How I Controlled My Fragrance Addiction & Why Buying Bottles is Stupid! | Handsome Smells
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Covid amplified my addiction. The rush of receiving a frag is an escape from the boredom of quarantine.
I started due to the same reason too
all part of the plan. Your government wants you to be a good consumer.
Excellent topic, great advices!
Dopamine hit when (buying something) + (that smells good) + (is a novelty) can be really challenging to master under control. But guys, it's just dopamine crave. Shush dopamine, sit down and wait.
What helped me too, besides opting for decants, distancing myself from youtube (algorithm) videos forums and websites that feed the sense of importance of a f----- perfume, is telling myself when encountering new thing: I ALREADY OWN THIS.
Going to a perfume shops, I would enjoy sampling, but I would tell myself "I already own this" (even if I don't), "I have all of this" (I see on the shelves). It tricks the brain, so the dopamine excitement doesn't get employed. Sense of lack also. Novelty too. You can put all those objects in their place, sit down, I already own you. Shut up, with your promises. Shush. Shut up, hype. Shut up, advertising. Silence...
Also getting rid of the bottles at home that doesn't bring you true joy helps. It's like a tidying up apartment (Marie Kondo style). Become a minimalist. If you didn't wear perfume for a year, get rid of it. Be merciless, absolutely non-attached. That't mastery over objects.
And tremendous open space, so you can have a lot of fresh air for something truly unique: smell of freedom.
Wonderful
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I stopped buying a few years ago because I got tired of wasting money on all the weak Reformulated watered down skin scents. None of them are worth it. These fragrance companies are just ripping people off
I do agree but the bottles are a huge part of the addiction! There’s something about accumulating more and more bottles of cologne idk
This guy is making sense, good PRACTİCAL advice. He's right: You don't need full bottles to explore or enjoy this hobby. ✅
Thank you for this. I have seriously had the thought recently "I may die before I use all of my fragrances". I don't mean to be negative, but it was an honest assessment. I have been too influenced by people I don't know through social media.... It's silly when I think about it.
Before Hurricane Katrina I had a collection of 5 fragrances that I was content with and loved! Today, I have around 70 fragrances, and anxiousness has joined the party. But I know I'm on my way to killing this bad habit... It starts with being honest with ourselves.
Thank you for the wisdom you shared.
I'm glad it helped!
I had about 4 100mls, a couple of 30mls, and a few 15ml bottles earlier this year. Now I've got about 100. I worked out how much is spent just on middle eastern clones in the past few months and it was over £600. Add in the few bottles of expensive perfume and it's in the thousands. I'm disgusted at myself but I still can't stop. I'm trying though. I know I've got a problem.
I have said that to myself too. I will probably be dead before I use up all of my fragrances.
@@melodyvalentine8779 I know the feeling. I'm doing better. I have come to the realization that with the collection I currently have that I probably already have every genre of fragrance out there. Truthfully, there's only so many ways you can mix the same notes 😅. I'm more against blind buying now, which I think was the biggest contributor to my bad habit. Going in the store and sampling gives me SO much more control. I'm able to make an informed decision based upon how I feel about the fragrance then and there. Little changes will make a big difference.
I had a very stressful time in my life last November and found a perfume in the mall and googled it. Found those videos you were talking about and by last month I bought 11 bottles. Then, saw a video on decluttering and this girl decluttered 2 perfumes that she hyped so much that I bought and felt cheated somehow. Though I still like them. But she threw them out as if what she raved about them suddenly disappeared. So, she healed me. Shocked me and healed me. Thank you for this video!
3 years after filming this and it's what I needed to hear. Thanks for recording it! I feel like I'm on the verge of this going out of hand. It's always 'just 1 more and I'm done' but there's always a 'just this one'. I've been gifting bottles and whatnot, as I made some wrong choices in the past too. It's all trying to cover up for something internal we can't yet face, resolve, or transform (... yet!), and using external stimuli to fill in an inner gap.
Glad I watched this video 2 months into my frag addiction. 30 decants and I am questioning my existence. Lol.
Once you're going into debt in order to purchase a fragrance, it's a problem.
I slowed down once I realized I've probably given to my friends and family more bottles and decants than someone would ever own in their entire life.
Yes your very right. I've also given away tons of frags to family, stuff I spent lots of money on.
My addiction is so bad I could never do that. I won't even get rid of bottles that I've not used in ages, bottles with a tiny bit left in that I'll never use, or even perfumes I hate. I just feel too attached to them and there's a sense of "but what if I suddenly start liking it down the line and I haven't got it anymore?" If I really love a perfume I have an intense fear of running out of it so I stock up on as much as possible. I can't wait till I'm nearly out of my current bottle incase it gets discontinued before then, you never know. I've seen some amazing perfumes that loads of people love that have been discontinued. Thankfully there's clone houses that do really good replicas of most of them so I don't have to pay thousands on ebay but who knows of they'll be around forever?
Glad I came across this video now, after many years of not buying fragrances, I have started to, however, I will be keeping an eye on it.
Loved this video! I'm watching as it popped on my feed after I just created my own video on the same topic. For me it's definitely become a bit of an addiction as well as spawned some unhealthy behaviors around buying and decluttering and a constant cycle because ultimately, I don't want more than maybe 10-20 perfumes that really speak to me. Great video 💕
I've recently been taking the same stance as you as in buying decants and samples rather than full bottles. But I'm not going to lie, there is something great about having a full bottle in your collection for aesthetic reasons more than anything.
Fragrance collection isn’t an addiction to possessing so many bottles, it’s the addiction to finally finding the one fragrance that is the very best for you. It’s the search, not the possession that is addicting.
I’m not looking for “the one”, I just get excited when I hear a lot of reviewers saying one is good and the excitement in receiving and opening the package is so gooood.
That was helpful man. Thanks for the good advices.
Thank you, your advice is very clever and helpful🙏🏻🌷
Lots of wisdom here,thanks. Will start doing exactly this.
Thanks 😊 glad to hear it will help
Thanks for your candid and honest sharing here…I too need to employ a lot of the wisdom you mentioned here. I e dropped you a sub and look forward to catching up with your content 👍🏻
Awesome thank you 😊
I was getting consume with fragrance.. thanks for this video, it's always great to explore new things 👍
It's a addiction to nice smells that triger our dopamine levels. Always research,plan another,get it,think about two,three of them ... while on the way we plan for another. It never ends.
Now, I'm aware of this so decided I'll buy just the one I really like and it have to be beast mode! 5,6 of them that perform beastly. It will cost but ...
Great advices.
This is a very good content thanks so much for sharing. Just realised I need to take a step back on this hobby once I realised I e spent over $2k already 😞
Hey thanks for stopping by and I'm glad it's been helpful!
Great video. Totally agree with everything you said. Where do you get your decants?
Thanks Lee. I get them from a Facebook group for the UK called FragcommUk
@@HandsomeSmells Thank you.
Ive got 10 fragrances (9 different ones + 1 backup). I have a huge urge to buy more but i try to control the spending by putting strict cost, quality and bottle size restrictions for myself. For example i dont think ill ever get trough a 100ml bottle unless its a serious daily signature scent, so i only buy 30ml and 50ml.
I also like some pretty wild artsy scents but in real life they dont get much use, so i have to plan abit where and in what event a fragrance will be appropriately used.
Just keep reminding yourself that the money you're blowing could be used in the future when tough times come, or you can start being generous with it (support a friend, sponsor a child in poverty). Its really helped me stop wasting money on myself
Sorry I didnt mean to assume you're blowing your dough, but it's good to prevent that from happening at least
Brother its 100% fine to enjoy fragrances, Its not an addiction, its a stimulation of senses. Just the same way some people like fine dining (taste) going to concerts, live music, opera (audio) , playing games, watching movies etc (visual) or going to gym, doing active sports, tennis etc (touch) . Perfumes I just a stimulation of the nose. Its completely fine to enjoy and spend on fragrances brother dont feel bad ! I sold 30 bottles and i really regret it
Great advice. I own maybe 15 bottles but I buy samples mostly of indie and niche stuff and if I really love them will only then get the full bottle and a full bottle will last me for an age.
fantastic video
Thank you 😊
Great stuff.
Thanks.
Luckily for me I only love very few scents. I'm extremely picky. My nose and skin are very selective. I don't buy "nice", or even, very nice scents.
I only buy magical scents, scents that I find completely addictive (like Tuscan Leather).
I don't think I'll ever own more than 20 FBs. I own 12 FBs at the moments, and I'm 2.5 years into the journey. I've smelled 100s of perfumes... except for my 12 FBs, I also got myself a few decants and a few samples.
So I feel myself falling with in a fragrance addiction. However, I have bought about 16 colognes all under $30. One is from Alfred sung which smells fantastic and I only spent $15 on it. To make a long story short I bought many colognes during my senior year of junior high, and when I got into high school, I was buying many different colognes. I think I had a total number of about 25. Of those 25 I had about four left this year of 2023. I decided to throw away those because there was only a few sprays left, and they did not complement my body, I am 29 years old now and I have decided to buy a few different colognes that fit my age group. So I have bought Alfred song. I can’t remember the specific cologne but it is a purple liquid. Open, a RAMIS, Holston, Z 14, 4711 , one-man show, BIJAN, and a few others. My plans for these is the sea witch. Five will be my primary collection.
For this summer, I have actually bought Antonio Banderas, blue seduction, and I feel like it will be a great cologne. But I have now cut myself off and I want to enjoy these some odd 18 20 colognes that I have bought, and find out which ones will be my primary five. One will be for going out at night with my wife, the other one will be for daily use, one will also be for when I get out of the shower and want to just smell fresh, and then one for the summertime in high heat situation, and then another one for daily/special event use.
I remember my father, wearing a specific three cologne selection, and I actually owned those three and feel that they complement my body. So it will be interesting to see if those three will make it into my final five but I think having five is a good selection and good amount . It will keep you from buying too many, but also allow you to enjoy and create memories with the cologne that you have instead of constantly needing to buy more. Just my two cents I thought you would enjoy hearing what I’ve been going through.
Primarily the reason why I wanted to revamp my cologne collection is because I wasn’t really happy with the way I was smelling I have not really been wearing a lot of cologne, and just been using a very good deodorant and I was never really happy with the way I smelled and decided it was time to get back into colognes. Thank you for this fantastic video and I think you have a pretty good strategy yourself.
I buy them but with a certain price range. I buy mostly Dupes and Niche fragrances only a few designer ones that I feel ever man should own. However all things materials will outlast us bcuz we can’t take it with us when we go so while yes it can be addicting. Some people actually use their perfumes more than others.
I started with 1 and stuck with it for months but lately I have been purchasing them a lot more now
not buying bottles is pretty stupid if you like perfumes
I blame it all on Covid, I used up my bottles and went online to check for new purchases,, and then the youtube suggestions started popping up endlessly .... Yeah, my fragrance collection was originally between 7 - 10 fragrances, but with my research on youtube I bought these back PLUS 9 new ones. Still not too big a collection with my 19 fragrances, but my nose has actually changed over the years, so 4 of my old favourite I will never repurchase. My plan is to empty and declutter and empty little by little and keep 12 alltogether-- nice number 🙂
Very interesting video...I am a complete addict....I love fragrance. It takes me to a different place. I need to switch this over to travel. Example, I spent 575 on Creed Aventus Absolut...could have created memories on a short trip.
Should have bought a small decant, then wore it on the short trip. Make memories, and then every time you wear the scent again it would remind you of the trip.
Felt like I was listening to my life story lmao
Bottles are okay if the scent is unique and rare. When it gets discontinued it might worth a lot of money.
I own 5 bottles and 13 decants and multiple 1.5ml samples and have one more in mind to get which is a niche perfume. Honestly want that one as my last and to complete my collection but im scared if im actually in frag addiction
I have about 25 fragrences (with additional 6 as back up) over the last 25 years (I started at 11) and I feel e tremendously guilty.
Great video..I make al9t of money selling decants I never loose money buying bottles thanks Allah.
Brother ,where can i sell my unused perfumes plz help
I bought a lot of decants. Then I buy a full bottle of the fragrances I absolutely love.
Anymore I make myself sell the ones I rarely use when I get new ones
I have 10 bottles 5 warm weather 5 cold weather and it's a 1 out 1 in for me now
That sounds perfect pal!
You haven't rambled at all, ive recently given up one dangerous addiction for an addiction to perfumes which i tend to justify to myself by saying well at least im not doing what i was doing before but i really need to get a grip now.
I have 12 bottles and I promise not to buy again till all my fragrance gone
I don't care about having tons and tons of full size bottles. 10 of my favorites is enough for me.
My addiction is to experiencing and learning about new fragrances. I want to know as much as I can about everything out there. I don't need the full bottles to do that, though. I smell as many as I can in retail stores and the ones I can't find I buy a few 1ml decants or samples a month to try. If I find one that I really REALLY like, the rule is I have to like it enough to sell one of my full bottles and replace it with the new one.
I'm limiting myself to 100 a month now... Quarantine has not been good for most of us
What in the actual f**k lol. I hope you meant $100 a month
I had six bottles, those scared me good 😅. I feel lighter after I sold four. I'm very grateful I realize this earlier. I can see these buying and scents impulses are quite spiralling, especially if you already dig down to the rabbit hole.
Is it cooler to have one fragrance and wear it on special occasions?
No. Fragrances shouldn’t be limited to special occasions. Enjoy fragrance every day.
I need more tips
maybe a part 2 is in order?
Thank god i didnot go mad lol.
Thank you for this bro. Im just starting my newfound frag head journey but ive decided to keep my rotation to five. I'll just use them every damn day till its time to re-up the bottles. No more than four. Five max....
Just go La Rive at this point 😂
buy clones bro and you should be good.
If you're poor and Married with a Children or you have a girlfriend then don't be addict it to perfume, but If you're Rich then you can do whatever you want in this Life
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Hi, my name is Jack and I’m a frag addict. I started by sneaking into my fathers cabinet and bumming a spray or two of his Aqua Di Gio. Fast forward a decade later and I’m up to 2 Tom Ford’s a week and maybe a PdM if I didn’t get my fix. As a recovering frag head I’m now down to one 10ml decant a week and hope to get that down to 5ml some day
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I buy bottles because they seem easier to resell, and economical on the long run. I have a total limit, so any new addition means something has to be sold.
What a great video I wish I could’ve seen this in the beginning of my journey I wouldn’t have spent so much money lol
But I think most people would ignore the warning and they have to learn the hard way the adrenaline rush when you first start is unreal and it’s all downhill from there 😂
I COMPLETELY agree! Couldn't have said it better myself, you're awesome dude
My thoughts EXACTLY. Perspective is #1. Samples curb the urge (although understanding the urge may be more important), and I'm a big supporter of paying it forward. Reduce, re-use, recycle. Clever saying that.
Love this perspective
You've just made the right point and a really good sense to me as i have just entered exploring scents and i am spending way to much much on scents. Thanks a ton bro !
Great info video and I enjoyed it and have a blessed day
Great video, Waseem. Practical advice, and good on you for opening up about this vulnerability of yours. Myself, I'm a bit too picky to be in danger of addiction in this case, but I think I also keep my throttle at about 3 samples/month, if I had to count.
I’m always concerned with decants from eBay that they’re watered down by greedy sellers then you don’t get to really experience the scent.
Best to buy from trusted sellers on Facebook split groups.
Very good video, Waseem. I'm addicted because of the channel. When I call it quits from doing YT videos, it'll be rather easy to not buy anymore. I have way too many and I have so many bottles just because I want to have something different for the channel. Enjoyed the video and fragrance addiction is a real thing. Collecting is a financially stupid.
What's up dude? Glad to see you're back.
I obsess over fragrances and I've sampled a good bit, but I'm very picky and have a minimalist/situationalist mindset for their use.
Of the 150 I've tried, I only love about 15-20 of them and consider them bottle worthy (ones I absolutely love). Of those 15-20 I have them split into situations and seasons.
I'd be happy with that number of bottles and some decants to mix things up a bit. Don't think I'll ever go the hoarder rout with hundreds of fragrances tbh.
Great advice I subscribed 👍
You make some very valid points,i mostly look out for smaller packaged bottles;15,20,30 ml because as you said if you're a collector you will have so many options & full 100ml bottles just dont make sense. Good video !!
I do wish more companies did 30ml bottles. Thanks for the kind comment!
@@HandsomeSmells the problem with that is I noticed on ebay the smaller size bottles cost more than the 100 ml ones.
You've really offered some wise advice on the subject in this video. I think I've been buying too many bottles lately and like you said I think I should buy more decants from now on to stop wasting money.
I've never seen you with a full bottle.. I got rid of over 100 bottles. Now I just buy 30ml bottles or decants. But I actually go a lot of fragrances. Oud is a different story and natural oils I consider more of medicine.
Very honest and useful video! I started this hobby in the last couple years but am over it. I think I just bought my last bottle (I know...it's like someone saying they just took their last drink 🙂).
Well said. I'm on this journey for about 2 years or so, and at some point I got really concerned about being an 'addict'. So I started to observe my behavior and thankfully I only got 16 bottles now. Sold some, and started buying way more decants. Thanks for your thoughts on this topic!
Thanks for stopping by!
Thank you for helping me ! I review fragrances too and really am not going to buy bottles anymore.
Lol Axe. Been there, and after that shit stopped projecting in five minutes I felt dirty. This year my addiction began. Once I had 8 bottles I immediately stopped and began buying decants. I think where I got fooled is buying Versace Dylan Blue on a blind buy and I just said “crap...this shit reeks...” lol that’s when I knew buying bottles wasn’t worth it.
You are smart noticing the problem early. Dylan Blue is a compliment beast tho I love it 💙
Good stuff mate, i only buy full bottles of stuff I really like, that i only give a 9 or 10 out of 10.
That's the best way to do it pal! All killer no filler like greggieboy would say.
Great advice.
I see many reviewers start off with humble collections like tltg fragrance lounge. Ross use to have a humble collection and now I see nothing but niche. He's down the hole for sure.
I'm coming out the hole!
I think he prob gets a lot of stuff for free
Hello buddy! Awesome topic and Awesome video! I'm a Fragrance reviewer also, and thinking about doing a video discussing these things. : )
Daniel San! Please do so. The fragrance community needs more videos like this.
Totally my story 👍🏽 I feel you bother 🤣
I can relate to this, not so much an addiction (but def more than i probably need) ... getting into niche fragrances more than designer as of last 6 months - like im going out of my way to find them (some are SUPER EXPENSIVE LOL). i have like 23-25 bottles in my collection - i keep them properly stored, so they last years without going bad. I gave like 6-7 away to my younger brother that I find myself not wearing as much anymore, gave him these:
- Subtil Pour Homme by Salvatore Ferragamo - love smell (performance is shit tho)
- The One for Men Eau de Parfum by Dolce&Gabbana
- Dunhill Desire
- CH Men Prive by Carolina Herrera
- Artisan Pure by John Varvatos
He's getting into it himself too, he has more self control than I had. I have to limit myself to like 3-4 a year, was buying like 4-5 every month or 2 at one point, like id just go on a shopping spree and catch myself paying off credit cards for 3 months. Now i have real responsibilities - Saving for my wedding, paying off a house, we got a new puppy (german shepard mix) . Recently I bought my 2nd bottle of Herod Parfums de Marley and Amouage Journey Man. Got a few things on my to buy list but going to hold off until May-June (Tight budget).
I will look into getting decanters/travel sprays... I've seen them... and i guess if I really love them, I'll buy the bottle.
Salam bro can you recommend some attars please. Love from UK too
I think I am ur #1 fan, please notice me senpai I love you xxxx
Interesting video bro. I think I manage to control my collection. I try to keep my collection under 50 and often sell bottles I don’t reach for any more. I would love to bring it down to under 10 which I think will be impossible! As you know I cant get into decants! and I hate seeing reviewers with a wall of frags behind them!!
Yes the wish for 10 bottles is true but so unrealistic for us. Thanks for stopping by brother.
I'd say, only get a full bottle if it's top 10 (not seasonally - in general) stuff, or if you think you can decant a 100 - 150 ml bottle far enough to get your purchase 'for free.' A year has 365 days. Why in the world would someone then want to sit on 100+ bottles? I currently own 39, and try to sell off 6 of these, in order to obtain a few very special fragrances. Then I'm done with eyeing new bottles and only will go from samples to samples every now and then. I currently have samples of most Xerjoff scents. Yet I don't own one bottle: only the 'winner' of this sampling round might eventually be worthy of a full bottle purchase. I don't want a big collection: I want the best for my taste.
Great mindset! Thanks for stopping by. Let me know how you get on with the xerjoff samples.
“Lynx innit”
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I only buy hermes , chanel and guerlain and most fragrances i buy you cant buy decants . I dont buy mass market fragrances , i own 75 bottles
Majority of men addicted to fragrance are mostly womanizers. The best way to be financially responsible is to go get married to a decent girl.
Getting married is the most irresponsible financial decision any guy can make .
If you REALLY wanna get royally fucked $$$$ then Marriage will do it