Polyamory: Everything You Need to Know But Were Too Afraid to Ask ft. Yaz The Human

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  • čas přidán 2. 07. 2024
  • Get ready to explore the captivating world of polyamory with our guest, Yaz The Human. Yaz candidly discusses the challenges of managing multiple relationships, including coping with jealousy and establishing healthy boundaries and agreements. Yaz's experience serves as a valuable lesson for anyone interested in exploring non-traditional relationship dynamics.
    This episode is a must-listen for all the cuties seeking to understand polyamory and its intricacies, or anyone who's ever felt like the traditional model of monogamy just doesn't quite fit them. Yaz's story is a testament to the power of individual agency, and a reminder that love and relationships can take many different forms.
    So buckle up and prepare for an eye-opening and thought-provoking conversation on polyamory - we guarantee you'll come away with a new perspective.
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    00:00 Who is Yaz?
    00:57 How they came into polyamory
    03:54 Starting a threesome
    06:30 How to prepare for a threesome
    08:40 Navigating polyamory in a monogamous society
    10:19 coming out... and then you keep coming out
    12:49 Relationship structures within ethical non-monogamy
    13:55 Polyamory defined
    14:07 Polyamory vs. Open relationship
    14:48 Open vs. Closed polyamory
    15:30 Hierarchical vs. non-hierarchical polyamory
    19:49 Relationship anarchy
    20:20 Relationship Escalator
    21:36 Solo Polyamory
    28:47 Polyamory in practice
    31:14 How to meet other polyamorous people
    38:00 Dealing with jealousy
    44:06 scheduling everyone in
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Komentáře • 213

  • @ouchthathurt.6659
    @ouchthathurt.6659 Před rokem +240

    I think this is super common with autistic people, like myself, due to how we don’t see or understand social hierarchies. I like how she said her best friend is as important as her romantic partner. Her friend saw it as a step down, because our society teaches that there’s a hierarchy to all these labels. She did not see it as a step down, she has the capacity to love everyone equally without social hierarchy so they fundamentally don’t look at relationships the same way, but they’re obviously attracted to each other. In a monogamous relationship this would be a hard hurdle to get past but for them it’s probably easier accept each other as they are, because they can get any unmet needs met with their other partners.

    • @crimsonhawk4912
      @crimsonhawk4912 Před 8 měsíci +7

      I'm learning hierarchy works in work and in war. Not with love. Love is a circle. War is a pyramid.

    • @eminemilly
      @eminemilly Před 7 měsíci +2

      ​@@crimsonhawk4912don't you have to put kids first though and therefore the other person raising the kid ?

    • @wilsilhavy2030
      @wilsilhavy2030 Před 4 měsíci +1

      ​@@eminemilly not really how it works because this is being applied specifically to romantic or sexual relationships; your relationship to your kids should be treated differently, and you don't necessarily need to put that partner first to put the kid first.

    • @MsSexyDiva4Lyfe
      @MsSexyDiva4Lyfe Před 4 měsíci

      Wow, perfectly said!

  • @Sagatiaej
    @Sagatiaej Před rokem +201

    I’m polyamorous and demisexual. Many asexual people are polyamorous. Open relationships and swinging is about sex. Polyamorous is about love and relationships and they are not all one and the same.

    • @QueerCollective
      @QueerCollective  Před rokem +41

      Beautifully said! I think a lot of people have this false perception of what polyamory is and we couldn’t be happier that Yaz was willing to share so much 💕

    • @flyingface
      @flyingface Před 3 měsíci +1

      all these rigid typologies are not very queer at all. you're putting everything into rigid boxes, creating new status quos. you'll be the future heteronormative

  • @declanreiser236
    @declanreiser236 Před rokem +102

    For me, on the prioritization / energy question near the end I think one of my favorite things about polyamory is that it ADDS loads of energy into the relationships going on. I'm an asexual guy, and for me fulfilling every single need of my partner is not neccacarily what I'm after, do I have the energy to cook dinner, feed the pets, cuddle, talk about feelings, and have amazing sex.... Uh no lmao. Now, I can and have been the "everything person" for my partner, done all of that, but the issue is that as an ace guy cooking and feelings come very naturally and easily to me in terms of energy I can give, and sex can be great but it's pretty draining. When my partner is down with someone that wants to have sex, i really don't have a negative feeling of jelousy and it doesn't "take more energy" to manage. Its actually bringing in that person's energy to the relationship. People ask if I'm really okay with them having sex, or things like that and it's like, bro to me that's like asking if I'm sure I'm okay with someone doing all my dishes and cleaning my house. I'm not saying I hate sex with my partner, but I am saying sex is work (effort might be a better word) every part of a relationship is to an extent and it's a type of effort that tires me out faster than other sides of the relationship. So without that side of the relationship being on my shoulders alone I can flourish in the areas that are more me. I can bring more energy than ever before to communication, to gestures of care etc etc. I think if you're worried about polyamory spreading you too thin, pause and remember that every new partner is their own entire person. If you're meeting positive people, that care about you, care about themselves, have needs they love fulfilling, have needs you fulfill... You're adding these huge sources of energy to your field of relationships, not spreading your limited energy thinner and thinner.

    • @QueerCollective
      @QueerCollective  Před rokem +14

      Wow what a great perspective! Thank you for sharing your view and experience with it. I hadn’t thought about it that way but it makes total sense! 💕

    • @Misceisgay
      @Misceisgay Před 9 měsíci +4

      Oml exactly love this comment

    • @clarabrunetivila5071
      @clarabrunetivila5071 Před 6 měsíci

      Thank you for this! I'll try to reshape my view on energy spending and remembering that energy can also be replenished. Resources cycle!

    • @Amitabha108
      @Amitabha108 Před 5 měsíci +4

      Yes! Exactly this. And... when you are doing what you love, expending effort/energy on what you're passionate about, it actually feeds you and nourishes your soul. Having a partner, or partners, that support you in that, just amplifies the joy. That has been my experience.

    • @declanreiser236
      @declanreiser236 Před 5 měsíci +1

      @@Amitabha108 That's a really sweet way of putting it : )) Who doesn't want more time and space to nerd out or work on the stuff they love (Or relationships they love !!)

  • @foreverteenful
    @foreverteenful Před rokem +77

    First time watching one of your videos and I am shocked this channel has not reached 1M subscribers. Loved this episode, you all have soothing voices, beautiful personalities , intimacy and the questions asked were allowing for great communication. Yaz you explained everything so well. I loved how you explained jealously and how someone can sit back and reflect instead of shutting down.

    • @QueerCollective
      @QueerCollective  Před rokem +6

      Thank you so much, we really appreciate your comment! Hope you keep following along, there’s lots more to come ❤.

  • @evcatco339
    @evcatco339 Před rokem +24

    They really got to the point about the whole jealousy thing, it hit the spot

  • @777.underscore
    @777.underscore Před rokem +55

    As a young queer person finding this podcast has been huge for opening doors and knocking down stigmatised barriers for me.Thank you so much and keep going!!

    • @QueerCollective
      @QueerCollective  Před rokem +7

      So glad to hear it! We'll be back next week with a new episode

    • @lordtyrus1
      @lordtyrus1 Před 10 měsíci

      there is a reason for the stigma

    • @Misceisgay
      @Misceisgay Před 9 měsíci +1

      ​@@lordtyrus1what do you mean ?

    • @lunarphase1
      @lunarphase1 Před měsícem

      ​@@lordtyrus1❤

  • @skylerperkins7119
    @skylerperkins7119 Před rokem +34

    First time watching, I was looking for poly representation/discussion which is almost non-existent!!! Thank u guys for being there in between the hatred that floods poly social media.

    • @QueerCollective
      @QueerCollective  Před rokem +8

      Thank you so much for watching! This was such a great topic to explore and we hope to provide more poly content in the future 💗

    • @AU-qi1sb
      @AU-qi1sb Před 5 měsíci

      couldn‘t agree more :,)

  • @kaylabutcher3565
    @kaylabutcher3565 Před 11 měsíci +18

    Oh! I just realized solo polyamory is me 👍

    • @Misceisgay
      @Misceisgay Před 9 měsíci +2

      That's so cool !! I love how polyam can lead to super interesting contrasts between people since everyone experiences polyamory in z different wzay.
      Personally I know it's not my thing (I like nesting and would like to get married just for fun) but I like to see some diversity and representation for solo polyam people as well.
      Good luck for the rest

  • @heath6802
    @heath6802 Před 10 měsíci +15

    Recently just got a boyfriend, girlfriend, and partner so this was pretty insightful since I don’t know any polyamorous people irl. I did have a harmful experience with relationship anarchy with girls I was with(?) as a teenager. It seems like the dream for boys as described by Hollywood, but it was not a good experience, very little consent, lots of overstepping boundaries, and getting overtaken because I was the youngest and hardly knew what I was doing or feeling due to my age. Like 13 or so? They all being 14-17.
    I’m willing to give this another go, in a different more structured format, with an actual understanding of what I’m doing. So thank you for this!
    ... gonna be hard to have a girlfriend again, but she’s really cool and understanding of me and my boundaries

    • @QueerCollective
      @QueerCollective  Před 10 měsíci +4

      Sorry you experienced these pains in the past. I’m really glad you have someone now who is understanding and patient. With any relationship, but especially polyamorous ones, communication is key! I wish you all the happiness with your new relationships 💕

    • @kaylaassatta923
      @kaylaassatta923 Před 6 měsíci +1

      Lovely, I wish you the best!

  • @GeminiPlatypus
    @GeminiPlatypus Před 11 měsíci +37

    As an autistic introvert, I'm earnestly curious to engage in this community, however I often feel locked out by default due to my quiet and people-pleasing nature. How does one make themselves and their relationship boundaries known to potential partners without over-sharing to others in a way that feels emotionally safe?

    • @sanja7744
      @sanja7744 Před 10 měsíci +13

      hey there, I hope this comes helpful but you can try for starters looking in the direction of people similar to you, either for having autism and/or being introverted. I think online communities are great for those (maybe following some insta pages, looking for communities on discord etc.)
      As for communicating, be open about your traits and if you have some difficulties in expressing yourself (for example if you are non verbal (especially around vulnerable topics like these)) you can write your boundaries on the piece of paper, or make a letter to share it with potential partner. As for simply starting the convo around this topic, each time you meet someone new, after some time of getting to know them, if you come into territory of speaking about deeper topics, you can simply ask them "What is your opinion on polyamory?". If that feels too direct, you can always ease your way into it before asking, like saying "Hey can I ask you a question" and then maybe mentioning that you watched a piece of media that discussed the idea of polyamory and that you were curious to what their views are on this topic.
      I hope this is helpful, it's pretty random but it's what helped me when I was new :) If it's not, just ignore this comment!
      I hope you have fun exploring your feelings

    • @screamingminnow920
      @screamingminnow920 Před 7 měsíci +1

      i looooooove doing my partners laundry. simple way i please some of my own people pleasing nature

    • @jolienwillowtree2248
      @jolienwillowtree2248 Před 6 dny

      I just want to say, I love I'm not the only autistic person who is open for things like this. People often think we are a sexual, they couldn't be farther from the truth 😊

  • @jjcake93
    @jjcake93 Před rokem +20

    thank you so much for this episode! i'm also polyamorous, in a closed polyamorous relationship. it is always so nice to hear what people 'from the polyamorous community' (dunno how to say it better sorry!) have to say, there is so few ressources about it or at least it's not so accessible. plss continueee

    • @QueerCollective
      @QueerCollective  Před rokem +5

      We’re so glad to hear you enjoyed! We’re already chatting with Yaz about the next collab ❤

  • @fortminorproject
    @fortminorproject Před 9 měsíci +10

    Love the podcast I realized I was always Polyamrous and didn't have a word for that either . Now I am wanting to explore things more the right and respectful way . Having friends who are Polyamrous has given me more hope and motivation. Right now I am definitely wanting something healthy.

    • @QueerCollective
      @QueerCollective  Před 9 měsíci +2

      Yay! We love that for you. Thank you for watching 💕

  • @clb8645
    @clb8645 Před rokem +30

    40:18 That's not jealousy. Jealousy is the fear of losing something that belongs to you. You were feeling envy, the desire to have what someone else has.

    • @QueerCollective
      @QueerCollective  Před rokem +12

      Great correction, thanks for watching ❤ we really hope you enjoyed the episode.

    • @clb8645
      @clb8645 Před rokem +9

      @@QueerCollective I did! As a fellow polyamorous enby, I really appreciated how informed Yaz was about our shared relationship style and how positively they presented it, and I appreciated how insightful both of your questions were!

    • @sparklefairy34
      @sparklefairy34 Před rokem

      Do you mean a fear of losing someone that you want all their time to yourself? No one belongs to you. You can’t have ownership of someone.

    • @solsystem1342
      @solsystem1342 Před rokem +3

      ​@@sparklefairy34that's why they said "something" not "someone"

    • @Lucyorangejuicy
      @Lucyorangejuicy Před 11 měsíci

      ​@@sparklefairy34And even if the comment was in reference to a person that belongs to you, we all know what they would had meant ~

  • @addy8511
    @addy8511 Před 8 měsíci +3

    I would like to express gratitude to you all for sharing this discussion. I’d especially like to thank Yaz for what I view as thorough an explanation as possible on a fairly new and truly complex topic. Yaz, you are a very impressive human being, and your capacity to explain this as well as you did is remarkable. As an educator and extremely curious person, I felt compelled to look into these relationship philosophies as I came across the terms in dating apps. I found that many people using the terms were unable to explain what they meant as the terms applied to themselves. Consistent understanding of the terminology is critically important in understanding the great deal of intellectual horsepower and confidence I think would be required to navigate the many issues attendant to these types of relationships.
    Though I have some reservations about the long-term viability of the described relationships for “most” people, I do believe that for some it is possible (if not absolutely necessary) to explore the various options described here. As a lifelong monogamous man to each of my partners, now a widower, Yaz’s compellingly honest explanation of the problems of jealousy and envy, and Yaz’s suggestion to look inward, seems right on target. I intend to do just that. Thank you so much for this dialogue.

  • @Nainara
    @Nainara Před 8 měsíci +4

    you know what, ive been living on this planet for roughly 30 years and on a level i didnt think exists this opened my eyes. so many good points, so many points i agree on and identify myself with, without even knowing that this is something im actually not alone with or about. great podcast, absolutely stunning people talking reality. thank u so much

  • @PackOfWolves928
    @PackOfWolves928 Před 8 měsíci +5

    I feel like i've been conditioned all my life to be monogamous until my current partner. We're finally dabbling in the ideas and concepts of poly lifestyles and this video was WONDERFULLY informative. Thank you all!

  • @rogerepennjr7972
    @rogerepennjr7972 Před rokem +4

    I love you guys sooooo much for this!!! So much I've been trying to say is bout to finally be communicated with my favorite people!!! I've felt maxed out hopeless but now just gonna hook them up with this link and hope for the best of responses. Regardless, I feel like either way, freedom to move forward is happening! THANX A MILL.

    • @QueerCollective
      @QueerCollective  Před rokem +2

      🥲💗 thank you so much for your comment it really made our day! We’re so glad this episode helped, I hope you keep following along 💗💋

  • @austinwinstead6543
    @austinwinstead6543 Před 7 měsíci +1

    I’m so grateful for everything yall shared. Thank you so much. ❤

  • @kevindunklee6346
    @kevindunklee6346 Před rokem +4

    Thanks so much for this video. In particular I gained from your perspective on jealousy as a tool for learning about myself 😊

    • @QueerCollective
      @QueerCollective  Před rokem +3

      So glad you liked it and learned! We learned lots for ourselves from this episode 💕

  • @andreadybvik
    @andreadybvik Před 7 měsíci +1

    What a super interesting conversation to receive! Got me to reflect and question so many aspects of how I relate and approach myself and others. Thank you! 🧡

  • @AJluvsJoe
    @AJluvsJoe Před rokem +6

    Super informative!. Thanks so much for this content.

  • @Gurabiteshion
    @Gurabiteshion Před rokem +3

    Omg I only got as far as the primer and the fist bump but I am SO EXCITED for this episode

    • @QueerCollective
      @QueerCollective  Před rokem +3

      Excited to hear your thoughts! This is a good one ☺️

  • @amarylily
    @amarylily Před 6 měsíci +1

    Loved this!!! There really isn’t enough easily assessable content about polyamory and this was so so important and informative for so many!! Thank you all for your work!!

  • @dreamerdoes_is_love8986
    @dreamerdoes_is_love8986 Před 2 měsíci +1

    this video is so inspiring i literally don't feel like i've met someone irl or seen some one online quite even who thinks like me on these topics even within the polyamourous community ( at least that ive found granted iv been a bit of a hermit the past few years but still) where they consider themselves a non hierarchical polyamourous person or even relationship anarachist ( but i don't use that as much cause less people know what it means) and that they are literally in between on so many things, and they also don't fully understand how people can rank people hierarchically and be healthy about it ( cause every time i did in a romantic/sexual relationship there were extreme issues with the relationship that i feel would have been not entirely solved but a lot of that way by the relationships being non hierarchical polyamorous/ relationship anarchist

    • @QueerCollective
      @QueerCollective  Před 2 měsíci

      Thank you so much for your perspective! These topics can be quite tricky to figure out when it comes to multiple romantic relationships but that’s why we have these conversations! Happy it could provide some positive outlook 💕

  • @clarabrunetivila5071
    @clarabrunetivila5071 Před 6 měsíci +1

    Solo polyamorous here! Thank you so much for the talk, friends 🙏🏼

  • @angelexcalibur9308
    @angelexcalibur9308 Před rokem +3

    Thanks for making this vid! There isn’t many vids out there rn on the subject.

    • @QueerCollective
      @QueerCollective  Před 11 měsíci +2

      So glad it was helpful! Thanks for watching 💕

  • @kendallb5263
    @kendallb5263 Před 5 měsíci

    this is so good. and everyone on this podcast has impeccable hair

  • @Kaltag2278
    @Kaltag2278 Před 11 měsíci +4

    I'm married but not currently nesting. There's some kind of barrier in my brain that makes nesting equal exclusivity. Working on it 💪🏽

  • @paulharper6835
    @paulharper6835 Před 2 měsíci

    Incredible grateful and happy about discovering this podcast. Thank you for this 💛

  • @taylorbug9
    @taylorbug9 Před 11 měsíci +4

    23:40 when I was single and seeing different people, I didn't call it dating. Even though I'd "go on dates" or hang out with them for reasons other than sex, I never called it dating.

  • @tajjie_taj
    @tajjie_taj Před 6 měsíci +1

    5 mins in, This is my new fav podcast. I've already decided.

  • @dontit1
    @dontit1 Před 4 měsíci

    Stranger here.. I'm in 😂❤ Great podcast folks, love it!

    • @QueerCollective
      @QueerCollective  Před 4 měsíci

      aha so glad! hope you checkout more of our episodes. xo

  • @jolienwillowtree2248
    @jolienwillowtree2248 Před 6 dny

    Yes, my husband is my best friend to. I wouldn't want it any different.

  • @celeste5331
    @celeste5331 Před 10 měsíci +3

    Beautiful conversation❤

  • @leegibson6123
    @leegibson6123 Před 7 měsíci +1

    Hi.
    I really like your video.
    I tried asking polyamorous people about their lives before but they thought I was arguing with them when I was being curious.
    I wondered if you would consider doing a follow up video about why people would feel different ways about different types of relationships and get perspectives from a number of polyamorous and monogamous people to work out why they have different opinions, like a scientific survey.
    I've been interested in this for the last year after having a relationship with someone who wasn't completely honest about it.
    If you wouldn't be interested in something like that I like your video anyway and I'm interested in seeing your other videos.

  • @neutechgamingextras
    @neutechgamingextras Před 6 dny

    Amazing content, i wish i knew a safe space to meet like minded people & talk more about this kind of topics. If anyone knows let me know

  • @DaoNguyen-vp7ki
    @DaoNguyen-vp7ki Před 2 měsíci

    i found the definition of solo polyamory aligned with how i want to relate to others

  • @ArchKomposer
    @ArchKomposer Před 10 měsíci +1

    Is a D/s relationship super hierarchical?

  • @storsolo
    @storsolo Před 6 měsíci

    the youtube algorythm recommended this video to me.
    Loved this video

    • @QueerCollective
      @QueerCollective  Před 5 měsíci

      Thanks for watching! More poly content to come 💕

  • @tevinscott8931
    @tevinscott8931 Před rokem +8

    Thanks for educating me with your experiences! it's given me and my partners quite a lot to talk about.

  • @ebbyboo2010
    @ebbyboo2010 Před 11 měsíci +1

    do any experienced poly people have reccommendations for polyamorous dating apps?

  • @Papa.Palpatine69
    @Papa.Palpatine69 Před 9 dny

    27:50-28:30 Happened to me. I was in what i thought was a polyamors relationship. the problems arose when she was dating 1 other person besides myself but any time i met someone i was interested in (Happened Twice) she would always "Veto it" And Stop me Taking it any further. She was super controling and basically wanted it where she could date as many people as she wanted but i was only alowed to date her

  • @_Cloudevil_
    @_Cloudevil_ Před 10 měsíci

    This it was really interestin.I'm ambiamorous and I always dre of having two gf's but where I live is complicated tbh.

  • @adventuresontherock
    @adventuresontherock Před 7 měsíci

    Now lets get Pat on the podcast! I’d love to see his perspective

  • @dollcatherinefamilycraft3378
    @dollcatherinefamilycraft3378 Před 11 měsíci +2

    Just here to find my poly partner 😊

  • @septimaserpent
    @septimaserpent Před 9 měsíci

    I Lowkey Highkey Am In Adoration/Fixation/Entrancement With Them.😫🖤❤️‍🔥🥹

  • @BrendaL.Dominguez
    @BrendaL.Dominguez Před 11 měsíci

    😮 i understand a little bit 🙃. 😅 🙂 😄 🙃

  • @jamiecheung_
    @jamiecheung_ Před 10 měsíci +3

    such a good episode, you are the coolest humans

  • @soccercool13
    @soccercool13 Před 10 měsíci +2

    This podcast is so good and all of y’all are so hott 🥰

  • @nzingaadu7380
    @nzingaadu7380 Před rokem +1

    Her voice is soothing

  • @dreamerdoes_is_love8986
    @dreamerdoes_is_love8986 Před 2 měsíci

    actually anarchism and anarchists =/= anarchy , and actual anarchism is about creating a society based on the idea of having no hierarchies of power within the society, while some anarchists have blown shit up and said fuck the rules, being an anarchist or believing in the philosophies and potential of anarchism re not soley about blowing shit up and some people myself included do not even believe blowing shit up for the most part is an efficient or generally helpful way to the change the world if anarchism is our goal... it's more about building community and community resistance and resilience and rejuvination and rebirth, which can involve blowing shit up but definitely doesn't have to , and that i believe is what the term relationship anarchism /anarchist is based off of, not which it seems like they were equating it to soley the concept of anarchy. which i'll restate anarchy=/= anarchists or anarchism, there can be some over lap as anarchy could be seen as a necessary step towards anarchism but they are not the same thing, and anarchism isn't entirely against rules, the principles just state that everyone makes the rules not some hierarchical person or structure at top, there are not tops (lol pun intended) unless all parties consent

  • @greyrock9747
    @greyrock9747 Před 7 měsíci +6

    Uggg calling hierarchical poly not ethical is so problematic. There is nothing unethical about prioritizing partners that you share kids with, or prioritizing a person you have a long established relationship over somebody you have new relationship energy with but have not known long enough to know well. If you got a call from your best friend saying they are in jail at 3 am, you go bail them out no questions. If somebody you've been dating for 3 months is calling you at 3am you don't treat those situations the same way. It's not hierarchy. It's prioritization. Those of us with trauma need to vet people. Domestic violence survivors often need to prioritize safe people. Primary often means I know this person is safe. Secondary might mean, I know this person is married to somebody and has kids and so we can't have equal relationships. Veto power is also very rare. I've never met another poly person with that situation. I'm poly, nonbinary, and queer and was excited to hear it, but this podcast is so invalidating.

    • @Marcianademarte
      @Marcianademarte Před 5 měsíci +2

      Except they pretty much instantly said that it can work ethically for some people but that dynamic can easily become problematic because of the nature of controlling other people, they discuss it a little bit more around the 25 min mark, did you stopped listening after that sentence?

    • @Marcianademarte
      @Marcianademarte Před 5 měsíci +1

      Like obviously relationships dynamics are very complex and certain situation will require different things and they are aware of that, not everything is for everyone, thats why they are giving different definitions of different relationship structures, for THEM hierarchy doesnt work, you do whatever you want.

  • @taliac825
    @taliac825 Před rokem +8

    this is so awesome!!!! it was really helpful and fascinating (i’m polycurious) so i really appreciate you doing this episode 🫶✨

    • @QueerCollective
      @QueerCollective  Před rokem +3

      Yay I’m so glad! Honestly this conversation opened up our minds as well so we’re glad we could provide it for others 💕

  • @jonimiller1954
    @jonimiller1954 Před 8 měsíci

    Great vid but spoilt by mics being too close with popping etc. Sorry, been in film & TV too long as a pro. Content is fantastic and has answered many questions.....Joni.

    • @QueerCollective
      @QueerCollective  Před 8 měsíci

      Fair! We’ll keep the mics further away moving forward

  • @Npc2thousand
    @Npc2thousand Před 11 měsíci +1

    I love queers!

  • @valerierose817
    @valerierose817 Před 3 měsíci

    I’ve never seen friends either 23:30

  • @kmd0z
    @kmd0z Před 2 měsíci

    how can one be both non-BI-nary and BI-sexual?

    • @QueerCollective
      @QueerCollective  Před 2 měsíci +1

      It depends how you define bisexual. Some people see it as having a physical attraction to men and women, still fitting into the gender binary. Others define it as being attracted to 2 or more genders (non-specific to the gender binary). I hope that helps!

  • @Juhanhill
    @Juhanhill Před měsícem

    No. Broken 304

  • @burnttoast1076
    @burnttoast1076 Před 5 měsíci

    If you aren’t having children or sharing finances then yeah no labels or limitations really matter

  • @Hero-up8hv
    @Hero-up8hv Před 9 měsíci +1

    she really said that with a straight face😂

  • @janereynolds2401
    @janereynolds2401 Před 7 měsíci +2

    Non binary and bisexual?? How

    • @Hispana012
      @Hispana012 Před 6 měsíci +1

      One is a gender identity and the other is a sexual orientation

    • @Hispana012
      @Hispana012 Před 6 měsíci +1

      Bisexual also is defined by being attracted to more than one gender. Not necessarily within the binary of just male and female! Education and awareness are great things to obtain ❤️

    • @halcyon6098
      @halcyon6098 Před 2 měsíci

      ​@@Hispana012 she's stupid. Got it. Thanx..

  • @tajjie_taj
    @tajjie_taj Před 6 měsíci

    Solo Poly Gang

  • @asafoetidajones8181
    @asafoetidajones8181 Před 25 dny

    Yeah three people can live in my house and we'll all play D&D twice a week. That's it though no freaky shit

  • @carolynwilcoxon7012
    @carolynwilcoxon7012 Před rokem

    😊❤🎉

  • @Dtchmastrkilla7
    @Dtchmastrkilla7 Před měsícem

    Some people seem to just need a hobby

  • @sebastiannazarevscky3496
    @sebastiannazarevscky3496 Před 10 měsíci +2

    talking about every possible scenario and how we'd feel about it, so nobody gets emotionally hurt. yeah, that sounds very romantic and spontaneous. it doesn't make it sound at all like hiring a hooker. if the solution to failed monogamy and failing marriages is polygamy, then, by that logic, if you're struggling to get a college degree and failing, then the solution is to apply for 2 or 3 bachelor's degrees. that'll solve everything.

    • @QueerCollective
      @QueerCollective  Před 10 měsíci +8

      Communication is key to any relationship, but especially in non-monogamous relationships. If you don’t communicate you set yourself up for failure. No one can read each other’s minds. If you’re not communicating you’re failing

  • @yaasikasa17
    @yaasikasa17 Před 8 měsíci

    Body count = 3 X 3 X 3 X 3

  • @wasphitler5078
    @wasphitler5078 Před 10 měsíci

    Guys just go after lesbians

  • @RollingOnFire
    @RollingOnFire Před 6 měsíci +1

    How do you guys flirt with queer women though? It's like a whole other thing than flirting with men 😅

    • @QueerCollective
      @QueerCollective  Před 5 měsíci

      Great question! New podcast topic unlocked. Stay tuned 💕

  • @mrsherwood2599
    @mrsherwood2599 Před 2 měsíci

    Might i suggest a hobby to all you folks? Stamp collecting? Therapy?

  • @wondon2856
    @wondon2856 Před měsícem

    Father God In Jesus name forgive them for they do not know what they are doing.
    For those that are here to corrupt beings, may you get your potion now. Love of God brings light but not so for the wicked. Their ways lead to their own destruction.

    • @QueerCollective
      @QueerCollective  Před měsícem

      No one knows what they’re doing. We’re apes floating in space

  • @honeydew1754
    @honeydew1754 Před 2 měsíci

    The males on here are salty

  • @ultravioletpisces3666
    @ultravioletpisces3666 Před rokem +3

    Sex is bad and sacred. Lol

  • @taylorbug9
    @taylorbug9 Před 11 měsíci +9

    There is *NOTHING* unethical about having a hierarchy.

  • @DevonPhoenix
    @DevonPhoenix Před 9 měsíci +2

    No. No interest in any of that. I'm too good for anyone. So go away.

  • @okwaleedpoetry
    @okwaleedpoetry Před rokem +3

    “Polyamory isn’t about only sex” commences to speak about sex for the next 4 hours

    • @QueerCollective
      @QueerCollective  Před rokem +7

      I guess you didn’t listen to the podcast…

    • @okwaleedpoetry
      @okwaleedpoetry Před rokem +2

      @@QueerCollective I did. I was just joking because in the intro you guys talked about how it wasn't about sex and then jumped right into threesomes... I do find it to be a problem these days where poly people or even just LGBTQA, in general, seem very hyper sexual...at least in the dating world

    • @QueerCollective
      @QueerCollective  Před rokem +7

      Ahhhhhhh I see. We did throw that in the intro as a clip we thought was funny and interesting but don’t bring it up again until much later in the video when we have our own question of curiosity. You’re totally right, polyamory isn’t all about sex but it is certainly a part of it so naturally we had some questions about it. There’s certainly a whole lot more to discuss when it comes to non-monogamy that we could dive into and we hope to be able to do more episodes like these that go deeper into the conversation. Thanks for listening and giving input. Appreciate it

    • @okwaleedpoetry
      @okwaleedpoetry Před rokem +2

      @@QueerCollective Appreciate you guys for being honest open and unafraid. keep going !!

  • @aaronvaughn2671
    @aaronvaughn2671 Před rokem +3

    Doesn’t work

    • @QueerCollective
      @QueerCollective  Před rokem +5

      What doesn’t?

    • @aaronvaughn2671
      @aaronvaughn2671 Před rokem +1

      @@QueerCollective polyamory

    • @QueerCollective
      @QueerCollective  Před rokem +9

      I’ve seen lots of people make it work. I don’t get where your comment is coming from?

    • @aaronvaughn2671
      @aaronvaughn2671 Před rokem +4

      @@QueerCollective not long term. Coming from my iPhone

    • @QueerCollective
      @QueerCollective  Před rokem +8

      Again, I’ve seen it work long term. Still don’t know where you’re getting this info from

  • @matthewcanfield6748
    @matthewcanfield6748 Před rokem +3

    some busted jaunts here

  • @RobPtak
    @RobPtak Před 4 měsíci +2

    Came across this video and accident. It seems like you’re all very self-absorbed.

  • @juanlevin2994
    @juanlevin2994 Před rokem +4

    THESE PEOPLE WANT TO TAKE PART IN A POLYGAMOUS RELATIONSHIP WHICH IS NOT ACCEPTED OUR ACTUAL SOCIETY AND I MUST TELL YOU THAT AN ENORMOUS QUANTITY OF PEOPLE ARE ESCAPING THESE TYPE OF RELATIONSHIP BECAUSE IT IS TOO TOXIC....

  • @Octaviamorris77
    @Octaviamorris77 Před 10 dny

    This is really pathetic and sad not hip

  • @ovigada
    @ovigada Před 3 měsíci

    She's lucky to be alive. Those encounters can easily turn deadly.

  • @user-uw9xm2pi6q
    @user-uw9xm2pi6q Před 9 měsíci +2

    deep cringe.... regurgitating ideas we've all heard repeatedly on social media over the past few years

    • @QueerCollective
      @QueerCollective  Před 9 měsíci +6

      you do realize that everyone has a different algorithm and there's tons of people who have never heard this information right?

    • @user-uw9xm2pi6q
      @user-uw9xm2pi6q Před 6 měsíci +1

      @@QueerCollective as if any of these ideas are intellectually novel. Not to mention, your presentation of them is served without even an iota of independent thought. Groupthink is gonna keep you from self actualizing, homedawg.

  • @Dangansona
    @Dangansona Před 2 měsíci

    This was so depressing to listen to.... why in the world was I suggested this.
    I didn't even click on this... what in the world just happened.

  • @MsSexyDiva4Lyfe
    @MsSexyDiva4Lyfe Před 4 měsíci

    Awww. I loved this As a black person, we dont talk about relationships unless it’s a man and woman. I’ve dabbled with swinging and I’m taking it to the grave 😂😂😂😂

    • @QueerCollective
      @QueerCollective  Před 4 měsíci +1

      So interesting! All the different intersections of your identity make for such a unique experience that isn’t always talked about. Sending love 💕

  • @edferguson8991
    @edferguson8991 Před měsícem

    Bit boring..

  • @Invisibility397
    @Invisibility397 Před rokem +4

    I get extremely pissed when i watch anything on this subject. This is the best way to find the road to Hell due to the direct soul connection and the transfer of demons that others have not been able to fight. So enjoy your journey and know that you will not like your afterlife enslaved to a demon that you chose to feed by your own freewill behavors. You're welcome for the information on how you are your own worst enemy and you only hurt yourself in the end.

    • @QueerCollective
      @QueerCollective  Před rokem +12

      Who are you to judge?

    • @Invisibility397
      @Invisibility397 Před rokem

      @@QueerCollective I do not judge anyone I simply share my wisdom with others so they may be better informed. For instance every great civilization in recorded history has been destroyed by Hedonism. Sodom and Gomorrah, Ancient Egypt, Ancient Greeks, The Holy Roman Empire. Population Collapse is actually beginning to happen all over the world. & America is beginning to experience this as well. Don't worry with women waiting until it's far to late or 35+ to start a family, when do you believe that a Self Induced Extinction Event will occur in the Human Species? I'm good with solitude alone and celibate until my final moment alive. I have already accepted that I will not have any children so don't worry about me because honestly I will not worry about anything that anyone chose to create with their own Freewill choices and behaviors that has resulted in consequences and the best outcome possible is for women to celebrate killing unborn Humans, unless they were planning on giving birth to rhinos. Then that is a different conversation entirely. Enjoy your journey and remember that Universal Laws are not optional for anyone...

    • @AshtonClemens
      @AshtonClemens Před rokem +5

      lol, what?

    • @solsystem1342
      @solsystem1342 Před rokem +4

      Yo, what are you on?
      Where can I get some of it?
      Is this what that "Jesus's blood" stuff does because wowie sign me up for some then.

    • @Invisibility397
      @Invisibility397 Před rokem

      @@solsystem1342 Primary Psychopathic INFJ-T Indigo. If you didn't receive a Frontal lobe collapse at 2yo then you definitely missed out on the chance to live a fucked up life. I will deliver Psychopathic Shock Trauma to all the 30+ women I encounter because that's exactly what they wanted in their 20's. Might as well continue to do the same as the shitty ass alphas. Nothing but cumdumpsters anyways. So there's no reason to pretend that it's not acceptable....

  • @Besztaczka
    @Besztaczka Před rokem +11

    Such a great episode! When is the next one with Yaz?:)

    • @QueerCollective
      @QueerCollective  Před rokem +8

      So glad you like it! We might just have to bring them back on the channel... maybe in a new segment.... stay tuned!

    • @clb8645
      @clb8645 Před rokem +4

      I agree...Yaz claims to not be a polyamory educator, but they friggin' nailed it!

    • @QueerCollective
      @QueerCollective  Před rokem +3

      @@clb8645 couldn’t agree more!