How To Move On After A Breakup? Melanie Murphy & Mike Falzone
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- čas přidán 13. 09. 2024
- Heartfelt advice on how to get over someone/move on after a breakup with an ex/someone you loved or were infatuated with! A chat with...
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Broken hearted? Struggling to get over a person you dated or a crush? REALLY hope this helps a little!
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Breakups are god damn awful. They're hard, they hurt, there's tears, rebounding is a BAD idea and so is repressing your feelings. We're here to talk about all of this and more and we really hope it helps some of you. PLEASE comment if you enjoy, if you're going through this shit right now, and know that things will get better. Mike is getting married and I've recently met somebody who I'm extremely excited about...the storm will always pass :)
A kitten video to kick off your "anything else" - • Kitten Massage Therapy
This video is so important- I recently broke up with someone I loved so intensely. It was so sudden, too. He told me that he didn't see a future for us. And it's been one of the hardest things I've ever had to endure. But it's important to realize that you shouldn't pine for someone who wasn't willing to make it work. There'll always be other people out there. And sometimes what's most important is to love yourself before you give love to anyone else.
Exactly. Besides, the right guy for YOU, won't go away. He will stay.
"do anything else" such good advice!
Would just like to give someone hope, just over a year ago I was stuck in the most horrible relationship he was manipulative and i didnt even see it. I luckily got out but I didn't think I cold love again I thought he'd broken me. I loved him I trusted him and he ruined my life now I am in the most loving healthy relationship I didn't think anyone could want me again I was damaged goods but now I'm happier than ever. There's hope it's not all over I promise you'll find the right person when the time is right xx
I literally just got my heart broken for the first time ever and it was so brutal for me. Just the name of this video made me cry so I'm going to watch this later... Thankyou in advance, I'm sure it's going to help me.
Mental illness + heartbreak = a disaster
I had a couple of pretty bad break up experiences in the past year...how about you!? Let's chat! Reading all comments on this video because it's a topic near and dear to my heart. I'm such a god damn romantic and I believe in love and I wanna help other people get over their shite! xxx
Melanie Murphy my relationship ended at the end of 2010 this month in fact, I don't think I ever dealt with it but I did sort of move on and I don't want a relationship at all now as I couldn't bring myself to trust any man or woman won't dump me again.
Jaysus Christ, the amount of social media stalking I've fucking done. Cheers from home Melanie
You're so right; CZcams was my "anything else". Earlier this year I'd gone through a break up after an unhappy 2 year relationship and immersed myself in CZcams videos - I binge watched channels that I'd not really watched prior to the breakup. I only really watched gaming videos before then, however I found channels like yours - chatty channels with makeup and/or stories - to be really comforting at the time. It happened a few weeks before my final exams too, so I found investing my time in revision and having a focus of getting into Uni helped speed up the process of moving on. Now I'm happy and continue to watch a variety of videos, admittedly less than before, and I'm in a much happier and healthier relationship and I got into my first choice Uni. For that I've got to thank you as you were the main channel I watched during that time, Mel :) x
I take it this means that you and RetroEjit are no more. I'm sorry to hear that you (and he!) had to suffer through a breakup, but I do hope the both of you are feeling better, getting on, and moving forward with your individual lives. ^_^
I was debating getting back in contact with the guy I used to like, just to be friends. But then I realised that, knowing me, I'd end up liking him again, and I don't want to get hurt again, so I decided against it. If I do decide to get back in contact with him, I think I'm going to wait until I'm in a different place in my life. I want closure, but not by risking my own happiness!
I totally get you I'm in the same situation :( but we have to put our happiness first
closure is very important to get as it helps you move forward. otherwise, it will just eat at you no matter how much time goes by. i would say talk to them and get it, but do not attempt to be friends or even acquaintances with them..just move on after.
They look like Jess and Nick from New Girl 😂
Haha...really!? :D Love that show!
now I cant unsee it!!!
it's like the quote "to get over someone you have to get under someone else" however I love the fact that the next thing shouldn't be a person. it should be something that's passionate to you. spot on
I used to take forever to move on, but as I've gotten older I have found it harder to moon over anyone who has wronged me. I do, however, have the tendency to hold on to the "what ifs" that come with a crush or a possible relationship. Those are the worst for me.
I think we all need a Mike Falzone to help us with our problems :) I agree that focusing on yourself, and living your life, and finding new things to do (that aren't other people) is the best thing to do when you're single x
the breaking after two months today I could bake cake again! :) yeahh I feel myself better, but not 100%, baby steps I take every day. This video helped me a lot, I am not alone with my problem, breaking with ur boy/girlfriend is always sad and sour, because, u have to mourn the relationship and this is difficult situation, but at the end of the road u will know urself better and next time u will attract the right person/hopefully. Melanie you are a great girl :) Greetings from Hungary
This was really helpful. My long-term boyfriend broke up with me about 3 months ago. We are still friends but there is much more distance and we don't communicate often. Thankfully he isn't on any social media. I'm growing and healing but I still get in these slumps because I really loved who I was when I was with him...Mike's advice really helped me to realize that I can still be just as awesome and nurturing without him as I was with him :) thank you!
My boyfriend broke up with me yesterday, I was completely shocked because this was unexpected even if we were two completely different person and I felt that something changed in the relationship, but I thought that everything could be fixed. I am sad af because I care about him. I hope this video can help me, thank you so much
i didn't know you two were friends and it makes me happy 😊
I needed this so much. I'm in that really uncertain place where I've been single for 5 months, not got with anyone else, feel like I'll never be with anyone else and that I'm nothing like the girls I see on social media who are prettier, funnier, smarter than me (all that frustrating Instagram comparison crap!). It's rubbish to constantly beat yourself up, but the female population are strong for a reason, if we talk about how we feel we can get through it together! Sending love to anyone out there feeling the same as me right now xxx
This has genuinely come at the most relevant time. It really helped how you said that you're allowed to be sad and you're allowed to cry because I put myself down for being so upset about my current situation, yet that part made me realise that's how I'm supposed to feel. Although I was only briefly seeing someone, pain is pain. Thank you for this video, I think I may have to watch again in a few months just to be like "ahh yes all this does work" hahah xxx
I am so glad this was posted today. Last night, my boyfriend of 6 years and I ended our relationship. It was completely mutual, we are just not the same people we were when we were 19 and just started dating. I really needed to watch this. Thank you so much!
Hey Melanie, I've never seen your videos before but I'm a big fan of Mike Falzone so I clicked the thumbnail. I really appreciated and needed this talk and this topic. I just had a rough breakup where I found someone I really connected with for the first time in 5+ years. The relationship wasn't actually that long, but, for about 5 months after we continued to try to be friends and our feelings only grew stronger for each other. She stopped talking to me, and, I guess it's all really hitting me now that it's truly over. I find it to be poisoning my entire life, lol. I'm less kind to people, I'm constantly self-absorbed, can't start new hobbies, hate everything I'm doing, and just want nothing more than for things to go back to how they were, even though I know that it wasn't riht for me. This video helped me feel not alone, esp. when you mentioned the time you wasted 6 months on someone, because that's essentially what I just did. (She dumped me in may). Thanks. I'll probably be checking out more of your videos from now on, and, I think this can help me pick myself up and move forward.
Can relate to you so much Melanie! Me and my ex broke up a good while ago now, but it meant my whole being was sort of stripped from me because we depended so heavily on one another - but now having rebuilt myself I feel so great for it! Thanks for such a great video, know a lot of people can relate xx
Thank you so much for this video. It made me think about how I was missing a person who broke my heart and was constantly hurting me even after breakup for a very long time. It's important to love yourself first and be happy. Whoever is getting through similar, don't worry too much- it will be better, I promise!
I love how chill and genuine you are!
Soooo damn truthful! Today I ended up the whole stupid thing with my ex (we've been messing around for a month after the breakup). Can't thank you enough guys for this video! ❤️
I beat myself up for being the "dumper" of my past relationship and that was in 2014 - I'm in a new, more beautiful relationship now and I still beat myself up about it. Time is precious, and you're so right Mel about not repressing it 💃 xxxx
I do think it's important to mourn and grieve, like you folks said. Sometimes you're just not ready to "unfriend" them. Just keep track of your feelings--if you find you get angrier every time you see their face online, just know that eventually, sooner or later, you should let go.
I grew a crush over someone i didnt even know, while having a girlfriend. I didnt do anything at all, neither plan on doing so. But your videos help, and i thank you for that, and you might get this a lot, but you're so beautiful its not even fair to watch x3. Keep beeing awesome
Oh my God! I love you! You're being so real about breakups! This is what I learnt recently: not to avoid my feelings! It sounds stupid, but crying will actually make me feel better. I have to say I got related, because I continue crying 'cause it feels good, without even remembering why I was crying, on the first place! ;) I also like the phrase "Hearts heal" ! Love you
I know this is waaay late. But my now ex boyfriend broke up with me 4 weeks ago; and this finally gave me the push I needed to delete him off all my social media. Deep down I knew having him there would not help, especially because it left him "just a message away" or whatever, but I realised I need to move on and that wasn't going to happen if I could still access his social media profiles! So thank you both, the road to healing has begun
I am so happy how far I've come in no time at all after my breakup a couple of months ago. Sometimes I have set backs but watching videos like this reaffirms how well I have done and how things are and have gotten better 😊 I really value videos like this. Thank you ❤️
Me and my friend stopped talking, I had feelings and told her I needed space, she ended up saying we can't be friends which hurt me, and this helps remind me what I need to do for me. 💪🏼👍🏼
Focus on the things they did that upset you, frustrated you, bothered you. Remember why it's a good thing you aren't together anymore. Wait until you're over it to reflect on the good memories--it's less dangerous that way and you can still remember positive aspects of that part of your life. Just wait a while before you do.
You've no idea how much I needed this video
I haven't started this the video but the title already makes it sound like it's gonna be a sweet video.
Thank you for posting this video, I've literally had the worst night and my relationship is so bad and this has come at the right time as I need a way to get over him x
omg the timing :( I just got dumped Mel I'm heartbroken :'(
Georgina
Georgina Same here, I really feel for you. It's such a shitty feeling 😞
same it sucks
Georgina same😔
This conversation........GOLD 👌!
thank you for having Mike on your channel!! I just subscribed to him, I LOVE his videos! 😁👏👌 they're really helpful, the delivery is hysterical but the sentiment couldn't be more spot on....definitely made my day
This definitely helped me so much :) i found out that a recent ex is getting married soon and watching this made me realize I DID suppress the sad feelings and making myself think I was over it and everything was good and dandy but I hadn't properly allowed myself to feel sad so I was stuck in a numb state of not feeling anything and it sucked cuz someone was interested in me but I couldn't be there in the moment with them so it just didn't affect me ANYWAY long story short, I'm in the process of getting better and working on myself. A lot of changes are happening in my life rn but it's getting there.
SO TRUE! this is my 'anything else'! I'm so sad and my heart is aching, but this video did really help. Thank you ♡♡
Thank you so much for this, Melanie. I'm busy going through such a tough breakup and this really helped. What also REALLY helped (or is helping) is your book! I had to drive away from my ex yesterday.. I moved to a new city to be with him (and really related to the first bit of your book when you moved for your ex too!) it was hilarious to listen to you on audible along my 6 hour drive because I had no idea just how much I would end up relating to it. Not just the breakup stuff but the acne, anxiety, BDD etc too. You've helped me put SO much in perspective and you have no idea how much I appreciate it. I'm so excited for the physical copy I ordered of your book to arrive soon but for now I'm still enjoying it on audible. Have 2 hours left
omg. played this vlog and soo happy that 2 of my faves are on it!!!!
I feel like Mike is always a fountain of good advice. 😄
Oh Melanie, this video is exactly my "anything" right now after a painful break up. Thank you so so much! ❤️
I had a breakup last year with a girl I was dating for a while. She seemed so perfect to me: so kind and smart and funny. I was really falling in love with her, but she said she and her parents were thinking about moving back to where they were from. I said I would go with her, then she said she didn't feel any chemistry when we were together. I thought everything was going so well. She seemed very happy and excited on our dates. I just really wasn't expecting it. I told her once I don't talk much and am pretty quiet, but she said she didn't care and that she could talk for hours if I would listen. I can't help but blame myself and my social anxiety for screwing it up. I just wish I could've had more time with her so she could know the real me. Sometimes I think I'm over her and other times I start missing her so much it hurts. I don't really know what to do. I'll try some of the advice in this video, though.
Thank you so much for this video :)
I need to get over someone I've never actually dated but we were close friends and I repressed my feelings all the time until I couldn't take it anymore. I've realized we can't be friends for now. So now I am in that crying stage :(
My ex broke up with me in June...just 2 days before my birthday as well. I was, and still am, devastated that it happened. Although I have good days, I'm still struggling to get over him. Thanks for doing this video though :)
Ahhhh I love this Melanie! :) I so needed this right now..
This video makes me so happy, words cannot even describe. I'm at the point now where I can watch this and just agree like Mike said lol
I just broke up with someone and I really needed this video. Thanks you guys
such great advice! i learned these things from past breakups but i wish i'd known sooner. great to have a little reminder :)
it helps me a lot thank you so much Melanie :)
I hope one day i will come back to this video and can completely said that i've already came across it , passed through it , and can finally moved on, one day :)
I went through a bad one and done some crazy stuff to cope. Thanks for this. I needed it. And don't feel alone❤️❤️❤️❤️
I'm going through something similar, all though not the same at the moment, and I took your advice "do anything else" and went on an ASMR binge! I feel better all ready!! ❤✌
And you will feel even better, it just takes some time ☺️✨
I have the same struggles and can definitely relate to everything you said . Amazing video !
Dammit why are all my faves uploading at the same time I need sleep Mel but I can't tear my eyes away from CZcams lol
I can't say I've ever had issues moving on after a break up. Although in most instances I've known it was over and made the decision so it wasn't a shock.
I’m the one who did the breaking up today.. he was offering me everything I ever wanted from him but it was too late and too much happened :( it was the hardest decision to make but I made it and I’ve been sobbing all evening but it was the right choice
Thanks I really needed a video about that topic, I recently broke up with my boyfriend and miss him so much. So it's really good to get some advice!
This is certainly a good talk to hear 💛
I love all of your videos Melanie! You are such an inspiration 💗
Omg the ending. I actually doing the thing ye were laughing at. I am watching this video to distract myself, after a break up. It made me laugh and did make me feel better. Can't explain how, but I just feel better. Thanks :)
this mike dude is awesome, loved this convo... his channel is about to blow up!💖✌
I take a lot of time to get over someone, because I'm very picky about the people who I let near my heart. But if they left me or the relationship ends it's even harder for me to let go. I cried a lot and wanted to give up on love. But I'm always hopeful, because I know someone is waiting just for me and will make me forget all the heartbreak I had. It just takes time.
Thank you so much for posting this video. Literally perfect timing for me. Bless you.
I took me soooo long to get over my ex!!This video will help me in future :)
I feel stressed out anytime I go out cause I don't know how to react if I meet him, I'm the most awkward person and the one time I fell in love, I'm still not over it even after 2 years ughhhhh
I stayed "not over it" for 10 years... My advice.. do it now before you waste your life
I'm ready to move on but I just... don't
I've never had to do it since social media has been around but I think I would stalk that part must be so difficult! x
This video is perfecting timing for what's happening to me right now... my boyfriend broke up with me out the blue last week and I keep trying to analyse it all 🙈
This is such a good video guys!! Congrats Mike-- Many years of love and happiness to you :)
I love this video! It helped a lot. Much love, xo
This really helped, it's such a horrible thing to go through. Any advice over having such strong feelings for someone but deep down you know they aren't right for you and it won't work? Thanks x
My boyfriend and I had been together for 3 years and I moved away for a university placement. After only 2 weeks he had stopped talking to me and then broke up with me the week after even though we had said that we would try it long distance. We had talked about kids and marriage and all of a sudden my future wasn't there any more ... it's been nearly 3 months now so I'm getting there now
MrsTeaAddict I wish you luck with moving on. It's a difficult process but remind yourself that you have a long and great future ahead of you. Don't let a breakup destroy you in any way.
only ever went through a really terrible breakup Once and I went against everything you said here, we stayed talking every day to the point where it hurt and I never moved on and checked up on him every day online. 3 months later we got back together and are still together now. but I definitely agree with the thing about how you have to still be yourself and not let the relationship define you because I still feel like I do that sometimes :(
I love this so much! Thank you, Melanie and Mike
Melanie, I really needed this video. Thank you so much.
love you melanie ♡
Thank you Melanie !
I remember sitting outside when you were filming this haha
Just what I needed melanie
Thank you
love you so much you are so inspirational
hope you had a great halloween you made my day
I litterally just broke up with my boyfriend. Like, today. So this really helped. Thank you guys!
This is so useful because I got dumped last night, thanks guys xx
on to the next thing YES
i really needed to hear this, thank you so much❤️
i bloody love Mike
i needed this. thank you 💖
this was so so helpful
Love this video!
I love this. So much.
I really dont wanna talk about my love story...
Its this... Today too love, tomorrow broken heart!!
I love this Melanie, thank you so much!
thank you soooo much for that! it's just what I needed
the perfect video for me at the moment, thank you
My. Two. Faves
Omg i needed this video
Just broke up with my bf of nine years and I feel like I can't fully move on since he'll be moving out towards the end of the month. Breaking up sucks but thanks for this helpful video.
Mike!
Breakups suck! So Melanie, I have a couple questions for you. You've written a couple of books and I was wondering if any are available on Amazon as I love pretty much everything you do. Secondly, you've discussed your relationships with men but I know you are bisexual and wondered about your relationships with women if there have been any significant ones. As always, love you to bits
mike!!: You're everywhere man!
Love you so much !! x
very interesting. I was not gonna watch it, cause I am happy single but I did and it was really interesting.