tells you you "should" do it. Your intuition and body was clearly trying to tell you that is not the right path for you. I also have always been content with having just enough to live comfortably and not caring to have anything more than that.
Dear Paola, thank you for your lovely presentation, your vulnerability, transparency and your faith. Also for sharing your introspective moments and meaningful revelations.
I’ve been following you for years as I have yet to find any content in which I 100% relate! You are such a HUGE inspiration!!
I’m an introverted HSP and watching you, while snuggling with my cat and nursing a cup of tea, feels like I’m having a special moment with a precious friend.
Rarely do I meet someone that understands…..when I feel overwhelmed by an extroverted, judgmental atmosphere, I turn on your channel and find the perfect connection that encourages me to be mindful, kind, and accepting of my misunderstood uniqueness.
Thank you for putting in the time and effort here. Glad you will continue as you are able. And you are right to follow your own heart and gut while being attuned to your own health! No matter what others try to push!
As a small business owner myself that is overwhelmed, you have spoken some spot on & important truths that I needed to hear and remind myself. Thank you!!
You will be missed as you transition into motherhood.
But, as an experienced parent, I shall say it is the most rewarding and fulfilling job!!
We will all be here when you find the time, cheering you on in your sweet mothering.
Be blessed and continue to be kind to your sweet self!
My darling, you are not a business. You already do tons in front of the camera, and if that ends you owe nothing to your "audience". I find that my life is so much slower than most. It is so important to know women who love life like you do, or at least know you must not be a fixer.
I am proud of you! Becoming ready for a baby is not a side job - and you are not a side job! Again, it takes time to be who you are, which is more vital than the concerns of folks who may have concerns or judge your life. I encourage you to be yourself and have your own path. Don't worry about how you look to those who are drawn to the fast/ambitious lifestyle (in my opinion not the tempo of the earth). I love you, and hope you will remove the word "mistakes" from your vocabulary. God bless your soulful adventure.
Dear Paola, I'm glad that you have such a deep understanding of yourself. It is also very beautiful that you are aware of your spiritual needs. There is one who understands you completely in all details. He sees your beauty and waits for you to draw close to him.
The dark side of “hustle culture” and its effects on women in particular is a topic that deserves much more attention. So many of us have had (and continue to have) our self worth tied into what we can produce- artists especially. But the artists job has always been to question the boundaries of what our culture and society is influencing us all to do- not to become slaves to a cultural norm that has damaging effects on the mind, body and soul.
Your video is incredible. Stepping back, focusing on your family and listening to your intuition is the ultimate investment in your future. People always talk about making money- but family and health are the ultimate wealth
You are speaking my language! After 20 years of undiagnosed, untreated Lyme disease, my adult life is exactly as you described. Any bit of stress is too much for my body to handle. I’m trying to figure out how to live slower, but it’s hard to change the course of your life when you have such limited energy. “Enough” is my daily practice; some days I’m better at it, some days I need to reengage. Keep going, Paula! “Enough” is a worthy goal!
My dear, you are far from boring! I absolutely love your outlook and resonate wholeheartedly with the way you seek to live your life ❤️
You can see all this in people's astrological natal charts, actually. Some people do thrive on hustle culture like Capricorns and Virgos, and others, with, for instance, more Cancer or Pisces in their charts are going to be more sensitive and need much more time to rest and recharge. This is because there are lessons in each life plan and your content really helps those of us who need to be more laid back and mellow. People who want to live simply and go easy on themselves are very needed in our culture right now. You're setting a fine example for how to be true to yourself for all of us.
The idea of NOT taking an expected route is rarely accepted. When I share your channel with people they often don't believe that you don't do sponsorships. To me, that sounds like pure success - the ability to make enough following your true values is amazing. I keep learning so many things from you Paola. You're a wonderful human being and I'm so, so thankful to this community on CZcams who supports you, because it is hard to be SEEN on social media when you go against "the business formula".
I think this the most beautiful and sincere video on yt I have ever seen ❤️ lots of love!