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  • questions and answers: 5 year relationship, dealing with regret, and why you won't see my baby
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Komentáře • 684

  • @TheCottageFairy
    @TheCottageFairy  Před 4 měsíci +495

    I’m sorry about the background noise and the constantly mischievous kitty! ❤ I can only imagine home life will be more disruptive in the future 😂 but I did my best. Sending much love and light.

    • @allrightallrightallright1919
      @allrightallrightallright1919 Před 4 měsíci +57

      A playful cat is always a delightful bonus and enhances any video. 🥰🐈

    • @WoodlandFaerie0610
      @WoodlandFaerie0610 Před 4 měsíci +12

      I’m sending love and light to you as well, Paola! ❤❤❤

    • @tanyajohnston8262
      @tanyajohnston8262 Před 4 měsíci +21

      I didn’t hear back ground noise and kitty is cute

    • @WoodlandFaerie0610
      @WoodlandFaerie0610 Před 4 měsíci +5

      @@tanyajohnston8262 I didn’t hear background noises either.

    • @catherineleslie-faye4302
      @catherineleslie-faye4302 Před 4 měsíci +4

      Blessings on you and your family. Working within your local environments needs is always for the best.

  • @rsmith4407
    @rsmith4407 Před 4 měsíci +1333

    Keep your baby away from the internet 100%. For as long as possible generally too! We should stop being so naive about the many many reasons why everyone should keep their lives private and their children’s image protected.

    • @mordie31
      @mordie31 Před 4 měsíci +32

      I misread this as "body" and still agreed. 🤣

    • @emd5095
      @emd5095 Před 4 měsíci +40

      I have raised 7 children over 33 years, my youngest is 10. I agree 💯 to keep your children off the internet as long as possible. Also, consider homeschooling seriously

    • @WisdomClarity
      @WisdomClarity Před 4 měsíci +17

      I think she can decide how she wants to live her own life. 😂

    • @penny6254
      @penny6254 Před 4 měsíci +20

      Yes, keeping your baby out of your videos is a very responsible choice.

    • @anna_m59
      @anna_m59 Před 4 měsíci +27

      @@WisdomClarityshe already decided , people only agreed ..

  • @mmd9976
    @mmd9976 Před 4 měsíci +451

    I respect you a lot for choosing not to show your child online. You are respecting your child and that is being a very good parent.

    • @kiara4345
      @kiara4345 Před 4 měsíci +2

      Protecting them from the Internet, 100%

  • @tekla5487
    @tekla5487 Před 4 měsíci +213

    Very good decision to keep your child away from the internet! Too many people don't realise how important that is!

    • @anette2050
      @anette2050 Před 4 měsíci +6

      Where I come from (Austria), people don't generally show their kids online at all, so to me, it seems very normal and is definitely a good decision!

    • @katiel1979
      @katiel1979 Před 3 měsíci +1

      Realize

  • @wendygaonach3908
    @wendygaonach3908 Před 4 měsíci +559

    I agree wholeheartedly with your decision to not put your child online. I used to sign papers each year for school to keep my son out of public photos. I think it's a safer idea as well.

    • @greatbigbeautifultomorrow113
      @greatbigbeautifultomorrow113 Před 4 měsíci +56

      That's a great decision. My son is over 2 and we have never posted a photo online of him. I don't agree with it. They can't tell you if they want to be exploited or not. Us as parents have to protect our children. I cringe when people post their labor and birth videos that baby is a second old and already strangers have seen them. We have to be the voice for the voiceless. You never know who is viewing your photos, what they can do with them, etc. It's not safe.

    • @Schweinehexe
      @Schweinehexe Před 4 měsíci

      @@greatbigbeautifultomorrow113it's very scary

    • @bethyoung4030
      @bethyoung4030 Před 4 měsíci +11

      I agree too. Yep I signed at school as well as at the YMCA that I didn’t want my kiddos photo shared.

    • @juliejackman2649
      @juliejackman2649 Před 4 měsíci

      I hope you show him once so we can see what he looks like. No one could take him after just one showing. 😊

    • @Sabouma28
      @Sabouma28 Před 4 měsíci

      she just said she will not show him... @@juliejackman2649

  • @user-ux8nr2ej9e
    @user-ux8nr2ej9e Před 4 měsíci +310

    When Luke looks at you I can tell how much he adores you .
    I'm glad you are keeping your sweet baby to yourself . Mamma instinct .❤

    • @Sally-nse2
      @Sally-nse2 Před 4 měsíci +4

      There is a lot told in a look ❤

  • @captainpharaoh
    @captainpharaoh Před 4 měsíci +118

    No need to explain why you're not putting your child online. As a parent, I completely understand and relate. You share enough of yourself with all of us and we're lucky to benefit from that. You deserve privacy, and I think your child will be lucky to have you two as parents.

  • @marianl3447
    @marianl3447 Před 4 měsíci +86

    I TOTALLY LOVE that you thought enough about your child to NOT put him on public view online. ..and you have the integrity to make you choice no matter how many people would expect and want to see him/her.

  • @KKinda808
    @KKinda808 Před 4 měsíci +141

    "Observe don't absorb." WOW!
    Never apologize for keeping your child safe. That's your job as a parent. Living life on line in whatever venue can be unsafe physically, metally, and emotionally for adults. Children should not be exposed, in my opinion. Thank you for this video.

  • @flytyer2728
    @flytyer2728 Před 4 měsíci +111

    In regard to navigating a relationship, especially between spouses, my friend's daughter came up with this great saying: "To disagree without being disagreeable."

  • @lisab9734
    @lisab9734 Před 3 měsíci +47

    I so appreciate that you don’t have ads during. I wouldn’t mind an ad at the beginning. But I’ve unfollowed so many people who put adds in between as it ruins the flow of some of the channels that are like yours. I come for comfort and calm. It would ruin the flow

    • @NicolesGardenNS
      @NicolesGardenNS Před 3 měsíci +5

      You should know that ‘we’ don’t place ads in the middle of our videos, youtube does it automatically.

    • @WhimsicalCrochet
      @WhimsicalCrochet Před 3 měsíci +2

      That’s mainly how they get paid tho… I personally have CZcams premium because I didn’t want to watch ads, but i still want the creators to get paid. Before I had premium I would watch ads all the way through, it’s the least we can do for those who put hours of filming and editing into their videos. Highly recommend premium if you don’t want to watch ads!

    • @basicallyno1722
      @basicallyno1722 Před 3 měsíci

      @nicolesgarden are you really pretending creators don’t have control over ads playing mid roll? If you don’t know this then you should dig into your settings.

  • @jillychandler
    @jillychandler Před 4 měsíci +113

    I was never blessed with children in my 18 year marriage - but I opened my own private nursery school for 3 to 5 year olds, and loved every minuet of it. I leaned so much from the wonderful children in my care. This was back in the 80s, and I always wonder how all the children that came to Woodpeckers Nursery School, in Rackenford, Devon, England, are doing now. I am sure we can all understand why you do not want to put your child online. Wow, you now have 1.5M subscribers, congratulations on that, and on the upcoming wonderful life you two will have, meeting your baby for the first time. Blessings and love, from Jilly & Madge the rescue greyhound, from West Devon, England. xxx

    • @ruthsdyspraxiacontent4018
      @ruthsdyspraxiacontent4018 Před 4 měsíci +3

      Ah, Devon, England! My home county :)
      Love a lot of things about living there

    • @jillychandler
      @jillychandler Před 4 měsíci +8

      @@ruthsdyspraxiacontent4018 Yes, I agree with you. I lived here for 18 years as a married person, then got divorced, moved to Oxford for about 4 years, but came back to Devon to live in 2006. xxx

    • @ruthsdyspraxiacontent4018
      @ruthsdyspraxiacontent4018 Před 4 měsíci +4

      @@jillychandler Yes, I like the idea of moving around too and have lived in Cambridge for 3 years which I loved and then Reading for a bit which I also enjoyed.. but Devon is unique and wild and is somewhere I'm proud to call home :) It's great that we're both watching Paula who is so far away! Take care x

    • @jillychandler
      @jillychandler Před 4 měsíci +1

      @@ruthsdyspraxiacontent4018 Yes, she is such a lovely person, both inside, and out - so beautiful in the true sense of the word. xxx

  • @WabiSabiStories
    @WabiSabiStories Před 4 měsíci +202

    That cat is absolutely adorable! 😍Such a cute and fluffy addition to an already great video!

    • @TheCottageFairy
      @TheCottageFairy  Před 4 měsíci +46

      She likes to keep things interesting 🤣

    • @safronthinks
      @safronthinks Před 4 měsíci +2

      😂😂

    • @Gwaycee
      @Gwaycee Před 4 měsíci +9

      The kitty and bunnies are the main reason I watch this channel. 🐈🐇🐇😊❤

    • @safronthinks
      @safronthinks Před 4 měsíci +2

      @@Gwaycee really...????

    • @Gwaycee
      @Gwaycee Před 4 měsíci +12

      @@safronthinks Really. I love little animals. Darcy, her rabbit, was the one who actually led me here, RIP. I have two kitties myself, a mommy goat, and some chicks. 🙂

  • @DancingNomadN
    @DancingNomadN Před 4 měsíci +135

    Paola, you and the background are like a piece of a painting we see in a museum, very beautiful. Several friends of mine from a bookclub started following your channel, too. Sending you lots of love from across the sea.

    • @MoonFlower52798
      @MoonFlower52798 Před 4 měsíci +2

      Yes! And I love that gorgeous lamp! It goes so well with her vibe!

    • @2Elkhounds
      @2Elkhounds Před 4 měsíci

      yes, you are right about that....screenshots!

    • @MadonnaGrogan
      @MadonnaGrogan Před 2 měsíci

      Like a Vermeer painting

  • @justjudy7320
    @justjudy7320 Před 4 měsíci +30

    ❤ couples are meant to be joined at the heart not at the hip❤

  • @michellepelkey51
    @michellepelkey51 Před 4 měsíci +98

    I adore your decision to protect your child. You’re already a wonderful momma bear.💙

  • @donnaj.1634
    @donnaj.1634 Před 4 měsíci +118

    I agree with no showing babies or children on the internet. Love your videos 💜🙏🏻🕊️💜

    • @WoodlandFaerie0610
      @WoodlandFaerie0610 Před 4 měsíci +5

      I have a CZcams Channel as well. When I have kids of my own one day, I don’t plan on showing them on the internet either. I respect and support Paola’s decision. 🧚🏽💙

    • @donnaj.1634
      @donnaj.1634 Před 4 měsíci +1

      @@WoodlandFaerie0610 I just subscribed to your CZcams. 😊

    • @WoodlandFaerie0610
      @WoodlandFaerie0610 Před 4 měsíci +1

      @@donnaj.1634 Really?! You didn’t have to do that. Thank you!

    • @donnaj.1634
      @donnaj.1634 Před 4 měsíci

      @@WoodlandFaerie0610 I t looks like a beautiful channel 😊

  • @Motherhubbard170
    @Motherhubbard170 Před 4 měsíci +28

    "you did the best you could at the time"
    There is tremendous healing to ourselves when we 'absorb' this truth, the one time it is beneficial, even if we have to hear it from another person.
    Those words healed me of unbearable guilt that I could not have lived with many years ago.

  • @ameliajasmin3688
    @ameliajasmin3688 Před 4 měsíci +74

    I completely respect your reasoning to keep your new baby off of the internet. I don't even share pictures of my child on social media anymore. You're absolutely correct, it can be damaging to have them on the internet for the world to see. We are all flies on the wall of your beautiful story. I will be happy with what you choose to share. Much love from the Oregon coast. ❤ ❤❤❤

  • @VinnieJo
    @VinnieJo Před 4 měsíci +51

    Thanks for sharing! I remember bringing my newborn home, sitting down in a chair with her thinking…now what do I do?!! Everyday will be an adventure, and somehow, you will figure it all out as parents! Agree with not sharing baby on social media. I love your videos. They are so calming for me.

  • @martineklaassenpepler5321
    @martineklaassenpepler5321 Před 4 měsíci +59

    Your personal choice not to share your precious baby is to me totally fine. Loved your video today ❤

  • @mdmcgee
    @mdmcgee Před 4 měsíci +92

    "I did the best I could with the information and resources I had at the time" is the healthiest mantra especially going into parenting. My second favorite is "This is temporary." Every time I struggled as a new parent I sought some sort of fix or technique to solve an issue with my little (from gas pains to sleep) only to realize later I simply just needed to comfort and wait for her to come through this growth spurt or physical maturity etc. There is so much information out there and people wanting to sell you workshops or "solutions" to perfectly normal childhood experiences that just require love and patience. I personally found all the information quite disconnecting from really getting to know my children and attuning to their unique needs. Information always changes and giving oneself grace and room to grow as a parent (even apart from that wealth of information) is so vital. ❤

    • @jwilliams2545
      @jwilliams2545 Před 4 měsíci

      @mdmcgee. Lovely comment as you are one of the 20% in America who has a family that isn't dysfunctional.
      A true fact: 80% of American families are dysfunctional. Want proof? Just read the comments on channels like this one! Sad but true.

    • @kaiju_k5042
      @kaiju_k5042 Před 4 měsíci +8

      I have a 3 year old son and this advice is GOLD

    • @mdmcgee
      @mdmcgee Před 4 měsíci +12

      @kaiju_k5042 little ones are so pure and genuine and NEW. I found that I needed to grow and change in the early years more than I needed to try to train or force my littles to fit into some sort of prescribed mold that would somehow magically make it all "easier." It simply is really hard for a while. You lose a lot of ease and comfort. But it does all come back with time and all the tremendous joys Paola talks about looking forward to makes it absolutely worth it. Its good to remember kids eventually burp on their own, go potty on their own, feed themselves, sleep through the night, etc. when you're exhausted and overwhelmed with these things in the moment. It's temporary. I've found some of the hardest things in life are absolutely the most worthwhile. ❤️

    • @kaiju_k5042
      @kaiju_k5042 Před 4 měsíci +1

      @@mdmcgee Making me tear up here

    • @user-bd8do9kn5e
      @user-bd8do9kn5e Před 4 měsíci +1

      Absolutely! Love and patience are the most important things in parenting... Unconditional love❤

  • @ManuelaChristina1
    @ManuelaChristina1 Před 4 měsíci +51

    I totally agree with your decision to not show your little one here online. Your cat is so cute 😊

    • @WoodlandFaerie0610
      @WoodlandFaerie0610 Před 4 měsíci +7

      I'm supportive as well. I would do the exact same thing if I was in her position.

  • @katem3961
    @katem3961 Před 4 měsíci +16

    I was just so pleased but not surprised about your decision not to put your baby on your channel. Like you said, a hand or foot but not their little face, etc. You are totally entitled to your privacy despite being on YT. I really admire your choice to protect your childs privacy too. Thank you for sharing your thoughts and feelings. Such a beautiful video 💛🧡🤎

  • @christymason8253
    @christymason8253 Před 4 měsíci +45

    I believe "observe, don't absorb" will become my new mantra. Such wisdom from such a young person! I feel blessed to see these videos from an old soul. Each video presents something new for me to contemplate. Love the "icing on top" that your kitty, bunny, and puppy provide! 💜💜💜

    • @tedpreston4155
      @tedpreston4155 Před 4 měsíci +3

      That has become a mantra of sorts for me as well.
      I wasn't surprised to hear Paola use that expression in the same breath as she praised the effect of meditation on her life. One of the most common forms of meditation encourages us to be aware of the thoughts that intrude on our consciousness when we're trying to focus our awareness on something else.
      We can learn so much by examining the sort of thoughts that our minds pester us with, without judging ourselves over having produced those thoughts. That sort of observation is invaluable for understanding how our minds work, subconsciously, and how often our repetitive thoughts represent emotions that are not "honest": they too often represent feelings and judgements that are not based solidly in reality. Observing those thoughts teaches us that we should not absorb them. Many of our thoughts simply don't serve us well, and we are happier in the end if we recognize this unhelpful tendency of our our minds.
      I too appreciate Paola's wisdom. I wish that someone had taught me these lessons when I was her age.

  • @ktsls82
    @ktsls82 Před 4 měsíci +26

    I think you are so wise to keep your baby private. I started watching vlogs many years ago when daily vlogging first started. Three families featured their children. I watched those kids turn from normal children to performers for the camera. They became self conscious and were always thinking about how they should act. It really is not a healthy situation. I applaud you!

  • @gracemccoy2874
    @gracemccoy2874 Před 4 měsíci +21

    Mavi! What a ham 🥰
    Ive spent the last 3 yrs of my life rewiring my brain. Doing yoga, meditating and learning as I age (im about 20ish yrs older than you 😉) that i need to get rid of negative thoughts and energy in my life. Life is short and when you look back and think of the time you spent thinking negatively or beating yourself up over stuff in your brain it truly is wasted time. Time you will never get back. You are letting those negative thoughts win and they dont deserve that prize! Absolutely not!
    Enjoy the lives we have been gifted and dont waste time on negativity, its never prosperous. 💕

  • @SandySass
    @SandySass Před 4 měsíci +17

    I adore these little sit-downs, it feels like having a conversation with a friend. ❤

  • @BobRoyAce77
    @BobRoyAce77 Před 4 měsíci +25

    One of the greatest treasures of raising my sons, and homeschooling them, was recapturing the wonder of life. It is so easy to lose that wonder, as adults. The way that the children repeatedly marvel at the new, and especially beautiful, things that they encounter, is truly infectious!

  • @unikreations2258
    @unikreations2258 Před 4 měsíci +13

    “Observe and don’t absorb” is such great advice. It really helped me deal with my current unstable emotional ride. Thank you and stay wonderful and beautiful.

  • @lisab9734
    @lisab9734 Před 4 měsíci +32

    Completely agree not showing the bubba. I had a blog for years- my boys were only ever shown from the back and I didn’t use their names either or share things like school etc

  • @MS-bs8dd
    @MS-bs8dd Před 4 měsíci +7

    The silent You-Luke part. The way he is self contained is everything for us empaths ❤

  • @sunflowersoul8461
    @sunflowersoul8461 Před 4 měsíci +13

    Every time I watch these videos, I get so emotional for some reason. I think it’s because the world we live in, is so fast and chaotic that seeing someone else thrive at a pace that is more natural and grounding is so humbling. We were not meant to work ourselves into the ground. Thank you so much for sharing your story. My bf and I are really struggling with communicating right now about what we each need/want. The codependent part of me, wants to just agree without setting boundaries, bc that always feels safer.

  • @lindafrazier8799
    @lindafrazier8799 Před 4 měsíci +17

    Glad your fur babies are in your videos. Understand about your baby. Glad you are well!

  • @morrigans_cottage
    @morrigans_cottage Před 4 měsíci +17

    I think it’s really healthy to keep your baby offline, you just never know! Also just wanted to say your videos are shot so beautifully I love watching them

  • @bryonmacpherson1470
    @bryonmacpherson1470 Před 4 měsíci +26

    I always wonder what your next video will be about. What a wonderful chat with the Cottage Fairy! Thank you Paola. Well wishes to you and Luke on your journey to parenthood. Congratulations on 1.5M subscribers!

  • @TheNaturalMtDew
    @TheNaturalMtDew Před 3 měsíci +7

    I love and respect your choice not to show your baby on your channel. It's important to protect your children. :) Really enjoyed hearing you answer questions while working away on your sampler. It was like drinking tea and chatting with a friend. 💕

  • @jennyc1846
    @jennyc1846 Před 4 měsíci +32

    The question " why did you decide to become a mother"? ....what a very private and personal question to ask a stranger, to ask anyone in fact... all the best to you and Luke Paola for the safe arrival of your first child Im sure he/she will grow up much loved in your wonderful family❤

    • @Uapa500
      @Uapa500 Před 4 měsíci +6

      Same goes for "Why won't you become a mother?".
      They are indeed private questions.

    • @denisebell3435
      @denisebell3435 Před 4 měsíci +3

      jenny c of course this girl is on the internet exposing her inner thoughts and life why not ask her that question .. she is always complaining about being tired, sick this and that normal that she does not sound healthy. so why not ask her. kids are not bunnies or cats or dogs they are human

    • @jennyc1846
      @jennyc1846 Před 4 měsíci

      ​@@denisebell3435 Actually Denise I haven't visited this and many other sites for a while because I got sick of the depressing' whoa is me attitude' on many of them. I have more than once suggested to Paola that she should enjoy the life she has and to stop looking back on all of her past misery (a lot of folk have baggage but they don't bring it up at every opportunity). Told her to stop dwelling on the negatives. There are enough young people out there these days who seem to thrive on this negativity. They need to toughen up!! Seems to me Paola has an awesome family, fantastic husband and extended family, lives in a beautiful part of the world in a lovely home built for her by her hubby and FIL she should have nothing to be miserable about...and she is expecting a baby. She works in a book shop not a sweat shop life is pretty cushy I imagine. That said, yes she puts herself out there on the net but she also deserves the privacy to not talk about some things if she chooses. None of us would like our private personal lives out there for all to see, just because they use FB, Twitter and god knows what else...I hate social media!! Have a great day and cheers from Western Australia

    • @denisebell3435
      @denisebell3435 Před 4 měsíci +2

      @@mmecharlotte yes i agree wholeheartly .. now a days one wants children for benefits only not really knowing that you come last and your children come first. so i respect girls that think twice before bringing in chiidren to this world because i just want a child ... . they grow nuts after birth and take it out on the child or partner.

  • @melodysnyder5278
    @melodysnyder5278 Před 4 měsíci +7

    It makes me so happy that you will not be exploiting your baby on this outlet. So many influencers do. A child 16 and under cannot consent or have the ability to consent to dangerous predators and AI. I hope that the laws that are about to go into place will help all these children to be safe from such predators. Have a blessed day.

  • @Kathiewinkle
    @Kathiewinkle Před 4 měsíci +11

    Glad you learned all these important lessons about abuse when you are young. Your platform is very important to hopefully spare many from abuse and hopefully the individual is able to feel worthy of love and attract a gentle soul…!

  • @aglowinthedarkunicornsilly5943
    @aglowinthedarkunicornsilly5943 Před 4 měsíci +4

    I almost cried when you began describing why you want to be a mother. I am a crybaby but it reminded me so much of how much my mom took care of me; and was really a steward for my growth. I still look up to her so much everyday because being her daughter is a gift 😭

  • @yvonnebirch6026
    @yvonnebirch6026 Před 4 měsíci +11

    I love how you view little children as magical developing little humans discovering the world. Your child is going to have lovely parents !
    This was a such a cosy video. Thank you ! 🙏💕🌷

  • @ljshaw8516
    @ljshaw8516 Před 4 měsíci +21

    Amen to you for giving respect to your little one. I would expect no less from the Wonderful Cottage Fairy. Rest, refresh and relax. You are growing the miracle of life. x's, lj

  • @johndej
    @johndej Před 4 měsíci +5

    Your comments about working with children sparked some thoughts for me. As a retired elementary teacher, I've had the joy of knowing many of my kids as children and as adults. This has been the greatest reward I could have ever asked for. Regarding your baby, you've made the best choice possible. Even though people would love to 'be involved', no one has the right to do that without your permission. Thank you for another wonderful video. I wish you good health and lots of rest!

  • @roseyherber
    @roseyherber Před 4 měsíci +15

    I was so hoping we wouldn't see your baby, as much as I love looking at adorable little bubs, I just don't think it's healthy in so many different ways. Great choice 🩷

  • @lilsheba1
    @lilsheba1 Před 4 měsíci +5

    I miss these days sometimes, especially with my oldest child. That girl is now 34 years old...and the time went by so FAST!!! It can seem hard at times but in the end the time just flies by.

  • @seasonallifestyle
    @seasonallifestyle Před 4 měsíci +25

    Congratulations on your baby! Such a blessing and a beautiful journey ! ❤❤❤

  • @sableeve5796
    @sableeve5796 Před 4 měsíci +14

    Your setting is so calming and soothing

    • @tedpreston4155
      @tedpreston4155 Před 4 měsíci

      That's one of my favorite parts of Paola's channel! Happily, it runs in her blood: her brother's channel is equally soothing!
      It even extends to her fans. I can't think of another channel where reading the comments is as uplifting as the videos! 🙂

  • @roserosa8276
    @roserosa8276 Před 4 měsíci +11

    I had to rewatch the video about three times and probably will watch it again. You look fabulously beautiful and the music, gorgeous back light and the view is pleasant to see. The cat stole my heart so playful in it’s little world.
    I am delighted to hear about your life story and experiences the happy and sad moments and that’s life for all of us.
    I adore your work and wish you always the best in life. 🌸 🌼🌻🍄🪺

  • @wolfman3295
    @wolfman3295 Před 4 měsíci +8

    Dear Paola, you are such a Cottage Fairy gem and Luke is your perfect gem partner. Your relationship advice is so wonderful too. I love that you need to protect the privacy of your soon to be baby. Your videos have helped so many of your subscribers too. Thank you so much for all of your sharing.

  • @DistinctiveThinking
    @DistinctiveThinking Před 4 měsíci +14

    I agree with your choice for your child. I have found it rather sad when a new baby or child is constantly exposed to a camera in their personal space. I am of the opinion this is really unhealthy. There is nothing wrong with taking pictures or filming family with moderation. But these days it seems a camera, iPhone, TV is what so many parents put in front of their little ones to pacify. ❤

  • @ayidas
    @ayidas Před 4 měsíci +19

    You are radiating confidence and assertiveness, Paola! Loved this video ❄️

    • @TheCottageFairy
      @TheCottageFairy  Před 4 měsíci +6

      Thank you! Took several years to get there 😅 I’m trying and I appreciate your kind words

  • @-living4jesus4ever-
    @-living4jesus4ever- Před 4 měsíci +6

    My heart changed from being so afraid to become a mom & thinking I didn’t want to be a mom to desiring 4 babies and they are the JOY of my LIFE!! I had absolutely no idea what it would be like to love and be loved as their mommy and it truly does make life more magical, rewarding and meaningful! 🩷🩷🩵🩵

  • @pianokeysandcraniotomies3365
    @pianokeysandcraniotomies3365 Před 3 měsíci +1

    Becoming a mother has been the best thing I’ve ever done. Wishing your little family well.

  • @ABJK-ds4wq
    @ABJK-ds4wq Před 4 měsíci +11

    Feeling safe and respected, well put. I’m going through something with a family member and this hit close to home. Thank you 🧡🧡🧡

  • @andreamayne3509
    @andreamayne3509 Před 4 měsíci +10

    Everyone of us must do what feels right to them so as to have no worries or regrets. I am sure your baby will be beautiful and I look forward to your stories of motherhood and all the fun moments that brings.

  • @indigo_diary
    @indigo_diary Před 3 měsíci +4

    For the privacy and safety of your child, I am glad to hear you won't be sharing their face online

  • @andypandy-qz5om
    @andypandy-qz5om Před 4 měsíci +5

    I'm so glad you won't be showing your little one on the internet.
    I knew you'd have the maturity and wisdom to guard your child's privacy.
    Wishing you and your family good health.

  • @SassySue67
    @SassySue67 Před 4 měsíci +6

    Totally agree with your decision to keep your child off the internet. Your videos are always an inspiration to me.

  • @msherie943
    @msherie943 Před 4 měsíci +11

    Paola, your video was delightful……as always! Sending love from the Midwest. You are such a beautiful inspiration. ❤️🌸

  • @lianeabeyta4515
    @lianeabeyta4515 Před 3 měsíci +2

    As a 70 something grandma... I have always felt fascinated by little humans. I grew up with all girls in my home. Dad was mostly working so it was me, my Mom, a little sister and an older sister. We were close as there was only 2 years between each of us. But since I was surrounded by girls... I found boys the most interesting, I envied people with brothers. I thought that must be so wonderful. So I had a son , who is now 51, and he gave me 3 grandsons!!!! They are now 29, 19 and 3 years old!!!! I got all my boys and found their growing from babies to young men, to fathers the most fascinating journey ever! My favorite artist is also Beatrix Potter and I loved Tasha Tudor. I love the textiles on your chair and lap blanket. The colors and patterns are soft and beautiful.

  • @trippin414
    @trippin414 Před 4 měsíci +15

    The intro of the video, those objeçts are one of a kind... ❤ Beautiful!

  • @user-wc2xd5yb6m
    @user-wc2xd5yb6m Před 4 měsíci

    I love 💓 how humble you are. You are a sweetheart of a person

  • @philomenaward1833
    @philomenaward1833 Před 4 měsíci

    Love your sharing and watching you work ,it is as always inspiring in a most gentle way. Thankyou.

  • @katzolitamason6729
    @katzolitamason6729 Před 4 měsíci +1

    I absolutely love you and your channel- it brings me such peace - you and your embroidery 🧵

  • @peopleplacesandperspective5564

    So comforting and wise, kind woman you are. Thank you for making your videos. Many blessings to you and your family too.

  • @marimacovei387
    @marimacovei387 Před 4 měsíci +3

    Keeping your life as private as possible, especially when it comes to children, it is a great decision. ❤

  • @KristenMcNamara
    @KristenMcNamara Před 4 měsíci

    Sending love your way Paola, you’re such a gift to this world thank you for sharing your light with us. ❤

  • @marymcrae3773
    @marymcrae3773 Před 4 měsíci

    I really enjoy your videos, they are so calming and peaceful. Thank you for showing up, doing your best, and being so up front about your boundaries. Best wishes to you and yours.

  • @patbrougham9929
    @patbrougham9929 Před 4 měsíci

    Thank you for sharing yourself with us, dear person.

  • @Hannah-FleursDeMontagne
    @Hannah-FleursDeMontagne Před 4 měsíci

    I love this sit down, cozy, chatty video- it was like visiting a friend 😊 Thank you for sharing your advice and personal life, sending love to you and your family ❤

  • @creativelady7
    @creativelady7 Před 4 měsíci +9

    Nice little chat and love the cat and needlework atmosphere! Glad you are well resting quietly today.🐈‍⬛🧵🪡♥

  • @sharrywilloughby-hb7ow
    @sharrywilloughby-hb7ow Před 4 měsíci

    You are not boring. You are a blessing. 🎉❤

  • @user-vx7yx1pg1v
    @user-vx7yx1pg1v Před 4 měsíci

    I so much apreciate this cozy chat! I learnt a lot about the process I am going through as well and how to be patient with myself. Thank you for gifting us quality time and chats like this one! have a lovely week.

  • @PegAMurphy
    @PegAMurphy Před 4 měsíci

    sending blessings of love & light to you and your family 💖 I'm glad you are going to be keeping the little one off the internet and happy anniversary 💖

  • @threemusketeers4109
    @threemusketeers4109 Před 4 měsíci

    You seem so content and really have found your authentic self. So happy for you! Many blessings! 💛🌼🌱🌻

  • @peggymurphy6747
    @peggymurphy6747 Před 4 měsíci

    Thank you for your wisdom and grace. So glad you mentioned your spiritual journey.

  • @conniegregory5547
    @conniegregory5547 Před 4 měsíci

    I love your videos and have been following you for a long time. I'm so happy for you...your husband and the baby coming. And I love your very pleasant, uplifting demeanor. You always make me feel happy and peaceful. Thank you for all that you do!

  • @karenhoward1843
    @karenhoward1843 Před 4 měsíci

    Thank you for your honesty. So appreciate you.

  • @keegantimber8571
    @keegantimber8571 Před 4 měsíci

    On the contrary Paola! You are most definitely not boring as you stated. You are an inspiration!

  • @julesswales1535
    @julesswales1535 Před 4 měsíci

    Fab video. One of my favorites in a while. Thank you 🙏❤️

  • @debbiewoodruff2791
    @debbiewoodruff2791 Před 4 měsíci

    I would not think of you as boring at all! Such great prospective and wisdom you have! Your kitty is so fun to watch! Blessings to you!

  • @andreakennedy3623
    @andreakennedy3623 Před 3 měsíci

    I so appreciate how articulate you are and how you are so in touch with what you think about things and that you are accepting of yourself. You teach me with every one of your posts. Thank you.

  • @missaest712
    @missaest712 Před 4 měsíci

    Thank you so much for sharing! It felt so lovely and cozy to sit with you and listen to your stories. So many beautiful, encouraging bits of wisdom. And I loved Mavi's sudden appearance on the table 😸

  • @anxiouscutie
    @anxiouscutie Před 4 měsíci

    Hi Paola, I deeply appreciate your videos. You have inspired me and helped me deal with my own anxiety and self doubt. You have a beautiful family and I wish you much love and wonder in this ever changing world ❤

  • @kagging.9782
    @kagging.9782 Před 4 měsíci +12

    You are soooo soothing! Love your videos, thank you!

  • @user-ut3us2vm8y
    @user-ut3us2vm8y Před 4 měsíci +4

    Thank you for sharing. Well said. May your family continue to flourish in all that you do. I’m so happy for you and yours. Also, you are such a blessing to me. Thank you so much from the bottom of my heart. Sending love and hugs. ❤🤗

  • @lindafisher8441
    @lindafisher8441 Před 4 měsíci

    Nice seeing you, peaceful and calm!

  • @lilyotv9767
    @lilyotv9767 Před 4 měsíci

    I've enjoyed all your YT posts. This is one of my favorites - thank you for sharing a snippet of you & your hubby together. I'm going to try a little embroidery after many years - I used to really like it too. Best wishes for the new year!

  • @Lyoungministries
    @Lyoungministries Před 4 měsíci +1

    I love all your insights and your ability to communicate them to us in a way that makes us stop and think. By the way, congratulations on your 1.5 million subscribers.🎉

  • @cindybrown8480
    @cindybrown8480 Před 4 měsíci

    I found your channel just a month ago and have enjoyed watching each and every post, learning about you and from you. Enjoying EVERYTHING about you and the way you live. We have several things in common as far as the whimsical way of our very soul. I love your channel and can't wait to watch future videos and live vicariously through you. Enjoy your lil life growing inside you every moment of every day for it doesn't last nearly long enough. Much love. Looking forward to your next post.

  • @JanTrewhitt
    @JanTrewhitt Před 4 měsíci +2

    A very heartfelt video. Thank youfor being so honest about your life so far. Blessings.

  • @yvonnebirch6026
    @yvonnebirch6026 Před 4 měsíci +2

    You are never ever boring Paola ! I enjoy listening to your insights and thoughts on spiritual values ! You are a wise young woman. 💕🌷

  • @rachelschappacher1100
    @rachelschappacher1100 Před 4 měsíci +2

    As I sit here waiting for one of my little humans to come out of school, I am watching your video. I started to feel like a beautiful artwork had come to life...the setting, your outfit, and the rhythm of the embroidery thread was so serene. Thank you for the chat today. ☺

  • @sbai4319
    @sbai4319 Před 4 měsíci +5

    Congratulations on your new arrival! A true blessing! Share what you want, keep the rest and live well!

  • @kimberlyholt2241
    @kimberlyholt2241 Před 4 měsíci +7

    Whatever you choose, everyone should respect, although it is exciting and lovely to admire and watch kiddos grow! I know he'll be intrigued and raised loving nature as his mommy! 🦋🌻🌾🌿🍀🍃🍂🍁

  • @donnarakitzis2719
    @donnarakitzis2719 Před 4 měsíci

    Thank you for sharing your thoughts on marriage and relationships as you navigate yours. I agree you have to feel safe and respected.

  • @sharleecheyenne
    @sharleecheyenne Před 4 měsíci +28

    Ms. Paola, I don't know if you'll see this, but I've just got to tell you how much you've helped me. I started watching your videos in May of 2023, and I had just come out of the most turbulent relationship I'd ever been in. Hearing your thoughts on anxiety, respectful relationships, and kind inner dialog helped me so much in my journey of healing. I've been anxious all my life, and your videos have been like little therapy sessions for me. I always have to pause your videos every few minutes because you say something so profound that I just have to stop and think about it. I pray for you and your family to be blessed by God, and I just thank you so much for being who you are and helping me recover. You have brought much whimsy and comfort into my life, and I'm forever thankful for that. Sending my love ❤🍃🧚‍♀️

    • @humblygrateful
      @humblygrateful Před 4 měsíci +1

      I started following her too during a turbulent time in my life: 20 yr marriage ended. I want to have her life and someday to be in a successful relationship that is a stress free, supportive partnership.

    • @sharleecheyenne
      @sharleecheyenne Před 4 měsíci +1

      @@humblygrateful prayers for your happiness!❤️🙏❤️

  • @miknosilanooram
    @miknosilanooram Před 4 měsíci +1

    This is such an inspiring, thoughtful video. I would like to strive to think like you do. You are very articulate and you hit on so many points I was just talking to my granddaughter about last nite concerning her new found relationship. In fact she thinks like you do. Thank you!

  • @christinekim5417
    @christinekim5417 Před 4 měsíci

    This video heals me a lot. Thank you.