Is My Ex Over Me?
Vložit
- čas přidán 2. 07. 2020
- In this video Coach Lee answers the question, "Is my ex over me?"
This question is asked often by panicked people wondering if they have forever missed their chance to get their ex back. If you are wondering if your ex is over and done with you and the relationship you two had, this important video will provide much needed prospective and direction.
Get Coach Lee's Emergency Breakup Kit at myexbackcoach.com/emergency-b... and the Emergency Marriage Kit at myexbackcoach.com/emergency-m...
Videos Mentioned In This One:
The No Contact Rule: • Trust No Contact
What Is My Ex Thinking During No Contact? • What Your Ex Is Thinki...
Help! My Ex Says There's No Chance Of Us Getting Back Together! • Ex Says No Chance of G...
What Is Limerence? • What Is Limerence?
Does Your Ex Want You To Contact Them? • Does My Ex Want Me To ...
What Does Silence Mean From Your Ex? • Why Is My Ex Silent?
Stages Your Ex Goes Through During No Contact: • Stages Ex Goes Through...
SUBSCRIBE to Coach Lee's channel by clicking this link: czcams.com/users/myexbackcoach?ap...
Give them a chance to miss you....me: sitting in corner and shedding tears 😭😭
It's been two months and I can't stop crying. We work together and I have to act happy but when I get home I cry all night. He looks at me and talks to me like I'm a friend. It hurts everyday
Peachblossom.Phlox :3 I’m in the same boat.. we work together and it sucks putting on a fake face..
@@jake_ughhh yeah I have to pretend I'm happy but I constantly have to go to the bathroom to cry
Peachblossom.Phlox :3 ugh that’s a mood.. I have my own office I go into so I don’t have to see him. But we have a meeting here soon and we’re gonna have to be in the same room. They always act like everything’s fine, and that their life is better :/..
@@jake_ughhh yeah we work in a small store together so we constantly see each other all the time. He just talks to me like our 3 years together didn't happen and I try to be friendly and nice too but it's so weird that my heart breaks everyday and he goes out with his friends and is always smiling
*For anyone that is out there hurt and heartbroken, don’t worry you are not alone.*
Work on yourself and the rest will follow ❤️✨
Thats so encouraging. Thank you
I real need help to forget my boyfriend
Best advice ever
Hard to be in no contact it's been 1 1/2 months of No Contact and 5 months today of separation with one time of intimacy after 2 1/2 months ughh 😔
William Miller *bro you are good, just breathe and focus on yourself*
You got this
Hello, Coach Lee. I followed everything in your videos and overcome my anxiety from breaking up. After 3 months he came back, asked for forgiveness and chance to be together again. He is now making efforts to be with me. It is just amazing that when we talked about it, he really did experienced the stages that you discussed after a break up. And he ended up realizing that his love is still greater than all our problems.
You did 3 months of NC great.
Did your bf meet other girl, had sex with her and when that failed he came back to you? If so, then you were his second option safety net and will probably do it again. I have had a situation like that and hope that you didn’t.
@@Mead33 if he left the other, she's not the second choice. I have my pride though we need to understand how human mind works, it's about values and quemistry in your brain we are animals after all. Saying this even though he was with another person and have sex or whatever (cause we don't know) he realize he miss her and it was because of the bond they have created. There are so many variables to take in consideration but they are mostly alike. And dont get me wrong I feel, I know Im the kind of person that knows he left me for someone else and any left apreciation just will fall. Sometimes we react on rage or just because we are to pride, and there's nothing wrong about it. As long as it wont become a repetitive behaviour I dont see why is wrong to take them back, though I dont feel like I would it but we are not all the same.
Kiasca yah if u really love the person. Whatever he did to u or said bad things towards u, when he started to reach out to u again and be humble you cant resist to accept them again. Esp when u see that theyr so sincere and doing a lot of effort more than they did for u before.
Happy for you
Everytime i wanna text him, u make me stop thank u Coach Lee
Keep up the strength! Motivation 🙂
How many days are you in NC so far?
Call me 😊
im with you sis :/
Update?
I fail to comprehend the conscious thought of no longer loving or caring for someone you surrendered and trusted your soul to.
When I see her, despite our amicability, she looks at me now like I’m nothing more than an annoyance, whilst I gaze at her with unrequited love, and desire to keep safe and care for
Distance and patience make hearts grow fonder !
Lol my ex told me that before she broke up with me. She'll be the one to prove her statement if my silence really resulted into that 😂 Cause now we dont talk, she ignored my text before so I just backed off.
Inspired! Hopefully these two work for me and my case with my special person....💔
@@draziesaari wish you good luck. I m just shivering if this really works with my stubborn man. He's completely ghosting me but not blocking me. The only hope thats keeping me alive. He's a very hard nut to crack. I m confident that he cannot get along with any other woman. Hmm.
Dr Azie Sa'ari i feel you.
@@yourdukzsuccs3947 no contact? Succeed. Thank you Coach.
My ex realised it after 6 years from our breakup when I was already married to someone else and he regretted for the rest of his life.
So he’s dead?
@@MK-co6uf How do you know? Do you have similar experience?
@@maureenkam9212 you wrote “he regretted for the rest of his life”
@@MK-co6uf You are sharp.
@@maureenkam9212 sorry to hear, rip
“Just start running at them” 😂 love your comical way of explaining things without taking the seriousness out of it
Yet he doesn’t crack smile!! I’m trying to think of I’ve ever seen him smile 😄
I can recommend you to a man who helped me bring my husband back after divorcing me for more then five year with my 9 month old baby his name is DR osoiye he can help you bring your husband back within two contact him
It took me almost a year to get over my ex... but it's really tough just meeting someone new, and when I do, I am not even sure how to even attract the person anymore.. dating is really hard
“There (emotion) is a moving target” that’s powerful. We all know this but we need a reminder when we are stuck in our own head
Your videos made my break up easier on me when I thought that I could not get out of the huge loss I was feeling. 9months passed and I feel much better. Thank you Coach Lee.
It was not easy but your words definitely alleviated the pain and frustration.
from London UK. Silence is golden. Coach Lee, we divorced. I regretted the divorce, deep down. After 3 years post divorce. He reached out to me, but I had blocked him, on all social media, wA, etc. I forgot to block him on Skype. I logged into Skype, and was greeted with lots of missed messages & missed calls. we spoke for ages & the rest is history.
We are taking it slowly this time. He is the love of my life. I am so happy.
Thank you,
Coach Lee you give me so much peace of mind during this tumultuous time. Thank you so much for everything you do.
Coach Lee videos are so accurate and true when we visualize our story. His voice make us so smooth and reduces anxieties, Coach you must be undefeated in a relationship. Always thanks for uploading great videos, last one was amazing video with interviews Dumpee and Dumper❤️
Currently almost two weeks after the break up, and thankfully I’ve discovered you coach Lee🥺🥺
I broke the no contact rule a week into it before I realized it was taboo...Ever since then, I’ve been struggling, but yet here I am.
I feel so much more empowered thanks to your videos.
I hope and pray that one he comes back to me, but until then, I will work on myself.
I am worthy of more than I give myself credit for.
NC officially started a few days for me🙏🏼😤
We got this guys!!!! We are worthy of being loved and if they don’t want to realize that, then it’s their loss!
Cheers to us✋🏼🤚🏼
UPDATE:
Guys, I just want to update you all that NO CONTACT works 🥺🥺❤️❤️
A week into officially starting no contact, he called me and wanted to make amends. It feels like a new found relationship tbh. I don’t feel weak anymore. I feel amazingly strong and in control...❤️❤️ thank you coach
Good luck I hope everything works out the way you want it to
Congratulations.
Update?
Nc works in my case also my ex call me msg me even came to meet me also but she doesn't realise what she said to me not even accepting the what she did instead of that she is saying i have saw boys for marriage & telling me that she has done mistake staying with me
& Our relationship was 13yrs she said this words very easily I'm completely shatter & help less
I'm glad to hear that the no contact worked for you, sadly 3 days after the breakup I called her to get a lazy "closure", and since that conversation almost a month passed. I feel so heartbroken and I want a real and sincere closure.
I really hope I get one
Thank you for your help. I am teetering on the edge of taking him back if he asked (and make him work for it) and saying “no thanks.” Your words give me the ability to function. To get through this. I bought your kit. It’s wonderful:)
Theses video are like a constant IV lifeline to me... I just find myself re-listening over and over again. Every time I feel myself getting upset and worrying again, I listen to another video, I'm talking binge watch all day long.
Update?
I did no contact for two months and he still never reached out to me. I need to accept it even though I cared about and loved this person very deeply.
Same i love this women with my soul. I wish i been trying hypnosis and it doesn't help so far
9 months is when you should worry. Not 2
Anyone who values you will never leave your side. The fact that he left shows he never cared about you. It’s a unfortunate reality.
My ex came sniffing around the bar I frequent exactly a year after the break up on the night I’m always up there. This was her way of contacting me which was bold. After a year I told her to pound salt, I didn’t even want to chat at that point.
There isn’t a secret number. Everyone is different.
Thank you so much Coach Lee.
Words are not enough to convey how relieved I am hearing this.
You have been a big help. Take care always and stay safe🙏
Man…your videos really calm my anxiety…like a lot! I think ver logically and even though a break up deals with emotions, you somehow speak to me in a logical manner and it makes me feel soooo much better! This is really keeping me going and helping me move forward in no contact! Thank you!!
I think coach lee was a woman on his past live, there is no way a man is right as he is. LoL. Patient, amusing, he just nail it every time.
Experience is the best guider and he has it, a lot of us following have seen this guy is right.
Cheeky
Actually he is a guy with perfect knowledge, if he was a woman he would have given wrong advise. Because a whole of times women give wrong advice to their friends. Women do not know what they want, they speak something, think something and do some other thing.
Actually I was thinking about that too. How is he making rights, its a bit sus 😑
I watch these videos over and over to keep my strength up and to hear Coach Lee’s reminders to stay 🤐
Very. Good. I find This vids soothing also. Me on week 3 no contact. And. Yesterday I logically convinced myself: 1 - ex made a mistake and will return, 2- ex never loved me if able /convinced self to walk away w/o trying to work on...also, once ex comes back (if), are we ready to start NEW relationship with them? Old “comfort of relationship” won’t work. It has to be an entirely different relationship with new actions/events/traits... old are predictable and not exiting anymore. Both will have to try harder to maintain it. So. Why not to start a new relationship with a new person and let it unfold naturally w/o any pressure... good luck. !!
@@mushroom4978 same to you!
I'm on day 23 NC and he told me when we started dating that he's never gotten back together with an ex. So unless I'm the exception (I don't think so), it's over. Trying to deal as recovering from surgery during this time 😟
Thank you, Coach Lee. My ex started to send me pictures of us together after no contact. He has depression and that is a topic I wish you would touch up someday. I am still keeping the distance and letting him initiate the conversation, until he is more steady in his communication. These videos help me not mess it up.
Any update? My ex is depressed too
same here
I don't want my ex back ... But I can't stop watching coach Lee's videos... He's a gem
Thanks Coach Lee, you always make the most sense. Whenever I feel too down, I'll watch your videos and that gives me strength.
Thank you Coach Lee! 😍 Even if my ex doesn’t come back I am just grateful to you for everything I’ve learned on your channel. You are so incredibly wise and knowledgeable on relationships and how to handle a break up. I wish I’d found you before I’d done all the damage that comes with being an anxious preoccupied attachment person, my ex is an avoidant and it’s been 10 months since he left. I’ve only implemented no contact rule properly a month ago, until I saw your videos I was messaging him once a month with an excuse to make contact. He was so cold and distant most of the time except for when he wished me a Merry Christmas. We had a good relationship and neither one cheated so I’ve been shocked by his decision and of course am still in love with him and want him back. I’m not sure he will ever return but I know for certain I’ve learnt incredibly valuable life skills from listening to all your videos. Thank you for kindly sharing your wisdom with the world 🤗
Did anything ever happen
@@rwankyo3 He hasn’t come back yet, however he has adopted my closest friends and stays close to them. He can’t hear my name being mentioned, he will ask people to not say my name because according to him it’s a sensitive subject. I’m still waiting but it’s hard because I know how much trauma he has from his life and I don’t think he will ever confront it, which means he will probably stay gone because he pushes anyone away when they get too close. I believe he still loves me but doesn’t know how to face everything that’s happened. I still hope for him though, and hope that he comes back. I will always love him.
@@PimpinWitch Any update on your ex? I also have an ex who happen to be avoidant.
Good to see you back Coach Lee.
This video left a lump in my throat and sinking feeling in my gut.
Exactly 5 weeks now into no contact. 9 1/2 weeks after break up. One day at a time.
Ben junior@ there is no need of telling all and all through, love is life without endless, I wanna refer you to a great relationship restorer who can help you get back your ex without any kind of delay
She helped me to get back my ex weeks ago
She gonna also help you get back your ex to you without any kind of delay
Talk to her on WhatsApp or email
4.5 weeks of talking after the break up likely ruined your chance of her coming back. Did she?
Dear Coach Lee: you are such a great person, I have been watching your videos after my ex broke up with me, and she did told me that we are not getting back together, I desperately reached out and that was a mistake, I then started watching your channel and to be honest you have been a blessing, I feel stronger, confident and I sincerely look forward for my future with or without her. Yes I hope she reached out eventually, but I'm keeping my feet in the ground and not having any expectations, most importantly I started no contact and evdnthough it's been hard, you sincerely have helped me to get through this little by little. Keep the great work nothing but love and respect for you!
Sounds similar to my situation? What happened in the end?
Thanks for asking! So I gave time to .yself and focused on me, not expecring her to contact me at all and little by little I started healing.
After some months I met my current partner (we have been together since then) again nothing forces and I let things flor. While with my partner my ex started contacting me telling me "I miss you, csn we meet or can we talk" and she only messaged me during Christmas and my Birthday, but after that I let her know that I moved from that and I dwell what I needed to dwel,, and that at that point she was an experience from where I grew. Since then ive been very happy.
Great point about that feeling of family that Coach Lee touches on.
That feeling of family was very much in me, but not her. Makes sense, knowing her very wounded, broken family history. I wasn't even her surrogate family. She was too wounded, too angry, too unconscious. C'est la vie.
It's a moving target. You are priceless Coach Lee
Wow! 2 vids in one week. What a treat! You made me so much stronger. I am still watching a year post breakup
Hi coach Lee, new to your channel. I heard you say ppl have gotten back after 10 yrs. It's been that long for my ex husband I, whose now in a 4 yr relationship. We saw each other the other day and our chemistry was hot. We saw each other the following week and it was the same. He keep saying he's committed but when I asked if he wanted me to stop flirting he smile and said, just slow and give me some time, then the next day went back to saying he's committed and wants to be friends. I know we still love each other, but at this point, dont know what to do. Any advice?
Thank you coach, it's been really hard! But Im Following every video to accomplish self wellness and that I'm desirable too. My ex left me without notice, no goodbye, nothing! My ex was the only family I had and she held it against me all the time and took advantage that I had no one else to lean on including family. I guess it empowered her to treat me so badley. After watching your videos I feel much better. I understand chasing someone will only hurt me. I'm worth so much more and maybe one day she will realize that too. Hugs coach your the best!
@@chrisricciardo1976 I sure will thank you so much!
It really helps to watch these videos 2-3 times at least. Always something new each time...!
I dont know what it is about you, but for better or worse, Listening to your videos is the calm to all the storm I have been experiencing in the last two weeks. There is some thing in your words and your voice. appreciate it
Ace7of7Cups, I highly recommend Coach Lee's Emergency Breakup Kit. It's terrific and it will help you.
myexbackcoach.com/ebk
Your videos have helped me so much during my breakups, and they gave me a lot of hope. My ex came back to me once already, but he left again. I still love him and want to see if we can have a real future together. If he comes back again, you can be sure to find a large tip in your tip jar Coach Lee! ❤️❤️❤️
Helen hu@ I was totally broken when the love of my life left me it was so hard for me, I almost gave up if not for a friend who directed me to a very good and powerful woman
Update?
He also left me twice but I'm feeling he won't come back this time...
You have an update?
I was supposed to get married today, my ex text me to apologise for it not working out and hoped that I was ok. I wished him well and told him I was happier now. He was compelled to reply ‘glad you feel the same’ lol. The truth is I am happier now, in myself, I have a better job, I’ve been redecorating the house my way, my two older kids that aren’t his don’t have to put up with his strict rules. I just don’t think I’d want him back. He expects everyone to be perfect and whilst no one is perfect I’m 34 and actually pretty ok with exactly who I am
Hi Lee, I have just purchased the kit.... once it arrives I make sure I'll send some feedback.
My ex may not come back to me after now more than 1 year but I am sure I will get a lot of good information for myself, regardless.....
I am looking forward to receiving it - will let you know!
Thanks for your precious time. I have seen him last Saturday and he keeps saying that we are only friends but I "know" there is hope - I just need to leave him be and feel free and concentrate on getting better myself. I know I will make it, with or without him - I just need to keep believing that the best for me will happen even if I am completely lost and confused without him ( I am 54 so at this age it's difficult to see your dreams disappear with the person you hoped to grow old with....) We''ll see....
Thanks Lee - your video have kept me sane when I thought my brain and heart were going to explode..... the end of a relationship is like a bereavement and it's so so hard.... we all need to be kind to ourselves and start believing that we are good enough and that if the person for us is our ex, they will come back to us, in time.
Patience and faith in the law of attraction and karma are the only 2 things we can cultivate while at the same time learning to live in the present.
Stay safe and thanks again.
Thank you for healing broken hearts.
Who is she.
❤ thanks Mr.Lee i needed yo hear this
I believe you are the best coach out there.
You are just an amazing soul and great relationship advisor.
Love you Coach Lee for the inspirational words and being so honest about relationships and love...sometimes it works but I realize it didn't work for me ...just wasn't meant to be...everything happens for a reason ❤
I’m so glad I found you. I’m day 6 in the breakup and this is my second day of no contact. I’ve cried, I’ve begged, and pleaded. I felt kicked while I was down. I’m willing to try this for me first and hopefully getting my relationship back.
It's been 28 days for me.
Keep going. Stay strong. It gets easier♥️
You got this girly i believe in you 💓💓
It's been almost 2weeks and girl.... But I have faith that God is going to move and this situation despite of how it look like I and I believe he can do it you too
You got this Pam!
I’m 1 month and 2 weeks. I’m better but cry occasionally when I have dreams of him with someone else. I feel like a different person but I started working on myself. I’m here for you. Trust me. You will be okay.
May our father which art in Heaven give you more.
Thank you!
It’s comforting to have hope, hope is the greatest thing to have. However if you are just a dream never ever wake me up
I really like you Lee. ❤️❤️❤️
I practice no-contact even though no-one broke up with me.
LOL how does that work?
😂😂😂😂😂just made mah day
@@RealCoachLee Social distancing during the covid-19 pandemic.
@@jahboyquatreonze2328
😂 LOL. Right?
Ahahaha ❤️
Hey guys i did nc after my ex broke up with me on our 2 years celebration it was a week before my birthday she said that
"she didnt feel the butterflys she had when we first started dating"
We havent talk for 6 month and then i got a message it was a simple
"I think about you a lot how are you"
I chose to not responde i went into therapy and im going to the gym regulary when we broke up my self eateem was shatered the therapy sessions really helped me to better understand how im feeling, its been 8 months and ive been talking to a new girl nothing romantic were just talking but i feel much better to anyone who read this message time and self love/goals will heal you please know that you are loved wish all the best on your journy it will pass ❤️
Thanks coach Lee you really help me see sense when I'm blue..
35th day of no contact, still feel like she won't ever reach out again. Still working on myself tho! HANG IN THERE FOLKS!
@Gustavo Gonzalez Met her around day 50, we went for a walk and talked about what she's been up to and what I've been up to. She has a new group of friends and kinda acts out of character. Told her to text me if she ever wanted to hang our again, she hasn't done that yet. Saw her on the street a week after that, she saw me but didn't even greet me. Broke my own heart again, should've stayed in no contact tbh😅
@@dominikhoffmann8657 any updates now?
@@ricardooo444 I found someone who actually loves me and really cares about me. My breakup turned out to be a real blessing in disguise. KEEP WORKING ON YOURSELF, IF YOUR EX DOESN`T COME BACK YOU`LL FIND SOMEONE EVEN BETTER!
@@dominikhoffmann8657 I wonder about that. But I still think that she's the best for me and that we'll still grow together as a couple.
@@dominikhoffmann8657 rebound?
Can you make a video about how 1 partner who focuses on the future self sabotages the relationship? The other partner focuses on the present experiences
I listen to you everyday Coach to stay strong and sane whilst preventing myself frm contacting him. DAY 5 on NC
Hi. How are You doing? Did no contact worked for you? I am on week 3 and felling as letting go.... Please share if u have strength. Thank you.
@@mushroom4978 62 days NC now. Its gets easier. Better sleep. Less crying. At 45th day he "accidentally" message to a family member but send "wrongly" to me. I think he tried trick me to break NC. I did not reply him. He posted 2 meaningful pictures meant for both of us in social media. Not our pictures but interesting pictures we both had liked and discussed. I think he is trying to remind me of him. I Am still sad..so sad. Miss him like hell. Sometimes i cant help it but posted a picture thats meaningful for both of us too. I know i shouldn't. He kept looking at every stories i posted . But he did not make any move. So i am will not budge and stay in NC. 😭😭 this could take months! Everyday still think of him. keep listening to Coach Lee
@@ernitahap2718 did anything happen after this?
Me too
Thanks Coach. I'm almost 5 months in No Contact. I've heard nothing from her. I doing my best to stay strong. At least I have these vids to help.
I totally get where you’re coming from. I went 10 months w/o contact after my ex dumped me. She posted things in order to get my attention, but I resisted. She recently reached out (for a particular event) and we txtd for a lil bit. I can sense her hesitation, and I’m not pushing. I reached out 1x, we had a txt convo, and it was cool. But she’s the type who doesn’t like to put herself out there. Her fears have always been a powerful force in her life. So I’m playing it cool. Back in nc right now. I’m in a much better place. Much stronger. Like he said, be patient man, work on yourself, and get yourself to that level where you know your own worth.
You have got this Nicolas! I believe in you ☺
I am almost into 1 year nc. Few weeks back mutual friend reached out suggesting that we should remain as friends..like seriously?????
I've been in NC since july 1, 2020
@@robertpreski262 been since February 6 for me. Still have not heard a word.
Avoidant behavior types probably will never tell you they miss you. Especially if they are the ones that did the breaking up!
///AMG - They constantly need to be with someone!
do you think if a girl dumps you to focus on herself and gets over you at the end of the same month she left you in and start developing feelings for another guy a month after breaking up and lables him as a friend with benefits count as moving on fast or a rebound relationship??
easily replaceable . REBOUND!! Especially if she plasters it all over social media
lyricalprophet100 i wouldn’t say she plasters it on social media but i did lie and tell her i moved on (i know that was wrong of me. i later admitted the truth) i didn’t think she’d care anyway and EXACTLY AFTER i told her she posted her leaning against against other guy closely but a pic of their feet you could tell how they were posed. i told her i thought it was odd she posted it right after the fact. she said nothing odd about it and it’s just life she’s happy with who’s she’s with. she said she wanted a future with this guy Lol. but like already??
easily replaceable . First off, you’re not easily replaceable! Understand that. You’ve contributed to a relationship which I’m sure had very great moments. So, SHE, will not forget. Secondly, what I’ve found to be true is that people who immediately jump to posting pics on social media WANT people to think their life is great. That, they are happy. By posting “cute” pics. Me, personally if the relationship had any substantial amount of time like a year or more, posting pics like that is tacky. But they want this new “thing” to be real... So broadcasting that for people to see, in their eyes makes that true. It doesn’t. So, with that being said. Take this time to work on yourself. Invest in becoming a better you. Gym, job, home, becoming healthy physically and mentally. This thing that she’s doing now is going to run it’s course. You cannot change that. So accept it. Now, it’s up to you to become a better you!
Stay calm guy's no contact really work's
my ex of 7 months called me yesterday..thanks coach Lee am greatful
What happened? Like how did you guys get together again...care to share the story?
After how many days he called
7 months - didnt you stop care about her
what happened
Yeah that's a really long time. Care to tell us how it all happened?
“It’s been 3 days , it’s not working .”- Laughed so Hard 🤣🤣🤣
LOL, I did too!
@@RealCoachLee omg thanx for replying dear 💜
I’m soooo Grateful to u for ur videos 🥺
Here radio silence is going on for 2.5 months !
My ex is STUBBORN !!!
@@lifeisbeautiful3019update?
I went no contact for 45 days and asked for my stuff back. It took a total of 2.5 months later to finally meet and get my stuff back. No contact in between that time. I was hoping for a reconciliation but from our conversation I can tell he’s moved on and was dating someone new. I came home that night and cried my eyes out I feel so pathetic. I loved this person so much. But it’s for the best. This person made a choice to actively not want me in their life and I should not choose someone who does not choose me.
I hope you're good now
@@Champman543 I am!!! I’m over the person now. It’s almost 2 years and I’m in a much better place. That person and I weren’t meant to be. I’m happy to have met them. I have good things going on for me so that part of my life isn’t as amplified anymore.
Thanks for the advice, I’ll definitely watch the no contact video.
Mr: Lee is a support when i may fall apart from being strong.. i follow Mr Lee on every each social platform.. i watch him daily.. im from Asia Bangladesh..
My cousin reconcile with her ex after 20 yrs and she says the relationship is a lot better now. I think patience is the key. Sometimes people need to go different paths in order to get back together.
bruh
Wow .. after 20 years I think is to late … sometimes it works .. at least they are happy with each other.
I go back and forth on whether to purchase the Emergency Breakup Kit. Sometimes I think I want my ex but it's still so fresh, that my emotions are still on a roller coaster. I'm feeling the "being dumped" sadness more (a month later) than I did initially. Also, I can't help but think that his decision is final and has no interest in ever coming back. He already found somebody else who is younger, prettier, fit, more money, and more of everything materially/physically than I have.
How are you doing now?
@msthebemoon Did he ever come back?
I read all the other people’s comments. Coach Lee is really good with his logic. I just think it’s a little sad that most of the comments I have read relate to people not getting back together
I am of the opinion that while in NC working on yourself. But give them a deadline to come back to you. After you have healed and they haven’t come back, then move on to someone else. There’s no one on earth worth waiting forever for.
I have tried with him now for 2 months after the breakup of a 4years.. i have came to a place where im done, done with this life of all depression. He is hot and cold. I have a nice car, nice job and my own home. But this is it for me. Thank you coach, you are very helpfull. But my life is ending now and that feels satify for me.. i had a life in 29 years now, alot of fun but more hurt.
You should do more interviews that was great feed.
I love how the videos give me hope, it's been 5 years and she has moved on but I'm patient and hopeful. Made a potential mistake in messaging her the other day but hopefully not too big a setback since she had been messaging me first up to then
5 years??? It should never take that long... move on.
I'm actually worried I've blown it before I even found this channel!
Long story short, we lived and worked together. Went stale, fell apart and she broke up with me in March. I did everything wrong, pleading, all that. Right up into May. So we're on lockdown, she's back at her parents and and I initiated no contact at the end of May without knowing anything about what I was doing. I wish I'd searched this back in March but I guess damage is done now :(
I have to say, the no contact concept is interesting. It's been around 3 weeks and she has contacted me a few times. She said that this "break from each other was torture!" We were together x 2 years. Interesting enough it was my fault! Immediately after i went into no contact i began working on my issues- counseling, quit the beer, getting in great shape, and soul searching. Who knows? I'm dying to reach out at times, but everytime i want to i watch a video. Thanks Coach. Hopefully it all works out with time.
At least you bothered to do all those things! Its excellent keep going x
And you replied each time she contacted? Or did you ignore until she messaged more?
I'm so happy for you 💓
You should answer but let them initiate @@brandonnykyforak
My ex contacted me after NC in a half assed attempt to get me back in his life AS A FRIEND. He absolutely misses me and wants me back but the romantic attraction isn't there (yet). I told him nicely but firmly yesterday that I can't be his friend and can't continue to interact with him as a friend but if he changes his mind to reach out to me. And so no contact begins again. It's tough but glad I'm have the guidance of an expert like Coach Lee.
C. Watson I’m like in your situation but the other way around. I want my ex back. She was everything to me
@@josephingram5978 Hopefully ypu will Husky. We're sailing in the same boat. It was just a one reason that I confronted, couldn't take it easily and it separated us to this extent that he's completely ghosting me. But only one jope is that he's not blicking me despite my asking him several times to do so as a sign that he over me and if I m really unwanted. There's just a grand silence but he never blocked me. Not even once. This is the only hope tgats keeping me breathing.
@@minuesperanza6273, move on. He isn't worth it. The only reason he didn't block you is because he is curious. They all are. The chances of him coming back are next to none. The odds are NOT in your favor. They moved on. You need to also. In the end you will be a lot happier than he ever will be for what he did to you. I guarantee. Heal, move on and love yourself!
@ChrisSoCalm sure. Thank you Chris.
@@gizzyfrizzy1 Curious that to what extent I beg him? Hmm. I didn't beg him literally at any moment since I was also not wrong but did multiple reactions. I analysed, questioned him what woukd do if he's me and I confronted the most heart breaking words used but never attemped to admit tgat he feels sorry to slip those words and the act that he woukd never appreciate if I woukd gave done. What I was in a thought that may be he's guilty but egoistically not admitting and started ghosting me cos he has no genuine answer. Don't know if he started seeing someone else yet.
Wish I saw your vids earlier in my life. You're such an inspiration.
It’s been 50 days of NC and some days I feel better but he is on my mind every single day. Im still hopeful that he will come back 😔
I know what you're going through. It's been six months for me. He's still in my thoughts. Some days I feel better than others.
Lulifxi, give it more time.
I’m two months into watching Coach Lee’s CZcams videos and EBK and it’s the first time I can bring myself to watch this video because I was too scared of the answer 😅 I’m optimistic about my ex coming back but man it HURTS to be apart.
Julia Clair Taylor. I can recommend Coach Lee's Emergency Breakup Kit for you. It's excellent and it will help you.
myexbackcoach.com/ebk
@@jannlewandowski5540 I already bought it.
@@JuliaTaylorSoprano Thank you, Julia. You will love it!
Wow, I needed to hear this. Coach Lee is so smart. I’m on Day 28. I chose to leave because he is already in a relationship, and I need to get over him. I’ve blocked him on my phone and social media. He has emailed me every week. It makes me think he misses me, but my friend thinks it’s a show of disrespect of my wishes to move on. He knows I’m weak and will cave if I see him, so he emails me to keep my attention on him. Who is right? I won’t be a third wheel. Wish me luck to stay strong 💪🏼.
Good luck to you. Stay strong. Virtual hugs.
You know the answer to your question... believe your self and move on.
You should tell him to contact you if that relationship doesn't work out. Say that and move forward
@@spartanghost_17 no you should definitely NOT say that
Keep friends and family out of it. Do things with them to keep busy until you heal. They won't ever see things both ways. Pray, get a therapist, speak to a neutral party but you have to be 100 percent honest in what you say and explain. Friends and family mean well but listen and see with blinders on. Pray on it! Pray for direction for yourself, for help, for anything you need to know or do and take the time to heal, grow and learn who you are now and don't assume you're the same person you were before the relationship. You don't need much to be strong you just gotta choose to be. Day by day hour by hour minute by minute. You'll be OK! Trust God!
10 year relationahip.. Ended last week 9/4/2020. The 5th they we broke up, I wanna listen to her voice even if its just over the phone soooo badly 🥺. Right before I dial her number, I saw ur video, clicked and watched it. Pain somehow lessens and made me think a little bit clearer. I thank you for that. 🙏
I always feel better day by day anytime i watch your clips ❤️
Yes I sure do!!
He came back after 6 months apart. Came back just to leave me again for the second time and lied to me about having a new gf. I'm done. good riddance
Update*
I did zero contact whatsoever. And i moved on, met a really nice guy and now he's my boyfriend. The funny thing is, the moment my ex knew i already have someone else he came back and wanted me again but it was too late. I wished him well instead
What a piece of trash!!! Sorry u went through that Alia. Happy u have enough self worth and strength 2 let him go.
My ex did the same! He came back after being apart for a year. We were in a relationship for another year before he ended things by lying that he had a new gf, thinking it might help me move on faster 🙄 It took all that for me to see he was not mature enough for me.
I feel you . He do the same to me.
I remember that I Saw a vídeo of You, where You said that You have seen couples that get back together after 11 years after they got separeted. Well, I know I couple that got together after 15 years, so it seems that people that mean together have different times.
After almost 5mths of our breakup...my Ex called y'day and ask 2 meet up. I agreed. Thought finally he know my worth. But d second day...which is today...he ask 4 us 2b frens. Dat was about 10mins ago. I calmly said i CANNOT b frens wit u...b cuz i feel soo much more...after livin together for over 3yrs. He was upset. He left shortly after. I cried my heart out. It HURTING like HELL right now. I jus came straight 2 dis video. CAN'T stop my heart from hurtin and feelin dis PAIN rite now.
The reality is that you needs her/his validation regardless if is positive or negative..
You had lots someone very special to you long time ago that person was YOU..
Yes you..
You don't have to reinvent yourself all you need to do is.
Work on yourself look at the mirror and change what you don't like..
That will give you a purpose start with that we all have options is up to you many sucumb in self-pity..
The tendency of people is to give the love we don't give ourselves.
She/ He didn't stop loving you she/He no longer respect the man/women you had become ( had is in, now is time to work on yourself nothing beats that 💯)
✌
I was with my boyfriend for 2.5 years and he recently ended it on Tuesday - things were rocky and he went home to his family for 2
weeks before the split but I never thought we would finish. We were head over heels in love, a love I didn’t think I would ever experience. We are both 30 and he was my first boyfriend. He cried when it ended but I was in shock that I couldn’t. He said he loved me and didn’t want this to end but he needs to be on his own, that he doesn’t want to have to consider an other person anymore and he isn’t happy in his life. A lot of other stuff was said and I asked him to try slowly again to try and get back to our happy in love selves but he doesn’t want to. The pandemic ruined us I really believe without it we would still be bulletproof. I have gone no contact but when we split he agreed to meet and talk (and exchange items I assume). I don’t know where to go from here. I am keeping busy and trying to get through every day as it comes but I just want advice, comforting words - anything? I don’t plan on reaching out as he does hold all the cards but he is a stubborn man and I don’t know if he will ever reach out.
Any update?
But when someone leaves you, doesn’t that break your trust, does it not shatter you? And even if he comes back how do you know that they won’t leave you again?
I’ve been off & on with this person for 15 years. In the beginning I don’t think I real thought about as I do now. But I do feel better as time goes on.
Thank you Coach Lee,You are a really good human being.May God bless you and let you help even more people.Lots of love from India.
Stop caring about your ex focus on yourself... Don't let someone else ruin your life.. Live for yourself live for your family live for the purpose.... Don't chase people who ain't chasing you...it just took me 2 days to get over my ex... SELF RESPECT
Either you did not have a meaningful relationship, or like Shakespeare says “you protest too much”
Thank u I needed to hear this tonight is my first night without my ex and I'm starting no contact
@@bennyblanco6704 update on you both?
@@nono-iy4be actually we hooked up a few days ago had sex but today back to the same crap and her being narcissistic person
2 days? Your relationship wasn't worth anything then if that's the case, no wonder he/she left. 2 Days I INSANE.
Im going to share my experience with other ex's (now going through a breakup with a new one, NC for 6 days)
THEY ALL CAME BACK.
Sooner or later, being dumped or doing the dumping, they all always consistently reached out to me. Now, obviously theres been different situations, with an ex I dumped he wanted to get back, I never did. That case doesn't really count for most of the situations here.
The hardest breakup I had I was dumped for some other girl, it was long distance and they lived on the same city so made sense, but I felt betrayed, lied, etc.
I think around 6 months later he came back, and I had blocked him everywhere, without explaining, without love letters, without nothing, when i found out what he was doing (playing us both) I just blocked him. He tried to reach me everywhere, before they broke up, and after they broke up. Until this day, he messaged me, begging for forgiveness. I thought I'd never get over him. I now realize I was always above him anyway, and I wouldn't go near him even if someone paid me. Im glad for the good moments we had, I don't regret it, but that's it.
And Ive had other similar situations. So don't despair, I know now every day seems like an eternity, but eventually you will move on, and maybe (hopefully) when they do come back, you will be over and above them. Because we deserve to be with someone who doesnt ever feel like dumping us, who doesn't doubt us, who LOVES us. Love doesn't leave, does not abandon, does not belittle, and put you down.
So, work on yourself, live your best life, and someone who is worth it will show up. Or not, and you'll be happy alone. Love yourself first.
I don’t believe mine is 25 years of knowing her, I’m not to sure she that happy about the situation. But I believe very early after the break up she made it impossible for her to return, due to the fact how she spoke about me and I believe she let others control the situation, quite a few months on and I think she’s in a rut and I can’t see it improving to much for her, but it her loss and she must get on with it. I’m past it I have my own life to live, back when I was with her I would have died for her I loved her so much, but unfortunately for me I don’t show love like that so she probably didn’t see that.
Day 25 and my ex went to radio silence stage after relief stage, he isn't online even on what's app and I'm deadly worried, anxious and It's two days that I have heart spasm. I can't move on I can't stop thinking,I can't do anything except thinking about him,I can't stop stalking,I can't stop watching our videos and photos,I can't stop crying. I'm just watching your videos and it's "hope" that makes me feel better a little bit
Wow. I feel so different than when I watched this channel right away 3 months ago. Some ways good others not good. But it's so different
I sent an apology message (I caused the breakup) and stated that I respected her decision to end our relationship, although it wasn’t what I wanted. After watching your extremely helpful and informative videos, I didn’t beg and plea but started no-contact last Monday, so it’s early days🤞
Wish you the best of luck 🤞
@@tattoomonkie thank you 😊
update?
Update?
David Evans. I recommend Coach Lee's Emergency Breakup Kit for you. It's excellent!
myexbackcoach.com/ebk
I came across to your videos about 3 days ago. They are absolutely amazing! You have helped me so so much with my situation!
Jason Smith, if you want more POWERFUL information, get Coach Lee's Emergency Breakup Kit which is excellent! It has strategies for every situation.
myexbackcoach.com/ebk
Coach Lee looking good!! 😍❤️
Yea I was waiting for this video because I needed it so thanks coach lee
After a 17 year relationship my ex said she was moving out, no warning and she left 2 days later at the weekend. I was devastated, in shock and I made all the "mistakes" in the very early days. I went into the NC mode and we met a couple of times after 2 and 3 months but there was nothing there romantically from either side. I worked on myself and found someone else and been in this new relationship for 9 months now. My ex is still on her own and I wish her well and all the best, however I wouldn't go back as the break up made me realize my ex was actually cold and always glass half empty where as my glass is always half full. Find yourself when you break up and realize what you really want and looking for. :) Coach Lee video's really help me get through the early stages which are really painful. Thanks coach Lee.
Thank you for your words.
Lee is good. Cold logic but experienced
HELLO COACH LEE MORE POWER TO YOU AND GOOD JOB U ARE INTO ITS HELPS A LOT TO ALL RELATIONSHIPS COUNT. ♥️🇸🇽
My grandfathers prom date were together and went no contact for 70 years and got back together in their 90s
🥰 Wow!
The longest span I ever heard was a couple got back together after 31 years. They got married! 💍
We’ve been broken up for a year and he ghosted me a month and a half ago. It’s hard to feel like I have any chances. After 9 years together he dropped me like i meant absolutely nothing.
Same here. He must be a narcissistic
Thanks coach. Your advice is so legit.
May God bless you. 😊
I loved my ex despite all his flaws, i still do. Maybe i am broken too, but he was in a worse way. We broke up, silent treatment from his part, initially i begged pleaded asked for forgiveness, the whole nine yards, still silent, so i gave him that space. I am still hoping he would reach out, but i know if he hasn't changed i might not accept him. It was just the crazy madly in love part of me -my attachment essentially that's wanting him. I did love him, i still do. But i do realize we might not be the perfect match for each other st the moment. I am wishing him the best, i learned so much from that experience. I wish one day we cross paths and we are in a better place in our lives. Sending peace and blessings to him and to you all ♥️ I am grateful to be alive and experience love the way i know how.
Cool haircut Coach👍 😎👌
Person: I tried no contact, it's been 3 days, it's not working....
Lee: 👁__👁
@ 8:50 I'm crying, this made my day better lol😂 Lee be like, hold my emergency breakup kit!!
🤣🤣🤣
Wait for 30 days everything wil change... Focus on yourself..
I’m curious to know how old are these people that write to Coach Lee expecting no contact to work after 3 days to a week.
Hello King Coach Lee, Thank you my Dear for all your expert knowledge and advice. Love your hair.