Silver Linings To Shitty Situations! | Melanie Murphy & Petesjams
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- čas přidán 29. 08. 2024
- Answering your questions from Twitter about how to stay positive and optimistic by giving you guys silver linings to bad situations!
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Comment down below a situation you'd like a silver lining for and I will reply to AS MANY AS I CAN! And go subscribe to Pete he's a bloody gem! xxx
GREEN EYE DELICIOUSNESS GUYS! GREEN. EYE. DELICIOUSNESS.
Having to repeat my leaving was actually one of the best things that ever happened to me. I've made amazing friends, I've had to mature and develop as a person, I've learned how to control my anxiety better, I have way more options for college... you really do have to just look on the bright side of life!
I adore this new human you've brought to your channel please bring him more okay thanks 🙃❤️
just stating the obvious, but you two have practically the same eye and hair colour. it's double the loveliness!
Aww this was lovely - apart from the aeroplane one. I had diarrhoea on an 8 hr flight from Disney World last year. It was an experience...a lot of running was involved x
I started watching this video as an pessimist & finished watching it as an optimist! Literally didn't think that was possible 😂 Thank you so much Melanie, this video has helped me out so much 💚 xx
Youse look like siblings
hahahaha WE SO DO! We're literally like *actual* siblings in every regard! xxx
The second the video started I just thought "holy shit their eye colors! they looks so alike" ^^
I struggle with depression and I've been finding ways to deal with it. One of the main things is that when I'm in a very down mood I forget what's worth living for. So a year ago I started collecting receits and other things from fun evenings or hangouts with friends. I bought a book and started putting the receits and other things in the book. I decorate every page with either Paint or pen. The proces of making the book is very mindfull and takes my mind somewhere else for a while. But it's also amazing to look through the little book and remind myself why I'm here. It's for alle those little moments in between. It does really help keep me sane in my darkest moments.
I think looking at the silver lining of things can be incredibly difficult, but I have learned to recently. For example, in the past year I have had to learn to deal with my mom having a very serious illness and my boyfriend moving away so that we'll be long distance for another year before being able to be together again.
Although both of these things suck, and I'd have preferred for them not to have happened, my mom's illness has brought my family so much closer together than we ever have been before and I'm so much more aware of how lucky we are that we all love each other. As for my boyfriend moving away, the two of us have learned to communicate much better now that we're forced to spend more time talking than when we lived in the same city. We've also been able to be more open with each other about how we envision our future together, which has solidified our relationship in ways I would never have expected.
So basically, even through some truly difficult life situations, after a period of time has passed, you can find the positives if you really try. It may be hard, but adapting my way of thinking has helped me get through so much and although I don't feel "lucky" for these things to have happened to me, I do appreciate the lessons that I have learned and the bonds I have strengthened through the tough times.
Ahhh how can two humans be so goddamn beautiful inside and out! Love this video! I started watching your channel a few weeks ago and I just love how real, open and funny you are. Even though I don't know you personally, your stories/content inspire so many people and it's just wonderful! Keep being who you are because you're amazing. Love from Australia xx P.s Y'all accents are SO mesmerising! :)
You have no idea of just how much your videos and the messages they pass on make my life a little better each week. You inspire me so much Mel! 💚 love you
Comment a situation you'd like to figure out a "silver lining" to and I'll reply to as many as I can over the next few days! ALSO just...how bloody LOVELY is Pete though!? Advice for Disney characters over on his channel ;) x
I find it incredibly hard to write, literally spent years researching writing bits and pieces but can't finish it. I have this enormous wall of terror because of low esteem and feeling inferior. I sit down to try and do that, I spasm and shutdown, that then just reinforces my sense of being a failure.
Melanie Murphy I've been sexually abused and kinda trying to learn to live with that..
Turns out I'm not that good in pretending to be fine..
can't see a "silver lining" in my situation.. quite the contrary.. I want to unzip my skin and crawl out of it..
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Melanie Murphy Pete is gorgeous!
I know the feelings, I was abused too, it gets easier the more you open up about it and find someone you trust to talk about it, there are rape crisis centres in most places and they are free, it's painful talking about it but once you have gone through it the pain starts to climb down. You'll want to be in your skin one day, I promise, I don't think you ever get over it, but you're body can become your home again I promise. Yours, a fellow male survivor.
Melanie Murphy when you find out the guy you fancy likes your best friend 😕 im yet to find a silver lining x
Melanie, you and Jessie should do a meet up in Dublin soon!! I'd love to meet both of you I love you guys so much!! XXX
great idea! :)
what a beautiful, real channel this is Mel :)
awww THANK YOU MOLLY! xxx
The new wave appreciation of nerds also depends of geographics- Small town Texas? Not so much. But when you find a group of people like you it is even better!
SISTERRRRR! I can TOTALLY see it now! This means we need to send more of our sibling posi vibes into the world. I loved filming with you. Much love twin
Really enjoying all your collaboration videos recently! :)
"Don't be a sheep!"...My response to it: "But I'm a Welshie, it's in my heart... But mostly because it's super expensive and the farmers don't like it when I'm a dragon!!".
Yup, looking for the silver lining has definitely been a daily mental hygiene routine! Things are so horrid at the moment that it can ONLY get better (though a part of me still wants to add 'right? anybody?' at the end of that sentence).
THIS IS ONE OF THE GREATEST COLLAB EVER!!
I understand what you are saying being positive about things that are emotionally challenging is hard when my mum passed away it was the hardest thing Iv ever had to do after caring for her for years I was lost but I choose to be positive and focus on things I wanted to achieve in my life. But I still aloud my self to be sad sometimes it very important for your Heath I'm now studying to be a kindy teacher and I'm thankful for everything that I learnt while taking care of my mum, there is not many people in the world like you to who understand how important it is to be positive in your life 💚💚💚💚💚💚💚
It doesn't matter if bullying is someone projecting insecurities, being on the other side of that, it still hurts no matter what the intentions are. There isn't a positive to being bullied as a child. Maybe I'm just too negative to take this video seriously but stuff like that still sticks with me and affects me now as someone nearly 20
Charlie G I'm 26 and I can tell you it will get better. I've looked into a lot of self-compassion books (I love Thich Nhat Hanh and Pema Chodron!) and videos here on CZcams (shout-out to Miss Fenderr!) helps with that kind of struggle. I used to get bullied at home and at school, and I was getting beat at home and into fights I never started at school. People can be very cruel, but if you can feel safe and secure and loved in yourself then others can't touch that and you can heal. Just my two cents, though. 💚💚💚
I enjoyed this video you both should do more of this really love it
please collab again you guys are so awsome
You're my ray of sunshine Melanie:)no kidding! I was really stressed out coz I'll be giving my Medical entrance exams in a few weeks n its so tough to go through these last 'high tension' days coz you know I see the other students working hard that makes me feel like I'm not working hard enough. n that's really discouraging sometimes. Seeing your videos just does the trick..You're so sweet n beautiful n kind hearted. Lots of love to you!! PS: You two look really cute in this video:)
Aish 21 Good luck on your exams!! As long as you give it your best shot, I wouldn't be too worried about how other people are studying. I find that good chunks of quality study time with breaks are infinitely better than cramming nonstop! Just find your flow and you should be fine 😊💚💚💚
This is really good, loads of advice and positivity even with the most sensitive stuff. I didn’t even realise the content would be that at all, somehow I read the title as ‘good things going wrong’. I see why Pete’s described you as like his sister, you’d make a good pair of twins, funny coincidence that you look similar, but also you’re sweetness squared and hella fun. I’ve been having a weird time as many are these days and, even having been here many a time (some of it’s less ‘even so’ and more ‘it’s an insidious git’), this is a reassuring balm to the soul. I also love the patchy autumnal sofa.
Basically every normal situation for me is one that I see badly and would need to see the silver lining haha. I stress out about everything too much. However if a friend or anyone tells me about a situation that they're in, I will find even the tiniest silver linings to re-assure them! It's a shame I don't have the reflex to do that with myself 😅
Finding a silver lining doesn't come natural for me, but honestly, you just have to actively try to see things in a positive light. It's tough, but the more you do it, the easier it'll get. Also, talking to people about your worries with a friend, family member or therapist can help
Yeah, you're definitely right. When I manage to "catch myself" thinking negatively for no reason, I'm usually able to take a step back and think "it's OK", and when that happens I can become very positive (because once I've taken a step back, it's as easy to find the silver lining for me as it would be if I was advising a friend), and it's the way I prefer to be, but I'm sad that it really isn't natural; because I don't like being negative for no reason, and everything is so much more simple and nicer when I take a step back ^^ And I know I'm not condamned to be this way, as you said, it's an active process and I very often don't realize that I'm being negative and could easily switch it off. It sounds stupid said like that haha, but being naturally very anxious (just anxious, no anxiety problems) about things, it's very easy to just fall into a spiral of negativity. I just need a self check, to snap out of it and be like "Breathe in, breathe out, ok I see that it's really not a big deal". It is sometimes easier, it comes and go in periods of time. Last year during a few months I literally had a post it next to my computer saying "Stop it, it's OK" lmao
Emeline you're doing great. It's such a slow process, I know, but if you (and I) keep at it for a year, where you make sure you let as few of these negative thoughts go undisputed as possible, I promise you there will be a difference. It probably won't be totally fixed, but baby steps in the right direction is still better than not moving at all. I wish you the best of luck!
Thank you so much! I did have in mind that working on it was the way to go and possible, and I was even thinking about it earlier today, but actually what you just said about baby steps does resonate and motivate me a lot. I think I got discouraged lately because I thought about how easily I went into negative mode, that I wish I was positive, but that it would require a lot of effort, and then I probably unconsciouly thought "so don't even try, you won't succeed, because since it's easy to switch the positive mode on everytime, if you were able to do it, you would have a long time ago"; but thanks for reminding me that basically any time I try to fight it, even if it's once a month, is a step in the right direction. I don't need to become a constant ball of sunshine right away :P Thanks :) And good luck to you too! I love CZcams and the comment spaces, sharing positivity is also a great way to become more automatically positive. xx
I have just come from Pete's channel and I'm so happy that I've found you Mel
Melanie. HOW DO YOU NOT HAVE A CASE ON YOUR IPHONE? Every single time I buy a new phone at Apple, I have them install a case before they even hand it to me. You are one bold minx, girl.
Same eye colour and eye colour OMG
your friendship is so lovely! loved this video 🌻
I love the advice about thinking outside the box for the person with the maths problem - that would have definitely been me in High School! But I did a Photography degree in the end and everything was fine, we can't be good at everything :) x
I think the bipolar question was supposed to be a little sarcastic, that the psychiatrist thinks they don't need medication, but the patient is having a lot of trouble without it.
I'm bipolar as well and had psychiatrists deny me things because I was putting 100% of my effort into not winding up in a the psych ward, but I can't do that and live a life.
This was a good video at just the right time, Thanks Mel & Pete. You always seem to know what I need to hear.
Yaaaaaay Pete!!
have you even seen the movie PollyAnna? my nana used to make me watch it when I was younger to make me remember how lucky I am! She played a game, i think it was called 'The Glad Game' where she'd try to figure out why she should be 'glad' that a bad situation happened. This video really reminded me of that 💚
Your ex who you have just got over after months messaging you out of the blue...and snap you're not over them, despite the fact that they have no intentions to become involved. Buut I love this, could you make a sequel? X
These were some really great advices..Genuinely..Loved them both..n I'm so gonna check out Pete's channel !
You two are absolutely mad & I love it! xxx
THANK YOU FOR THESE LONG VIDEOS
i ship it :P haha, what's the silver linning of when you have resigned from your old job and you have been accepted to a new job but a day later they told you the team is full and you don't have the job anymore? was so stressed but thank God I got my old job back :).
hey melanie.good topic- i'm a realistic, had a rough start in life and been through some shit.i stil smile most day and help people.rarely pitty myself.we are the strongest.have a grate weekend lovely melanie love you a lot♡♡♡♡♡♡♡♡xxxxxxxxooooo
🎶 The only way is up, baby
For you and me now 🎶😂
Great video Melanie. I do like the advise when you was talking about the boy being different and that everyone thinks and learns on there own levels. Thanks for saying that because I am one of those people, so I appreciate what you both said on that :)
I feel like I have no friends because they always make excuses and cancel plans last minute but they are there for me in tough situations but I want to see them regularly but they spend their time with other friends I feel non existent
orianna ellen I have friends who hang out with me fairly regularly but are never there when I need support! Both situations are tough, but I'd say if I were in your shoes I'd start making new friends that you can see more regularly while still keeping in contact with your current friends. Put yourself out there and you might be surprised what happens 😊💚💚💚
orianna ellen one thing I've learned recently (thank you, dear therapist of mine) is that sometimes just telling your friends that you feel that way can really help fix things. If they still don't make an effort to fix things, then yes, you should definitely make new friends if ever the opportunity arises. But sometimes people just don't realise that their actions hurt you. Best of luck!
I'm subscribing to so many new people after all these collabs!
How to stay positive when you feel like you're surrounded by negativity from negative people (even those you live with) and negative thoughts?
You too are both insane and i love it haha!💛
fair play Melanie! you have been uploading some amount of content 🙌 thanks a million and enjoy your day 💪💚
Haha omg I KNOW one every 2 or 3 days I really should slow down lol, working away on my final draft book edits :') xx
actually can't wait for book! good luck on your draft 😝💚
14:25 "You're well!" Yeeeees! :)
love you two , this is so entertaining and honest😂😄💯 and you guys really do look alike
I'm a very new sub and I really love your videos! My favorite so far is when you go do food hauls and vlog while grocery shopping. Can we get more of those?!
I think I'll have a new food video for you all next Friday! :) x
He has a nice voice
To the girl who pooped in a public bathroom and ran out of toilet paper, you now have a funny as hell story to tell!!! 💚
What about falling in love with someone you can't have? Xx
THIS IS MY FAVORITE DINNER!!! EVAH!!!
You're killing me, I loved this, I adore you, and Pete's sweet
Here's a situation which I struggle to find the silver lining of - Getting rejected for a part in a play or production that you auditioned for 😕 xx
Alannah Marsden It's giving you the time and energy to work your arse off and focus on the next big thing that's around the corner 💜
RachessieYnLove That's a great way of looking at it, Thank you 😊
with every audition you get more experienced and have an opportunity to get feedback to grow and improve. You can only get better! xx
Love these videos! 👌🏻😘
Omg I love Pete. 💚
Loved this so much xxx you look like siblings 😍💕💚
Pete's wristbands are gone!? Amazing video but I can't stop mourning the loss of the wristbands
I'd like a silver lining to having anxiety please :)
I don't know about you, but I think my anxiety has made me a gentler, kinder person, because I know how it is to worry about what your friends might think of you. Basically, it's made me show my appreciation for others more often
Christine The Melon Lord I see what you mean, I suppose that does apply to me too. But do you ever feel that you're so aware of other people's feelings that you sometimes sacrifice your own? Btw that you for taking the time to reply 😊❤
No problem, mate. And yeah, I find that happens sometimes, but honestly the best thing you can do is to talk about your feelings with them. Be respectful of their feelings, of course, but if you feel uncomfortable you are allowed to say so. You have to put yourself first, because self sacrifice only works so long, before you're so broken yourself that you can't help anyone. Of course you can occasionally put your own feelings aside, but ultimately your job is to make sure YOU are happy. A bit ramble-y, but I hope this makes sense
Christine The Melon Lord it did! thanks for all the advice!
Beautiful Melanie, I loved your Metaphor for life ❤ I also have a question, regardless of my happiness and security of finishing my studies in fashion design, or moving to Europe in a year, finding a great job, writing my book, what's so hard in stating positive of, is finding the right person someday, you know the kind of person that makes you sing "Queen" songs or, "la vie en rose"
Giovanna PJT Love yourself and you will attract love 💚💚💚 it's hard, but worth every second
I think you were right, I just met a beautiful girl with blue hair, I'm waiting to see how things go, but I have a good feeling :)
I love this! Xxx
Wow your video was so lovely. I'm a very positive girl and I'm mostly happy all the time and I really like it being positive and I try to motivate my friends when they are down and they ask me so often how I'm so positive and motivated. The thing with answer 4 in a test and the think outside of the box you both said that so beautiful and I'm trying to be more me and to think more outside of the box and be more creative. You both really inspired me. Thank you. I send happy and positive vibes to all of you 😌☀️☀️☀️☀️🌈🌈🌈#BIpower
Where is your accent from? It's amazing
I feel so negative and down all the time atm. im worried about school work, the popular people at school make me feel like shit. i dont know whether to travel or go to uni and i feel so overwhelmed x
A Little Bit Lisa Thank you 💕 i know i could talk to my family and friends but i dont want to burden them. i feel like i know what i want and i know myself but i dont have the confidence to be that person for fear of being judged x
Ro x If you have the option of traveling now and can go to uni after, I would probably suggest that. I'm going to uni first because I can't afford to travel, since I support myself, and I may not have the opportunity to do a year around the world ever because I'm going straight to grad school and then probably going to do a post doc right after that. So, if you can do both, I'd say travel first!! It'll open your mind and you'll have a better idea of who you are and what you want when you go to uni! Hope that helps and good luck 💚💚💚
Melanie
GO FORTH!
FA8T That voice, though!! 😍💚💚💚 lol
I'm a simple person, I see the gorgeous Melanie or a cute guy, I click. Ok time to watch the video now haha
What lipstick are you wearing 😍
JIM HALPERT!!!
Being single sucks. The world's a broken place that's about to blow and the funfair outside my house had a ride I wanted to go on which was closed
At least the new Star Wars trailer is out now
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I would like to find a silver lining to acne lmao
(what she said! I had acne all my life and I'm now 27 but still not a wrinkle! Plus going through the experience of acne gives you empathy for others who are self conscious etc...I made a whole video about this called "My Acne Scars") x
Is this Marcus Butler's little brother ?
Excuse me, can you get out of my flat please?
Mel looks so much like tallulah riley
Haha! :D
I love both of your green eyes! ❤️💚 And your brother (I think) is super handsome!
Post Apocalyptic Penguin they're friends, but they definitely look like they could be siblings! Pete is a sweetheart!
his voice......
Please be a couple!! xx
Is he single? He is so so handsome!
Emily Sutcliffe nope! He is with Carrie Hope Fletcher/Itswaypastmybedtime on CZcams :)
damn! :P
They broke up
Keyholder yeah i know when this came out i dont think that was public news
actually im straight but everytime I watch your videos and see how pretty you are, oh man I think I'm gay.