7 THINGS I WISH I STOPPED SOONER!

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  • čas přidán 4. 07. 2024
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    Aaron didn't quit these soon enough
    1. Being someone he wasn't -- he acted and put on a front trying to be the person he thought other people wanted him to be. The truth is you're amazing just the way you are. Drop the act and things will immediately get better.
    2. Feeling sorry for himself -- he felt like the victim after having 2 abusive step-fathers. He got over the anger after he sought counseling. Realize that people screw up from time to time, and we are collateral damage.
    3. Drinking alcohol -- after blackouts, a DUI, and casual hook-ups, he realized he was self-medicating the hurt and pain. Every single aspect of his life got better when he quit.
    4. Neglecting his skin -- he used to go to the tanning bed and tan without sunscreen. When the crow's feet started, he wished he could turn back time to his teens and start taking better care of his skin including washing 2xs a day and using a SPF 20 moisturizer. Try Tiege Hanley's Starter Set + SPF 30 lip balm for as low as 50 cents per day! tiege.com/startersystem
    5. Comparing himself to other people -- you should only be comparing yourself to you.
    6. Watching porn -- and as a result, he feels as if he wasn't paying as much attention in his relationships as he should have. It was destructive. By stopping, he could focus more energy into his relationship.
    7. Being scared to fail -- it prevented him from going out on a limb and taking chances. At this point in his life, he doesn't want any regrets so he's willing to put himself out there and be uncomfortable.
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  • @alpham
    @alpham  Před 4 lety +528

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    • @TheRealGuywithoutaMustache
      @TheRealGuywithoutaMustache Před 4 lety +5

      Very nice

    • @alyanqazalbash
      @alyanqazalbash Před 4 lety +3

      Keep it up man! Great inspiration!

    • @alyanqazalbash
      @alyanqazalbash Před 4 lety +2

      I hope to produce such good content on my channel as well in the future. Just started making vids watching you.

    • @navanksingh2282
      @navanksingh2282 Před 4 lety +4

      What we Indian should do alpha??
      We dont have it here.

    • @SalTheGoat
      @SalTheGoat Před 4 lety +2

      alpha m. I need help with masturrbation it’s become an addiction to me pls help

  • @Hasan-uh8zj
    @Hasan-uh8zj Před 4 lety +9318

    Only a real man is not afraid to show this side of himself and alpha has done that multiple times. Respect man.

    • @raiyanranaqaqayffudjf7788
      @raiyanranaqaqayffudjf7788 Před 4 lety +22

      I am your/the 10th LIKE(ER)/TENTH LIKE(ER) AND SO I NOW HAVE TO CLAIM THAT RESPONAIBILITY!!!!!!!!!!!!...........??????????

    • @islandboybry
      @islandboybry Před 4 lety +50

      Partner?

    • @johnf6687
      @johnf6687 Před 4 lety +11

      Lot of government agencies can’t be trusted

    • @ontologicallysteve7765
      @ontologicallysteve7765 Před 4 lety +13

      @FBI: Is the *Chyna* Virus a *Plan* Demic? You know, since you're the FBI and all. You'll probably lie (since you're the FBI), but it's worth a shot (since you're the FBI).

    • @nikosk5597
      @nikosk5597 Před 4 lety +17

      A fearful man is a coward
      A man that understands fear is wise
      A man without fear is dangerous

  • @joechamoun6798
    @joechamoun6798 Před 4 lety +3150

    When alpha left the house at 18, he told his dad you're the man now

    • @TeaRex24
      @TeaRex24 Před 4 lety +26

      Lol

    • @hentai4life949
      @hentai4life949 Před 4 lety +8

      czcams.com/video/vpKwRcTD4EE/video.html

    • @ashan2392
      @ashan2392 Před 4 lety +10

      Oh My God... 😂😂😂

    • @hentai4life949
      @hentai4life949 Před 4 lety +8

      Ash Noel did u click on it

    • @ashan2392
      @ashan2392 Před 4 lety +6

      @@hentai4life949 Yes I'm now scarred for life 😂😂😂

  • @danielclover6553
    @danielclover6553 Před 4 lety +3661

    Quiting porn:
    First time failed on day 4
    Second time failed on day 5
    third time failed on day 6
    its now fourth time and im not giving up

    • @DrGugl
      @DrGugl Před 4 lety +148

      Keep strong bro
      I believe in you 💪🏽

    • @clint4637
      @clint4637 Před 4 lety +225

      I've failed alot more times than you and I'm 15 🤣🤣🤣, goodluck bro

    • @toxicw0lf959
      @toxicw0lf959 Před 4 lety +90

      @@clint4637u should stop too, at the age of 18 u gonna have some health problems...
      Trust me!

    • @darlvader1652
      @darlvader1652 Před 4 lety +51

      @@clint4637
      Same and i am 14

    • @lucifer4097
      @lucifer4097 Před 4 lety +34

      Bro am trying to quit it since last 5 years but still I'll not quit

  • @Alexanderbuilds2001
    @Alexanderbuilds2001 Před 4 lety +1237

    The porn thing and being scared to fail is what I’m struggling with the most.

    • @KING-jn1bn
      @KING-jn1bn Před 4 lety +37

      Stop watching porn man

    • @jjlaedits4494
      @jjlaedits4494 Před 4 lety +15

      It’s My Life NEFFEX bruz it’s not that easy

    • @keepitretrox
      @keepitretrox Před 4 lety +28

      JJLA Edits stop it now.you will regret it in the long run.if you wanna talk to me for help and guidance with this reply.Return to God and leave this alone i know how dark it can be and we must all overcome the guilt and leave that lifestyle in the past and move on.come on bro

    • @anthonyrivera5002
      @anthonyrivera5002 Před 4 lety +5

      Keep it Retro I need help dude too I’ve been struggling I’m about to turn 18 next month too.

    • @burb3ryy
      @burb3ryy Před 4 lety +1

      a recommendation i have is turn on restricted mode on your device, you'll lose interest if you have no access to porn. hope this helps and good luck man.

  • @spawncampe
    @spawncampe Před 4 lety +1315

    He's like a dad who's way ahead of his son. All we owe him is a 👍

  • @Jacob58201
    @Jacob58201 Před 4 lety +5918

    The p0rn thing has ruined a whole generation of young men who can no longer even talk to women

    • @dukebluedevils6664
      @dukebluedevils6664 Před 4 lety +489

      Or it’s the fact social media and phones have made it to where face to face interaction is almost alien to anyone who didn’t exist outside the modern cell phone era.

    • @ndi7365
      @ndi7365 Před 4 lety +120

      Sin brother i’m nearly 20 and fap nearly daily and been doing that since year 6/7

    • @bud1221
      @bud1221 Před 4 lety +31

      @Marcus Cato I don't feel like watching the video lol , can't you explain it?

    • @limitlesszay4847
      @limitlesszay4847 Před 4 lety +91

      Sin Hey bro I’ve been there im here to tell you it’s time to quit it will damage a lot of aspects of your life. It isn’t easy at all it took me over a year to quit as i was highly addicted and believe it or not i got a lot of severe withdraw symptoms from quitting, I wish you the best of luck, the sooner you quit the better !

    • @thomassholemuller658
      @thomassholemuller658 Před 4 lety +11

      Sin wow what? Seriously😂😂😂

  • @matthewshepler6175
    @matthewshepler6175 Před 4 lety +746

    Man you talk like the dad that I missed out on when I was in high school, he died when I was 10 from brain cancer

    • @KING-jn1bn
      @KING-jn1bn Před 4 lety +32

      Mine died when i was 1... We are so UnLucky bro🤷🏽‍♂️

    • @zkt5914
      @zkt5914 Před 4 lety +73

      May both of your dads rest in peace sorry for your losses 🙏🏾

    • @Diamondkid19
      @Diamondkid19 Před 4 lety +14

      I’m sorry that you guys had to go through that may they Rest In Peace fly high

    • @MrKrypt
      @MrKrypt Před 4 lety +11

      Im sorry you have to go through that. My father is probably gonna end up in jail in 10 days

    • @thegamingbeast9169
      @thegamingbeast9169 Před 4 lety +2

      Mr Krypt wait why

  • @zena5459
    @zena5459 Před 4 lety +794

    I am a lonely person who is addicted to quite a few things-alcohol, weed,porn you know... watching your videos is helping me want to improve on myself and stop my addictions thanks so much alpha

    • @berndcotman4656
      @berndcotman4656 Před 4 lety +9

      U can get better dude!

    • @zena5459
      @zena5459 Před 4 lety

      Bernd Cotman thanks g

    • @zena5459
      @zena5459 Před 4 lety

      Please watch the anime called Promare. Thanks man

    • @cristiana9529
      @cristiana9529 Před 4 lety +6

      Zen A you got it bro , i was addicted to porn and weed a couple months back . ima be clean and sober for a year in november! anything is possible!

    • @manny123957
      @manny123957 Před 4 lety +3

      Zen A you can do it bro i was in your same position not to long ago you have it to want it bad enough

  • @samuraijoe6814
    @samuraijoe6814 Před 4 lety +505

    A real man is a man that admits his own failures and overcome them, we love you Aaron, you are awesome

    • @raiyanranaqaqayffudjf7788
      @raiyanranaqaqayffudjf7788 Před 4 lety

      And you are JOE, AND ALAO I AM YOUR FIFTH LIKE(ER)......../AND ALSO I AM YOUR 5TH LIKE(ER)...........

    • @MrYahia142
      @MrYahia142 Před 4 lety

      متعملش ايديت للكومينت عشان الهارت ميروحش بس انا عايز اقلك عاركنى

    • @ahmednaguib3569
      @ahmednaguib3569 Před 4 lety

      chicken permission ايه ده 😂😂

    • @clickbaitpro
      @clickbaitpro Před 4 lety

      @@MrYahia142 Ok. Now we need translate built in CZcams mobile

    • @MrYahia142
      @MrYahia142 Před 4 lety

      @@ahmednaguib3569 حبيبى يا زميلى

  • @davidthompsonfinance8760
    @davidthompsonfinance8760 Před 4 lety +2024

    Read in Aaron’s voice.
    7 things I wish I did sooner:
    1 being a bad ass.

  • @NostalgiaMan
    @NostalgiaMan Před 3 lety +86

    I never thought about looking for help over anger and being someone I was not. This happened to me also but now I am at a point where I am not sure what way to go.

  • @tentacionfriends3499
    @tentacionfriends3499 Před 4 lety +164

    Just imagine how awkward it has to be to tell this stories, and he did it for us. Much much respect man 💪🏼

  • @PureInspireZone
    @PureInspireZone Před 4 lety +1537

    U know its serious when he sits front of brick wall

    • @emanuelmayer
      @emanuelmayer Před 4 lety +5

      and not in a car (I never understood car-videos)

    • @user-pw9bd3uc1f
      @user-pw9bd3uc1f Před 4 lety +1

      @Genesis nononono it's his bathroom :D

    • @raiyanranaqaqayffudjf7788
      @raiyanranaqaqayffudjf7788 Před 4 lety +2

      YEAH, and THAT'S how you KNOW THAT HE MEANS BUISNESS FOOOOOOOSSSSS!!!!!!!!!!!!/FOOOOOOOOOLLLLLLLSSSSS!!!!!!!!!!!!!

    • @poopooman6725
      @poopooman6725 Před 4 lety +3

      Raiyan Ranaqaqàyffudjf ok 👌

    • @drzedd5212
      @drzedd5212 Před 4 lety +1

      Unpredicted ML you know you stole this from the guy from the last brick video

  • @suicidalcherry1861
    @suicidalcherry1861 Před 4 lety +1244

    Iam quitting porn, its now day 7, and iam. Proud of myself

  • @CluttchSubscribe
    @CluttchSubscribe Před 3 lety +97

    Controlling your sexual urges is going to be hard,it's going to be really hard,to be honest the hardest thing you will ever do!
    Its the hardest thing you'll ever master but if you master it youre going to be a beast in life
    There is no point in keeping something that was easy to gain
    The hardest things to achieve are the most rewarding

  • @captainarabia967
    @captainarabia967 Před 4 lety +325

    1-trying to be someone i wasn'ts!
    acting to be someone cool people love
    but i wasnt's on my nature..........your amazing in the way you are
    2-felling sorry to myself and see myself as a victim
    3-stop drinking.......Generally stop all bad habits
    4-neglecting my skin
    5-comparing my self to other people
    6-porn
    7-beaing scared to fail

  • @jangyman
    @jangyman Před 4 lety +2457

    1:09 1. Trying to be somebody I wasn't
    1:53 2. Feeling sorry for myself
    3:14 3. Drinking alcohol
    4:07 4. Neglecting my skin
    6:40 5. Comparing myself to other people
    7:14 6. Porn
    8:12 7. Being scared to fail
    PLEASE LIKE THE VIDEO!!

    • @maladen
      @maladen Před 4 lety +45

      jangyman we need more people like you 🙏🏽🙏🏽🙏🏽

    • @bekirs4240
      @bekirs4240 Před 4 lety +5

      Thank you

    • @squckson1114
      @squckson1114 Před 4 lety +9

      u the real MVP

    • @marcthibault8723
      @marcthibault8723 Před 4 lety +4

      Neglecting my skin! Hahahaha... always an angle...

    • @joey19xx73
      @joey19xx73 Před 4 lety +2

      You must have alot of free time.

  • @tonygudkov
    @tonygudkov Před 4 lety +907

    “You miss 100% of the shots you don’t take” -Wayne Gretzky -Michael Scott

    • @nj830
      @nj830 Před 4 lety +6

      Anthony Gudkov -every poster in a classroo

    • @Zam4O7
      @Zam4O7 Před 4 lety +8

      Ahhh.. You Sir are a man of culture

    • @symmelo4510
      @symmelo4510 Před 4 lety +5

      “you miss 100% of the shots you don’t take” - wayne greysky- michael scott- anthony gudkov

    • @Jay-bz3qd
      @Jay-bz3qd Před 4 lety +1

      Micheal Jordan *

    • @Cookingwarshiya
      @Cookingwarshiya Před 4 lety +1

      I read this comment exactly when he was saying it😂 like he read it for me

  • @CarLifeChannel513
    @CarLifeChannel513 Před 4 lety +188

    If this guy worked at Macy’s or Dillards. We will all be poor lol. Best salesman ever..

  • @jaxx-inspiregrowcreate2862
    @jaxx-inspiregrowcreate2862 Před 4 lety +164

    *Self-discipline is the key. Without it, nothing you wish to achieve will become a reality.*

  • @JEL52863
    @JEL52863 Před 3 lety +11

    It takes a real man to be that honest at the level you did. I appreciate you. Thanks for sharing.

  • @nimaamjadi8770
    @nimaamjadi8770 Před 4 lety +5

    Made me tear up at the end, when you said I think your incredible. It’s hard when your, your own worst enemy. Always so hard on myself and forgiving of others.

  • @cheffington999
    @cheffington999 Před 4 lety +303

    "I need to screw things up to learn the lessons" Most relatable quote ever

  • @trendkill3333
    @trendkill3333 Před 4 lety +1249

    The whole porn thing is so true, quit it sooner or later guys. I’m in the process of booting the habit right now

    • @AcidLover420.-
      @AcidLover420.- Před 4 lety +91

      facts I’m on a two month streak and I feel way more confident

    • @Hari-wi7sr
      @Hari-wi7sr Před 4 lety +62

      Me too on nofap streak currently on day 20..
      Seems cool

    • @b.b.2638
      @b.b.2638 Před 4 lety +59

      I’m not addicted but if I don’t use fap session once in a while I feel like I’m loosing it

    • @JaneDoe-sk5ps
      @JaneDoe-sk5ps Před 4 lety +19

      Yep bruh i havent used the internet since late last nite

    • @bluecyanide411
      @bluecyanide411 Před 4 lety +51

      555666 help im addicted it feels too good plus quarantine doesn’t help

  • @conradcampbell6536
    @conradcampbell6536 Před 4 lety +2

    Dude, you almost made me cry. Hell, I'd say that was probably the most heartwarming, inspiring and genuine videos I've seen in a bit. Thanks, man! I really needed it.

  • @Djain_
    @Djain_ Před 4 lety +11

    Huge respect sir! The only person who is telling his embarrassing moments just to make our lives better. Love you man!

  • @yashburner6263
    @yashburner6263 Před 4 lety +53

    You are right Aaron, one day i came across this quote- "If you're not being yourself to be loved, it won't be you who they're loving".
    So it just kinda fits here

  • @fredogiron4641
    @fredogiron4641 Před 4 lety +77

    That last one hit me hard..I use to be so afraid to fail or mess up that I would just avoid the whole situation itself. (Like going to class the first day) Now, I don’t mind being in uncomfortable situations, I actually prefer it :)

    • @raiyanranaqaqayffudjf7788
      @raiyanranaqaqayffudjf7788 Před 4 lety

      Ok FREDO, MY BOY LOOKIN LIKE A CHEETO, cheecks more redder than a tomato!, Lookin(g) more plainer than a tostito!, Probably gets sunburned/sunburnt enough to be lookin(g) like a Dorito(s)!, My boy lookin(g) FAT BECAUSE HE BE EATING DIOGIORNO!!!!! OHHHHHHHHHHHHJHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHH MY GAWWWWWWDDDDDD BARS!!!!!!!! LMAO JKJKJKJKJK BRO.......... LMAO SIKE!!?!!!!!!!!!/LOL PHYSC!!?!!!!!!!!!!!

  • @Mrslykid1992
    @Mrslykid1992 Před 3 lety

    Number 1 is by far the most truthful statement! As soon, I stop giving a F about others and just do me! I am like comfortable being myself now. Do you!

  • @elvis1489
    @elvis1489 Před 4 lety

    I 100% appreciate and respect this video. Some of your honest words hit home on so many levels.

  • @colinlowndes2001
    @colinlowndes2001 Před 4 lety +84

    1 thing I wish I started sooner : watching Alpha 👊🏻

  • @DJFamouzGamer
    @DJFamouzGamer Před 4 lety +10

    Appreciate this sit down man to man talk. It was real, authentic and full of wisdom. Need more real stuff like this!

  • @ronmathew2890
    @ronmathew2890 Před 3 lety +7

    He really cares for every single fooling one of his followers ig otherwise who tf would say the things that are embarrassing or as personal as this man does.Mad respect aaron

  • @tspizemediaservices6254
    @tspizemediaservices6254 Před 4 lety +12

    "I'm scared to fail too" ...thanks for an eye opener! !!

  • @Kvnlwdr
    @Kvnlwdr Před 4 lety +158

    I think one thing to remember with quitting porn is that you have to create a new neuropathway in the brain. It's one thing to want to quit, it's another to really be able to do so. You have to re-route your mind. Imagine you're in a corn field and there in no path. So you walk through once to create a path. Next time you show up to that field you kinda have to think about it, "Is this the path I went down?", but it is and you go the same direction (Porn). Eventually you don't even think about it, because that's the path you've broken down. So now you want to stop going down that pathway, so you have to create a new pathway through the corn field and let the old path grow back the corn and disappear which takes time and discipline and also new healthy alternatives. Don't be discouraged, don't give up. Also you need to try figuring out why you're doing it too? Is it habit? Do you do it when you're lonely. I know far too many guys that set up a porn filter, but guess what guys. If you want it, you'll get it. The filter doesn't fix the problem, you've gotta renew the mind.
    What's something else that you can begin to do today that will put your mind on a new path?

    • @kerryviens7049
      @kerryviens7049 Před 4 lety +11

      There are other videos about dopamine and resetting the mind. I've been watching those and I have stopped watching porn 3 months ago. It's been a 20+ year habit but I'm hopeful.

    • @existence.5806
      @existence.5806 Před 4 lety +4

      Makes sense 🤔🔥👍

    • @rifaimartin3668
      @rifaimartin3668 Před 4 lety +4

      i agree

    • @Strive1324L
      @Strive1324L Před 4 lety +14

      I don't know how many people here are Christian, but for renewing the mind i recommend Romans 12:2 - "And be not conformed to this world: but be ye transformed by the renewing of your mind, that ye may prove what is that good, and acceptable, and perfect, will of God."

    • @xMckingwill
      @xMckingwill Před 4 lety +2

      WHAT ABOUT THE ALCOHOL!!

  • @DamirMohamed46
    @DamirMohamed46 Před 4 lety +24

    Nothing more inspiring than a guy you look up to, but despite that he can honestly tell you: "I'm not perfect FYI, I'm just trying to be better, too".
    Thank you, Alpha 🙏

  • @ChicagoJ351
    @ChicagoJ351 Před 3 lety +1

    Great motivational video. I’ve had many of the same issues and am still working on some. And there is that fine line between stepping out of your comfort zone and not trying to be someone else. You’ve got to live and learn, but have good judgment as well.

  • @baytenhaze2274
    @baytenhaze2274 Před 4 lety

    I love your videos man, they’ve gotten me through hard times of self doubt and confidence issues, and even though we don’t know each other whenever I hear you say I’m awesome and that I can do anything, it puts a bigger smile on my face than a lot of things do. You’re amazing man, never stop.

  • @hannahkelly818
    @hannahkelly818 Před 4 lety +995

    “what’s up gentlemen”
    me, a woman: 👁👄👁

    • @inigmacompetetor8758
      @inigmacompetetor8758 Před 4 lety +29

      Hi kelly

    • @775.-
      @775.- Před 4 lety +46

      not trying to be creepy but are women having same problems as men have like on this video?

    • @hannahkelly818
      @hannahkelly818 Před 4 lety +64

      Amr Tahditi there’s not much that’s gender specific , so i think anyone can have these problems/ benefit (:

    • @DJZombieChipmunk
      @DJZombieChipmunk Před 4 lety +31

      @@775.- wisdom is not bound by gender.

    • @DarkWandererAU
      @DarkWandererAU Před 4 lety +23

      @@775.- Pretty safe to say that most women worry about the condition of their skin & their looks declining more than men

  • @tiagolaranjeira2844
    @tiagolaranjeira2844 Před 4 lety +349

    Imagine how creepy it would be if when Aaron turned the mirror to the camera at 7:09 it actually showed your reflection ahahah

    • @martinainniger7743
      @martinainniger7743 Před 4 lety +6

      totally =D woul'd have had more impact i guess haha than just seeing a camera lens =)

    • @user-zc9mf3ly5r
      @user-zc9mf3ly5r Před 4 lety +4

      Id freak out hahaha

    • @dougedoug2105
      @dougedoug2105 Před 4 lety

      Speaking of reflections, well complexions actually... Paris Hilton said some of the best advice her mother ever gave to her was to stay out of the ☀️! You’ll stay looking forever young

    • @JaspreetSingh-kk3bs
      @JaspreetSingh-kk3bs Před 3 lety

      🤣🤣🤣

  • @bhmhmh
    @bhmhmh Před 3 lety

    Thanks for being so up front about things. You are awesome to listen to. I feel a connection. 👍

  • @nikhilsripaul7484
    @nikhilsripaul7484 Před 4 lety

    I support you in everyway...it takes alot of courage to come out like that man...and for that i have mad respect

  • @daedrichunter1807
    @daedrichunter1807 Před 4 lety +74

    I appreciate your sincerity, that's definitely the trait of a man

  • @PositiveAcademy
    @PositiveAcademy Před 4 lety +683

    1. Be Authentic
    2. Stop being victim
    3. Quit Drinking Alcohol
    4. Stop Neglecting my Skin
    5. Comparing myself to others
    6. Porn Addiction
    7. Being Scared to Fail
    #positiveacademy

    • @paulbarnes9490
      @paulbarnes9490 Před 4 lety +25

      I'm not quitting porn as that's my only sexual release.We can't all be Chad's who get women with ease.

    • @paulbarnes9490
      @paulbarnes9490 Před 4 lety +11

      @Genesis it's ok for alpha as he had a wife and he probably gets loads of sex. Yeah he doesn't need porn obviously but I'm not quiting porn because it's my sexual release.What alpha doesn't understand is that some guys are just very unattractive to the opposite sex and can't get laid no matter how hard they try.

    • @mshbeatbox
      @mshbeatbox Před 4 lety +31

      @@paulbarnes9490 dude, check yourself how negative are the effects of watching porn.You are now acring as victim.

    • @PositiveAcademy
      @PositiveAcademy Před 4 lety +5

      Genesis he has already done it I am just giving summary

    • @ronaldoleiva7379
      @ronaldoleiva7379 Před 4 lety +30

      Paul Barnes probably the saddest I have ever heard, I have seen the ugliest dudes with the baddest chicks because of confidence. Stop putting yourself down, workout, enjoy life be positive. They energy you put out is the energy you get back

  • @Zulu-RideOrDie
    @Zulu-RideOrDie Před 4 lety +2

    Thank you so much for doing this video for me and others. Every single thing you said relates to myself especially about being not afraid of failure. I truly have missed 100% of the shots I didn't take. The ball is in my court now-Thank You!!

  • @LTZ_Z71
    @LTZ_Z71 Před 3 lety

    I love seeing this side of a good man. Makes me happy to know that I'm not alone. Good on ya bro!

  • @dimitrischoustoulakis3735
    @dimitrischoustoulakis3735 Před 4 lety +10

    He is just one of the honest CZcamsrs,I love that🔥🔥

  • @YashSingh-nx7pb
    @YashSingh-nx7pb Před 4 lety +348

    1st comment , stay safe , stay healthy , and I pray for world to get rid of this coronavirus 😤😤😤

    • @euanelliott3613
      @euanelliott3613 Před 4 lety +6

      I think we're all praying for that. Well said.

    • @TheVenty20
      @TheVenty20 Před 4 lety

      you already have it

    • @nicaus7362
      @nicaus7362 Před 4 lety +4

      Sars coronavirus is common. It's always been around. It isnt about the virus, it's about deep state totalitarian control

    • @justifano7046
      @justifano7046 Před 4 lety

      @@hammill444 he's not entirely wrong.
      Coronavirus has been around for well over a decade they would've had a vaccine already but interest and subsequently funding ran out awhile ago

    • @jadendodd9732
      @jadendodd9732 Před 4 lety

      It’s nothing to worry about though🤷‍♂️

  • @gabrielnasato4882
    @gabrielnasato4882 Před 3 lety

    Appreciate you opening up Alpha! Thanks for helping so many people,

  • @nielspalmans6237
    @nielspalmans6237 Před 3 lety

    My man, I am going through a very bad break up, I feel completely broken and lost the will to live, but your advice and energy are helping me so much. I really want to thank you for doing what you do

  • @zuzkazuzanka3068
    @zuzkazuzanka3068 Před 4 lety +84

    I know that these videos are for men but I found that a lot of great advices apply for women too...thanks

  • @steevek2006
    @steevek2006 Před 4 lety +5

    in order to reach a higher level of understanding we often go through struggles in our lives . The only way to elevate is by taking a deep dive in ourselves.
    Thanks for sharing 💪🏾

  • @alithinialfa6035
    @alithinialfa6035 Před 4 lety +1

    Bro you are an amazing human being. The amount of positive influence you’ve had on me is almost unbelievable considering I don’t know you vice versa. Keep doing you man. You’re a real inspiration

  • @ManoelNeto-yt4zb
    @ManoelNeto-yt4zb Před 3 lety

    Respect man! All the things you said I deal with, everything you said. I’m a medical student in Brazil, 22 years old, and I saw myself getting lost in these thoughts, buying the idea I had to be on drugs and play tough and be playful in a way it started to affect the things that really matter to me, like my academic improvement, my relationships and all of that. I used to deal with anxiety and other people expectations, and the worse of it all is that I knew what I was doing wrong but was too impulsive and scared to pull it off and really be myself and do the things I want instead of all this insecure bullshit we put ourselves in. I’m currently working on that, to be a man is the opposite of what ordinary people tell us, it’s to be you, it’s to be courageous, face your fears and get your shit together! Thanks for the video bro.

  • @eldiego7816
    @eldiego7816 Před 4 lety +107

    The last message hit me hard, thx man, i'm going trough a bad time and i really needed to hear that, god bless you

  • @CarlosC127
    @CarlosC127 Před 4 lety +15

    always love when CZcams dad keeps it real

  • @alimokhtari7984
    @alimokhtari7984 Před 4 lety +2

    I’ve been watching your videos here and there throughout my whole life since I was like 12. (I’m turning 19 in September)Your videos have helped me in so many ways, whether it’s hygiene, physical appearance or mental health. You’re a father to a lot of kids and even adults. Absolute legend :)

  • @chadcrumwell7304
    @chadcrumwell7304 Před 3 lety

    Man that's real talk. Appreciate the words of wisdom.

  • @picklejuice4638
    @picklejuice4638 Před 4 lety +450

    I'll come back to this video when the quarantine is over

  • @TipsyKeys
    @TipsyKeys Před 4 lety +6

    I like how you are not afraid to show your weaknesses/imperfections; now THIS is a sign of a true alpha ;)

  • @Caaine
    @Caaine Před 3 lety

    You're the man Apha.
    And so amazing how you 'big up' us guys, no matter who we are.
    World full of too much hate & judgement.

  • @christopherkochis9011
    @christopherkochis9011 Před 3 lety

    hey alpha, i just want to give you real thank you for your videos, and content like this. it is truly helping me. thank you.

  • @ageofdragonz3684
    @ageofdragonz3684 Před 4 lety +7

    Being someone I wasn't is truly something I wish I had stopped earlier. I learnt it the hard way, but make sure you don't make the same mistake. It never gets you anywhere

  • @DrJeykl
    @DrJeykl Před 4 lety +115

    The most compelling thing about alpham's videos is that he isn't afraid to get raw and honest with himself. A true man is comfortable enough with himself to have emotional intelligence. Thank you for showing that men don't need to have toxic masculinity in order to be a man.

    • @GodofLovers
      @GodofLovers Před 4 lety +7

      Toxic masculentiy has become so cringe. I mean technically it exists, but a lot of things get labeled as such, that are not. Like people think men who feel they need to lead, men who think they need to protect their wives, men who think they should be strong to be a man. Physically strong and mentally. That's not toxic masculentiy. I hope that's not what you mean.

    • @eveheart2876
      @eveheart2876 Před 3 lety

      Oh yes. He is unique , practical , salesman , and transparent.

  • @Vince45104
    @Vince45104 Před 3 lety

    Thank you man for really get me rid of self doubt etc. youre totally right. Its my Life, my descisions and my problems i have to solve. Thank you very much for giving me this advice.

  • @chadsederwall1333
    @chadsederwall1333 Před 4 lety

    Your ability to be so real in this video is incredible. Kudos to you my brother, love this

  • @drakko5632
    @drakko5632 Před 4 lety +35

    “I gotta experience it” I relate to that in a spiritual level

  • @FenoLive
    @FenoLive Před 4 lety +42

    This dude taught me everything in life

  • @jorgeramos2713
    @jorgeramos2713 Před 4 lety

    Damn, #7 really got me, I'm constantly worried about something not succeeding the way I want, so I just avoid it altogether, thanks Alpha!

  • @jurgenchristiansen6075

    Good for you for being honest man. One of the greatest things in a man is being honest. Thanks for the helpful advice. 👍

  • @dariosz21
    @dariosz21 Před 4 lety +17

    That motivation, in the end, is what we needed... thanks alpha m.! :-)

  • @Kingston.777
    @Kingston.777 Před 4 lety +250

    I wish I've never seen porn in my life...now I have complexes...

    • @Zoltan1251
      @Zoltan1251 Před 4 lety +15

      what complexes?... i never understood it... i thought i had a problem because i watched it daily, two times a day... but then i got myself busy and i didnt watch it for 2 weeks then again, daily etc.... if you are casual then why not...

    • @anubisgod23
      @anubisgod23 Před 4 lety +2

      jesus no self control then or mental issues ?

    • @Oddsfeline
      @Oddsfeline Před 4 lety +22

      @@Zoltan1251 Personally I believe the reason why not even if you are casual is because it desensitises you and that can still happen even if you're casual. It happens more from more regular use, but if you desensitised yourself from regular use, you're reinforcing that every time you use it casually. Think of it like tolerance to weed. If you're a stoner and you smoke every day your tolerance is gonna be mad high, but if you stop smoking it every day but do it occasionally, it's gonna be lower but you're still keeping that tolerance around a bit. I am cutting out porn entirely because I want to reset my brain. I'm not masturbating, watching porn or even wanting to have sex with a woman because I want to try to go back to normal as much as possible so that when I next get in a relationship, sex can be more pleasurable and exciting

    • @kerryviens7049
      @kerryviens7049 Před 4 lety +1

      Same here.

    • @JaiYadavformularainbow
      @JaiYadavformularainbow Před 4 lety +2

      @@Oddsfeline same here man, I'm just a kid I don't want my Johnny to be hanging like a dead fish during my first time clapping cheeks 😂😂😂😂.

  • @GS-xt8fu
    @GS-xt8fu Před 3 lety

    Thanks so much for the honesty. When you can look at yourself and be brutally honest, you can make positive changes. Wonderful

  • @deepanjandatta6557
    @deepanjandatta6557 Před 4 lety

    You're a real man.Everyone cannot expose themselves in social media.You are really awesome man. Take my respect.

  • @kartikeyatomar9847
    @kartikeyatomar9847 Před 4 lety +11

    He is like A Best Friend I never met ❤️

  • @adamgoldie1253
    @adamgoldie1253 Před 3 lety +16

    I honestly love it how he goes from opening up to the world to plugging skin care products 😂

  • @josmty9
    @josmty9 Před 4 lety

    Thanks for your words, I have same issue, and trying to be better person for my family.

  • @MrMexxy
    @MrMexxy Před 3 lety

    Trying to fit in and comparing myself to others are my biggest challenges. I'm still on that battle and I'm gonna win it!

  • @jebron5120
    @jebron5120 Před 3 lety +4

    yooo when Aaron said: I love you, I truly got chills, we love you too Alpha.

  • @nlbadguy
    @nlbadguy Před 4 lety +20

    "So today is about helping you."
    You do that everyday alpha. Thank you! ;)

  • @stresslee
    @stresslee Před 3 lety +1

    Thank you for talking about all this! Much respect. Some of these are all things a lot of us struggle with, can’t say for the women but as a man I definitely share in your challenges and I’m working on everything as best I can. Sometimes I fail, might feel like I got set back, but always pushing to be better no matter how much I get knocked down.
    To all my fellow people always get back up and don’t give up. We all deserve to live a happy and healthy life. We all make mistakes and don’t be so hard on yourselves ❤️

  • @nathanielwiley4226
    @nathanielwiley4226 Před 3 lety

    Well I'm Glad you are being honest. I feel the same way on things as well and I actually can relate because somethings I've done that I wasn't proud of. You seem confident too. What a confident and honest guy you are!

  • @isaachernandez5750
    @isaachernandez5750 Před 4 lety +9

    I started really taking care of my face when I wanted a beard. Turns out I can grow facial hair (slowly) and a result of it growing is skin care, exercise, and diet... Thank god I wanted a beard.

  • @omagusmagnum3013
    @omagusmagnum3013 Před 4 lety +3

    Wow, this is the first time you've popped up on my homepage in awhile. This is exactly what I needed to see today. Keep up the great fight Brother.

    • @kevinzola9796
      @kevinzola9796 Před 4 lety

      Omagus Magnum Hey!! I’m a huge Alpha supporter! I done a 100 day challenge that helped me stop masturbating. It was awkward filming it but I would love some support and feedback on the video 🙌🏾✅

  • @Philosophyoftruth_
    @Philosophyoftruth_ Před 4 lety

    You’re too hard on yourself. You are worth watching. You are amazing and absolutely awesome! Transparent and respectful 🙌🏾🔥🙌🏾

  • @Jamoke67
    @Jamoke67 Před 3 lety

    Thanks for your honesty, it helps a lot of people who watch your videos!

  • @jewekclashroyale
    @jewekclashroyale Před 4 lety +143

    Aaron: 7 things I should have stopped doing sooner
    Me: I should have should started watching him sooner :)

  • @dr.j1939
    @dr.j1939 Před 4 lety +3

    Thank you for this video, hearing this has helped me prepare myself for the next chapter of my life and for that you’ve definitely got my subscription

  • @danielhofer6192
    @danielhofer6192 Před 3 lety

    I always liked your honesty and not beating around the bush. Cool video !

  • @toddgreen9716
    @toddgreen9716 Před 4 lety

    Thank you so much for sharing this. I related to ALL 7. It takes a man to show his vulnerability and lead by example so thank you.

  • @danreddits3796
    @danreddits3796 Před 4 lety +343

    Alpha: Nobody's out to get you
    The government: Hold my beer

  • @mikemihay
    @mikemihay Před 4 lety +5

    First of all #StayHome and watch alpha m
    Secondly, Aaron I so much like when your voice is normal and when you don't "scream". Is like I have a conversation with a friend, who cares about me, instead of having in front of me a teacher who scolds me :) Thank you for your video! You are Awesome!

  • @TheSakizu
    @TheSakizu Před 4 lety

    This is legit your realest video . Mad respect

  • @davidmann8254
    @davidmann8254 Před 4 lety +1

    Hi Alpha, I’ve always liked your vids: sound advice, cleverly presented. That you as an influential person have genuinely shown your vulnerabilities to help others is very impressive. Major kudos. Cheers David.

  • @Indrajeetsingh_9444
    @Indrajeetsingh_9444 Před 4 lety +20

    I'm always likes video before watching
    B'coz i know it's worth it!!

  • @joshuapeacock17
    @joshuapeacock17 Před 4 lety +13

    dude you’re literally the best. thank you for this. God bless you man.

  • @robertant7768
    @robertant7768 Před 3 lety +1

    Your story is more relatable then you think of!! Thank you alpha

  • @juanluna5323
    @juanluna5323 Před 3 lety

    I have to say thank you for this honest and vulnerable video. I have many of the same issues as you. Though I have overcome many of them, I still have some of those insecurities. It's good to know that everyone has these issues and thank you for sharing your story.

  • @kyliekoss8136
    @kyliekoss8136 Před 4 lety +3

    I can’t relate with everything you say, but most of your words are truly helpful. Thx mate