The Trad Wife Epidemic Is Insane
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"They're selling you a life they don't even have." That sums up the entirity of social media.
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Absolutely!
exactly what i said
"They gotta wait 3-4 business days to get a granola bar." 😆😆
As a gal who lives alone and trying to get away from processed, I am my own trad wife.
Haha me too, me too
But were you a model before?
🤣🤣 love this
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Where did my comment go?
Did CZcams eat it?
As a single male that lives alone, from what I've learned in life.....don't need any type of wife.
Lol love the meme ability of this lady
"My kids asked for Hambergers today, but we ran out of hamberger meat so I decided to make it all from scratch. So first I went to the farm and killed my own cow for the meat"
That's how I cooked in Runescape. "Oop, I need a pizza, time to go kill a few cows, travel the land in search of wheat, cheese, tomato..."
That’s pretty funny ngl and it feels mostly light hearted despite the violence
Well I mean, that’s how hamburgers are made so hey it works 🤷♀️
Went from tradwife to masculine hunting urge 😂
Reminded me of a guy who started to eat exclusively raw meat so he would call a farmer and buy the full alive goat directly from them and then he would kill it and eat
My therapist says “Comparison is the killer of joy” and I love that quote
My favorite quote from whoever is you cannot control what people say, think or do. All you can decide is how you will respond to it. Worrying about things you have no control over is a waste of time and energy.
@@JAM661 Mine is "Never try to prove anything to anyone, time will prove everything."
They are actually misquoting Roosevelt. The quote is:'Comparison is the thief of joy.'
Tradwives on social media make me feel like a microwave chef surrounded by gourmet cooks, trying not to burn my dinner.
I'm actually a chef, and we are trying not to burn that microwave dinner together😂.
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That means that their mission is nearly complete.
Hey hey hey, I cook my frozen pizzas in the oven, like Jesus intended. Because my microwave is broken.
Tatie kris tu avais l'habitude de partager des vidéos de crimes le samedi je pense que tu t'ai trompée de jour car cette vidéo est amusante 😊😊
See, im a chef, and I think this woman is ridiculous 🤷🏼♀️I make things from scratch too but im not so stupid that im going to start a 10hr process when my kids ask me for breakfast, why don’t we go out and find the brush bush and start brushing our teeth with that like they Had to back when we lived in caves, because it’s so cute and fun and trad wifey, yay! I don’t care what anyone says. I’ve worked Tom Douglas restaurants amongst others, I don’t see how get making basic things from scratch means she could work in a high level chef type environment 😂that’s a Hilarious comparison. “Gourmet cooks” LMAO
That said, I think what they’re doing is fine, literally Who Cares but when it gets not ok is when they start with the (and many tik tok trad wives do) “I think it’s so wrong how other women don’t want to live like this” like it’s a travesty we get to be high level chefs in Michelin Star restaurants, doctors, lawyers, and not bound to the kitchen, poor us, Wah. I think promoting that is gross and wrong, I think shoving women into any box is gross and wrong; if there’s non of that, then Go Off, Trad Wife!! lol it’s simple, y’all
The tall glass of sweet tea 💀💀💀 “I could just” gulg gulg gulg💀💀
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Here's the thing about this woman being a "trad wife" ... that's her job. Her literal pays the bills every month job. Those meals she makes everyday ... she is filming it. She is being paid to make those meals. Every single one of her critics would GLADLY make meals for their own family this way if they didn't have to go work 8 hour shifts someplace in order to make someone else rich.
This is absolutely not true. There are plenty of women who would rather do anything but be strapped to the kitchen for their entire adult lives cooking and serving other human beings who are perfectly capable of helping out or even doing the meals themselves. Plenty of men cook and like to do it. Let’s let them do it.
The point is…. It’s her job and she’s choosing to make money doing the work most do for no money. I’m 53, and look at the younger generations arguing about all these things that have already been established…. Do what you will and do what makes you happy and to the haters… just ignore them. Ffs… these are fake made up battles…. Do your thing and who cares about comments on social media 🤦♀️
@@HalfB The problem is our culture only seems to value women who sacrifice themselves. If you stay at home, you’re considered more virtuous but economically vulnerable. If you work outside the home, in the US, you are made to understand in no uncertain terms that any maternity leave or child care is a favor that your employer and our society does not need to provide (because if you stayed at home, it wouldn’t be anyone’s problem). But our nation can’t just have all the women go home and give up their jobs. We also went through that period of time when women were expected to stay home and take care of the kids 24/7 and many women are just not cut out for that. So it is unrealistic and cruel to balance the world’s economy on the backs of women in perpetuity. One of these days women are going to get angry and realize the incredible power they have to remake our nation in a way that works for the biggest majority. That day will be November 5, 2024. If you’re a SAHM, remember that it may be a temporary position. Look out for yourself as if you had to earn a paycheck and vote accordingly for the people who will have your back.
It’s her job but where did the stability to even pursue that come from? Not everyone that just films their life or makes a job of being a SAHM is successful and you have to have some space to fail and still be secure at the end of the day. These are people backed by rich and or successful spouses, families, etc. and they are literally selling an illusion that’s detrimental to everyday moms and young women in general.
Hah! You apparently have no idea how many men work all day just to come home, cook dinner, vacuum, mop, and do dishes while their wives sit around on the couch complaining about how “I’m depressed, you never do enough for me, if you did maybe you’d get lucky once a year.” It’s crazy how when you raise a generation of women to be irresponsible, then you have a generation of literal sl*ts (their brag not my insult), who want to spend their 20’s sucking every man in town then expect some nice guy to marry them before their ovaries dry up and they become unmarriable, almost like they deserve it or something. Then they expect their husband to be okay with a dead bedroom. No, there are plenty of men who do everything for a wife who complains that he’s not doing enough, and quite honestly women are far happier when they don’t get anything they haven’t directly earned. Men don’t like handouts, women don’t like handouts. Granted if you both work the same field, same job, same hours and bring home the same amount of money, chores can be split 50/50 and that’s fair. But that shouldn’t be a lifelong goal either. Eventually the man is going to have to be a man, get a harder job and work more so the woman can work less and spend more time being a mother. That’s how you get rid of misandry, reduce promiscuity and really how you build long lasting relationships. Men and women have their roles. You can’t swap them. You cannot abuse men for the sake of women. Anything but and society collapses as we’re currently seeing right now.
Edit: I have a family and a successful relationship because I earn the money, I manage the money and thus I am solely responsible for the finances. My wife manages the house, cares for me and mine, and in return she is responsible for the state of the house. I do my job so that she can do hers. And because of that, we have a functioning household on one income. Most households are run by selfish women who expect their man to be a slave, and anything less than slavery is “I feel like a slave to you.” The problem is that women do not know happiness because they think happiness is getting stuff they want. And in reality just a small part of happiness is earning things that are more valuable than the stuff you want. Do your part, accomplish your part no matter how hard it is, you feel fulfilled. Get what you want without earning it responsibly, don’t hold yourself accountable for your actions, you become a depressed feminist cat mom.
I love Nara. She's so unserious too! Like "my sister ran out of bubblegum" of COURSE she knows we will find it absolutely absurd.
Babe it wasn't even "my sister ran out" it was "my sister craved some gum" 😭😭like who even craves gum!?!!
@@mannatsharma4536it was both. 🤷♀️
@@mannatsharma4536. Rich kids who want for nothing.
Of course she's not serious. It's fake, and she knows it. What 23 year old, in the history of EVER, can make modern processed foods FROM SCRATCH while wearing a SPOTLESS outfit and then turn the experience into a professionally edited video for social media, while also maintaining an absurdly clean house and raising three children?
Nara Smith is a model. She knows, just like the rest of us, that her career imposes a shelf life on its participants. So she's cashing in on a current trend to make her money while she still can. The fact that people take her seriously is a failing of our educational systems, not the fault of some Mormon model.
@@jmhaugen4757I'm confused... So then, who's nice, clean house is it that she is always standing in? Do you think a wealthy millionaire doesn't have a super-nice, clean home that gets professionally cleaned? Tell me you have never been in a mansion without telling me you have never been in a mansion. They are always clean like that because money. She is making the food from scratch on camera, so obviously she knows how to make it. It isn't just springing into existence on its own. She is probably following recipes. I don't understand how that is unbelievable? She is obviously wearing nice, clean clothes. When they get dirty you just change them.... What part is it that she is faking exactly? I have heard of the wealthy becoming disconnected from the lives of the poor people, but it looks like the same thing happens to the poor people, they can't even fathom how different the wealthy people's lives are compared to theirs.
Here’s the thing I think people forget. feminism is about making the choices you want for yourself. If you want to be a stay at home and be a mom you stay home if you want to be a CEO you can be a CEO. It’s been about choices. I will never tell another woman what choices she should make for herself all i will say is please protect yourself in whatever relationship you choose ladies. ETA not too sure why I can’t respond to the oh but ReLiGoN comment but this conversation is about people who are changing the definition of feminism to fit their own narrative and agenda not religion so if you want to have a conversation about religion and its implications on women might I suggest making a stand alone comment because it would make more sense
Amen!! Was scrolling through to see if anyone posted this yet!
@@mamabridge4710 thank you I appreciate the support. I just don’t understand why people, especially women, are trying to police other women’s lives. If you don’t like the trad wife dynamic don’t be one it really is that simple. Our lives are hard enough without trying to police each other’s lifestyles
@@annieb3883 The thing people hate most trad wives for is that they themselves are disingenuous internalized misogynists who shit on women who work and say that all a woman should ever do is stay home and care for a husband. Also, they don't believe in women going to college, having her own separate money or not being submissive to her husbands, which are all very obvious things that can prevent abusive relationships that most women cannot leave.
The movie “Mona Lisa Smile” said it best for me. When Julia Styles character chooses to be a housewife, you get to choose what you want to be and not because you can’t.
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"...and I'm gonna give my opinion on this because I find it fascinating and it's my channel so I do what I want." 😂
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Preach
None of these tradwives on tiktok are traditional. They are all making money. Feminists like me want people to choose their own lives, but we worry that these examples are unrealistic. SAHMs are exposed to so much risk if their tradhusband leaves, gets hurt, or dies.
💯. My birth mom was a tradwife. She got verbally and financially abused. She couldn't leave. It's not all smiles and dancing in the kitchen while your farmlands work the fields and someone else cleans your kitchen while you play with thre kids.
That's why you are always a WAHM
Lol. What you have said makes no sense. Trad wives can make money, even back in the olden days when women would sell baked goods or knitted clothes for money. Just shut up.
everyone on social media is making money, i don't see you complaining about them. You are literally watching a video of someone just making money and you don't say stupid things against her do you? everything on social media is unrealistic but you only care to complain about the things that you don't like or envy. The idea that "you can do everything" is unrealistic and it has been the motto of the group you claim to belong to for decades.
I just think it’s funny that people equate “farmer” with “poor”. I assumed she was rich because land and farms are crazy expensive. Maybe people who have only lived in big cities their whole life just have no concept of what country life is really like.
City people 100% do NOT have any concept🤣 I grew up on a dairy farm & then went to college right outside of NYC. I moved back home after college & had a few old college friends come visit. The thing that folks don't understand is that 'farm' is vastly different from region to region. In MY upstate NY farming community, we are all broke ass poor😂. We are routinely holding any piece of equipment together with baling twine or old fencing LOL. And it is actually a very economically depressed rough area - not very beautiful or idyllic in many ways. My friends could not get over the soul crushing poverty that I am surrounded by (they thought only poor people & druggies lived in the hood) & had the impression that everyone in my area lived on small, cute, well-kept farms with little red barns & chickens running around. What they were not prepared for was the meth heads living down the road in a shitty trailer with no skirting & junk cars everywhere & CPS & the state police being a constant presence on our road, no running water, etc... LOL. But if you look at regions of USA with farms like Ballerina Farms, absolutely MUST be wealthy. With acreage going for $3,000+ PER ACRE. Yeah, $$$$$$$. And good for her. Wish it was me. my farm? baling twine & old fencing has to do for now.
Farm people are sometimes cash poor (especially if they keep buying more farmland), but these dates farmers tend to be extremely wealthy asset-wise because of the extreme appreciation in farmland prices.
@@tarazieminek1947 only out west, I think. No farm families around my area are land wealthy, asset wealthy or cash wealthy. What you are referring to are farms like ranches. & big agri-businesses that should not even consider themselves farms/farmers. Dairy farmers in my region make the same hundred weight milk check that they were making in the 1970s.
Also one of the reasons Nara makes everything homemade is because she used to suffer from SEVERE eczema and removing most processed food from her diet healed her skin
One of my friends had to do this. And can really only wear certain fabrics so her style is very specific because of it.
I have to make a lot of things from scratch at home due to allergy to onions. So many day to day foods have onion or onion powder or onion salt I can’t eat. I’m not glamorous when I cook and I cook in bulk and freeze it, but it’s still my reality not being able to buy shop bought food.
I just like natural fibers and unprocessed foods as much as possible, so I started taking inspiration from them.
And yet these internet addicts are so happy to make fun of her and detract from her successes. If someone they didn't like did it, it would be "ableism" to them. But when they do it, it's fine.
I believe she was brought up with her mother preparing food this way.
Not the kids being named like Disney princesses and villains
for real, if I wasn't a middle-aged grandpa with like no hope of ever naming a child again, Whimsy just moved to the top of my girl's names list.
Reminds me of kids that are named things like “hope” or “Justice”
To be fair some Disney names are in my opinion good and if not too weird sounding there's nothing wrong, but if someone call their kid Simba then they should have someone else to change their name.
@@cheese-and-ricemooney7487There is a girl named Simba on YT.
I wonder if they're just code names so they don't give out their identity without consent
The kids have to wait 3 to 4 business days for a homemade meal.
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The "from scratch" thing is definitely performative, and successfully generates engagement
she has SEVERE eczema so she has to make things from scratch. But yeah, some things may be a lil troll
I have multiple food allergies so I have to make everything from scratch but I don’t post it online. I just run our household while my husband works outside the home. It’s just a normal traditional set up and I’m very happy not needing to juggle work with housework and hiring someone else to raise my kids.
Why do some people think that you’re being lazy to raise your own kids, then they hire a nanny to do it for them? A nanny does less around the home than a wife does, yet she gets paid for it and the wife has to work full time in order to afford it? Makes no sense. It’s just propaganda so that more people are working and the government gets paid more taxes.
Can we also remind ourselves that tradwife influencers are not even tradwives, they're influencers first. They have their career in making content, and they make money from that. In case of Nara Smith, likely even quite a bit. That's a whole lot different than just a stay at home mom who cooks, cleans and raises their kids.
They have money and support, too. It's unrealistic for most "traditional" stay at home moms/wives to be able to do it all, especially in today's world.
I think that the outrage is misplaced but I understand how some people may feel that even though they are technically not a traditional wife they are still using their platform to promote traditional patriarchal values. Personally I don’t see this as being any different than someone like the barefoot contessa with the exceptions that it’s not the cooking network and this woman is extremely young.
Yeah I think people forget that she makes content for money, and she chose aesthetic cooking videos
Yes, someone who dresses like her to make homemade food, who looks impeccable, she's got a crew helping her. Someone's watching the kids, someone's helping with the house, probably someone is buying and prepping the food she makes and there's a cameraperson/editor. She might even have someone doing her hair/makeup.
If anyone has actually made any kind of food, especially with kids around, nothing ever looks like that. 🤣
yeah, nara smith is on maternity leave bc she is a supermodel and she was pregnant so she started cooking from scratch more because she had the time 🤷🏽♀️
I’m a feminist, but I don’t think these tradwives are problematic unless they’re trying to force others to live like them. Honestly, if they themselves aren’t being forced to do it, and they actually enjoy it, then hell, let them live their lives that way. They aren’t hurting anybody. These two certainly don’t seem to be. There ARE some tradwives who try to coerce or manipulate people (Classically Abby), but they’re the minority, and I think we shouldn’t waste our energy harassing the NON-problematic ones, who are the majority of tradwives.
Agreed. Feminism is about choices, not one right choice for every woman. Also, caring for children, cooking, cleaning has a clear economic value, as anyone who outsources those jobs knows.
Was gonna post the same thing! I couldn’t agree more- it’s all about choice of the life you wanna live, no forcing one set path. The only time when I feel tradwives (or anyone for that matter) need to be called out is when they’re saying it must be forced as the only path in life!
I think what most take issue with is in (at least in the back of their head) they feel like they are being sold on something, most these videos have a tone to them. I am not so sure people really have a problem with what they are doing but more how its making them feel. For me personally I get an overwhelming feeling of fakeness when I see these that I just can't quite put my finger on if that makes sense. But then there are people that just want to be mad at something XD so there is always that too. I don't know why people have a need to attack people though even if their content makes them feel something they dont like. I am only referencing the ones not trying to recruit to be clear, because thats a whole topic onto itself.
We should all be going after Pearl, not this chick. She’s just doing her thing and sharing it with all of us. Idk why people are mad. Her life is goals for me lol
@@mromutt You cant use the argument "they feel like they're being sold on something" when thats literally the entire influencer space in every single category, you're ALWAYS being "sold" on something, whether or not you're gullible/impressionable enough and fall into the sell, thats on you.
I remember growing up in the '70s and '80s when the Trad Wife was known as a "Donna Reed," wearing her pearls and vacuuming in high heels. This is nothing new. My mother was a "traditional wife." She stayed home to raise us; she made our Halloween costumes from scratch. She would sometimes take my doll when I fell asleep and put a new dress on her that she had just sewn to surprise me in the morning. Our food was homemade most of the time. She didn't wear fancy clothes and full face makeup, but she wasn't trying to impress TikTok. Society needs a lot more of people like her.
Well, in Donna Reed’s day, she couldn’t have a bank account or credit card in her own name, so let’s be realistic about what life was like for women until 1974. That’s great that your mom did all that, as long as it was her choice, and she wasn’t forced or pressured into it.
Exactly. @@kconway2263
They still exist, they just aren’t on tik tok. 😉
It doesn't matter a bit if that's what they want, it's only weird when you yap about how superior you are to other people and how it's the only correct way to live life.
my mom was like this too. stay at home mom. home cooked meal six nights a week the family sits down to eat together. now my daughter and i eat takeout in different rooms. i miss my mom
They seem to be very inoffensive people trying to show their traditional lifestyle.
What I have issues with (and would love to hear your thoughts on) are the "tradwifes" that diss feminism and try to sell that "women should be doing this, not going out and having a career".
That is the toxic side of the "conspiracy" and I think ignoring that and saying "why are people just hating on these women on the internet?!" Is disingenuous.
"You think I'm actually real? No, Im actually an adorable tiny alien piloting a human vehicle vessel made of silicone fiber" 🤣💀💀
So happy she did the Men in Black Reference
She really embracing the texan accent and life😂😂
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There's nothing more satisfying than watching objective commentary! It's getting harder and harder to find content that's not delulu. I'm subbing to keep my brain cells intact
😂😂 I agree. I just came across this and watching while I type. This is what being objective and unbiased is Iike. And she's being fun with it too.
the whole world has gone delusional...esp. men pretending to be women and allowed to beat women in sports, invade our public spaces... allowing children to get mutilated... mad I tell ya .
I grew up LDS/Mormon. It’s a lifestyle-based religion where you regularly participate in activities on a weekly basis (not just on Sundays) with everyone, regardless of income. One of the teachings is that everyone will always face trials in life, so many activities focus on learning how to do things from scratch because you're supposed to be prepared for emergencies. Both men and women are encouraged to teach each other. Many of these skills are basic things you do regularly, which can become simple if they're already part of your regular lifestyle.
People think Nara does this for every meal and snack and its definitely not, she posted a grocery haul the other day and the amount of frozen and prepackaged food they bought was crazy. So they are still a very normal family she just highlights the stuff that she does make
This! It’s crazy people assume “kiddo walked into room and asked for X so I made it then and there” is real. Let’s be honest, even if she wasn’t grocery shopping, people seem to forget meal prepping and video editing exist.
I bet she would get so many followers by unpacking a frozen dinner and putting it in the oven!
Ofc people want to see stuff get made, not what they do themself everyday!
Its just a spin on a cooking channel. It has a storyline. That's all.
Kris is like a highlighter
We grab a pencil
Kris grabs a highlighter
We plan out our day
And she makes it brighter
Love u kris x
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So true
Had to read that a couple times, but, yes, I agree.
Before I even finish the video, I personally think feminism is about doing what you want as a woman. Whether that’s working or staying at home. These “tradwives” though are glamourizing a life that’s not possible for most. The only women who can afford to be a “tradwife” is a woman who has a husband with tons of money. True stay at home moms deserve props. These women are monetizing a lifestyle they don’t need to
I grew up in the 90s with a lot of processed food because it was cheap. I have three kids now, and I prepare nearly all of our meals from whole ingredients. It's gone from a healthy habit to just daily life.
the compliments are getting more and more creative😭
More and more sus
aren't you just a tall glass o' tea? i could just *GULP GULP GULP GULP*
“FFS Mom, how long does it take to make me a bloody PB&J?!!” Ralphie’s mom has one whipped up in like 5 minutes. 😂😂😂
I'm guessing your British?
@@jillgroo6359
Canadian. Cheers
@@badgergearcompound7667 I want you to know that us Australians think of Canadians as the favourite uncles :)
Are we not going to talk about how the LDS Church DOES have a creator program where they incentivize their members to post 'traditional, family oriented content' as a means to promote their faith? Or are we just... gonna overlook that and try to make this seem like it's a lighthearted and no ill intended thing? I mean, this is the same community that also encouraged RUBY FRANKE and JODI HILDEBRANT, who are currently in PRISON for harming kids via the content they made online. It feels weird and misguided to sweep all of that under the rug. People are valid to be wary of the content.
I’m a member of the Church of Jesus Christ of Latter Day Saints and I’ve never heard of such a program. How did you find information about it? Also I’d just like to point out that Nara is not really affiliated with the church and doesn’t promote it.
@@Emily-uc4mxexcept she is indeed Mormon. You haven’t heard of the creator program because the church wouldn’t benefit from you knowing about it.
Thank you.
Sooo where can I find the information on it/ evidence for it?
@@Emily-uc4mx Do you know how youtube comments work? I can't link anything or it gets flagged as spam. How am I supposed to link you "evidence" if those links will just disappear the moment I post them?
I actually completely agree with Kris on this one. Yes, Nara might just be one of the coolest people out there, and although the trad wife lifestyle might not be for everyone, everyone should love and take care of their family, and I suppose at the end of the day we could really learn something from her. Being a mom of three at 23 years old is impressive, and I wish I was that strong. ❤❤
Its way easier when you marry into a millionaire family and have heaps of staff behind the scenes actually watching your kids while you spend 4 hours making a pb&j. She's so disingenous, dont fall for it.
@@thangle13 I'm not "falling" for anything. I am simply admiring the fact that she decided to stand out in asociety where it is apparently only acceptable for women to be workaholic "boss babes" that are still single at age 30. She's different, and looks happy being different. Sure, it might not be exactly how she makes it seem in the videos, but nothing is 100% real today. I love her channel and will keep doing so.
@@LydiaLove49 enjoy living a lie :)
It’s not impressive to have a bunch of kids at 23 😂 my mom had 3 by 24, it was not glamorous
@@christahewitt2758 True true 😅 In my opinion tho, the real impressive part is that she seems to enjoy it. I feel like it's rare to find someone these days who's a young mom and looks happy being it
As an older woman I support women doing what they want. What is worrying is that young women may think that’s what real life is like. Who is looking after her children while she’s cooking, they must be young and in real life cooking elaborately and childcare don’t go together, and self care is non existent. In fact getting to the toilet by yourself is impossible ❤️🏴
This was my concern as well. It is admirable what she does. There is just a hint of being inauthentic that I can’t exactly put my finger on. But hopefully I’m just being cynical.
Yes, this! And I think she is infact hurting other women by portraiting her life as if it is normal, and make them doubt themselves for their REAL and messy lives. Not to mention: Where are the men caring for the kids and food? Ugh, na, really not my cup of tea.
My husband provides de money for me to cook and take care of our children and it is beautiful, yes it is not easy but it is posible, and if you don’t like it don’t do it they are not making you watch the videos😂😂😂😂😂
@@CuteAngeliica I did not make any judgement on anyone in my comment, as long as you’re happy with your life that’s all that matters, I only expressed a concern that a young person may look at this content and think it’s reality.
Yeah, I really miss those days. But now I have grandchildren that accompany me to the toilet. I LOVE IT!!!!!
I love making things from scratch, being a mom, caring for kids, decorating my house, taking care of people…I hate cleaning and doing dishes, though.
If women want a career, go for it. If women want to be wives and mothers, go for it. Women should be respected and supported for whatever positive choices they make.
If I could afford to stay at home and be a full-time mom, it would be my dream life.
I am wondering... why so many people see only two ways? Tradwife or a girlboss. There are so many other ways to live once life. You can have both if you want, you can have neighter if you want too. To each their own.
I had two blessed years of being a stay at home mom. Then I had to send my son to preschool, because I had to work part-time to support the family.
I don't want either but I gotta pay the bills and I have an aging parent so I work. Sometimes it's not even about what people want or don't want.
My funny theory is that the kids always ask for something different bc they just want to wake up and EAT so they always try to say something thinking "mom can't make yoghurt from scratch.... right? I can eat now.... right?" as they get progressively more frustrated having to wait hours for their food lol
This reminds me A LOT of Martha Stewart Living, where she made every single thing from scratch. It's a good skill to have. And like any media, whether it's TikTok or TV shows, HER VIDEOS DO NOT REFLECT REALITY.
THANK YOU! This is the most balanced and level headed take I've seen. My mom was 19 when she got married (my dad was 21) and she had two kids before 25 and by her 30s had five of us 😂 but it's what SHE wanted. My dad never forced anything on her, he loved having kids, but it was my mom who wanted a ton of kids. It was my mom who made the choice to homeschool us and threw my dad for a loop. Husbands can be controlling, but acting like any woman who chooses that lifestyle is being controlled by a man and has no brains is incredibly insulting. Women fought for the ability to choose what to do with our lives and now any woman who makes the CHOICE to stay home is immediately vilified as an enemy of women and it shouldn't be that way.
Also to clarify, I am in no way mormon. 👀
*controlling
No doubt that dad did his own thing too.
My sister accidentally had her first at 16, but discovered that being a mom is her absolute passion. I've had to beg her to stop having kids 😂
I agree with everything you said except controlling can be on both sides
@@bt4953Controlling CAN be on both sides you know?
It is more common between men that they are controlling but if you believe a woman can't be controlling (coming from a woman) you need a reality check if you genuinely believe a woman can't be controlling.
I think its a tricky topic. Historically women were indeed forced to do these things and so i think some people see it as a glorification of the patriarchy that kept them down for so long.... but the thing is.... CHOICE is what women have been fighting for.... what we ALL have been fighting for all this time, so if she is now afforded the CHOICE and autonomy to be a traditional house wife, more power to her. I think the out rage comes from the fact that there is an epidemic of DV and domestic servitude that still going on in sooooo many homes still and THOSE women feel silenced and trapped in their own houses. I think you are absolutely correct that it matters more about how this sort of content is portrayed. The ties into religion is just a mine feild in its own right.
Trad wife propaganda isn’t about choice. It’s political weaponisation for an economic agenda.
Best comment, coming from a woman who would love to be a stay at home wife to my future husband, but also as a woman with a history of dv, your comment gets both sides. It's really tricky territory because honestly it's up to the behaviour of the provider for a traditional home on how they treat there family and that can be risky to predict when getting into a more traditional situation hence the high rates of dv ect
Women have been forced to serve at home just as much as men have been forced to go out to make a living.
Trapped sums it up! 😢
Additionally I think the outrage wouldn't be so big if she just called herself a housewife.
The name tradwife means traditional wife and traditionally married women weren't allowed to work and therefore had no money of their own. But she does make money with social media. Meaning she's not really traditional.
Which would be fine if she just said it
It's easy to vacuum dressed up,but everything else:mopping floors scrubbing toilets,scrubbing other things,thorough cleaning,messy cooking you can't do dressed up,you would get your clothes dirty,that's realistic.
That's what aprons are for - to keep the splats from damaging your clothes.
Those women are fake af. I can’t understand how there are people supporting those lies and the other ones who are just ok with it 🙄
I'm not a trad wife but... You can't mop the floors dressed up? I often clean while wearing dresses, I like them. The only problem might be sweating, do you mean getting it dirty with dirt? Or sweat?
I swear it's a genuine question, I just don't get it when people say this
@@mist3995 you can be dressed up but you won’t mop in your evening gown, come one. Be real, please. These people are faking it all 🙄
@@kherise Neither the original comment here nor I said anything about evening gowns
Thank you, Kris. When I subscribed to the Ballerina Farm channel, I did not become a Mormon, did not get married, and did not change my views. I just added a couple of fun songs to my playlist and finally made dinner instead of buying processed food, and my stomach thanked me. 😂
I think part of the issue around this topic is that these women are glorifying being a “trad wife” , when in fact it is their job and they are able to provide for themselves. The problem is when young girls and women look up to this thinking that it’s a great idea to become a housewife and rely solely on a man. Dependence on a man can be very dangerous for a woman, or it can work out beautifully. Risky business.
Agree completely. This was a great video with several good, common sense reminders of how we should be consuming social media. However, I also agree with you completely - it’s a really important aspect that wasn’t discussed. I don’t care about the “it’s not realistic” aspect, I absolutely worry about the people who fall for the romanticized trad wife lifestyle and become 100% financially dependent on someone else. People should understand the risk of that choice. I don’t think I blame the influencers completely…it’s a broader issue - but in a way, I also think it’s irresponsible given the size of some of the platforms.
Great job presenting a common sense way to look at these women. They're living their lives the way they want to, and if you don't like it, don't watch. I will never understand the desire to attack someone who isn't causing harm.
Its so sad... I think its people who feel like a failure when they see somebody else win big living their best life...
well the issue is that they could very well be causing harm. like one person said, they're selling you propaganda and the illusion of a life that they themselves don't even live. it's a very far-right "women belong in the kitchen barefoot and pregnant" ideology that in turn attacks feminists and the very idea of gender equality. i don't think it's harmless to promote an ideology that demands women accept subjugation and subservience in their marriage.
the only problem i have is that it took 2 hours to make jelly for a pb&j for her kids and thats just crazy to me
@@gamespc-zi6zo Yeah, it takes hours to make some stuff, and can't be made spur of the moment. Preparing/making generally needs to be planned ahead. I love making things from scratch, but the time involved does put a damper on it at times. 🤷🏻♀️
If they are members of the LDS church ( or Mormon), then they are causing harm. To be a member, you have to pay tithes which the LDS church then uses to cause harm to others. Same with other tradwives who are religious and attend churches that cause harm. Like Estee, the blonde woman with curls shown in the intro. She is extremely transphobic and homophobic.
I am one of those people who love cooking from scratch on a regular basis. I'm good at it and it makes me so happy when my kids and husband gush over how much they enjoy it. Or when hubs tells me his co-workers were jealous of his leftovers. My 6 year old will even tell me "mom I can really feel the love in this food." Having office jobs sucked the soul out of me, homeschooling my kids and cooking for my family gave me breath again.
The algorithm has been shoving anti-trad wife videos down my throat, this is the first one I’ve seen that actually follows common sense instead of emotional jealousy. New sub for sure!!
My grandmother used to make everything from scratch for us. She was always baking, cooking, making crafts. I absolutely loved being around her and learned so much from her. I think it’s a beautiful, healthy atmosphere to be in a loving home that caters to everyone’s needs.
Growing up with my grandmother was some of the best times of my life.
I think some people just feel inadequate compared to her and that’s where their hate stems from.
We should support each other and not bring each other down.
Get it together people. ❤each other.
💯 facts ❤
Agree we have so many childhood memories of stealing cookie dough out the mixer or your mom or grandmother allowing you to lick out the icing down of brownies of cakes 😂 as a South African it is sooooooooo normal to make everything from scratch.
Yeah but, it's not the 1950's! 🙄
@@ASW-kk7yz she can however live her life how she wants, that's the beauty of living in 2024
Well said ❤
While I don't live that lifestyle, I'm not going to judge someone who does as long as that they are doing it willingly, it makes them happy, and they aren't trying to make others live the same way. We all have things that we enjoy. I love to crochet. Am I supporting the patriarchy by making animals, blankets, clothing, from yarn? Love this reaction Kris!
Somewhere (Etsy?) I saw adorable tiny animals, hearts, butterflies and such made as refrigerator magnets! OT, yes, but you reminded me of that lol
I think the point is that it's harmful to women's lib. We have tried for so long to be equals to men and not be seen as submissive, baby factories. Most women these days do not want that lifestyle and seeing it pop up everywhere is trying to force women back in the kitchen barefoot and pregnant. Look at the US with the Christofascism that's going on. They're trying to turn back the clock and take away a women's right to choose their lifestyle. I think it's harmful to women who just want to live their lives and not be forced into something they don't want. Men will probably stumble across these videos and go "see this is what women really do want!" I would bet that most tradwives are being forced into the role because they got stuck and/or brainwashed into thinking that's what their whole life should be. Maybe not these tiktockers but they're certainly not helping matters by saying "Oooh look at me all perfect and pristine while I make my family a 5 course meal from scratch." They're fueling the fire. It's the Donna Reed ideology. Gotta be perfect for the husband. Gotta have dinner on the table at a certain time. Gotta clean house while looking voluptuous in case the man shows up while she's scrubbing the toilet. It's freakin' fairy tale.
Fr why are people judging clearly all of this is just for views.
@@267calyou must be new to social media, lol. This is nothing new. Everything is for content. People commit crimes for content nowadays for heaven's sake, is it truly so shocking that people making cookies for 8 hours would go viral, along with the outrage and unnecessary hate for it?
Completely agree. The only problem is that there are soooo many people who do it unwillingly and are trapped because of it. 💔
The fact that you are so humble and supportive of a fellow creator, regardless of the backlash they're experiencing... that's what will bring me back to your videos every time.
You are so sweet and kind and totally right (at least about Nara, I haven’t made it past that part yet). It’s a lack of time and a pinch of jealousy, gently fold in some internalized feelings of inadequacy and wait 3-5 business days for freshly baked rage.
The ones who vocally tell people they aren’t good enough are the real issue.
Can we take a second to appreciate Kris for literally putting so much work into these videos and still managing to post these EVERY 3 DAYS??!! You’re so talented keep doing what you’re doing!
GLADLY
Infortunatelly people transformed something supposed to be fighting for equality over to hating men
Her edit man is also pretty darn fantastic 😻 Great team 🙌🏻
This was filmed in her Canada home. But she never ceases to amaze.
I have said it before on her videos, Kris is amazing.
I'm pretty certain Nara already has a lot of this stuff premade for her family when they want/need it (especially the stuff that takes 3-5 business days to make), and the videos are literally just her showing the process of how she made it as well as making the next batch in case they're running low on it. I am honestly really jealous of her, I wish I had the time and energy to make food from scratch, it's just so much more satisfying that way.
And the money...
My thought exactly, she's not showing later in the week when she's making sandwiches out of the leftover bread she made earlier. She's also not presenting it as "make my weekly loaf of bread with me" but that doesn't mean that those things aren't reality. I had a neighbor man growing up who was in his 90s and every week he still made his loaf of bread for that week. It's not like she's making every single thing every single day.
It's fairly easy to be energetic when you're under the age of 25 and don't have a commute.
@@rosericmercedes2460it’s way cheaper to make food yourself.
Kids ask for a granola bar before they have to quickly leave the house and then they have to wait 3 to 4 business days to get their snack🤣🤣🤣🤣 that was great
Chef here. Most of these trad"wives" aren't making even mediocre food. They make the effort and time in preparation blown out of proportion. It is a flex that they have the time, money, and means to make stuff we all yearn to do on the daily - live a silent, cozy, and safe life
There's definitely a class element to this. This kind of lifestyle requires a level of financial safety that is non-existent for a substantial number of U.S households, and it's only getting worse. That quality time you discuss at 11:30 is hard when mothers have to work multiple jobs to make ends meet. Trad Wife content makes women feel guilty about not living up to certain standards that they can't meet (whether or not creators like Nara Smith intended to do so or not).
Its not supposed to be relatable. Its supposed to be aspirational. Its no different to those glossy lifestyle magazines that people had on their coffee tables. I enjoy seeing pretty faces, sleek homes, delicious home cooking and cute smiling children dressed smartly. There is nothing wrong with it. Even if you are not well off, seeing aesthetically pleasing things is still nice. If it makes you feel poor and miserable, thats your problem. But dont bitch and moan and make everyone else accept that they are an issue for liking or creating this kind of content
@@elizabeth.601 Yeah, but it's so glossed up it's hard for it to be even aspirational. It just feels unrealistic, and I think some women can get mislead by that, perhaps. Most families these days have to have both parents work for pay for stuff (a regular old nothing-burger house is A MILLION DOLLARS), so making cereal from scratch for anyone other than these highly successful, wealthy influencers is just really kinda annoying, But, yay, good for them.
The content doesn't *make you* feel anything. Your feelings are yours. Take responsibility for them.
If you go into every video expecting to either see either a 1:1 replica of your life (If everything was this, it'd be useless.) or something to whine about because it's different (Many things are this. The human life is not a single, universal experience. We have differences, and that's a good thing.), you're putting your feelings on the chopping block with every vid.
If you go into each vid with the sober realization that you don't have to insert yourself into everything, your feelings don't need to go whacky. It's that easy.
@@elizabeth.601then that's propaganda
I can't afford to put 3 kids in daycare, my entire paycheck would go to just that (not including the gas money to get and come from work)
The hair is giving Kirsten Dunst as Mary Jane vibes. I love it.
Or Selphie from final fantasy 8.
I honestly think Kris has the ability to pull off most hair colors. Maybe it's her skin tone. Or maybe I just think she is so cool and pretty she can do no wrong! 😆
I am, however, very partial to this shade of red and I love the bangs with the hair up. I used to try to do this with my hair but it never came out right.
Or Clary Fairchild. :)
I'm with the tradwives. My wife and I have lived this way for 14 years now (13 with a son) and we're both very happy we did.
People forget that farming is a business. Most farmers are running big business and have a couple of employees.
I respect and appreciate the hell out of how balanced this take is...
'TradWife' - like anything else - is just a social construct, and one we're very much viewing through rose-colored glasses...easy to do, 70+ years later!
The most important thing to be is happy, and that looks different for everyone.
I very much want to be something similar to a tradwife in the future. I want to take care of my beloved but in no way do i think other women can’t do what they want with their lives.
I dont get why people are so mad at a tradwife for doing what she wants when they’re happy.
@@autophobiac.
Thank you for responding, it made me realize that I should definitely have expressed something more clearly: by no means am I criticizing or judging TradWife life! It's obviously not for everyone, but it's very clearly 'for' a whole bunch of people!
Personally, I feel much the same as you...while not a TradWife, I am a homemaker, and I take a lot of pride in my home, in how much money my work at home saves us, and how happy my husband is when I present him with a home-cooked meal!
Especially nowadays, 'TradWife' can be a challenging lifestyle to live, and I have a lot of respect for anyone passionate and committed enough to pursue it so wholeheartedly.
Nobody should be criticized for living the life that makes them happy, as long as they're safe! (....unless they're criminals.)
Much love, all the best!
I was thrilled, when at age thirty, I got to be a stay-at-home mom. It was the toughest job I ever loved. And yes, I guess you could call me a tradwife. When the school years came around, I was free to work, volunteer and have more time for myself. I am now retired. My life has been wonderful and continues to be so.
That is not what being a trad wife is. I'm also a stay at home mom, also the happiest i've ever been, i consider it an incredible privilege to be able to stay with my son, and i love to keep a clean and beautiful home for my family. But i am not a tradwife, BECAUSE i don't think it is my role to do so. It's what i chose to do, and every woman has the right to chose to do what make them happy. Stay at home and nurse your baby until 3 ? Awesome ! Go back to work as soon as you can because you need to have a life outside the house ? Perfect ! As long as it is the right choice for you, do whatever you want !
A tradwife will tell you it is your role, your mission in life, that a woman is born to serve their family. That's where the toxicity lies.
@@scan606 well said. Above totally missed the point. 🙄
Tradwife is more "let's be the 1950s stereotype." It's about following the marketed idea that women and men should've been. When in reality even people in the 1950s were that.
whatever babe. you do you
no you're not a tradwife. Tradwife is internet speak for the women who think every woman should do this and shames people who live differently.
In six weeks postpartum, I am envious of her postpartum journey. My body has not snapped back. Still, at the end of the day I am just grateful to be a mother.
Around 8:48
I could imagine being one of her kids "hey mom can you make me granola bars for next monday?
I know itll take 3 buisness days so im asking before the weekend rush .
Im sure they have a LOT less preservatives and stuff so, if she has that energy more power to her I guess, probably easy to make stuff from scratch here and there if you do it all the time.
My depression could never , to be honest with all that, however I do enjoy cooking and its nice to show love through cooking.
I hope she does premake fresh food though like a cooking show and feeds her kids then makes whatever for the tiktok while the finished food is in the background
I recently learned I'm autistic. A modern life in a city is filled with LOTS of overwhelming stimulation, and I am constantly burned out and having meltdowns, and feel guilty for skill regression.
But walking through a forest? Doing dirty work caring for animals? Digging in dirt, building my own furniture, cooking/baking from scratch? SO invigorating! I have always imagined myself on a homestead, loooong before cottagecore and tradwife trends came to be. Now it almost makes me hesitant to admit that I would rather be at home than commuting to a workplace.
The point of feminism is not telling women to not do "traditional" things; it's because "feminine" things are criticized in ALL people, and ALL people should be able to do what they want (as long is it jt doesn't harm anyone), is inclusive and intersectional, and ALL people are valued equally and treated equitably, no matter what they choose to do.
Sure, people should be honest, constantly remind their viewers that they just see the glamorous times, and even give a glimpse of the hard times. But that's across ALL social media. CEO? Independent contractor? Mom? Social worker? Vanlifer? Whatever, just don't over glamourize it, be honest, and disclose that not every lifestyle is built for everyone 👍
This! I'm autistic as well and I find being at home much more comforting. If in the future I am given the chance to work remotely while also be able to take care of the house and the kids, I'd love to. The outside world is overstimulating, often times stifling, but I know not everyone has the same world view.
Autistic? Of course you are.
You two are autistic too? Isn't it great?
Femininity is so beautiful. It also terrifies a lot of people and so they want to suppress it in themselves and in others. It is the freedom to be creative. To be nurturing and to be emotional. That kind of vulnerability requires incredible courage. This can feel quite intimidating to people who don’t understand it fully. Don’t let them influence you. Do what feels right for your feminine nature ❤
why not glamorize your life? i glamorize everything i touch. not for social media (which i don’t post on) but for my own enjoyment, & for everyone around me.
My grandma used to Love to cook for her family and friends.
I never saw her happier when she'd be slaving over the stove to provide fresh home grown, homemade food for people that Loved it and she Loved.
When I was caregiving for her, I learned how to make some of the favorites like corn dogs, biscuits and gravy, macaroni salad, and turkey salad...
It made her soooo happy and hard work is very rewarding.
Something this country has a hard time comprehending
wanna share that corn dog recipe? :)
@@TriSci42 I'll have to locate it, but it might have been an old old Betty Crocker recipe that was simply cornmeal, self rising flour, some sugar and salt...you know, the basics.
But she preferred foster farms chicken franks, unpackaged, laid out on paper towels, covered in paper towels, and allowed to warm up to room temperature to discourage any condensation or sweating from the weiners.
That was very important to her recipe, using those franks and getting them warmed up.
We bought wooden dowels from the hardware store and cut them to length and even used clothespins screwed to a piece of wood to hang the dogs into the hot oil.
@@TriSci42 oooo can't forget the powdered mustard mixed into the batter either
Your perspective is that she loved it. Most of our grandmothers had no choice so they had to act like they loved doing all that shit, when really they were dying on the inside. Not saying this was how your grandma truly felt, just saying it's easy for you to say that what she projected on the outside was the absolute truth.
@@JS-dv9ji well then...who is really dying on the inside right now???
Kris! You scared me with the click bait, I thought you were going to jump on the train and drag the trad wife concept, but I love this, and I love you! ❤️
19:40
K-“ I think people are just bored”
Me- (with this being my only social media) “thats why im here”
I am 60 years old and grew up very poor. My Mom cooked everything we had from scratch because it was cheaper then "boxed food" My Mom also worked 40 hours a week and has a hour drive to work each day. When I got old enough I was taught how to start dinner so we could eat at a reasonable time. I am grateful for learning to bake and cook at a young age. I can make something that tastes good from very little found in my cubberts.
When visiting my son who now lives in Colombia, South America they do not ever have a word for "homemade" because everything that cook IS homemade. Americans really need to realize there is a whole world out there where people cook and like to have children young while they are young and then get to enjoy being old and travel in their 50's.
Great video Kris!!
My goodness, how times have changed! I thought I'd be saving money by baking our sweet treats and making homemade toiletries (shampoo, toothpaste) etc....but even in 2018 before all the hyper-inflation, it turned out to be a lot more affordable to just buy the Chips Ahoy and Live Clean stuff from the store. (You're pretty much screwed either way if you're celiac with the gluten intolerance like my BFF.) Buying all the ingredients adds up fast! It's quite sad, really.
@@gypsywoman9140 Yep! It is horrible how fresh food (especially produce but also animal or plant proteins) is more expensive than ultra processed crap nowadays...
"tall glass of sweet tea" and "im kris the trad wife and you can call me kris the trad wife" got me rolling on the floor
Somebody needs to tell her kids to ask for things with asparagus (2 years to grow), fugu (puffer fish sushi), authentic kimchi (must be buried months or years as I recall), and french foie gras.
Then she could show her level of talent and dedication to provide authentic home made food.
Can confirm. Not only are genuine trad wives too busy to be social media influencers, their values wouldn't allow for it.
I dont know if Kris is slowly becoming Oompa or Oompa is slowly becoming Kris, but Krimpa is all that remains
Oompis
@@AngryKittens Translated to English is "Uncle Piss" though 😮😂
Oompis supremacy😂✨
I didn't even know they were dating and I started watching his videos recently. I thought to myself wait they are quite similar...I guess I know why now hahaha
Kroompa villins
I come from a background where a tradwife is someone devoutly religious and genuinely oppressed, and I think some of the backlash towards the internet version of tradwives is the potential erasure of the real abuses many irl tradwife communities face.
That being said, I think you did a great job covering the two women you chose to focus on. Neither seem to be oppressed within their relationships or communities, and they seem to simply have enough privilege to live the life they want. The hate they are getting is largely unwarranted.
@@elizabeth.601 this person: i have witnessed cases where traditional lifestyles were used to opress women
you: but i am not oppressed!! it did not happen to me personally so it can't be real!! women can only be submissive there is no other way of life!!!
(p.s. you can work a job that satisfies you, abusive workplace environments are not the norm. i bet you would have gotten real mad if someone said all husbands are abusive 🤭)
@killer_queen4062 yeah what a weird take. Either submissive to work or submissive to my husband? Like neither is an option?
It's just easier to replace a job than a husband.
Also you have no where to escape to if all the BS is at home with your husband lol
@@killer_queen4062way to miss the point, lmfao. They never said it doesn't happen, only that that's not their experience and therefore it can't be everyone's experience. But you little kids can't even figure out definitions, so I have no faith you'll come to understand anything
@@elizabeth.601 I am sorry you felt attacked, but I did NOT say all religious housewives are oppressed. And I agree with you, what you describe is NOT oppression. The oppression I am referring to includes physical violence perpetrated by the head of the family towards his wife and children. The oppression I am referring to includes condoning this violence through religious texts. You don't have to believe me. I lived it so I don't get the option of ignorance in this particular matter.
@@dylnpickl846💯
As I was always told, comparison is the thief of joy. Stop comparing yourself to others whether it is tradwives or boss babes live to your own expectations an best abilities, and if you want a change, make the change, but don't do it because you compared yourself to others. Do it because YOU wanted to. It is not soley others responsibility to make you feel good about yourself, it is yours.
Kris, my mom told me, I think years ago that her nonna would do basically homemade food, and that her nonno, aka my bisnonno (great-grandpa), would do the meats and salamis. I want to cook and bake homemade food... carry on Italian traditions because it's a thing I desire. It's in my blood! Yes, I have Puerto Rican and Dominican blood, but I want to be in touch more with my Italian side... we all should do traditions like that! :)
Watching this video make me thing about the convo I had with my mom :)
She makes everything her kids want form scratch so if her kids want to go for a drive “first I build a furnace in the back yard” 😂.
I guess the good thing is, her kids won't have any expectation of instant gratification. "my toddler came in wanting Kraft easymac, so first I built a plastic factory to make the little microwaveable cups..."
How does driving include a furnace? Are you trying to make a steam engine? She makes things her kids want from scratch on social media. Do you think she does this all the time? Glad my mother was a "trad wife". I would have never been able to show love and take care of those I love as adequately if I had only been influenced by my fathers strong hand. There is a big reason men are leaving the US to find a decent traditional woman.
Why are u mad…. Her kids are eating healthy. I would wish to have something like that. Tf is wrong with u just bc ur parents don’t make food for you and made you eat frozen foods cause they’re broke doesn’t mean she needs to do that too. Weirdo go get a life and stop hating on a person you have no idea who she is and how she lives. she literally says she doesn’t do that everyday like be Frr…
“Toxic feminism”…. the whole “why would she choose this life, it’s giving in to patriarchal roles” is so awful why are people judging women for CHOOSING THEIR OWN PATH, YOU KNOW, WHAT TRUE FEMINISM IS SUPPOSED TO BE, THE ABILITY TO CHOOSE AND CONTROL YOUR OWN LIFE, BODY, AND MIND, this is SO enraging (love your vid Kris, very informational ❤)
Choosing patriarchy is not feminist. True feminism is respecting women as full human adults and as unique individuals with both the legal freedom/agency and the responsibility/judgement/consequences for making immoral choices, especially those that harm other women and girls.
@@soft-spun there you go, respecting women as full human adults. Exactly. I agree. Thank you for adding the definition, I was just speaking in general 😁
@@soft-spun Filming yourself feeding your family isn't "choosing patriarchy" though
that comment THAT EVERYDAY IMA SCREENSHOT IT and resend it so many time
THANK YOU, I'm not anti feminist that's just my value. I love you so much thank you for being kind, understanding and not judgmental
@@staind.raindrop It is when it's "On-Demand" cooking, lacking ANY meal-planning or budgeting.
IT's De-Lulu!!
This is what happens when people don't know how to figure out who they are without getting ideas from social media...
What toddler can wait that long for a PB&J?😂
Kris does have a talent with explaining things and talking about topics that tend to have controversy with them. She is able to have a voice that puts her comedic vibe into topics. But at the same time have a serious note as well. Very talented and always a good day to have a new video.
Absolutely!😊❤
0:07 You're so sweet, kris, and you have helped me through my depression and anxiety, so thank you, kris. I hope you're doing well today, and I wish you the best for you and Caleb ❤❤❤❤❤ also your hair looks so pretty!!!
We should really stop being mean when we feel inadequate. It's not going to change our lives. Keep making videos like this. 👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾
“Instant oatmeal and sugary cereal and Welch packets” made me feel very called out
'acts of service' is a way that some people show as their love language. Getting dressed up every day like that can also show a lot of self love. It always makes me feel great when I get to see myself dressed up. Everyone has different stress and tolerance levels. Shes remarkable to me, and I am happy for her!
the southern accent hit home in seconds.
pfft 100%
Please look up Jennie Gage. The issue I have is that these women have a religious background that, traditionally, takes choices away from women. What is never emphasized is that if you marry into this kind of life you are depending on your husband for EVERYTHING and if he decides not to do it anymore you really don't have much legal protection. The women you covered have financial backup in the form of family and influencer income, but most women will not have that. Maybe they enjoy being propaganda, but in reality most women would be putting themselves in a precarious spot should they choose to be "tradwives."
I feel like as an African that making things from scratch is normal ,I believe that it's just Americas culture of fast food or door dashing .in the rest of the world, cooking is normal. We have gardens and farms with our cows, goats, and sheep
Love the video from Namibia ❤
Ngl I was nervous coming to this video..cuz I consider myself a traditional wife in many ways..and how social media talks about trad wives in the negative way. I'm very pleased to see your take on it. Thank you for your positive input.
There's trad wife and "trad wife". One is just living a certain way which is your business but another is scamming people which is not
@@MalevolentSh4d0w Unless a woman is selling you a product for money and never delivering it she is not scamming you. Stop. Its people comparing themselves to others online that feel "scammed" but they`re doing it to themselves! Take responsibility!
Same! I was scared 😅
The trad wives propaganda has nothing to do with being a traditional wife.
That's because people aren't talking about traditional wives. Trad wives are the ones specifically known to push their beliefs on others which is why they aren't called "traditional" wives
Thank you. Thank you for standing up for other people on the internet. And for supporting NOT comparing ourselves. Comparison is a rampant joy stealer in our society.
Only those on the top know its not a competition
My mother was a SAHM from 1955 until I graduated high school in 1987. She did NOT make our food from scratch, she did NOT dress in formalwear at home. My mother was both a soap opera addict and religious fanatic, more invested in those outside worlds than with us.
She had amazing cooking skills but saved most of that effort for special occassions. She was an excellent sewist too, and made some of my older siblings' clothes, my sister's wedding dress and bridesmaids dresses, and most of our Halloween costumes.
Wait. What? People are …. different??!??! 🤯
Why is this such a difficult concept for so many humans to get? Glad it’s repeated here. 👍👍people need to hear it. 💕 thanks for the positive video
People nowadays have too many opinions on things that are not their business honestly. We should all learn to live and let live as long as nobody is hurting other people on purpose. Thanks Kris for speaking sense in this video about this problem.
Exactly. People need the power of discernment. No wonder the world is falling apart, people are too preoccupied with being mad at non issues and keep quiet about actual issues
100% YES! I need this on a plaque.
So far the first two seem harmless and are living the life they want. I hope they are still happy behind the scenes of it
Yeah, mostly cuz they’re not tradwives. 😂 They’re women on the internet getting hate, but… not quite the same thing?
Do women really hate men this much? Even you & kris who seem to be more nuanced, normal people... and you STILL have to sneak in some nasty comment that the guy might be secretly beating her behind the scenes???
What the actual fuck is going on.... You people are actually making me hate you.
I grew up with a non-Mormon/agnostic mother like this, who made EVERYTHING from scratch: bread, granola, pizza, root beer, fruit roll (before it was available in stores), beef jerky, apple butter, trail mix, cakes & cookies, beer, jellies & jams, clothes, down jackets & sleeping bags for camping and backpacking, sweaters, socks, backpacks, toys, Halloween costumes, prom dresses, wedding dresses...you get the idea. I can count on one finger how many times we had Kentucky Fried Chicken, and the same for Jack in the Box. I don't think we ever went to McDonald's. There was no sugar cereal in the house and store-bought soda was only present during birthday parties (for which Mom and Dad made all of the decorations). We had a vegetable garden and chickens for eggs--not on a farm but in the middle of Oakland, CA. My dad built or fixed everything around the house. Some of it came from being poor but also my parents, who were children of the Depression and WWII, are artists and just thought it needlessly extravagant and wasteful to pay for something you could make or fix yourself with a little effort. This is the way America used to be, and not all that long ago. So, I appreciate this woman wanting to take a healthier, old-style approach to feed her family. But I call bullshit on the optics (like wearing an outfit with marabou trimmed sleeves for mixing ingredients--bitch, PLEASE) because my mother looked fab when she went out at night but she sure didn't dress like that when she was canning fruit over a steaming hot stove or churning out five bridesmaids dresses in her tiny sewing room.
Love that your opinion wasn’t super unnecessarily critical 😌 I grew up lds and tried my hand at modeling for a time. My partner and I are currently expecting our first baby and do kinda similar to what Nara and Lucky do. Difference is I’m turning 30 in June, am no longer lds, do social media and not modeling but certainly do my best to take care of myself and my partner. While he works with his family business I take care of the house, pets, garden and do social media when I’m feeling well enough (morning sickness and insurance stuff to file atm). Admittedly I wanted to have kids much sooner but didn’t find someone devoted or loving enough. I appreciate Nara’s videos because some are recipes I didn’t realize were simpler than they looked. Anyhow! Love your videos always and hope you’re enjoying life in Texas!
Everyone just hates the unrealistic, romanticized perfection that is being sold by these people. No one woman can live up to that, which in turn, sets up the average human woman up to feel like crap for their own life. Ridiculous? Not really. The things we consume on social media does affect our phycological well being.
100%
I am in many ways a trad wife, I am also an artist and a photographer. I never understood the hatred for women who just like caring for their families and their husbands.
That choice should be entirely up to the family and couple and no one else
That’s the thing I don’t hate them until they start to actively promote the lifestyle and say that it’s the only way to be happy
To be fair, the classic example of a trad wife has no work outside of the home. So you and these influencers too aren't true tradwives.
"women who just caring for their families" is not tied to a trad wife only. Working wives are also taking care of their families. I get your point but it could be misleading like working wives aren't caring about their families
I think a lot of people who are attacking tradwives are not only people who are jealous, but people who are tired of being pushed into fulfilling 'traditional' standards and are misplacing the anger for society's pressure to be more like these women onto the women themselves.
I'd love to be a trad wife.
I love cooking from scratch, having a clean home, and doing my own repairs to the house.
Now i just need to find a wife who is loaded
As Michel Dufoux a french philosopher once said "The worst emotion in the human body is not anger or rage or even sadness, it is jealousy as it can drive people more insane than the rest of the emotions".
"do i save the recipes for later? Yes. And then i forget to do it and feel LIKE SHIT" 😂😂😂 SO real!
I think Nara’s bubble gum thing was probably “huh, I wanna try making bubble gum. I should make a video about it!”
Idk about anyone else but this is pretty normal for us as well. I remember waking up to the smell of fresh bread or helping my mom sift flour for pancakes or cake and rolling dough for pastries or stirring the syrup in the sauce pan and bottling our own jam. Some families just do these things and i find it sad that people cannot understand this. Also once you do these things often it becomes so simple that it usually takes us a couple minutes max to complete.